The issue of being out alone isn't the biggest problem I have, but it becomes more obvious when the crowds are that little bit smaller. As in big enough that there's plenty of people to talk to, but small enough to be noticed as being alone. I remember someone once told me that the reason others don't go out alone is because they don't have the social skills! This person also told me that the time you spend talking to friends is time wasted that could be spent talking to girls. I'm not even going to bother arguing against those points.

Lets pretend there's nothing unusual about going out alone. The problem is that I know that I'd rather be out with friends. Also, I'm very much conscious that if I were the guy I wanted be, that I'd have those friends to go out with me. I'm not there to enjoy the music or to drink. I know what I'm there for.

It's not that I feel people are watching me, but there is one pet peeve of mine. It's when you've chatted to certain girls for a while and if it fizzles out and they pass you later on in the venue, and they see you alone doing nothing. That's what I hate. It's like I sense they're thinking "actually I'm glad I didn't go with him". I suppose I shouldn't care what she thinks, but I can't be alone here?

Ironically when I'm out with friends, I've no issue wandering around the venue alone and talking to girls, and having them see me alone for a while looking at them from a far, before I then bump into them later on. I remember this happened recently and then later on in the night the girl saw me with my friends and came over to me. Can you guess what I was thinking at that moment? Well I felt that her thoughts were "ok he seems cool, but it seems he's just wandering around all alone... he could be anyone!" and that she then relaxed about me after seeing me with people.

I guess you could lie about being alone if it were a busy venue, but other than that I think not. It's probably best to not lie about it anyway, but what I'm wondering, is there any things that one can say that could mislead a girl into thinking you're with others, that technically wouldn't be lying? I think that would help. What also helps is that when I get talking to so many people, that the girls I was previously flirting with just presume that I'm with those people. That really helps.

Please no generic comments of encouragement! But please share thoughts.