On one hand those websites help a lot in building confidence and learning how to seduce.

On the other hand I feel guilt to imply those techniques like pull push, bates etc. It feels so dishonest, unnatural and manipulative.

Guilt isn't going to be helpful when trying to connect, it will only distance me from her.

I would rather just be myself and see where it goes. Then again sometimes it's just not enough.

I'm also fearing of being judged as a "predator', what ever that means but it sounds scary. From being stigmatized as an objectifier villain.

Do you see it that way? How do you deal with those emotions?