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Was going to rail on him for feeling the need to ignore the guy as well, and backup his brashness in his own head with muscles, new clothes, and new watch...but maybe the guy was a drunk annoyance. But then still he put himself and wife in a position to be surrounded by drunk annoyances which makes me wonder...why? What's the lesson here: I didn't give a fuck because I would be better than him I find my number one barrier to being a social god is thoughts like this. Who gives a shit if you're mo…
/r/askMRP31/01/18 01:27 PM
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How much rope are you willing to give? Because she doesn't need much to hang herself. /u/88will88 is a needed extreme of what could work, hyperbole or not. You can look at that, measure how far you are from that dynamic, and see just how much control you still cede.
/r/askMRP31/01/18 12:01 PM
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Stopped halfway. You didn't read NMMNG at all. Go back and read it again.
/r/askMRP30/01/18 11:41 AM
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As I approach the mark where I want to begin sprint training again after a year off, I wonder the same thing, only the effects of weight training on agility.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 05:47 PM
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For the record if you're stepping into conflict to be or show "alpha" then you're not alpha, it's ego. I think there we agree. This comes off as more of something that's so outrageous you just cannot stand for based on principle. As a parallel...your wife routinely hits you. You could walk away and get a restraining order or whatever or you could grab her arm and say "you will not fucking hit me again". Then maybe she goes and reports you to the police and you lose. So I understand the logic beh…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/18 05:42 PM
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Send a movie of you helicopter dicking in your cubicle. Title it "Fun Times at the Office"
/r/askMRP29/01/18 03:32 PM
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Feel like I need to punish myself Because you're a Nice Guy to life. The same way the nice guy stays 'just friends' with the girl that rejected him believing if he suffers enough she"ll let him fuck her...you believe if you suffer for life that life will somehow reward you with good times and great friends. This isn’t a decision I take lightly. Yes it is. It's the easy road. Get free karma from life rather than attempting to fix the shit pile you caused because your frame is made of dead leaves …
/r/askMRP29/01/18 01:09 PM
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Haha that's exactly the dynamic. Nice clip.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/18 01:57 AM
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Not quite sure how this fits in with what I wrote.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/18 01:54 AM
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First things first...the title does not match the content. I thought it was going to be a post where FO makes a reasonable mistake and instead of throwing her under the bus he backs her up. I don't glean anything valuable relating to male/female sexual dynamics from this post. That said...yeah I totally get 2v1 in a bar could be bad. But what's he supposed to do then? The guy is purposely running into him (and I've been in a few clubs where a guy is purposely throwing himself at me in a mosh ove…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/18 12:11 AM
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Yeah, OP doesn't describe how wife cued in on him doing it. Did he also explain to her that he's cutting it in half? He gets back and declares “I am not sleeping on the pillow top.” Why? What the hell's this going to do? It's DEERing. Just go get scissors, cut it in half, done.
/r/askMRP28/01/18 03:53 PM
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I would have fucking lost it doubled over laughing at Oh no! It’s too late for that buddy I mean...I wouldn't have let the conversation get that far. But that is God damn hilarious!
/r/askMRP28/01/18 12:34 AM
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I think it's part of our guilty behavior to Explain why we do things, even when building our frame. And I've recently been on a kick of explaining things as operating according to different dynamics. So think of it like this: Dynamic 1: She talks pissy, you ask her why she's talking to you like that or try to guilt her. The dynamic is you accept that her talking to you like that has a basis in reality. Dynamic 2: You hang up, but then text her the rules. The dynamic is that she is still respecte…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/18 08:00 PM
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I want her to find her way to happily, healthily, moving towards a lower weight Being lead by a competent leader to this place IS what makes her happy. You are projecting your route to happiness onto her.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 07:12 PM
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I can hear the heavenly choir.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 07:08 PM
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Honestly from a brief glance of your post history youre full of melancholy. You don't really seem to ever get satisfaction and keep feeling the need to fill some emotional hole. Please do not use children to try and fill it. And I hardly ever advocate for this at all but think about getting a professional consultation about depression. I could be wrong, but I'm also not going to invest more time that you seemed to when making this post.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 01:48 PM
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You're thinking of it as jumping over a hurdle she has set. Erase that thought. YOU want to touch her ass. So touch it. If she recoils...THAT'S OK...that's her response to you of where you're at WITH HER. You need to get these measures. You want feedback. But if touching her butt paints a picture of a low SMV guy to her now, why do it? Because in your world you aren't a creep. That's what you want. And you're unapologetic about it. In your world, you are going to fake it til you make it. With he…
/r/askMRP26/01/18 01:21 PM
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My god you are a weak fucking faggot. Not an insult...like that's where you are right now on the man scale. The good part is there's really only one way to move on that scale. I'm not trying to take panties of You say this defensively...as if it was wrong to try and take her panties off? Go ahead, try and take them off. I give you permission. It's not BAD. I fucked up, I was not calibrated and should have stopped etablier No you didn't. No you shouldn't have. You got the message you needed to ge…
/r/askMRP26/01/18 12:57 PM
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Why did you send a text after hanging up?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/18 09:39 PM
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100% behind you here. This is a non-stated hard boundary. She ever feels its ok threatening police...I'm out. No warning. No "don't ever again". Go OP.
/r/askMRP25/01/18 08:51 PM
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Forget about maintaining it down there. No one does that. The fuck I dont.
/r/askMRP25/01/18 06:38 PM
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What's your age? It likely matters in terms of base stored body fat your body wants to maintain. Contrary to some comments in here, I have no problem maintaining sub 12% body fat 11 months out of the year (and you can pry thanksgiving-Christmas weight gain from my cold dead fingers). I don't weigh my food but I do count calories, which are at 2800 base and I add any extra from workouts if I'm looking to maintain...and don't add them in if I want to lose weight. Protein: 175g Carbs: 315g Fat: 90g…
/r/askMRP25/01/18 06:35 PM
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A compliment to you as a fat person: Commenter feels good about themselves because they're skinnier/more fit than you, and an attaboy to you makes them feel good because it acknowledges and confirms their position of superior fitness/looks. A compliment to you as a normal person who's improving: Not said as often because if you continue to improve, you will be more in shape than them. Complimenting you not only makes that fact known in their mind but encourages you to outperform them. Crabs in a…
/r/askMRP24/01/18 03:11 PM
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If you lost 14lb and we're too skinny, you werent overly fat. I think reach is saying for those at 30%BF, HIIT doesn't make sense because it's full cardio exertion on an obese body that for all intents and purposes cant/shouldn't take that. In other words, it works for weight loss sure because it burns calories. But for someone who's fat fat, steady state cardio is a better idea.
/r/askMRP24/01/18 02:08 PM
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10k Some guy posted it before but, there are some wealthy mother fuckers on this sub. I'm doing fine in the top 20% of household income but finding 10k? Dayum.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 01:52 PM
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Recognise the coming down phase, let it happen, and don't attach your ego to what was. Know that an up phase is coming, and get ready to get back into it. 10 minutes on for the relevant speech
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 06:48 PM
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Negative reinforcement is a valid approach to behavioral change. That's just 'teaching her a lesson' / 'taking the low road'. You are projecting your frame into it. You feel guilty when your brother in law gets mad because you imagine a world where you didn't have to do that and the dishes got done and then feel like you wronged him unnecessarily. Here's the thing:that world doesn't exist. You made it up. In the world that does exist, he has clearly through action shown he doesn't want to do dis…
/r/askMRP23/01/18 04:33 PM
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I'm going to derail that philosophical question with the customary trivial answer of: We need more data.
/r/askMRP23/01/18 01:11 PM
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Some guy said on your last post exactly what I thought when I finished this one.
/r/askMRP23/01/18 11:53 AM
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Here's some: It's not a fast process. Just because you read it, doesnt mean you've internalized it. Go slow, think about what's being said, relate it to your own experiences, develop action plans and test them. Always keep improving.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 05:00 PM
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War starting advice Go read WISNIFG again. Replace the title with When I Make Her Mad I Feel Guilty. Also read up on covert contracts: I will get my shit together and up my SMV You will clean up when I'm gone I won't be telling you about this contract.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 11:27 AM
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Heres one more. Early 20s. Yeah that was stupid.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 12:55 AM
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Laugh.
/r/askMRP21/01/18 11:21 PM
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Until she starts cleaning up regularly, you should not be cleaning up her stuff. Start making it a habit to lead. "Babe I need you to [insert task here]." If a pattern of her not doing it develops... "Babe I need you to [insert task here]. If you don't, [object involved in that task] is going to end up on your side of the bed." This works with clothes, trash, dishes, even dog shit. Always follow through.
/r/askMRP21/01/18 11:18 PM
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Do you get the anal or give it?
/r/askMRP17/01/18 05:50 PM
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Yep no need to post. Mark's got it.
/r/askMRP13/01/18 02:22 PM
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if you actually add value / have value And you're judging this value you provide based on HER reaction to you not being there. The value you provide is for YOU. Did you read and lift for her or for you? Did you have a social circle for her or for you? She is a coincidental receiver of your value, but it doesn't matter if she thought you had value or not. You know you did.
/r/askMRP13/01/18 02:16 PM
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I'll add that a guy can keep his spirits up and his mind focused on being the prize by telling himself something like "her loss" if she doesn't feel like being on his ship. But the actual act of sitting down and wasting your time to think about if she really is worse without him, puts him squarely in her frame. He should be strong enough to acknowledge he isn't special. Ego death will have him admit he's A prize, not THE prize. That her life may be better, may be worse, but either way it's his l…
/r/askMRP13/01/18 02:09 PM
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Now I'm confused. This is some inception level /s.
/r/askMRP13/01/18 01:50 PM
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I'm not sure why I didn't make this connection before, you're absolutely right here. I remember back in my BP days I experienced something like the rape game with the wife. Oh she would laugh and we'd both act like we're playing, but she wasn't even trying too hard to struggle it was impossible to get anywhere. Good point.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/18 04:05 PM
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For some reason I thought this was going: close her eyes...walk her into the middle of a highway nearby.
/r/askMRP11/01/18 07:58 PM
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No you dolt. Not your handbag. Her handbag.
/r/askMRP11/01/18 07:57 PM
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I can get behind this idea. The majority of consensual sex stays consensual sex. Someone removed from a market (college campus, night game) where consensual sex happens a lot may buy into doomsday scenarios. Good point.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/18 07:28 PM
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No no, I'm not talking about a situation where you know what happened and she says she was raped when she wasnt, I'm talking about a situation where you don't know if she was really raped...or is just regretful after the fact.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/18 07:25 PM
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Wooooooow. Wonder if it'll come to fruition and what that'll mean to a woman's deniability where she can verbally say nothing happened to a situation where there's a concrete consent somewhere on the app.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/18 07:22 PM
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As a father of daughters...what can be done to address this? At the end of the day it comes down to whether society as a whole accepts that anything a woman says is true until proven not. At some point a hard line in the sand has to be made and that line is: False rape claims result in serious punishment. But even then how do you prove the claim is false? Say your daughter systematically says every time a guy sleeps with her and doesn't propose immediately after that she was raped. What are you …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/18 12:20 PM
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I say to you then stop placing the blame on you. If SHE doesn't want to be on your journey, then SHE will resist your improvements, and SHE will give you no recourse but to move on. Then, if SHE doesnt believe in a world where you can still see, raise, and father your daughter appropriately, then, and bold for emphasis: It's HER fault that your daughter hurts.
/r/askMRP10/01/18 02:01 PM
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And herein lies the value of posts like this. The dynamic, do's and don'ts. Men swapping notes.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:55 PM
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enjoy her newfound bisexuality You can't make it thru a session with another girl and TALK to her constantly about how you have self pity and/or attacking her...and you expect her to allow/enjoy your presense in her bisexuality? "You're a slut! Will you have sex with me?"
/r/askMRP10/01/18 01:18 PM
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You miss the point, the point isnt that she has the potential to, and you shouldn't be trying to soothe your ego by saying "well I could check up on her". The point is: What you know now isn't the whole story. It's just what she's told you. Shes banged other dudes. Not she may have. She has.
/r/askMRP10/01/18 01:14 PM
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I don't know if I am ready yet to do the same in his situation And what are you dlong to fix this
/r/askMRP10/01/18 01:03 PM
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She is so close to cheating on you lol. So close that she is able to openly, overtly comminucate when you please her because she is confident she has options. Something you, as captain, should be doing to her because you are so confident that you have options. Which is why I said laughing and teasing about her options displays that you are confident that you are the best choice, for you, and for her. Rest assured you are playing with the big dogs now, and if you haven't had this conversation yet…
/r/askMRP10/01/18 11:28 AM
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Not a bad idea.
/r/askMRP09/01/18 09:59 PM
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Dead in backyard Perfect answer Provide comfort Provide comfort in the positive reinforcement of her doing things sexually that you lead her to do. Do not provide comfort in her hesitancy to do them. unreasonable to satisfy so she doesn't need to She doesnt...but someone will.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 07:00 PM
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Wow. Million dollar question here.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 06:25 PM
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Why are we wasting time sorting out your feelings or lack thereof?
/r/askMRP09/01/18 06:23 PM
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The vagueness of your man eludes me: Men enforce boundaries. But enforcing boundaries does not a man make. Do we agree?
/r/askMRP09/01/18 11:56 AM
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He does post some weird shit.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 06:31 PM
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To badly quote Dom: "What's the point of having a home gym, no one is around to see your gains." I have a home gym. I belong to a gym gym. There's a gym at my rock climbing gym. I have a gym at work. I do whatever is convenient.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 06:28 PM
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Too much moralizing here. The problem isn't that it's rude. The potatoes sucked. For all we know sucked so bad his face was involuntary. No, the problem is that OP is at war with his wife. I know because something as small as him making a face about food to his wife sets her off as if he had said to her "You suck as a person". She takes it personally, and then feels the need to nuke back in kind by silently telling him he's a bad person. OP got to this point because he has not provided the neces…
/r/askMRP08/01/18 04:17 PM
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OP here is in a position where he's just about in a spot that he is forced to defend a boundary but does not have the traits to defend it. Like a hero in a movie having to face the villain before he's strong enough to do it. The alternative is to not face the villain and train, but in the mean time the villain will run rampant. The difference here is that what OP's wife thinks of him will influence what she does/allows. And there's some deeper reverse psychology involved in being immune to other…
/r/askMRP08/01/18 03:55 PM
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No no...the guy put a thing in.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 03:23 PM
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You can be the most beta beta, the fattest fuck, and the drunkest captain and still always have the power to set and enforce a boundary on what you accept for you. The alpha-ing up, leaning out, and sobering up just increases the abundance of women who may respect that boundary...but no one can take your boundary away.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 03:21 PM
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You wife is emotionally bankrupt. So? You don't care about her as a person So? emotional slave. So?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 10:29 PM
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Why does the answer to these questions matter? Haven't seen this b4 on MRP and I'll be taking notes. OP's ship is burnt and it's time to sink or swim. Curious as to how this will play out.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 10:25 PM
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You do you man. I'm not going to try and convince you.
/r/askMRP05/01/18 04:48 PM
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Still a goal of mine. How's your progress?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 04:05 PM
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Sounds like a fuck load of talking and hamstering. Dude she's told you multiple times now, SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOU ANYMORE. So cut her out! Go live your awesome life. If she wants to join up later and you're still around, fine. But until then, again, SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOU ANYMORE.
/r/askMRP05/01/18 03:49 PM
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Yesterday I thought there was a real chance I took it too far and that I might be getting divorced because of it. So I'm looking at the replies and thinking "Huh, if OP knows what he's got on his hands he could be in for some real fun." But then I see this line, particularly "Too far" and "I might be getting divorced because of it", which sounds like you didn't want to get divorced and it's a negative thing...and because you viewed your cheating as "too far" you aren't completely sure of your ow…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 02:01 PM
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He then made her get back on her knees and blow him.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 01:51 PM
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If a child talks back to you after you send them to their room, is your course of action to not send them to their room in the future because you're "over it" and want them to follow direction without talking back? Or do you send them to their room, get talked back to, and address it appropriately?
/r/askMRP04/01/18 04:03 PM
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Why not fuck her in the morning and at night? Also, you declined sex after a soft no because of starfish possible starfish? She's training you better than you are her.
/r/askMRP04/01/18 03:10 PM
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1) once she acquiesced to their sexual demands(s) they dumped her, or 2) she couldn't or wouldn't continue acquiescing to their sexual demands. Facts of life for a woman hitting the wall. This is what happens. Women don't complain about non-committal men when they're riding the carousel, but suddenly it's a problem when THEY want to settle down. As for #2, again she won't meet the bar, and it's someone else's fault for not accepting her low effort? Quite literally "why is this not enough?" And s…
/r/askMRP02/01/18 04:24 PM
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As a general rule, as long as current wife is impeding progress to a happy, value driven, and sexually fulfilling life; keep progressing up the levels of dread, cheat when you are fluent at DL8, and prepare for divorce after. I think the few instances where shit hits the fan and something needs to happen NOW are: she cheats on him, she continuously physically abuses him, she mentions police action, she's a threat to the kids, or, and I don't think we've ever seen this on the boards, she's a fina…
/r/askMRP02/01/18 01:06 PM
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And this might just be the answer. Either allow for everything to be a medical or mental issue and address the 3% that actually are, or improve, lead, and leave the door open and address 97% that aren't.
/r/askMRP01/01/18 11:47 PM
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I think it is a valid concern. I believe they make it harder to differentiate between what's going on because what they're doing usually works (men cave and enable that behavior), and it may very well be just a scale of how deep they'll go down the path of crazy to get their way, rather than this well defined line between normal and crazy. Either way, taking the time to actually figure out and potentially 'fix' the minds of the broken in many of these cases would take much more effort than what …
/r/askMRP01/01/18 11:38 PM
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it's only been a few days Is this your hard no? Like...that's it? A few words and you're defeated? It's annoying when she throws out these retarded last minute resistances. I gotta blow through a handful almost every time like clockwork. "It's cold in X room. Don't you have to go? Not tonight. I just worked out." Actions, not words. Act like you didn't even hear her saying these or AA/AM them and push on. You'll find there's nothing behind these words. They're just that, words. And her fucking y…
/r/askMRP01/01/18 07:41 PM
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Nothing in what I just read indicates you have any idea what kind of situation you're in, what it is you want, how to go about getting there, or how you plan to improve (and you haven't) from being a "needy bitch". Read the sidebar, go SLOW, because you're already shooting yourself in the foot by saying, not doing. This isn't your diary, OYS for that and askMRP for questions. What are you like 15? You're 45? Well.......that does kind of suck then.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/18 02:38 PM
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Health insurance is a big deal, especially seeing how much premiums increase each year. This is a major wildcard because in some instances I could carry insurance into retirement, others I cant. Could switch to wife's plan...but there could also be no wife in the picture at that time. And laws are going to change in the next 3 years anyway. With respect t to IRA a big piece of leverage I heard, and why I want to look into it is, you can use the money in there for real estate investments without …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/17 06:28 PM
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True. I was using 6% return before inflation, 2% inflation. But a worst case viewpoint would be prudent to have. biggest question is whether to put less into retirement investments which have withdrawal restrictions now in order to fund sooner mid-term investments, and to study up on IRA options.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/17 04:36 PM
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Thanks will do
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/17 04:25 PM
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6 ft and 190. 25%bf trying to be 185 14% If you lose 11% body fat you'll be 6'0'' at roughly 170lbs. So you're 21 pounds too fat and have 15 pounds too little muscle. She’s stressed out and anxious a lot She is full time in college, and works a few times a week as a nurse (12 hour shifts i take it?). She has to deal with a 4 year old and a guy that just unplugged. Fuck i'm not surprised she's stressed. always gossiping about sister in laws, or friends So she's a woman? he never seems to be happy…
/r/askMRP31/12/17 01:59 PM
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Finances: Just had to reign the wife in on spending. I give her a certain amount to spend each month but have found out in end of year tracking that she's been going over. I like giving her some rope so I don't micromanage, but it seems like she hung herself. So monthly checks will start happening at the end of the month so I can compare spending in all aspects of our finances to what's on the budget. Budget had a massive overhaul after the end-of-year review by eliminating the money pit "Random…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 03:43 PM
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Nice work. The cat was used to playing with its prey, not it can't tell who's playing with who anymore. Can't tell with hair/shadowing. Looks like you might have a center abb groove but no definition beside that. Biceps are large but undefined. Got any belly overhang? Traps and pecs man. Work on those traps and pecs!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 10:59 PM
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Relaxing on the porch outside is pleasant. Is relaxing getting my heart rate up and working muscles? No. Am I lacking physique? Do I want to be stronger/leaner/better looking? If so...relaxing wont get me there. If not...relax away.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 10:49 PM
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Commandment V
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 10:37 PM
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she'll probably reject me, so why bother? As long as it's not...and be honest with yourself here...mostly dominated by this. Not only is that ego defense, but it's also denying you the chance to see where you're at...and forcing you to go find value elsewhere when you get that no.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 12:20 AM
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It sounds like you're coming at it from a frame of "if I do this...will it work?" Be congruent with what you want. If you are angry and don't want to fuck her, dont. If you think you need to back away to get your head straight without making sex a factor because it's been the ONLY factor so far, do that. If you still want sex but know it's not coming from a place of neediness, fuck her and work on areas that you need work. If it's just an idea you read in a book and you dont really understand wh…
/r/askMRP27/12/17 12:06 AM
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Fuck ups happen. The fact that you can admit it was a fuck up means you should be strong enough to captain through those waters. "Yeah, I fucked up. I'll take care of it." Whatever she says after that, probably still trying to tear you down, then you STFU...but not to prevent you from saying something stupid (as is the reason n00bs should STFU) but because you owned your mistake and have nothing left to say, especially to someone who's trying to drain value from you. IE she's not worth talking t…
/r/askMRP26/12/17 09:29 PM
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Feels more mature = I need maturity because I can't parse "immaturity" to find the value added because I'm insecure.
/r/askMRP26/12/17 09:09 PM
5

The meaning
/r/askMRP26/12/17 09:05 PM
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Just so we're clear...you do realize you fucked up forgetting the card right?
/r/askMRP26/12/17 09:02 PM
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Sex is for me the only true expression of love since it cannot be faked Hate to break it to you buddy...sex for her isn't about love either. She doesn't love you. No woman will ever love you, save your mom, 30some years ago, when you were 2. Men love women, women love kids, kids love puppies. When she fucks you, she's fucking the image of you she has in her head. She's fucking the feeling that the status of you brings. She's fucking the feelings she gets from you. She's not fucking you. She does…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/17 04:25 PM
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Haha. Like the clip. That smile, that's the value add. Why is lifting so important? Because that value shows itself constantly. You see that vein pop, you flex, you smile and give yourself a nod of approval. Fuck yes. It's shoulder day, you bust out some OHP and what?...there's a groove defining your muscle that you've never seen before. You're in the shower washing up. You run your hand over your arm and feel the peaks and valleys of actual muscle definition ripple all the way down your arm. "T…
/r/askMRP23/12/17 03:08 PM
2

Manipulation means you fear a consequence. Why do you fear a consequence?
/r/askMRP22/12/17 03:32 PM
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Belongs in main. I have a vein Feels good don't it?
/r/askMRP22/12/17 03:30 PM
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My god you waffle about your progress so much I can't tell where you are. Are you attractive or not? Do you dread or not? Do you dress better or not. Fuck. Besides that here's my xyz for hard nos. Hard no 1: Go do something else in the house. Hard no 2: Go out and practice socialization and game. Resets at 0 after sex. You get 10 nos and then just go to another room in tge house? She knows you're behaving and not going anywhere. What's her motivation to increase sex? She's giving you exactly as …
/r/askMRP22/12/17 03:24 PM
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I've had the misfortune of dealing with people like that in repeated interactions in a professional setting. It's possible to contain, redirect, and mitigate without negative consequences to them. Your right there is a lot wrapped up in the discussion and I think this example gives good insight into what you mean. I can think of a few scenarios where I've been in this case as well so I know what you mean, but cannot place it in words as you did. My best attempt would be that not only does the co…
/r/askMRP22/12/17 03:35 AM
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What the newbs dont get is: 1) The consequence does not involve the feeling "Oh yeah? I'll get you!" Breaking a boundary does not provoke a feeling of revenge. 2) Withdrawal of attention is not just about giving her the option to change her behavior, it's also about the man finding other ways to bring value (via social fun, sexual fun, fitness fun, etc) into his life in place of a misbehaving woman. This way, rather than simply sitting back and hoping she changes, he slowly phases her out of his…
/r/askMRP21/12/17 10:18 PM
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You are getting superb advice here OP. My 2 cents: Your wife is a massive bitch, and you are incredibly weak framed. I would even go so far as to say that you should not even attempt to set any boundaries, except one, until you've become someone worth following boundaries...because in her current state she is going to blast right through them. The key to boundaries is to be able to punish if/when she breaks them. The one boundary that needs to be set is: "You will NOT hit me." Be incredibly bold…
/r/askMRP21/12/17 02:30 PM
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https://stronglifts.com/squat Read it. Then read all the pages. Practice. And drop the weight until you are confident you can lift the weight slowly and correctly. NOR that you can simply lift it, but that you can focus on your form each rep and it feels good.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 02:07 PM
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Aaaaand now the song is playing in my head.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 02:04 PM
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But if I was at the point of cheating I would just get a divorce But you'll never get to that point of cheating. You won't allow yourself to get there because you will not allow yourself to walk that road. It's dark and scary and you're a pussy so you'd rather walk that nice comfortable road you've kept walking on. But you said it yourself, that comfortable road is a circle. Somewhere along that circle is drip fed sex that makes it seem like it's worth it...and every time your wife gives you tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/17 02:22 AM
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Haha! Well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 01:36 PM
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Hopefully OP doesn't pop.
/r/askMRP20/12/17 01:07 PM
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True empathy HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. That's why they: Slut shame each other Cheat with Chad Branch swing Divorce rape Falsely claim rape Purposefully skip birth control Beta shame Have bitch shields Deny sex Shit test Shift blame (plausible deniability) Have chads kid and let Billy raise it thinking it's his Right? Empathy lol. Empathy implies they see inequality and take steps to rectify it. No. They dont. Does that mean they're bad/evil/wrong? No again. It's still your fault. You just need to lear…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 12:56 PM
3

1 bag = 1 sex?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 12:04 PM
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The problem with being a judge is...you actually have to listen to, consider, and explain your decision to the lawyers. We could argue about this, but then there would never be finality. Do you want to have a decision and move forward or do you want to debate for the next three hours Sounds like a lot of DEER. I think a judge would say instead "That's my decision, we're done discussing it." Be your own judge. Be her captain.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 10:47 AM
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God I love that movie.
/r/askMRP19/12/17 05:39 PM
2

Awesome. Life's so much easier with this shit isn't it? Keep on keeping on.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 02:58 PM
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Some 'arguments' that used to become arguments because they hurt your ego, don't anymore beause you killed it. Some 'arguments' that used to become arguments because you didn't just make a decision, don't anymore because you lead. Some 'arguments' that used to become arguments because you didn't understand she was testing and flirting, don't anymore because you passed them, and are now fucking. And as stacysmom said, some 'arguments' that used to become arguments because you cared what other peo…
/r/askMRP19/12/17 01:44 PM
3

minimal body fat (only a small beer gut) You're fat. Get rid of it. And stop lying to yourself you drunk fat fuck.
/r/askMRP19/12/17 01:10 PM
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Woooooow. Faggot.
/r/askMRP19/12/17 01:09 PM
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Hows the journey? Is it becoming more second nature? Are you having fun? From your original post: She thinks I'm mad. I find this thought lingers, and I'm having to teach her how to adult by saying stuff like "look, if you don't want to go out with me tonight tell me, I'm not mad." And then i go out anyway and have fun. How has your wife come along in this process?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 12:45 PM
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just also keep in mind that being congenial to someone on the attack can invite a land grab Lost me here. I advise that he reject the idea of a counselor, and be strong enough to do it right then and there. Not be congenial and accept it. maybe he's actually curious about having HIS vision achieved through counseling 1) He responds to mrpthrowa that he doesn't know what he wants. Which is my 2nd point to him, he doesn't have a plan and is trying to justify his inaction by saying he needs to lear…
/r/askMRP18/12/17 10:27 AM
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Biggest lesson so far.
/r/askMRP17/12/17 04:13 AM
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I have a right to This is a deep, deep mental model that you have to rewrite in your mind. You don't have a right to anything. ANYTHING. Not even to things within your control. Getting fit? Being healthy (not sick)? Being able to get good sleep? NONE of these are guaranteed, even if you do what everyone else does to achieve those means. With other people, who themselves have a choice in what value they bring to your life? You have even less right with them. With them, you simply metaphorically a…
/r/askMRP16/12/17 05:09 PM
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It comes from Disney programming. Not just the company, the whole happily ever after, be a white knight, save a girl programming you get from the second you pop out. Slight problem with phrasing here guys have to remain razor sharp. Guys have to simply not become lazy fucks. Don't think of it as always needing to meet a high standard, the bar is set low to begin with.
/r/askMRP16/12/17 04:45 PM
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Still too coherent. If you don't somehow end up talking about a goat and a plumber fucking each other on an abandoned subway train, then you have not rambled quite far enough.
/r/askMRP16/12/17 02:18 PM
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Think about the subliminal message you convey. What are you saying without saying? For example say you're giving a presentation about a topic you're supposed to know about. Someone asks a deep question. There's multiple ways to answer and they all convey something different: You answer the question directly and with little other information - You obviously understand that question and all premises behind the answer. You acknowledge that the question is deep but ask to talk about it offline 1v1 a…
/r/askMRP16/12/17 02:12 PM
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Not sure I agree....point taken. Was it? Your routine, you realize you just did it again right?
/r/askMRP15/12/17 02:11 PM
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Going to skip over the "letting your wife travel alone and party with friends" argument and the "you have finances under control that allow her to do this" argument and get right to your Q. Do you have plans for the weekend? Would having the kids with you impede them? If so, then just go with "I have plans." If you haven't communicated that you have plans yet or don't have them, or its something like working on the car where the kids could join you, then are you really going to try and say "you …
/r/askMRP15/12/17 12:09 PM
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Ooooh ok...so the whole "I can't be wrong if I don't make a choice" routine. Nice. You tacitly accepted it when you did not reject it. Your choice of words could be yes, no, maybe, I'll think about it, let me go see what a random group of strangers on the Internet says...but she only sees two answers, No, or I'm not strong enough to say no.
/r/askMRP15/12/17 11:41 AM
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To clarify...are you saying you accept the lack of sex by masturbating and simply cuddling with her?
/r/askMRP14/12/17 03:26 PM
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Sex frequency Do you want sex 2-3 times per week? Will less than 2-3 times per week push you to a point where you go out and improve/dread/game until you get 2-3 times a week? What I'm asking is, is 2-3 times a week based off of you noticing how much sex a week satisfies you? Or did you pull a random number out of your ass? Because if the former, no setting the goal is not a problem. If the latter, yes setting that goal can cause problems.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 03:15 PM
2

Did you just ask how to hide things?
/r/askMRP14/12/17 12:42 PM
2

It's funny that instead of pushing back on seeing a counselor, you immediately accept her decision and are now worried about if the counselor will be on your side.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 12:39 PM
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Well, I'm a macho guy so... ...and second! I know ;) Good. In that order.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 10:36 AM
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stay plan is the same as the go plan. This was a good phrase that has been picked up and parrotted to death. If the stay plan is the go plan then how is it that you're questioning what you're doing based on a few shitry remarks from her? It sounds like the stay plan is be a big pussy who thinks Rambo is his wife getting upset that his balls are dropping, and there's no go plan because if she gets upset you get worried.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 10:32 AM
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Oh absolutely.
/r/askMRP13/12/17 11:54 AM
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I would even go shallower...it's holiday time and she doesn't want her social value to take a hit with a failed marriage. After the holidays, I bet she won't be feeling so 'sad'. Edit: Sorcererking nailed it
/r/askMRP12/12/17 08:21 PM
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First sentence of first reply: "If you've been improving." If you have not improved up the dread ladder and improved yourself yet, well yeah that's your first step.
/r/askMRP12/12/17 06:31 PM
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got sad But he shouldn't get his hopes up! This doesn't mean she likes him or anything...just that he's useful right now. Ha!
/r/askMRP12/12/17 04:29 PM
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until we have sex Is she giving hard no's? If no, push through. If yes... Wait No. You do not wait. Get out there and start down your path of getting the sex you want. If she's turning down sex you don't wait, you go get it.
/r/askMRP12/12/17 04:21 PM
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If you've been improving, then the overt declaration is the culmination of her frustration of her covert manipulation no longer working. Remember when you were beta and you felt that you needed to be close with her in order to get sex? That was you programmed to respond to her covert conditioning. You stopped responding to that, and now it's overt. Continue to break through her conditioning, but, also make sure you are conditioning her appropriately. Specifically: How do I communicate that the o…
/r/askMRP12/12/17 02:49 PM
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Whatever you gotta tell yourself to feel better.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/17 06:33 PM
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I simply do not want to do this. Then dont. she's laying on the guilt hard. Is the problem that she's laying on guilt or that you feel guilty? I've told her You explained it logically and she didn't buy in? WTF? Never seen a woman like that before. Anyone else? Anyone else here try and win a fight with logic and she didn't buy in? You should do a post. Clearly AWALT is broken.
/r/askMRP11/12/17 04:20 PM
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How comfortable are you socially? Could you walk into a full bar and walk out with a guy friend an hour later? Study the sidebar books. Learn about frame. Learn about saying no. Learn about being your own judge and them.being their own judge. Learn about walking your road "alone".
/r/askMRP11/12/17 01:23 AM
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That's not what I was....ah nevermind.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/17 09:56 PM
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Haha I understand the analogy. Keep building that frame slowly too, you might realize one day I wasn't disagreeing with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/17 07:09 PM
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You: "Hahaha. You're adorable." Her: "What do you mean? (Insert shit test here: You always initiate when I cuddle or Do you want to cuddle or not or I hate it when you do that!) You: Anything that isn't logic: You're feisty tonight, we should fuck (expect immediate hard no and more bitching) or Hey, this bed is for loving not fighting, don't make me kick you out (starts pushing her out upon continued bitching, laugh and then go to sleep).
/r/askMRP10/12/17 07:03 PM
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"Let's just assume I'm right about things..." = "Can you please validate my conclusions?"
/r/askMRP10/12/17 06:52 PM
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I wonder if I start showing her that I don’t need her, I have a life apart from her, that I have other options, and I will do whatever I think is best without submitting to her, Will this finally give her the tingles and want me for the first time (making her discover the horny girl she never knew she was) or will she be completely revolted and will this accelerate an end to our relationship? What I am going to tell you definitely “works” to turn around a low sex marriage and a bad relationship.…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/17 06:47 PM
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I'll go with OP's advice at this early stage. K You can and should go your noob route, but /u/mrpthrowa is posting what you noobs need to hear to aspire to.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/17 06:38 PM
1

Definitely rent if you can. I regret selling my first house.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 04:06 PM
1

Been thinking about this for some time. About 60% of my time at current job is free. And it feels wasted. I will start using it to educate myself with your books but my one burning question right now is: If you don't have 50k equity in your house, are there other go-to sources of seed money to get your shit off the ground?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 03:31 PM
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Given the chance to read her current, up to date diary, I wouldn't, because I don't fucking care what's going on in that mind. Her actions are comprehendable, her words are untrustworthy, her thoughts? Probably like stepping into an alternate dimension.
/r/askMRP07/12/17 08:45 PM
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You already know the answer to this. Did you really come here believing you would find some validation to continue being a lazy fuck?
/r/askMRP07/12/17 12:26 PM
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Not a comfort test...she just flaked on you. Remember that next time you set your priorities for the night.
/r/askMRP06/12/17 06:26 PM
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Your ego is your mind's way to 'protect' you from percieved judgement from others. Logically, it also feeds on approval of others. When you internalize that you are your own judge, that you can want what you want out of life, that you get validation internally, and that everyone else also wants what they want in life, they are their own judge, and they don't really like giving away validation, the obvious conclusion is that there is no universal 'right' frame, so you can drop the whole ego game …
/r/askMRP06/12/17 06:24 PM
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Timely post. With your notes and Stone's reply in mind, my actions lately have just been to continually say what I like, and reinforce when she complies. It's gone from plain underware to small, frilly panties but it's a step in the right direction. And I know when she wears them now she wants to show them off and be fucked. I think buying her lingerie may impair progress because it implies that expectation. But I see how you NGAF about her compliance may work as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 02:06 PM
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I've been fucked in lingerie WRONG MENTAL IMAGE. GET ME EYE BLEACH.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 02:01 PM
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Dude. No woman will deserve the new you. They just make it worthwhile enough to keep them around. That said, I asked this recently and the conclusion is that you are responsible for leading her behavior. If you stop short and accept sex only every 2-3 weeks thats a failure of your leadership. If you are actively leading and still getting starfish every 2-3 weeks, then yeah you either accept that shitty life, or go get what you want elsewhere. TLDR: You are being a pussy and need to kill the ego …
/r/askMRP06/12/17 01:48 PM
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Seven weeks later I’m coming to grips with reality and accepting that my life is changing forever. It took 7 weeks? there is hope Hope is for things outside your control. Determination is for things inside your control. We don’t fight, she converses easily with me. She will not initiate affection but will receive it ok. She calls me “hon.” Thanks me when I do something for her. Who's a good boy? WHO'S A GOOD BOYYYYY. Doing things for her. You're so good. Like a brother to her. I’m glad you aren’…
/r/askMRP06/12/17 01:37 PM
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What do YOU want in terms of sex, frequency, enthusiasm? Lead her to that.
/r/askMRP05/12/17 07:28 PM
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Ah ok. I just didn't get why the solution to no progress is more calories. More calores would imply lack of progress due to lack of fuel. Lack of fuel would be concluded if you were losing weight or lifts weren't improving. Caveats that 1) Lifts not improving could also be a symptom of you not lifting heavy or hard enough (when's the last time you finished a set, slumped to the ground, and had to gather yourself for a second to recover?) 2) Heavier lifts could be a result of increased efficiency…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 07:20 PM
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Belongs in askMRP. I see a lot of moralizing, cherry picking, and oneitis from your time in TRP. If you think it's going to be different here...you thought wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:32 PM
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You said you were home with kids and were bored, but now say kids were out except the sick one and the day was good. I never understand replies like these...
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 04:27 PM
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Over time as a parent we start finding resources (websites, yearly events, etc) to help with devising a plan. If I ever have a weekend like that, I'll check the city's "Visit _____" webpage to see what events are going on. Then I'll simply Google search the city and date (usually results cue on the date/time of events). But more simple than that, last really fun times I took my kids out we took the dog to a local river and just waded around and explored, and another time we went to the local spo…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 04:03 PM
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Makes me curious, because when I got my T checked he only did total T and it was high in the range. Do not know free T tho. I figured they would correlate, I guess not.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 03:30 PM
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Lack of clear goals I think this is it. With lifting, genuinely curious how much lifting did you miss and why does that mean you have to deload? What's your goal and what's your plan to get there? Are those weights 1RM? And ate you tracking those month to month so you can see improvement/stagnation? What things do you regret and what do you fear? What is your plan to not regret and fear those things? I know some people have problems with credit cards. It seems you got yours in check for now. Kno…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 03:20 PM
1

Why didn't you take your kids out this weekend?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 02:53 PM
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If you gain weight and it's not muscle, it's going to be fat. Why are you shooting for a certain weight (rather than shooting for a certain 1RM, or something directly correlated with lifting)? If she is being proactive that's a great sign. Not only does she trust you but she's actively providing value.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 02:49 PM
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How do you think she feels? Do some role reversal. Go buy a strap-on, let her do you in the ass for a few rounds. Sit her down and talk to her before this and let her know you want her to feel what it's like being you. Then debrief after so you can swap feelings again. Once she empathizes with your plight, I'm sure she'll come around.
/r/askMRP05/12/17 12:48 PM
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Give me your palm. Hmmmm...your love line is wide and long, but there is an anomaly at the intresection of the vein that travels from your ring finger to your heart. Let's consult the cards of fate: Oh my. I have never seen this combination before. The cards come up: Gay - Gay - Death - and Gay. Now usually this taxes me greatly which is why I charge so high, but for you, a small fee and I will channel the spirits of the afterlife to decipher this.
/r/askMRP04/12/17 11:48 PM
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I'm not worried if I'm an alpha or not Not my point. My point is if you look good and he doesnt, too bad for him. Shouldn't bother you. Now if he's trying to tear you down, yeah I'd probably stop hanging with him.
/r/askMRP04/12/17 08:43 PM
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You're looking for your oneitis friendship couple. It likely dosent exist. See RPJMRP does this, you should try it Why does that bother you. If youre being an alpha and buddy's wife says that, just give him that raised eyebrow 'maybe you should try it dude' look. Let him come to you for tips. Are you leading your wife and encouraging her to find friendships on her side by giving her a vision of what you want, showing her how it's done by finding friends on her side, and reinforcing when she trie…
/r/askMRP04/12/17 08:34 PM
1

So, you've learned not to beat your wife. Great! Now you're learning not to be a total pussy too. Look, when you're initiating with most women, it's going to be a continuous subtle 'battle' between her LMR and testing and you PUSHING through those things, and ever ESCALATING what you're doing to full blown sex. When I've put in the kino and flirting work and decide it's time for a full on initiation, it's honestly like going into go mode. Like sex is inevitable until she actually gives a hard no…
/r/askMRP04/12/17 08:11 PM
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6 months I stand corrected. Sounds like the pendulum was so far the other way that she basically stopped wanting you to captain (IE, she checked out). Now that you're improving, her "deterioration" is her actually seeing you are trying to come back, and now the pendulum is swinging back to her being submissive. Unfortunately, it has to go through her being a nagging bitch before then, and this is where most guys start. Sounds like you're going in the right direction. How sure are you that she di…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/17 04:53 PM
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Yeah troll. Lot of them lately.
/r/askMRP03/12/17 03:28 PM
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I doubt many people could get to where I am in two years HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA breathes HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.
/r/askMRP03/12/17 03:28 PM
1

Carbs are not an essential nutrient. Your body makes all the carbs it needs. This is true When in a low glucose state, your body burns fat so it has energy (ketones). Also true. I was doing some rummaging and trying to find specifically the signalling hormone the body uses for catabolism of muscle in particular. That, as well as the process of providing fuel in low glucose states are all grouped into GNG. Ketone bodies also include elements of both fat burning and muscle/protein burning. So it's…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/17 03:21 PM
1

25th OYS meaning you've been at it a year and this is your FIRST time not tolerating shitty behavior?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/17 03:52 AM
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She is absolutely, without a doubt, 100% trying to find the new baseline of just how little she has to do to keep you satisfied. I remember this phase, it sucked. Looks like breakthroughs one day, then absolutely starfish the next. You are deciding "should I just give in and get something?' Dont. Short term sacrifice for long term gain. Keep the bar high and she will meet it, or you'll walk. If she does meet it, don't be butthurt that she had it in her all along but denied you. It's simply her n…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/17 03:50 AM
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I'd absolutely fit TRM in before The Game. Get your head on straight, get some confidence by getting your weight down, passing shit tests, and getting hobbies. Dress well, and get out of the house. And lift more. THEN start looking into The Game, social scenarios, and branching out. In other words, do dread leels 1-5 before worrying about dread level 6-7.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/17 03:44 AM
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Fuck the safe word. You're logic-ing up feelings. Has her showing her tits always been an issue? Whether it be from anxiety or fear or shyness...you need to push both inside and outside the bedroom that it's okay, you want to see her tits, she's not a slut for showing her tits, and finally, you don't quite enjoy it when she doesn't show her tits. Lead.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/17 03:39 AM
1

What's a soft boundary push...like "oh I did it, sorry" versus "yeah I did it and fuck you for asking"?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/17 03:33 AM
1

Interesting about not hitting the wall. I remember the wall at mile 17 on my marathon. I remember getting past it at 19 haha. I think keto has its advantages, especially for those looking to lose fat. With no carbs for fuel though, there is a higher chance your body will burn more muscle than it would with carbs. What that percent is and does it matter, I don't know. The other advantage Ive heard of is the mental effect no carbs has. Personally though if body fat is low, carbs are an absolute ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/17 03:26 AM
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The insecurity is you not having confidence in yourself and in the process. So you're waiting around for reinforcement to happen. Dont. Go do what you want to do. Never wait for sex. Any sex that you are purposefully made to wait or 'pay' for, ultimately isn't worth the wait or price.
/r/askMRP02/12/17 05:57 PM
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Replied the same then saw yours. Beat me to it by 12 hours.
/r/askMRP02/12/17 01:10 PM
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I really don't give a fuck. I don't either. Have fun with your shitty marriage.
/r/askMRP01/12/17 10:35 PM
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Described nicely by your "maybe MRP guys will approve of me" comment...it's due to then still trying to hold on to some aspect of their old self. Beginners need to simply descend into the chaos. Just admit that potentially everything you knew was wrong and if it wasnt, it will be rebuilt again on the other side. Value structures, approval, women, let it all go.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 12:32 PM
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I was in the computer room in college one day studying with 2 friends. A guy comes in, skinny, kinda nerdy looking, and briskly walks up to me. Says "you, human, have you seen [chick's name]?" Unknown to him she told me about 5 minutes ago where she was going, but then adds "if this nerdy guy comes in here and asks where I am, please tell him you don't know." So I tell him I don't know. And then I asked him "Did you just call me human? Wtf?" And then he goes on this spiel about "well you are a h…
/r/askMRP01/12/17 12:26 PM
2

Keep it all heading in that direction. Others have given you good tips. You lost when you conceded to her eating. Now you've learned for next time.
/r/askMRP01/12/17 12:46 AM
1

Looking forward to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 11:13 PM
2

Are we still doing definitions? I'm going to have to post one soon lest I be left out. How's that J10 compendium coming along. Didn't you say you were going to make a book of pook for J10 not so long ago?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 10:32 PM
1

I don't think you understand how weight loss via calorie defecit works. Most guys need 2000-3000 calories a day as a basline, no exercise, its what your body needs to maintain. Just because you cut out 200 calories in a 20oz Pepsi and maybe 400 in a snack at the vending machine, doesnt mean you are now at a 600 calorie defecit. Even more so, even if you were at a 600 calorie defecit, a pound of fat is 3600 calories. So to lose 10 lbs you'd need to lose 36,000 calories. If you were at a 600 calor…
/r/askMRP30/11/17 10:17 PM
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Not only did he lose 14 pounds in three weeks...11 of them were in the first week alone (first OYS)...AND he gained 4 back in SOLID MUSCLE from dumbbell, bodyweight, and running. AND he read MMSLP cover to cover, sex god method, book of Pook (80%) 16 commandments of Poon, red-pill constitution, and watched all of Blue Pill professor’s Youtube videos. IN ONE WEEK! OP is completely delusional.
/r/askMRP30/11/17 06:45 PM
1

16 years of marriage almost convines me they dont have onitis for each other
/r/askMRP30/11/17 01:48 PM
1

pseudointellectual wankfest Gotta admit I laughed.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 12:47 AM
1

The definitions really don't interest me. But this did: This is a biological urge of a father acting to ensure the survival of his offspring. Is there such a biological urge? I mean evolutionarily if a group of animals had men that DID care about their offspring and another group did not...the group that did would more likely survive into the far future (they both could, but beyond scope here). But as opposed to other driven behaviors like sex, eating, physical stress (lifting/combat/victory) th…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 10:26 PM
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Makes you wonder, because if I ever fuck up and do something stupid...even if it's like "oh I got this great idea for an approach" and it bombs in spectacular awkwardness, normal people get that sensation in their gut that "huh, this was a bad idea". Same for thinking your wife moving out of your preferred seat should give you that feeling. Or if you become beligerant and demand your way you should get that feeling. Yeah you get your way, but people don't think you're worth following. They think…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 07:04 PM
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Like I said it's a probability machine. It's much less probable to eat muscle if it has easy energy ready to burn. The same way it's less likely to release and burn fat if you have energy available (why people advise fasted cardio for those overweight). Not only that but studies in epigenetics have indicated that the body can preferentially direct nutrients to be used by processes most necessary for the short term continuation of life. So I wouldnt be surprised if it cannot also take from prefer…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 04:18 PM
1

I don't believe it needs to be spreadsheet level scrutiny but you do need to assess what kind of message you're sending when you give comfort/tingles/positive or negative reinforcement. I love giving footrubs and massages and spooning and all that. Problem was I loved it so much that I did it ALL THE TIME. And people are stingy as fuck. It's not an AWALT thing, it's an APALT thing (all people are like that). They will take as much as you give them. Leading is knowing how to send that proper mess…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 01:02 PM
1

Either way your goal is for start of summer. If you bulk another 15-20lb with a surplus, you'll have to lose that PLUS what you have now to get to 10%. And if you think losing 30-35 lbs after growing muscle isn't going to burn that muscle, you're crazy Right now you dont have any muscle to lose on a cut. And I strongly believe you can gain some muscle on a cut. I've done it. Your body is a probability machine. Give it what it needs to grow and try not to let it get energy from burning muscle and…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 01:58 AM
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/u/resolutions316 did a really great post on what frame is.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 06:13 PM
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Nothing wrong with a convo. It is highly contentious and I sure as hell don't know everything. Plus there's goals: Do you want to lift heavy as possible. Or be insanely cut. Do you want to run far, fast, lose weight, or simply be able to eat more. Cardio is better if you're keto adapted. Honestly curious, better for what? Advised upping carbs Mostly tried to segway from his ideas on carbs. My advice is mainly to up insulin release at specific times, and glucose release at others, depending on wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 05:53 PM
1

Being butthurt is simply 1) You feeling like you were owed something that she did not give or 2) Your feelings taking a hit for her not valuing you as high as you'd want. 1 is a covert contract. 2 is ego. Kill them both. You don't deserve anything, and you can get value from many places. So if she's not willing to provide it you can find it elsewhere. I get value from rock climbing, I get value from lifting. I get value from meeting new people, I get value from exporing new places. So feel free …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 02:31 PM
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There's 2 main things your body needs to generate muscle: Protein, and insulin. Yes, insulin is the main anabolic hormone of the body. It's telling your body to store energy and nutrients in your muscle cells where it can be used for growth. It also regulates glucose, which does the opposite in releasing energy and nutrients from muscle cells, and even burning them for energy. If you're on keto, your carbs are low, and I'm guessing so is your insulin. So yeah you're going to want to up that. You…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 01:54 PM
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Haha. The little holdouts for apologies fights. I remember those. Eventually the frustration will build to a point where she makes an overt demand for an apology. Feel free to be honest here: "I want you to say sorry!" "Well that's not going to happen." "Why not? Why can't you just say it!" "Because I'm not sorry." Make sure you are also withdrawing time and attention for her repeated hard no's and behavior. Her exit to the maze should not be to attack you, it should be sex and pleasantness...wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 01:11 PM
2

Thanksgiving is a good practice day to see shit tests fly from family and swat them down. I'm not sure about how D/s punishment works but, was a simple statement about cyber Monday enough to derail your initiation? That's a soft no. Continue with "Cyber? We don't need to do that I'm right here baby." I always thought Chad was kind of a pussy name.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 12:31 PM
2

Bridges need to be burned in order to jump from a 3 yr LTR to dominant fit guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/17 09:32 PM
2

It seems you don't have an outlet for those frustrations. When's the last time you were able to get to a place where there was nothing to do but let your mind sort itself out. It could be a late night walk alone. It could be a mind numbing 6 mile jog. It could be sitting at the edge of the water.
/r/askMRP26/11/17 09:30 PM
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Account is two hours old so I think you are correct, he probably just decided to step on deck. OP: Height, weight, BF%, and how long have you been blue pill? Have you set an example as someone who eats healthy and has the ability to lead on issues of eating and health?
/r/askMRP26/11/17 09:27 PM
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Need to learn / be lead to that. True. She's a stubborn learner. Related story: I had my dog in classes recently where the trainer said "he knows that he's doing wrong, don't settle and allow it or reinforce it, but correct it." Almost like my dog was testing me to see what it could train me to get away with. Of course if I simply get angry with it, it'll comply out of fear and not out of want.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 04:35 PM
2

Maybe a combination of the two then. She grunts at the suggestion "Cmon baby you know that's not attractive." (In an AM way, not a butthurt way). Then bring her close and continue escalation.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 04:27 PM
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It sounds like you're visiting forums and taking on just enough of their advice to satisfy your ego while leaving out "what you don't believe in". So you're looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear. Well...what is it you want to hear?
/r/askMRP26/11/17 03:04 AM
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Man. A lot of posts and ideas coming to a head again. Premises: 1) This post, do not negotiate desire. 2) A recent TRP post summed up: It's either Hell Yes, or no (caveat the comments...waiting for hell yes rejects a lot of maybes turning into yes). 3) Some guy boulder acne tile setter's thoughts on who is training who? Subject: A woman who has responded and shown the potential for most acts of a sexual enthusiastic woman but never all at once, never without reservation, and never without provoc…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 02:59 AM
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SHE DOESN'T FUCKING LIKE YOU ANYMORE. SHE DOESN'T FUCKING LIKE YOU ANYMORE. SHE DOESN'T FUCKING LIKE YOU ANYMORE. Scream this out loud until your oneitis is gone. Over and over again. Yes. I'm absolutely serious.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/17 12:16 AM
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Or even: Mommy can I have some respect please? HOW DARE YOU EVEN ASK ME THAT! You're right I'm sorry.
/r/askMRP24/11/17 02:26 PM
2

I could explain what's going on and what you should do but honestly you do not have the frame to pull it off. Read the books.
/r/askMRP24/11/17 02:22 PM
3

remembers...cringes
/r/askMRP24/11/17 02:17 PM
1

I like the whole "please just accept I need a divorce because if you ask questions I'll fold like a house of cards".
/r/askMRP23/11/17 09:31 PM
1

When is the last time you finished a set of bodyweight and could not get off the ground because you were too heavy. For that matter when was the last time you failed a set of bodyweight because you were too heavy.
/r/askMRP23/11/17 09:29 PM
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ASALT. Ha! Haven't seen a better story yet describing women. Agree that every book is there for a reason. I remember thinking about halfway through "I got the idea, there can't possibly be more unique information." There is. Read them all.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/17 12:35 PM
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Or view reddit as the desktop site. It's mostly text. It doesn't take long or a lot of data to load.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/17 12:30 PM
1

You got other advice on the market but here's another tip: Any amount of interest that you DONT pay by paying it off nets the same return as that much interest earned in the market. If you are making 6% in the market on 123$ but paying 23% interest on another $123, you are losing potential money. Instead, pay off or down the 23% loan before investing in 6% market.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 01:37 PM
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Not sure if phones other than android have it, but there's an OK GOOGLE feature where you can say "remind me at 3pm on Dec 10 to pickup kids at 5" and it'll save that for you. I could never be bothered to write stuff into a calendar, but speaking it when I need to take a note has been massively productive.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 01:33 PM
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When reading WISNIFG, focus on the part where they say that a person isn't going to leave you, just because you said no. Extrapolate that to the fact that a person isn't going to leave you, just because they are upset with you. Imagine yourself in this scenario, doing this to your wife: You walk in to the room she is in, and out of nowhere haul back and smack her on the ass as hard as you can. Like totally overdo it. And yell "POW!" when you connect. And when she becomes enraged and hits you and…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 01:20 PM
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All the low-hanging fruit has been picked I feel you. And this is the pot talking to the kettle here, but, how can you break the remaining items into smaller pieces and knock them out bit by bit? Also, going to have to admit that there have been times the wife and I simply wipe the kids' nose and eyes, drop them off at the gym daycare, and say "try not to cough too much". CAN'T MISS THOSE GAINS MAN!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 12:10 PM
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Just wanted to share to see what others have experienced. It's a fucking phone call...from the father of an X, who for some reason is talking to you, and for some reason needs to tell you her dad wants to call instead of, you know, him just calling...for a birthday wish? Which he obviously didn't call for last year because it seems this is the first time youre jizzing your pants over it. So you need to post to figure out how others have responded to such an obscure scenario even though you claim…
/r/askMRP22/11/17 11:20 AM
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Is it alpha m.? I bet it's alpha m. click...smiles
/r/askMRP22/11/17 12:06 AM
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But what if I want it reeeeeaaalllly bad?
/r/askMRP21/11/17 03:41 PM
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There are multiple things to unpack here. I think the answer to your question is, both: 1) If you spent the first X years of your life "knowing who you are" only to have it flipped on its head...would it be wise or foolish to think now "THIS time I know who I truly am". 2) That doesn't mean don't pursue what you want. Most people swallowing the pill have a revelation on both what they want, AND the tactics they can use to get it. So yeah, use those tactics unapologetically. 3) OP is warning newb…
/r/askMRP21/11/17 03:31 PM
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When something goes wrong get out a notepad and retrace the steps leading up to the bad event backwards. Stoney once talked about continuing to ask "why" until you got to the root cause. I have found that when I'm stuck, then getting to a place where I can let my mind completely attack the problem without any distractions really helps. Whether that be going for a run, or taking the dog out to walk at night. I can simply keep asking myself questions out loud and answering them until I get to the …
/r/askMRP21/11/17 02:46 PM
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I've mentioned RP and sent links, but they can't be bothered to read. Or lift. Mention RP and set links ONCE. If they come back with the same problems, they are attempting to sink into victimhood again. If you repeat the links or to lift, you are simply enabling their victimhood. The mere fact that you are throwing solutions at them gives them the "I'm the victim, someone is trying to help me" chemical rush. Instead, when they come back a second time with the same problem, put them to task. "Did…
/r/askMRP21/11/17 02:42 PM
1

I found the pill and started the journey towards finding out who I truly am. So you didn't know who you truly were before. Right? So if you did not know who you truly were before, then if you were to stubbornly stick to who you "truly thought you were" during your journey then you would probably pass up the opportunity or at least significantly delay figuring it out on your way right? Exactly my point. Being true to yourself is a Disney one-liner.
/r/askMRP21/11/17 02:37 PM
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Not being honest or true to who I am Cut the Disney crap. When starting out, who you are is going to change. And hamstringing yourself by trying to stick to some image because it's morally honest or true is not effective. Peterson describes when your worldview is shattered by something (something like taking the pill) your entire structural view of what life is breaks apart and you descend into the depths of chaos. You will come back, don't worry. But let it happen. Don't try to hold onto some g…
/r/askMRP21/11/17 01:52 PM
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Agreed and adding W&S to the list. Someone has to be behind you cracking the whip.
/r/askMRP21/11/17 01:55 AM
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Great post by Archwinger. Great comments too. Haven't seen him around much lately...and his last few posts are pretty accurate.
/r/askMRP20/11/17 02:57 PM
3

What hole do I use?
/r/askMRP20/11/17 01:11 PM
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"Hey babe can you get me off too?" Confident and attractive. I'm definitely using this next time.
/r/askMRP20/11/17 12:31 PM
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Yes...because we all know attraction is based off of what you like and don't like...
/r/askMRP20/11/17 12:15 PM
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I don't want my marriage to be over It ended a long time ago. You were just stuck in fantasy land. Have you touched any books? That whole puke sounds like you finally realized how much of a lazy fuck you've been, and now you're shaping up for her. Don't spend the last 3rd of your life getting better for her...it will inevitably end in disappointment. Spend the last 3rd of your life getting better for you. She can come if she wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/17 01:12 AM
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Yep and you hit the nail on the head.
/r/askMRP19/11/17 11:46 PM
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Better answer. I refer back to point 1 with this extra bit from PUA. Wrestling is indirect and she can always hamster that "I know he's totally pushing for sex, but I can keep laughing and then suddenly not understand when he quits because he never really made me commit to a yes or no." It's kind of plausible deniability for NOT having sex. Kind of like "we can still be friends". The solution is to compliance test. Do something that makes her give that direct answer. Take her hand and put it on …
/r/askMRP19/11/17 05:52 PM
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I absolutely love that you keep hammering guys on lifting and weight. It's the two things they have total control over and if they're failing those, they're wasting everyone's time.
/r/askMRP19/11/17 05:41 PM
2

Even worse. You have no mercy.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 05:30 PM
1

Ah the SAHM thing. There was a post recently saying something like the problem with SAHM is not that you don't appreciate her enough...it's that she has nothing in her life that she can derive real appreciation from. Appreciating her more won't help. And because you are so successful in her eyes, she hamsters all the appreciation you must be getting and wants some for free. You say you are rewarding good behavior...are you opening doors for her to join you on a fun life? Not actively finding a l…
/r/askMRP19/11/17 04:07 PM
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I've had sessions where she's giggling and laughing and saying no a lot. 2 things: 1) Know when the fun turns into you kind of begging. After some time where her resistance is becoming an annoyance, I just stop. Remember a form of hard no is a soft no for long enough that things start getting obvious. Also remember PUA LMR tactics. If she resists, back up a step and start again...3 resists and freeze out. You see how she came over to your pillow when you froze out? That's why it works. 2: There'…
/r/askMRP19/11/17 03:56 PM
2

Sounds like she floated a test to see if you were her alpha or you were her beta. You looked like you were going to be her alpha when you were about to leave, but then when you cave after she asks you to stay and comfort her you show you are her beta. Seems like she doesn't want that.
/r/askMRP19/11/17 01:53 PM
1

Still holding out for that big crunch.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 01:36 PM
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In kind
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 01:35 PM
1

Perfect. I had that same tactic. Also "Is what I'm about to say fixing her problem or letting her swim in emotion. And can I change it to be the latter."
/r/askMRP18/11/17 05:26 PM
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Is reading porn the same as watching porn? I just came.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 05:23 PM
1

The question always is then...are you doing what you need to do to get more?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 05:09 PM
1

Know what works even better? A nice 6 mile run (ducks and covers for incoming riot)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 05:07 PM
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The less you fail at interacting the less problems you have interacting? Why not just divorce and then you wouldnt have any of her problems at all? There's good communication and there's bad communication. Bad is going to be you DLVing by telling her feelings, problems, and anything that makes it so you're not a strong competent captain. STFU is used because you are probably doing this much more than your conversation DHVing. When you get a grip on yourself and stop DLVing, STFU is not as recomm…
/r/askMRP18/11/17 03:16 PM
1

she also had a conscious choice in how things ended up. The distinction may be the frame of reference here. Take playing heads up poker...from a global frame of reference, if your opponent has shitty cards but decides to play aggressive anyway, you can look at them and wonder why is it they do what they do? But if you look at it from your frame of reference...you don't know what they have, you simply know what you hold in your hand and have to act accordingly. Your wife/ltr/plate is doing everyt…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 03:10 PM
2

Your list of suggested behaviors and the example all should be common sense for those who claim to have swallowed the pill. If anyone is getting their panties in a bunch about this, you just don't 'get it' yet. You're playing a game with every other human being. And in this game there is no rule against using these tactics to advance in the game. If you choose to not use these tactics for some idiotic reason like 'morals', you are ceding power to those that do. And rest assured, they will.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 02:43 PM
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just to flip it In other words: How would you feel if... Life's not fair...and saying OP should restrict his fun based on the unfairness of his actions is covert contracy (I'll be fair for you...if you don't get mad/will be fair to me) and feeling guilty for wanting his way. You're getting married. OYS. Don't stay out all night again Moralizing his choice. Now...if hes failing at life because he's staying out, he has a problem. But there's no moral code that says marriage = no late nights. Again…
/r/askMRP17/11/17 04:09 PM
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Guessing that since it hasn't happened yet...OP fears future wife is mad...in other words he's scared of her and is already playing defense. Well...I guess that would be the case if OP wasn't a troll anyway.
/r/askMRP17/11/17 04:04 PM
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Concern trolling? Moralizing? Yeah be a good husband OP...no more late nights because: ring. Here's how it should go down when you get home: You: Hey babe how you doin? Her: How come you stayed out til 6, you said you'd be home at 2? You: I felt like staying out later. /end conversation.
/r/askMRP17/11/17 03:57 PM
2

I hung out with a grout of girls in college who liked to bring along a 'gay' friend. At least once a night he had his tongue down ones throat, was groping their tits, or freak dancing with one. Don't get me wrong he still takes it up the ass from a stable husband to my most recent knowledge. But yeah homo fetish = absolute plausible deniability: "He's gay so it doesn't count"
/r/askMRP17/11/17 03:42 PM
1

I can't be sure but it sounds like you may be insinuating something...
/r/askMRP17/11/17 03:07 PM
1

"For what?" I like the pressure flip there. Honestly it's not for some people. I am the minority that actually get enjoyment and a mental deload from it. And it keeps the fat off. I also enjoy lifting. So I do both.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 12:38 PM
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No, but she promised him last week that he might 'get lucky' if he let her go out with the girls to this male gay bar. She didn't come home that night which made him worry that she might have fooled around with some 'gay' guy...but takes solace that if she did...it was just experience that she can use to fuck him better tonight.
/r/askMRP17/11/17 12:04 PM
1

Salvage what? No really...what are you trying to salvage? Because it seems like your current ability to even get through life is fucked. And the reason sucks...like it sounds like it truly truly sucks. But you're not going to be able to plot a course a build a damn thing in life until you figure out just how to get by mentally on a day to day basis. The brain is a confusing thing to treat...and you heard it yourself that few recover and Dr.s don't know why. So at some point youre going to have t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 06:39 PM
2

So I switched it off. Ok good. I don’t want to DEER, so I just look at her, then walk off. Nice. she continues to brood and I continue to get on with my stuff. This is going well. He's holding out. Me: "Is something wrong?" sigh.....
/r/askMRP16/11/17 06:09 PM
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Your point of polarity is another good one that Daeda brings up a lot. It's the clash of world that are different where you're selecting what you like from hers and she's observing what she likes from yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 02:48 PM
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It's not about making her feel so that she'll want to be with you like a huge covert contract is it? Absolutely right. Understanding her feels and her motivation is almost liberating. You realize that that's where her drive comes from, and while you are the source of her feels and you can use them to positively and negatively reinforce her behavior...your act of giving feels is a decision YOU make based on if YOU do or do not like behavior that SHE chose to enact. Fine line here. It's not you gi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 01:42 PM
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Love the quote. It does baffle me. How can you not want to win?!?! Must be the testosterone.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 12:48 PM
2

I can see your POV. I wrote that sentence and stared at it and came back to it a few times. Flipping it this way and that, and comparing it to my experiences. In each experience she shows no enthusiasm for the goal itself, but is driven by either the feelings of approval, or validation she receives from it. Whether that validation be from me for her dressing sexier, parenting more effectively, or fucking better, or her coach for eating healthier and lifting more, or her family for a few hobbies …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 12:43 PM
1

You're angry because you're HIDING FROM YOUR WIFE. With sex, with shit tests, with giving her feels. Sex - You saw this after she overtly brought it up. You initiate when there's no time, then turn her into a bad guy. Honest question because I've been there...are you not attracted to her...or are you scared of the sex build-up/initiation/soft no/and possibly hard no or starfish? Shit tests - You get up and leave EVERY time she tests you. Do you remember that shit tests are foreplay for her? She …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 01:35 AM
2

Why can't that be done again? Bad shit happens to kids all over the world every day. I was reading about suicides off the golden gate bridge the other day and I swear every other one was a parent going through a divorce chucking a 4yo off before jumping in. Made me sick to my stomach. But OP isn't chucking his kids off a bridge. Hell he even has the option to cheat on the side. If she finds out, she might fold and just stick around anyway. Best of both worlds, he gets sex and a free babysitter. …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 01:23 AM
2

Liquid? WTF? I don't get the weird diet trends. It's just calories in calories out man. What's your TDEE? I'm at 2700 for maintenance (probably will go up a bit for winter weather and thermoregulation). I eat 6-7 small meals a day. 20-35g protein on each one. Shoot for 180-200g protein a day. Some low calorie, high protein meals: 5 Egg whites and 1 Egg scrambled, 140 calories, 23g protein. Tuna steak 4 oz, 140 calories, 28g protein. Turkey Burger Plain, 260 calories, 28g protein Yogurt 220g (add…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 01:00 AM
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TO ASSERT DOMINANCE!
/r/askMRP14/11/17 12:56 AM
1

We're not masturbating at hot yoga anymore? God damn you people change too fast for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/17 11:52 PM
3

A JOKE!
/r/askMRP13/11/17 11:41 PM
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THE INTERNET!
/r/askMRP13/11/17 11:23 PM
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Like this reply the best.
/r/askMRP13/11/17 04:25 PM
1

Ego might not be the right term. Nice guy though...nice guys do things to make other people think they're nice as dtry_pr said...believing that when others think they are nice they will do things for them or be nice back. This contract is made covertly....what do we call that again? Damn. If you immediately turned around and broke your friends glasses by accident and he got mad...would that anger you? If so, see above.
/r/askMRP13/11/17 04:22 PM
1

Seconding this. This is how I am.
/r/askMRP13/11/17 04:16 PM
1

Nice job. Sounds like your feet are on more steady ground. I see you have a good set of short term goals to shore up your ship. It's always inspiring to hear, once guys have fixed themselves and can project success into the future, what big plans you have for yourself. You say the confidence to approach is your next major goal. What steps are you going to take to make this happen?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/17 06:18 PM
1

You had a post on eggs not too long ago. Wholesale stores you can get 5 doz for 6 bucks. Easy protein.
/r/askMRP11/11/17 01:04 AM
1

Your wife died and your electricity went out permenently. What do you do for fun?
/r/askMRP10/11/17 08:00 PM
8

Hi me 2 years ago. Get hobbies and make yourself scarce. Build a life apart from her. Keep reading and slowly up levels of dread. Good luck. See you on the other side.
/r/askMRP10/11/17 07:22 PM
5

I'd wager a guess that if he really has been improving since August, then she's starting to see it and get concerned. On one hand he's rocking the boat and she sees a tough road ahead...filled with a certain amount of blind trust in his leadership which, if the past 11 years I'd any indication, he will let her down. On the other hand she sees a separation which, if she can get in before he shows that his improvement is worth anything, she can come out the end feeling vindicated instead of mistak…
/r/askMRP10/11/17 07:17 PM
2

It's funny because a ripped dude, who knows how much blood and sweat it takes to get to that level, is never going to shit on another man who posts their success. Praise? Yep. Constructive criticism? Sure. Discouragement? No, he doesn't lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/17 07:02 PM
2

Pay? Ladies dream of a chance to get near my pubes.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/17 06:47 PM
1

Her Behavior From a purely behavior reinforcement perspective...she gets a massive attitude, yells at the kids, talks back to you a bit. As a result you take over her chores, clean up after her, then let her "get it all out" and then snuggle with her on the couch. Do you think this makes it more or less likely she will act like a bitch in the future? Argument So you provided a bunch of beta comfort after taking over her chores, and then disagree with her opinion. I see this as her almost beta-sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/17 02:35 PM
3

Practically crippled. Been there. The words "God damn it I just want to sit down and poop is that so hard?" were uttered. 1RM If you're lifting at a gym, why can't you set safety bars? If not, leave the clips off on bench and dump the weight if you need to. Also go on amazon and buy a full cage for like 250. no one is going to travel hundreds of miles to meet for a drink. If they travel to you I dont see a problem. Ex Funny how much shit they just cannot do by themselves that they take for grant…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/17 02:15 PM
1

I think every scale needs a standardized "I would not bang a girl below this level unless I was completely sex starved." and then another "I simply would not bang any girl below this level ever." I would put these numbers at 6 and 5 respectively.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/17 02:08 PM
1

5'11'' 10% 180 checking in. Though I'm early 30s, yeah he's skinny, but his maxes aren't too bad surprisingly. For the sake of gaining weight I can see keeping warm. I usually appreciate the winter months for the ability to eat more since the body is burning more to keep me warm. Wonder how many meals a day OP is at. It's easier to eat more when you're going for 6-7 smaller meals a day rather than 3.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/17 02:01 PM
1

Happens a lot. I don't think Scurvemuch was his first handle either.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/17 02:15 AM
1

If Timtams are anything like Keebler Deluxe Grahams...yeah I can relate. Put em in the fridge and they're like crack.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 07:48 PM
2

You volunteering?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 07:21 PM
3

The V body is there. Now Lean and cut it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 03:36 PM
1

I agree with everything in your above reply.
/r/askMRP08/11/17 12:48 AM
1

The fact that OP is trying to play Mr. Big Captain is not in debate. Inconsiderate, however, implies morality. As if he should be being more considerate. Should he be? Who are we to say. Is it advised to be? Depends on his goals.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 11:19 PM
1

No. I was following the same path as you and training for sprint Tris when injury hit. Am going to get back and run another full marathon but I guess we'll see if the time sacrifice for a tri will be too much. I recall many late night runs for my full trying to put in 20 milers. It takes it out on you. Plus I did those before starting lifting....so theres also the question of how much gains I'll lose.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 03:38 PM
1

I guess coma as well. Hmm.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 02:43 AM
1

A lot of detail is left out here. Like his past dynamic with this woman. But let's not moralize by thinking that a hypothetical guy who is a competent captain but takes no consideration of his wive's opinion when buying a house is an inconsiderate asshole. Does she provide the value to have an opinion on his house?
/r/askMRP07/11/17 12:14 AM
1

Why you hang up endurance world? I'm trying to get back to full after injury. Wife recently started up again for 5k. I don't think she's as crazy about running as me...though as opposed to OP mine really can't lose any more weight in a healthy way. I need to get her to eat a bit more.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 10:12 PM
3

What are you trying to accomplish here. Are you trying to buy a house? Or are you trying to put on a show as captain?
/r/askMRP06/11/17 10:01 PM
2

6 foot and 168 at 15%...you have absolutely no muscle at all. What injury affects the ability to do both squats and bench? I still do like her a lot, she's otherwise a decent woman, With an attitude like you describe she sounds intolerable.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 05:58 PM
2

It sounds like you've found askMRP but are still in that "I'll ask one question and hope it changes my life" mode. Get to work if you're serious.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 01:27 PM
1

swallow. Swallow hard. Oh come on now. At least make me work for the joke.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 10:32 PM
2

Always gotta be careful what's saved in the ctrl-c notepad.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 10:29 PM
2

Lying by accident however, we call that plausible deniability!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 10:27 PM
6

correct ignore negative behavior. Agree. She gets it enough to search for a way to better herself? A great sign for you. Keep it up.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 07:34 PM
21

Captain Rambo has just stumbled onto the deck and is about to start barking orders to a crew that has been running the ship in his absence. Can't wait to see what happens!
/r/askMRP05/11/17 07:26 PM
1

What hapens past 10?
/r/askMRP05/11/17 01:36 PM
2

Just glad he speaks better than he types. Otherwise he'd be slurring words left and right.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 02:39 AM
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Yeah but did you catch how he said 'out'.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 02:37 AM
1

When you see results, it clicks. Until then it's simply one of many possibilities in your head.
/r/askMRP04/11/17 01:51 PM
7

Keep making excuses not to lift, and she'll keep wanting it slow in bed. Read the sidebar and stop posting low effort questions about your shitty life.
/r/askMRP04/11/17 01:47 PM
2

Sounds boring. Maybe entertain yourself with something out a nearby window. Some flowers maybe? A storm blowing in?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 03:31 PM
3

I knew mention of the cube would bring you out.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 03:04 PM
3

Honest and effective. Nice.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 02:53 PM
3

I see the DHV on it but getting into it, transitioning from it, and being authentic in it is troublesome. It's like if she'd say "what does that mean" and in my head I'm thinking "fuck if I know, I'm just going through the motions here." The ability to execute, i imagine, has something to do with having real interest in what you're doing. For example, though I haven't tried it yet, Ive looked up palm reading because for some reason that interests me. That and Mystery's pick a number 1-4 game, wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 02:18 PM
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Bravo. Well done. Mystery Method and The Game were the books that pushed me out there to start conversing and flirting with women. Haven't even heard of The Rules of the Game, on reading list now. I first started trying to use some of the routines from The Game and Mystery's website. Because of being a beginner and the fact that it was a routine, I couldn't slip them seamlessly into conversation and crashed and burned hilariously sometimes. Often when I succeed, it happens with a simple opener: …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 12:42 PM
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Sometimes, when those beliefs don't match reality, ego kicks in and turds start to fly. Elliott Hulse had a video once saying "Don't idolize me. You won't like the real me." In our search for our final form we often idolize those who seem to have already made it and think, as I've thought and been proven wrong endless times in my life, "He's got everything figured out." I wrote recently to another MRP user via PM, NO ONE has this shit totally figured out. And I'll say openly that there's been se…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 12:36 PM
2

Lifting good. The solid career and pension...is this why she should fuck you? Respect you? Shit you're married they're already half hers. If the guy in the car had those too...what makes her want you over him? If this wasn't a one and done post and you're going to stick around, yeah read the sidebar and figure out what I mean when I say what have you done and what's your path forward. If it was a post you hoped would instantly solve your problems...well...you have more problems than you know.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 09:33 PM
5

Are we going to talk? Oooooooooooh damn. Didn't need to read anything past this because that was the capstone to your entire episode of being an emotional whiney bitch.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 05:12 PM
9

I laughed at it with amused mastery I laugh at you with amused mastery. What have you done to improve so far? Assume she blew him because you were (are?) a BP beta. What's your path forward?
/r/askMRP01/11/17 05:06 PM
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don't keep trying to punish her and beat her into submission Key here. Whether she made an honest mistake and is honestly apologizing, or an intentional mistake and is half assing an apology, or a mix of those...avoid the "I'm going to teach her a lesson" mentality. There's a difference between ego driven covert contract "I'm going to punish you, you will feel bad for this, I won't be telling you how bad I expect you to feel" and leadership driven "I need to communicate a lesson to you so we can…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 04:57 PM
1

Why is it more difficult?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 04:10 PM
4

my fair share of house stuff. There's a ton of things that factor into who should be doing what around the house, but the word "fair" is a big red flag for men. My wife is home 4-5 days of the week, and I used to do my "fair" share (50%) of the housework and then resent her when I came home and the place was a mess. But the truth is, she's home more, she should be keeping that thing clean. And I have no problem setting boundaries to motivate her to do it. She doesn't clean up dog shit in the bac…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 02:05 PM
1

Yeah. Lesson learned...or lesson confirmed should I say. I guess I imagined some kind of plateau I could stay on once I got there. Nope.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 01:23 AM
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Well, right now I cannot afford you (eg. your finances suck), and I can't keep you in shape(DYEL) Is this a vision? Or holding up hoops? If I have to resort to fucking strange to keep her focused, is it really worth the headache? I've asked this to myself as well. My answer was another question: Am I (in my case) going out for the purpose of catch and release to keep her in line? Or am I doing it because I want to be a guy that can?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 06:04 PM
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Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 05:12 PM
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Maybe this guy is being a twat on purpose, or maybe he is completely oblivious 99 times out of 100 the explanation is: He's doing/saying this because ego. Watch their face. If it's a deer in the headlights look, like their mind is churning already thinking up strategies for whatever it is you are going to say, just AM it. Ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 03:29 PM
2

Just a suggestion. Progress may be made much faster with "I'm going to shred all this shit on Nov 7. Take out what you want to keep."
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 03:24 PM
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Success in recent MAP pathways is coming in fits and starts. Doubt creeps in because it's not on a consistent basis. Social-It's rare that I'm out on the town with a bunch of guys. Friends are BP and social scenes make them vulnerable. But was able to get out at a conference with a few guys who talked big stories about previous nights out. They turned out to simply be stories however. One night in casino I'm the life of the table. Flirting back and forth with (admittedly) older woman (high 40s) …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 03:18 PM
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He says he needs guidance, but she needs guidance. His guidance. The divorce was simply saying "there's something wrong". What's he start to do? Go to the gym and diet. Ok, but with 40 lbs to go, still a fat fuck. If he gets fit, then it'll take time for her to notice. All the while she's flailing because there's no vision. It's hard to separate just who's being conditioned and where the focus is. You're fat so you workout. Are you working out for everyone? For her? Or for you. She's a bitch so …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 02:27 PM
1

Doing what needs to be done because you've accepted that doing it gets you where you want to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/17 07:13 PM
2

Do you see the value she attempted to give by being an adult and apologizing? Do you see how you asking about her problem didn't let her own it, didn't let you both move past the issue, and instead tried to solve the source of her crankiness for her?
/r/askMRP26/10/17 06:32 PM
3

This is a long game. She's already way out in front of you man. So much so that she's got you on lockdown at home while she lives a single womans life on FL. She's got the best of both worlds. You are trying to "win" against her by withdrawing attention and STFU when, and pay attention now, she doesn't even want your attention. The way to handle this is to basically pretend you're divorced. Focus on you, getting your mind right. Go out and get abundance mentality, figure out what OI is, and buil…
/r/askMRP26/10/17 06:23 PM
1

Ask your doctor... Ask your physical therapist... Look online...
/r/askMRP26/10/17 06:09 PM
1

Funny how we are using shitty software to correct shitty software. Is there going to come a time in the future one can go the hardware route and connect electrodes in the brain to stimulate the same paths leading to irrational confidence? Will doing so without the underlying experiences to reinforce the behavior just lead to straight up confusion and regression? Eh, I probably won't be alive to find out.
/r/askMRP26/10/17 06:03 PM
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Get out of their own head Probably going out of scope here but what do you think triggers such a self-defeating attitude? Does it have to do with an evolved fear like Rollo or Jack Donovan might suggest? The effect of social media and the increased social isolation of people due to being overworked, underpaid, and reliant on electronics for entertainment? Or the result of the feminine narrative making men feel inferior? But one of my earliest memories at 3yo was being antisocial at preschool...i…
/r/askMRP26/10/17 05:55 PM
2

Step 4: If excess, attempt to decrease frequency, duration, or intensity of behaviors; if deficits, attempt to increase behaviors..... use CBT techniques to help individuals challenge their patterns and beliefs and replace "errors in thinking such as overgeneralizing, magnifying negatives, minimizing positives and catastrophizing" with "more realistic and effective thoughts, thus decreasing emotional distress and self-defeating behavior". This just makes too much sense. 2 years ago Yeah, and if …
/r/askMRP26/10/17 05:43 PM
2

Sometimes i try and think about how we deliver lessons like these. As I watch my own transformation for example, I see the long roundabout path to the end and think "huh, if I were simply irrationally confident, I would arrive at this location faster." So I think about preaching that. But then I think "well, did I get here because I felt irrationally confident? Not really. Even if it was preached to me, I got here from the long route of slogging it out in the field and being okay with failing." …
/r/askMRP25/10/17 05:50 PM
3

Authenticity was a bad word choice on my part. It's not so much "Why do they think I'm great?" I know that when I go out and value is flying back and forth between me and the group that I am great. I understand how im manipulating feelings and provoking responses. It's more like "That was a fluke from me, I couldn't do it again." Self doubt. It sounds weak. It is weak. If you dominate, and know you dominate, is that narcissism or reality? 95% of people aren't playing the game. But they all want …
/r/askMRP25/10/17 05:08 PM
4

I've written something similar in my OYS of the past. Big success, then a week later feel insignificant...as if it didn't happen, as if it was a fluke, as if it wasn't real. My current goal going out is to be the guy who walks in and owns the place. It happens, and I'd be lying if I said soon after I start doubting it's authenticity. And I'd also be lying if before that same day I had doubts about going out. But the more it happens, the less time I need to 'warm up' to the social scene and the m…
/r/askMRP25/10/17 03:54 PM
2

First, 8's at 40 exist. Though I'd go no higher. One was rubbing her tits on me in Vegas while the guy she came with sat there helpless. The general concensus though is women will fall before men. So unless you're so far down the SMV curve that you NEVER will pass her, you'll pass her. That's without putting in effort. You just have to burn 20-30 years depending on your age to get there. If you do t want to waste your life, you can improve now. And a great part about being a guy is that, unlike …
/r/askMRP24/10/17 10:26 PM
23

Put your own bruise on her thigh right below, make it bigger, get a sharpie, write "yeah bitch beat that", wait for reply.
/r/askMRP24/10/17 11:44 AM
1

Is procrastination the opposite of a hard worker? I used to procrastinate like mad, but then I'd kill whatever it was I wanted to do. Why? The motivation was "I don't want to let so and so down." Now, the focus has shifted to not letting myself down. As for procrastination, it's acknowledgement that I feel accomplished when I get shit done. So I do it for present me, and I do it for future me.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 04:08 PM
5

white knight beta cuck. Yet you fear him acting from a place of insecurity And yet you can say this exact thing, as long as its because it's your boundary and not because you are insecure. He is clearly the guy she'd end up with if I died or left her Are you planning on doing either anytime soon? Who the fuck does that? Me. I don't GAF if a girl is married. Going climbing with your boyyyyyfriennnd?? See and you can say this too, but since you've already come off insecure it wont be congruent for…
/r/askMRP23/10/17 03:45 PM
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anything about the rock climbing community It really sucks not having a belayer to climb with. I don't see this as a huge deal especially if he isn't asking her to do other stuff. But you're dead on...if he has a problem, set the boundary and enforce it. And not in the massively insecure way he was before. Otherwise get over it.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 03:37 PM
1

Decent shape but 35% bodyfat? Thats fucking huge. But i think youre overestimating. Think about what that means, over 60 pounds of your 188 is fat, and your lean weight is 120. Ice queen actually does you a favor, you can focus on you without her bitching and nagging. You goals seem to be aligned to the first few levels of dread. Good. And good luck.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 03:26 PM
1

I will always know what Billy used to be, but the more Billy is something different, the more my mind's image of Billy changes to suit that new image. Do I have any say in what Billy changes into? No. Can I hold on to a false reality of what Billy no longer is? No.
/r/askMRP22/10/17 11:31 PM
1

Glad to hear it. Remember, she sure as shit wouldn't tell you if you played beta too long and she wanted a side piece.
/r/askMRP22/10/17 11:13 PM
2

Why even bring this up with her?
/r/askMRP22/10/17 08:36 PM
1

I know ;)
/r/askMRP22/10/17 04:18 PM
6

"Why is he smiling when he says that? Is he playing? Is he serious? He seems confident, like he has...options? Fuck now I have to change panties again."
/r/askMRP22/10/17 04:05 PM
2

It's not done yet! There's hints of yet another talk. Can't wait until the next episode.
/r/askMRP22/10/17 03:59 PM
3

Sometimes honesty is the best answer.
/r/askMRP22/10/17 03:54 PM
2

Yep.
/r/askMRP22/10/17 01:11 AM
1

No one said anything about doing a hobby because of her. Sure, you can sit there and do as you like and play video games. Just as you have every human right to do that, she has every human right to judge you for doing that. She may very well feel that you brushing through a meeting in which she needed to feel some captaining from you and a hope that sex would 'just happen' so you could go play some video games is extremely low value. And then she may also feel repulsed sexually from you and lash…
/r/askMRP21/10/17 08:21 PM
5

Devil's advocate noted. From my skim the study kind of sucked. Lots of assumptions and cherry picking. Like BMI and blood pressure being estimated. And then the oddity of bettering or worsening of relationships being corellated, but constantly good or bad relationships not correlated. That and I'm mildy triggered by the "studies show" headlines news headlines show on the daily which are BS for a number of reasons. I get that OP is getting some drive from it but give me an FR of a dude killing it…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 06:40 PM
6

I'd rather place my confidence in the advice and experience of hundreds of men working toward the same goal and swapping notes over a cherry-picking caveat filled study.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 03:12 PM
4

Anti-slut defense is not the girl having to deal with responsibility. Anti-slut defense has to do with the social impact (either the view of her friends/people around her out in public, or her compiled view of herself compared to society's image of being a 'proper woman') that entertaining sex with you will have on her. Literally "I'm not a slut" defense. Being the oldest child in the house, your wife doesn't want or need that responsibility if she is to be your babe. This is true, but the reaso…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 12:51 PM
2

This could turn into /r/fiftyfifty really quick.
/r/askMRP20/10/17 02:59 PM
3

practice game (if they’re single), or conventional/positive masculinity (if they’re not) over time, they may find (as I have) that its’ possible to move towards balance Why not practice game if you're not single again? And balance is a word that makes me nervous, because it implies fair. I'll take your word that you aren't going for fair. I refuse to leave her to become happy or find peace Let's bend it and say that you're not leaving her, but just continally spending less and less time around b…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 01:09 PM
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The fact that she believes she can put him in a beta box and punish him when he isn't it in is a massive sign of her opinion of him. I'm kind of physically disgusted at the mere thought of it.
/r/askMRP20/10/17 10:45 AM
1

I tried to engage. Language is a good indicator of intention. You tried to engage? What's that like, a covert contract? Like you were expecting some result from her and didn't get it? So your engaging failed? And that altered how you acted with her in the future? Dude you be flirty and kino. Like you DO it regardless of how you think or even how she does respond. Like fuck you bitch my kino and flirting is for me, not for you. When she disrespects you, and make no mistake pulling away from your …
/r/askMRP20/10/17 10:29 AM
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look up The day that happens on askMRP I will shove my own fist up my ass.
/r/askMRP20/10/17 10:19 AM
2

Post history...you don't look and it's full of reasons you shouldn't waste your time. You do look and it's a 5 day old account.
/r/askMRP19/10/17 05:59 PM
3

Your alliterative names are confusing. I'm sitting here wondering "why is this guy talking to himself"
/r/askMRP19/10/17 05:02 PM
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Awww he loves her ! They almost kissed! I'm on the edge of my seat! Why are you worried? Short of her falling on your dick you'll never screw up your marriage with hot wife by fuckimg other girl. Unless you're going to pull some excuse out of your ass and say you didn't have proper mind to consent or something. Other than that. Red flag: Few issues - boredom. A hot, smart, rich, fit woman who's bored? Yikes.
/r/askMRP19/10/17 04:53 PM
1

May or may not post about it in the future. The biology of it all seems a little autistic as they say and out of scope. But understanding and possibly manipulating my biology in order to feel drive, feel like I'm killing it, instead of chalking it up to "oh I guess it's just my emotions acting up again" seems beneficial. I mean the whole reason I ended up here is because I thought the mystery of sexual and social dynamics was outside my control. So who's to say I won't find similar profound real…
/r/askMRP18/10/17 02:33 PM
2

You could chop your dick off and take back all the power!
/r/askMRP18/10/17 11:50 AM
2

Been looking into hormone function a lot lately based on the goal of understanding how my body impacts my mind. Fascinating stuff how the body works. Haven't gotten to testosterone yet but I'm curious to see just how, chemically, busting one out yourself decreases drive, motivation, impacts scent, etc.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 11:48 AM
4

Those who want to stick around will agree. Those who want to fight your points will either wind themselves, or go away. At what point do we stop trying to explain why red pill is amoral and just boot/ban those who continue to break the rules? nor do we want to clog up our threads defending the morality of our choices.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 08:06 PM
6

So is pathological idiocy. Shame he didn't post asking about how to fix himself of that instead.
/r/askMRP17/10/17 11:30 AM
5

But is going through this even worth it if my wife has a low sex drive Going through? With what? You describe the process of fixing yourself like getting cancer treatment. Fix you not her.
/r/askMRP17/10/17 11:27 AM
1

Beautifully compiled. Will be interesting to see what effect it has on those who can't even half ass the sidebar. Inspiration? Dynamite? Like Raiders of the Lost Ark after they open it?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 01:48 AM
2

RP for 5 years but has no idea what to do when he catches onitis for a girl who, by no mention in the post, even returns any interest in him. Troll.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 01:09 PM
1

K
/r/askMRP15/10/17 05:51 PM
1

You miss the point. The bitchfest is because a lot of guys, instead of seeing what bogey posted and going "hmm, why doesn't this fit?" are jumping right to "the post males sense, so it must be RP". It's funny, because I read OPs post and did just that. "Huh this sounds like conditioning, sounds like it would work, why is it bad?" And then realized...it's not you being the prize. It's you trying to fix her. And then I thought back to my own journey and thought "okay how did I do it then" and reme…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/17 12:24 PM
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First you have to stop the repulsion. YOU have to stop it? If you're getting bigger and better and funner and sexier and getting AM by gaming girls in public, why is it that YOU have to stop the repulsion? Or is it you have to stop the repulsion if and only if your goal is to make it work with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/17 08:38 PM
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Why do you think so?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/17 04:51 PM
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Paging /u/470_2_700_nm
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/17 02:44 PM
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The fuck? First, 90% of people's "psychological problems" are complete bullshit. We overdiagnose as an excuse. But besides that don't fix her. Even if you broke her. She comes around or too fucking bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 11:23 PM
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But this post seems to be about fostering desire - the type of passionate sex the RP world says it's after. No. Nowhere in there does it talk about her desire to fuck you. What it does talk about is the psychological conditioning of her to not be repulsed by you anymore. See the difference? And it may work, because this is psychological conditioning at it's core. But you are not conditioning her desire. You're simply conditioning her to not be repulsed. If I swallow the pill and kill the blue pi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 07:29 PM
5

Who are you and what have you done with ImSteveMcQueen?
/r/askMRP13/10/17 01:26 AM
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Stay plan go plan How? You are in the stay plan - eject plan. The stay plan is the go plan doesn't mean you take the stay half of the plan (18 months) and the go half of the plan and smoosh them together. It's quite literally "I plan to go and find a life of value. It just so happens that she has an opportunity to be part of that."
/r/askMRP12/10/17 05:58 PM
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This place is a shit-show of failing men. But, don't you expect it to be? Think of it like Who Wants To Be a Millionaire. You start off broke ass poor. You answer a few questions most guys who have been here awhile consider easy. A percentage of idiots will do it wrong and walk away gaining nothing. Some guys actually fix their mentality or fitness or some aspect of themselves and make it to $1,000 and if they do nothing else, they walk away with at least that. If they keep going, keep submittin…
/r/askMRP12/10/17 05:17 PM
3

I just crossed my eyes and it always worked.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 02:15 PM
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Still got a shot to save things The only thing he should care about saving is himself. What's with this "I can still fix us" mentality?
/r/askMRP12/10/17 12:27 PM
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"I'm horny. What can I fuck. (Looks at husband) Ugh not that. Maybe Chad at work. I could bring him here. But ugh...he's always here, playing Xbox and eating cheetos. I could go to Chad's apartment...but wait getting caught cheating would hurt my social value. Hey husband when are you moving out?"
/r/askMRP12/10/17 12:24 PM
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...if you're rubbing her mound you should have already gotten a yes by her buying into the flirting and gaming you did beforehand. That's the problem with OP...he's in foreplay but still asking himself if she's saying yes or no. This is a strong indication that he didn't escalate to this point at all and just autisticly started playing with her pussy in hopes he can bypass the hard work of gaming and flirting and have her mind jump right to sex via physical stimulation. This is why guys' wives a…
/r/askMRP12/10/17 12:14 PM
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Pathetic
/r/askMRP12/10/17 11:52 AM
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This is a great explanation. Having taken the last 20 minutes to ponder this, I can agree that indeed, RP is a strategy. It's all the tactics that ultimately point to sex, and none that don't. AM points to sex, conditioning time and attention points to sex, lifting points to sex. Game points to sex. Removing the need for validation points to sex. Self improvement does not have the goal of sex at its center. In fact because the goal of self improvement can be basically anything, and has transform…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 03:09 PM
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A good question. If you're doubting yourself compared to what you think society wants of you, then the answer is everyone's frame but yours. If you're doubting yourself because you want to be / know you can be better...still your frame. The issue here is weakness. The real brain teaser is if you delude yourself by convincing yourself you aren't in self doubt when you are...then whose frame are you in?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 06:31 PM
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Indeed did not have a name for this but have been considering it. The idea seems to put a constraint on the universe...as if it was bounded by equality. Kind of like karma. An external locus of control. Or, if you want to view it this way, shifting blame away from oneself. I believe it's at least partially my fault I feel unexplainable negativity. And as with RP in general, if it's my fault, fix that, then continue on with the mission. Appreciate the thought point though. The more perspective I …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 02:10 PM
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as a physical experience Without a doubt a great tactic. I have preached this in the past. "When I feel angry my body feels like..." Though it doesn't tell me why, you are saying it may help link to correlates for why. I can get behind that idea. equanimity Which harps on the question of "Do you need the lows for the highs?" Do I feel great during/after a workout because of the pain I experience during a workout? But then again...that would mean there's never a joy without a pain, unless you are…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/17 04:42 PM
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I'll be keeping an eye on this as I've been looking a lot into how to, well, mentally manipulate myself. And that may seem to fly in the face of meditation because, from a very broad scope, meditation is a letting go activity and manipulation is a taking action activity (caveats abound). What I'd like to eventually answer is why I can go through one week feeling like I'm killing it, and then the next 3 days just feel like trash. Or even in the short time span of a couple hours be almost angry th…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/17 03:12 PM
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I think you're onto something. I think the line between how far I will and will not go with random women is blurry in my head and needs to be solidified. I think, no, know I still want to pursue increasing social mastery...but that that can be separate from the intent to catch and fuck...and right now is not separate in my head. Next big mission is also unknown. I have some thinking to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/17 04:14 PM
1

I have a speech from Arnold on my workout mix. Always gIves me pause: "Dig deep down and ask yourself, who do you want to be? Not what but who. I'm talking about figuring out for yourself what makes you happy." Great advice thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/17 04:10 PM
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So...do you always use logic against her emotional outbursts?
/r/askMRP29/09/17 04:06 PM
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I think your attitude is there but it needs more tact. The cheeky comment, the overt texts, the touching during the day, grabbing her, and telling her what to do. All good things for more overt daytime ramp ups. Tell me...do you ever walk past her when she's bent over and as gentle as possible, almost as if you didn't mean to, brush her ass? Do you ever grab her belt line, move her to a wall, get your lips a half inch from hers, and then walk away with a smile? Do you play without sexual tension…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/17 07:03 PM
1

How do you initiate. Give me a step by step. What's the mood like when you initiate? The current dynamic between you two?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 06:44 PM
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Chemical manipulation of the brain through direct substance intake or purposeful action can be quite effective. How far down this path have you gone? Any interesting tips/tricks to try?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 11:38 AM
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Got a lot to be happy with, and struggles still involve trying to understand whats going on in my own head. Happy with: --Wife: The effort she's put into owning her shit, improving, and giving value lately has pretty much blown me away. She is digging herself out of a mental hole she was in when she was feeling overwhelmed. Maybe SSRI's actually work? After I passed a comfort test and put the idea of setting a schedule in her head, I see her schedule written in the calendar, I see her following …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 11:28 AM
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If you have to ask the question...the answer is yes, there is harm.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 10:25 PM
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I'm sure we'll get an update. They always update as if we care.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 10:22 PM
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This is how you get into idiotic games of "I know you know what I'm thinking but I won't say it." And "I know what you're thinking, you know how I feel, but I won't say it." She's asking a question in her womanly way. It's very smart if you think about it. A pic and nothing else. Is she asking "What do you think?" Is she asking "How would it look on me?" Is she asking "Will you let me do it?" Yes, she's asking all those with plausible deniability of asking none of those. Don't not answer. Don't …
/r/askMRP26/09/17 05:48 PM
2

Wasnt that the cat from thundercats?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/17 09:54 PM
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The dragon. What was it's name?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/17 09:09 PM
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Funnily enough, I wrote this a day ago and that evening she sends scantily clad pics without prompting. A first for her. This, combined with some spontaneous on her part sexual experimentation not long ago make me believe that simple dread can coax it out of her. I noticed with both times there was plausible deniability and social concern: "I don't know what came over me." and: "Here's my try at being sexy." So the path for me is clear...she wants to, I just need to lead and reinforce. I like it…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/17 08:52 PM
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Lol
/r/askMRP24/09/17 08:35 PM
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Here's the thing though. Her issues are real. But the feels she gets by clinging to them are also real. And if you enable those feels, you reinforce her having those feels. Support, but dont enable. Make sure your boundary is there. It's her issue to work out, and she needs to know that while you support her, you also need her to get past it because going cold, quite often, before sex isn't going to cut it.
/r/askMRP24/09/17 04:22 PM
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....yay?
/r/askMRP24/09/17 03:27 PM
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Why are you here? What are you looking to do? What have you done? You've been here 20 days and your two posts are about needing a thank you and crying in front of wife and kids. This isn't your support group. Life should not be this complicated It's not. It's really fucking easy. Theres no secret. Read the sidebar, put in the work. Before you know it, you'll be saying just as we did: "I knew this all along, but for some reason wasn't living by it."
/r/askMRP24/09/17 03:13 PM
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Google DEER MRP and it's literally the first fucking result. You don't even have to click a link it's there in the quick text. Stop being lazy.
/r/askMRP24/09/17 03:00 PM
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Going to try and reply after reading 75% because there's a lot here and I can't keep it all in my head. Will edit as necessary: Talking might hurt my overall attraction, but attraction is useless if we can’t successfully operate as a married unit You are absolutely positively putting the cart before the horse here. You operate successfully as a married unit AFTER and more importantly BECAUSE of attraction. Think of the military, which I've never been in. You are asking to be an in sync complete …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/17 01:11 PM
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Happiness comes from many places, but you seem to be linking it to being alone...but not necessarily alone, just an inability to be happy. I can't tell if this is a lack of AM, disbelief in your ability to secure someone else, or depression coming from lack of a goal. My wife still isn't overtly sexual...at least not outside of when we're fucking. She doesn't grab my crotch or flash me every now and then, but I haven't reinforced that behavior yet either. Are you leading and she isn't following?…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/17 12:42 PM
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Not only do they provide extra calories and good protein... But they're also god damn delicious.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/17 12:28 PM
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I'm just going to point out Why? death threats Haha, I still laugh at the one pm I got from bloops a few months after I swallowed the pill. "Enjoy your inevitable divorce." And yet here we are...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/17 12:22 PM
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practicing nofap from time to time What does this even mean? Someone explain this to me. How can you practice it from time to time? "Yep I masturbate furiously about 9 hours of the day...but when I don't I totally practice nofap!"
/r/askMRP23/09/17 09:34 AM
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I know she heard me come in. She played asleep. Fucking pathetic how far in her head you are. And you're already 10+ months in? You're still at square one. You should be so focused on you that she is just noise...and when she asks to kill the puppy you should be saying, "We have a puppy?"
/r/askMRP23/09/17 09:30 AM
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Saved me from counting. Jesus.
/r/askMRP23/09/17 09:26 AM
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Take some notes. This is what determination and OI look like. Tit for tat, or any kind of actions based on her behavior aren't mentioned here...he's just pushing for what he wants.
/r/askMRP23/09/17 01:56 AM
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that I was trying to lift that which does not want to be lifted. Most powerfull part IMO. It does want to be lifted. But it needs you to lift it. It's not going to tell you how, you just have to get do it. Jordan Peterson said something along the lines of: Who is to say that we only crave good things. Who is to say we don't also crave negative things. If such a world existed where we had everything we wanted and it came easy, we would likely have just one final craving...difficulty. The iron is …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/17 08:38 PM
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Talk to a lawyer I've heard it can be very difficult as there is a need to prove that the account used on that house needs to be proven to be 100% his money, and has never been used for family purposes from that account. I could be talking out of my ass though so yeah, talk to a lawyer.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 06:05 PM
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Yup, cutting body fat is going to do 80% of the work for you. Guy on left has abs, they just aren't visible. The challenge? Holidays are coming.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 06:01 PM
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I go to bed on my own Wacky thought right? I remember we ALWAYS used to go to bed together. Then when unplugging I figured the same as you...I go to bed when I want. No more guaranteed kissed before bed. No more going back upstairs to kiss goodbye in the morning. No more running to find you when I first get home from work. Those who come to me to say hi get an enthusiastic greeting, those who don't, don't. Only small suggestion, the movie thing. Say: "I'm going to watch X tonight if you'd like t…
/r/askMRP22/09/17 05:55 PM
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Yes, so much this. Ha I've actually unconsciously been following this rule and it truly feels like you both are in your place when she snuggles with you in the in the king position. Nice article, will have to read the rest.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 05:50 PM
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How's the physique though. I only max 235 but look damn good when I'm done it.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 05:38 PM
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Correlation =/= causation. Practice for your purpose.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 05:36 PM
1

It sounds like you aren't even sure of your beard. Why not?
/r/askMRP22/09/17 06:07 AM
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Not logging in every time! The horror. THE HORROR! /s
/r/askMRP21/09/17 07:57 PM
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Do you want to bench 225? Of course you do. All the time. So you go and try to bench it, but the weight gives you a hard no. You know why of course, you aren't there yet. You need to build yourself up more; your confidence, your strength, your form. The bar isn't passing judgement...it's just your barometer. You keep building yourself up regardless. When you can finally lift it, then you'll know you're there.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 05:14 PM
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Consider for a moment that she's completely oblivious to how you want her to respond when you snuggle up with her ...due to your lack of captaining for the years (?) previous. So she just lays there instead. How have you lead her to responding to you? How have you encouraged that response? How have you told her when you're fucking what to do so she isn't starfishing? Keep working on you. It's still all your fault.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 05:07 PM
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But is it: "Yeah...I'm do-able" Or "Jesus how to people resist this" Which is it OP?
/r/askMRP19/09/17 02:54 AM
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Sometimes the benefit simply = you have kids, you can live your life with the kids, raise them how you want, she puts out, is a good first mate, financially in your frame and pleasant to be around, you can do any hobby you please while she watches she kids, and she has potential. Benefits vs. Costs, ask me how I know.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 02:37 AM
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Devil's advocate here: Some women are a blank slate. They will take to the things you take to. Is that reason to marry them? No. But a lot of us figured that out too late. Is that reason to divorce them? Depends. Your life goes on either way. If your wife doesn't want to be a part f your hobbies, oh well. If other women do want to, inclue them. If the benefit of the other women out weight the cost if staying, leave.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 02:33 AM
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She didn't like 48 laws of power? Next.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 02:18 AM
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This is it gentleman. No reservations bare bones "this is what I'll accept in my life". Doesnt matter how wife feels, doesnt matter if it was a mistake or on purpose. You know what happened next? Wet panties. "Wow. My man has a boundary." You know what's next next? "Time to test that boundary." OP take heed of the other commenters and take control of the finances.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 02:13 AM
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Me.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 02:01 AM
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Yes. We are the judge of you. We declare what you can be and what you cannot. You cannot be RP. Also, do not try boxing, you'll never be a boxer. You are also gay...because we said so. Frame it how you want man. Just execute your map.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 01:57 AM
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Read: How to win friends and influence people. My guess is you are too nice...not nice guy dismiss your needs nice guy, but nice guy I'll hear out your opinion and debate it nice guy. If you give her an inch, she'll take a mile.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 01:49 AM
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I only read a bit but this thought arose: When you are "alpha" with her, when you push her against a wall to make out, do you give her a grin when you walk away? Do you connect with her during sex at all? Does she see your want for her on your ship? Or do you just pound her into the bed and walk away? Do you just make out against a wall and walk on as if she didn't exist. You can be totally "alpha" by being all about you...but if you don't lead her into your frame, if you don't reward good behav…
/r/askMRP19/09/17 01:43 AM
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Because then he doesn't have to address his PE.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 01:33 AM
1

I used to be this way. I used to make these excuses too.
/r/askMRP18/09/17 11:12 PM
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Have you tried pepto bismol?
/r/askMRP18/09/17 11:10 PM
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So...you have two-itis?
/r/askMRP18/09/17 06:09 PM
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Read more: Cheating = Faggot
/r/askMRP18/09/17 02:35 PM
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You need to stop being such a fucking pussy. Seriously.
/r/askMRP18/09/17 03:01 AM
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So she reads TRP but she doesn't read TRP. She throws shit tests but throws comfort tests. She likes to be fucked hard but she doesn't like to be fucked hard. You're at dread level 8 but not dreading her. You're past dread level 6 but you don't game her properly. Did I miss anything? You have no idea what you're doing. You have no plan.
/r/askMRP16/09/17 03:51 AM
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Am I wrong No. Like no, you're never wrong when choosing a path for your life. Wrong is moral. Right is moral. What you want...well what you want is what you want...morals don't play into it. So if you can.take or leave a LTR, and she's saying "LTR or nothing" then the solution is clear. But you still posted this question...so what could be wrong with the logic? The prequisite: You can take or leave and LTR. Apparently you cant. Apparently you kind of want this one. So again, what do you want? 1…
/r/askMRP16/09/17 03:38 AM
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Nice puke. Get to work.
/r/askMRP14/09/17 04:40 AM
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Define "waste my time". Plates are meant to fall off and others put up. It's not like you're trying to build them into anything...are you? Is this a question of if you're vetting properly?
/r/askMRP14/09/17 02:10 AM
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Shit show...work cut out for me I laughed. Yes you do. You are still the beacon, you may just have to abstract it more. Don't go bullshitting anyone that "this love between them is the purest expression I have ever witnessed" if it's a shit show. Just guide their emotions with a nice speech about how this came to be and what it means.
/r/askMRP13/09/17 06:38 PM
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Absolutely should not do squats if he is rehabbing a back injury That's not what I wanted to read right now. But it's definitely something I needed to read right now.
/r/askMRP13/09/17 06:16 PM
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This speech isn't about you. It's not about how funny you are. It's not about being clever. It's not about your own opinions on their marriage. It's not about red pill or hypergamy truths. It's not about how wild you were in the past. This speech is for you to say what everyone in the room will be thinking. It's about the wedding that's going on, and the marriage of two people. Think about your audience and what they can relate to. Think about the mixing of lives and personalities of the bride a…
/r/askMRP13/09/17 06:11 PM
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Awesome write-up. A great outline of the phases with examples. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 04:31 PM
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Her self esteem issues are HER self esteem issues. It doesn't matter what you do or say, she's going to have to be the one to come around and change her view of herself. That said, she is very good at rationalizing away covert approval early on because of that low self esteem ("He didn't spend more time with me because X, it's just a coincidence / I didn't earn that / I don't deserve that"). In order to lay the groundwork for acceptance, start with overt reinforcement. Like training a dog you ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 02:18 PM
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You could link this to the effects of tolerance. You overtly compliment her once, bam hit of serotonin. Overtly compliment her again soon after. Still pretty good hit. Do it again, and now it's "I realize you're being nice but it's not making me feel happy." Covert compliments however can have an area of effect impact depending on how you reward her. You've covered the topic quite nicely with this post. Everyone reading should be assessing how they can positively reinforce their wife's positive …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 12:00 AM
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By telling her, you imply that it means so much to you that another woman gave you an IOI. And by that you further imply that it doesn't happen often. By not telling her, you imply the exact opposite. Now, sidebar, lift, improve until the exact opposite is what's really happening.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 11:45 PM
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so as any man would do, seeing change in their womans behavior, i question it. That's as far as I got. Too much cringe. WTF? First of all who's plan was it. "Our plan?" You mean YOUR plan. Tell her where to be, what to wear, and what time. She's not there? Powerful message she's sending already. You wanna be flexible? Fine. Did you call the restaurant to maybe shift reservations so you wouldn't have to rush there? Dinner now conflicts with show, so you either accept that you'll be late and enjoy…
/r/askMRP12/09/17 12:47 AM
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Great points. And i dont think it's as much that they dont know what they want, as it is they don't know how to get threre. Remember that odd feeling, before you took the pill, where you wished u just knew how to get to your end state? That's them. They aren't smarter or more sly or have a grand plan with their shit tests, they just do it because that's all they know. They need leadership to get where they (you) want them to go. The why with every woman is different. Some are just shy and need p…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 12:26 AM
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Do you have kids? Slowly get really really close to the side of her face. Make a kissy face and say: "Hey Mr. Grumpy gills. Know what you do when life gets you down? Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
/r/askMRP11/09/17 02:21 PM
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Amused Mastery. Get it in your head that almost NOTHING she says is to be taken at face value, has subliminal meaning, and is a test; Therefore, it's not attacking you. Quite literally: When you were back in school and they handed out a test, did you get angry at them for insulting your intelligence?
/r/askMRP11/09/17 02:18 PM
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1) In my experience, ultimately you will lead her to your vision with your boundary setting and positive and negative reinforcement. Telling her about your vision isn't entirely necessary but she may be the type who needs to know overtly the ship has changed course. If this is so, she will ask for it again in the future. Repeat, do not go and get into a feels conversation so you can preach your vision. But if another main event happens, feel free.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 01:58 PM
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Tactic = get naked in front of other women. I mean, I guess it is something. What'd they use to say on shark tank? Growth is limited, this is a one and done product. Good results though. it builds confidence 10x higher than chatting up chicks in some bar. Haha k.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 11:55 AM
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My money is that, at least subliminally, she wanted to be hate fucked. Her actions showed that. He followed through. Now she's asking (re: telling with plausible deniability) others to do it too.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 11:47 AM
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Look what you went and did. Now I'm motivated. You know what you want and you've taken it. And it's easy for you.I've heard a few times that all you need to do is "ask" the universe for what you want, and you'll get it. Caveat: Asking the universe means burning the ship and doing what needs to be done to set your goal in motion. It's as if to say: "I've done my part universe, I approached and opened this 9 right here. Now it's your turn." Maybe the unIverse gives you a rejection to learn from. M…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/17 02:07 PM
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"I do not agree with what you're saying, but ill defend to the death your right to say it." I see a lot of "good for you you're owning your shit" here. But the shit that's being owned is him basically being a nice guy. He may currently be happy with being a nice guy. But in a locker room that kicks the shit out of you for being a nice guy, ownership of being a nice guy does not get applause from me. If i did applaud it, (referring back to the quote at the top here), it would be the equivilent of…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 04:51 PM
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Correlation =/= causation.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 04:13 PM
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Cannot upvote more. A pendulum very close to its centerpoint...but bound to overshoot it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 01:28 PM
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Are we applauding that now? "My mission is a disable firey jet screaming into a mountainside...but I own that it is a disabled firey jet screaming into a mountainside...yet I'm calling it a comfy transatlantic flight instead." Hooray ownership!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 01:24 PM
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I was wondering where you went. You were an inspiration when you started hitting on women at bars. You know what upsets me the most about this post. It's not the fact that your wife has tested three times now if she's the center of your world (before you cheated, when she came back after finding out, when she came back after you confessed) and you told her "Hell yes, I'm not going anywhere". It's not even that it seems like her, counselors, your ex-friends, and god, rather than you, are guiding …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 09:24 PM
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The first step IMO is to break down, in your mind the cause Anger is a mask. For sure. A mask for unknowing how to deal with the current chaos. I find I can ask myself "what don't I know" or "why do I feel this" in many situations, but with kids especially, there are times after I've lead, then warned, then punished, that compliance still doesn't happen. In those situations, controlled anger brings compliance. I try to think it shouldn't devolve into that more times than not. So the question ari…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 01:05 PM
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Benevolence, I think, is the right word here. I can see how the word tyrannical can be pulled from what you wrote, but I think tyrannical implies limited value available and it's all yours, where benevolent implies unlimited value available, and you can share as you see fit. Do I consider the house mine? Not entirely. I'd be blind to not see that I couldn't afford it if she didn't work. But I expect her to work, so I don't feel that's really a value add either. Doing what you're supposed to do d…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 12:03 PM
1

Not always true I can agree there. Withdraw or resistance or anger...it's enlightening to see that others' responses happen in large part because they don't understand how to deal with the chaos.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 11:45 AM
1

This whole scenario is childish, but No. No buts. This whole scenario is childish. Stop acting like a child.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 05:56 PM
3

Ah...I remember the 50-50 days. Upvotes for assistant to the regional manager.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 05:54 PM
1

"oh so this is how we're going to communicate!? No, we're now going to communicate like bees. Now shake your ass and tell me which way the flowers are.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 05:40 PM
2

Speakers like him are like being hooked up to the matrix and having kung foo downloaded directly to your brain.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 05:18 PM
2

It's been a journey to be sure. I remind myself that it's always a journey, and will never be complete. But when I see her come to me subliminally for guidance on how she should act for me, or follows my lead sexually, or puts in more effort socially, or goes rocketing at a boundary I have set but then brakes hard at the last minite to avoid going past it, I see the value add. And I give encouragement and value back...which, if you've ready my vision to her, is the place I intended to steer our …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 04:48 PM
1

It was based on seeing how things work and respond, and changing my actions it if it goes poorly. Bottom line final answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 02:53 PM
2

I've just started. Was referred to his series on personality and this is part of it. You're right though this looks to be a wealth of knowledge depending on how deep you want to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 11:45 AM
3

Every word.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:27 AM
1

Yup. Don't solve her problems.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 11:36 PM
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“You know there have been some changes over the last few months. And I told you back in January that I was tired of being a slob, but it's a little more than that. See one day 6-9 months ago I woke up from this long, long....fantasy. A fantasy of how life was supposed to work and how things were supposed to be. I looked at my life and felt like it was a ship awash in a stormy sea, and the deck was in splinters, and the mast snapped in half, and the sails in tatters. I looked to the helm and ther…
/r/askMRP06/09/17 07:52 PM
2

This is big too. Seeing exactly how the chads got the girls, knowing I could do that, but thinking it's somehow superior to be "a good boy".
/r/askMRP06/09/17 12:10 PM
1

That's the key I somehow forgot and Sepean explained as well. Females select for it BECAUSE it correlates with ability to collect resources, a benefit for BOTH parties, AND because those who don't select for it don't thrive to reproduce the majority. Amazing when you think about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 01:54 AM
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Very well explained. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 01:52 AM
3

Remember when you were little and your mom told you you did something bad? Remember that look on her face and how terrible you felt because she was upset? You never replaced that model with anything better.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 10:47 PM
3

You talk a lot.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 10:45 PM
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Context of the message is hard online. But: you should at least the least you can do wives feel wanted is important All relay a message of obligation and fair in my mind. He doesn't owe her anything if he doesn't want her as part of his plan. If he does, then he needs to decide that, and show her that BY doing things such as taking her out alone and giving some beta comfort...which is the only reason I'm not jumping down your throat. Your ways to show her he wants her are valid, but your intenti…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 10:41 PM
1

Man if simply talking is level 8 then I have a wide range to pass for level 8. From talking to women in public to my goal of, as another poster put it once: Being able to walk into a bar, choose the women I want, and know we'll be having sex later that night.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 10:35 PM
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Funnily enough, was on a trip with wife recently and booked a place for lunch after securing babysitting and setting a date. She mentions a brunch joint a few times as we pass it and out of curiosity I look it up. Looks delicious. So without her even knowing plan 1, I switch to plan 2. We get to the brunch place after some stops and she says: Her: Oh look, it's (that place she was mentioning)...are you taking me here? Me: Yup Her: Really? You're not serious right? Me: Yup Her: (Several ungratefu…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 03:03 PM
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it makes pragmatic sense that an innate competitiveness would be part of men’s psychological firmware. I get lost between this being mentioned in the red queen, here, and Peterson...but out of curiosity do any discuss which came first? Did women start selecting more competitive men and influence men to become more competitive? Or did men recognize the value in competitiveness, and then women started selecting after we sorted ourselves. I realize this may be a chicken and egg question.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/17 10:21 PM
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If he set it all up, got a babysitter if needed, then he doesn't need to say anymore. When time comes to go, get ready and go. She can come if she wants.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 01:48 PM
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Lost time was a big one...but it's evened out by "so glad Ilearned this with so much time left".
/r/askMRP04/09/17 01:45 PM
2

These are nice dichotomies but the fact is, you will come across situations where what you want is the opposite of what they want. Notice In my reply I never said give up frame. That was on purpose. As long as I'm in control, I have frame, and I get what I want. Don't care what they think I think, or if they think I lost frame. Got what I wanted. A lot of the 48 laws are this way too.
/r/askMRP03/09/17 09:15 PM
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Would you rather hold frame and not get what you want, or put on a show, knowing it's for the controlled purpose to get what you want, and get what you want?
/r/askMRP03/09/17 03:13 PM
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Sidebar--->
/r/askMRP02/09/17 10:28 PM
1

Hamster. Then there's also this where the caveat to vasectomy not elevating risk of prostate cancer is...well...that it does (weird title) especially for those under the median age (raises hand). So yeah. More hamster.
/r/askMRP02/09/17 03:13 PM
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Man I could care less about losing potency, I don't want more kids, with anyone l. But can't shake the feeling that it'll change hormone balance. Keep hamstering that the brain is very good at telling you what you feel is normal, even if that feeling is lack of drive because your shit is snipped.
/r/askMRP02/09/17 01:28 PM
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So lying in a darkened room hasn't fixed anything yet? Huh, imagine that. I've been there, and learned that lying around worrying about it does fuck all. Make a plan and move in some direction. I'll go out on a limb and say either you haven't gotten anywhere with catch and release and are hamstering it's futility, or have forgotten AM and need to go do it some more. AM and oneitis are polar opposites. Even if you were into her, with AM you would have internalized that there's 100 more out there …
/r/askMRP02/09/17 01:08 PM
1

So...how could we simultaneously let her know that 'touching cheeks' isn't sexy or acceptable, that you expect and will have a good kiss in the future, and that you are a fun and attractive leader? "That'll do for now...but I'll be coming for the real deal when I'm done shaving." (sly smirk).
/r/askMRP01/09/17 02:46 PM
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Every bit of that seems like trickle truth. She may not definitively want another child...but she wants to at least FEEL the POSSIBILITY of another child. Been on pill only 3 weeks I'm ovulating I missed a pill All these were questions to you. The question was: "How would you feel if I felt okay with the possibility of getting pregnant now?" You answered all three with: "I'm fine with that." Time to share a vision and set a boundary. 1) Don't want more kids, vasectomy is scheduled. 2) You will t…
/r/askMRP01/09/17 02:42 PM
1

Can you speak briefly on how to discern whether resistance to any idea is coming from a place of insecurity on her part (she wants to, but thinks "I'm not sure what he'll/i'll think of me"), from a place of resistance on her part (she doesn't want to, and there's no changing that), or from a place of distrust (she feels you don't have your shit together enough for this). I've introduced a lot of new things, have been autistic with some things, and know generally that slow is the way to go. I wou…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 09:16 PM
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Leading Sounds like you are out and about a lot more. Finding it entertaining? It's nice when your established network of friends gives you opportunities to further network with new peo people. FR Sticking around at the bar, leg kino, devoting an hour n a half of her time talking to you...that's some good IOIs. Catch any other more subtle ones? Hair tosses, 'the look', overly interested? I've been having trouble with allowing my lower energies to flow to foster that subtle sexual conversation. O…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 06:45 PM
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Men love women, women love kids and kids love puppies. It's funny...you can internalize this and plot a new course because of it, but still read it and every time go: "Man, that's still fucked up." Not in a cry-at-the-injustice-of-the-world way, but a read-a-news-article-about-kids-dying-in-a-fire-that-really-sucks way.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 03:37 PM
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It seems like many of these things could actually be said coming from an alpha who has his shit together. Amused mastery would come natural against a woman complaining of stress if the man knew he actually handled the majority of family shit, and she's just being a woman stressing. The difference here is OP lacks the introspection to actually see that he isn't the alpha at DL7, he actually IS the cause of the stress. And so fake it til you make it doesn't work because he's taking no steps to mak…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 08:50 AM
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Why wouldn't you double and triple down on your MAP if you are seriously thinking about becoming available to spin plates? Because he wants an easy way out, and is fishing for someone to give him permission; because, like the chores at home and family vacations and whatever else he rambled about in there...he can't lead effectively.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 07:29 PM
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Scenario: You're walking to your computer and the power pole to the front of your house explodes. In search of a light you pull your phone out and drop it, breaking it. Crap, now you can't run to MRP and figure out what to say and the power pole won't be fixed for a few days. What do you do when the wife comes for round 2. What do you think you should say?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 11:31 AM
2

Define "victory". Why is that your definition of victory?
/r/askMRP21/08/17 04:38 PM
1

So it's 8pm, and you seriously cannot think of ANYTHING productive or fun you can do for you for the next 2 hours?
/r/askMRP21/08/17 11:44 AM
3

do { if (%DNGAF < 1) { BPP_VALUE_EQ (); } else { balls = balls + 2; } }while (balls = 0);
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 11:36 AM
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Validation electrician pic. Validation garden report. DEERing outings. That's as far as I got. Stop checking in with her. She's not your mom.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 05:36 PM
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Don't DEER. If this isn't validation seeking, then you're doing it for you. If you're doing it for you, then...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 04:45 PM
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What's on your calendar for the next two days? It should be filled up. It shouldn't be an if/then statement with the input being if she decided to fuck you or not.
/r/askMRP19/08/17 02:20 PM
2

Going to add on that creativity somehow inspires, awes, almost humors the mind. It's instantly attractive because of this. I'd posit that it's also why approaches and conversation topics from PUAs include things like magic, astrology, palm reading, guessing games, and abstract scenarios like the cube. We all know these things are either fake or deceptive, but women don't buy into them because they are or aren't logical...they buy into them because it's like taking a mental adventure in feeling i…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 02:07 PM
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If more guys could see posts like this that simply answer the question: "Can it get better?" That alone would provide a spark enough to go looking for an answer. From there, as you said, the anxiety, the fear, the depression; all that comes from ignorance. And ignorance usually takes a negative connotation, but I read one definition of it that I particularly like. Ignorance - Unknowing of the ways of the world. That's it. The fear, the anxiety, the depression comes in most simply from us not con…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 01:58 PM
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Great work on multiple fronts. You can call it a story at the end. Right now it's a journey, and the best part is that your journey continues. Look how far you've come in such a short time, and imagine where you'll be on year 2, year 3, and beyond. Who knew there was such potential.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 02:21 PM
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Is there a possible level of reality that exists in your mind where her level of trust is her concern, but there's no drama or bpd behavior because, maybe, you have lead your LTR to know that you won't stand for that? If so, how do you get to that reality?
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:55 PM
2

Many of the things you do on your MAP improve yourself as a man. You lift to get a better physique, you dress well to look attractive. You take the kids on trips to be a dad. What have you done then, specifically, to improve sex? Have you read Sex God Method?
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:52 PM
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Keep reading, you will find this answer. Make sure your reading covers the 12 Levels of Dread. Question for you: Why do you care if she trusts you. How does her trust, or lack thereof, affect you?
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:47 PM
2

Boundaries are important for directing behavior that's important to you. If you define a boundary on her hitting you, for example, you are communicating a message of: "Hitting is a massive show of disrespect, and I will not tolerate disrespect because I hold my self worth to a high standard." If you define a boundary on her commenting that your hair looks dirty, your message is: "I care about how you feel about my hair so much, that I need to make a statement to change this behavior." One of the…
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:44 PM
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Should be? We don't draw the map man, we just give you the tools. You decide what to use to get where you want to go. Does spinning plates get you closer to where you want to be? If so, do it. If not, dont.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:32 PM
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You've been lifting for 7+ years, are 6 foot, and bench 185....for like 30 reps right? Right??? not afraid to leave if I have to. Sounds like talk. Where is your boundary? And what do you mean if you have to? You mean if you want to. handing back the frame to her? Sounds like she already had it, and you can't make a decision to save yourself. I feel I owe it to them to try and make it work This is you all over. You aren't leading your life at all. You're being reactive, to your wife, your kids, …
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:29 PM
2

...too bad?
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:02 PM
1

next time burn the ships car
/r/askMRP17/08/17 11:56 AM
2

Hmm, I haven't seen that test circulating on facebook.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 10:41 AM
1

do the laundry, it'll make her hot Athol had some weird advice in his book, and one of my earliest questions involved his worst advice ever His quote here is called choreplay. Doing laundry FOR HER will not get her hot. Doing laundry because you want clean laundry and a floor devoid of clothes may lead her to respect your need for cleanliness slightly more. That said...I was also at a spot once where kissing was met with pushback. At that time, know you are simply setting down the foundation sto…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 09:10 PM
1

How's your recovery after workouts? (DOMS? Cramping? Sore for days?) How's your sleep? (Restless? Are you getting enough?) How's sex? (How's her response to your initiations? You say no atarfish, is she into it? What's your interest in sex/porn/hot women in public outside of your wife?) I had a few months of random ED. I'd say 80% of it was in my head. It combined with a time the wife wasn't responding as positively to my advances, I was unsure of my initiation, I was trying nofap (which severel…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 08:48 PM
1

That's cheating!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 08:34 PM
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Two things to remember: 1- If wife is mopey, don't feel obligated to offer her fun. You offer fun and a chance to join in because it would be fun for YOU, not so it cures her mopeyness. 2- Your wife is her own person. She may not buy into your ideas for fun...even if they are your attempt to lead her to fun...even if she really isnt having fun otherwise. If an idea fails once or twice or she resists, continue it yourself and just stop inviting her on that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 08:34 PM
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OYS is literally there for YOU to own YOUR shit. There should be a lot of I did this, and a lot of I want to do this. Guys will chime in if they feel like it, but write as if you are talking to yourself in an empty room.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 05:38 PM
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It's really going to come down to what she's yelling about. If she's "serious" and yelling because you forgot to pay the electric bill and the lights are out, or you were socially inept on a double date you just got back from, might want to take that, STFU, and improve. If it's, as /u/[deleted] put it in his recent post, them second guessing you (which implies you are doing something competent) then amused mastery is the way to go. You are talking about using this against her emotions. In which …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 05:30 PM
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I know it's not a pretty number...but from the top posts I've read and my own experience, it's more like 2 months per year. I remember reaching the 1 month per year mark and just starting to see the 1000ft rope pull taught. It's slow, sometimes frustrating for sure. But with a lot of guys we are totally rebuilding an entire life. So it's to be expected.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 03:50 PM
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Great examples. One might ask how to get from irrational lack of confidence, to irrational confidence. For their benefit: Fake it til you make it has been suggested a lot. And I agree, but fake it til you make it implies an internal frame of confidence already (I have the confidence to fake it). For those who don't have even that, I advise stop fearing you'll mess up. You will. I'll repeat that...you will mess up. You'll look stupid and idiotic and incompetent. But you'll learn. It's only when y…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 03:41 PM
1

getting your own way. She is the gatekeeper of sex. With her. That's it. That is literally the only card she has to play. What do you mean getting your own way? What are you not getting other than that, and why do you feel like that's out of your control?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 02:38 PM
1

Sitting there with a smirk on your face while she rails on you You mean amused mastery?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 02:32 PM
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So to be clear...if she calls the police and says you beat her, maybe even slams her arm in a door for funzies, you get hauled out. Then when you're in front of the divorce judge and she says you aren't fit to see the kids because you're abusive...he'll just say "I don't believe you...50/50"? And say wife works part time in order to keep the kids out of daycare...but if she worked full time kids would need daycare. Would the judge still base calculation on her full time potential and/or order th…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 08:13 PM
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TFA posted about a year or so ago pleading for regulars to upvote good information...something we may not do as often because we aren't ego invested in upvotes. But when you get a lot of guys who are, and this sub's numbers are skyrocketing, then comments like "you should feel bad talking to your wife like that" get upvotes. I have noticed more of that lately, and realize the slippery slope it can lead down. One can only hope the mods stay on top of it. fathers get what they are willing to for I…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 05:35 PM
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Admittedly my past replies to him have been dismissive. This one is exploring alternate scenarios because what OP is presenting sounds like level headed minds from both spouses and the judge. Entirely outside my knowledge base, so this time he actually has useful info.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 02:53 PM
1

you're deathly afraid, and talking yourself down I dont understand who''s talking themselves down from what. Wrong person?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 02:07 PM
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"What is that? Oh wait I read all the books and know what it is now." -Troll.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 11:44 AM
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How often is it that logical? Because all you hear all the time is divorce rape. Especially as /u/88will88 points out if she starts spouting lies about you beating her, the kids, etc. I'm sure 50/50 happens, especially if both spouses are on board. Have you seen many cases where that's not so? Where one side was out for blood? Does the judge always go 50/50 anyways? Interesting point on judges basing support off of full time potential rather than current part time work. Does this happen all the …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 09:45 AM
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If you reinforce whining bitching and moaning with comfort, guess what you'll get more of? Am I saying never provide comfort? No. There's a distinction. What is it?
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:32 AM
2

Easy to see from your replies that's bull...but go on and keep telling yourself that.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:28 AM
1

I don't remember that in WISNIFG, but positive and negative reinforcement is how everything living learns. Telling a child things are good or bad are hollow reasons. You're basically training them to follow other people's morals instead of specifically why things are good or bad...which might be the point the author is after.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:17 AM
3

I love mauls.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:08 AM
3

It seems you already have your mind made up. Why are you here?
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:04 AM
2

Put in the work.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 01:38 AM
1

Eh, context. I believe you're a troll though, so it doesn't matter.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 12:52 AM
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Her ribs were dry, he tried to apply white knight sauce, then she was dry too.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 11:04 PM
1

Sure! Me:
/r/askMRP14/08/17 10:58 PM
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Read the rest of your comments...which seem to be saying your wife is your responsibility if you choose to make her part of your mission. But here I'm reading a bit more like she should be part of his mission, like he owes her. She had to put up with your weak fatass for how many years? So? Her choice. I would argue as men we don't owe anyone anything. If your wife is filling her role & she is telling you that she wants more of you in her life, why make it an issue? Because he doesn't want more …
/r/askMRP13/08/17 10:55 PM
2

Taking a lift until failure always has the risk of failure resulting due to poor form. Though I will go for 1RM from time to time, I've been sticking lately with a phrase I heard which goes: "Do the exercise at that weight until it is only moderately difficult...then up the weight." Or more simply put: "Just because you can doesn't mean you should."
/r/askMRP13/08/17 07:29 PM
1

I'll have to conduct that experiment when my day and night game are as tight as I would like them to be. Basically though, at 5% I noticed a visible change in my face shape with a single pound gained or lost. And a gaunt look probably isn't sexy. Abs looked insane though. Up until 10%+, the only thing I've noticed changing is ab definition. And that's hidden behind your shirt. So unless your only pickup place is the beach or volleyball court, it probably won't be that noticeable to women. As for…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/17 12:43 PM
3

Temporary discomfort now is much more pleasant than sustained discomfort later.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/17 12:18 PM
1

Some guys try and do everything but life still stinks. Maybe they just need to wash their own ass as well. I appreciate all the help on the path.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 12:39 AM
1

As you said back in 16, there's still plenty of muscle potential. The goal has always been aesthetics, but hitting the new squat PR, as happened today, is a great secondary. Doc was hesitant about how fast I got back to athletics. But I told him going in "you better sew me up good, cuz I'm going to push it hard when I get back on my feet." Correction bogey said that. Is it weird your two personas are interchangeable to me on MRP? You need to think up a fancy way to be unique. Maybe some new flai…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 12:22 AM
3

No A drunken captain isn't trying to captain. But you are. Again, its not getting you anywhere. Why? A hint is in my first reply.
/r/askMRP11/08/17 12:15 AM
1

God bless you men for reading through the trash and letting us know. Whenever it's a newer user with a question that looks like it's addressed to an advice forum I'll check the comments, and, seeing "WTF?" simply not waste my time reading the post.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 11:35 PM
1

Relentlessly send dick pics until she arrives at your door naked with a pepperoni pizza extra cheese.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 11:31 PM
1

Michael!
/r/askMRP10/08/17 11:30 PM
5

It sounds like you're punching in every direction, but hitting nothing. Why do you think this is.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 11:29 PM
2

So, say I fear tarantulas. I do, they scary fucks. But if I had to overcome this fear, and someone said the best way to do it was to lay down and just put one on my face...and I had to lay there, STFU, and let a tarantula on my face, I could. I could do that. It is within my power as a man to face my fear and STFU and do nothing. And so I say to you. Face your fear. STFU, let her state her opinion or question your actions, and STFU. That's all you gotta do to start, just STFU. Can you do that? Y…
/r/askMRP10/08/17 11:24 PM
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This week marks 2 years since I took my first step. Months 1-6: Learning - I recall when I started an initial map with a one year plan to improve my marriage, or divorce my wife. Of course as time went on and after 6 months of tearing through the sidebar and daily journal entries I saw that it was ultimately me that needed improvement, and I needed to become someone worth following. Months 6-12: Become Someone worth following - Were filled with getting better clothes, working out, getting down t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 07:27 PM
3

This drama is going to end in an ILYBINILWY speech. Someone DVR it for me in case I miss it.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 02:54 PM
2

Every time you say his name I swoon.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 04:12 AM
3

I did. (Points to entire post)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 04:11 AM
2

I'm laughing because UEMcGill likely has veins bulging from his forehead right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 04:07 AM
1

But what does it meeeaaan?
/r/askMRP10/08/17 04:04 AM
5

$100 that gay guy has kissed all three of them at some point.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 04:01 AM
5

Why do you think she needs to understand your thought process? Why do you think there needs to be a common definition of fair/moral/right between you and why do you need to be right according to that definition?
/r/askMRP10/08/17 03:52 AM
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Dude, how old are you? We'll say you're 34. Dude, you've known for 34 years now how you know if you're on the right track. With anything. When you wanted to get your parents attention as a baby and you cried and they came, you knew you were on the right track. When you got all your chores done at 8 and your mom gave you your allowance you knew you were on the right track. When you flirted with that girl in high school and she giggled and gave you eyes you knew you were on the right track.. How? …
/r/askMRP09/08/17 04:32 AM
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Do you think corporations give awards more to further your interests, or theirs?
/r/askMRP09/08/17 01:29 AM
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Going to be honest. I'm here for me. Anything I post or reply is helping me further cement my understanding of reality and the tools I can use on it...it just so happens that it helps you too. There's no such thing as altruism.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 11:53 PM
1

and he's cheating So?
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:38 PM
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From Rollo's essay...frame is the reality, the set of rules if you will, that you operate under. Say we go to have a conversation you and me. I like to argue, I like to ruffle your feathers, I like to make statements to get you to defend yourself and beg me for forgiveness. You...Probably don't like to do those things. So you walk in the door to our appartent later than usual and dinner, which you usually make us, is now late. I lay into you: "Where have you been?!" If you Defend, Excuse, Explai…
/r/askMRP08/08/17 02:59 AM
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Fuck I'm so glad I found this place sometimes.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 01:01 AM
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Wasn't there a lawsuit in the US once where the girl sued the guy because he lead her on past her prime baby making window with hope they'd have kids and then he said sorry no?
/r/askMRP07/08/17 11:06 PM
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So if I answer yes she's rare, you stick with her, and if I answer no she isnt, you dont? Who is captaining your ship???
/r/askMRP07/08/17 10:38 PM
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You see it. But you don't believe you are it. What do you need to do to make you believe you are it?
/r/askMRP07/08/17 10:36 PM
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K
/r/askMRP07/08/17 08:07 PM
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When did you sleep with her? August 28, 2004 Were we together when you did? Define together She's such a slut do you know how many people have slept with her 42 You're disgusting And you love it You slept with soooo many more people than me Likely. Why are you so scared? You should be laughing your ass off having fun with this.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 08:05 PM
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Do you know why I liked the "good morning" the best? No deniability. It's straight up, will you do as I say or not? The rest? When I heat a pot on the stove, I can keep dipping my finger in it to see how hot it is...but ultimately it's going to be the temperature it's going to be...and I'll know quite clearly when it's boiling.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 07:56 PM
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Judge me all you want I don't plan to and I hope this doesn't turn into a moralizing fuck fest. You're fence sitting. You will eventually need to choose. And you will likely always have that nagging feeling that the grass was greener the other way. Don't try to rationalize to yourself that you aren't acting in only your interests by saying "well I didn't really tell her we'd be together forever" because in not talking about the future, you allowed an image of together forever to happen. And you …
/r/askMRP07/08/17 07:36 PM
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I was seeing a lot of "do it if you want" which, in most cases, is the way to go. But then again...if everything you want gives her everything she needs in terms of comfort, and she then denies you...what tools do you have? I don't spoon with the wife at night unless we fucked that day or she behaved exceptionally well. I enjoy spooning, but realize she needs it more than me. I like your reply the best. It's who/why/how. If you are butthurt and turn away from her if she hard no's and say to your…
/r/askMRP07/08/17 03:24 PM
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I understand your position now and agree. For clarity: Enforceable - the potential to be enforced.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 03:11 PM
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Nothing STFU is not usefully to you if she's pushing on your boundary. It makes you look spineless. Relax, stop being so emotional. Was this in response to you saying "Hey, no, I don't like trash being thrown in the back of the car." Or "WTF? You know I said no trash in the back. Why can't you listen?"
/r/askMRP07/08/17 03:08 PM
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OP will have many more of those
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/17 12:33 AM
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claps
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/17 12:01 AM
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Why are you testing? You are the prize. It's your way or negative reinforcement. If you command and she follows. Good girl is great. That's my girl works. Depending on the event "I appreciate that", "I knew you were worth it", or "Yeah you do what I say" all work.
/r/askMRP06/08/17 11:56 PM
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Why not? If she throws trash in the back of the car, I pull over and say "Now you know better than that". Don't continue until she goes and gets the trash and puts it in the bag. Maybe put on some really annoying music too like "We like to party" by Vengaboys on repeat. If she leaves caked on food on the dishes, warn her that next time she does that those dishes will be on her side of the bed. Then do it. Leaves the hair dryer out? Tell her you're going to hide it in obscure places if you see it…
/r/askMRP06/08/17 12:33 PM
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And then you said...
/r/askMRP06/08/17 12:24 PM
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Nope. Just missing out.
/r/askMRP06/08/17 12:22 PM
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You're getting a lot of guilt and blue pill reply. It seems to be happening a lot lately. What have you done to LEAD her to the body you want her to have. And if you say "discussions" as in full on logic conversations, think again
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/17 11:56 AM
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so she doesn't have to work. Wtf? Yeah white knight her OP. That should work. Her life can't be too hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/17 11:54 AM
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More moralizing.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/17 11:53 AM
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This entire reply is moralizing.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/17 11:52 AM
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Almost like she loves to swim in the ideas and emotions brought on by imagining it. You should write a book about that or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/17 08:51 PM
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Suspicions confirmed.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/17 08:01 PM
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It's called being a good host Its also called being a faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/17 01:20 PM
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Watch out for your wife's friends I just know not to say shit in front of this woman now. So her friend has conditioned you. Nice frame. which annoys me, defend your spouse ya know, but hey, her choice. "I white knight her...how come she doesn't do that for me? And on a more logical note, why would you even say that to your wife? She has an idea, maybe her mind changed or maybe she's just interested in that stuff now...or maybe she's being socially conscious and humoring her friend for the sake …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/17 01:20 PM
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Entitlement.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 02:10 PM
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Insanely well timed, because I was out with the wife the other day, and another woman in the group complimented me. "Thanks" seems so dull. Going on about it is try-hard because she really doesnt care...she's just expressing interest in you. My usual reply to "you're getting ripped" or "I like the hairstyle" is "I know right?" But it doesn't feel smooth enough. Complimenting yourself. I like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 11:45 AM
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I'd say the ratio of alpha turned beta guys and always beta guys on this sub is 50/50. I fell into the latter group. There was a lot of talk months ago about the battle being different for those who were never alpha, but like Triadis3 said, the path is the same. Fix you. Lead her. Decide if you're satisfied.
/r/askMRP31/07/17 11:12 AM
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How will an answer benefit you at all?
/r/askMRP31/07/17 11:03 AM
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In trying not to react to her, you are reacting to her.
/r/askMRP31/07/17 11:02 AM
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My money is that you'll continue to live a life without a vision or motivation, just letting things happen to you. Prove me wrong, read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP31/07/17 10:58 AM
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Out doing some practice tonight. Still not where I want to be. But learning. Lemme know when.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/17 01:34 AM
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Bottom line, in your speech to the wife, where you Rationalize to your wife why you are choosing not to go...do you think if she turns around and starts acting (your choice of words) like she wants you there, will it be because she desires to not be a cunt, or because she is obligated to not be a cunt.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/17 04:44 PM
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Sometimes I think monk mode is so attractive because it's not doing something, which is easier than, you know, doing something.
/r/askMRP30/07/17 12:57 PM
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So you have to burn a vacation day to go on this trip to see her family. You say her dad owns a boat, which is fun...why else are you going there? I mean...say your wife didn't exist, and you had the chance to go for a weekend and do whatever it is you do there. Would you? Because it seems to me the reason you arent going is because of her attitude. In other words you are deciding how to spend your weekend based on her. Now if it's the case that you have fun stuff to do there anyway, and you'd g…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/17 10:31 PM
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True. I've been attempting to take notice lately of how my face looks externally when I cross a mirror and assess how I feel internally. There really do seem to be some subtle changes that your face makes depending on mood and attention. RSD talks about seeing the 1000 yard stare in guys in his speeches and can tell looking at someone if they walk around in the zone or lost in their own mind. The signs I've seen so far are pupil dilations, ears perking up/back. Forehead/hairline up, where the ey…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/17 06:50 PM
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I've been finding a lot of good posts on TRP lately. This was one of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 10:03 PM
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Many times we reason that other animals don't have a consciousness because their actions are simply learned responses to inputs they experience. Yet we as humans demonstrate we'll go years doing something that doesn't work because some movie company with a mouse mascot told us how things should be. Makes you wonder.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 05:48 PM
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Isn't it so wacky now that scheduled sex and negotiating desire seem like such terrible ideas...when before they seems like the only logical, sensible thing to do.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 05:04 PM
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Dang. Mine wouldn't even come to me for those, I had to go to her. She still doesn't really "come" to me. But when flirting there's clear signals she's DTF.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 05:02 PM
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Do you pee on the floor as well? I've noticed this not working as well.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 12:47 PM
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repairing their marriage You're not special. You're not unique. You aren't alpha. We all read your ego driven post. We all see you haven't even tried to fix you yet because you're still thinking about fixing the marriage. Read the sidebar. Kill your ego.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 12:46 PM
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When she feels the urge, she can come to me Unless you've lead her there...she never will.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 12:41 PM
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confront her about looking at my phone How childish.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 12:33 PM
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My wife snaps at the kids. I do to her exactly what I do when my kid talks to me like that: "(Stern) Hey. No. We don't talk like that." Family and coworkers? That's her problem. Don't propose solutions, just provoke her to swim in those feelings.
/r/askMRP27/07/17 03:07 PM
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Recent
/r/askMRP27/07/17 10:47 AM
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You're right. Probably a timing thing being that I just watched Jordan Peterson on Joe Rogan Experience and this kind of thing is exactly what leads bullshit to propagate...someone who is willing to yell idiocy until the rational voice just gets tired of interacting. Maybe a less trigger happy response from me next time, if any.
/r/askMRP26/07/17 09:22 PM
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? if other people or mods read this differently, I'm fine The fuck you are. /u/RuleZeroDad read it differently. I read it differently. And the mods read it differently and you're still here protesting. Fine my ass. You mentioned in a recent post elsewhere: As far as power goes, outside the home I am a man of influence. When I speak, people listen. It usually doesn't take more than 12 months for me to be in a position of leadership in whatever I do, sometimes much shorter. But I'm getting the fee…
/r/askMRP26/07/17 08:28 PM
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The whole "remember that old beta me? Haha that was gay huh?" seems like some validation seeking for the new you. This day isn't a performance, it isnt "special", it's just you and wifey going out to have some fun.
/r/askMRP26/07/17 04:54 PM
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What the hell does that mean? Stop doing damage control to your image. If you're eating twinkies then say so, we'll call you a fatass, then you can choose to acknowledge what's wrong and stop, or continue stuffing your face.
/r/askMRP26/07/17 12:16 PM
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Have you set a boundary for her bitchiness towards your kids? Or do you NGAF about that?
/r/askMRP26/07/17 12:12 PM
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because this is a strategy i can employ across a shorter time period Yup. He actively admitied it was for a shortcut. A lot of newbs have yet to cross that line where what they do they do for them...but it has the side effect of causing dread. Instead they do what they do for her...in order to cause dread. The levels of dread are a disguised way of getting them to walk through the door to enjoy their life for them, but only if they realize themselves that that's what happened. Otherwise it's thi…
/r/askMRP26/07/17 12:09 PM
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I didn't dig deeper, nor do I really care to Because you're scared. Needless to say, it didn't end well. LOL What the flying fuck are you laughing at? started tidying up the house. An hour and a half later, she texted me Are you texting your wife while you both are in your house? we were supposed to go out for lunch, but she failed to return from school and dropping our oldest off at band camp, Maybe she was a bit deeper in that emotional affair? LOL /s To be sure I see you faking it til you mak…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 10:17 AM
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Awesome man. Thanks for the guidance.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 03:45 PM
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I've seen stoney mention Jordan Peterson a few times as well. Will look him up. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 01:58 PM
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See "internal game" and it's thoughts on balance portion of my OYS for the thought path this took me down. Because while you do need to find a balance of push/pull...we need to make sure it's OUR balance. It's not a calibration of our behavior based on her...it's a balance of what we're satisfied with doing when she misbehaves. We must control when and how we push and when and how we pull based on our goals outside of her. We must be the force acting on the scales. We must not react and tailor t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:28 PM
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BS. Most guys in DB think their women won't put in the effort to follow their lead, but they haven't tried leading because it's haaaard. So who's not putting in the effort then?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:12 PM
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Good luck on meditations...I found that book insanely dull. Good info...but dull.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:02 PM
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Eggs are fucking cheap too....I don't know why I haven't taken to making this for my 2nd breakfast. Well now I will. Nice idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:01 PM
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Internal Stability I've been reading some past posts, and continuing to watch some inspirational videos about this. I'm trying to avoid the pitfall of trying too hard to get everything, but not enjoying the journey, and ending up with the things I want but not being any happier because I didn't improve my baseline mindset. It's funny, MRP is said to be a sexual strategy, but I've taken to it like a life strategy because it literally changed every aspect of my life and is pushing me in every aspe…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 11:49 AM
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This post made me think a lot more than I thought it would. I'm not sure if this post is forethought as you act at DL4 or afterthought as you've passed DL4. I have a question for you: What did/do you hope to accomplish while at DL4?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 09:13 PM
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Few days off I saw a youtube video by Elliott Hulse where he said when you have those days off, that down time, don't fear it, let it happen, it's part of the cycle. You succeed, and then recede. As long as when you recede you get that feeling that you're getting, that "okay, break time is over, time to get back to work." I compare it to when I'm on my bike. Once in awhile I get tired of pedaling and my ass hurts. I'll stand up on the pedals and just drift for a bit. But the bike starts to slow,…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 05:52 PM
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Welcome back to square 1. You almost had it so many times: She said no to sex because period - soft no, push on OR leave. You left. But don't get mad over it. Any time she does this take it as merely a sign of what she thinks of you. It's a gift. A measuring stick. You aren't there yet. She blows up your phone - You didn't answer, good. But then you did. Bad. She now knows you knew she was texting and ignored her. You weren't out being cool, you were just out running from her. "Where we're you" …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 05:44 PM
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Too serious I know the feeling. One day I noticed a trend happening when I came in from work in the afternoon. If I came in all quiet and tired, the wife was quiet and whiney, the kids lost excitement quickly. If I came in energized and playful, even if the wife was whiney, I could blast through her 2 minutes of complaints and she would turn right around. Kids laughed and played, dogs romped happily. Your wife (and family?) need you to set that tone. They look to you for it. Cheat meal Don't all…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 05:30 PM
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Real oranges, not orange juice. You know the flavor is fake right?
/r/askMRP19/07/17 04:54 PM
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I'll take your word.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 01:35 PM
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Your last post wasn't that long ago, and I was going to call you out for announcing this sudden change and that "EVERYTHING'S FALLING INTO PLACE NOW"...but I was going to let it go. Until this reply. I have now discovered the joys of not giving a fuck and the value of STFU. The fuck you have...get back to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 01:04 PM
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According to society. But that's the thing, we all manipulate anyway. When you reward good behavior or punish bad behavior, you are manipulating. So your boss giving you a raise, kids getting presents instead of coal for Christmas, sending kids to their room, car salesman saying they have other interested offers, grocery stores having sales, it's ALL manipulation. Society just hates it when it goes against their interests, and/or you openly acknowledge it and don't feel guilty for it. No, red pi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 12:57 PM
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Can he regain his manliness if he declares he also stands to shit?
/r/askMRP19/07/17 12:46 PM
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So...do something.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 12:40 PM
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Ownership is out. Feels for reals is in. Try and keep up.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 12:32 PM
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she's loyal to me No, she isnt. AWALT. It's just your turn. The possibility that her and her friends have a huge orgy and she's riding his cock is possible. She's not loyal, but she'd be stupid to stray right? She sees the value you add right? She knows you have options and OI and the ability to live without her right? If she knows what's good for her she won't cheat on you but if she does you still see a positive future right? Because you're an awesome guy who doesn't need to mate guard.....rig…
/r/askMRP19/07/17 12:31 PM
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So sex is lousy, health is lousy, probably social life is lousy, but you're concerned about chores at home. 88Will is spot on here.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 12:25 PM
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"i am not there yet" and even a tougher case will crack in the same way with the same techniques? I stopped there. As I said before stop being a victim. She's not tougher, you're not in a harder spot. Do the work.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 12:18 PM
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Fogging is not giving them a target to hit. Not buying directly into the argument. The point is, this shit (fogging, AM, AA, STFU, nuke, etc.) works on everyone. Read How to Win Friends and Influence People, and, The 48 Laws of Power. They aren't simply talking about manipulating just women or just men. They're manipulating everyone. 99% of people buy into social conventions when interacting with others. Honor, integrity, these are things you want to hold true to yourself...but you don't owe tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 12:04 PM
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The key here is that you enjoy that process of flirting. She rejects you? happily move on knowing that you have other, and in this case, better options for your time. The one two punch. You like what you're doing. You're going to continue doing it. And even if she doesn't respond she has nothing to condition you to stop or do otherwise because you also have equally fun shit to do besides using time on her. Man, no wonder they all complain that it feels like we hold all the cards. We do! You're r…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 02:48 PM
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Sounds familiar, I believe you're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 02:28 PM
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There is a stickied OYS on the main forum, men will give you guidance. Know this, ultimately, you walk your road alone. We are not a support group. We don't really care if you particularly succeed or fail. You won't get "you can do it" here. If you don't have the personal will to commit or follow through, don't waste yours or our time. That said, what you will get here is a fire lit under your ass. You will be shown the truth, about the world and yourself. If you check your ego at the door you w…
/r/askMRP18/07/17 01:59 PM
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Do you think you can't do it if you don't find a group?
/r/askMRP18/07/17 01:17 PM
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You are seeing the reaction. Around 6 months is about the time she's realizing that your new you is different and here to stay. She's not going to be happy about it, so she's going to try and make sense of all the things you're doing and call them wrong (hence, the list). /u/FireTempered mentioned the rope, which is making its rounds as an ideal explanation for why she doesn't immediately follow. I'm going to add on to the analogy by saying that when you started, both your boats were right next …
/r/askMRP18/07/17 01:14 PM
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There is no spoon.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 09:55 PM
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Hmm, I feel like I'm talking past you. I'm okay with that.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 07:02 PM
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Plausible deniability strategy is purposefully allowing the woman an out to explain how she ended up agreeing to be in a situation that lead to sex, flirting, etc. Example: "What we're you doing at his house?" "He said he had to grab something there." "Why were you in his bedroom?" "He wanted to show me his fish tank." The unsurity you are talking about when you ask "does he just want to cuddle" is not plausible deniability.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 05:38 PM
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I think you were replying to 88Will and his comments on flair. I did think it was a little much, but it's not my place to comment on flair.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 05:32 PM
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Bot swarm....how devious.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 05:10 PM
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Evolutionarily I suppose, a happy and comfortable man were not traits that fed to a woman's desire for S&R.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 04:02 PM
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Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 02:41 PM
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Yes. Plausible deniability gives them permission to be drawn into something you're leading. But joking is still asking them to make the decision to go the sexual route.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 02:31 PM
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Why can't reddit finally allow you to buy multi-up votes for comments like this that really deserve it. Oh yeah...more money equalling a greater voice...one of the biggest problems in government today.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 02:25 PM
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Stopped reading halfway. So many fuck ups. Just be confident. Being confident means having your ducks in a row, knowing what you're going to do, and doing it without care or approval.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 12:47 PM
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Let's go upstairs" or "I want you now" Where'd you hear this was bad? Id say "let's go upstairs" to a girl I just met who I got home. Plausible deniability. Maybe not "I want you now" to a girl I just met, but part of initiation? Why not? Shows confidence. A bland "no" is a soft no...until it falls under the catch all of being said too much that continuing initiation is weak/annoying/awkward.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 12:42 PM
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cause more trouble than they are worth GTFO is a viable option. But if your go-to in that case is something else, and you're changing what you'd normally do based on her being PD , because it causes more trouble than its worth, then she has successfully conditioned you. Doesnt matter if her cool down period is less. You are being conditioned to her cool down period. Now, if you accept that you can live with that sacrifice, which isn't too much of a sacrifice anyway because I'm sure you enjoy hun…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 12:19 PM
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Sad.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 11:44 AM
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Captaincringeworthy Funny to see TRP has its crash and burn legends as well. Sex 5 or 6 times in the last 12 months Can we invoke this then?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 11:39 AM
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If you can't tell the difference between chore play and doing what you want done then you don't understand what chore play is.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 11:31 AM
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she isn't goin to stay This is LITERALLY the MAIN lesson taught in WISNIFG. She will not suddenly hate you when you put your priorities first. So what is she doing then? Testing, she's testing to see if you'll fold. She may be truly mad...RIGHT NOW. But she'll get over it. If not, you dodged a bullet.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 01:15 AM
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Awesome job.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/17 01:27 PM
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You leave the house and are gone for an undetermined amount of time decided only by you. Is your time/attention currently committed to her?
/r/askMRP16/07/17 01:17 PM
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Instead of answering...bet he walks out.
/r/askMRP16/07/17 01:14 PM
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Inspiration? What do you want from life man? Don't ask for us to give you ideas of what you want in life. What the fuck do you want in life? Conquer fear. Grow strong. Quell anger. Cut out lazyness. Destroy limitations. Anything you an think of that goes "I cannot now, but want to..." go do that.
/r/askMRP16/07/17 01:13 PM
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That means [I think that] she’ll lay back and take it will a sad look on her face [but don't really know, for sure, it's just my hamster speculating that this is what will happen because I'm not the prize and don't expect great sex and know that I don't really know how to correct the problem so it will hurt my ego if she starfishes me. To protect myself from this I'll simply take a hard right turn away from sex] Fixed that for you. Now, the rest of your reply paints a totally different picture t…
/r/askMRP15/07/17 11:23 PM
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I assume you're coming to this sub because you think that piece is about marriage and it's faults. You need to look deeper. Prince Andrey is deeply moved by his eternal hatred for the town crier. Remember that part of Lady Rella in the blueberry fields and that bee stung her? It's a very nice parallel to when Skywalker went into the darkness on Degobah and killed Vader, only it was himself. What you need to see is that most times in life the flowers don't grow on the near side of the bush. When …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/17 06:54 PM
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Can I just give you a handjob? "Nope!" That was a soft no. A very soft no.
/r/askMRP15/07/17 06:44 PM
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You will get the gist when reading WISNIFG. It's not just about saying no, it's saying you are the judge of your actions, don't be ashamed of what you want, don't be afraid to push that out there into the world, and don't fear someone saying no to that want either. For your consideration: When OP is gently rubbing his wife's leg is he communicating to her his intentions in a clear way? Or is he asking her to allow him to have sex with her? And which is sexier?
/r/askMRP15/07/17 03:19 PM
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And this is exactly what I'm talking about. STFU really aggravates any situation... So? Why do we care what she thinks of what we do? AM is great as long as things are going OK So now we are tailoring how we act and our responses to HER? She'll actually physically lash out Then set a boundary. If she crosses it deploy the punishment. AA Leads to guilt trips and shaming tactics This IS AWALT. I'm really curious about OP's Part 2 where he intends to tell us what to do if our spouses are/may be/cou…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/17 01:58 PM
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Don't you put labels on him. /s
/r/askMRP15/07/17 01:36 PM
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Huh? Hugging and rubbing The BP way to initiate. You have really nice skin Why did you say this. Was it because you were trying to reinforce her good behavior of taking care of her skin, and you really felt that...or just putting some brownie points in the bank? Do you want to know? NO she doesn't want to fucking know. "I have to wait 28 years until the next breakup? Ugh" "Well there was Sarah, then Jen, then Holly, and Brianna and Staci with an 'i'" Play with that shit. It's not harsh. she will…
/r/askMRP15/07/17 01:34 PM
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"I feel good" thing from operating in my own frame? I don't know, is it? You will obviously feel that a burden has been lifted when you do things without the constant need to worry about someone else's approval. But I've also experienced the sensation before that "Whew, I'm glad I'm back with her...the stress of me being away and wondering how she felt was uncomfortable." If it's this feeling, kill it.
/r/askMRP15/07/17 01:25 PM
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Starting drama Being worried about starting drama is why we call it walking on eggshells. You're worried about how everyone is going to react to your handling your shit more than your main imperative to handle your shit.
/r/askMRP14/07/17 02:14 PM
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I just assumed she picked up on what was happening rather quickly. I did not. I assumed she would continue I figured I did not confront my friends My belief is My hope Could you be any more passive??? You're asking what to do but you never brought the issue up so you don't know what's really going on, if they have a problem, or if your LTR has a problem. You can't handle an issue if you're too passive to say "hey...like...What's the deal here".
/r/askMRP14/07/17 01:01 PM
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YOU PLAY...TO WIN...THE GAME.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 12:40 PM
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Curious as to what part isn't working. Could you elaborate?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 12:05 PM
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easier Keep taking that road. Seems to be working out well for you. Responding to your edit: First three books of the sidebar man. They all establish growing a pair, not feeling sorry, building frame. Every answer you've had so far screams of every ego, walking on eggshells, and weak frame that guys who just got here experience. You must have missed developing this in your reading. For your sake, please, reread those books.
/r/askMRP13/07/17 06:57 PM
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I'm trying to fix it Are you? Because you've been at this at least 11 months and you lack a frame. She wants to fight, argue, yell, complain, and gossip So does every woman. Or are these women special she'll ask where I'm going and I'll tell her Do you do this with your wife too? Is she your supervisor? Are you required to answer her? listen to me bitch my ego hurts
/r/askMRP13/07/17 06:28 PM
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I read your TRP post. You're a pansy. Also, 4 months ago Also, your own advice, 11 months ago
/r/askMRP13/07/17 05:46 PM
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Yeah. A BIG number. I kid. I kid....no really, to you i'm a kid. Ok I'm done now.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 12:31 PM
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Conversation As I said...the conversations that are being had are: "I did this and got positive results. It may be because..." I'm looking at your, "Women who have X fit/don't fit with RP" and wondering how you're getting the evidence. You would need to have seen numerous cases of men doing things and not doing things with these women to draw an appropriate conclusion. And so far I've given you rope that 1) You understand RP even though you not long ago posted about DEERing and said you were rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 12:19 PM
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Credentials noted. But there was a post on TRP recently titled "If you are not having sex then do not post." The crux of it was that there was so much theorizing and speculation going on that guys were posting their thoughts on how to handle women as sexual strategy but weren't even fucking. Thus they didn't know if what they were saying was shit or not. I understand you work with people who "have" these "conditions" a lot, and I'm heavily using the quotes because of my earlier statement of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 05:54 PM
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Nope. Not what I'm saying.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 05:36 PM
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If you cannot regulate sugar and insulin you are diabetic. If you cannot move your legs you are paraplegic. If you literally cannot feel empathy, you are (insert correct term here). Agreed. There are conditions where there really is something missing/wrong. Also agree with the spectrum. In fact acknowledgement of the spectrum and the underlying ability to change will go a long way in men not victimizing themselves when dealing with someone on it or thinking their situation is unique.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 01:07 PM
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Oh do go on.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 11:55 AM
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Good dog. She'll be home soon enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 11:39 AM
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Insinuation doesn't really capture the lingering and growing effects he's talking about though.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 11:22 AM
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Yup
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 11:21 AM
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Awesome comments. You could say setting the stage is inner game. And linking is outer game. Both are inportant. Sex as mock punishment. Ha! I didn't see the connection but yeah I admit if she's being bad I'll be a little rougher. It's just fun. The ideal state. You're conditioning her. Maybe shes even conditioning you (if i act bad he'll make it rough later). You're both having fun. This is how relationships should be. Positive forces pushing back and forth toward a common goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 11:16 AM
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BPD women are extremely likely to respond to RP men, HPD women are likely to respond extremely well to RP men. PPD women are likely to respond reasonably well to RP men. Not sure what your background is, but I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that you maybe be a PhD-in-Psychology wielding lawyer...but you are drawing a lot of RP conclusions based on speculation. There hasn't been much collaboration of information in that manosphere that I've seen that describes how women with personality di…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 10:59 AM
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I'm torn. Anniversaries are like Valentine's day in that they seem to have shifted from a celebration of your love bond to a special day for her. But the unplugged man will change the spirit of it into a day to simply go have fun with your woman. Mixed into the rough schedule of everyone's life you can both look forward to a planned day of doing something fun together. And here's where I'm going to rip you. It's a planned day. Got a babysitter lined up (u got kids?), reservations made if you pla…
/r/askMRP12/07/17 10:28 AM
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Heh heh heh, Idn't that cute. BUT IT'S WROOOOONG!
/r/askMRP11/07/17 07:20 PM
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Every single one of your panic posts so far have been reactions to what she's doing, and you demonstrating that you don't have any sort of frame strong enough to control her. You need to build your foundation, which is you, first. Get your body together. Get your mind together. Get your emotions together. This is your world and you are happy in it, satisfied with yourself. Your relationship is only 4-5 months old so I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't wait around for you to get your shit toget…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 06:43 PM
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"Would you tell me please, which way I ought to go from here?" "That depends a good deal on where you want to get to." "I don't much care where." "Then it doesn't matter which way you go."
/r/askMRP11/07/17 04:54 PM
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Why is she worth keeping?
/r/askMRP11/07/17 11:02 AM
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wife possibly had an affair.....and you have an infant.....What is the timeline on this? My thoughts as well. So you fucked her the same time guy#2 did and think it's yours. If it were me, I'd test that just for piece of mind. Also what's the time line on her coming back to you after moving? Could it simply be that you moved away from lover boy and now she sees you as her only option so it looks like things are "improving"? Speculation all in all. Doesn't change your course to keep improving you…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 10:53 AM
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Been in it long enough to know pictures keep people awake, words on a screen put them to sleep. And God forbid you put words on a screen and then read them to me.
/r/askMRP10/07/17 02:29 PM
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First I'm going to tell you what I'm going to tell you, then I'm going to tell it to you, then I'm going to tell you what I told you. ^ This man powerpoints ^
/r/askMRP10/07/17 10:29 AM
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Cmon now. Knock off the victim mentality. She does want to go out. But she wants you to lead. So you don't want to spend 5x on a meal you can cook at home...k...that's one of 6 jillion things that you can't do out of the house. What's the reason you aren't taking her to the others? And I said TAKE her to the others...not ask...not fold when she has a small bout of social anxiety and wants to back out...take her. Other night I took my kids and wife to visit a family member. Afterwards I passed ou…
/r/askMRP10/07/17 10:23 AM
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I got a few of these about a year or so ago (1ish years in). She likely really has the negative feelings she's describing. They may be misplaced...for example she doesn't do what she likes for herself and expects him to please her like he used to...so the fault now is in her waiting for him to solve her problems. But she also doesn't respect OP in the least and still feels like she can manipulate via feelings and societal morals (IE "That's not how it's supposed to be") I count at least three co…
/r/askMRP09/07/17 01:35 AM
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You said six sigma and I vomited in my mouth a little bit. As much as I hunt to reduce variables and revel in nuance, I'll never understand why statistics just seem like a foreign language to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 04:58 PM
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One of my beta behaviors was when I was in a group of friends (said with reservation because I was usually the outlier in the group) in school and a new guy showed up was I'd always have this attitude of: "Yeah you're the new guy, you're not cool enough to hang with us yet so show the required humility and submit to the undefined waiting period and then we'll accept you". When he did not seem to show any humility and/or other guys started accepting him in short order, I would get mad. I resonate…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 02:15 PM
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asking That's just it. Initiating isn't asking. When I initiate, I'm communicating: "I want sex now." She's totally free to say no. I am OI about that. But it's not a question, it's a confident statement.
/r/askMRP08/07/17 01:52 PM
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she will realize what a selfish illogical emotional person she's being. Most of the time no. Her saying things like "I'm being dumb, aren't I." is a step up from you getting sucked into her emotional washing machine. Good progress. As you move on to read TWOTSM you will further gain control when you learn to play in her emotions instead of drawing her to the logical side.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 01:46 PM
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Bah. Started reading on it and got drug down a hole of what the meaning of a confidence interval is: (95% sure that the outcome is not an outlier based on chance versus 95% sure the outcome lies within X range). I found one source that described the inability to put a confidence interval on historical data that was a single data point (the outcome of a real life battle versus a simulator of that same battle) but if past data was a sample of multiple data points, you could put a confidence interv…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 01:34 PM
1

Care to elaborate?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 12:18 PM
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Argue the content and not the experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 12:17 PM
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Someone likes statistics. I agree with practically everything said. I wrote awhile ago that OI doesn't mean you don't have a preferred outcome, it means you accept that if you don't get what you want there are other paths out there...and you will be just fine if those need to be taken. This relates if your probabilistic stage setting just doesn't ever produce a satisfactory result...which is a probable outcome. I believe you are defining it as accepting that other than ideal outcomes will happen…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 10:15 PM
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Joint insurance does not mean she can see what you do at the Dr.s (depending on where you live). I can not see anything about the wife's trips to Drs, or perscriptions, or anything. It's a separate account under my plan.
/r/askMRP07/07/17 08:29 PM
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It doesn't matter.
/r/askMRP07/07/17 07:16 PM
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Awesome thanks. I can see this as a viable road.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 06:12 PM
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You're not the savior provider/white knight she was looking for. I find this is walking a thin line between leading and pedestalizing...especially with the "Go watch Netflix" part. Starting out you will need to lead your wife to do what you expect her to do as first officer. But micromanaging is not leading. Saving her from stress is not leading. My first officer is going to be under stress...but she needs to be able to handle it to be on my ship. So maybe we're coming at this from the perspecti…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 01:35 PM
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Are you trying to neg me?
/r/askMRP06/07/17 04:09 PM
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Should I not expect her to bring value and investment into the relationship? She will bring it, or you will create it elsewhere for yourself or accept it elsewhere from someone else. Though with effort, you may be able to lead her tge right way. Like I said above. It all involves work. No freebies in life.
/r/askMRP06/07/17 04:00 PM
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Her anxiety is ultimately her problem. Women are more reluctant to see that life doesn't give a fuck about your anxiety and if you want to get anywhere, you have to just say fuck it and plow on. She may never have the anger fueled, testosterone driven "I'm going to change" thoughts guys can experience here when faced with a need to change, but that doesn't give her an excuse not to. You push her by continually improving, positively reinforcing her good behaviors, and removing time and attention …
/r/askMRP06/07/17 03:01 PM
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deer...man...broseph...you've been at this awhile. But you sound like youre still kindof awash in indecision. You don't know what you want or what to expect from her. You don't know what's inside of you. Have you had the main event yet? Have you even prepped yourself for a main event by laying bare to yourself what you want from a relationship...and realized that this relationship is just ONE PART of your life. That you can be happy and energetic without it? Have you looked at those wants throug…
/r/askMRP06/07/17 02:49 PM
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My wife would say: So you're full of dad jokes now huh? And then I'd say: Maybe...but later you'll be full of dad so what's that make you?
/r/askMRP06/07/17 02:40 PM
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Don't you glass ceiling those women you MISOGYNIST! I find this scale to be pretty accurate. Don't look too low on it or you may need some eyebleach.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 02:19 PM
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Steal
/r/askMRP06/07/17 11:11 AM
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"My girl does ______" "I ain't doing that." "I didn't say you did...I said my girl does." One of the great lines I've picked up on these boards.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 10:57 AM
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Stephen Colbert for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 10:54 AM
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I have sort of a unique situation. Ugh...strike one 4 or 5 (roughly average I guess for a married couple of more than 10 years). ...the F? Strike 2 if I ask her to cook Strike three. How far did we make it? Scroll scroll scroll...not far at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 10:52 AM
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Are we using procreate as a fancy word for fucking here...or are you saying that unless you're making kids, there's no point to a relationship. Because you kind of contradict that with: Rather, he gets into a relationship as a sacrifice, in order to get sex, domestic comfort, and children. In which case relationships are also good for sex and "domestic comfort". All three being a nice goal to establish...not THE goal, but A goal. Seems like this idea could be ironed out a little more.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 10:48 AM
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I've seen some guys scales way wayyyy off. Had a buddy talking about a girl at work coming on to him. Story is irrelevant but he's saying she's really attractive, he's finding it hard to be faithful, really making her out to be something. Shows me a pic: 5.whatever floats his and OP's boat I suppose.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 02:17 AM
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Put a potato in the car's exhaust pipe for a good laugh.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 07:24 PM
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I'm thinking it's /s humor in that this really doesn't belong on MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 01:27 PM
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1) MRP does not fix a marriage...it fixes you. In doing so..your marriage may turn around. 2) Great, go without her to the balloon thing. Nice job. 3) Today I woke up and went somewhere on my own, grabbed ice on the way home, prepped a meal to grill, went down to grab food, got ice and put the drinks on it, lit the backyard lights, grilled food, drank, cooked for everyone, and lit off fireworks. All the wife had to do was set out some fruit she chopped up and look sexy. What did you actually do …
/r/askMRP05/07/17 02:02 AM
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I skipped the boring subs in your history, but it seems you have some kind of sense, maybe more from TRP side. So to your comment: Sounds about right...considering if I suddenly became a quadrapeligic she would start searching for side dick. Nobody clapped when I fell on my sword, so I don't expect them to fall on theirs, or for them to continue to expect me to fall on mine. That's life.
/r/askMRP05/07/17 01:44 AM
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keep his wife from... wondering if she Funny how with all this good advice you only reply to the guy playing a victim card. You don't have to try and keep her from anything...it's just your turn. You don't keep wondering if she this and that, because you have OI. You can take responsibility for increasing the odds she stays with you by improving yourself, or NGAF and turn into a fat slob. But don't turn into a fat slob and then worry that she's going to leave...
/r/askMRP04/07/17 10:31 AM
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What? Something about this seems off. -The post title being "Should we get married." -You DEERing out of nowhere about why you're posting...in which you contradict yourself in two sentences (this isn't for me...I want to be well informed for the (re: my) future). And then appealing to the crowd. -And this...apparently you do have some illusions. Good luck, I'm ejecting from whatever your agenda is here.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 03:20 PM
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Beats, bears, battlestar galactica.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 12:19 PM
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THAT will bring me happiness. A big part of unplugging is killing this, which it seems you are onto. But killing this with EVERYTHING. Things don't bring you happiness. You make your own happiness, from within, using those things (women, dogs, outdoors) as tools to build it. Happiness is you being satisfied with you. And, so I don't go off on an essay I'll keep this short: because happiness comes from the culmination of the satisfying things you've done in the past, or the fun things you have pl…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 12:15 PM
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Sounds like you have an answer then. You never really put in your post why you're considering marriage knowing it's negatives. It is because your LTR wants it? Have you talked about it with her? Is it REALLY make or break the relationship with her, and how do you feel about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 11:57 AM
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Not sure if it was the intro about your last post or what...but I felt like this post ended with a long downward look and a sigh. You have knowledge you didn't have before. You have options. You have a way forward. Are you happy?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 11:48 AM
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One could argue that 2 and 3 are redundant as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 02:15 AM
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Last time I was changing the brakes, the kids were playing out front. I called them over and asked them how they thought the car stopped when we were driving down the road. I explained to them what they were looking at (rotor, etc) and that the brake pads clamp down on this, slowing the rotor and thus wheel. Then I showed them how everything was put on. How much did they understand? Probably 10% of it. How much did they understand before though. 0%.
/r/askMRP02/07/17 12:35 PM
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The base MRP principle is 1) Improve yourself 2) Lead her to change 3) If she doesn't change, next if you cannot accept that or accept it and stop bitching about it. The final part is much like a weighing of the scales. On one side you have all her good qualities. The other you have all her bad PLUS the unchangeable effects of divorce like being raped financially and less time with kids. For TRP, they don't have the negatives of divorce on their scale. In addition to making the decision on #3 mu…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 12:30 PM
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Are we going into nature vs. nurture realm here? Call in the psychologists!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 12:21 PM
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Would have laughed had you permalinked to yourself answering this. Can you permalink to your own post permalinking to your own post? It seems you can Upvotes anyway.
/r/askMRP01/07/17 08:38 PM
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You're paranoid about her cheating because if she cheats.........what will happen?
/r/askMRP01/07/17 08:35 PM
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There seems to be a lot of missing information here. But to answer directly...look up the phrase: Cut off your nose to spite your face. WRT her behavior: Example 1: How did that conversation go. Was it (You) "Hey are you ok? You said you'd be home by 12" (Her) "Yeah I'm fine, I'll be home in a minute" Or more like (You) "What's going on here. You said you'd be home by 12 and you're out til 130. WTF?" Example 2: Ok she went out after dinner and got drunk. So? Last night: She is shirking her respo…
/r/askMRP01/07/17 08:28 PM
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Anti-dread. Nice term I like it.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 03:31 PM
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How did you get that conclusion from what OP wrote. He's a pansy because his wife is OVERTLY asking for sexual stimulation and he's afraid of it. Classic nice guy. "We don't do that shit" Classic nice guy. "We were talking and shit and having fun...I was somewhat pissed at her." Classic nice guy.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 03:11 PM
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Intelligence is common, what else do you have going for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 12:47 PM
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She responds extremely well to every MRP thing I employ 90% of the time. Just a heads up...read /u/BluePillProfessor 's first paragraph here
/r/askMRP30/06/17 12:42 PM
1

You keep saying you clean your place and your place is clean but there seems to be laundry that needs to be done. Stop deluding yourself.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 12:35 PM
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I turned to her and just smiled. Excellent.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 12:31 PM
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A few times I have taken them to a climbing gym to mess around on the walls. They enjoy it. I take them to the park to run with the dog or to the library or to soccer practice. And I feel like this discussion could very easily slip into altruism as the reason why we do these things as parents. But I don't really believe in altruism. I believe the things we do are always selfish. I had this argument with a friend when he said: "well I come over and help you fix plumbing problems just because we'r…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 11:55 AM
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I interpret your question as: Is it the case that before everyone was shoving their narratives down your throat and you simply accepted it, OR was it that you were just too weak to assert your narrative. My answer is: Both. You ever have a bunch of friends in a room and no one knows what to do that day for fun? You ever been in a group where one guy was totally leading everyone and you felt like he was in charge and you'd do whatever he said? Ever walk up to a group alone or had a guy walk up to…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 10:34 AM
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Great example. Makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 04:43 PM
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How you doin?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 03:38 PM
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I haven't tried it but heard if you go watch Doug, the cartoon that played on Nickelodeon, you'll think he's such a weaksauce faggot and simply needs to grow a pair, bang patty, and punch Roger in the jaw.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 03:37 PM
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PFP may help explain this, because I like you started out touching way too much and too overtly. I have a low drive wife. So the constant touching may be too much. If his wife is high drive, it may be what she needs.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 03:15 PM
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Interesting. I'd love to read up on this. I'll see what I can find.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 12:43 PM
1

Not good or bad, just a real difference. But why? I'm trying to understand the premise so I don't simply react to the stimulus (like a zombie). Is there concrete evidence that the hormonal and psychological differences between the sexes makes it so a woman cannot have the feminine MAP of "I'm going to buy sexy clothes and ride you like a horsey every night."? That they cant strive for improvement day in and day out? It's hard to gather because those differences are objective, but motives and tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 07:54 PM
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Nice success. Different conclusions though. I feel like the more I've learned in MRP, the more I feel like I'm manipulating everyone else's behavior. I simply know how now and do not feel sorry for it in the least. There's a certain level of attractiveness you have to be, and a certain level of unattractiveness you have to avoid as prequisites...but I feel it is really all about PUSHING your narrative down people's throats, and people generally being so moldable by default that they accept it. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 06:09 PM
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Great! Now define "absolutely", "want to", and "complying" on the basis of intent and not actions in a court of law and we have this all figured out.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 05:05 PM
2

Hooray for imperial units. Those guys using metric have to report in at twice that resolution.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:56 PM
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FTFY That's what she said after suck my cum out properly
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:51 PM
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When I tell them to.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:50 PM
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Gotta come up for air every now and then.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:49 PM
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Nice observations. So if male sacrifices are in a blind spot from the frame of reference of FI, that kindof implies women cant view them, just as you cant see out of the back of your head. Is this the correct assumption...or is it the slightly different case that women see them, but view them as normal. Out of curiousity, I might take some time and fly over to RPwives to observe if their thoughts are "I try to respect my man's sacrifice" or "I don't know what he feels he sacrifices...but I try t…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:23 PM
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He said don't DEER.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 11:55 AM
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Usually the base of a plant.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 11:28 AM
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Common fault: Logic
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 11:26 AM
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"Sorry officer, I saw speed limit...I thought that meant the LOWER limit!"
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 11:25 AM
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This reply made me smile. Good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 07:17 PM
2

Pulling hair A little nugget I gained from The Game. Style's Evolution Phase Shift routine involes buildup to hair pulling. I adapted this because every girl will melt when you run your fingers up the backside of their neck. Do that, but then add a quick tug at the end. 90% melting quickly flowing into 10% hair pull. She will be second guessing for days whether you really meant to do that and the pleasure will overwrite the discomfort in her brain.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 07:15 PM
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Every time I reflect on the past I'm amazed. I really imagine laying on my death bed one day laughing my ass off at all the successes, failures, misunderstandings, and revelations. My last words are going to be "Life...you are fucking retarded."
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 05:31 PM
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Agreed on her still needing the PD when alone. I think a lot of leading her is about allowing her to come to grips with the fact that whatever kinky shit you eventually do...that it's OK. And I've told her overtly in years when I didn't understand it that it is okay to want sex. But words will not do it. Actions. Leading.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 05:28 PM
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This article hit hard. I'm going to need some time internalize it. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 05:23 PM
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I remember that very reply you made. It's weird, I knew in my head the whole time that this is a covert contract, I should not be mad, but I was. Over it now, so reverting back to STFU for this relapse helped. Happiness Powerful words you wrote there. I can definitely feel the happiness of accomplishment...but family, I don't know, they don't bring me the same level of joy. They bring me joy for sure, but i feel a lot like theres no deep connection there. Maybe i'm jaded by the realization that …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 05:19 PM
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What the fuck is wrong with women Every time you see that emotional shift in her you learn a bit more. When you get your shit in order, you will tease her just to piss her off, she may even break into tears saying your teasing is unattractive and she hates it. You'll laugh, because you'll know 20 minutes later it'll be as if that event never happened. Women's emotional switches are fucking weird. But learn how to make them work for you and you'll have her. Also...she's doing all these things you…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 02:18 PM
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Check out audible for reading on the way to and from work. See if you can use your lunch break at work to do cardio/half a workout and then eat and work at your desk. How old are your kids? First make sure your time to them comes because your kids are high on your priority ladder...not because they're "supposed" to be high on the ladder, but because you want them to be. Then male sure the time you give to them is for you, because it makes you happy. Not because you are trading time for brownie p…
/r/askMRP27/06/17 12:09 PM
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Inner Stability: Found a nice meditative place to chat with myself recently about the wife, about fighting the constant battle, and about doing things for me: Wife: I told myself there's still work to be done, but not to get too bent out of shape when we disagree about something, when she acts up, or when she seems to be living her life. She is her own person with her own wants, and I should revel in that chaos and enjoy when out paths cross for fun. It's like thinking about winning the lottery.…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 10:57 AM
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Squats Trainer will give good opinions on squat. This and deadlift are two easy ways to injure yourself if you don't do it right. Take a bit of weight off, focus on not letting your knees pass your toes/ bow in. Keep at it until the move is easy. I too needed to do this because while I could lift heavier/more reps...I wasn't focusing anymore on the movement and thus I was rushing it with bad form. Getting divorced Better get reading The Game then. Also put Mystery Method, Bang, Day Bang on your …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 10:18 AM
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Nice work. Being a bit tense, as it seemed you were with frame, is expected early on. You move through the world as you please but then brace for the shit storm that follows. As you go on, acknowledge that in addition to your frame being important, that other people's feelings about how you view the world are unimportant. Learn to laugh at the hilarity that your wife thinks that because she feels a certain way about the furniture, you should too. Then laugh also that she also thinks your ability…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 04:39 PM
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Mind Fuck: How do we know that what you see when you see red is what I see when I see red. The physical properties of the color IE wavelength, reflectivity, place in the spectrum, and energy are the same...but who's to say that what you see when you see red isn't to me the color blue? The difference being I've grown up seeing blue and being told it's red, and seeing red and being told it's blue. In fact you could simply teach your child growing up that red is called blue pretty easily if you wer…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/17 02:06 PM
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I went to my primary and simply asked. He was willing to do it, but with me being an early 30yo who's in shape he laughed and said: "If you have low T then I'm a woman."
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/17 01:51 PM
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Total curiosity...how do we know this?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/17 01:47 PM
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Perfectly stated. Guy wants some validation because he's pulling the trigger and making the tough decision, but hasn't really put any work into his 1 month old account and now has this 'What is to be, is to be' attitude that will last him about a month into his divorce proceedings until he caves and goes crawling back hamstering something about how he'll give her another chance or she's special.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/17 01:39 PM
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Looks like I didn't do my homework. Comment withdrawn.
/r/askMRP15/06/17 02:07 PM
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Quit being a negligent father Fuck that moralizing...what if his goal is not to become a family alpha? There is no dichotomy of 1) Need to take kids on adventures every other day or 2) Just don't bother because you're a failure as a father. He's not his kids' entertainer. They get to play with him when he decides, and there's no right amount of time he should be doing that. He states in his post that if he comes home out of the blue, and wife raises serious logistical concerns as first mate, he …
/r/askMRP15/06/17 01:39 PM
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According to the reading that you've done...how do YOU think you could handle this better?
/r/askMRP15/06/17 03:12 AM
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The most bitter part of it all...and you will have to come to terms with this rationale over and over again with women, with age, with hormones, with friends: This is the ways things are. This is the hand you've been dealt. It doesn't matter what fantasy you can make up in your mind or how unfair it is...this is the hand you have. Now are you going to play? Or are you going to quit?
/r/askMRP15/06/17 03:10 AM
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Yoga I'm semi interested. It's low on the time priority ladder but I'm definitely open to it. Game I probably am. I often come away from each interaction learning just a bit more, and noticing while we speak "hmmm, that thing that just happened, that's different." I think it really is a put in the time for the results type of thing. Prune your mission to smell the roses Biggest battle here. It makes total sense, but because I'm growing and learning on so many fronts, cutting just seems like quit…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/17 02:58 AM
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Exactly. Now I need to get out there and make that my reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 04:49 PM
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the second my hands cross the line from playful rubbing or affection to going into her pants or grabbing her ass Going to weigh in here with this sounding like you're trying to slowly bridge from affection (rubs, massages) to sex. And by doing so you are ASKING her a covert question: "Are you OK with allowing this?" It makes it seem like youre afraid of her response. And this puts her in the position of making a decision to be sexual or not. Women hate making decisions. Instead, cut right from m…
/r/askMRP13/06/17 03:01 PM
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Anyone else hear a hen clucking? That's all I heard after "Ok"
/r/askMRP13/06/17 02:43 PM
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Game Push pull comes naturally. Cocky funny tends to err on the funny side, 60/40 or 70/30. Kino is lacking, as I'm admittedly mentally busy navigating threads to remind myself to do that. I believe there's progress as months ago I would have said I never tried it, but recently once or twice I have been aware enough to slip it in. If we're talking honesty and directness of the apocolypse opener, then thinking on it I'm pretty non-direct in what I'm there for. I can see how this can stifle any pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 11:08 AM
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To each their own on actually scheduling it. But I always use her daily report time to practice TWOTSM by letting her experience her emotions, and not trying to solve problems. I'll actively shy away from answering with a solution, and instead comment "That must have made you feel...I bet she felt...etc". It's also a good time to practice active/reflective listening by repeating back the situation or feelings in a different way. Do you speak back to your wife or simply listen only, and do you th…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 10:44 AM
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Time to take stock: Lifting: Last week marked the return to where I was at with squat and deadlift before the injury. Most recent bod-pod was 8%. Though I have been stretching now before lifts, I pulled my back last week (very slight, it's already back to normal) squatting and attribute this through bad form via not warming up and not concentrating on the lift (trying to rush). I plan on dropping the reps on squat and deadlift down to 5, upping the weight gradually, and concentrating on form and…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 09:21 AM
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If you tell someone that, and they respond with an unapologetic 'no'...do they get a pass on the book?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 05:09 PM
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Covertly with time and attention. Overtly with honest feedback: "Huh, you know, I like it when you're being all cuddly." "Damn you looked fine in that lace last night. You should experiment like that more often (wink)."
/r/askMRP12/06/17 03:32 PM
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Second this OP. There are few women in my office, but a coworker was running a program for a female customer once and complaning about her always changing her mind and making useless tweaks to the plan. I deduced it was because of his inability to set a plan, hold to it, and deflect idiocy. He needed me to take over for a day while he was out. She was here for the day to oversee our work. I went in, said "I'm going to do this, this, and this. Then I'm going to add in this and this because I beli…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 02:23 PM
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Jesus thank you. Someone had to say it. He's still looking for the easy way...and this time it's an excuse: "I'm a unique MRP guy." "Shes the problem because she hates it here."
/r/askMRP10/06/17 02:48 PM
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sigh You know, you almost had me with the rural excuse. Sometimes when I'm really fucking bored at work I'll go Google maps sightseeing. I'll take the streetview pin and drop it in a completely random location and wander around a bit. Sometimes I'll just be in the middle of nowhere, and I really sit back and ask myself: "what do these people do for fun??? There's nothing here!." But you live 30 min from a bigger town. 30 minutes! My trip into the city is 40 minutes. In fact unless it's the odd l…
/r/askMRP10/06/17 02:43 PM
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I feel like Luke Skywalker talking to Vader lol: "I know there is good in you. The Emperor hasn't driven it from you fully."
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 04:13 PM
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Any alternative feels like A Blue Pill Master Level work. Fixed that for you.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 02:54 PM
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Tip: Plotting a path for yourself and then walking that path is the most satisfying thing you can do in life.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 02:45 PM
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She gives me money, she spends endless hours doing housework and office duties I send to her, she messages me whenever her BF is not around to check on her, she does literally whatever she can to make my life easier and ingratiate herself to me. I see it as a slippery slope...and here's your first slip. You're hamstering for her. Sure if you let her back in, the first X days would be everything you think...but do you really think it would stay that way? Or do you think she would slowly start try…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 02:16 PM
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Lovedrop might say it's a DHV posing as a DLV....? Yeah I'm skeptical too.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 01:24 PM
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Great summation of your goal. I made my edit based on the fact that leading her is step two, and you may not be there yet. Not everyone has the ability to not go rambo and focus inward first. What of this then? You want to focus inward. Focusing inward is because you need to reorient your mind to consider what you want first. But here you are physically moving yourself to another room on her call to do something for her. Don't be afraid to say no. She calls you into the other room? You: "Come in…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 07:09 PM
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Some guys complain when their women wear granny panties, some complain when their wives give them full access to critique their wardrobe. Are you working towards a goal here...or just plowing through this interaction without purpose? If you think her wardrobe needs work, here's your opportunity. If you think she needs to be an independent thinker, here's your opportunity. But I don't see any leadership at all... Edit: If you are working on simply STFU, then I suppose you achieved that by not eng…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 05:44 PM
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I've noticed a lot in the journey that a lot of getting mad, or butt hurt can be traced back to just a simple lack of understanding of the interaction. As if our former egos just short circuited to being mad because we didn't understand. My wife shit tests? I get mad, because I don't understand why she's doing that. Girl at bar turns me down? I get mad that I don't understand why she doesn't like me. Alpha fucks beta bux? I get mad because I don't understand the dynamic. The mastery comes when y…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 05:15 PM
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He can do him. I would have imagined, coming from the guy who taught me to be fun and happy to be around, that such a heavy handed approach to getting a message across would have gotten this response. Sure, I could absolutely put the fear of God into my kids every time they do something I don't like, and I'd get my way. It would work. And my frame is strong as steel. But it's also a very jagged and pointy frame and honestly no one wants to be near it. I've been in situations exactly like this. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 03:48 PM
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The question is though...why so serious? It's a computer. Your wife was teasing. Your attitude changed based on her actions. Is this the oak?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 02:19 PM
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Hmm. Seems serious...unlike this post? I can't really tell. I'm going to go contemplate life for a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 01:46 PM
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If he gets back up then...he is a zombie.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 01:04 PM
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ok, no more advice then And then you followed that up with some witty comments poking fun at her right? Or something like: "I was going to help, but for that insubordination I'm just going to tickle you now instead" and go at it mercilessly...right?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 12:10 PM
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Anyone who''s spent some time on here knows that if you're scrolling down through comments and get to one from donedreadpirate, you stop and read it. That's why a post like this is a great piece. It shows just where you came from. Men exiting the other side being a better, manlier, happier man happens here. Appreciate the insight. Keep it up man.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 12:00 PM
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And goes to lesbian bars to meet them. Because...you know...that's the only type of bars to find girls...
/r/askMRP08/06/17 11:41 AM
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Are you so lazy that you're requesting us to tell you if this place is worth your time? Read around, decide for yourself.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 11:37 AM
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It means many things, likely both of what you've speculated. Pressure flip it right back with your own multimeaning statement: "Good thing for me then that it doesn't matter what you want." Big smile
/r/askMRP08/06/17 11:31 AM
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4 minutes and this was marked as puke. It's gotta be a record. You know this post sucks. You're berating yourself so I don't have to. Collect yourself. Figure out where it's your fault. Post that and the one or two options you think might be a good path to take, and I'll comment. Hints: and she knows I hate them I could not totally STFU
/r/askMRP07/06/17 06:44 PM
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First things first, work on you. Fuck this whole mom/wife dilemma and fuck the attitudes of your mom and your wife individually. Fix YOU. You should be lifting, you should be shutting up, you should be reading the books and internalizing. You should be getting the clothes and leaning out and making yourself the best you can for you. Then, when you are well on your way with that mission, then you can start extending your sphere of influence and amass your crew as the captain/oak/rock. Because rig…
/r/askMRP07/06/17 06:37 PM
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My guess is that she's looking for that acceptance and validation of working out. Us guys, we can get a pump, pose in the mirror, and be satisfied. Women need someone to acknowledge them. She wasn't getting that working alone. So make it a point once in awhile to openly approve of her effort/gains/attitude.
/r/askMRP07/06/17 05:36 PM
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And I watched her go from a really shitty mood to friendly and flirty. This is obvious even to the most casual observer: She is acting pleasant because she got dumped, you are her fall-back, and she needs to win you back to beta support her until she finds a new branch to swing to. It honestly looks like you are at least crawling I the right direction of trying to learn the material...but you're still making excuses not to apply it and ultimately see that this relationship was dead and has since…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 05:21 PM
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You are feeling anxious to solve the problem now. Know that this will take months/years to solve. So if you take a month and read and build yourself up, and STFU...What's one more month of failed shit tests. Your goal right now is you. Building up a lifting routine, reading, internalizing, and shutting up. That should be more than enough to keep you busy.
/r/askMRP07/06/17 03:54 PM
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Do you want it to be a place of solace and time to focus on you? Does that override the negative impact of you discouraging her working out?
/r/askMRP07/06/17 03:40 PM
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It's not constant checks, it's just spot checks here and there. Like random drug tests at work. How hard is it to log into your phone account every few months and see if there's any odd repetitive calls/texts at odd hours. 10 min max? Or she's showering and her phone is out...any texts or emails going to people I don't know? Any nudes in them? No? OK good for another few months.
/r/askMRP07/06/17 03:30 PM
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I want to be free to travel on a moments notice, meet people in other cities, experience their culture and sights and cuisine and night life. I want to have happy kids in a stable home, a sexy, satisfying wife to come home to, and the entirety of my current net pay slightly more than that. These factors are always in flux, and they are not completely exclusive (I can still travel, just not as much or as freely). They are my fuel, and my anchor. Coming to grips with the fact that a path must be c…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 07:03 PM
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The point is it's planned. There is no "oh I'm still hungry I'll just eat more". If he had extra calories, why is his dinner portion not that many calories...because mommy makes it for him. An analogy. It's like when my wife used to wash my clothes...well...she'd wash some of them. Truth was she was slow at doing it, and when I did extra cardio the week prior and now didn't have clean workout shorts to wear, there was a problem of too little clothes for me to wear. Very similar to his problem of…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:43 PM
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So what have you proactively done other than complain like /u/westernhagen did when his mom made him a cheese sandwhich, or I did in my teens when my mom didn't buy enough orange juice? Your post is about you getting mad when she gives you 'commands'...if she's giving the commands, deciding whats for dinner, and how much there is; and you're complaining...who's the captain here?
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:16 PM
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It's possible he's bulking. Past posts indicate a battle with alcohol that he's getting better at. But that's easily empty calories. In addition, having enough calories left after dinner to allow for another dinner is either poor planning, or being fat. I have a preplanned 400 calorie breakfast, two to three 250-400 calorie lunches, and a thousand calorie dinner. If I'm hungry after dinner, I tough it out, or do cardio during the day to allow for more food later.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 01:53 PM
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Doesn't matter. As long as you gave this 3 day old account it's validation upvote.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 11:26 AM
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This isn't yahoo answers. Get to work on the sidebar.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 11:22 AM
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Sometimes she doesn't account for how big my appetite is and I'll have to eat more. What the actual fuck. I guess your wife didn't catch those telepathic messages your stomach was sending her about how hungry you were, so she knows how much to make huh? And she packs your lunch too? How sweet. God forbid she be concerned that your fatass wasn't satisfied with dinner and is now going to eat her shit. But oh! "You'll cook tomorrow too, again based on a hunger level I don't tell you about but I cov…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 11:17 AM
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Great work. Saved me from replying to this clusterfuck.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 11:03 AM
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"Oh no. I'm scared that random Internet men are going to judge me."
/r/askMRP06/06/17 10:58 AM
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Not feeling guilty of my response.
/r/askMRP05/06/17 10:23 AM
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I read it that his hamster is running as he acts, and so he's second guessing everything.
/r/askMRP04/06/17 10:49 PM
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It's against my nature Your nature is based on a fantasy view of how the world works. Read The Rational Male. Read WISNIFG. Realize that everyone out there is operating in such a way that they look out for them, and they dont give a fuck about you unless it also benefits them. You must adopt this same attitude. It must be your way or the highway. BUT, Don't go fucking rambo with it. Internalize first that everyone is operating for themselves. Build yourself up with lifting, dressing well, gettin…
/r/askMRP04/06/17 10:47 PM
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Can I starfish her?
/r/askMRP04/06/17 03:20 PM
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I am out of shape maybe 25 pounds overweight and probably have failed the majority of the shit tests she has thrown at me in the past. However Anything after the however is bullshit. The very first level is to lift and get in shape. Simply put, you do not have the discipline to simply control how much food you are voluntarily putting into yourself and/or how often you can get off your ass and burn it off. And that is very indicative of your effort to be the best man you cam be for you. OK so you…
/r/askMRP04/06/17 01:07 PM
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It's like trickle weight acceptance. 25 lbs means 25 to not be a total fat ass anymore; but then maybe 15 more after that to actually look lean; ok ok 5-10 more for the abs to show.
/r/askMRP04/06/17 12:59 PM
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A deeper uderstanding helps sometimes. It's also good that you realize it's just a phase. We often think we are in total control of our mental state, but in reality that unstable mental state is just a bundle of hormones and chemicals in our brains, and the balance of it, at least partially, is not in our control. Think about it, there are chemicals you can take, that will change your emotional state. Caffeine when you're tired. Downers when you're anxious. These chemicals are not a part of your…
/r/askMRP04/06/17 12:49 PM
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Awesome write-up. The breakdown you give leaves little room for speculation...you knew what you wanted and you went and got it. The deepest insights into how to do something come from that period in time where someone decided that they're going to do it, and start doing it successfully. I've read The Game, and found his introduction (meeting Mystery and first few nights out) as the best part of that book as well. A few questions: How often a week do you go out? How much time do you stay out? You…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 01:05 PM
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No malice. The only people who take the time to type words trying to hurt OP are trolls. There's some tough love around here, sometimes it's tough, but it's always some love. Even with W&S. Now come here and give me a kiss.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 12:18 AM
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Great overview post. The situations where OP is simply undecided "should I address this, or am I overreacting" are worse. They don't even know what they want. Address it or dont, what do you want? But when they're discussing the how, the how is the lines you'll hear guys drop in their FRs, backed by the psychology described in the sidebar, curbed by the healthy restrain of not going rambo. I have more respect for the how posts. See the forest for the trees though. It's not just one conversation …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 09:49 PM
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At which point would my input be useful? Not sure, but I'd wager that when you realize that this question is idiotic, you'll be one step closer to useful comments.
/r/askMRP02/06/17 04:03 PM
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This OP. Keep leading. Mine said a loooot of these things. Pushed me away for 10 second kisses or gave a peck, now she doesnt. Said she doesn't like muscley guys, likes my biceps. Said she doesn't like when I talk dirty to her, now talks dirty back to me. Mentioned sex sounds being weird for her once, I said I liked it and don't worry about it, now she doesn't mind. I think RMP is right, it's an uptight thing. They are worried that you won't like their behavior, sounds, words, etc. Encourage the…
/r/askMRP02/06/17 12:07 PM
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Same
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 02:56 AM
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Awesome progress in the game and mental game field. You describe youe game with other women as fun and eye opening. So is this an isolated example out of many women you've gamed?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/17 11:22 PM
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Yet you got fat and want her to reward that with sex. See the irony yet?
/r/askMRP01/06/17 10:37 AM
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Then control your wants. What are they?
/r/askMRP31/05/17 12:58 AM
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deal with her bitchiness No, you don't have to deal with this either. If she acts like a bitch, you leave.
/r/askMRP29/05/17 02:55 AM
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"Oh look it's blimblamp I wonder what he's...oh god damnit". What happened man?
/r/askMRP29/05/17 02:48 AM
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This is without a doubt WISNIFG standing up for yourself. However, your particular example is demonstrating little more than internal confidence (there was no conflict). In addition, that internal confidence example, in the grand scheme of unplugging, is one brick of the thousands you are going to lay down if you continue progressing. So don't let your ego get hurt when I say it looks like validation seeking, kind of like a 10 year old running up to mommy saying "I can wipe my own ass!" I'll sof…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 03:06 PM
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Your history (ex.) (ex2) shows you have some kind of love/hate relationship with this sub. Why are you here? For validation? Has the red pill made it to your stomach yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 02:44 PM
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intentional discomfort I was reading a reddit thread on ER doctors' stories of patients shoving things up their ass when I got this reply...I cannot help linking you to that post now. Use plenty of lube.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 03:06 PM
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and this is partly why I hated it before. "That's disrrspectful." L-O-fucking-L
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 03:02 PM
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See I'm the opposite. No music when running, because I find I'll breathe and/or my feet will hit hit to the beat.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 02:59 PM
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Same reason I can't look at myself in the mirror at the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 02:54 PM
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You'll get varying opinions on cardio. A major factor is: What do you want? Do you need the cardio to lose weight or keep it in check? (What's your BF%, howd you measure it) Do you enjoy it? I am an avid runner, but I enjoy it. So I keep doing it. If you don't like/need it, don't do it. Second factor is make sure you give yourself days to heal. Take it from me, I'm just getting back to cardio after injury from 2 and 3 a days every day. So don't go filling rest days with cardio just for the hell …
/r/askMRP25/05/17 02:15 PM
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I've read probably a dozen articles on So trying to solve her problems didn't work huh? unemployed dad looking for a job Maybe this has something to do with it? need to be getting some sex as I'm not content. Tell me, why should she fuck you...other then 'your needs' guys who have found themselves in a similar situation and turned it around. Welcome to MRP!
/r/askMRP25/05/17 11:22 AM
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Nice shiny new account. Get to work man. This isn't just your run of the mill drop a question and we'll solve your problem for you board. We make men here.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 11:13 AM
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Work out music, oddly enough for me who used to hate it, consist of hip hop. Unlike Persaeus I focus on the lyrics and use them to get the anger/hype up so the songs are cherry picked to focus on building myself up from hard times / I'm a badass. Try: Eminem - 25 to Life Tech N9ne - The Beast
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:33 PM
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I've pinged one in particular that I won't specifically mention, but yeah that's a good suggestion. There is certainly going to have to be some research to avoid groups depending on 1) What their beliefs are. Groups are groups for a reason and most of them have some core tenants that you are either all-in on, or you shouldn't be a part of the group 2) What their purpose is, and I'm talking mostly about what they do when they get together. If their purpose revolves a lot around the group, IE: we …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 04:28 PM
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My wife has some irrational fear of the basement. She'll ask me to go get something for dinner like ground beef on the rare occaaion shes making dinner. What do I do? -If I'm working on taxes on the computer, I say "can't help you, I'm busy". -If I'm walking by the basement door, where she's standing, I'll give her a raised eyebrow and move on. -If I'm headed down there to workout or get something I say "sure". -If I'm out and about and tell her to make dinner and she replies "I'm not making tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 12:48 PM
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Looking for like-minded men in a local group. In addition I'm opening doors to going out with people I haven't know as well or as long. Friendships gotta start somewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 12:34 PM
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I know everything! I know nothing!
/r/askMRP24/05/17 12:28 PM
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she knows she is hurting us all. (Cringe) Stop being a victim.
/r/askMRP24/05/17 12:23 PM
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Every once in awhile I'll look at my 3 year old girl and say something like, "You're just a little cutie muffin." Her brow will furrow and she'll get all serious and say, "NO I'M NOT". I'll smile because she doesn't know what a cutie muffin really is, so she assumes I'm insulting her. She'll see my smile, stomp her feet, and run to her mommy screaming "IT'S NOT FUNNY". Her mom will comfort her saying: "Aww honey it's ok, Daddy didn't mean anything by it." Sorry, guess I got off topic. What were …
/r/askMRP24/05/17 09:49 AM
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guidance MRP is a set of tools to get you there. Not to tell you where there is. As you said in OYS, you need a MAP. The symptoms are feeling lost, 1000yard stare, and feeling distance from the wife.
/r/askMRP23/05/17 12:37 PM
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You sound completely lost in every post you've made so far. You're looking for solutions as if they were band-aids. Treat the problem, not the symptom.
/r/askMRP23/05/17 10:59 AM
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I don't see that hes trying to red pill the group, simply trying to keep his head abovery water.
/r/askMRP21/05/17 08:15 PM
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You're cute when you get all angry.
/r/askMRP21/05/17 08:05 PM
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Oh no? Wife wants to team up against me. Wife gets the boot. Since when did we start becoming scared of what our actions might cause our wife to do?
/r/askMRP21/05/17 01:13 PM
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Read my response above to feckless_wonder. OP provided his kids food. They didn't eat (or eat enough). They will learn to either eat when it's provided, or wait until morning to eat.
/r/askMRP21/05/17 01:07 PM
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Nowhere in his post do I see that he denied his kid food throughout the evening leading up to bed. Kids are notorious for being picky and manipulative with food, so much so that virtually every parent complains about it. In my house, if my kids do not finish eating by the time we've cleaned up dinner, no snacks, but they still have to sit there and eat. They will sit there with food in front of them all the way up until bedtime, and then getting in bed say they're hungry. Tell me you aren't sugg…
/r/askMRP21/05/17 01:05 PM
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Nice work. Agree with RJ that's overt communication needing comfort right there. Passed with textbook line. What dread level did you go to?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 01:23 PM
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A lot of people would stand on a soapbox to defend how they feel about politicians. I simply don't care enough to.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 12:41 PM
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See reply to stoney. That he is a moron, and that he is successful are not mutually exclusive thoughts.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 03:29 AM
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Is he successful? Without a doubt. Is he a completely brainless ape and luck alone has lead him to where he is? Not at all. Does he have delusions about how shit works, his abilities, what people think about his polices and ideas? Yeah. There is some kind of disconnect between how he thinks the world works, and how it does. This disconnect has helped and hindered him. That he doesn't realize this disconnect exists is the basis for calling him a moron.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 07:50 PM
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/u/[deleted] 's actual coming to Jesus speech I don't think I've ever seen. But he mentioned it a lot earlier in my progress and by way of his posts then and collecting bits and pieces of his history over time I get the kind of idea he preached. Here is a post which had some real impact for me back then that helps to explain it. /u/Cobey3_16 seems to be in a very similar spot, though it's hard to tell from his lack of post history, and I probably didn't do him justice with a reply including simp…
/r/askMRP19/05/17 02:49 PM
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K
/r/askMRP19/05/17 02:05 PM
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You are backpedaling your intentions, still implying his position, generalizing, and throwing blanket statements down. It's like wrestling jello.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 01:36 PM
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Not debating the effectiveness or ineffectiveness of it. See reply to wn36
/r/askMRP19/05/17 01:27 PM
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OP states that he's bored in the bedroom And Maybe he can start working on himself by rewiring his brain to get his dopamine fix from his wife/lover rather than from porn. Between these two you have a logic disconnect. He's bored in the bedroom...because he isn't following SGM and training his wife to be kinky...NOT because he's addicted to porn. He doesnt even mention a porn problem. You assume this, and then go off on a tangent preaching your nofap holy bible. I'm not debating the effectivenes…
/r/askMRP19/05/17 01:25 PM
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Read up on the Main Event or SPT's Coming to Jesus Speech.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 12:31 PM
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playfully This is the golden way to treat this.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 12:28 PM
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What the fuck is the connection between OP's problem and nofap? That right there might be the foundation on most of your problems. This shit right here reminds me of Jehova's witnesses coming to the door. You're broadcasting nofap as a solution to problems you aren't even identifying.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 12:24 PM
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Your unicorn initiates a lot...but it spoils you by making you think she is going to initiate your kinks as well. Grow a pair and bring the kink out of her. Dont just tell her to talk dirty to you. Tell her what to say.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 12:19 PM
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Upvotes purely for Cory Worthington mention.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 11:43 AM
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"I'll show you a connection." Hip thrust
/r/askMRP19/05/17 11:39 AM
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Take your own advice from a year ago
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 11:37 AM
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Glad to see some sense in this reply. I was starting to imagine you as a grumpy old man screaming about liberal hippies. I see the 'alpha' Trump has. I also think he's a moron. I lean left. I see political association and red pill as two separate traits that are not mutually exclusive. That said, your main point of not arguing with idiots is sound.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 11:33 AM
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Same
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 04:16 PM
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Man up and marry reply to those sluts OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 03:24 PM
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Fucking hilarious.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 12:46 PM
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n00b or newb? Damn, I'm going to have to set w&s post in my favorites so I can reference it when I forget the difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 12:26 PM
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You're not upset at her for being interested in him...that's just a cover for your pussified ego crying because you couldn't take the challenge of hanging with a guy of his social status. Hey look, it's your fault again.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 12:22 PM
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you stood out like a socially retarded loser. No no this can't be the case. He said he was alpha...like...twice.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 12:16 PM
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Look man, you're 1 month in. You should be focused solely on you and your progress. To hell with how she feels about it. To hell with if she's feeling dread or not either. Dread is the side effect. It should come about as a realization: "Huh, I guess her friends commenting on my chiseled frame when we were out at the pool turned her on a bit." Rather than: "Yeah she's totally getting dread when I do this." As per your last deleted post: I dont worry about where my wife goes...mostly because she …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 03:21 AM
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This isn't dread. She has seen you bend to her demands so often for so long that she feels entitled to your compliance when she asks you to stay. I don't believe it's: "Oh what if he's seeing other hot women on his run." It's: "How dare he say no to me." Regardless, you are doing what you want to do, which is the right move.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 02:40 AM
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I just heard of him. I've been watching his clips every other night. I've never laughed so hard in my life when he describes how to eat chicken without wanting to kill yourself.
/r/askMRP17/05/17 04:28 PM
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"Guys, forget the praxeology, forget hypergamy, forget modifying toxic behavior, operant conditioning, learned helplessness, feminism, the ego, lifting, improving (all of which I've shown no history of learning or posting on). I have this one data point which is actually a 'higher dose' of all those things!"
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 02:55 PM
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She told me that she likes me kinda chubby Because she doesn't like the dread of you being attractive to other women. And also she wants me soft (beta) So she can mold you like playdoh.
/r/askMRP17/05/17 12:58 PM
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Glad to hear things are looking better. Was there anything different done in the last 3 months, anything coming to a head or revelations you noted from her? Or were you steering a steady course, same as 4-5 months ago, and she just came around?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 11:29 PM
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Trying to connect the dots. So what happened between here and here, with what looks like some turnaround here and then this post. I ask because the first link really got my attention that she may never come around due to her preferred relationship dynamic, and the question surfaced: "How long should I keep at it then?" (the answer of course being continue to improve into the realm of game, catch and release, and after enough time there, plating). I made it a point to pay attention when I saw pos…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 08:26 PM
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she's so sorry Always an impactful phrase that comes up with these posts. She's not sorry about talking to the ex. She's sorry she got caught.
/r/askMRP14/05/17 09:57 PM
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I have something like that too. The thing she sees every day. The reminder of where I was and where I am now. The "look what you've done, by chopping off my balls, forcing me to go find them." Thing is, it's me. Except we're both happy when we see it.
/r/askMRP13/05/17 04:17 PM
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Perfect.
/r/askMRP13/05/17 04:10 PM
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You're looking for an excuse to stop improving? You won't find it here.
/r/askMRP13/05/17 02:16 PM
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K. So what are you going to DO about all this?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/17 01:44 PM
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I know you better than to interpret this as: "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all." I also know you're a man of few words, but those words convey strong points. So I'll keep it short, OP is just too fucking blonde.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/17 01:34 PM
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I couldn't finish it. You're a big gaping vagina.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 01:06 PM
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Some detail on how this helps you keep frame may help. Is it like, you have so many plates that you need a cheat sheet to remember how to act around each? But then on the other hand, you shouldn't really be modifying your behavior based on their personalities. The single man's game, as I see it on TRP, is be you, and just drop the plate if she doesn't conform. I don't think I'm picking up what you're putting down.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 01:02 PM
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It's sad that your decision either way is based on your wife's frame, or some girl's, but not your own.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 12:02 AM
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He vowed to be faithful to his family and wife. Vowed to who? A man is only as good Good to who? He can be an honorable man or he can be a little bitch Lol in WHOSE eyes?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 07:41 PM
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You're upset because you're wife has an obvious reason this time? WTF dude she's always had a reason, you were just oblivious to it before RP. She's going to continue to have reasons. Some won't even make any fucking sense. Is your decision to spin based on your MAP, what you want to do, and the inevitable result of that being the way to get your goal of sex? Or is your decision based on petty revenge: "Deny me sex huh? I'll show you. I have options!"
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 07:37 PM
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And yet he still has the option to do what he wants regardless of your preaching. Funny how that works.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 07:23 PM
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So divorce is considered, wife leaves for a few weekends, neighbors of her parents try to set their son up (cringe) and you get mad, and are still butthurt about it at the bday. Wife's parents and wife's parents' neighbors have no loyalty to you, why the hell are they in the wrong here? It's just your turn with your wife, and by all accounts you were considering your turn up. I would have laughed and teased the neighbor wife about her questions, taunted stepdad that he can't get rid of me that e…
/r/askMRP11/05/17 04:31 PM
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And who did you fail by blowing up and losing your shit? Is being able to control and harness that anger her goal, or yours? You didnt fail her. Not blowing up is not for her. You failed you. Apologize to yourself. Then move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 02:05 PM
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Job just opened up one level higher. If I apply I'm very likely to get it. I abhor managing people, and think upper management are a bunch of morons. I may also end up wearing 3 hats. But the $. I plam on applying so I can ask the questions I need to make an educated decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 11:40 PM
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Define right.
/r/askMRP09/05/17 11:19 PM
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There's a few posts here muddling the line between one person''s experience, and the prime directive of him doing him. The outcome sucked for you.
/r/askMRP09/05/17 11:16 PM
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Write a list of things in your life that make you happy. Assign a number 1-10, 10 being ecstacy. What percentage of your happines are you deriving from the relationship and sex?
/r/askMRP09/05/17 04:54 PM
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"If I find the perfect label for everyone, then the Internet will tell me how to interact with them."
/r/askMRP09/05/17 12:48 PM
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You're mid 30 and you write like a drama filled teen.
/r/askMRP09/05/17 12:38 PM
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Example of some of these alpha interactions...
/r/askMRP09/05/17 12:36 PM
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Let's not go too far here.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 12:38 PM
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You have boys 16 and 12. They are old enough to start to think of some creative mother's day things, even if you have to drive them around to acquire them. She is not your mother. Though society is striving to turn this into: Thank her for being the mother of your kids day...it's not.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 12:37 PM
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You started in Sept. In December you got sick. That's 3 months of beginners RP, and then 5 months of being set back. You were in the negative to start with, now you're even more in the negative. What do you expect?
/r/askMRP05/05/17 12:34 PM
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If she's not, can I still give it a go?
/r/askMRP03/05/17 07:37 PM
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I'm a sign, not a cop. Awesome phrase. I'm going to steal that.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 02:33 PM
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Most of this post can be summed up by you taking your round peg definition of marriage and trying to fit it into our square hole of RP. Many men here may have once agreed on your definition and feels surrounding marriage. Now we do not.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 10:26 AM
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I think it can be also called "growing up" Below is an excerpt from a post I was drafting, but decided not to post: In an effort to understand and conceptualize the lessons I have learned in RP and social dynamics, I often keep examining the tools we use in order to influence our world and asking the question: Why does this make people act the way they do. And the more I examine the global picture hypergamy and red pill, the more I arrive at the conclusion that the game we play doesn’t simply ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 09:55 AM
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just not putting myself out there unnecessarily (i.e. not closing). Define unnecessarily.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 09:46 AM
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I will learn to manage my states of mind to be motivated by default, and on in the field. I will talk to everyone around me, practicing approaches and transitions. I will continually counter any hamstering about not gaming with the fact that if I could snap my fingers, I'd want to be comfortable and confident with game. Therefore, I want to succeed, so I must put in the effort. I will begin to N-close when conversations are clicking. I will reread Bang and Day Bang, and look into alternate sourc…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 09:43 AM
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open ended questions. This is a key I see in the books and the field. It draws them in because they get to give THEIR opinion (they love talking about them), but it's not so invested that youre bordering personal questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 09:39 PM
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Neil Strauss' The Game hit me as hard for game as The Rational Male did for RP. Mystery Method is not bad, but it is just one view on it. I enjoy the way it tries to structure game, but there are many methods.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 06:54 PM
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Make sure you do all three. It is all or nothing after all.
/r/askMRP01/05/17 06:42 PM
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You missed the point. You're saying "My values are rock solid...is this path for me?" I'm saying "Are they? Walk the path and find out."
/r/askMRP01/05/17 06:41 PM
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It doesn't jive with my Christian values. Then you have nothing to fear. Unless merely reading from a group of Internet strangers' comments that they are sometimes cheating and divorcing will inevitably cause you to cheat and divorce...then I think you would need to work on your self- discipline aspect and consistent self improvement Truth be told, however, a big subtextual takeaway you may find within the sidebar and comments is: Question your motives for EVERYTHING. Ask yourself "why am I doin…
/r/askMRP01/05/17 05:17 PM
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Very poetic.
/r/askMRP01/05/17 05:03 PM
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1: Yes. Now, where is that feeling coming from? Are you in a funk or is it specific to this area? If the latter, Are you unsure of your abilities to lead here? Are you unsure of her reception to your lead? Or are you simply not putting in the work? 2: Correct, you asked. She finished, your hamster got rolling, then you asked her to fix it for you. Instead tell her what she can do. Let her comply or hard no. 3: You should certainly care if she isn't getting off. Especially if you didn't know that…
/r/askMRP01/05/17 02:25 PM
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I've been so exhausted to adjust the behavior. I went with the flow. "What are we going to do for me?" I asked "well, tell me one time, if you know you've faked you know you can think of one time when you have, tell me that time.” i ask take that you solipsistic hypergamous bitch. What's wrong with these 4 quotes
/r/askMRP01/05/17 01:32 PM
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There are times when either by failure, or simply by random chance that the emotional pendulum swings toward the crappy side. Take a trip over to /r/socialanxiety if you want to see how easy it is to just flop around in a constant state of inaction. That doesn't mean however that it's easy to get out. Oddly enough, the one sure fire thing that I've found that gets me motivated again is to do that thing that you don't feel like doing. And surprisingly, as huge of a wall that it seems looms in fro…
/r/askMRP30/04/17 01:01 PM
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With a strong frame, I didn't see a problem at first being on the receiving end here. I saw it like a millionaire saying to you, "Here's $100. I'll call you whenever I want to give you money because you'll take my money like a bitch." Lol ok, call me what you want I'll take $100. BUT, she sounds slightly unstable. And because of the lack of desire and her instability, the risk of her pulling some kind of shit like getting pregnant and claiming its yours, blackmail, or saying you raped/abused her…
/r/askMRP30/04/17 12:47 PM
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Read the first paragraph and scrolled down just to see McGill reply to this. Was not disappointed.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/17 03:39 PM
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Why do you think this is a problem you need to solve? The drive is on improving me. And not attempting to solve her problems, insecurities, or unwillingness to join
/r/askMRP27/04/17 12:14 PM
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What? Take it to askMRP and phrase the question better.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 12:04 PM
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Low blow.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 02:28 PM
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I'm of OP's mindset. You will become happy regardless of her actions yes...but when your wants are satisfied by something outside of your control (your woman's value) and your preferred outcome is for her to follow your lead (to avoid divorce rape, kids taken, etc) then you have to use common sense and know that it will take time for her to recognize changes, change herself, then for you to recognize her changes. Outcome Independence doesn't mean you don't have a preferred outcome
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 02:08 PM
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But if I tell her her shitter is stinky, she may blow up at me for being rude. Oh I'm having fun this morning.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:52 PM
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I'll show her a dry dock.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:48 PM
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I earn good money Beta I am not a bad looking guy. Are you a good looking guy though? I consider that 20something women would be comfortably within reach. Based on real life examples right? This morning I began to wonder if it's her way of looking around for other options. Hamster hamster hamster (I'm still wearing mine) Covert contract So I'm pissed and I tell her that I don't like this halfway situation of not wearing the ring but still being in my bed. Okay, overt contract. She reacts badly a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:45 PM
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I have a 5yo. 2 more years I cannot see anything coming out of her mouth with an intent to harm. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I doubt it was said like: "Mom your breath is foul, like, you're gross. Do you brush? You should be ashamed." If the daughter doesn't have intent to harm, then the mother should not be taking it offensively. "Should". But mom is a woman so yeah.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:35 PM
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Unless there were twins, I'd be concerned
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:19 PM
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Taking a stab here, but may have spawned from The Rock's know your roll, and shut your damn mouth. Which in short order turned into: "Know your roll, and shut your hole." Slow your role and shut your hole is also good MRP advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:05 PM
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Are you comparing my wife's size to the U.S.S. Ronald Reagan???
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 11:57 AM
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Emails and feels, BPD, scale not moving. Remember these are her problems to solve, not yours. You show her the door, she walks through it.
/r/askMRP26/04/17 11:55 AM
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No no, I'm not asking you to DEER why you're staying with her. It seemed like /u/redmountainpill had some kind of logical reason not to divorce an addict that I wasn't aware of. Some guesses may be that as a druggie she may not have income, and you'll end up paying out the ass. Or some vague state law that requires you to get her help.
/r/askMRP25/04/17 06:46 PM
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A big chunk of RP revolves around the concept of value, and who or what provides that to you in your life. Figuring out without a doubt what value something/body will or will not bring is a main focus. If you become a man who commands his world, and she chooses not to be a part of it, she chooses not to provide that value (of sex, of loyalty, of cleanliness); then you can make your decision to either accept her lack of value, or move on. But if you are not a man who commands his world, if you ar…
/r/askMRP25/04/17 06:39 PM
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The telling her mom is to save your ego because you can't bear to have someone believe the eventual lie the ex will tell. Thing is, it's out of his control. Mom will side with daughter, it's out of his control. So don't invest in it.
/r/askMRP25/04/17 06:28 PM
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I was about to post, then read yours. Why doesn't he want to divorce a drug addict?
/r/askMRP25/04/17 06:23 PM
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All this is dead on. OP all this whiteboard and systems and penalties is what I used to do as a BP. It makes logical sense, but she is not a logical being. In fact, white boards, scheduled dates, and especially showing her overtly she's wrong dries her up faster than a barefoot jackrabbit on a hot greasy griddle in the middle of August. She doesn't want to follow a whiteboard, she wants to follow YOU. She doesn't want scheduled dates, she wants (what looks like) spontaneity. She doesn't want pen…
/r/askMRP25/04/17 05:59 PM
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Viagra
/r/askMRP25/04/17 05:18 PM
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You've given me an idea. I was posting to the main sub to gather opinions but decided to be productive and take a stab at it myself. By the way...did your flair get...redder?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 08:10 PM
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Just got an overt mention by the wife about how she likes how good I look now (referencing clothes). Spring is here and pastel colors / chambray patterns are wearing well on me. Im feeling an aversion to polos and going with casual button downs more often. On the downside, cant wear boots all spring. Gotta find classy summer shoes. Thinking brown so looking for brown belt too. Am working on finding a bracelet for wrist instead of going the watch route. Inspiration comes from Mystery Method's adv…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 06:57 PM
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First Natural energies Stop believing in fate and fairytale-things-just-happen. She, like every human on earth, makes conscious decisions on what she does with her life. Even those who supposedly don't have the willpower to change, are in fact making a decision not to. So her decision to improve or not is her DECISION. It's done purposefully. To call it anything else is hamster. If she doesn't know how? Are you important enough to her for her to go learn how? You can't teach her? But you can lea…
/r/askMRP24/04/17 01:35 PM
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Her fertile time Oh how nice of you, thinking about her. I'm sure she reciprocates by having your best interests in mind all the time. Here's where she is: You have improved for 6 months (your words) but you aren't seeing much of a change in her. The truth is, 6 months is enough time for her to START to change. Yeah, it takes that long. She has to notice you are changing first, then has to realize that this new you isn't a fad. Then had to realize that if you continue this improvement and she do…
/r/askMRP24/04/17 12:24 PM
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Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/17 09:25 PM
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She won't be hypergamous She'll always be hypergamous. Always. I had 30 lbs on him. Unless you're talking about muscle, 30 lbs is quite a lot. I've been improving so much This seems to indicate that you think you deserve something for it? That's your covert contract. You're doing this for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/17 12:14 PM
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Wouldn't teasing her about her attraction to this guy just make things worse? No. It displays that you have confidence and control, that you are sure of your status in the relationship, and also OI that if she decides to branch swing, you'll be just fine. Shit testing She did not know he would come over when she was talking to this guy. This was simply her looking for other branches or a fun time.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/17 12:12 PM
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So is this a deal breaker? The path is the same. Lead her, see if she follows, if not assess whether you can live with that or want to move on. With texting, don't text back. If she complains, tell her you're busy and couldn't text back. She may get the message. Ultimately, are we as men ever satisfied? There was a post not too long ago where a mod was talking about how he didn't get enough blowjobs (was getting a few a week if I recall). We always want improvement, and so we'll always be assess…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/17 12:05 PM
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Be grateful This entire sub is dedicated to improving men to allow them to get what they want. Not anywhere will you see concern trolling to tell a man to quit improving and be grateful.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/17 11:59 AM
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It very likely will nuke it to hell, due to the fact that wife expects you to feel sorry, because society expects you to feel sorry. So the shock of you not feeling sorry is so great, she cannot process it. You ever see those superhero cartoons where the villain has, let's say superman, trapped in an iron cage with kryptonite? But somehow superman finds the strength deep inside to walk up to the bars and, with every last fiber of his being, slowly bend the cell bars open anyway? The villain scre…
/r/askMRP22/04/17 07:05 PM
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Too vague. Too quick to relate. Posted on MRP a month ago Agreed, troll.
/r/askMRP22/04/17 12:28 PM
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I'm sorry. It won't happen again. Not sure where this is advocated anywhere? The point is if you are cheating, then own it. You are a man who has a plan, makes a decision, and is confident in that decision. Yeah I did it. Yeah I meant to do it. It may happen again depending on whether those needs are met or not.
/r/askMRP22/04/17 12:18 PM
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That's it boys. One guy did it and felt bad. Therefore it must apply to all men and we should erase the thought from our mind. Good work g1344304.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/17 12:05 PM
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E: Have her fuck other women?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/17 06:55 PM
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We don't understand hamster.
/r/askMRP21/04/17 05:15 PM
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Asked you to: Leave the house Say no? Monitor your phone Say no? Demand... Lol no? What YOU would be willing to do to stay together (emphasis mine) Da Fuck? How bout what SHE is willing to do. If I'm cheating then I've already accepted that this marriage is whack, I'm moving on. Why the fuck would I change ANYTHING to then keep her around if she found out? You either decide that what you value from marriage besides what it's lacking is too good to risk losing it, or you decide that the value out…
/r/askMRP21/04/17 05:11 PM
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Are you asking: How do I DEER to my wife if she finds out?
/r/askMRP21/04/17 04:42 PM
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She's coming back because she needs someone to help raise the kid and pay bills. You are nothing to her but support. YOU ARE NOTHING TO HER...but support.
/r/askMRP21/04/17 04:35 PM
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Answering your question with a few questions: You say time away is limited...but what do you want to do? If you want to get out more, go out more. "But my time is limited" you say. Limited by who? Limited by your wife? Tell her to watch the kids, you're going out. Limited by your fake ethical morals on how much you "should" be a part of your kids life? Who made those morals? You did. You can unmake them. You don't have to throw your entire life out just because you had kids man. This whole moral…
/r/askMRP20/04/17 08:12 PM
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The increased flirting is a measure for you. It's not for her. The only level of dread where you are telling her about your progress is 12. Are you at 12?
/r/askMRP20/04/17 11:40 AM
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Cholomite's back baby!
/r/askMRP20/04/17 11:35 AM
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We've got two young kids so time away is limited. Me too. I'm out 3-4 days a week. Stop making excuses.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 11:34 AM
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No matter what spin you put on it, the question still remains: Why aren't you out doing this in person?
/r/askMRP20/04/17 11:15 AM
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Could you elaborate on the lotion/ coconut oil, what it fixes, how it shows?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 04:46 PM
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The 24 hour one is entertaining if you enjoy the detailed historical examples for each law, both when it was applied and when it was neglected. I play it on loooong flights or when I really have nothing better to do, but it is tedious.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 12:48 PM
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Pouring the powder directly into shoes, shaking it around in there, and wearing shoes with it in there. Maybe a 1/2 tablespoon every 3 days. If it was dress shoes or the material wouldn't catch and hold the powder, I would go for in your socks instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 05:51 PM
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Breath: Poke around your tonsils with a wet qip to check if you have these. I do, and they smell more foul than the devil's own ass crack. I got a plastic syringe that I fill with water and flush them out daily. Took care of that problem. Hair: That's my winter cut. I like it. Check your face shape and recommended cuts for it. Experiment with lengths and cuts. Don't settle. Cologne: Upvotes for white elixer. Feet: Foot powder. Put it in your shoes and if need be in your socks. Complete cure for …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 04:14 PM
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Found cologne last year. Shoe stink gone with arm and hammer foot powder. My hair product smells lemony, but I have not found any kind of variety nonetheless availability of men's shampoo/conditioner. That said, I haven't been looking hard. Getting on it. Also going to look back into beard oil and see if I can find a scent there, as well as aftershave for summer. And get back to carrying around breath mints. Wife threw mine away one day for reasons I can only speculate. Also going to look into e…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 02:33 PM
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You're welcome
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 02:11 PM
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A) We are far from being geared towards finding a wife. B) What woman's magazine did you find that thought in? C) Everywhere. Literally everywhere. D) Not sure where you are from...sounds like "community" might be a bigger thing for you. But religious groups are not necessary. In the US anyways, there's literally an infinite number of clubs, organizations, camps, sports, etc you can sign your kid up for as early as 2yo.
/r/askMRP18/04/17 11:48 AM
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The spectrum seems to get bigger all the time. At some point it is going to include those who are the way they are from a nurture standpoint and not a nature standpoint.
/r/askMRP18/04/17 11:39 AM
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Though I admit it's idiotic to have that guilt based on a self defeating attitude (being a failure), you are confusing not rolling out of bed because balls are drained with rolling out of bed only because balls aren't drained. They are not equivilant. What is your opinion on masturbating killing the drive to improve due to the hormonal effects?
/r/askMRP17/04/17 06:48 PM
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