Brief backstory, I've had my share of experiences with women and feel pretty confident in myself and my game, but all of it has come from online dating. I got to the point where the whole dynamic of getting a Tinder match to sleeping with her got extremely repetitive and boring, so I decided to give a shot at some alternatives.

Starting about 2 weeks ago, I started trying my luck at approaching women during the day. I'm not gonna lie, it was extremely diffcult at first. Just the prospect of coming up to a random woman and saying absolutely anything seemed like the scariest thing I had ever done. For around the first 2 tries I literally went to a mall with the sole purpose of doing approaches, and ended up just walking around for over an hour and going home with nothing but missed opportunities and frustration.

Ever so slowly, the process started improving. I was finally able to come and say to a girl, "Hi, I thought you were really cute when I saw you. I felt like I had to come and say hello". For the first couple of times, it just led into some really awkward interactions where I was nervous as fuck, and it was clearly evident the girl was just waiting for me to fuck off and leave her alone.

I kept going. Day after day, trying different methods, different locations, and gradually and slowly everything improved. Started being able to do it without nervousness, hold casual small talks with the girl for a couple of minutes, and get used to being rejected.

After about 2 weeks (I'll say roughly 30 or 40 approaches), I got to the point where I was extremely comfortable with what I was doing. I still don't have the game nailed down, still doing a lot of improvising and making mistakes, seeing as I'm obviously new to it. However, I got to a point where at least I could see a girl, feel absolutely 0 nervousness or fear of rejection, walk up to her, and confidently begin a conversation.

I got a couple of numbers, some of them I talked a little bit to, nothing real came out of it, just kept rinsing and repeating, adjusting little details, until the moment when I FINALLY accomplished something super tangible.

I was in a bookstore (have to be honest, only went in there to try and find girls) and I see a really cute girl/smart looking girl checking out the fiction section. I just walked up to her and said something like "hi, I saw you and I thought you were very attractive, what book are you looking for?". Now this girl instantly reacted positively, she got very cheered up/slightly embarrassed, and conversation just naturally flowed from there.

We talked about everything regarding books with me making some flirty jokes/teasing, her always responding positively. Eventually we got to work topic, turns out she's a flight attendant and she's only visiting my city for a day, travelling back home at 6 am next day. I sort of instantly gave up in that moment, made a mistake, and said something like "oh, we won't be able to meet up for a coffee then".

Extremely fucking luckily, I think she sort of misunderstood what I said, and replied with something like "now?". I instantly realised she thought I was asking her to go for a coffee just then, so I took the opportunity and replied with, "yeah! I know a great place just around the corner".

We ended up going to my favorite cafe, all the time having really comfortable/flirty conversation, this girl was super sexy/cute/smart. Way above what I considered "my league", way above anything you'll ever find on Tinder. Multiple times we brought up how crazy this whole experience was being.

I wasn't at my best mindset, even though it's just a coffee date, which I usually have control over, I was sort of still shitting my pants about the fact that I had this hot as fuck flight attendant that's here for one day and I met 10 mins ago having a coffee with me.

Unfortunately, nothing came out of it. I had somewhere really urgent to be afterwards, we ended up saying goodbye with a hug. I tried my luck at texting her later at night and try and see if I could stop by her hotel, but it was very late, the hotel was far from the city, just a pretty unlucky situation. I'm thinking there's some pretty solid chances if I had the rest of the day free I'd possibly would have be able to stay the rest of the day with her and go back to her hotel for sex later at night.

In any case, just wanted to share this experience for people that are thinking of getting started/nervously fucking up over and over at the start. At SOME POINT after a number of fails, you'll work yourself up a little bit every time. What I personally found out was, the moment where I literally gave ZERO fucks if the girl rejected me, and was ready to move on to the next one completely unphased, my performance had a huge spike. You'll be getting some positive results at some point, doesn't matter how many super cringe worthy, emasculating experiences you have at first. Just don't get discouraged.

I'm not an exceptionally good looking guy, I'd probably rate myself a 6, I'm just a guy that failed 40 times until he found his groove.

I was skeptical myself about this whole day approach thing, but now I'm full on riding the daygame dick.

Good luck!