A lot of advice on here on seddit does repeat itself in different ways. There's some great advice here but the overall change is in perspective. Different pieces of advice relate to different people through our own personal experiences. For me, seddit was a lifestyle choice. I don't go hot and cold with the advice in this subreddit, nor anything I learn with my life. I ease into a lifestyle that accommodates and applies it. One that makes a better me for myself. For me, seduction is far beyond engaging just women and here's a bit of self-understanding that I've learnt that might suit a few people out there.

The Pussy on the Pedestal

The advice of treating women as if they're your male friends does really put things in perspective. If you see a guy friend, hanging on your every word, doing everything you ask them to do, running all your favours, buying you gifts, you're probably not genuine friends with them. Sure, they're a nice guy but there's no chemistry between you. They like you more than you like them. There isn't a 'You + Me vs. The World type of cohesion between you. Don't be that guy. Treat men and women equally by changing your perspective.

Understanding Higher Value:

Higher value always spoke true to me. It's a common sentiment that women always want what they can't get. The more I thought about it, the more I understood higher value to be a mindset, and not an artificial frame.

Once you avoid falling into 'omg hot girl just texted me' trap, the world is your oyster. You're free. You're no longer a victim of the potential friend zone. For me, it was looking beyond beauty. There comes a time for every man that looks aren't enough. Beyond just sex. If you're the type of person to gauge this value in women, you're going to look for a lot more in potential partners. Looks got girls through the door and I had to talk to them to gauge if there was anything for me beyond that. I hadn't fostered a frame of artificial higher value. It was there. I became genuinely interested in them in people and their passions to see if they'd suit mine.

The important part about this you don't have a vaginal stranglehold on your conscience. HB 10 sitting next you? So what? What could she contribute to be beyond just sex? The reason she's all prettied up is to get my attention in the first place.

It became really easy for me to engage women in any situation when I thought of them differently. I didn't have to force eye contract, I wasn't afraid of touching them. I just felt comfortable. Think about yourself and how you feel around someone you're not attracted too.

Why should you change when a good looking girl sits next to you? Especially one that wants attention ? The off chance being nice to her will get you laid? It didn't make sense to me although that's exactly how I felt until I changed my perspective. See their game and raise them yours.

Investing time into yourself:

This was the ultimate bit of perspective that I think I ever learned from seddit.

Because you're the guy that just cycled 30km before you met. You're the guy that pressed 100kg before your met. You're the guy that's talked to hundreds of people. You're the guy that says hello to strangers. Your the guy leading everyone on a night out because you know all the great spots to chill. You're the guy with the confidence to say what everyone's thinking but doesn't have the balls to say. I feel the physical time you invest if yourself, whether in a relationship or not, is going to play your mental game.

It isn't necessary for all guys to 'lawyer up and hit the gym' but it helped me become the BEST me. I genuinely needed to be content with my own world without women before I engaged them in my life. To me, guys trying to be 'Alpha', aren't really Alpha at all. You need to be content with yourself, your passions, your aspirations, your contributions, your work, your health. You.

Missing 100% of the chances you don't take doesn't ring truer. I was so concerned about some silly consequences in the present that I didn't have the perspective that they have no impact on the entirety of my entire life.

Meeting other people:

Finally, the last bit element of the equation is meeting other people. None of the above really means anything if you don't share yourself with others. Let other people know you exist. We're social creatures and our feelings should be based on interaction, not transaction. A lot of guys mention that being the girl of your dreams is like having a fuckable best friend. You don't get there if you don't make friends first. Let other people know how awesome you are. You have the confidence, you have the lifestyle, you have everything. You have you. Let others share you life with you.

tl;dr My advice is feel good about yourself. Discover your passions. Live inside the frame in your frame. Meet people.