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| 1 | I think he's more attracted to 2d girls and naked twitter models than meHonestly, this could be said of any addiction. That doesn't mean that empathy and understanding fixes the addict. Young people have my sympathy because porn is easily accessible and addictive and it's only starting to be common knowledge that it's addictive. DARE showed itself to be counter productive but no one could claim ignorance that drugs have negative consequences. However, I've known altogether too many addicts in my life and empathy and understanding is too close to acceptance in the ey… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/20 01:35 AM |
| 3 | I think he's more attracted to 2d girls and naked twitter models than meI don't generally believe in shaming unknown men on the internet. I don't think it helps much BUT I also don't believe that their choices are my responsibility "as part of this society". If we have to take communal blame then shame is one way that the community keeps order. I don't think it's reasonable to argue for one and against the other. Understanding why these men do what they do means taking a look not just at the behaviors of the women around them but at the effects of pornography on the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 05:04 PM |
| 8 | I think he's more attracted to 2d girls and naked twitter models than meCounter argument: Shame is a tool to discourage undesirable behaviors. If we are responsible for the state of society and thus the resulting behaviors - is shame not an appropriate response to attempt to turn the page. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 03:31 PM |
| 10 | I’ve lost everything.This is sort of tacky. Would you ask this question in this manner in a face to face interaction? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Moving in with my partner tips needed to ensure smooth transition.Ultimatums work so well and can't possibly backfire. Sometimes you meet a man who is worth breaking the rules for. It may be high risk but can also be high reward. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Moving in with my partner tips needed to ensure smooth transition.It's a risk certainly but it's not an automatic death sentence for a relationship. What do you do if you have an amazing guy who says no ring unless we live together first? That's a very common sentiment now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Moving in with my partner tips needed to ensure smooth transition.Not sure that the same advice everyone else is giving is really a 'pro tip' | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 01:37 AM |
| 4 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownFor our 5th anniversary I was in the middle of first trimester fatigue and morning sickness. Going out to dinner would have been a severe waste of money. We exchanged gifts and had a chill night. Then we went out to celebrate the anniversary of our first date a few months later when I was feeling better. Chalk this year up to the year you celebrated during the apocalypse and have an extra special date night down the road. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 06:33 PM |
| 31 | Remember to put in the effort for the man who matters most in your life!I think I've seen this comic before. My assumption is that it's not as much saying that we should be wearing work attire at home as we shouldn't be putting no effort in at home when we put a ton in for other people. I'm a 'full face make up every day' girl and have been since I was a teen. My clothes are a bit more relaxed though with my husband wearing gym shorts every day. :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/20 02:50 PM |
| 3 | I believe virginity is a beautiful gift that women are blessed with, which is why I choose to be celibate. 🔑 I strongly believe that people who attack women for their conservative views are sexist jerks.Nope. College educated American girl. "Around here" is RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/20 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Why does everything about the female red pill revolves about finding and keeping a man?Why do you care what others are doing with their lives then? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/20 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Why does everything about the female red pill revolves about finding and keeping a man?There are subreddits that are exclusively for lgbt people /issues. There are plenty of things you can do in life to be happy. One of those things is learning to maintain a healthy relationship with a partner. Are you happy? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/20 02:23 AM |
| 4 | Why does everything about the female red pill revolves about finding and keeping a man?Honest question: what do you think it should be about? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/20 12:03 AM |
| 53 | I believe virginity is a beautiful gift that women are blessed with, which is why I choose to be celibate. 🔑 I strongly believe that people who attack women for their conservative views are sexist jerks.There is nothing wrong with waiting for a committed relationship or marriage. It is advised around here. Take care to ensure you are offering more than your virginity. Marriage has a 50% success rate and while having your husband as your only partner increases your probability of success, it does not guarantee it. You, like non virgin women, need to be more than what is between your legs. Don't think that the title "virgin" makes you special. One day you will not be a virgin. You can only give y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/20 12:01 AM |
| 6 | The Cake Theory of AttractionUnfortunately flour was one of the first things to go from our grocery store so I'm being judicious with what I have on hand. I did bake cookies this week which for lack of self control reasons I am cooking one tray at a time. I sort of want to experiment with biscuits but I think I need more flour before I get into that | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Hobbies make you sexyimmediate response from a literature snob about how YA novels have no value Nothing says 'I am so smart' like complaining about someone else's reading habits. But then I had a thing for vampire novels before they were cool 😂😂😂 I think sexy is a weird word choice but you are right that she must mean it in a way other than sex appeal. She might just need to fine tune how she is conveying her ideas. Having interests, however you classify them, is just good sense for your health as an individual. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 09:42 PM |
| 24 | The Cake Theory of AttractionDammit, now I want cake. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 08:55 PM |
| 6 | Hobbies make you sexyI think some of the problem is calling it 'sexy'. There are reasons to have hobbies. Sexy is not a reason. I'm not sure if she's conflating rmv with smv or if she's one of those girls who thinks her job is sexy to a man. It's hard to tell from the post. Personally I consider reddit one of my hobbies (but that falls outside of her guidelines for acceptable). Writing and commenting keeps my brain running and give me interesting conversation starters with my husband. Pretty sure it doesn't make me … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 08:50 PM |
| 2 | I’m “playing wife” to someone I’m not (but would like to be) married to. What should I do?I do think that some men will postpone it as long as possible. It's less important to them so they need a reason. Knowing the woman they love won't stay a forever girlfriend is certainly a reason if the relationship is good. Kids are another reason. My family busted my uncles balls for years to marry his college sweetheart. They told her she should leave him or give him an ultimatum. It wasn't until they started talking about kids that they got married. That was about 11 years after they started… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 08:22 PM |
| – | Own Your StuffThat really really sucks. We had already decided to have a very small first birthday for the baby (mid April) and now I'm starting to think that we won't even get to do that and it's disappointing. I hope you are able to celebrate in some other way once this has all passed. I know this thread is supposed to be about behaving better so I guess just ... solidarity :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/20 04:24 PM |
| 7 | Curious to hear people’s strategies in responding to pushy/ forward attempts at sexual escalation?It does not obligate you to sex but there are certainly men who will think that it does. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 02:57 AM |
| 4 | Excerpts relating n-count, likelihood of infidelity, sociosexual orientation and divorce in women.Right and as I said above, there are plenty of more tangible reasons for a woman to choose to keep a low partner count. I think it's ok to talk about promiscuity and whether it's "worth it" and what are potential problems versus potential gains. I don't think that these studies are the best jumping off point for those discussions though. At best it's a loose connection that there might be a problem and might not. When promiscuity means you might get divorced but might not, but an incredibly low … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/20 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Excerpts relating n-count, likelihood of infidelity, sociosexual orientation and divorce in women.So think carefully the next time someone comes here and say, I took a billion dick can I become redpill now? The answer from her own temperament, attitude, and belief system is probably a reasoning no, and success may even still be failure as the shift could become to drastic and unbearable anyway. This is a failure in your understanding of the red pill IMO. It is supposed to be a way of looking at the world, not a movement or a type of person. On the RPW sidebar it says: We come from all differ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/20 05:18 PM |
| 7 | Excerpts relating n-count, likelihood of infidelity, sociosexual orientation and divorce in women.Studies like this are posted for men's benefit as they have very little to offer women. If, as a woman, you are willing to take on the increased risk of pregnancy and STIs that come with multiple partners, you likely are also willing to take on the risk of divorce. There are plenty of good immediate reasons for a woman to be careful who and how many she is sleeping with. If you aren't doing that already more stats and probabilities won't suddenly change your mind. If you are doing that then cong… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/20 03:06 PM |
| 22 | How do I make it better ?You cannot change another person. 6 months is still a young relationship and you shouldn't necessarily be trying to change things. This early on it's likely a compatibility issue. Unless you agree with his reactions towards you and think you need personal improvement. If his guidance is warranted and will help you to grow then you work to change yourself. You are 26 and you have to trust your own judgement a little bit here. Is he unrealistic with everyone around him or does he have high expecta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/20 01:32 PM |
| 3 | I think my IUD is making me depressedSex is important in a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 04:36 PM |
| 5 | "Is he proposing soon?" and other questions that I wish I could quit asking myselfTwo questions: if he doesn't want to marry you, will you break up with him? Do you want kids? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 02:22 PM |
| 3 | I think my IUD is making me depressedSecond this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 01:47 PM |
| 6 | I think my IUD is making me depressedIt's all well and good to use the studies as a starting point for causes but if the OP is feeling out of sorts, and the birth control method is new, it's a worthwhile avenue of examination. Just because studies say "this doesn't happen with a statistical significance" doesn't mean that you should tune out your own body. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 01:47 PM |
| 5 | I think my IUD is making me depressedYes, came back to say this. My sister got pregnant on the pill, my neighbor got pregnant with an IUD. Not a single form of birth control rates 100% and that is before you add in user errors. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 01:41 PM |
| 4 | I think (read: know) I made a huge mistakeThis could also appear stalker ish and 'crazy ex gf' | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 05:51 PM |
| 2 | How do you get a guaranteed long term commitment from a man before sex occurs?I briefly saw her put a post on PPD about women being rapists (it was removed as off topic). She's either not very bright or a troll. For her sake I hope she's a troll because no one should be this self destructively dumb. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 01:07 PM |
| 3 | How do you get a guaranteed long term commitment from a man before sex occurs?Done with you now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 02:21 AM |
| 3 | How do you get a guaranteed long term commitment from a man before sex occurs?You are intentionally misconstruing my words to fit your crazy girl narrative. If you stay at the bar til last call, there is someone who will bring you home. If you spend a few minutes on Tinder saying that you want to get laid, you'll find someone willing to drop everything and come to your place. I did not say any woman can get sex from any man. I said any woman can get sex and it's not an accomplishment. The most unattractive girl in my freshman dorm had sex with many different attractive me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 02:14 AM |
| 3 | How do you get a guaranteed long term commitment from a man before sex occurs?You are making up definitions to sooth your ego. In RP traits, an alpha man is someone who gets sex, yes. However, in RP terms any women is capable of getting sex so it's not an accomplishment and there is no such thing as an "alpha female" Another way to look at 'alpha' is the top person in the hierarchy. I have serious doubts that you are at the top of any female group. Usually promiscuity occurs when there is self doubt. And to touch on your other comments: They don't if they dont want a slut… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 01:43 AM |
| 2 | How do you get a guaranteed long term commitment from a man before sex occurs?Doubt | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 01:21 AM |
| 1 | What is it like to have children?There are also the relationships that aren't secure but a couple had kids to make it better. You really need to have your stuff figured out as a couple because kids exacerbate problems not fix them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/20 09:53 PM |
| 1 | What is it like to have children?That's interesting because my mom also comes from five and they were all around through my grandfather's last year of life. My paternal grandmother has been living with several of her daughters in rotation over the last many years. Maybe it's a catholic thing 😂 I don't think end of life should be the reason you have kids but the childfree argument "they won't be there..." is a weak one imo. In the case of having kids you have some probability they will see to your care. In the case of not having… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/20 02:20 PM |
| 3 | What is it like to have children?Having children doesn't guarantee someone will take care of you. NOT having children guarantees they won't. My friend worked as a transport emt for a while. After seeing a lot of old people in a lot of local nursing homes his take was this: You need two of the following three to have a decent end of life- Money to pay for care in better than average facilities Daughters to make sure that care is being properly given (he said it was almost always daughters keeping up on the staff) Don't be fat be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/20 01:40 PM |
| 1 | What is it like to have children?It's not a requirement for life and it's not a requirement for relationships. This question self selects for women who have had children. It doesn't ask child free women to rave about their lives. You'll get a one sided picture as a result. I believe that ultimately we all (humans) need something that we are working for in life. You want to look back and say 'I accomplished this and it was fulfilling'. For the majority that is children but I'm sure there are other outlets. Being fearful should n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/20 01:28 PM |
| 19 | What is it like to have children?wait until they're far enough in their careers to afford to send their kids to daycare or nannies for 8-10 hours a day Discussed this with a friend the other day. She has a High Powered Career and probably won't end up having kids. Her boss had her kids in her 20s. It makes no logical sense that it would be easier to have kids once the career is established and rolling. There is way less stress and less work responsibility when you are younger and getting started. Maybe it delays the career but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/20 12:39 AM |
| 22 | How to let my boyfriend’s “helpful” fitness advice stop working my nerves?Well you've only known him for 6 months over the winter. It could be that he's very active in the summer and games in the winter. So let's acknowledge that no matter how much you hate it, going to the gym / exercise is healthy. He's not asking you to do something with negative consequences. You could begin to go again, take him up on his offer of help and continue to vet the relationship to see if you are compatible. Or you could ask him if this is a deal breaker and let him know that you did th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/20 07:51 PM |
| 37 | How to let my boyfriend’s “helpful” fitness advice stop working my nerves?You are probably going to lose him over this point. It sounds like he looked for a girl who was into fitness to match his lifestyle. Since you talk about going on a hike where you couldn't keep up, it's more than just a looks thing. You can go to the gym or not but I don't think this man will stay with you if you don't start it up again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/20 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Why do women have to do EVERYTHING nowadays?A relationship is not 50/50 it's 100/100 You shouldn't be with a guy who thinks he gets to be lazy. If you aren't contributing in a manner that pleases both of you then why be in the relationship? And the idea is not necessarily to demand less it's to understand how to go about things so you get the best results. As a for instance - we sometimes talk about giving men space at the end of the day to change gears after work. That doesn't mean that you don't get talk about your day or your needs wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/20 07:00 PM |
| 8 | Why do women have to do EVERYTHING nowadays?A willingness to work gives you a choice. I made decent money working as an office manager while I completed my degree. My husband worked as a dispatcher while completing his. Plenty of people with degrees cannot find work because they believe that certain things are beneath them. Some degrees can get you a job at Starbucks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/20 06:50 PM |
| 5 | The love of my life prefers chubby women. I’m thin. Should I gain weight to be desirable to him?As long as you are telling yourself it's not possible, it's not. Change the story in your head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/20 08:16 PM |
| 7 | True submission or role play?This is very much the argument from the man's side. And we need to be aware of male perception of marriage divorce. But if we are going to discuss marriage in terms of potential loss - let me throw this hypothetical at you: At 24 I settled down with my husband. I traded my youth and fertility and companionship for his companionship and support. He made the decision that my youth and fertility, though temporary, were worth a lifetime commitment. He stays with me long enough to "use up" both and t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/20 08:01 PM |
| 3 | True submission or role play?I'm not suggesting it as pettiness. I think that these small issues build up and that is why a lot of people feel their relationships are unequal. If cooking and cleaning is your realm, I'd be helping you by cooking dinner tonight or cleaning the toilets today. If earning the money is my realm, you'd be helping me if you got a job. Household chores and work should be considered separately in a dual income household. (Assumption: two full time incomes). "Helping" implies that you can choose to do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/20 05:51 PM |
| 7 | True submission or role play?"my idea of marriage is correct and how dare you even question me or suggest that many men won't buy into my fantasy" When a single woman has Disney ideas of relationships, those ideas should be called out. Beyond that, the rules of the relationship are dictated by the people in the relationship. Without knowing the individuals in a couple, we can only ever give rules of thumb and generalizations. We can speak from experience but my idea of balance in a relationship may be completely different f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/20 02:30 PM |
| 25 | True submission or role play?What is the meaning and purpose of marriage in the era of feminism? The RPW answer to most relationship questions: It is what the couple decides it is (or some variation of that). To me, it is two people both submissive to and responsible for the relationship/family unit. We do not live in an era where men work the land, women cook and can and children are taught to follow in their parents foot steps. I earn an income. He knows how to make his own meals. I can shoot. He can formula feed a baby. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/20 10:39 PM |
| 2 | What do you ladies do to encourage your man to feel comfortable being vulnerable?Sure. Buuuuut... Two important points--he's your husband so you already see him as a respectable masculine attractive man. He has a track record of calming you and being the strong one. Once in awhile it's nice to take his burden. His leaning on you doesn't change him because you are a team and because he has a solid track record. And - when he is leaning on you and you are comforting him, do you want to have sex with him? Typically, flipping on the 'compassion' switch flips off the 'sexual attr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/20 11:31 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend left me :(Yes but exceptions and rules and all that. It's not typical that distance works out. Not only that, this guy isn't really saying he wants to continue the relationship. Trying to make long distance work in this situation would just be delaying a break up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/20 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Mood Management- dealing with depression when leaving SOIs it possible that this is more about the mini get away you have on the weekends than it is about your SO? If you are busy all week and not taking time for yourself and your time away becomes an oasis in the middle of the craziness - then the depression at the end may have less to do with leaving him and more to do with stress at returning to life. Your schedule dictates what you are able to do but perhaps you can find some time during the week to have a little more down time for yourself. OR D… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/20 03:50 PM |
| 8 | What do you ladies do to encourage your man to feel comfortable being vulnerable?I hate when they do that. Plus it's such a vague question and it's unclear to me that she even knows what she wants. I don't believe that women will leave after a man shows vulnerability/cries/is emotional in all situations. I do think that in order for it to not change the way she views him, he has to have a solid track record of masculine behavior behind him...and it's never sexy. So what's the reason for seeking vulnerability? Because you don't know that you will find him less appealing (for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/20 03:19 PM |
| 20 | What do you ladies do to encourage your man to feel comfortable being vulnerable?What do you mean by 'vulnerable' and what is your hoped for result? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/20 01:08 AM |
| 4 | So I know TRP desires women with low N-counts, having supposedly high N-counts themselves, but do any of you also prefer men with low N-counts?I wanted a man who had enough experience that he was ready to leave that part of life behind. It's also nice to have a guy who is confident leading in the bedroom. I believe that low n men have a harder time resisting temptation (at least when we were dating age). | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 09:36 PM |
| 13 | Seeking help for a sensitive problem between my fiancé and IBefore anything, you should fix this problem before you get married. Young marriages have a high divorce rate. You don't want to be a statistic. You do that by making sure you have no doubts. Sex and money destroy many marriages and both are tied up in this issue. Now, I think the only course open to you is the "bring him your problems". First tell him that you want to discuss the issue and when would be convenient for him. Men don't process information the way that we do and you will have a mor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 02:41 PM |
| 18 | Seeking help for a sensitive problem between my fiancé and IYou may need to consider that this makes you incompatible. One of you is going to have to not get what you want and he seems very firm in his position. What have you said to him about this? Being turned down is discouraging and sex is important. It's important for relationships and it's a big way that men connect and express love in a relationship. That doesn't mean that you are required to be a sex doll for him. However, a steady stream of sex with the woman he loves is a big reason that a man … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 01:12 AM |
| 2 | Contracted STI in a LTRI tend to agree with you that he's lying. Not even because he wouldn't let her see the results but because "it's ok, I forgive you in advance" is a very atypical response from a non-guilty partner. Especially one who is "so principled he would not cheat on morals alone". But I was curious because a lot of people are harping on her seeing the results. It seemed to me that if she has it, he should have it. If she got it from a toilet seat (not possible, just saying) then he should still have it. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/20 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Contracted STI in a LTRSo, is it even possible (probable) that he would be negative for said STI if she was positive for it? I'm assuming of course that they had unprotected sex... But his negative results don't make sense to me, even if she was the one who cheated (which we trust her word that she's not). | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/20 09:20 PM |
| 5 | What are our thoughts on sugar babies/sugar daddies?These relationships are unlikely to turn into a lifetime commitment. Even though you differentiate them from prostitution, there are a good many men who will not. It will lower your value in the eyes of future prospects. If you concern is that men in your age range are not mature enough to date, then date older. You can be interested in older men without it being a sugar relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/20 08:12 PM |
| 5 | Submission is a giftThe OP is talking about submission being given over time and people are objecting as though it should be given fully and completely at once. Ideally, it should be given over time, bit by bit as part of the vetting process. You don't defer to a man because of his genitalia. We see women here who become submissive to men on an instinctual level even if he's not the right man. We also see women who are asking "how should I be submissive to my two month old LDR (not making this up). And of course th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/20 06:07 PM |
| 3 | Submission is a giftRight. There were times early in our relationship when I fought against my husbands judgment. Against an argumentative girlfriend he would usually tell me 'this is what I'm doing' and I could follow or leave. The idea that I needed to give him a reason to lead is laughable. All I had to do was get out of my own way. With or without me, he had his path. If a woman has a masculine man then she can get out of the way and allow him to lead. If she has a true 'egalitarian above all' then it is simply… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/20 03:23 AM |
| 6 | Submission is a giftSubmission is tied is with respect and dominance. It is necessary to have something to submit to, it does not happen in a vacuum. It is simply not possible to submit for the act of it alone. You don't respect someone for merely existing and you don't offer submission on the basis of gender or relationship status. Perhaps if one is religious they can find it within their beliefs to submit to the 'role' of husband if the man is lacking but for most modern western women that is not reality. Just as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/20 03:08 AM |
| 1 | Should I tell his girlfriend he was talking to me and lied that him and her weren’t together?Ok | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/20 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Should I tell his girlfriend he was talking to me and lied that him and her weren’t together?But the OP let him get away with bad behavior by constantly making plans after he broke them. He was shady and treating her like crap from go. She allowed him to walk all over her but she isn't reflecting on the red flags or her own willingness to let him treat her badly. She immediately dumped it all on the girlfriend so she could feel better about being rejected. Now that she passed the misery to another woman she probably still won't self reflect. She should have gotten her own house in order… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/20 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell his girlfriend he was talking to me and lied that him and her weren’t together?I'm not sure everyone wants to know. Growing up my neighbor (late 30s at the time) said that as long as she didn't find out and the paychecks kept coming home to her and the kids she didn't care what her husband did. Is be annoyed if I had to deal with some crazy woman throwing a mild flirtation with my husband in my face, particularly if nothing had actually happened. You are also making the assumption that she doesn't know. And also, I said that the OP should have at least calmed down and done… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/20 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell his girlfriend he was talking to me and lied that him and her weren’t together?And his past actions show he was a liar and unlikely to follow through. He liked that he could get your attention but it sounds like he didn't actually have an interest in cheating on his gf. Honestly if you continued to believe him then your self respect needs a check up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/20 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell his girlfriend he was talking to me and lied that him and her weren’t together?Are you 15? She's not worried about any girl code and she doesn't know this woman. If nothing physical happened no one's health is at stake. It wasnt even an emotional relationship, he kept blowing her off. She's acting out of pettiness over being blown off by this guy. That's not girl code its immaturity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/20 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Should I tell his girlfriend he was talking to me and lied that him and her weren’t together?So he didn't even cheat on her he was just seeking female validation online? You need to start considering your own behavior. All you are doing is talking about how bad he is and why it's OK for you to make mistakes. Mistakes are not OK or they would not be mistakes. However you can self reflect and learn from mistakes so you do not repeat them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/20 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell his girlfriend he was talking to me and lied that him and her weren’t together?Nothing you are saying makes this sound any more mature or level headed. Where are you taking responsibility for your own choices? You kept going back to a guy who blew you off. He's a bad boyfriend, undoubtedly, but you are letting your hurt emotions run your behavior. You could have cut him off after the first time he blew you off. You could have told him that he's not worth your time after he contacted you again. You could have acted with a little more grace and compassion when you told his g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/20 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell his girlfriend he was talking to me and lied that him and her weren’t together?You aren't telling her out of the good of your heart, you want to tell her to spite him, thats small. You gave him too many chances, put on your big girl pants, deal with your feelings and move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/20 08:09 PM |
| 19 | A Valentine’s Day ReminderEw. Your entitlement is such that not only do you require your man to give you a gift but you dictate what other men do with their wives in order to be considered "red pilled". :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/20 01:15 AM |
| 3 | Submission is a giftYes, I've experienced first hand on two separate occasions men who apologized for their gender / being male. They would both call themselves 'feminist' or 'allies'. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/20 08:46 PM |
| 9 | Experience: Traditional roles in household emergencyI don't think this has to be seen through the lens of traditional roles. You could be the level headed breadwinner in the family and I think your approach to this situation was still a great way to handle it. By standing back and moving everyone out of the way, you showed your husband that you trusted him to solve the problem and you gave him space to do that. It was a demonstration of respect. He was able to save the day for his family and what man does not want to flex his alpha-protector-musc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/20 02:33 PM |
| 2 | Question for/about menSo much of TRP is intended to break men of their idealized view of women that it can only be applied in generalizations. The flow of love from men down to puppies teaches them that their girlfrieds aren't going to love them the way their mothers loved them... Which is true - to an extent. We don't give them protective love and romantic love (sex.) One is for children the other is for husbands. Being motherly puts no woman in the mood. However what TRP doesn't teach (because they are trying to br… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/20 07:54 PM |
| 4 | This personals post caused me to be banned from 3 different subreddits r/fadating, r/r4r, and r/femdompersonals. Can anyone analyse what I did wrong? (Got a lot of messages telling me that I seemed abusive too.)Oh well, I'm evil so I can't help you anymore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 08:26 PM |
| 4 | This personals post caused me to be banned from 3 different subreddits r/fadating, r/r4r, and r/femdompersonals. Can anyone analyse what I did wrong? (Got a lot of messages telling me that I seemed abusive too.)We couldn't say why the other subs banned you. You could ask their moderators to explain what you did wrong. However, as a personal ad this is a mess. You are talking all about yourself and what you want without any real sense of what the guy gets out of dating you. I'd run screaming for the hills if I was a guy reading this. This is what I see: I want to start living life as soon as possible I don't have a life right now and depend on another to give me one I envision my life with my best frien… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 03:29 PM |
| 8 | Guy keeps pursing and is obsessed with me, yet he has a GFIt sounds like you have an unhealthy need for drama and attention based on your post history and your need to post on every related sub. The girl who is writing these posts is not fit to be anyone's long term girlfriend. You need to learn some self respect and emotional stability before you attempt dating. Otherwise you will continue repeating the same patterns. Stealing this guy away from his gf won't make you feel better about being a side piece for the last guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 12:44 AM |
| 7 | Guy keeps pursing and is obsessed with me, yet he has a GFWhy are you on RPW OP? You've already posted on several other relationship subs which makes me think you are looking for a specific answer rather than genuine advice which is a waste of everyone's time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 12:33 AM |
| 10 | Managing finances together vs separatelyIf you don't live together then there is absolutely no reason to share finances. If you live together then you find a way to handle the joint bills. When my husband and I were living together before we were married, we each had bills we took care of and then we rotated who paid for groceries. You shouldn't' combine your finances fully at this stage because there is no legal recourse. You are vetting until you are married and living together is a good way to see how he handles his money (and for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:19 PM |
| 3 | I want a re-doAlso, I think the longer you spend on your own the harder it is to make the compromises necessary to be in a long term live in relationship. You get too used to doing your own thing without answering to another person. A string of shorter "long term relationships" is a potential sign that a man doesn't know how to keep a relationship going. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:10 PM |
| 7 | This 1955 ‘Good House Wife’s Guide’ Explains How Wives Should Treat Their HusbandsI agree. The list seems as thought it was written so that women can say "look how much better things are now that we're equal". With some tweaks, it's decent advice but as written it's almost certainly not meant to be taken genuinely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 04:36 PM |
| 5 | How many men can afford a stay at home wife?This is naive. Your expectation is to have a full time mom, housewife and business owner. It would be less work to daycare the kids and go to a job. This is particularly true when kids are young. You will end up with someone who is either mediocre in all areas or great in one and dropping the ball in others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/20 01:53 PM |
| 6 | NFP impact on sex life?I think if you are using NFP you have to be ready to have a baby if it doesn't work. That said, I was off the pill for over a year before we tried to conceive. I used temping (in conjunction with an app) and had a very very regular cycle. I was taking a chasteberry supplement which I think helped the regularity. Also, right before we TTC I got the Ava bracelet which was so much better than taking my temperature every day. A few months of data might help you find a shorter no-go window. Through t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 02:14 PM |
| 13 | I’m(19f) so scared that I’ve been too promiscuousIt's a bigger concern that this 'scares' you. I hope you are simply seeking validation. If not, then you got a little bit of information, misinterpreted it in the worst possible light and are letting it upset you. That's not a healthy control over your emotional state and that will be a bigger problem for relationships than your sexual past. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 01:01 PM |
| 2 | Should I drop my education for him?If your ex couldn't finish the first time and struggled the second time, perhaps there are issues beyond 'momentum'. If we are advising through anecdotes, my mother and I both completed our education later. I changed majors and had a much easier time when I was studying something that I felt had a purpose. My mom had all her kids first and completed college when I was in HS. It's hard or easy at any time depending on your goals and temperament. Your gf was not suited to college. And a woman does… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 12:01 PM |
| 2 | Biting your tongue - a lifesaverSure it would have been nice if he gave her a heads up but he's sick. I had pneumonia over Christmas and I can surely say that basic courtesy was the last thing on my mind. I'm not entirely sure I remembered to feed the baby regularly. I think it's pretty normal to get a little selfish and self centered when you are sick. OP can make note of this and decide if she wants to deal with him being this way when he's sick for the rest of their lives (though I think she'd be hard pressed to find a man … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/20 09:15 PM |
| 3 | Are there really men who don’t cheat or who strive not to?I'm not sure that every woman is seeking a leader. Most woman may be happiest allowing a man to lead but so many are taught to be their own leader, or seek an egalitarian relationship, or to not need a man. That aside... Matched values and goals are key. Not all men are good men (ditto women) but I think if you find a good guy who shares your values and then get out of his way, a solid number of men are capable of being a good head of the family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/20 12:39 AM |
| 6 | Are there really men who don’t cheat or who strive not to?I look around me and see plenty of men trying their best to be good husbands and fathers. I also think that many men grow out of the 'sowing their wild oats' phase. A man at 20 is not necessarily the same man at 35. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/20 10:32 PM |
| 8 | Are there really men who don’t cheat or who strive not to?It's sad that you think so little of men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/20 02:45 PM |
| 9 | Realizing how truly annoying I amYou appear to be blaming the problem on her SO and I disagree that this is the issue. Sometimes it's necessary for a woman to give the man space to do it his way. It's not his fault if she cannot take that step back and recognize her way is not the only way. Men know what women need, women know what men want If this were true TRP, RPW and all of the relationship advice subs would not exist. Women would not share their troubles with their husband's, fathers would not pass on wisdom to their sons … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 05:39 PM |
| 2 | How is sex after waiting till marriage?That is an assumption you could make if you want to keep rationalizing your advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 05:31 PM |
| 3 | How is sex after waiting till marriage?It shouldn't make a difference if you gain experience in the marriage or without, you are still gaining experience. Sexual relationships can grow whether you started out as a virgin or not. This is a total rationalization on your part and weak advice for the OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 12:47 PM |
| 10 | Realizing how truly annoying I amOften the desire to nag stems from difficulty ceding control and has little to do with the particular man. You are trying to interpret a woman's behavior without being inside a woman's mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 12:40 PM |
| 2 | Is it disrespectful to ask a man to be careful?Not everyone wants their SO to know where they are every minute of the day. You are giving up a lot of privacy with that app. I'd also think that its a lot less useful for a hunting trip where he'd be sitting in one place for an extended period of time. It was just an example of what we do. It's not for everyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 01:25 AM |
| 2 | Is it disrespectful to ask a man to be careful?I don't think it puts him in a bad light. Men just think different...and they don't always understand us either. Good luck | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 01:22 AM |
| 4 | Is it disrespectful to ask a man to be careful?Have you tried the "take the man your problem" strategy? Tell him that you worry when you don't hear from him for these long stretches and see what he suggests. That's the RPW answer at any rate. You could also go for vulnerability and tell him you trust him but your anxiety gets the best of you and would he mind if you text him / could he shoot you a mesage. Sometimes the direct approach works well for me. 'I would appreciate/love if you would...' I think we sometimes bend over backwards on RPW… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 12:13 AM |
| 3 | Is it disrespectful to ask a man to be careful?That's because 'how not to worry' is difficult if you are a worrier and different for different situations. It's not rational so you can tell yourself he's safe all you want but that doesn't always help. Which, you should definitely still tell yourself he's safe because that's better info to feed your brain than all the what ifs. I worry when husband is out alone on his motorcycle. One of the ways we mitigate this is with the Life360 app. I can at least see that he's moving so less stress. That … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 11:30 PM |
| 2 | How do I appear happier?And you know this from your experience as a wife and mother? As a former feminist woman? As a woman? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/20 06:02 PM |
| 2 | How does the concept of poly armory fit around the concept of RPW?Yes it does sound awful. I didn't agree to a marriage with another woman involved. It's not my problem that other women cannot find a man. Also RP is not religious, take that justification to another sub. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/20 01:33 AM |
| 1 | Book Recommendations?I don't know. Helen Andelin appears to be a real person. Disagreeing with her premise doesn't make her a man. I haven't read FW so I can't defend it and I imagine Helen Andelin is a product of her time and faith. If you have more than your own assumptions I'd be interested to know but it sounds like you disagree with the book so you think it must be a man writing and that's... weird. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 03:30 AM |
| 6 | What do you get for someone who doesn’t want anything?Why did her relationship matter here? If your guy says that he didn't want anything, respect him enough to believe him. Edit: and why does your mother have anything to do with it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Book Recommendations?What makes you say that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Do any of you worry about the future of male and female relationship?I understand, I just don't think we can say what direction sexbots will go. I'm not against them, I just have my doubts that it will with out the way I've seen predicted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Do any of you worry about the future of male and female relationship?Perhaps, but certainly not initially. Also, TVs have been around for a lot longer than 10 years. I'd have to really look at pricing but I believe that it didn't decrease until it was a widely adopted technology. Plasma tvs were an upgrade on an already existing technology, so people weren't adopting something new per se. My intuition is that sex dolls will be expensive for a while. I think $10k is a really optimist figure at the onset and I'll be surprised if it drops to that figure quickly. Hel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Do any of you worry about the future of male and female relationship?Real Dolls are like $5k so I think you are seriously underestimating what sexbots will cost. They are likely to be a luxury item for quite some time and out of reach for the average man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 01:53 PM |
| 3 | Questions about STFU, boundaries, when to speak up, anxiety etc?I don't disagree with anything you wrote. I just think the fact that it's been on going and she's still looking for answers adds...context. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/19 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Questions about STFU, boundaries, when to speak up, anxiety etc?Strongly recommend you take a glance through her post history if you haven't already. He doesn't think his mother is a problem and it's been an issue for quite some time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/19 07:54 PM |
| 3 | Questions about STFU, boundaries, when to speak up, anxiety etc?I see a lot of posts in JustNoSO, JustNOMIL and here - all about the problems with your BF and his mother. Have you found a solution yet? I don't think there is one. You can accept that his mother is the final authority or you can move on. Do you want this to be your MIL? It's ok to recognize that your temperament does not work with certain people. You need to learn to assert yourself and form boundaries. BUT if you are a generally submissive woman, then you will probably never get to the point … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/19 07:43 PM |
| 3 | How does the concept of poly armory fit around the concept of RPW?Poly relationships can use RP ideas and there is no contradiction. The problem is when people confuse RP and trad con or when you chose to widen out from an individual relationship to what is good for society. What is good for society might be it's own red pill but it's not RPW or TRP. Usually though, RP would say that a woman being poly is questionable because hypergamy is ultimately monogamous. A woman will tend to be all in with the best guy she can find and opening up a relationship will cau… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/19 02:40 PM |
| 4 | The Consequences of PornographyI’m telling women that they have no standing to object to it. You are on the wrong sub for this but I'll play. What do most men bring to the table today? The majority of women work, so you aren't filling a provider role. We are fairly safe, it's not really necessary to take a man with us to be protected when we go to the grocery store. Validation can be had through social media. A one night stand could get me a baby and my family could help raise it. I'll know it's mine because I'm a woman. Wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Is this all in my [21F] head or something else [22M]?So the 12+ years and legal documents obviously mean nothing if it started casually. And my advice should be ignored because I clearly don't know how to nail down a man. Nice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 01:17 PM |
| 7 | Is this all in my [21F] head or something else [22M]?I'm not going to tell you if I think it's hopeless or not. I know snippets of a situation from your perspective over the internet. I have only what you show us. I think that you are showing us a hopeless situation which is very interesting. It's obviously not your intention because you desperately want us to tell you that it's ok. I also think you are naive if you think he's not doing it intentionally. Either he's a really intelligent guy who knows what he wants and knows how to lead and be a Do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 11:05 PM |
| 4 | The Consequences of PornographyNo, what I said was weakness is the idea that women must do something in order for men to stop porn use. If you want to keep watching porn, you go right ahead. There are some draw backs to doing so but if you decide that you are ok with them, then that's not really my problem or my concern. A whole bunch of the men here are acting as though they could not possibly stop consuming porn unless women do something to change. I call that weakness. That is saying that even if you wanted to stop you hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 10:29 PM |
| 4 | Is this all in my [21F] head or something else [22M]?This guy is brilliant. By telling you that you are not good enough for him, he's caused you to jump through hoops to prove that you are and can be and you have completely stopped judging whether he is good enough for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 09:59 PM |
| 6 | Choosing between two men: it has never been harderIf you can't decide between either then neither is right for you. It should be "Hell Yes" or "no" and it sounds like both are "no" | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 03:07 PM |
| 11 | Is there hope?The upside of living in a liberal place is that marriages tend to happen later. So the fact that you are 27 and unmarried is going to be less of an issue. You definitely need to work on friends and a life that makes you happy. If you aren't able to be content alone, you are more likely to settle for any man who crosses your path. It sort of sounds like your head knows what to do you just have to pull the trigger on the relationship and start doing things for yourself. And who knows, maybe breaki… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 03:06 PM |
| 6 | The Consequences of PornographyI find the blaming of women that is going on all over this thread to be fascinating and a little distressing. The men who are on the porn soapbox are writing the feminists script for them. I agree that women need to take more care with their sexuality - for our own benefit if nothing else, which is why I post on RPW. When did men become so weak that they cannot be expected to control themselves? When did that weakness become an acceptable excuse. There are so many men on a sub about male led rel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 02:57 PM |
| 3 | The Consequences of PornographyThis was just discussed a week or two ago on the sub. If you actually look at the graphs in the comic, you can see that happiness for men and women has been on the decline for some time. Whether there is a correlation with porn I cannot say but over the period of time that porn has become more accessible, reported levels of happiness have declined. /u/Guywithgirlwithabike & /u/SunFlowerKnight83 | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 02:44 PM |
| 2 | The Consequences of PornographyConsider the possibility that some of the women in porn are groomed from a young age and others are trafficked. You want it to be cut and dried so you can say "woe is me" but there is a lot of misery to go around. Also, since you brought up the issue of alcohol. Traffic deaths due to drunk driving were at a peak in the 50's and 60's. Setting laws against drunk driving along with changing social mores has seen those numbers lowered over the years. Is it still a problem? Yes. Is it better than it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 02:36 PM |
| 5 | The Consequences of PornographyThe hamstering is all over the place. Some say that we need porn because women are baring themselves all over the internet so what a girlfriend offers is worthless and others are saying that without porn we will go back to rape in the streets. It's a bunch of men saying "if you don't give us our porn, it's going to be really bad for you". In actuality, few people are calling for prohibition on porn. Instead we're talking about how men who over indulge are men to stay away from. Keep your porn so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 02:27 PM |
| 2 | The Consequences of PornographyI do not mock. I've spoken straightforwardly to in this entire exchange. The quote was originally at the top of this sub when it formed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 07:29 PM |
| 2 | The Consequences of PornographyNever said I was better than anyone else. Never said I slut shamed. Discussing negative aspects of a topic is not shaming anyone. To believe otherwise is a very blue pill way of thinking. Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 05:59 PM |
| 3 | The Consequences of PornographyCan. Risks. Probabilities. With people nothing is 100%. Knowing potential problems allows you to better mitigate. I don't think I've griped. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 05:40 PM |
| 4 | The Consequences of PornographyAnd just how does it accomplish that? Sex is now the expectation in a relationship. Not only that, it is the expectation in a small time window. There is a supply and demand thing going on. If women withheld sex until engagement, that would be the expectation. Commitment would be more likely and quicker because men want sex. If the majority of women will have sex easily, either quickly or just generally without the promise of any long term commitment - engagement time lines can stretch. Plus you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 12:04 AM |
| 5 | The Consequences of PornographyDo you believe this double standard exists. I think that calling it a double standard is inaccurate. I think that what you describe occurs. I think it occurs because we have different preferences in our mates. Also because it's in women's best interest as a group to slut shame other woman and keep the value of sex high. That's not particularly germane to the conversation though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 10:02 PM |
| 6 | The Consequences of PornographyPerhaps you could clarify? My husband finds it entertaining when I am cold and logical. It is certainly his preference that I am warm and vulnerable with him but the fact that I can have discussions sans emotion with him seems to have some appeal. I'm also pretty sure he gets turned on if I'm a bitch to somebody or come out on top in a debate. He's a weirdo like that but we work well together. It is an example of a double standard that has existed for a long ass time....Do you agree that this st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 09:12 PM |
| 6 | The Consequences of PornographyI don't love the whataboutism of saying that in order to discuss porn we have to discuss social media. I agree with you that social media is a problem. I'm not a fan, I don't use it much myself (reddit being a glaringly obvious exception) and I intend to treat it as a potentially addictive vice as the baby grows old enough to learn about it. I think RPW agrees that social media is a problem as well. I've only ever seen posts on why you should get off of social media around here. But they are sep… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 08:06 PM |
| 6 | The Consequences of PornographyPerhaps she should have. That doesn't give an excuse for a knee jerk reaction from someone who has never commented here before. I think that there is a dividing line somewhere around our age range where we didn't grow up with internet porn at our finger tips. There is less risk of addiction and tolerance and all the problems we hear about. For those cases, yeah if a man doesn't need to escape the relationship, he has no reason to turn to porn. But I'm not so sure that is the case for the younger… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 07:38 PM |
| 7 | The Consequences of PornographyI could not really care less about that. Not vain. You say this but you are describing all your qualities here and using them as a defense of pornography. Perhaps it's not your intention but it very much reads as emotional and offended. Now you are a victim of the slippery slope fallacy. And the answer I have is this - you have managed to reduce dating and marriage to a cold blooded calculation. I'm speaking about probabilities of issues arising. I didn't say that some one starting pot or porn a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 07:32 PM |
| 4 | The Consequences of PornographyEvery vice comes with some amount of risk. People, men and women, must determine how much risk they are willing to accept in their partner. Extreme levels of purity (lack of vice) will decrease your pool of acceptable mates but lower the risks once you have found one. A more permissive attitude means that you accept the potential risk down the road. With porn, as a for instance, if I accept that my partner watches porn when we are dating (and I did) then I cannot be surprised if he reaches for i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 06:55 PM |
| 7 | The Consequences of PornographyI'd say it's more disturbing to me how defensive people get of their porn habits, than it is to come out against something that's proven to have such a negative effect on society. I've noticed that this happens in many areas, not just porn. We want our vices to be not just manageable but completely harmless and we must have universal buy in. You see it when n-count comes up. It's not sufficient for most higher n ladies to say: "there are some real risks with promiscuity but I ended up being ok".… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 04:37 PM |
| 16 | We're eloping next week!Congratulations!!!!! My husband and I eloped. We'd been together and lived together for about 5 years at the time and being married (to him) was more important to me than getting married. That said, we still kept a lot of the trappings. Elopements are a surprisingly (or maybe not) big business if you allow it. We took four friends with us up to a B&B and had a small ceremony (performed by one of said friends) and went to dinner. If you haven't (and are able), get a new dress and maybe flowers. G… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 01:48 PM |
| 6 | The Consequences of PornographyThe OP is in part addressing the fact that kids start watching in their preteens. Should we assign every 11 year old boy an 11 year old girl to help him with his sexual urges? Come on. Read the post before you go on the defensive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 12:39 PM |
| 18 | The Consequences of PornographyThis comment sounds like you didn't read the post at all. Check out some of the comments. Just because it's OK for you doesn't mean that it's OK for everyone. Some people are prescribed oxycontin, that doesn't make it not addictive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 12:35 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on this subreddit?There is no benefit to RPW gossiping about other subs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 10:10 PM |
| 2 | Balancing it allMy husband's virtue signaling on my behalf should be taken as nothing more than an indication that he wears strong wife goggles. So put aside what he says because I was not trying to make the point that you should do it all or that I do it all. And To answer your question: I do not have a nanny and it's got nothing to do with money. It is my personal value that I wish to be there and in my absence, family. It is not something I push for others one way or the other. I believe everyone should make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/19 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Balancing it allI'm a financial planner by trade so I am simply speaking to what I see across many people's budgets. Some can do it but not everyone. Personal services are much more ubiquitous as people are older as their incomes grow than in younger crowds with young children. It's nice if you can do it but usually those who can, are already. 'Delegate delegate delegate' isn't a magic spell that makes it possible. It's also the least amount of explanation in a piece of advice that I've seen come from a woman. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 11:36 PM |
| 4 | Balancing it allYou are very free with spending OP and her husband's money. It's not a crime to get help and if they have the cash to support it, that's great. But I asked if you had experience with a husband and kids because budgeting with someone can be completely different than budgeting on your own. You say delegate like it's a simple thing but often it's not. I've seen you give advice before that you shouldn't marry a man unless he has servants for you (paraphrasing) so forgive me if I think your delegatio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 09:26 PM |
| 15 | What are your best solutions to late replies?You keep saying that you want RPW advice and then pushing back when it's given. Casual relationships are not really RPW's strong suit. If the relationship is casual then just accept the apology and move on. There isn't any special statement you are going to make that will result in him saying "oh my, this woman is so chill that I must be more attentive to her". There aren't opportunities in a casual long distance relationship to show the guy that you are worth pursuing further and he doesn't see… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 01:38 PM |
| 2 | Balancing it allHow and to who. Naive answer. Do you have any experience in this area? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 12:44 PM |
| 5 | I Cheated on my boyfriend but he still wants meI'd really love to get an outsider's perspective and see if we do have a future together. Is this all you are looking for? No, you do not. Or do you actually want advice about how to get your life and relationships on track. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 02:08 AM |
| 4 | He Doesn't Want To Pay..?I went to a NJ college circa 2000. In a gender studies class there (Gender and Culture I believe) we talked about chivalry and how putting women on a pedestal is infantalizing - a way of viewing women as second class and in need of help from men. Then the prof went on to say 'but what do we do if we like it' ... a statement that she left hanging and we never discussed or answered in a real way. So I'm sure there are diehard gender studies students who take that idea (chivalry is infantalizing) a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 01:50 AM |
| 6 | Should i have kids first and then my career???I dunno, my husband and I did not rush to have kids and if I could go back, I'd have done it sooner. It's hard on the body and I think harder because I'm older. Plus now there is a time pressure to have them closer together which is a logistical nightmare. I can think of solid reasons to have them sooner rather than later. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/19 02:12 AM |
| 3 | What makes a man see a woman only as "fun night" material?And it is possible for a woman to cheat on her husband without having another man's child. Since a woman's choice in mate is partially resource dependent, there is no splitting hairs about which resources. Woman chooses man with X resources. If man suddenly has X-1 resources then he would not have been chosen. So he is breaking the agreement when he uses his resources on another woman. With every new mistress, I risk my cave man finding one that he is more invested in and pulling his resources a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/19 01:02 AM |
| 4 | What makes a man see a woman only as "fun night" material?However, when you look at marriage from the utilitarian perspective that is innate Human Nature, then you are wrong. Because, the purpose of marriage is for the protection and provision of the woman Actually from a utilitarian perspective male cheating, emotional or physical, is a risk to the marriage/union/family. It is often the case with cheating, particularly something long term and emotionally based, that provisions will be diverted from the wife & children to the mistress. It is also the c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/19 11:15 PM |
| 4 | As FEMINISM goes up, women's happiness goes down. What ever could it mean?I don't know what the alternative is on a societal level. Individually we could make choices to have less stuff but I personally like my stuff and I like having money that is "mine" (and not worrying about my husband's money that is "his"). Eventually thought somethings got to give. I just finished working for the day because I'm "lucky" enough to take my baby to work with me. Unfortunately the trade off for not having to day care (and not losing one income) is working at the kitchen table til 8… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/19 01:24 AM |
| 2 | If female hypergamy is a thing, why did I choose him?I think it depends on the man and is not automatically feminine. But maybe that's just me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/19 01:14 AM |
| 1 | As FEMINISM goes up, women's happiness goes down. What ever could it mean?As a rule I don't go to that sub. But I imagine that's what triggered the top comment in this chain. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/19 10:44 PM |
| 4 | If female hypergamy is a thing, why did I choose him?I'm not sure where you got that from my comment. Long hair or not is a preference. It's not innately feminine on a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/19 10:43 PM |
| 5 | As FEMINISM goes up, women's happiness goes down. What ever could it mean?Yes but you can see that this was originally posted on mgtow | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/19 10:24 PM |
| 5 | As FEMINISM goes up, women's happiness goes down. What ever could it mean?They is the mgtow sub, unless I'm misreading the above comment | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/19 10:19 PM |
| 7 | As FEMINISM goes up, women's happiness goes down. What ever could it mean?Because overall they blame women for everything. They are not dissimilar to feminists who view men as the ultimate problem in the world. They are entitled to their space and their frustration but it varies from unattractive to pitiful from a woman's perspective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/19 10:12 PM |
| 2 | As FEMINISM goes up, women's happiness goes down. What ever could it mean?And it's sad that they need to spin it because if our sense of well being is on the decline - it's worth looking at solutions. The obvious solution as the comic is written is in its initial panels: "in spite of" the progress women's happiness is declining. Correlation not causation and all that but it's willful ignorance to not consider that the progress itself may be the issue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/19 10:08 PM |
| 5 | As FEMINISM goes up, women's happiness goes down. What ever could it mean?Women in the work force depressed wages making it harder for men to bring home a salary that was sufficient. In the meantime, housing prices skyrocket and college becomes a barrier to entry into the workforce with student debt that hangs over many young people for a decade or more. Add in the dopamine hit of the Amazon man bringing boxes to your door every other day and we are just in a vicious cycle of unhappiness dotted with shiny new stuff we don't need. Yay | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/19 10:04 PM |
| 6 | As FEMINISM goes up, women's happiness goes down. What ever could it mean?You are assuming that the course we are on is the correct one. It's not definitely the case that women are unhappy because men haven't picked up enough slack. Maybe women are unhappy because they aren't wired for 9 to 5 work. Maybe because they are leaving babies at home to go to the office. Maybe because we compare ourselves to what we see on TV and social media. Let's have a better idea of the cause before we try to change men. We might not like feminized men doing dishes and raising the baby. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/19 09:58 PM |
| 58 | If female hypergamy is a thing, why did I choose him?Hypergamy – The instinctual urge for women to seek out the best alpha available. This is marked by maximizing rejection (therefore women are the selective gender). A woman will vet her alpha through various shit tests to ensure his "health" on the alpha scale. She is conditioned to recognize a declining alpha, as hypergamy also tends to continue seeking out higher status males even while with an alpha male... I'm inclined to agree with /u/_your_cat_is_ugly that there is more going on than hyperg… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/19 04:00 PM |
| 15 | As FEMINISM goes up, women's happiness goes down. What ever could it mean?I realize that the comic is about women's progress vs our decreased life satisfaction but the graph shows that both men and women have decreased life satisfaction over the time period. Further, in the mid 90s there is an inflection point and well being begins to rise. The author of the comic hand waves that away because a. there are no recent data (according to her) and b. it still reflects an overall decline from the 70s. I think the comic is intended to show that we still have more strides to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/19 02:13 PM |
| 41 | How to avoid becoming an alpha widow?Dating when you have no self respect is a recipe for failure. So first of all, you need to assess your own strengths and weaknesses and then begin to work on your weaknesses. You should feel confident that you have things to offer a man so that you seek a man who has things to offer you. Did this guy ask you out or are we just talking about sex. If he asked you out and wants an exclusive relationship then he does not view you as low value. However if you believe you are trash and you let that ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/19 02:29 AM |
| 3 | Rant: Being an Alpha Widow is not cool or interestingYou don't have to be low value prior but being an alpha widow is low value. It's not an emotionally healthy state to be in. Further, it's an indication that you are lower value than the men you desire and that should be a push to work on yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/19 12:27 AM |
| 4 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?Not as far as RPW is concerned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?I'm not sure why it was necessary to throw shade at the president to make your point. There are likely some men who do well enough with women and don't think about it too hard. For the most part though, I suspect that if a man dates/sleeps with enough women (and I do not know what 'enough' is) he will be exposed to women's nature and figure out some RP truths. Definitely if he has half a brain in his head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 12:49 AM |
| 3 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?No no, I insist, I'm the one that's wrong :-P Seriously though, I doubt it's entirely coincidence. Maybe the types of people you associate with but you've still (anecdotally) proving that my assertion that you don't meet these men in real life isn't accurate. I still think that it's more an idea that trickles around here (RPW don't date TRP) because of how we worry it looks to other people. But maybe that's just because to me it's obvious that an RPW and an anger phase TRP plate spinner are not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 12:45 AM |
| 49 | Rant: Being an Alpha Widow is not cool or interestingYes yes yes!!! This is so spot on it deserves to be part of the wiki. I'll never understand why women want to claim this title. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 12:38 AM |
| 20 | I’m alpha widowed. The guy I’m obsessed with doesn’t even respect me. I want to change that.I can't tell why you are on RPW. I can't imagine the opinion here being anything you want to hear. Men's standards for sex are much lower than their standards for a relationship. You played stupid games. Your FWB only saw you as sex. Then, for whatever reason, he didn't even see you as that any more. He pulled away. He's trying to fade out on you, probably without causing drama. It's pretty clear from this post that you are a bringer of drama. There is no outsmarting him because he doesn't care … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 12:36 AM |
| 3 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?That's interesting - I would never have assumed that it was so widespread even after how long it's been around. I'm pretty sure I'm old and that has something to do with my faulty assessment of the age of the manosphere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 08:34 PM |
| 6 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?The more experience with women a guy has, the more likely he is to have RP insights into female nature. He may never have heard about TRP but he won't think women are wonderful and put us on a pedestal. Chad doesn't need TRP because he figured out a lot of that stuff back in HS. But that's why you'll see people talking about "red pill aware men" on RPW -- or maybe that hasn't come up in a while, idk. Naturals don't need TRP - they are already aware. The ultimate goal of a TRPer is that you canno… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 07:55 PM |
| 8 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?I think that to a large degree "don't date red pill men" is a reactionary statement that has more to do with other woman than with the men there. Certainly if a guy seems more interested in spinning plates and not a long term relationship, he's a risky bet. If a man says he'll never get married, then it requires an assessment of your priorities. Guys who are in the anger phase are a no go because that would be just plain unpleasant. These things would (should) push away any sane woman anyway. Bu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 06:50 PM |
| 10 | How do you know when "boys" become "Men"?What do you mean by "played"? Texting isn't necessarily the best way to communicate. It may be that he prefers in person conversations. TRP teaches men to use text only for logistics and that is what this sounds like. Go on the date, see if you are compatible and have chemistry. Don't have sex. If the date goes well, go on another. One date isn't enough to decide anything and a lack of texting doesn't have to have some deeper meaning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Top toxic Female Dating Strategist inadvertently explains how they lose their pair bonding ability after riding the carousel.A (male) friend just noted that when discussing politics with men and women there is a noticeable difference in the import each gender gives to reaching an agreement. Men can have a loud clash of ideas and still walk away as friends with differing ideas. Women ("I don't want to generalize all women but..." he qualified), women get much more worked up and need you to agree with them. There is no backing down and agreeing to disagree is rare. The internet may (or may not) add a different dynamic b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/19 08:25 PM |
| 31 | Hiding my redpilling from my captain?Please do donate all your worldly possessions though, if you've got anything cute in my size This is why we start by telling everyone to lose weight. We want you all to be the same sizes as the ECs so we can then demand your wardrobes (the good stuff anyway). | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/19 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Top toxic Female Dating Strategist inadvertently explains how they lose their pair bonding ability after riding the carousel.I think maybe you don't belong on RPW with these goals. At any rate, we see the world too differently to have an exchange of ideas so I'll tap out here. Best of luck with your goals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/19 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Top toxic Female Dating Strategist inadvertently explains how they lose their pair bonding ability after riding the carousel.therefore should called out for the self-destructive acts that it is Perhaps However, isn't one of the rules that you don't talk about fight club? People have to be receptive to what you are saying before they will be willing to listen. Women have to be receptive to you as a person before they will even consider what you are saying. On RPW, you are preaching to the choir. You appear to be doing it with a lot of moral pearl clutching. I don't think it will accomplish much. Why should it be called… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/19 05:28 PM |
| 4 | Top toxic Female Dating Strategist inadvertently explains how they lose their pair bonding ability after riding the carousel.Women are oriented towards consensus. This is why we recommend that you consider who your friends are when working to improve your own life. These women do not believe their strategy is ineffective when they are promoting it. It's not that devious. They believe that it works for them and in the short term, it does and they seek agreement because it's in our nature to do so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/19 04:54 PM |
| 3 | DivorceI find Laura Doyle's ideas to be interesting and useful in some cases but not the be all end all. Your statement is vague which is why I asked. I'm not sure what "false surrendering" would be. IMO actions are more important than intent. If you are going through the proper actions then eventually, you become that person. People behave in a self interested way. I follow my husband because I want a happy marriage and because letting him take on the burden as the head of household is waaaay easier f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/19 07:23 PM |
| 4 | Slut shaming v slut advocating - Camille PagliaA woman should be able to wear a mini skirt without being grabbed. Yes. You are correct. And a person should be able to leave their car unlocked without being robbed. However, there is always the potential that this will happen. So your choices are to leave your car doors unlocked and wring your hands if your stuff gets taken and say we need to educate thieves not to steal ... or to lock the doors. Locking the doors isn't a guarantee because some thieve are persistent but at least by locking the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/19 07:15 PM |
| 3 | DivorceWhy not? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/19 06:24 PM |
| 4 | Slut shaming v slut advocating - Camille PagliaDid your complaints change anything? Because people who behave barely usually know that what they are doing is wrong and do it anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/19 10:54 PM |
| 5 | Slut shaming v slut advocating - Camille PagliaI don't think we should talk about 'fault'. It is obvious that the perpetrator of a crime is in the wrong. It would not be a crime otherwise. The problem is that if we start to say 'it's not his/her fault' for any crime, then we are taking steps away from smart behaviors. We should worry less about assessing blame and more about taking care of ourselves in such a way as to mitigate some of the risk. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/19 10:07 PM |
| 7 | Slut shaming v slut advocating - Camille PagliaAre you saying that certain behaviors do not have foreseeable consequences? It doesn't matter if it's fair, it matters that you make smart decisions. You don't wear a t-shirt and jeans to a job interview and complain that it's unfair you were not treated as a serious candidate. You don't wear a mini skirt to a frat party and complain that a drunk frat boy grabbed your ass. In both scenarios you make a choice knowing the potential risks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/19 07:51 PM |
| 6 | Body countDon't get too high and mighty about the reason for the downvotes. I'd say that you came into a sub full of women looking for committed LTRs and proudly proclaimed that you like women who are easy and are yourself promiscuous. Sure you threw in the bit about sticking with a woman if she's worth sticking with but from the sounds of it, you haven't, so you are just fucking your way through a lot of different women and then moving on. On the face of it, you are not the type of man an RPW will want. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/19 03:49 PM |
| 4 | Women of VirtueTRP is intentionally over the top. They are trying to break men of their innate drive to pedestalize women and. In theory, once they stop putting women on a pedestal they will be able to see and treat women as people. The rhetoric for this process is nasty though. I couldn't say whether it is effective or not but it's always reminded me of fraternity hazing: break down what you think you are and rebuild it into a new person. I'm not sure every man will make it through to the other side where the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/19 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Distance adviceI mean this post doesn't give a lot to go on. You really should rewrite it following the guidelines from the rule page. Maybe I'm wrong but you wrote so little it's hard to know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/19 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Distance adviceIf you cannot talk to your man, he has problems when drinking and he treats you like a bimbo, then yes you should probably break up with him. You should defer to him because you respect him and want to not because he's mean and you think it's safer to avoid the argument. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/19 02:16 AM |
| 1 | Distance adviceWhy are you trying to do this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/19 01:20 AM |
| 3 | Happy TalkA good deal of who I am today is a result of my husband's persistence. I gave him a foundation to work with but he also spent about a decade chipping away at my bad ideas via socratic method. He is a man who it would be difficult for me to replace - he continues to develop himself as a person and of course we grow together over time. It's easy to curb parts of your nature for a man who proves his value. That isn't meant as a knock on you, but it is my personal experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/19 12:34 AM |
| 2 | Happy Talkthis challenge falls short because the more you focus on not badmouthing your husband, Not badmouthing your husband isn't difficult. It might require reminders and catching yourself sometimes but it's not difficult. You chose to marry that man and so there should be good to fall back on even when he's being the most annoying. So yes, focusing on saying positive things about him rather than telling yourself to not say negative things is probably the better strategy if you are trying to form good … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/19 12:28 AM |
| 3 | Happy TalkGood luck!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/19 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Happy TalkI know what you mean. I find myself slipping into it when one of my friend's partners is being a butthead. Instead of seeing him as an individual man who is being a butthead, he becomes representative of all men. Oops. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/19 12:16 AM |
| 3 | Happy TalkI find this as well. I enjoy men and for the most part they treat me well or with indifference. I've had negative encounters in my life so it's not that I couldn't tell stories. A couple run ins with crappy people over the course of my life isn't a reason to paint the entire gender with the same brush - especially since I've had run ins of a different sort with women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/19 12:02 AM |
| 7 | Happy TalkI read your posts along the way. I think you tried for a high risk / high reward scenario and it didn't pan out. You were right, IMO to get out when you did. No shame in that, sometimes life is worth the risk. Vetting, to me, is when you deal with character, values, and life goals (and their achievement). Things you do not overlook: His life plans do not seem likely to come to fruition - especially if the fault is his own He does something you find morally repugnant. Being with him brings you do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/19 11:58 PM |
| 4 | Happy TalkThis would make a great thread all on it's own. What are your positives for the week? He bought and installed LED headlights so now I get to be one of those obnoxious people on the road. It will be great now that the clocks are set back because I drive home at deer o'clock from work. He volunteering for the political campaign of the guy who wants to primary our congressman who we do not like. I respect the hell outta the fact that he's doing something other than sitting and complaining on the in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/19 11:42 PM |
| 5 | Should you be financially independent from ur spouse?So my job involves seeing people's financial lives. There are plenty of couples that split their money in a variety of ways. This doesn't mean that money is kept a secret, but not everyone puts 100% of their money into the same pot. I'd be leery of a secret account, but I don't believe that separating some money is automatically the sign of a bad marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/19 04:28 PM |
| 5 | Should you be financially independent from ur spouse?I think our household is financially interdependent. If my husband died tomorrow, I have an income and insurance that would continue to support me and the baby. I couldn't support our lifestyle and savings on what I make alone now, but he brings expenses to the table as well as income. In the same vein, my income allows us some of the comforts we have and our savings. If we were to drop my income, we would have to dial back our lifestyle choices. If I died tomorrow, he'd be able to support himse… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/19 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Doormat vs DeferenceIt's not 'basically feminism'. It's more palatable to women than the men's subs because it's written for women in women's best interest. That does not make it feminism. Feminism is a political movement with political goals. Some feminists will tell you that it's about men and women being equal. The red pill teaches that we are different, with different needs and goals. This post does not claim women are the same as men and it does not discuss equality one way or the other. However, some men thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/19 03:02 PM |
| 1 | How to get over the social stigma attached to stay-at-home moms?Here's the thing: the above comment started with "I don't know if this is relevant to you". You are getting offended by something non offensive and which the commenter acknowledged may not apply. Take a step back and consider that you might be sensitive in this area and are seeing criticism where none is intended, and maybe that is happening in more places than here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/19 01:08 AM |
| 13 | Is being a mother one of the most gratifying things for a woman?I'm not sure that there is external pressure for a couple to have kids. The exception would be from family, especially wannabe grandparents, who have a vested interest. Having kids has always been common on the check boxes of life, so it is something people ask about and joke about. However, asking newlyweds "when are you having babies" is not the same as pressuring them to have said babies. Ultimately, once the conversation is over, most people don't give a damn if you have kids or not. Those c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/19 06:57 PM |
| 5 | Older 50+Ms find me(22F) attractive but not men my own age. WHY?Sounds like a lot of assuming going on in this comment | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/19 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Why to avoid the Female Dating Strategy subThere is a point after the anger phase and before acceptance where they think they can change female nature. I think a lot of guys come to RPW at that stage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/19 01:09 PM |
| 3 | Why to avoid the Female Dating Strategy subMaybe we have a different definition of nihilism. If what I'm suggesting is nihilistic then it's no different from the nihilism in your statement that we're headed for collapse (or some other system changing event). I'm simply acknowledging that a few people cannot hold the tide forever. I'm not changing the minds of all the feminists in the world, or even the women on FDS. It is a waste of energy to give them any of my thoughts or emotions. and However, if the government runs out of money and c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/19 07:00 PM |
| 4 | Why to avoid the Female Dating Strategy subIt's not nihilism. Your first point acknowledges that we're in a period of decline so it's not nihilistic to accept that. In a lot of ways, the decline has been good for me. There is no way to say what my life would have been in a different era so I can't play what if games but overall, I like my life. Further, if the whole system collapses or we move into a socialist period, there is a strong likelihood that my life will get much worse. But I stand by what I said, we're not going back to a cult… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/19 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Why to avoid the Female Dating Strategy subIt doesn't bother me that men participate here to a degree. I think having a male explanation of male behavior and thought processes is a good thing. When men get together and start talking to each other about women on the women's sub it's cringy. It's even better when you have two men who each think the other is a woman and watch them condescend to each other. That's always ...er...interesting. And I agree with you about staying off outrage based subs. I checked out FDS when it was brought to m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/19 03:26 PM |
| 3 | Why to avoid the Female Dating Strategy subThat is not how men would go about making women look bad. There are enough subs where men aggregate examples of women's bad behavior that you can see what men think the worst of women is. FDS is definitely women. I would not be at all surprised if some of their examples of men behaving badly are fake posts from women. Men and women have different writing styles and some of those things are suspect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/19 02:18 AM |
| 5 | Why to avoid the Female Dating Strategy subThe difference is that women don't need to be psyched up, because they don't pedastalize men, or have a protective instinct towards them. No, with women it's convincing them that they don't need to glom onto any man who shows them a bit of attention. Women turn their nurturing onto men who will never live up to the expectations. These are the type of women who end up supporting some dude for years, hoping that some day he'll decide to suddenly stop playing video games every night and become ambi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/19 02:05 AM |
| 9 | Why to avoid the Female Dating Strategy subwomen HIDE who they are until they are married Men don't know what to look for...my ex told a story about how he 'knew she (wife) was the one'. He leaves her to run out and pick up food and comes back to find she's thrown on one of his shirts and is reading his playboy. He swoons. I roll my eyes so far to the back of my head I give myself a headache (ex or no, I want only the best for the guy). However many years into the marriage he admits they no longer have sex for...reasons? I don't think th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 08:45 PM |
| 29 | Why to avoid the Female Dating Strategy subI suspect that much like TRP, they are a lot more tough talk on the internet with one another than they are in person. Overall women tend to be fairly agreeable so I suspect all this talk is to psych women up (again TRP is similar). I don't need to be called a 'queen' to value myself - I think it's quite silly - but I think that it's a mental game they are playing with themselves. But beyond that, men have complained for years that women change after marriage. IMO RPW has more value once the rel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 06:35 PM |
| 67 | Why to avoid the Female Dating Strategy subY'all, don't let them live rent free in your heads. They can do their thing and we can do ours. If their strategy is ineffective then all the better for us. Their misandry is not unique they are just blunt. Women like attention and everyone is giving them way too much attention. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 06:03 PM |
| 3 | I (26f) just got invited by my partner’s (33m) mom to Thanksgiving this year. I’ve never celebrated Thanksgiving before, and this will be the first time meeting his family. Help!u/rubywootoo, any advice for the OP on navigating an Italian American family? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 12:58 PM |
| 3 | Are men really attracted to a woman’s job?I think that career serves as a class marker rather than being qualification itself. If a girl has compatible social circles/background, she could get a waitressing job to amuse herself and not be worse off. OTOH if she is trying to date in a higher class, moving around in those circles through work indicates the ability to assimilate into his life. Attraction is attraction but even men will say you need a certain RMV to be marriageable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 12:20 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend’s hesitation about having SAHM: time to go?It depends so much on the lifestyle that a couple expects to have. I don't know what counts as the average Joe but through my work I know firefighters and police with SAHM. Now in the Northeast these jobs can pay pretty well, so there is that. Not having student loan debt also makes a huge difference. Flexible work can be great. That is my personal situation and we chose it for more than the income. I think this is an ideal for many women and it can be a good balance. But I hear the work at home… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 01:03 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend’s hesitation about having SAHM: time to go?Qualifier: I'm neither strongly pro or anti SAHMotherhood I think that pushing work at home mothering is just the new version of telling women that we can 'have it all'. Somewhere in the last decade or so women started to accept that it's really damn hard to have it all and do it all well. Now the new thing seems to be 'just work at home'. I don't think that is really any better or easier, it has a different set of trade offs. Working at home with a kid can be as much of a challenge as going to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 01:53 AM |
| 6 | Do you like being "put in your place" and any good and or bad experiences youve had?When it's bdsm it's not a shit test, it's foreplay. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 07:19 PM |
| 2 | How busy is too busy for a relationship?They see the red pill in it, and think it will be women who are happy to put their own imperatives aside to serve that of men. Very much this. I had some one tell me I was a terrible teacher and a feminist because of my 'Deference or Doormat' post. I should have been telling women to treat men as little brothers rather than expecting so much from the men they date. After checking the post history, it was someone with insecurities about being short and facial structure (lots of incel ideas). It w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 07:09 PM |
| 22 | Sex issues with my fiancé 33MBdsm is not out of line with red pill dynamics. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/19 01:02 AM |
| 10 | Anyone else feel like you can't start a family because your's was bad?First, it's not evil to be unsure how you feel about kids. I never hated kids but they bored me after a short period. That changed when my daughter was born and I have to believe it was a reorganization of the way my brain worked. Second, I love my parents but my mother was always volatile. I was told she only ever wanted to be a mother but she never seemed happy. I had mixed feelings about having kids because I was afraid to end up being her. Once my husband and I fell into a groove where thing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/19 12:25 AM |
| 2 | Doormat vs DeferenceThere is a give and take to everything. RPW would never preach to stick around through abuse or continued cheating. But ultimately the red pill is a product of the West. Gender relations will never be perfect but for the most part, men are respectful and respectable no matter what our feminists say. Submission is not something I'd recommend just because he's a man. It's something you do because you married a great, loyal man and it will make your interactions smoother and happier. If those men d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Doormat vs DeferenceSure and the point of this post is that you should be a good woman and find a good man. You shouldn't make yourself into a doormat showing respect to someone who doesn't deserve it. You are making a life mistake in your last two sentences. You assume that because you feel a certain way, everyone feels that way. If everyone around you says "this works for me" then take them at their word that 'this works for them'. No one is forcing you to feel the same but then you may be an outlier. Healthy rel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Doormat vs DeferenceIf you click through the links I provided one is a chapter from For Women Only. Take away: To Men, respect means more than love. In fact, when given the choice, men would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected. So you may disagree but respect is the way most men wish to be shown love. To think it otherwise is placing female desires onto men and assuming they work the way that we do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 12:13 PM |
| 4 | Doormat vs DeferenceIf women view men as little brothers no one will be having sex again because women are not attracted to their little brothers. You aren't supposed to save and protect the princess. Stop putting women on a pedestal like that. No one here is a princess. We are all subjected to our base programming. Now who is talking about Disney fairytales. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/19 06:00 PM |
| 6 | Doormat vs DeferenceI don't get the sense you know what is and is not red pill or women. You really belong on TRP not here. This is a pms worthy emotional rant you are giving me right now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/19 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Doormat vs DeferenceIt is not red pill for men, no. And you are correct, women should not get involved with men that they don't look up to. Each woman will have her personal preferences and 'look up to' will depend on who she is. You list a whole lot of very undesirable qualities that you seem to think women should overlook. The only one I'd tell women that they are perhaps being silly about is height. But seriously sex addict? WTF dude? If a woman wants to mitigate the risk of hypergamy and the desire to branch sw… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/19 03:26 PM |
| 4 | About to leave my husband for the new manCharming. There is an entire sidebar of resources on the men's sub, provided to you free of charge or is that too much effort for you kid? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/19 12:06 AM |
| 2 | About to leave my husband for the new manKiddo you just asked one of the trp founders if he had any good resources 🤨 | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Doormat vs DeferenceLike masculine and feminine or something :-P I wish this person would come back and let me know what was the trigger for his comment. My gut reaction was that this is simply an excuse for him to lecture but if there is something in the piece that suggests we ignore our men's thoughts, well I'd really like to know. Obviously that wasn't the intent. Besides, I know I can't always be correct because my husband has never been wrong a day in his life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 09:42 PM |
| 8 | About to leave my husband for the new manIn contrast to the popular media reception, scholars have overwhelmingly reviewed Sex at Dawn negatively. Ryan originally tried to publish the book with academic publisher Oxford University Press where it was rejected after it failed the peer review process. Most academics have been critical of the book's methodology and its conclusions. Scholars with established expertise in disciplines related to the book (such as anthropology, primatology, biology, sexology, and evolutionary psychology) have … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 08:09 PM |
| 3 | Doormat vs DeferenceIs the assumption (in the mind of a S-T-T woman) that her man must be awesome for her to be so submissive? It's not abnormal FSM behavior for women to try to outdo each other - but it's usually in the form of 'my kids are soooo smart' or 'my husband is sooo important' and the like. I've never encountered a woman who brags about how little her man does...It makes him sound worthless which is really out of place in normal female communication (unless we're all bitching about men, which we are not)… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 01:57 PM |
| 6 | Doormat vs DeferenceDon't let her get to you. Troll or no, it's clear she gets off on everyone's outrage. Generally BDSM fits with RPW. I know of at least one woman here who calls her man 'Master' in a 24/7 situation. It's not obvious from her comments though because she knows how to give broad advice and her personality is more than just her sex life. I went back and forth with gimpgirl the other day. She isn't here to learn and she is incapable of generalizing her experiences to a broader audience. What she will … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 01:25 AM |
| 4 | Doormat vs DeferenceMost of her "disagreement" fits within everything I've written. At least the ones that address the content of my post. She wants to be the subbiest submissive so she's putting words into my mouth to argue against. I guess her man didn't teach her about logical fallacies either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/19 02:44 PM |
| 5 | Doormat vs DeferenceYour kink guides your ideas here. What works for you and your relationship does not work for everyone. I'm not going to debate you because we will simply go around in circles as we have done before. Your way of being would simply not work for me or my relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/19 12:17 PM |
| 3 | Regarding "submission"..I think what you are seeing is a woman's blue pill conditioning fighting back against what she is reading here. I push back against your statement for two reasons. The first is that you are a man who has never felt these things. You are telling the OP what it will feel like when in truth you don't know. That isn't helpful and doesn't give her any real guidance. But more than that, this woman has been asking a lot of questions as she tries to learn about RP and shake off what she's been taught by… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/19 12:50 AM |
| 6 | Doormat vs DeferenceI wish there was more guidance in this sub and in general for finding happiness when the man you married is maybe not the best leader or the most compatible... Some of this is because the demographic skews younger and unmarried I think. There is also going to be a natural hesitancy on the part of women to admit their lives aren't perfect. This makes it harder to truly swap strategies. I think that if you have a subpar leader (and you've given him opportunities to lead to no avail) then you can s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Regarding "submission"..I would never call my husband 'captain'. I've thought it's silly since I joined the sub. Using that word or not doesn't mean anything, certainly not justice. It also need not be an ego issue. If she's never found anyone worthy of submitting to, then that is an issue of her prospects not her ego. Submission to a leader may happen naturally, submission full stop does not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 10:36 PM |
| 4 | Doormat vs DeferenceAWALT ;-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 09:12 PM |
| 3 | Doormat vs Deference:-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 09:11 PM |
| 9 | Doormat vs DeferenceThank you! I've seen it said that with the right man a woman will naturally submit. I think that this is true for many woman but not all. The conditioning that tells us to 'not let a man control us' goes pretty deep sometimes. But I do think that the women who push back the most are ones who haven't found a man they could even consider trusting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 09:11 PM |
| 6 | Doormat vs DeferenceI'm glad it helped. I've always found 'submission' to be an imprecise word when it's used on RPW. As I said, everyone comes to it with a different idea of what it means. I know when I first started reading here, I didn't find anything that really outlined what was meant by it. I know a lot of my advice is predicated on the idea that women have a backbone and boundaries - but I realize that is simply because that's the background I bring with me. Sometimes that stuff needs to be stated, before we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Doormat vs DeferenceI'm curious what gave you the impression that there are issues between my husband and I? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 08:58 PM |
| 4 | Regarding "submission"..She's being disingenuous anyway. She controls the money so he doesn't hurt her by cheating and bailing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 06:49 PM |
| 7 | Please tell me I’m just being anxiousAs was said below, there is no clear cut answer to your problem. That is probably why no one wanted to respond. You have to accept the man as he is now. By our thirties, it's unlikely that things are going to change dramatically. You've stayed with him for four years and agreed to marry him. I have to assume that he has enough good qualities to balance out the things that are frustrating you. The smoking and the meandering life plan are truly frustrations that may seriously change what your life… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 05:25 PM |
| 3 | Please tell me I’m just being anxiousPlease disregard people whose advice is based on their sexual fetishes 🙄. (I see you haven't gotten any traction with this post. Will respond in full when I get to a computer later) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 12:35 PM |
| 3 | Paying for a manI don't come from a broken home so we obviously have differing views on marriage and people's integrity. What I have seen of divorce within my family is that most of the women (except one bat shit crazy aunt) remarried once (no multiple divorces) to very good men. I just watched my husband's buddy split from his wife because she cheated and we are all blown away by how bad a decision this was on her part. He's a catch and he's dating other women his age with kids. For every anecdote you have, I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/19 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Checklist or ToolboxHA! Mine has done that more than once. I was sanding a door down a few years back and it was...not going well. He came back with some high powered thing that took the paint off and then some. It may be the case that he overestimated my abilities but now I check with him about the right tools to use. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Checklist or ToolboxI saw your comment and thought you articulated it quite well, but you are welcome anyway :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 06:06 PM |
| 6 | Checklist or Toolbox:-) I'm glad that you mentioned feeling comfortable sending it to friends. One of my goals of this rambling is to express how I see RPW which is often so different from how new people seem to perceive us. (I've been practicing for a year with my very BP friend - which has been a mixed bag.) People come in and tell us we're a bunch of doormats and meanwhile I'm thinking: "no, all we're saying is be nice and treat men like people" :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 06:04 PM |
| 4 | Paying for a manIf you're a 40 year old mom, what will you hold over his head? Nothing. I will hold nothing over his head. If he doesn't want to be with me, I will not hold him. If he wants to coparent, I will not remove him from his children's lives. He can find a young blonde with big boobs. He will not find the woman who took a bet on him when he was broke in school, when he was restarting his life, who stuck by him when he lost his job, who got a math degree to impress him and a motorcycle license to keep u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 05:58 PM |
| 3 | Paying for a manPersonally I enjoy sleeping with lots of guys and I enjoy seeing my man with other women Here's the rub. It only works if you can handle it. Otherwise you can destroy your marriage. This is why it's not good blanket advice Because that gives her something real to bargain with. And I will continue to maintain that approaching a relationship in terms of bargaining isn't the best. It's interesting that you promote a strategy that you don't personally follow. Are women on this sub not looking for ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 11:55 AM |
| 2 | RP community in the middle east.What we all share is not a lifestyle, a set of values, or a worldview, but a way of relating to men. Being a stay at home wife is not specifically RPW. There are simply many SAHW/M here. Doing all the work is not specifically RPW. We say to find whatever works within your individual relationship (and an acknowledgement that oftentimes women have a higher level of cleanliness than men and learning to deal with that). Being submissive is a strategy that will make a man want to care for and protect… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/19 11:40 PM |
| 6 | Paying for a manYour entire justification for this strategy is based on a fear of him leaving you. This blows my mind. If a man wants to sleep with another woman there is nothing you can do to stop him. Yes- However: you should marry a man with integrity who you are able to trust and respect. Basing all decisions on the fear that he will leave is not trusting him to hold to his vow of monogamy. If he didn't make a vow of monogamy that is a different thing but if he did then you are fear mongering. And if he fin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/19 09:20 PM |
| 10 | Paying for a manI guess if you are happy but I don't think you should be advising others. I'm not against nonmonogamy when it works for you but it seems sad to assume it's the only way to keep a man. Most women here would not be impressed that you kept a man for 20 years by allowing him to go off with other women. It's simply not what they want. Further, most women want to be able to look themselves in the mirror. I'm happy with my life and I've not had to become a doormat to do it (yeah I saw you give that adv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/19 05:30 PM |
| 7 | Paying for a manHave some self respect woman! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/19 04:57 PM |
| 9 | Checklist or ToolboxIt's just a way of setting up a tit-for-tat relationship. "I do more work because I do emotional labor" -- well, ok whatever, it's not really healthy to keep track. I have a friend who read that article awhile back and keeps telling me that is how she feels about her relationship.... I don't even know what to say to it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 10:20 PM |
| 14 | New here: what is purple pill?The purple pill is a debate sub where people from the red pill and the blue pill argue about the red pill and relationship and gender dynamics. On that sub they use it to describe people who believe a little bit of both sides. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 10:18 PM |
| 5 | Checklist or ToolboxThe nonmonogamy one always interests me. I think it's probably not the best idea for most people. Definitely if someone doesn't have the ability to decide on their own and needs to crowdsource an answer, then it's a bad idea IMO. However there is no way that you can say it's non-RP. If we accept that men are polygamous then there is room for it in the theory. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 10:16 PM |
| 7 | Checklist or ToolboxI think it's so much better when we use alpha and beta as traits and not as types of people. Cause then we can talk about how many alpha traits (how much dominance) and how many beta traits (how much comfort) a woman needs to be happy. So your 'beta men who lead' obviously have enough alpha traits for you. I sometimes think that we don't even have a good sense of what is and is not feminine anymore. I wonder if that is why people default to long hair and dresses because we're not sure exactly wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 10:14 PM |
| 15 | 6 years trying to change and be submissive and nothing turns out. I need help…..Please disregard all the people telling you that you need a relationship with a submissive man. That isn't what you say you want so they are idiots. Now, onto you... Submissive does not mean weak wilting tomato plant, unable to stand up on it's own merit. You do not have to be a tomato plant in order to be submissive in a relationship. You can still be strong, capable, a leader in other aspects of life, direct and assertive. Many men will appreciate these qualities when you blend them with respe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/19 02:47 PM |
| 2 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI thought I saw that it was a guy too. It makes sense that OLD would be different for men VS women. It probably is a lot more futile for men and this is an area where their experience leads to bad advice for women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 04:04 PM |
| 4 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI'm laughing at his ability to dismiss your anecdote while using his own as his only piece of evidence. 🤦♀️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Texting before going on the first date; opposite strategies with the male RPI read Modern Romance a while back and Ansari also recommends the TRP approach of getting off the texts and into the real world. Exchanges that stay too long in virtual space are less likely to ever make it to a first date. I don't think that this is exclusively so you can get to sex sooner. If an exchange goes on for a week and you never end up meeting up just because it fades out then that was a waste of a week. This isn't to discount some of your points. I think it's valid to make sure you ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 08:42 PM |
| 2 | [Discussion] Feminism & RedPillWomen:-) Thank you!! I still read a lot of what is going on but it's not easy to breastfeed the baby and respond to posts on my phone. We just bought a house too, it's the perfect storm of too much going on in my head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 08:36 PM |
| 4 | Is it too late for me to become a good wife?I haaaate the pair bonding discussion but it might be relevant here because I think it's missing from all the advice you are getting (except in some nasty comments). One of the potential issues of promiscuity and serial monogamy is that the new relationship energy gets addictive. Eventually the excitement of the new guy will fade as he becomes not so new any more. I believe that this is where a lot of relationships die and you hear "the spark was gone" or "I fell out of love". People think that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 08:33 PM |
| 12 | Women's Rights: Bring Back Dominant Masculinity to Protect WomenYou have poor judgement when it comes to men, have chosen bad men in the past so now, you choose younger men who you feel you can control or will look up to you. This is not a right/left issue, these are not issues that are typical of traditional men. Your people picker is broken. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 06:18 PM |
| 24 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenIt used to be that TRP took the stance "you don't talk about fight club". People don't listen until they are ready. That is true with advice in general, I'm sure most of us have listened to friends complain about their lives and then watched them ignore all the advice people gave them. Unless you are speaking to a wide audience (like a YouTube channel), it seems to me this would be a lot of work for little payoff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 11:36 AM |
| 14 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenIt's fascinating to me that so many men (and a handful of women) believe this is The Solution. We know that people are easily swayed through a variety of psychological techniques (ask any salesman). We also know that there are more below average men than women. This is why the US is a republic not a pure democracy. If we are disenfranchising people let's be more selective than gender. Property owners? Families with children? Net positive tax payers? Civics test requirements? Going back to the po… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 11:28 AM |
| 5 | Is it common for women to not be attracted to masculine men even though they want to be traditionally feminine?How old are you? I think preference for more masculinity can develop with age. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 11:18 AM |
| 1 | Offering support instead of adviceI've never been particularly religious, lived with my husband (not my first sex partner) for 6 years before we married and we both work and contribute to the relationship. My desires and opinions are valued. I respect him and thank him for the ways he makes our lives better, he loves me for the care I show him. We each do what we personally are best suited for not because some deity deems it so but because it makes the most sense to pick up the tasks that you what you want to do (or at least hat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/19 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Offering support instead of adviceRed pill is not automatically Christian nor is it automatically wealthy nor is it exclusively tradcon. You have seen one bad relationship growing up which has obviously impacted your adult life. That doesn't mean you know what is required to have a good relationship. And I'm sorry you find it insulting that I don't want the relationships you've had. That should not be an inherently insulting statement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/19 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Engagement ring thoughts?Just want to say that I always felt that my husband would be a good dad. We were not planning to have kids right up until we did (about a decade together prior to Baby). It was still something I was cognizant of because a. people change their minds (as we did) and b. accidents happen. Dunno why people are giving you crap. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/19 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Offering support instead of adviceWell here's the thing, a brief look at your post history tells me that I don't want relationships like yours so I'm not going to behave in the manner you behave. However, if you are happy and your life is working for you then continue as is. That said, this post isn't about what men should do and it's childish if you always have to ask "but what about..." | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/19 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Offering support instead of adviceThat's not the point of the post is it? I can only change my own behavior. Telling men what they should do isn't going to get me anywhere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/19 07:52 PM |
| 3 | Offering support instead of adviceRefraining from unsolicited advice is not the same as playing dumb. Not everything you have to say is worth saying...and if you think it is then you are probably insufferable to deal with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/19 07:35 PM |
| 2 | What's the one thing you disagree regarding TRPW theory?Sure, men can vet by whatever stats they find useful. The 'sex depletes oxytocin' argument is one that I cannot get behind. My point was that if it were true we would see more evidence than merely 'increased risk. But also, promiscuity doesn't have to tell the whole story. In this I'm not trying to convince men, I'm talking to women. While I'd never encourage someone to go in search of bedpist notches, it's not impossible to have a solid marriage just because you have them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/19 09:13 PM |
| 17 | What does Girl Game look like OUTSIDE a relationship?This is weird advice to the point that I can't tell if you are serious or messing with the OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/19 12:48 PM |
| 6 | What's the one thing you disagree regarding TRPW theory?Please define "pair bonding" when making this claim. This is an area where men feel a certain way about female promiscuity (they are completely entitled to this) and then try to force scientific explanations onto their feelings. If a woman has two partners she is at a higher divorce risk than if she has three. Go figure. Depletion of oxytocin based on partner count is highly unlikely. I've said it before but if this were true, then women would be unable to bond with each consecutive child (ie: i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/19 09:25 PM |
| 3 | Woman offers a threesome with my husband and I.No, this is sort of weird advice. It's better to have girlfriends who like their own partners best but think yours is a good dude. You don't want friends who hate your guy, that's its own form of toxic. I say good things about my husband to my friends. Then if I need their support they don't immediately think we have nothing but problems. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/19 08:49 PM |
| 5 | Advice?OP has been told time and again to ditch this guy as soon as details start to come out about the situation. She's ignored all advice, I'm not sure how that makes RPW plate school. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/19 02:04 PM |
| 7 | Advice?Iirc she was already advised to go to school for a marketable skill and not depend on this guy after six months of dating. She wanted to be taken care of though. I honestly don't know if the guy is sleazy or not. He sounds like he's involved in his other kids life but not enough to be tied down to a single woman. I have my doubts that OP will get the life she envisions long term for herself but the kid might be OK. This post is not dissimilar to the others though. She is unhappy with the relatio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/19 02:40 AM |
| 14 | Advice?I agree. I am watching this post with interest but have no advice after the last few posts. She was already unhappy as recently as a month ago. Obviously she ignored everything she was told so at this point she's wasting everyone's time and causing problems for herself that are way above the reddit pay grade. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/19 02:03 AM |
| 24 | Advice?He has another baby mama who he did not marry either. He's 38 (and OP is 18) . Based on her now deleted previous posts, I suspect you are giving the guy more credit than is warranted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/19 01:46 AM |
| 14 | Advice?I dunno. I love my baby but my need for stimulation didn't disappear with her birth. The days with an infant can be long and tedious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/19 11:17 PM |
| 2 | [Discussion] Feminism & RedPillWomenHi stevierose :-) Things are going well (thank you) though I return to work this week with baby in tow in the middle of the 4 month sleep regression so that will be an interesting experience to say the least. I told myself that I would think about other sources but then I went to the beach and forgot. I'm not sure off the top of my head but I will dig around the net and see if I can find a pdf or website or something. But yes, Schlafly is both old (a lot of the essays in the book go back to the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/19 12:15 AM |
| 8 | For College GirlsThe attitude in this post is the stereotyical freshman who comes home from college suddenly knowing everything. You can't know how good your strategy is until you have been with the man long enough to know you have a lifetime commitment. It's incredibly unlikely that you know that from your current boyfriend. But the real problem is that this is advice given from a women's perspective. Conforming to the group is much more important for women. It's less important for men and way less important fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/19 12:10 AM |
| 8 | 29 year old woman and her "Five year life plan"We live in the west and most people wish to marry within their culture. If the OP is western then she should be considering it from that perspective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/19 01:06 AM |
| 3 | [Discussion] Feminism & RedPillWomenThis book of Phyllis Schlafly essays might be an interesting read. Camille Paglia is also good for a critique of modern (starting in the 70s modern) feminism. Neither are a male perspective (obviously) but a good source for why feminism has always been a problem. We tend to think that they did a lot of good before now, but I believe that is simply awareness, and spin, rather than necessarily truth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/19 06:37 PM |
| 2 | Why aren't men interested in me.This is what "studies show". Though the person below is right that black women prefer black men. Obviously it does not apply to every person across the board. However white men are the most desired group on average. I think for ladies it's Asian women but I could be wrong. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/19 10:59 PM |
| 12 | [Discussion] Feminism & RedPillWomenI don't identify as a feminist. I firmly believe that women in western nations have equality under the law and anything beyond that is a fight against human nature. I am not interested in that fight. Feminism believes that men and women are equal and the same. By this definition you can't agree with both RPW and feminism. However both schools of thought allow people to chose what makes sense to them and so in that way there is room for overlap. I'd argue that you shouldn't take on any label but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/19 10:08 PM |
| 9 | How much should a man "take care" of you when vetting for marriage?I'd only question the bus thing if you were visiting him. It seems so out of place to me to expect a man to cover an aspect of your social life that doesn't involve him. I'm going to speak personally now - this isn't so much advice as it is my person experience. It's true that you should not expect a person to change dramatically. It is also true that marriage changes things. My husband and I lived together for 5ish years before we married. My mother said some of the same things your parents did… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/19 04:08 PM |
| 4 | Re-dyed my (28) hair against my boyfriend's (28) wishes. Now I'm "on probation" because he feels very disrespected. I need to be on my best behavior now!It's understandable why he felt disrespected. You asked if you could fix it, you explained that it needed to be fixed to look more professional and he still said no. He is entitled to his preferences and to feel disrespected when you asked for advice (permission?) and then ignored him. You did it on a whim with no warning - basically telling him what he thinks doesn't matter and you didn't give him any thought. The question is whether or not you want to be asking permission for the rest of you l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/19 03:47 PM |
| 2 | 31F/44M, married last year and having dumb fightsThis is a great response, /u/prettybluemushroom one star for /u/dangernoodle88 please :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/19 03:28 PM |
| 2 | 31F/44M, married last year and having dumb fightsPartially because of our age gap I want to have a back-up plan for us. This is solid thinking - even if the age gap didn't exist, it's never bad to have plans within plans. However you guys don't seem to be on the same page. I'm firmly in favor of safety nets and that is something you should talk about with him - what happens if he loses this job, what happens if he dies, what happens if he becomes disabled. Your career is only one strategy to protect you in these events. If you not working is i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/19 03:24 PM |
| 3 | My bf (34) broke up with me (28) over text, did I sabotage the relationship?He tells me to proofread the email confirming the dates, and I get mad and say "I don't care, why would I fking care?" Did you ever proofread the email? This makes it sound as though you made a mistake about the date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 08:24 PM |
| 24 | 31F/44M, married last year and having dumb fightsReading this I immediately thought of the chapter on Providing in For Women Only. For a man, bringing home a paycheck is love talk. He does it because it proves that he can take care of you and he is worthy of you. He demands this of himself and he wants to deliver. Providing for his wife is a central way a husband expresses his love. Women often make the mistake then, of complaining about a man’s work habits. We say “you work too much” or “you don’t spend enough time with me”. When we complain … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 05:30 PM |
| 11 | Why aren't men interested in me.you only want to date white men when you are not white yourself White men are preferred by women of all races. OP is entitled to her preferences but she will have to do more than exist because there is competition for white men's attention. I would bet this is even more true when they are the minority - which is the case if she lives in a Latino heavy area. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 12:25 PM |
| 5 | Waiting Until MarriageMy first partner was my HS boyfriend - he was my first everything. Sex with him was never particularly satisfying and I often wondered while we were together what else was out there. There are no guarantees in life and being a virgin for the man you marry has it's own set of risks. I'm not against it, but you are painting a nice-nice picture that might not be entirely accurate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/19 11:25 PM |
| 3 | Having trouble respecting my husband. Any advice would be appreciated.Money isn't the be all end all. There are other ways that a woman can see her man as "up". It's condescending to ask if someone is really red pilled when they are here asking for help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Should I dye my hair blonde? Are men more attracted to blondes?as they are all signs of youth and health Fair hair is a sign of youth too though. Light hair darkens with age (before it turns grey). Red hair loses some of its brightness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 01:11 PM |
| 7 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating apps8 years is a long time for the growth of these platforms. I've been off the market since before Tinder so I don't generally answer these questions BUT from what I've read your experience isn't the current norm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 01:08 PM |
| 7 | How to be good with kids?Sure what is the science. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 08:14 PM |
| 9 | How to be good with kids?Going against the mainstream does not automatically make something a red pill. Everything is age dependent with kids because they are not fully developed humans. So sure, you wouldn't play with kids by making overdone faces after a certain age but that age isn't two IME. Maybe there is science behind it IDK but I haven't encountered a young kid who doesn't respond positively to expressiveness like the top comment talks about. You suggest that it's like a tourist who doesn't speak the language an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 07:58 PM |
| 8 | How to be good with kids?It sounds as though you have never interacted with young children. You know they are not mini adults right? Right?!? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 07:11 PM |
| 7 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?Random info dump: the bring home the bacon line was a commercial jingle from the late 70s or early 80s. It was a feminist spin (because she's a career gal who brings home the bacon) on an older song "I'm a Woman". The older song respects womanhood without placing her in a masculine (provider) position the way the jingle does. It's a small example of feminism creeping into culture. Anyway, not a knock on you OP, just something I found interesting the first time I came across it. I can wash out fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/19 06:40 PM |
| 6 | What r u guy"s view on Incels?I want to touch on your two posts rather than my opinion on incels. As gently as possible - you need to work on yourself and do some soul searching regarding who you are genuinely attracted to. Both posts are about wanting to date men out of pity. You obviously consider these men below you and think to throw them a bone by virtue of your attention. Men do not want your pity and they do not want to be your validation. You would do more harm than good. My suspicion is that you see these men as saf… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 01:02 PM |
| 60 | Redpilling the Redpill: Attractiveness is all that mattersGirl this reeks of desperation. I don't think your looks are the big problem here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/19 11:49 AM |
| 10 | The Busy Mommy: Things Not to DoI don't see this post going over how you think it will 😏 | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/19 10:18 PM |
| 8 | I know that I should have children, but I don’t find babies appealing.Seriously! However, I don't think this attitude is all that uncommon with younger women (though I think the OP is dialed up to 11 for the sake of drama). Children are a lot of work and if you don't have your life in order, the idea of babies can be really scary. When you are in the middle of HS or college and still being taken care of by your parents - it's easy to look at the negatives - drool, poop and spit up become intolerable because they represent a responsibility that you are not yet will… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/19 01:22 AM |
| 14 | I know that I should have children, but I don’t find babies appealing.Are you looking for people to convince you to have kids? I don't see the purpose of this post? My thoughts are that you sound like an angsty teen looking for validation of your position. Own your views and your life and don't crowd source a life plan. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/19 12:55 AM |
| 2 | 25F needs advice for how to fully rid myself of bad habits to salvage relationship with ex-boyfriend (32M)I don't disagree. It probably would have been more accurate to say "not odd as a starting point". To stay in the relationship she has to learn to trust his judgement as much as her own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/19 05:13 PM |
| 7 | 25F needs advice for how to fully rid myself of bad habits to salvage relationship with ex-boyfriend (32M)“I would never advise you to do something to hurt you. When you don’t listen I feel like you don’t trust my judgement” He's not wrong. You may trust his judgement but you trust your own more. That's not particularly odd. You may also hesitate to give over your trust entirely because your relationship has been tumultuous. This also makes sense, it's hard to go all in and be vulnerable when things are on again off again or when you are arguing all the time. You have to decide that you trust your o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 12:12 PM |
| 35 | How can i improve. I'm a 7...Your list sounds fine but: Dont want him to leave me for a higher rated woman. Looks get you in the door. Unless you let yourself go, a man is unlikely to leave you for your looks. You should also be working on your relationship value - what do you bring to the table. What do you provide that makes you enjoyable to have around? Do you have a solid character? Do you fit well in his life? A cold, nagging 10 will get dumped eventually, whereas a pleasant enthusiastic 6 can be a keeper. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 11:50 AM |
| 1 | [Update] Feeling uneasy about socialising with boyfriend's ONSDon't worry I'll post another update when that happens Is our sub a game for you then? A creative writing project? You don't participate otherwise and are obviously not interested in listening to advice or improving yourself. I didn't say you should befriend her rather that you should take the high road. Interesting that you laugh at that idea... | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 01:24 AM |
| 3 | [Update] Feeling uneasy about socialising with boyfriend's ONSI'm working under the assumption that she's drinking as she is posting this. She said she was drunk in the last post and I can't imagine thinking this is praiseworthy behavior for an adult otherwise. I expect the next installment will be the post-break up post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 01:12 AM |
| 3 | [Update] Feeling uneasy about socialising with boyfriend's ONSSo instead of being classy you went off on her. Are we supposed to applaud you? You asked for advice and everyone told you to take the high road. Now you are here telling us that you ignored the advice in a spectacular fashion and stayed with the guy. But it's ok, you bullied him until he capitulated to you. Your relationship is almost certainly going to fail from what you are showing us. You had an opportunity to handle the other woman with grace and maturity which you did not. I wish you luck … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 01:06 AM |
| 4 | [Update] Feeling uneasy about socialising with boyfriend's ONSNo I do not think you are justified even a little. This girl hooked up with a single man - you were on a break. Then a few days later you got back with him and are now being nasty to her. She didn't know about you, she tried to be cordial. You want to be angry at her so you can avoid being angry at your bf. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 12:41 AM |
| 6 | [Update] Feeling uneasy about socialising with boyfriend's ONSI'm embarrassed for you. Posting this isn't a good look. Doing this isn't a good look but I'm mostly confused why you think you would get support for this sort of childish behavior. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 12:33 AM |
| 9 | BF red flags?You should leave. You are too young to tie up your life with an addict. Three months is not nearly enough time to gauge his sobriety. In all likelihood there will be relapses in the months and years to come. How bad they are is TBD. How many relapses is TBD. If he kills himself, or goes to jail or loses his license or loses his job in the process is TBD. I've known these things to happen to people in my life because of addiction. He doesn't even know if he really likes you because he "doesn't re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/19 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Real reasons to leave your spouse...Not for myself - but I think when one person decides they want kids and the other does not, that is very often a reason to split. There is no compromising on that and the chance of a lifetime of regret (either way) is too big. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/19 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Impending engagement!Very presumptuous of you. My ring is moissanite because I believe diamonds are artificially overpriced. However that has nothing to do with sexual strategy which is what RPW is for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/19 07:47 PM |
| 6 | Impending engagement!Jewelry is jewelry...you are reeeeaaallly stretching to turn this into a red/blue thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/19 06:44 PM |
| 13 | Do men in a LTR ever cheat if the sex at home is great?What is the benefit of being with a man you would not marry? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/19 10:45 PM |
| 3 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?AFAIK, humans are not a pair bonding species I started to respond to this last night... I've never an adequately explanation as to what RP means by pair bonding. Usually the idea goes something like this: oxytocin is released during sex resulting in pair bonding, when a woman has too many partners her oxytocin rubs out and she can no longer pair bond because prairie voles. So I've been throwing that term around but I'm also not convinced it's a thing... or at least that was until I went looking … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/19 01:12 PM |
| 2 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?You read a book by a shyster, assumed that it was a. True and b. True for all people. Then you applied those findings to a real life person who you have never met and do not know anything about. You then doubled down insisting that you were right about what goes on in my head because your book says so. So yes, things you have said are false. Oxytocin is a bonding hormone. That much is true. Promiscuity has negative consequences that is true. There is no reason to start talking about soul ties an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/19 12:11 PM |
| 2 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?Actually one of the rules here is that men are supposed to be older and in long term relationships. My husband is right, you need to go ahead and touch the stove if you are going to spend time on RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/19 02:56 AM |
| 1 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?Ok. Though I was more expecting a peer reviewed paper and not a book that reviewers call "and infomercial for his pills" | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/19 01:09 AM |
| 1 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?If you are suggesting it then the onus is on you to provide the research. Simply saying "these things happen" doesn't convince me of anything. I don't know you so I don't have a reason to trust you as a source. As for "a certain archetype..." perhaps you are mixing up cause and effect. Every man is similar to the first not because he's the first but because he's her "type". Bonds must be maintained. If a bond was able to exist absent any effort, no one would break up with or lose interest in the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 11:57 PM |
| 1 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?I will answer to this comment to my husband genuinely because you are working off some faulty assumptions. There are a variety of experiences women have when it comes to their first time. It's not always good or memorable. It takes the importance you give it. Even if it is both good and memorable that does not mean the man will stick in your head forever. What appeals to an 18 year old is quite different from what appeals to a 28 year old. Boy Bands aren't sexy once you pass a certain age. It's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 10:24 PM |
| 2 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?I was unclear. IF oxytocin produces bonding during sex AND oxytocin produces bonding during breastfeeding THEN we would see similar results to those bonds over time. So if multiple partners means a decreases ability to bond with each subsequent sex partner then it should also be the case that multiple children mean a decreased ability to bond with each subsequent child. Obviously this is not the case. As I said, I have a hard time believing that oxytocin is the mechanism that hurts pair bonding … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 09:43 PM |
| 2 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?Yes thank you for your perspective. I am happily married so I didn't ask for me directly. This is an issue that I think about whenever n count comes up as a topic on this sub. I appreciate the time you took to answer this. It's too often the advice "stay a virgin" is given as though women's decisions occur in a vacuum | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 09:31 PM |
| 9 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?Genuine question - how does a women keep her virginity until marriage when the majority do not and men can demand and receive sex before marriage from other women. It seems to me like a tragedy of the commons sort of issue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 02:14 PM |
| 8 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?This is why you should not try to dangle sex as the marriage carrot. Be a partner who adds value to his life in some way beyond sex. Because you are right, sex is easy to come by. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 02:09 PM |
| 4 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?Sounds more like handfasting) but idk I never dreamed of my wedding as a little girl. I do like bowties though. Bowties are cool. 😁 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 01:57 PM |
| 3 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?It does make sense that your attachment would be focused on the child for the period you are breastfeeding. This also fits with the idea of hypergamy and that women really only love one man at a time. What wouldn't make sense is that you love/bond to your first child more than your second more than your third and so on after breastfeeding is over. This is the argument that is made when people say oxytocin bonds you to your first mate and you will be less bonded to everyone following the first. T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 01:52 PM |
| 20 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?This is actually the typical RP stance: Men want women with a low n count, women want men with experience. So while I think you are being sarcastic to make a point, you are making a common RP claim. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 12:02 PM |
| 8 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?It's not even the term RP uses. "Soul tie" sounds like someone has been reading too much fantasy fiction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 11:55 AM |
| 13 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?Oxytocin is released during breastfeeding, this explains why women like each child less than his predecessor. /s I've always thought it far more likely that a string of short term relationships can result in a sort of addiction to new relationship energy. A person thinks that 'high' is necessary to sustain the relationship. When it fades they move on to a new person. This is a broken ability to pair bond in it's way but not specifically tied to sex or depleted oxytocin. It also doesn't occur for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 11:44 AM |
| 21 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?I don't feel that my first time was me behaving recklessly. While a low n count is one thing, in this climate it is almost unreasonable to expect that you will remain a virgin until marriage. Men expect sex and worthwhile men can find other women who will give it you them if you won't. Good for anyone who feels strongly enough to wait for marriage but it's not the norm. At any rate my first partner was a long time bf who I could have married but did not. One of my first thoughts was about how un… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 09:58 AM |
| 1 | How does a girlfriend behave differently than a wife in a relationship with a man, and how can a girlfriend be of value to him without giving away too much too soon?It is pretty accepted on RP subs that at least some men have requirements around n count. Some men will have a visceral reaction to the idea of 'their' woman with other men. This is one of the reasons keeping a low n count is recommended here. It opens up your pool of potential men. I do agree that people tend to partner up with others who have similar partner counts and it isn't hopeless for women who have had sex by any stretch. Unfortunately for you, there is going to be quite a bit of overla… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 09:53 PM |
| 1 | How does a girlfriend behave differently than a wife in a relationship with a man, and how can a girlfriend be of value to him without giving away too much too soon?I believe you are missing u/rubywootoo's point. If a man cares about your virginity, telling him to behave in a more godly fashion will not change the fact that he cares. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 07:51 PM |
| 9 | Are there any RPW rules which you don't "follow" or cannot accept for you?Laura Doyle really has to be taken with more than a grain of salt for most women. She's writing for women who are really far gone harpies, in those cases her advice to dial down to zero are understandable. I would expect that those women will never actually become so submissive that they are buying unaffordable vehicles. It is insane advice for a normal relationship. So is 'don't question where he is going if he misses an exit' which is another LD classic. I've come to believe that some of her i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 07:42 PM |
| 1 | How does a girlfriend behave differently than a wife in a relationship with a man, and how can a girlfriend be of value to him without giving away too much too soon?Perhaps her experiences and age give her some insights that you lack. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 01:53 PM |
| 8 | Are there any RPW rules which you don't "follow" or cannot accept for you?I have a touch of oppositional defiance when it comes to rules. I've not followed any of the tradcon rules for life with the exception of getting married (and we eloped after a lit of years of cohabitation, no big to do). I will always believe that the value of RPW is in the information it provides about men, women and the interaction between the two. I spent an exorbitant amount of time summarizing For Women Only because that was more valuable to me than any post about how long hair is feminine… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 07:27 AM |
| 4 | How does a girlfriend behave differently than a wife in a relationship with a man, and how can a girlfriend be of value to him without giving away too much too soon?I meant the general "you". Everyone should find someone in line with her own values. Holding off on sex until marriage is uncommon and many men will not go for it. If you are doing it for some power play then you may lose good men for bad reasons. If it is within your value system you will have to find someone who feels the same. I do wish you luck and would not encourage you to behave outside of your own values. What you are recommending isn't practical for all women, especially women who are n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/19 07:14 PM |
| 3 | How does a girlfriend behave differently than a wife in a relationship with a man, and how can a girlfriend be of value to him without giving away too much too soon?It's not that you are wrong about acting in your own best interest but TRP also says to accept the terrain. For many women this is an unrealistic asses of the terrain. You have to do what is best for you without shooting yourself in the foot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/19 03:22 PM |
| 15 | How does a girlfriend behave differently than a wife in a relationship with a man, and how can a girlfriend be of value to him without giving away too much too soon?This person is coming from a religious perspective and in that case there probably are a good number of quality guys who will wait. In the secular world your comment is spot on. It's complicated further if you have already had sex. A man will be hard pressed to wait and permanently commit in order to get something another guy has had more easily. You can demand anything you want and look for men who will comply but it's naive to think that you won't miss out on good otherwise compatible men by w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/19 03:16 PM |
| 1 | The Secret Desire Of A WomenBeen watching this exchange all day. I hope your head hasn't exploded in frustration yet. FWIW I found your arguments logical and easy to decipher. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/19 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Chad, Dylan, and the Myth of "the Bad Man"The epiphany phase is for women who have ridden the CC and have a hard time getting off when they are ready to have kids. That's not every woman. So instead of thinking about those women, consider the ladies who have an n of one before meeting Dylan. She is more likely to get attached after having sex and to have different ideas than Dylan of what sex means. Did she want to sleep with him? Yes absolutely. Would she be upset when it didn't lead where she expected? Probably. Women and men make cov… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/19 12:36 PM |
| 2 | Chad, Dylan, and the Myth of "the Bad Man"See, your issue is your unwillingness to admit that women can and often do enjoy casual sex with archetypes like 'Chad' and 'Dylan'. Of course some do. RPW does not recommend casual sex nor is it difficult to get. Women who are looking for that aren't our audience. What I have a problem is that these women are now pretending that somehow they were fooled by Dylans, Chads, feminism or any other boogeyman into having sex with men they find attractive so they don't have to take responsibility for t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/19 02:24 AM |
| 2 | Chad, Dylan, and the Myth of "the Bad Man"I wasn't trying to argue. You didn't read what I wrote properly. Further you seem to be misinterpreting my point. There is no reason to continue if you aren't reading what I write and engaging in good faith. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/19 02:48 PM |
| 6 | Chad, Dylan, and the Myth of "the Bad Man"I guess she's not like other girls 😛 | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 11:17 PM |
| 7 | Chad, Dylan, and the Myth of "the Bad Man"I had to check that it was a woman I was taking to. The attitude genuinely confuses me coming from another woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 11:07 PM |
| 4 | Chad, Dylan, and the Myth of "the Bad Man"Why so angry? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 10:55 PM |
| 6 | Chad, Dylan, and the Myth of "the Bad Man"Alternatively, women could accept that we allow the strategy to have an impact and accept responsibility for our role in the success of the Dylan archetype. I don't think that what I said conveyed a lack of responsibility and if it did that was not my intent. You have to be aware of the existence of something to think about it fully. You have to be aware of the impact on you to recognize it. If you can't think about it and you can't recognize it then you will be more susceptible to it. This goes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 02:25 PM |
| 11 | Chad, Dylan, and the Myth of "the Bad Man"Dylan has no faults. Dylan wants to get laid and is entitled to use any strategy available to him to achieve that goal. RPW want to keep a low n count and find an LTR. Opening women's eyes to Dylan's strategy provides information to women so they can achieve their goals. Keeping silent on Dylan's strategy only serves the male imperative. We aren't judging Dylan but it's not our role to protect him either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 12:35 PM |
| 7 | Chad, Dylan, and the Myth of "the Bad Man"RP tells us that promiscuity is bad for women. It lowers market value, it correlates with mental health disorders, it increases divorce potential... Men are not evil for pursuing their own best interest and I don't think Ruby's post takes a particularly negative view of Dylan. We aren't judging Dylan for using a strategy that is available to him. But we should judge the impact the strategy has on us. Since RPW is somewhat of a teaching platform, "us" is "women with RPW goals". We are making wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 12:24 PM |
| 9 | Introducing Chad Thundercock's Younger Brother, Dylan -- A Lady's Man for Our Modern AgeRight and we are told that female promiscuity correlates with mental illnesses like depression and poor marriage outcomes. Women wanting to sleep with Chad doesn't mean that it's actually to our benefit. At best a high body count is neutral for women. It's not empowering the way feminism desperately wants it to be and it certainly doesn't confer any status or pride the way it does for men. Most women don't want sex with no strings (even if they will engage in sex with no strings). Sex outside of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/19 06:41 PM |
| 12 | Introducing Chad Thundercock's Younger Brother, Dylan -- A Lady's Man for Our Modern AgeFrom the women's side it doesn't matter if it's all men or a portion of men. Men are still the primary beneficiaries of the sexual revolution. So when it is important enough for you to step in to "correct", the assumption is always going to be that you don't benefit - not that you are giving voice to your poor sexless brothers. Women will defend their group, with men thats not as common. Thus whether it's true or not, intended or not, that is how it comes across. Not trying to argue, just explai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/19 11:53 AM |
| 11 | Introducing Chad Thundercock's Younger Brother, Dylan -- A Lady's Man for Our Modern AgeThe answer is still "men" which is all that is relevant on the women's sub. Don't whine about the top 20% it's incredibly unattractive. Anytime a guy brings this up he is telling us he's not good enough to get laid. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/19 11:31 AM |
| 9 | Introducing Chad Thundercock's Younger Brother, Dylan -- A Lady's Man for Our Modern AgeMy freshman year roommate brought Dylan home one day. He had floppy hair, glasses and taught her to play Free Fallin on the guitar. Then he invited her to see his band play. ( u/rubywootoo ) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/19 01:03 AM |
| 10 | Stop judging other womenThis thread is blowing my mind a little. The 'everything is ok, don't judge' attitude is why the SMP is what it is today. Shaming other women for providing easy sex is what allowed all women to be more discriminating and keep a low n-count. Now, because we've destigmatized casual sex, women are faced with a dilemma - men are less likely to wait because if they aren't getting it from you, they can get it from some other woman. Ditto for cohabitation vs marriage. Ditto for not marrying your baby m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/19 03:21 PM |
| 6 | Where do I go from here?It's very easy to say anything. There is no guarantee that it will come to pass. He could mean it now and change his mind or he could be telling you what he thinks you need to hear. That is why to properly vet you must look at more than what he says. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/19 12:37 AM |
| 8 | Where do I go from here?It's good that he is on positive terms with her, especially enough to still vacation together. 2 relationships in 2 years aren't really LTRs at 38. Those are long relationships at 19 but at 38 it sounds as though he liked the women enough for something casual but not serious. That may mean nothing or it may mean he's not commitment minded. Next: how does he behave with other women? Does he watch a lot of porn? Does he comment on other women when you are around? Does he check out other women when… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 11:21 PM |
| 3 | Where do I go from here?Does he get along with the baby mama? And are we talking like 2 LTRs in 20 years or a new one every two years? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 11:04 PM |
| 4 | Where do I go from here?Would you indulge me in a vetting q&a? First: what do you know about his past relationships? Was he ever married? What does he say about exes? Friendly with any of them still? Has he had serious LTRs or a lot of short term flings? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 10:58 PM |
| 4 | Potential prospect seems too comfortable letting me pay. Bad sign?I have to admit, I'm shocked that it's never prevented a second date from happening but good for you. You obviously get what you expect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Potential prospect seems too comfortable letting me pay. Bad sign?If I were a man, I'd consider your attitude here a red flag. As I'm not, I'm curious to know how this has worked out for you? Are you in an LTR? Have men ever balked at it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 07:25 PM |
| 4 | Do short girls have higher SMV?We never use famous people or fiction as examples (I believe it's against the rules). Famous people live in a different world with different rules. My point is that supermodels don't tell you much about the sexual market place or men's preferences. Everyone is saying these women are tall so that must mean men like tall women. I don't see that specifically play out in the real world. We should see tall women having a leg up in the SMP and I'm not sure they do. It all comes down to individual men'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 12:22 AM |
| 2 | What do you guys think about sororities?This sounds a little bitter. Sororities are a mixed bag that depends on the sorority and the school. I've met gay men who developed eating disorders - that doesn't mean all gay men will develop eating disorders. What is Her Campus? A quick search makes it look like a journalism thing - so you have to be interested in journalism and that's a little different than a social group. I'm not pushing sororities, but this comment doesn't sound logic based. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 10:54 PM |
| 6 | Do short girls have higher SMV?Everyone who is talking about supermodels is forgetting that the fashion industry is run by women and gay men. Those women should not be looked to as an example of what the average man wants in a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Please save me from my immoral thoughts and motivations..Yes and I have always wanted big tits but sadly the boob fairy never came for me. So instead of lamenting and fixating on what I was lacking, I focus on what I do have. You need to learn how to appreciate your positives and stop fixating on what you don't have and can't change. As a rule, I don't care for the Serenity Prayer but it applies to you: Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. If something is bad… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 01:30 PM |
| 6 | No ONE in this generation (gen z especially) actually has friends or an active social life outside the internet anymore.This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relationship with a great man. We explore the female RP sexual strategy, better known as "girl game", in an objective, realistic and compassionate manner. It sounds like you are making excuses so you do not have to examine your own faults in your lack of friends. Humans are social, I guarantee that has not changed for Gen Z. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 02:07 AM |
| 2 | No ONE in this generation (gen z especially) actually has friends or an active social life outside the internet anymore.What does this have to do with sexual strategy? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Please save me from my immoral thoughts and motivations..You know that no one can 'save you'. Life is just about making decisions and following through. You make excuses about it being in the music and culture but ultimately the buck stops at you. Music does not make you do anything. Own your choices. Stick to your values. Don't expect anyone to have a shortcut for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 01:45 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend too clingyDid you have a crush on this guy before you started dating? Have you always had these complaints since day one or did they develop over time? After reading your post history I have to wonder if you like him because he is your only friend and not because you are attracted to him as a boyfriend. It's very important to have a fulfilling social life along with hobbies and interests in addition to a boyfriend. Having other things going on in your life will help you not accept any relationship that is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 12:37 AM |
| 15 | Is it weird/unladylike to read a book at a bar?The library loans you books so you can read them other places. It is known. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterIt is. And I continue to wonder if peoples hypothetical response would match up to their actual response 🤷♀️. I was also thinking of it in terms of advice-giving so it is fascinating that everyone personalized it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 12:04 PM |
| 3 | I have worked in the online adult industry for a year, I have had countless online encounters with different men. Everything I have learned doing this work has transcended my views on sex, attraction, and relationships in general, and most importantly how men actually think of women; ASK ME ANYTHINGAgreed | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 11:37 PM |
| 2 | I have worked in the online adult industry for a year, I have had countless online encounters with different men. Everything I have learned doing this work has transcended my views on sex, attraction, and relationships in general, and most importantly how men actually think of women; ASK ME ANYTHINGShe has posts up about being depressed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 09:47 PM |
| 2 | I have worked in the online adult industry for a year, I have had countless online encounters with different men. Everything I have learned doing this work has transcended my views on sex, attraction, and relationships in general, and most importantly how men actually think of women; ASK ME ANYTHINGI'm not offended. I have an extensive post history here that would indicate that. You don't have any and that is my issue with this. I think you should have a reputation in the community before doing something like this. I also think that it is a lot harder to write a good informative post than it is to throw up an AMA. I think you are lazy. I really think you don't know your audience. It's incredibly presumptuous to come into a topical sub and say "I know better than you". We don't want people … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 09:09 PM |
| 6 | I have worked in the online adult industry for a year, I have had countless online encounters with different men. Everything I have learned doing this work has transcended my views on sex, attraction, and relationships in general, and most importantly how men actually think of women; ASK ME ANYTHINGOn RPW we suggest getting off social media so you avoid addiction to that sort of validation. It can hurt your connection with your partner. Doesn't seem any healthier just because you get a few bucks for it. I know you will say that your relationship is great but that doesn't make it good advice or an admirable life choice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 08:59 PM |
| 2 | I have worked in the online adult industry for a year, I have had countless online encounters with different men. Everything I have learned doing this work has transcended my views on sex, attraction, and relationships in general, and most importantly how men actually think of women; ASK ME ANYTHINGThere are soooooo many things I can touch on that are totally related to the pill theories Then why not write a post. An AMA is a lazy way of communicating. You are relying on us to do the work of asking you questions rather than taking the initiative to put it out there yourself. You didn't even answer my concern that you have nothing to share other than with a vague statement that your experiences are relevant. Finally you say that you are here to contradict red pill theory, well gee lucky us … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 08:50 PM |
| 3 | I have worked in the online adult industry for a year, I have had countless online encounters with different men. Everything I have learned doing this work has transcended my views on sex, attraction, and relationships in general, and most importantly how men actually think of women; ASK ME ANYTHINGI'm sure you have the best of intentions but I struggle to think what cam girl experiences can teach us about acquiring commitment or a RP relationship dynamic. Perhaps you could start by writing content that you think is useful to the community instead of setting yourself up as an expert we should have questions for. You are new and we don't know you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 08:10 PM |
| 9 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterYour answers are probably closest to where I fall. There are things that could happen that might not be worth throwing away a lifetime partner. I'm not surprised that everyone here is taking such a hard line however I think plenty of women would surprise themselves if the situation arose for them. As for me cheating? I always said that it's a no win situation - either the sex is not as good and then what's the point or the sex is better and then I'll be disappointed with my husband the rest of m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/19 08:08 PM |
| 3 | [CMV] Having a child is one of the worst decisions a woman can make.I was healed before my 6 week check up. Had a few 2nd degree tears. From what I understand from family and friends, this is the norm (healing in a month or two). It's also what I was told to expect from the docs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/19 06:11 PM |
| 3 | [CMV] Having a child is one of the worst decisions a woman can make.Most women heal from these things. The human body is pretty great that way. You are selling a whole lot of fear based doom and gloom. Some of these things happen to some people. You can recover from most. Tears and cuts last a month or two so it's a bit much to act like these are the end of the world. If you have drugs you may not even feel that mess when it happens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/19 02:00 PM |
| 13 | "Husband" has an Affair!Well, in a dating situation I believe a woman should leave. Marriage is different and marriage with a kid is really different. Sometimes people make mistakes, really big mistakes even. I'm not sure about the OPs guy so let's just talk about a hypothetical man who cheats.... Because men view sex differently than women, it is possible that he doesn't love his wife or value his marriage less. Now that doesn't excuse the cheating but it does mean that his foot isn't necessarily out the door. I don't… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/19 07:52 PM |
| 5 | How can you love and admire men after taking the red pill?Being pretty is the bare minimum that you need to secure a man for a relationship. Yes, men are visual and that is what will make them notice you. It's not enough to sustain a relationship though. You have to have other qualities that he looks for in a girlfriend/partner/wife and you have to be pleasant to be around. Beautiful women get divorced. Humans are opportunistic. When a couple decides to marry, they are saying "my opportunities in life will be better with you". You are agreeing to help … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/19 07:09 PM |
| 20 | "Husband" has an Affair!It's not so much a question about whether he is worthy of a second chance - it's whether or not you can ultimately let go of it. You may want to get over it and not ever be able to or you may be able to put it behind you. You probably can't even know that at the moment. And you don't have to decide now. If you "take him back" and in 6 months or a year you still can't stand to look at him, you can leave then too. This is not necessarily red pill advice but: RP will tell you that a single mother /… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/19 06:05 PM |
| 8 | Should I insist? Is chasing unattractive?I don't really care what you think about single mothers. The point is that the op is in her early 20s and you are going off about the value of 34 year old single mothers. It's not relevant to the conversation but you felt the need to bring it up anyway. I'm now not at all surprised that you were raised by a single mother, it's obviously personal to you. It's still irrelevant to the OP. And there is a rule here about the type of men who are allowed to participate and it simply doesn't sound like … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/19 11:11 PM |
| 11 | Should I insist? Is chasing unattractive?You can always tell a MGTOW because they start talking about single mothers and divorce rape whether it's relevant to the discussion or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/19 08:24 PM |
| 12 | Should I insist? Is chasing unattractive?As MGTOW you aren't really the type of man anyone here is looking to date so who you like to laugh at is irrelevant. It also makes no sense to the topic at hand. The mother with 2 kids didn't have a problem with not approaching* - she wouldn't have 2 kids otherwise. *Edit for clarity- the mother of two likely didn't approach as most women do not, and it did not prevent her from getting a man, evidenced by the fact that she has two children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/19 04:34 PM |
| 15 | Why do some girls feel comfortable being a side piece?How old are you guys because these sound like ridiculous caricatures of men. My husbands best friend is a former captain of the football team. He's got bad joints from sports injuries and has been with the same company since college. And truly hyper alpha dudes are the ones who are going to cheat on you or want open relationships. Be sure you know what you are signing up for. Alpha traits are related to attraction, beta traits are related to comfort, you need both if you intend to have a long st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Why do some girls feel comfortable being a side piece?I value Mortons and not McDonalds. I assume she means Morton's Steakhouse over McDonalds. I guess Morton's is more exclusive and high end in this scenario? It's better than McDonalds but still a chain with a lot of cities under it's belt :-P The issue in this post seems to be the definition of value. I hope this comment outlines it for people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Why do some girls feel comfortable being a side piece?Nah, it wasn't to you specifically, just a general reply to the comment chain. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 03:40 PM |
| 9 | I feel like I am his maid!I wasn't trying to insult you but there are changes to your brain and hormones during pregnancy. How it is impacting you, I don't know, but it's possible that this is a situation that you'd handle differently if you weren't pregnant. You should be treated decently and with respect. I'm not suggesting that your husband's behavior is ok. I was trying to offer reasons he might be "off" that are probably not permanent. Not respecting him is a serious blow to the relationship. I had hoped to give you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 03:17 PM |
| 4 | I was sleeping with someone I saw as high value for years... found out he had an ugly GFIt doesn't sound like she was cheated on. She accepted a casual relationship with a man and is now upset that the woman he chose to commit to is not as pretty as she is. He wouldn't commit to her so she is confused. There is no affair going on - he found a woman he valued enough to make his girlfriend, she just wasn't the OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 01:54 PM |
| 2 | Why do some girls feel comfortable being a side piece?You need to stop calling men insects. It reflects poorly on you. You come across as bitter which is incredibly unattractive. I hope that you've never made a mistake in your life for the way you throwing stones. Holding yourself to the highest standard is good but it's not enough to get and keep a man as you've already discovered. May I suggest a visit to our wiki. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 01:51 PM |
| 5 | Why do some girls feel comfortable being a side piece?Now the fox sat down and looked at the grapes in disgust. "What a fool I am," he said. "Here I am wearing myself out to get a bunch of sour grapes that are not worth gaping for." And off he walked very, very scornfully. Gotta love that Aesop, he knew some things | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 01:42 PM |
| 4 | Why do some girls feel comfortable being a side piece?hat are tou trying to say they are? Human | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 01:27 PM |
| 5 | Why do some girls feel comfortable being a side piece?You either get a man who values loyalty and will not stray because he will be disappointed in himself if he cheats OR you have to be special enough to hold his attention. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 01:26 PM |
| 18 | I feel like I am his maid!After spending 9 months on the baby bumpers subs, it's clear to me that men respond to pregnancy in all sorts of fun ways :-P . I think they get as irrational as we do - we just have the excuse of hormones and a baby. If you think about it, his sexy wife is suddenly looking very different - not just gaining weight but your clothes might get baggier, your hair and make up can become less important, you have a slight green cast as you battle nausea (ok kidding about the last one). Your brain can b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 01:11 PM |
| 10 | Why do some girls feel comfortable being a side piece?The ex-bf is not a man who we'd advise anyone to be with, but at least two women found him "valuable" enough to date/sleep with. The use of 'high value' here is iffy, but the top comment isn't an incorrect assessment of men's attitudes/thoughts. Some will value loyalty to one good woman more than they value variety, but that doesn't mean that they aren't noticing other women. Soothing the OP by saying "he's scum" doesn't really answer her questions. And while it's phrased in a very male-centric … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 12:27 PM |
| 80 | Why do some girls feel comfortable being a side piece?Why do some women feel comfortable being a side piece? The RP answer is that women would rather share a great man than have exclusive rights to an ok man. Remember here that "great" is in the eye of the beholder. Other possibilities: She doesn't know she's a side piece or he's lied to her about the nature of his primary relationship (ex: saying it's open) She doesn't want a committed relationship She's afraid of a committed relationship / vulnerability so being a side piece is 'safe' She believe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 12:18 PM |
| 2 | Should I stay a virgin until marriage?It's not off topic because women will need to decide if it is worthwhile for them to have sex before marriage or wait. This is RPW and we are supposed to look the truth in the eye. What you are saying is the way that a lot of men, particularly secular men, feel about sex and dating. Pretending that it's not true (or shaming you over your ex) is simply naive. For Women Only - Sex Women who understand that men need sex, tend to view it as a physical need. It is not hard to come to terms with that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 11:08 PM |
| 1 | What marriage advice would you give?I've seen it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 10:23 PM |
| 3 | Should I stay a virgin until marriage?OP is secular, asking for secular advice, which I gave her and is not inconsistent with advice previously given on this sub. This is so important. It's really unhelpful to give advice that is outside of someone's value system. As I said in other places, it's so difficult for women to navigate sex and relationships these days. The OP isn't looking for a religious man so in all likelihood her future husband is not going to hold sex in one to two LTRs against her. And not for nothing, but RPW is st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 03:49 PM |
| 4 | I have to submit or I lose my familyThe funny thing is, OP has already accepted my advice. A TRP founder should know better than to accept a woman's words at face value. 😛 The OP has been here quite a few times and has known what to do for a while. She still seems unable (or unwilling) to implement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 03:18 PM |
| 2 | I have to submit or I lose my familyThere are also a ton of cbt workbooks on Amazon. If a sitter is not possible yet that may be an option to start off | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 03:00 PM |
| 3 | I have to submit or I lose my familyI did get away with a lot of shit in my previous relationships This is somewhat irrelevant to your situation but... different relationships do have different dynamics. This is important to remember. You may be a completely terrible partner or your current partner may have a higher need for subservience than others. My ex and I didn't work out because neither of us wanted to be in charge. He ended up marrying a woman who is the primarily dominant one in the relationship. You are incredibly self d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 02:45 PM |
| 9 | I have to submit or I lose my familywhich physically and mentally changes a woman in many ways that are objectively measurable facts and published in various studies anyone can read I'm in about the same place as the OP (pregnancy-wise - not relationship-wise). Over the last year my brain went to absolute shit. I literally do not know how often my husband followed behind me correcting my behaviors. I'm still figuring out what I forgot at work. I know that my boss asked me to do things multiple times before I actually accomplished … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 01:32 PM |
| 2 | I have to submit or I lose my familyAt this point it wouldn't surprise me if they are both trying to torpedo the relationship. He's pushing her away while she's in a vulnerable state and some of her actions are just so blatantly stupid. The clock thing really gets me. Some bad habits are hard to change but that... Watching this thread all day... My new pet theory is that she subconsciously doesn't want to be with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 12:13 AM |
| 3 | Bf considering ending things with me because I’m too irritable.I agree which is why I added the caveat about leaving if he doesn't change. Otherwise STFU would just be the path to permanent doormat-ness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 04:06 PM |
| 3 | I have to submit or I lose my familyThis has been going on since before the baby so I hesitate to chalk it up to PPD. That said, pregnancy hormones are crazy and men can get weird when their partner is pregnant/has a new baby. Could be that this is all worse now because of baby. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 03:50 PM |
| 3 | Should I stay a virgin until marriage?Fair. I should probably say that virginity is only a requirement for some men. Here is the issue for women in the marketplace: the men who are willing to wait until marriage are the ones with more beta traits. The risk is hypergamy kicking in down the road. The man who inspires a woman to drop her rules (and demand that she does) are heavier in alpha traits and so the risk is on the front end (that you wont get commitment). The virgin advantage comes with long term risk. So women have to decide … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 03:44 PM |
| 40 | I have to submit or I lose my familyI'd also say that, holy shit, three months post partum is NOT the time to put an ultimatum on your wife's behaviour This part really makes me leery of the whole situation. All her posts have been over the course of her pregnancy. He's demanding submission and throwing out ultimatums at the time when she is most vulnerable. I feel like there is something we are missing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 02:04 PM |
| 12 | I have to submit or I lose my familyIf your partner has been disrespectful to you for a long time and you tried everything to resolve that, would you still have the patience to wait and see what happens or you would feel the need to demand an urgent change? Were you better prior to marriage? Did he ever have your submission? Or did he marry you and then demand something he should be inspiring? I get that he's feed up but your defense of him feels hollow. You are saying the words but not following through with actions. You've been … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 12:53 PM |
| 8 | Bf considering ending things with me because I’m too irritable.Ugh after reading all of that I understand his impulse to yell at her. They both sound like insufferable partners who need to grow up. She should break up with him but also, he should break up with her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 06:33 AM |
| 2 | Should I stay a virgin until marriage?MGTOWs opinions don't really matter around here and the OP doesn't want a religious boyfriend. You can't push your religion onto others. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 03:12 AM |
| -3 | Should I stay a virgin until marriage?It can be denied to some degree. A low n count is the accepted standard around here but virginity is only important to some men. There really are men who don't care or view it negatively. The older a woman is the more questionable her virginity becomes to many sane men. (Obviously this is not applicable to the OP). Also, for many men, sex is a requisite part of a relationship. It's difficult for a woman to navigate the terrain these days. There are risks no matter what. Finally, the stats are pr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 03:09 AM |
| 5 | Bf considering ending things with me because I’m too irritable.My suggestion is to take a month and simply shut your mouth when he is critical. Don't engage with him, don't say anything, just throw away the pizza box and continue on with your life. It will likely frustrate you to no end. Assess if his behavior changes going into the second month. Change takes time but if you go a whole month without being "mean" and he's still being critical and picking fights, then you should assume things will not change and you have to accept that this is who he is. It's… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 03:00 AM |
| 12 | Bf considering ending things with me because I’m too irritable.I'll jump on the bandwagon and say that one or two unpleasant interactions a week is quite a lot. Buuut... It's a little confusing what is going on here exactly. Are you only mean in response to him being critical? Or does your irritability set off his and create a bad cycle between you both? Have you discussed your frustration with him? Is there a pattern to the things he is critical about? How is your sex life? Are there other stresses for either of you? I'm wondering why the pizza box (for ex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 12:02 AM |
| 7 | What marriage advice would you give?Nah | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/19 04:24 PM |
| 10 | What marriage advice would you give?Why are you here? As a young woman, I listened to the stories from the women around me. I took some of what was said to heart and ignored other stuff. Some things I gathered would amount to a bullet point on a listicle. Having a hobby isn't bad advice. It allows a woman to not lean on her man as her sole form of entertainment. Some people need to be told that. You really come across as bitter and pitiable. Maybe you should just sit this one out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/19 03:45 PM |
| 10 | What marriage advice would you give?I am not asking for advice for me, I thought it could be an interesting discussion and useful to others. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/19 01:45 PM |
| 9 | Can someone give me podcast recommendations?I suggest checking the history. This comes up frequently. I think someone else asked the same thing about a week ago | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/19 10:00 PM |
| 21 | I feel bullied by women.This whole narrative of women being jealous B’s and feeling threatened by one another so they “make life hard for the pretty ones” is such a cop out I've watched my BFF climb the career ladder. The most difficult bosses she's had have all been women - from her days interning to now. The people she's clashed with in other departments have been women. And the woman is in a senior enough position at this point in her life that she's proven she's not incompetent. (Aside: she is a card carrying femin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/19 10:59 PM |
| 12 | How do you get out of the friendzone when a guy showed he was attracted to you before?::sigh:: I hate when people leave out information from their posts. Just because you don't want it to be relevant doesn't mean it isn't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/19 12:26 AM |
| 28 | Need relationship advice pleaseThis sounds like a post full of excuses that are designed to avoid vulnerability. You spend too much time trying to be a man, it is no wonder you are having trouble finding one. Since you identify more with masculine communication, I'll be blunt. not because I'm hideous or a shitty person... Are you sure of this? Are you being chased by men and turning them down or are you not finding men who want a second date with you? It's better for it to be your own fault because you can change that. Either… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/19 02:37 PM |
| 2 | How do you get out of the friendzone when a guy showed he was attracted to you before?Oh definitely a case by case basis - there is no RPW checklist that guarantees a man. All your reasons/signs are why people were silly to tell you to get out. The lack of any signs for the OP is why she shouldn't risk casual sex with this guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/19 01:25 AM |
| 3 | How do you get out of the friendzone when a guy showed he was attracted to you before?I copied the entire section but it's more the parts about being careful not to choose a man as a reaction to his predecessor. If you are just looking for someone to make you forget the ex, then you aren't properly vetting. Also, you might have a tendency to go for your exes opposite rather than considering what you actually want in a man. And if you chase after this guy and he burns you, then you are putting yourself on the path to: "After a constant stream of heartbreak and disappointment, dati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/19 12:59 AM |
| 3 | How do you get out of the friendzone when a guy showed he was attracted to you before?You shouldn't force a new relationship just so you get over the old one. I'm reminded of a post from /u/rubywootoo for women who are coming to RPW later in their dating lives. Here is the part that I believe applies: First, I must sing the praises of “Nun Mode,” which is a period of time (minimum 6 months) dedicated to self-improvement during which a woman completely foregoes dating. As with TRP’s “Monk Mode,” the purpose is to obtain self-awareness and self-sufficiency. If you’re pushing up aga… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 11:52 PM |
| 6 | How do you get out of the friendzone when a guy showed he was attracted to you before?a guy who beat me any day Is this a typo? I'm very confused how the options are a casual relationship or a guy who beats you? It it nearly always the case that it is harder to shake a crush after you have had sex. There are bonding hormones produced with sex and you get much more attached. You may think that you have feelings now but it will likely get much worse if you fool around with this guy. Has he reached back out to ask you out on another date? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 11:31 PM |
| 3 | How do you get out of the friendzone when a guy showed he was attracted to you before?I think the plate route is only a good strategy if you are already sleeping with the guy and caught feels. Then it makes some sense to double down and bring your A game. I wrote that post because /u/stripethrowaway had a post up about her situation at the time and too many people were telling her to ditch the guy and start over. Not everyone starts a relationship using the RPW Commitment First ApproachTM and I was writing for those women. OP is no worse for the wear if she walks away now and she… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Abstinence - Telling HimIt’s almost like I lost a piece of myself as bad as that part of myself was. It is not easy to recalibrate yourself like that. I learned to speak through sarcasm growing up and then I made friends in HS with a bunch of catty gay teenagers. It probably took me about ten years to break the habit (and I'm still not perfect). You did "lose" a piece of yourself because those traits were a part of the person you presented to the world. You probably even thought in criticisms and sarcasm. Now you are t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 03:55 PM |
| 2 | Abstinence - Telling HimI didn't wait until marriage, but I did wait 8 months, I thought of you because I knew you had waited for quite a while. If I tried to tell the OP how to have the "I'm waiting for commitment/marriage" conversation, I'd be talking out my butt :-P. Is it easier to discuss than everyone here is making it out to be or is it as awkward as it sounds in the age of casual hook ups and Tinder? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Abstinence - Telling HimI definitely think you should be upfront about it. You don't want to waste your own time and it's a courtesy to not waste his. I agree with whoever it is that said not to text because that sounds like a brush off. And you should listen to other experienced women more than me here BUT I think you should wait until either: it comes up organically in the conversation OR the end of the date. You can have a nice date and let him know towards the end so he can decide if he wants to go out again. Also,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/19 08:51 PM |
| 15 | Abstinence - Telling HimThere aren't a lot of people around today (summertime Friday I suppose) and you've gotten some absolutely garbage advice. I'm not the person to tell you how to navigate this discussion - hopefully some of the ladies who have waited for engagement or marriage to have sex will find their way in and give you the right words to use (/u/kara__el maybe?). That said...do not look for a low testosterone man. Men are capable of refraining from sex if they want to. Some men will never want to do it and wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/19 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Are Moms Doomed to Get Fat?Not who you asked but... I started pregnancy at 105lbs (am 5'4) and gained every bit of 50lbs over 9 months. I was completely healthy and so was the baby, that's just what I gained. Having the extra weigh was unpleasant, heavy, exhausting...pretty much what you'd imagine. Seven weeks postpartum and I'm down to 125. That's with breastfeeding but without exercise or dieting yet. Obviously we are all different and ymmv yadda yadda yadda. But don't let it stress you too much, there is an excellent c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/19 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill Parenting?I believe that opinions based on experience are more useful than others. This thread should be for parents and those who work with children as adults... same way that people who have not had a successful relationship shouldn't be giving married women advice to divorce. There are things you can't understand until you have lived them. And you are putting out your personal experience as though it is fact, not a sharing of ideas. Teens are not fully develoted people. Important parts of your brain ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/19 09:00 AM |
| 0 | Red Pill Parenting?No, you are too close to this to be able to make an adult decision. And you are too young to realize that your opinions and experiences might not be the only valid ones and there might be more information out there than what you think you know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/19 08:08 AM |
| 2 | Red Pill Parenting?You are 22. You have just recently entered into adulthood. You are closer to peer than parent with the age group you are speaking about. You also don't have enough distance and life experience to have the wisdom that hindsight brings. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/19 04:18 PM |
| 5 | Book Club: Fascinating Womanhood Chapter 21: The Feminine Role Vs The Working WifeI didn't make an assumption out of no where. I'm a financial planner by trade. I'm not going to guess at numbers but iirc you can get hundreds of thousands in coverage for less than $1000 per year in premiums in your 20s. You can determine how much you need in the event someone dies and go from there. Again I'm not suggesting that working is the right answer or staying home is the right answer. Everyone has to make the best choice for their family. But you can and should make plans to mitigate r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/19 09:09 PM |
| 9 | Book Club: Fascinating Womanhood Chapter 21: The Feminine Role Vs The Working WifeI'm not taking your position on whether women should stay home or not. However, you're citing one of those things that's often thrown around without any thought. Proper planning can mitigate this problem fairly easily. For example, life insurance obtained at a very young age can be pretty inexpensive for whole lot of coverage. It's made for exactly your friend's family situation. Now it sounds like your friends family didn't plan for anything to happen to the breadwinner, and that was a bad call… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/19 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Regarding my man’s n-countI agree with you, these are innate responses and explaining them should be unnecessary. This is obviously a case where the men simply don't understand women and the advice is for the good of the OPs partner not her. Going a step further there is some willful ignorance because the example you laid out for it going the other way was solid. Since your example was poo pooed as 'feelz' I couldn't resist giving a 'logical' justification. We hear so much male hamstering about n count=pair bonding that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/19 02:06 PM |
| 5 | Regarding my man’s n-countHow's that SJW soapbox. I'm a bisexual woman whose maid of honor was one of the gay men I've been friends with since I was a freshman in HS. Do not lecture me on bigotry as some tactic to win a debate. Attraction is personal. If it was not how many men would have chosen to be gay in say... 1930? Men cannot change what they are attracted to in women and women cannot change what they are attracted to in men. Disgust isnt controllable. Babies show signs of disgust. It just is. No one should partner… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/19 01:52 PM |
| 3 | Regarding my man’s n-countBeyond being a turn off, there are so many problems with drugs and STDs in the gay community that it is a big warning flag if a man has had sex with another man. It may not be the case that all homosexual sex is going to lead to drugs or STDs but it's also not the case that every high n count woman is incapable of pair-bonding. All of which is really irrelevant because we're talking about disgust which is an automatic reaction but if we want to pretend that there's logic behind it - there actual… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/19 01:19 AM |
| 3 | Regarding my man’s n-countOr you can do what we advise women to do with their n-count. Be upfront and honest when the topic comes up and understand that it will be a turn off for some people. As /u/Vellore992 said, you cannot negotiate attraction. If male homosexual behavior is unattractive to a woman that isn't something she can change. If you intend to lie about it, then you better hope you don't get caught because it won't suddenly be more attractive two years down the road. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/19 06:39 PM |
| 7 | Why is lying about your past frowned upon in the RPW community?Whenever anyone suggests lying as a viable strategy, I wonder how long their longest relationship has been. For me personally, I simply can't imagine living with the secrets for my whole life. In the time I've been with my husband, he's met old friends who have known me forever. If I had lied, each of these meetings would have been stressful. I've also made new friends over this time and if I were keeping a part of my past a secret from my husband, I'd not have been able to fully open up with th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/19 11:36 PM |
| 8 | I need advice and maybe this is the best sub to come to...She's from a muslim country...her advice doesn't really work for a woman in the west. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 07:17 PM |
| 6 | What type of women do "Chad" commit to and marry?Yeah I saw the pity party she threw for herself in the last thread before it disappeared. Figured this was worth answering for people reading other than the OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 01:41 PM |
| 4 | What type of women do "Chad" commit to and marry?If this was accurate than every man is Chad to some woman. What you are describing is how men behave in the smp. Chad is an illustration of the most alpha, top % of man who gets laid easily. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 12:55 PM |
| 2 | What type of women do "Chad" commit to and marry?Apparently I have not been keeping up with my wifely duty of stroking your ego 😂😉 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 11:52 PM |
| 3 | How do I come to terms with being submissive?I don't think you should speak for womens experience here. Do you have kids yourself? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 11:50 PM |
| 33 | What type of women do "Chad" commit to and marry?You are asking the wrong question. Chad is an archetype not a real person. What kind of man do you want to be married to. Ask what type of woman he marries. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 09:48 PM |
| 9 | How do I come to terms with being submissive?Is it your intention to be rude because this post ... well I won't insult you in hopes that I'm misreading your tone. No one is here to sell RPW to you. If you are happy with your life as is, then be happy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 09:45 PM |
| 6 | How to influence your SO with simple storiesHow long have you been married? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/19 08:51 PM |
| 7 | I'm suffocating (long)Aren't you charming. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/19 01:40 PM |
| 38 | If you're a housewife, you can use your spare time for self-education. Don't let your intellect rot.I think you are getting down voted because you are trying to give advice for which you have no experience to give. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/19 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my age🙄 I'm going to go ahead and assume your reading comprehension is lacking and and leave it there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/19 04:38 AM |
| 3 | Thank you for existing RPW.She has a lot of "fuck yous" and condescension for the OP. If she was making her point in a kind fashion, I'd do the same. Why defend the person who started the bitchiness? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/19 04:23 PM |
| -3 | Thank you for existing RPW.You shouldn't get so snarky when you are misreading her words. She flat out isn't saying this the way you are suggesting. Unclutch your pearls. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/19 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Thank you for existing RPW.I heard about rape culture and the 1 in 4 stat when I was in HS more a decade ago. How do you suggest that it's a new phenomenon? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/19 08:28 PM |
| 13 | Thank you for existing RPW.There are some terrible things that happen in the world no matter what you do. There are also people that put themselves into terrible situations and then cry that it was inevitable and there is nothing they could have done to prevent it. Like say a sex worker who was raped. There is no way that could have been a predictable and avoidable outcome now is there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/19 01:07 PM |
| 5 | Question About TRP and RPW!Well Rollos stuff is never relevant to RPW. I won't speak to the censorship, my question is what advanced RPW strategy do we miss out on by not bad mouthing TRP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/19 10:57 PM |
| 4 | Question About TRP and RPW!I guess I don't see this conversation as relevant to me being a better wife so I don't get it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/19 10:54 PM |
| 1 | I was told by a TRP coach to not worry about getting a good job as I’m going to become a SAHM and won’t have time for work anyway.Is it your goal to be a sahm? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/19 10:38 PM |
| 5 | Question About TRP and RPW!What advanced stuff do you think we are missing out on? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/19 09:35 PM |
| 17 | Question About TRP and RPW!I don't like the cranky anger phasers, incels and mgtows who come in here to teach us how to be women. Those guy should be able to be mocked and shot down. However, as a general rule, I don't care what goes on over at TRP. I don't want RPW to become "bitch about TRP" or "bitch about men" because it doesn't really accomplish much. I've seen variations of your post repeated over the past few years and I do fear that if the "don't bad mouth TRP" rule was lifted, we'd be answering this same question… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/19 03:44 PM |
| -2 | Is Feminism oppressive to women? (video)You've never posted on RPW before. Did you just stumble in to defend feminism? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/19 11:22 PM |
| 3 | How to be a RPW(Situation specific-long story)?That's how I read it :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/19 10:39 PM |
| 3 | How to be a RPW(Situation specific-long story)?It's if he wants to be a SAHF and she wants to be a SAHM that it's a problem. Their goals are somewhat incompatible in that case unless someone has a trust fund to finance their lives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/19 10:28 PM |
| 3 | Push away high value suitors. How to stop self sabotaging? Imposter syndrome?and what makes you assume I date men? You are giving advice about dating men. I supposed you had experience on the topic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/19 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Push away high value suitors. How to stop self sabotaging? Imposter syndrome?Your description is why people think that submissive means doormat. She needs to trust her own judgement first. From there, vetting is giving a little bit of trust at a time and seeing how a man handles it. While you do that, you also look at his character and see if your values are aligned. You must decide that he is a worthwhile partner for you (and he decides if you have value in his life). The way you are talking, women should just take the first man who is interested and assume he's good fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/19 04:12 PM |
| 4 | Push away high value suitors. How to stop self sabotaging? Imposter syndrome?stop thinking on your own so much This is asinine. There is no way to vet a man without thinking for yourself. Following a man does not mean you stop using your brain and it doesn't mean you follow any man who will go on a date with you. Terrible damaging advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/19 03:37 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, what are your enneagrams and Myer/Briggs types?When I was in HS I read Tarot cards for people. From that experience, I learned that people like to hear about themselves. It almost doesn't matter what you tell them. With tarot, they'll find a way to apply what you are saying to their lives. The people I read for got much more excited and believed it much more than I did. The MBIT (and I guess enneagrams) are in a similar vein. If the symbols and whatnot help something to click for you then cool. Mostly, people like to hear about themselves. :… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/19 10:20 PM |
| 36 | Am I Just Hypergamous?All true but this doesn't quite sound like hypergamy kicking in. There is no other man who she is viewing as better than her guy. This one just is "not her type" and it's not "carnal attraction" To me this sounds more like a case of trying to negotiate attraction. She assesses her SMV to be low so she's settling for a companion relationship. Now she's confused why she's not attracted to a man who has all the beta qualities she wants on paper but none of the tingles. Not sure where that goes in t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/19 04:13 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsI started dating my husband at 24. If I had married the man I was dating at 18 we'd have ended up divorced within 5 years. You are probably imagining any difference that you see in treatment from men a few years ago to now unless you have gained weight or stopped caring for yourself. 18 is still very young. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/19 02:32 AM |
| 8 | I think I ruined my own proposal vacation...She lost respect in him because she didn't see her wants addressed quickly enough, Actually, given the fertility timeline, I think she gave him ample time. They lived with the sister for two years. At a certain point a woman has to consider her ability to have kids and how her current relationship will impact that goal. If he's not the father of her children, then it's not unreasonable to move on at this age and begin seeking out the man who will be. She took him her problem early on and then ga… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/19 12:06 AM |
| 9 | I think I ruined my own proposal vacation...Women need to realize that no matter how beautiful you are, to men like me you're worthless if we know you would drop us off at the first inconvenience. And most of the times that's easily detectable. I don't disagree with this. Being attractive gets your foot in the door but nothing else. I think perhaps where we are disagreeing is that you see this from the man's perspective (not unfair) and I see it from the woman's (obviously). There is a whole lot that happened in this year and a half of OP… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/19 08:57 PM |
| 18 | I think I ruined my own proposal vacation...Men may not like to hear this but they have to be good enough to make sacrifices for. You didn't like feeling replaceable to your ex but you were. She had her goals and those were more important than the man with whom she accomplished them. Now my advice to women is typically to pick the man over the marriage but that requires finding the right man. Life is long and relationships have their ups and downs. If you want to be a man who women follow through the down times then you have to be awesome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/19 06:27 PM |
| 5 | Ladies, what are your enneagrams and Myer/Briggs types?I broke your enneagram test. It doesn't know what I am. Maybe a 5w6 or maybe a 9w1 or a couple other options. 😂 I usually test as INTP on the other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/19 12:19 PM |
| 3 | Is it normal for a 24 male's mom to do everything for him.In the same way a man can be beaten down by a harpy of a wife until he no longer cares to lead or even participate in the relationship, a mother has a couple ways of making sure her son is dependent on her forever. One of these is to do everything for him so he'll never really need to seek love elsewhere and he never needs to do the hard work of growing up and growing self sufficient. These men are technically capable of improving themselves, but the likelihood is slim because they have no reaso… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/19 11:33 PM |
| 3 | Is it normal for a 24 male's mom to do everything for him.You can wait and see if you want, but leaving is never going to be easy. If you can live with him the way he is, and you don't mind filling the role of 'mommy' once he leaves his mother's house, then by all means stay. But don't stay under the assumption that he will ever change. That is setting yourself up for failure. If you aren't happy in the relationship, if he doesn't show signs of being even self sufficient, if you are frustrated with the way things are going, then you aren't helping your… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/19 11:04 PM |
| 2 | My new role model ( how can I become like this )I think it's unfortunate that you feel women cannot be decent in relationships and a sad state of affairs if you think 'decent' = 'willing to die for another person. There are a whole lot of ways to demonstrate love before you get to 'die for someone.' Honestly, it makes you sound very young and idealistic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/19 10:44 PM |
| 7 | Is it normal for a 24 male's mom to do everything for him.I think you are giving the advice that you would want someone to give your GF in this situation. I don't normally jump to 'break up with him' either but how long should the OP try to change another person. She isn't married to him and after two years he isn't showing signs of moving the relationship forward (delaying living together). Keeping him around as a beta orbiter doesn't seem like the best idea for anyone and if she back burners him, what sort of man would go back to her once he's improv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/19 02:37 PM |
| 20 | Is it normal for a 24 male's mom to do everything for him.He's a sunk cost. Don't continue to waste time simply because you have already wasted two years. If there are no signs of change or forward movement then you are foolish to assume that he will suddenly wake up a different person one day. Anecdotally, my ex spent a lot of time trying to please his mother. His mother always needed one more favor and then one more favor. Last I heard, his wife was having the same complaints and rather than put down a boundary with Mom, he asked Mom to respect his t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/19 11:58 AM |
| 2 | My new role model ( how can I become like this )Well for one, why would you desire being in a scenario where you would be called to put your life on the line. That seems to me a romantic notion that isn't so great in reality. Beyond that, why is the "one good thing" to come from this event that some woman put her life on the line for some man. Why is it gendered at all. Why do you want to be that woman. When shootings happen there are usually people who step up and risk their lives to save others and they should be praised. I don't understand… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/19 01:59 AM |
| 3 | My new role model ( how can I become like this )I do not understand why you see this as a good thing? Please explain further, otherwise this sounds like 'rah rah grrrrl power'. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/19 11:00 PM |
| 12 | [help] How do you beautify your living space?Hello, you've reached girlwithabike. I'm 38 weeks pregnant with no short term memory, motivation or sense of style and am unavailable to take your call at this time. I will return your page in 2 weeks (with a several month margin of error). Beeeeeeeeeeeeep. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/19 04:58 PM |
| 14 | The Power of the Pussy by Kara KingI don't consider money the only requirement to determine value. There is a personality component to go with it. Actually, there are a lot of things beyond a car that go into a man's character and value. If you vet by the car and the job you will end up with a lot of incompatible men. Also preselection tendencies tell me that if you didn't deem him worthy of being with, then he is not as desirable as he sounds on paper. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/19 02:18 PM |
| 4 | The Power of the Pussy by Kara KingI turned it down and the guy himself because that is not a high value man, Accepting a direct exchange of money lowers your own value as well. Instead of sex being a mutual experience it becomes a one sided thing. The man no longer has to gain your attraction or affection or care about you as a person. Accepting that money is an agreement that you don't have to be cared about as a person. If you don't value yourself as a person, there is no reason to expect others will. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/19 01:32 PM |
| 5 | The Power of the Pussy by Kara KingNo go at all? Like you wait until marriage? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/19 01:23 PM |
| 14 | The Power of the Pussy by Kara KingSo your experience has broken your ability to have a healthy view of men. Eek. This books strategy sounds like it may be effective for finding men who will obsess over you in the short term. The goal of most women here is a healthy and mutually fulfilling long term relationship /marriage. Based on your description of the book, I wouldn't recommend it to the women here. It simply doesn't sound like it will find you the right type of man. That you describe most of the men you've dated as clingy sp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/19 01:19 PM |
| 9 | The Power of the Pussy by Kara KingI have to wonder how many men get sex and bail after this technique. Written out in this manner it sounds like playing games. Yes, men's judgment gets clouded by sex but once you give up sex it won't be quite so cloudy. How will a man assess your treatment of him once sex clears his brain. How has this worked for you getting a long term relationship? What portion of men took off either immediately or within a couple months of sex? Genuine curiosity because you said you've employed the technique … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/19 12:16 PM |
| -1 | urge to have kids at 21I had forgotten about that part from early on. My month required a trigger warning in the post title and I skipped those posts. Felt sad for the women but not sad enough to make myself crazy reading about their miscarriages. Usually I hate trigger warnings but having them made a difference in the first trimester. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/19 12:29 AM |
| 4 | urge to have kids at 21Have you guys found the monthly bumpers subs for when you are due? I've found it incredibly helpful to have people who are all due around the same time to complain and commiserate with. In the beginning especially with all the nausea and pickiness it helped to know how many people were in the same place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/19 11:40 PM |
| 11 | Always Be Sure to Tie a Live Duck to Your Right Ankle.Oh yeah, discussions and theory posts are entirely different from advice IMO. Those are for having fun and arguing with people or personal sharing. The stuff that kills me is more when an older married OP asks for help with her husband and a single 18 year old comes in and says "oh you should break up" ... I mean that's an extreme case but that sort of thing isn't rare. The teen isn't a troll cause she means well but eesh. The actual trolls I don't have the energy for these days, however you'd g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/19 09:12 PM |
| 32 | Always Be Sure to Tie a Live Duck to Your Right Ankle.Everyone's live duck is different, which is why I long preferred the toolbox / think for yourself approach. My duck was a tattoo and a motorcycle and an econ/math degree. The key with the ECs is that we know how to differentiate a solid foundation (stomach full, balls empty) from the extras that worked for us (but maybe not for everyone). There is no RPW check list to memorize. Until someone has life experience and attained her goals, her advice should be taken with some salt. Even after someone… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/19 07:19 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend is giving me an ultimatumYes, I read that too. Repeating the point doesn't change my opinion and it obviously doesn't change her BF's feelings. When addiction is in the picture you need to chose the option you can best live with out of a lot of bad options. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/19 01:33 PM |
| 8 | Is informing someone they are getting cheated on meddling?Agree. Her comments on another sub say that she resented being made to feel like a side chick. It's not evident that this was done out of the kindness of her heart. I'd say it's far more likely her motivations were a mix of good and selfish. Its worth checking in with yourself to question why you did something. Self awareness is a worthy goal. Looking for the validation of like minded strangers is not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/19 01:12 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend is giving me an ultimatumI meant the BF jumping ship. It's not his responsibility to get involved in someone else's unhealthy family. OP had a tight rope to walk, no doubt. In my family the problem was my brother not a parent and that was difficult enough. You have to do what you can live with in these situations. And I've taken a harder position because everyone here is telling her to take responsibility for her sister. Because no matter how great a guy, he shouldn't be expected to be second place to her family all the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/19 11:22 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend is giving me an ultimatumI'm sort of with u/lateralthinker13 on this one. You may see it as a heart and soul but I see a woman who cannot detach herself from a toxic situation. Effort and sacrifice when you are dealing with an alcoholic are generally called enabling and she will never fully protect her sister from this life. And besides, that's her father's job not hers. We don't know how long the BF has been putting up with her family so you are accusing him of jumping ship too soon but if the rolls were reversed... Ju… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/19 12:00 PM |
| 2 | Is there a female equivalent of wife goggles?I think that you may have to accept that there are certain things that don't translate. You may never wrap your head around the way that your husband and sons see you because they think with different brains than we do and some things don't translate. Have you read "For Women Only". That book does a fairly good job describing men's brains in women's terms. Ultimately, there are some things we just have to trust are true though. Every once in a while my husband will tell me "I don't think you can… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/19 11:25 AM |
| 4 | Is there a female equivalent of wife goggles?Yes, we got the men to plant us some trees just for that purpose :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/19 11:16 AM |
| 12 | Boyfriend is giving me an ultimatumHow old are you? late teens? early 20s? I'm going to disagree with everyone here and tell you that your sister is not your responsibility and you should not put caring for her as your primary focus. It sounds like you are trying to protect her from the exact situation that you grew up with. While this may be noble or kind, you also shouldn't spend the entirety of your youth hampered by your mother's addiction and your father's indifference. Look into Al Anon. Spending some time with other family… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/19 11:13 AM |
| 15 | Is there a female equivalent of wife goggles?The wall is important when we're talking to the younger, unmarried ladies who think they have all the time in the world. It's also a warning to the ladies who are considering break ups/divorce to help them understand what the competition is in the market place. And some men take it to the point of a revenge fantasy which muddies the waters when you are trying to understand how it's applicable to you. Once you've left the dating world it's just about aging well along with all the other things you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/19 08:54 PM |
| 9 | Is there a female equivalent of wife goggles?I don't know if there is a specifically RP answer to this but I'm of the opinion that the female equivalent is "alpha goggles". As Whisper said, male attractiveness is mostly behavioral. Sometimes you see newer TRP men say that men cannot show weakness ever or a woman will leave, which stems from this idea. Most old married ladies will laugh at them because we've seen our men sick, hurt, upset and generally acting like normal flawed human beings. I think over time your man demonstrates competenc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/19 08:30 PM |
| 14 | How do you help your Captain?I would suggest making a habit of the things you are doing now before moving on to new tasks and chores. If you add too much all at once you risk getting overwhelmed and dropping the ball. Being consistent with fewer tasks is far better than taking on everything and then backing out later. Once you've made a habit of packing lunch, sorting the clothes and tidying the house (along with continuing to work your first job I assume) then look around and see what else needs doing if you have the time … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/19 11:51 PM |
| 3 | I act like an insecure child instead of a woman; how do I become more mature?/u/postitnoteroom isn't herself an adult yet so she can only go by what she is told. I think sometimes people find RPW and think that taking a harsh tone means they are being more honest. It's far better to use the space to develop an effective communication style as women are ultimately social creatures. If no one wants to listen to what you have to say, it doesn't matter how truthful it is. Beyond that, I agree with you, calling the OP ruined is way over the top and to me says that collectivji… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/19 11:46 PM |
| 2 | I feel guilty for wanting a monogamous relationshipdoes that mean I would owe it to him to pursue this? Of course not, but in my experience, non-monogamy is not widely prevalent in LTRs once you leave the internet. Even on the internet, you are seeking out specific channels that discuss it. The reason I think more specifics would be relevant to the discussion is that you are hand wringing and feeling guilty because it's not something you want but you seem to think all men do. There are plenty of men who would prefer (or at least comfortably agre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/19 09:24 AM |
| 4 | I feel guilty for wanting a monogamous relationshipYou keep mentioning a past screw up on your part in fairly vague terms. Did you by chance cheat on him? Because something like that might be highly relevant to his desire for non monogamy with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/19 01:25 AM |
| 2 | [Nsfw] having a serious talk about sex without criticizing?Often he jumps in with little to no foreplay, which is sweet and sexy that he’s so turned on... But its just a fun novelty for me, I don’t want our sex life to just be me getting ambushed in the kitchen. If part of the problem is that it takes you a while to get there (whereas he can jump right in) then you should look for ways to get yourself anticipating sex. Basically warm yourself up mentally before diving in. One thing that works for me personally is to take time and get dressed for sex. I'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/19 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Recently discovered this sub, and having a really hard time disassembling the smart, "dominant" woman part of me.RPW specifically....probably PPD as well... r /awww less so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/19 04:30 PM |
| 5 | Recently discovered this sub, and having a really hard time disassembling the smart, "dominant" woman part of me.A bit of a digression but: I think that Reddit in particular self selects for 'smart' women. There are many forms of social media to choose from, it's going to be a certain type of person that chooses the platform that deals almost entirely in the written word. So yeah, it's a little funny to hear the women here talk about their intelligence as though it's unique here. I'd bet the majority of active RPW members are above average. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/19 11:50 AM |
| 4 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageUltimately it doesn't matter if you look younger than your age (and by whose determination is the equestion. Do you look younger than yourself from a decade prior? Or just younger than what most people think women your age look?) because you aren't younger than your age. Declining fertility doesn't care if you appear to be 22. Do you ask all women you meet their true ages to see if your guesses are correct? And just because Asians age differently than Western women doesn't mean they don't age. A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/19 10:41 AM |
| 3 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageI think you may have missed the point of the post. Also, famous people make terrible examples. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/19 03:06 AM |
| 6 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageYou don't have to believe me because you are already an old married lady and so what goes on in the market place doesn't impact you :-) Like you, I've been carded well past the necessary ages, and told "no way you are XX years old". I think a couple things are going on. As I said in the post, what people look like at any given age will be a spectrum. The best looking, well kept 30 year old may look comparable to the middle of the road 25 year old. Does that mean you look 25...well I guess techni… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 03:07 PM |
| 7 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageI think kids are harder on a woman than aging alone. People regularly ask if my younger sister and I are twins. Definitely not, she's five years younger, but she's had two kids. I expect that I'll start looking like the older sister again in a few years :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 01:28 PM |
| 4 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageI think you are right that the goal should be "top tier in your age group" and also that fertility is a perceived characteristic. I know a woman who did all the testing prior to her marriage to see how much time they had, was told she was good, and still struggled to get pregnant. Nothing is guaranteed. I mention it because children is a primary life goal for some women. I'd think those women would be more likely to settle down earlier, but I know at least one IRL who is 35, wanted kids her whol… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 01:25 PM |
| 6 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageEnjoy the mature tranquility I've wondered for a while if there is something about being with a masculine (good, strong, dominant? I'm not sure exactly) man that chills a woman out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 01:09 PM |
| 4 | But you didn’t do those dishes...You are the person who is best off to judge if he would really hit you. Whenever violence comes up in any form, the safest advice that a stranger on the internet can give is to tell you to leave. So I want to share my personal experience. Your situation reminds me of it, but there is simply no way for me to know what your future holds. In the over 11 years I've been with my husband, there have been two instances where he's been physically aggressive towards me. I don't remember the surrounding s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 12:19 PM |
| 9 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageLOL. You can still like hearing it ... though I'm not sure how one properly responds to "you are similar to my daughter" sort of compliments :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 01:16 AM |
| 22 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageI think attitude has a lot to do with it. My grandmother's older sister is 5 years older than my grandmother. For as long as I can remember and to this day, anyone would guess that she's the younger sis. She's a happier, active person and I truly believe that her attitude keeps her looking good. My grandmother is the complete opposite and I think it shows in how hard age hit her. Both of them are women who continue to dress well and wear make up and go to the salon - it has nothing to do with th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 12:35 AM |
| 17 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageI've written this post in my head on more than one occasion :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 12:25 AM |
| 6 | NSFW: How did you and your man calibrate your sexuality?It sounds like you are saying that with porn, you still got off every day but your partner got sex every other day. If that's the case then perhaps you can see why this is a problem in a relationship...particularly if the woman has the higher libido. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/19 11:03 PM |
| 2 | I'm worried that my boyfriend thinks I'm boring.I have no idea how you went from skills/interest/traits to rainbows so I have to assume you are no longer asking questions in good faith. But to answer: if it was primarily gay men who fart rainbows, then yes, rainbows are a predominantly a gay trait. Also everyone knows that the bisexuals have claimed the blue/pink/purple spectrum (it's the one area they are picky) so rainbows aren't inherently bisexual. And anyone who knows anything knows that rainbows are really an intrinsic trait of unicorns… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/19 10:22 PM |
| 25 | Help me understand the red pill mentalityRPW doesn't say that you can't work. It says men are not attracted to you because of your job. It also doesn't say you have to be a SAHM. It's simply a way of interacting with men. You can think whatever you choose about the red pill. No one is here to convince you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/19 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Jealousy and the secret weapon against the forbidden fruit: honey/u/stripethrowaway has the more level headed advice here. Honestly, you don't seem to be too fond of men: Most American men seem mentally unhealthy so I'm not sure that your advice is coming from a sound place. Are you in a solid relationship with a good man? Do you have the experience to judge this as 'coping and denial'? If you've had a string of bad relationships, then you might not be able to judge some of the pitfalls that occur even with good men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/19 07:05 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend (19/m) and i have only been together about 2 months, and he's already suggesting we sleep together, would it be prudish of me if i said no?This makes you sound like you are with him because you are desperate to have any man not because you want this man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/19 03:46 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend (19/m) and i have only been together about 2 months, and he's already suggesting we sleep together, would it be prudish of me if i said no?There is an excellent chance it will be a problem down the line from the woman's side as well. She'll graduate, get out into the real world and either: a. he'll start to look like an immature kid compared to the other men she's interacting with b. she'll be ready for 'next steps' well before he's interested in settling down. As you said, there are exceptions but.... | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/19 03:43 PM |
| 5 | Being UnattractiveYou have to find your fit and style. I am (pre pregnancy) about 105-110 and 5'4. You are thinner than I am but not so terribly much. I'll add, it took me until my 20s to really figure out what looked good and I was comfortable in. For me, the two things I know I have going for me are a small waist and long legs. To that end, I look best in skinny jeans and short or pencil skirts and in tighter tops that accentuate my waist. Things have to be paired up properly or you go from accentuating a featu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/19 10:12 PM |
| 10 | My boyfriend (19/m) and i have only been together about 2 months, and he's already suggesting we sleep together, would it be prudish of me if i said no?And this isn't really about time tables or beliefs. She feels uncomfortable with him. If this was the guy for her, she'd want to have sex and be holding back because of her timetable or beliefs. Women can develop attraction for a guy as she gets to know him, but it sounds like she has had time to get to know him and she's not developing a desire for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/19 01:55 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend (19/m) and i have only been together about 2 months, and he's already suggesting we sleep together, would it be prudish of me if i said no?How do you figure? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/19 01:43 PM |
| 8 | Boyfriend doesn't Love me after 9 monthsIt's not just that he's unable to say the words. What he said was that he doesn't love her. That's honest and I don't hold it against the guy, but what do you do with that. It wasn't "I'm not there yet" or any version that lays out hope for the future or even the present. "I don't love you" is beyond expectations of reciprocation and it seems like a lot of people want to gloss over the difference. Frankly, "ok" would have been a more promising response. I also don't know about equating 'I love y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/19 11:58 PM |
| 2 | Should we care about a man's sexual history?More likely, surely. I didn't think it was so absolute as to be universal, but I've also never been a thirsty dude so I will trust you on this one :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/19 08:04 PM |
| 7 | Women are expected to do so much these daysI'm 35 and pregnant with my first. I wouldn't recommend waiting to anyone. There are so many reasons that it's better, easier, healthier to do younger. Science doesn't back up this opinion. And why would you presuppose that people want two kids? Is that the limit on children now? :-P I'm also a financial advisor. Delaying retirement planning is not the best decision. Among other things, you can put away much smaller amounts each month if you start at 25 than if you start at 55. Math doesn't back… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/19 12:28 PM |
| 3 | So what do men think of a woman’s past and hook up?You and I have a very different idea 'interesting'. I'm not watching 30 minutes of some guy waxing philosophical on the wall. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/19 02:50 AM |
| 2 | What advice can you give to a woman in her 20s for aging gracefully?Selection bias is the bias introduced by the selection of individuals, groups or data for analysis in such a way that proper randomization is not achieved, thereby ensuring that the sample obtained is not representative of the population intended to be analyzed Your observations are not a randomized study. There is also confirmation bias where you are more likely to notice people who confirm your hypothesis. I don't really care to keep discussing this with you though. Unless you can pull out res… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/19 02:22 AM |
| 18 | Women are expected to do so much these daysPeople give second wave feminism credit for women being allowed into the workforce. There is then an assumption that women didn't work prior to second wave feminism. We've lost our grasp on history. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/19 12:31 AM |
| 6 | Should we care about a man's sexual history?One of the main points of RPW (IMO) is that with a little self awareness of our nature, we can make better decisions than what is evolutionary programmed. There are two general mating strategies: many children with little parental involvement, who cares if they die!, or fewer children and you focus your resources on them. To take the second path (which TRP often denigrates as the BB strategy) there is no reason a man has to have considerable sexual experience. He will have had to prove himself a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 11:53 PM |
| 16 | My boyfriend is just coming out of a severe depression after a period of unemployment. I have engagement on my mind. If and when do I bring this up or do I even need to?6 months of unemployment is a huge hit on a man's ego. This. It took my husband at least 6 months of employment to get back to himself after he was laid off. You've gotta give a man time to feel like he's got his feet under him again and that's going to take months not weeks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 11:27 PM |
| 1 | So what do men think of a woman’s past and hook up?What do you mean "not settled in one place" - do you travel a lot around a home base or do you not have a set 'home' at all? How long will that be the case? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 11:07 PM |
| 3 | I’m so on board with the whole devoted-wife-to-a-strong-husband idea…but I absolutely do not want children.There are men out there who do not want children. This poster may be correct if you want a Christian marriage (I'm not religious myself so I won't speak to that). However, you can be married to a good man who doesn't want kids. You have to look for that and be upfront about it. There are women here who are dedicatedly childfree and still in relationships. And while I'm pregnant now, I've been with my husband over 11 years without kids. That was never what was going to hold us together, it will s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 11:03 PM |
| 5 | Should we care about a man's sexual history?Yeah, the porn & death grip thing... I do not envy all you 20-somethings dating men who grew up with smart phones and streaming. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 10:43 PM |
| 6 | Should we care about a man's sexual history?You can make a case either way. Ultimately, I think that there are better ways to determine compatibility than a simple number. I knew my husband was more of a relationship oriented guy even though he had a lot of sex in between. He spoke very well of the women he'd been with, there were no 'crazy exes' even though by all accounts, some were a little crazy. I knew that cheating was antithetical to the way he viewed himself. And of course, I knew he had options, so I knew he was really looking an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 10:32 PM |
| 3 | So what do men think of a woman’s past and hook up?There was a woman on here a few months back who was a virgin when she married. After the wedding her husband started rolling out extremely aggressive BDSM needs. Her ideas of sex were gentle and cuddling and his were dominating and spanking. It was an extreme case but illustrative of the potential pitfalls of holding too firmly to virginity until after marriage. TRP says to accept the terrain and in modern day western civilization, we partner up for love and compatibility. Sometimes there is suc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 03:18 PM |
| 3 | So what do men think of a woman’s past and hook up?Yeah, you have to vet for loyalty and being 'traditional' or wanting a wife and family is not sufficient evidence that he will be faithful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 01:08 PM |
| 27 | Should we care about a man's sexual history?You should find a man whose values align with your own. I did not want a man with a low n-count. I had had one of those with my ex and he was incapable of turning down any woman who batted her eyes at him. My husband's numbers blow your estimates out of the water. However with him I knew that I was his choice, rather than simply available. Every man who has a lower n-count will not cheat and every man with a lower n-count will not put pussy on a pedestal. However, having experienced those things… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/19 11:21 PM |
| 37 | So what do men think of a woman’s past and hook up?It is my belief (not RPW) that most people will end up with a partner in a similar n-count range. If you meet a guy who has only had 3 partners, then he's the type who will get an icky feeling about you having 6. If he's had 12, then 6 may not phase him. It is generally agreed that high value men have options. It is not always agreed what makes a man high value. Every man on the internet is going to tell you "high value men think x" under the assumption that he is high value and all high value m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/19 07:12 PM |
| 2 | What advice can you give to a woman in her 20s for aging gracefully?It's not clear from this that you understand what selection bias is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 02:10 AM |
| 2 | What advice can you give to a woman in her 20s for aging gracefully?No, I'm actually saying that it's nothing more than a hypothesis and cannot be determined by anecdotal evidence. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 02:09 AM |
| 2 | How should I feel about these texts between my ex and I?This is now the third post in about a week where you ask the community the same question. The answers have not changed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/19 10:56 AM |
| 30 | RPW does not mean we are playthings for men.RPW absolutely can look like we are trying to be Stepford Wives. I don't think that the majority of regulars are this way in real life or even have this as a goal. However, what we discuss here is: men, being good wives, staying attractive, staying sexual, cooking & cleaning. So to anyone wandering through, it's not an unfair assumption. Then you stir in some of the main tenets of RP: men are attracted to youth and beauty, women hit a wall, your accomplishments do not drive attraction ... and yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/19 12:16 AM |
| 5 | The Image of Innocence or what to wear on the first dateMy ex's best buddy in law school would only date women with highlights. It was an amusing insight into how varied preferences can be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 06:00 PM |
| 11 | The Image of Innocence or what to wear on the first dateCorrect me if I'm wrong but there is a significant age difference between you and your husband. Since most people marry someone within a few years of their partner, your own story is unconventional as well. I'm making an assumption here, but I'd say that you likely partnered up with someone who particularly valued youth and innocence above other things. My point was that I do not wish my value to my husband to be focused on my youth and innocence. Those are both gone at this point anyway. Even w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 04:33 PM |
| 7 | The Image of Innocence or what to wear on the first dateTo each her own. I wouldn't personally want to convey the idea of innocence. Regardless of my age and virginal status, innocence has never been something I wished to define myself by. If I played that up and it got me a man, it would have been the wrong man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 03:38 PM |
| 9 | The Image of Innocence or what to wear on the first dateYes, if there is one color I'm sure I haven't worn on dates it's white. White is rarely if ever a flattering color for me, I'm just too pale. It's better to go with what you know looks good and you feel confident wearing. Changing up your whole look to follow someone else's rules isn't necessarily a solid first date plan. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 03:23 PM |
| 5 | 'Lady' by Roosh V - Opinions?Who's "we"? If you read the sidebar, you will notice that RPW does not endorse a moral stance or a lifestyle. It is united by techniques, not beliefs. Thank you for this. I get twitchy whenever someone talks about the RPW lifestyle. I very much doubt they share or agree with the life my husband and I have created for ourselves. I like to consider myself a thinking person, if I wanted to follow some lifestyle set out by another, I'd have stayed a Catholic. That doesn't mean that I don't have a so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 12:55 AM |
| 1 | What advice can you give to a woman in her 20s for aging gracefully?Oh? How? Serious question. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 05:22 AM |
| 10 | Resistance to grooming/maintenance & how to overcome it.Have lots of sex I have an unsubstantiated theory that blow jobs are good for keeping your face firm...builds up the muscles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 12:05 AM |
| 2 | What advice can you give to a woman in her 20s for aging gracefully?But you don't know how many promiscuous women you are seeing who look perfectly lovely. The reason men assume that women lie about n count is because there is no way to really know. I'm not trying to make a case in favor of promiscuity and likely it is harder on some women than others but your observations aren't solid data. You found a handful of women who support your theory but you have no way to determine who does not support your theory and how large or small they are in number. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 09:14 PM |
| 4 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?No it didn't and he was ultimately a mess all around. I don't think that his mom intentionally tried to instill anything in her kids. Her daughter seems sane and normal. He just took her rigid eating habits and ran with them to an unhealthy extent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 05:04 PM |
| 12 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?See and here I thought we were having a discussion. I didn't realize that you only wanted to make bratty responses to people you disagree with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 04:48 PM |
| 5 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?And just as bad, I had a gay friend growing up whose mother was obsessive about thinness, weighing herself, low fat, bland food in the name of controlling her weight. He ended up with eating disorders. It's not the sentiment/advice that is wrong but it can definitely be taught in the wrong way so I get why there seems to be a knee jerk reaction against it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Anger PhaseAnd their tendency towards the hyperbolic is intentional. They are trying to break down men's current belief structure. The anger and the hyperbole is a tool to get through. Ultimately, it's more like "all women have the potential to be like that". The desire to look for the best man is there. That does not mean that one has to follow through on it. Best is also defined by the woman in question, so if she has reason to believe that her man has non-replaceable qualities, hypergamy won't apply. Co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 04:40 PM |
| 5 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?I said it was a well known rule. No one told me at 5 "don't get fat". You can understand something based on the behaviors of people around you without it being explicitly stated. It didn't become explicit until we were teenagers. Since no one ended up depressed or with eating disorders, I'd have to say that we were robust enough people to handle a little tough love on the topic. I'm not sure that it's any more toxic than allowing children to grow up learning to eat junk or telling kids their fau… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 04:03 PM |
| 11 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?Meh, make faces if you like. There are no eating disorders among us, we all know how to cook and don't have weight issues. Growing up we ate a fairly standard diet of real food: meat, starch, veggie. Prepackaged was rarely a thing in our house. Mom didn't buy soda except as an occasional treat and junk food type snacks were available but in a portion control sort of manner. She also didn't believe that faux sugars or "fat free" were actually better options than portion control and real food and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 03:21 PM |
| 5 | What advice can you give to a woman in her 20s for aging gracefully?Selection bias. You can only judge the women who you specifically know their past. You don't know the sexual past of most women so you can't accurately judge the impact of promiscuity on looks. This requires a better analysis to determine if there is any support for it. The cleanest possibility I see is in your assumptions here is that stress wears on your looks (your soldier example) and the assumption that promiscuity causes stress across the board. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 01:15 PM |
| 5 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?This was a well known rule in my family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 12:57 PM |
| 3 | I'm worried that my boyfriend thinks I'm boring.So a couple things. I minored in math in college, so I'm the last woman to tell you that girls can't do math. However, if you just look at the gender distribution in those classes/departments/fields, it's obviously a subject that appeals more to men than women. So even if you do not want to go so far as to say that men are better at math, there appears to be an interest based difference. I don't think then it's too far to go to say that math is a more masculine pursuit. I believe there is a stud… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 12:45 PM |
| 4 | I'm worried that my boyfriend thinks I'm boring."BF you've never told me that I'm boring, but obviously you are out of my league so we have to break up". Dude, your advice seriously falls apart in the end there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 11:42 AM |
| 3 | What advice can you give to a woman in her 20s for aging gracefully?I'm not sure how you've found yourself on a sub that values self improvement if you have no intentions towards improving. Edit to add: Listen, it doesn't matter to me what you do with your looks or your life. If you are happy and your man is happy then solid relationships are the ultimate goal of this sub. However when someone asks for advice and your advice is "you can't do anything" it comes across incredibly negative and complainy. There is a difference between living in denial and maintainin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/19 06:07 PM |
| 18 | What advice can you give to a woman in her 20s for aging gracefully?This is weakness talking. You can either sit back and complain that you have no control or you can find the areas that you can take control and be proactive. Genetics play a role in aging but so does a poor diet, lack of skincare, too much sun or tanning beds, and smoking & drug use to name a few. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/19 02:45 PM |
| 5 | What advice can you give to a woman in her 20s for aging gracefully?But only literal whoring. It's ok as long as you don't get paid for it :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/19 12:54 PM |
| 6 | Does anyone else feel bad for other women who haven't found their captain?On the men's side they say "don't talk about fight club". Have you ever tried to introduce someone to RPW concepts? It's not really an easy thing to do if a person is not receptive. I have a friend who sees my relationship and listens and claims to be receptive and still has not changed a darn thing about herself. She hasn't changed her approach to her husband and she hasn't picked up the books that she asked me about. Pearls before swine. A person has to find something for themselves and change… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/19 10:00 PM |
| 4 | Can’t keep my mouth shut...I used to have a bad habit of using sarcasm when I was uncomfortable with something he said in front of his friends. I finally started saying to myself "they've been friends with him for longer than I've known him." Basically if it bothered anyone but me, well no one is obligated to stay friends. Your triggers are different but your response is similar. I'd suggest looking to what is really bothering you across these encounters and creating a mantra in your head. "His feelings aren't my feelings… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/19 09:29 PM |
| 20 | Do you have any ideas for Valentine's Day?We keep it low key and have divided up our days. Valentines is more for me and Sex & a BJ a month later for him. A big part of making something special is knowing how your SO expresses love. Before I knew what love languages are I realized my husband feels good when I put a lot of effort into something for him. I think the final result is often just a side benefit. In general we only do physical gifts for our anniversary. These sorts of holidays and our birthdays are time to take out a beat and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/19 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Should i worried?What is it that makes you worry? Generalized anxiety is different from specific fears. Is there something that is going on that is causing you to doubt him? What is your relationship like? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/19 09:09 PM |
| 5 | How do women get treated as they get older?No, what you'll experience is... being treated like a man. .... You'll be judged upon your personality and your contribution.... Interesting point. Husband and I discussed this around a friend of his. She's a civil engineer in the oil industry, so very much a male field within a male field. She's small framed and not unattractive but she has a short hair cut and doesn't wear make up outside of dressing up. In other words, she presents herself in a very androgynous manner. She complained that whe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/19 03:16 PM |
| 4 | Should explanations only be given when they are asked for?First, it sounds like these are a couple different scenarios. Nagging is different from explaining or justifying your own behavior. Explaining general behavior is different from justifying bad behavior. Bringing him your problems doesn't necessarily mean reporting on everything you do and STFU doesn't mean never speak. If you are trying to target a specific area of concern, then you need to pull out which idea you want to know about. If you are just looking for a discussion (as it's tagged) then… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/19 12:55 PM |
| 3 | Do men naturally feel inclined to provide for and protect women?I wouldn't waste your time trying to convince this dude of anything. He oozes bitterness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/19 12:46 AM |
| 5 | Why did you fall in love with your Captain?My husband was my ideal blend of nerdy comfort and exciting bad boy. He triggered all the right feelings for me. I could certainly list out all the positive qualities that I've took note of in the beginning but I learned about those in the year before we began dating. Falling in love was more about the realization that I didn't want anyone else, even on the days I couldn't explain why. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/19 11:13 PM |
| 7 | Was my [20F] (ex) boyfriend [21] of 9 months flirting with another girl or am I overreacting?Well I'm not the person to tell you if you are being unreasonable because I don't think mild flirting is a problem if you have an honorable man who won't take it farther. So we are obviously very different on that front. From the small exchange you shared, it does appear that he went out of his way to tell another woman that she is pretty. He knew you wouldn't like it or he wouldn't have lied about it. Without casting blame on either of you, it sounds like your approach to flirting/talking to ot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 10:47 PM |
| 22 | Was my [20F] (ex) boyfriend [21] of 9 months flirting with another girl or am I overreacting?Didn't you guys take a break about a month ago? Usually when you find yourself on again off again it's better for it to just be off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 10:30 PM |
| 4 | Are Tattoos Unlady Like?If you want it and your husband suggested it, then it's no one else's concern but the two of you. Keep it so you can cover it for work - because that's just good sense - but you don't have to worry about what the dating world thinks because you are already out of the market. All the advice in this thread about what men think simply doesn't apply to you. The facts are that some men like tats and some do not. When you are dating, you worry about the image you want to project to get the man you wan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 07:48 PM |
| 4 | Love LanguagesMine goes: quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service physical touch and gifts. And shhh don't tell my husband but I don't remember what his results from the quiz were. He's pretty much acts of service, physical touch and words of affirmation, not specifically in that order. I'm very strongly quality time. I could get rid of the others and be ok as long as I have undivided attention and talking. When we first started dating I told him that I required a lot of attention. This may be a la… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 07:20 PM |
| 3 | Love LanguagesThis is a much more nuanced (and maybe kinder) way of thinking about gifts than I've ever considered. Gift giving is last on my Love Languages results but framed this way, Husband and I bring each other small things as tokens of 'just thinking about you' on the semi-regular. Usually it's like, the cookies I like from the store or the single serving iced tea that he drinks. I'm not sure if that qualifies as gifts specifically, but I can understand a little more that gifting could be a way of know… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Love LanguagesChill girl. /u/Hammocknapping has put enough good faith time into this community to be allowed to ask a genuine question without you jumping down her throat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 06:49 PM |
| 22 | Are Tattoos Unlady Like?This should be the only answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 02:17 AM |
| 5 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?Well we did these long before buzz feed existed. :-P Seriously though, I'm well aware that these are not replicable or used in any scientific manner. We're not using them in a scientific manner. There are some interesting trends in my own life with the results. My husband, my ex and several of my closest friends have all tested over the years in the rationals category. Who knows why. Who knows if it's indicative of anything. It's an interesting result nonetheless. As far as why my husband likes … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 10:57 PM |
| 6 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?Thank you, I'm fully aware. We've also taken the Big 5 personality tests which are considered legitimate by the psychological community. However, there are some things that are just fun and amusing. I learned to read tarot cards in high school. That doesn't mean I think I can tell the future, but it's still interesting to see the connections that people draw off of a reading. I'd also ask what scientific circles you frequent? I'm more of a money girl myself but my husband is a mechanical enginee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 10:35 PM |
| 7 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?if you have an income outside of Roth's limits, then you're stuck with the traditional IRA. But you can put it into the IRA and convert that to the Roth for effectively the same results as making the contribution to the Roth. And of course if you have a 401k that throws off the IRA contributions. Isn't it great that our tax code is so simple :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 05:41 PM |
| 13 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?A(INTJ)ALT | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 04:56 PM |
| 9 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?Lots of fun! As long as no one moves your things out of their proper place or changes plans with less than 48 hours notice ;-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 04:25 PM |
| 10 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?I married one of your people! :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 02:56 PM |
| 6 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?I meant to convey that a single person who doesn't fit the norm is sort of beside the point. Most women are not going to run into that guy and even if they do, he is so questionable in his behaviors that he's a cautionary tale more than anything. I guess I'm confused why bring up the outliers. Taken to an extreme, it'd be like saying "well gay men love women with an attitude" ... ok and? Why discuss what they like when it's outside of average and they aren't men we are interested in anyway. Also… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 01:55 PM |
| 3 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?LOL!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 01:40 PM |
| 7 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?Sure, people are complex but you are taking one guy and saying that he doesn't fit the average...ok and? The concept isn't that men won't sleep with an independent woman, it's that her job isn't what make her sexy. And even in the context of fantasies like you are discussing below, I'm sure that dude's fantasies are banging the hot secretary or the hot woman from HR. It's not banging faithful old Bertha who has been his secretary for the last 40 years. And the idea is that on average men are att… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 01:31 PM |
| 28 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?I'm never quite sure. While it's clear that he loves me, the reasons are not something he often articulates. Most recently, it's because I'm carrying his baby. That's earned me a lot of love, adoration and brownie points. Prior to that he told me he was pleased that I was a girl who could think. He likes that the Myers Briggs puts me as one of the rationals (INTP if you believe/follow it). He is almost smug that I am capable of more than basic mathematics. I do believe he loves me best when I th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 01:12 PM |
| 2 | Fiance using drugsIt is if used recreational. Why split hairs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 08:45 AM |
| 3 | Division of Labor in the HomeIt’s no secret that our analysis is dependent on how a commentor frames their remarks. Some days I worry that women read about our lives and think that it's luck or the perfect man or some factor out of their control. Vetting is important but once you pass that stage - so much is about how you choose to see and react to a situation. Maybe your husband places a low value on the way the outside of your home and lawn look, which is why he can let it lapse. It's certainly lower on his priority list … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Division of Labor in the HomeWomen, particularly lower class and minority women, were in the workforce well before the 20th Century, and they certainly didn’t demand it. This is one of the bigger lies perpetuated by feminism. It has somehow convinced people that women didn't work prior to the 1960s and it is only through the good graces of feminism that women have been allowed to work. It is complete and utter nonsense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 06:20 PM |
| 5 | Division of Labor in the HomeHey /u/Hammocknapping, I hope you don't mind but I'm going to play a little game with your questions. A lot of RPW (and RP in general) is simply about the perspective you take. So here are my answers to the same questions if I wanted to come at it from the perspective that our division of labor isn't fair or if I refused to see his contributions as equal or view him as an autonomous adult able to make his own decisions. I think this goes both ways. Anyone who deems their relationship unbalanced … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Division of Labor in the HomeEven if it's not taken to an extreme, I don't see how applying capitalist principles to the family unit wouldn't result in tit for tat thinking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 01:55 AM |
| 13 | Division of Labor in the HomeWe both work. He makes more now. Depending on career trajectories, its likely but not definite that this will always be the case. The big thing is that I work fewer hours and this is likely to continue. I could potentially earn more now but I'd have a much less flexible schedule. By pulling more of the financial weight, he gets a more pleasant wife and we don't have to daycare a kid. We contribute to the household accounts in proportion to our income. Our excess income over and above is our own … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 01:48 AM |
| 9 | Division of Labor in the HomeI believe Ben Shapiro (notorious commie that he is :-P) said that a family runs on communist principals. Running a household on capitalism is...faulty logic. If capitalism runs a family, there is no good reason to be paying kids an allowance, as a for instance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 01:05 AM |
| 7 | I think it’s time to end things.It's one thing if a guy says: "I don't believe in marriage but I want us to be together forever". Then it's a decision for you to make. If he always has excuses and it's always "later" then that is poor vetting on your part. There have to be signs that he actually intends a lifetime commitment. Most women in this situation don't have men who a. know their girlfriend wants marriage and b. doesn't say yes and doesn't say no. For many women it won't be enough to have a man stay with them without ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/19 03:12 PM |
| 6 | I think it’s time to end things.No offense to anyone who disagrees, and I respect you if you have a different opinion! I don't think anyone does IVF because they want to. It is a method of last resort and I believe that is true even as far as fertility treatment goes. There are a few steps in the process before you even get to IVF. You also have to consider (when you are discussing it with him) that IVF can mean a multiple birth. This increases your baby costs in both money and energy. You need all the stuff for two babies, yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 11:12 PM |
| 7 | Love GogglesWhile true, this is much more important in the sexual marketplace than it is once you have pair off and left the marketplace. Bringing it up in terms of marriage ... it's a cold man who holds his wife's aging against her. Just as it's a cold woman who holds her husband's illnesses or job loss against him. I'm not sure what you hope to accomplish with your initial statement in the context of the comment or the OP. Also we don't use celebrities as examples around here because they live lives so fa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 02:12 PM |
| 5 | RPW and ChildfreeMy friend is a transport EMT which means the majority of his time is spent taking old people from nursing care to their doctors and back. He's also a gay man so he has no particular stake in the 'childbearing' discussion. He says that to have a comfortable old age you need: a daughter, money, to not be fat. I believe two of the three will do according to him. Daughters tend to be the ones in making sure the rooms are clean and care is adequate. Money obviously buys you better care and better fac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 02:02 PM |
| 7 | Love GogglesThat depends on the couple: their genetics and how well each person cares for themselves. Just last night my husband said "I know I said I wanted to get old with you, but I didn't mean this soon" in reference to himself. All the little signs of age start to creep in by your mid to late 30s. This is about average. The difference between men and women is not that men don't age or that it's somehow delayed by two decades, it's that what is is attractive about a man is much less tied to physical app… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 01:52 PM |
| 24 | RPW and ChildfreeSo while everyone else is arguing about whether you should or should not have children, I want to say this: Children are completely irrelevant to using RPW tools in your relationship. They are not an intrinsic part of the Captain/First Mate dynamic. So you do you because here we focus on you and him and everything outside of that is outside of that. There are quite a few women here who do not have children, either because they are not yet paired off, don't want them or both. There are also a fai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 10:54 PM |
| 5 | How would you know that she is in your "frame"? (friends)I'm not very educated on what frame means, I admit that Toss it out, it has nothing to do with what you are asking and confuses the issue. As for the rest, it's fine to be friendly and sweet but don't get super attached to the idea of this man. Don't focus on him to the exclusion of dating others. When you are no longer in a situation that makes dating impossible that is the time to reassess. The answer now to "does he like me" is "it doesn't matter". You shouldn't put your life on hold for some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 01:47 AM |
| 16 | The discontented wifeWhat do you mean? Morning farts and man flu are the height of sex appeal 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 01:33 AM |
| 8 | How would you know that she is in your "frame"? (friends)I am simply uncertain of what you understand frame to mean and why it applies to the situation. However, if you can't have a relationship because you work together then it doesn't matter if he likes you or not. If you can have a relationship then it's a different story, but if it's not on the table then do not waste your time thinking about and developing feelings for a man who won't be with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 01:31 AM |
| 3 | How would you know that she is in your "frame"? (friends)What do you think it means to be "in his frame" ? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 12:54 AM |
| 8 | Can learning RPW make some women more manipulative?"I don't like what you said, even if it's often true so I have to criticize you for it" Learn to live with things that make you uncomfortable, you will be stronger for it. The virtue signaling is unnecessary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/19 07:12 PM |
| 4 | Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? What are your plans?If he loses them all the time, you should buy a back up set and put it away. Then the next time he can't find them, you can just quietly put the back up pair on his dresser :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/19 06:41 PM |
| 6 | Love GogglesThis is amazing and I wish it wasn't against the rules to post pictures. Does that make him Roger? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/19 04:45 PM |
| 6 | Marriage and Prenuptial Agreements.I think anything that makes you discuss and plan for the future is a good thing. Fair is going to be different for every couple though. In general, I'm not in favor of alimony, but I can see situations where it's necessary for a period of time. If you can work, you should work and not be entitled to an ex's income for support. But I can also see scenarios where I'd want alimony built into a prenup. If we agree that I am going to stay home and raise the kids, then it's not fair to the kids to cha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/19 09:49 PM |
| 14 | Marriage and Prenuptial Agreements.I don't know...it sounds like you are making pretty big assumptions about a whole swath of women. There are plenty of doting wives that have never heard of RPW. There are also women who SAH for reasons beyond not knowing what they are good at. Don't be so quick to assume that RPW makes anyone here unique or special. /u/teaandtalk is right that 10 years out of the job market can be a long time and finding a job isn't always a simple thing. It will differ based on a woman's starting point (when th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/19 09:25 PM |
| 5 | FR: The Mental Load: Why we shouldn't follow it and what to do instead.That should go into your vetting considerations then. Do you want a man who doesn't lead? Do you get other things from him that balance the scales? Know what the trade offs are in your relationship and be at peace with them. If you aren't, then he's not the right man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/19 08:49 PM |
| 4 | FR: The Mental Load: Why we shouldn't follow it and what to do instead.Oh I can help with this - mods and ECs give stars and I think you are right. /u/prettybluemushroom can you give /u/stripethrowaway a star for this post? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/19 04:49 PM |
| 9 | FR: The Mental Load: Why we shouldn't follow it and what to do instead.I don't think that it is cheap or infantilizing and I don't think that it's because you don't live together. I tell my husband all the time that he's wonderful for doing whatever it is that he's doing. He went out to Walmart and I didn't have to - most wonderful husband in the world. He carried the heavy case of water out of the trunk - you are the best and I appreciate you In turn he tells me I'm a good wife and he loves me when I put his dinner in front of him. He tells me I'm beautiful (some … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/19 04:46 PM |
| 10 | The Feminization of Men in AmericaWell the men I'm talking about are not specifically cultivating a gender bending image. They are more feminized in the sense that they are meeker (less aggressive), willing to follow or be the more submissive partner, less ambitious or goal oriented.... I wasn't really considering bulked up or not as part of the assessment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/19 09:46 PM |
| 20 | The Feminization of Men in AmericaThe question is what these relationships/marriages look like down the road....and we can only speak in anecdotes since I doubt there are very many hard and fast stats on the issues. I agree with you that women believe they want feminized men. They want someone to carry equal weight in a relationship etc etc. What I see around me is that these relationships are friendship based and often sexless. Listening to two childhood friends - one is the feminized man and he counts his wife as his best frie… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/19 07:27 PM |
| 6 | On Screening Potential Long Term Partners: Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting SeriousIt's crazy to have an emotional reaction because you disagree over something. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/19 01:24 AM |
| 7 | On Screening Potential Long Term Partners: Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting SeriousSure. You obviously know what you are doing with your own life. You've just never been here before and what you said is a bad example for others of how to behave. Ta! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/19 03:03 PM |
| 5 | On Screening Potential Long Term Partners: Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting SeriousI'm not trying to debate politics with you. There are quite a few things that look very different on the right and the left. That comment is one of them. My point to you is that getting worked up and not being able to see another's perspective is bad. If you are incompatible with someone then you don't continue dating. Fine. If you had to take a shower, that is an indication that you are being irrational over the topic. Learn to confrol that. It will get you much further with men if they don't t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/19 02:15 PM |
| 5 | On Screening Potential Long Term Partners: Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting SeriousIt doesn't surprise me that it's mutual. The right looks down on anyone on the left that gets that worked up and obviously you know how the left feels. It's seriously a bit crazy to feel that intensely when you aren't even living in the country. It's crazy enough when you are an American. The US constitution is based on checks and balances of power. No one man can destroy the country in a term. People are irrational over this. And irrational is never a good look on a woman you are considering da… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/19 01:32 PM |
| 9 | On Screening Potential Long Term Partners: Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting SeriousWith that attitude I'm sure he was glad you did him the favor. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/19 01:16 PM |
| 7 | I, as a woman, hate feminismwhat has it done for me lately / over the last 100 years? It's helped us raise a generation of fatherless men with lower over all success in life. But I can get a credit card and go into debt. Yay feminism! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/19 03:50 AM |
| 10 | I, as a woman, hate feminismI am not a feminist 😂😂😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/19 03:45 AM |
| 2 | I, as a woman, hate feminismI love JBP. The thing about Schlafly in particular is that her essays (that I've read) date back to at least the early 80s. Because there is this tendency to believe that we needed the feminism of the past, she's an eye opener. You can read contemporaneous criticism of the feminism we supposedly needed. Paglia is similar when she talks about her experience with the 70s feminists. We want so badly to say that it's all been good up to the point we are at now. These ladies show us that that is very… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/19 05:26 PM |
| 1 | I, as a woman, hate feminismI definitely agree that it is an offshoot of Marxism. It falls more under the cultural Marxism banner than a specifically anti capitalist one IMO. Equality in the workforce doesn't seem to me to reach the point of being anti capitalism. So while I think there is an inevitable crawl in that direction, I find it difficult to say that this is or was ever the intent of the movement. More a biproduct than "true feminism". I'd be willing to be shown that I'm missing something. It's most interesting to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/19 05:19 PM |
| 12 | I, as a woman, hate feminismAnd I've heard plenty of people judge religion (at least the Christian varieties) by the extremists. But we wouldn't want to do that with the left's sacred cows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/19 02:40 PM |
| 15 | I, as a woman, hate feminismFeminism believes that all women were once treated like the lowest, worst off peasant in a society and all men were once treated like the highest ranking nobleman in the society. It's some combination of apex fallacy and I don't know what. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/19 02:36 PM |
| 13 | I, as a woman, hate feminismAny ideology is more than a simple definition. But you don't seem to really know what all falls under the umbrella of feminism beyond some very facile definitions. Have you read any of the seminal texts? Or their counter arguments? Have you taken a class beyond gender studies 101? You are leaning on a definition in order to say "everyone (caveat: who is a good person) believes this". You are suggesting that the issues that people encounter with self declared feminists "aren't real feminism". I a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/19 06:35 AM |
| 12 | I, as a woman, hate feminismWhy is it important to convince others to buy into your definition? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/19 04:43 AM |
| 4 | I, as a woman, hate feminismIt's unclear what point you are trying to make? Should she like feminists more because she wants to avoid the draft? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/19 03:16 AM |
| 21 | I, as a woman, hate feminismI disagree that any of these things are real problems worthy of discussion or even a Facebook post. Is your point here to invalidate the experience of others? How feminist of you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/19 03:13 AM |
| 21 | I, as a woman, hate feminismEveryone should be a feminist Not really. It's a system of beliefs. It has a body of academic literature behind it that makes up an entire school of thought. It's additionally a political movement that has particular positions and goals. It's way too naive to say that it's "just about equality". That's just regurgitating what you were told without thought or examination. No one should be told what to think. Even if someone's ideas disagree with your own, you do not have the right to say "everyon… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/19 03:07 AM |
| 14 | I, as a woman, hate feminismbut that's a discussion for another time. I don't think it should be. It was enlightening for me when I read Phyllis Schlafly and Camille Paglia and realized that there has been a female critique of feminism for as long as there has been feminism. We are constantly saying "what came before is good but I don't like what there is now" and I think that sentiment might be a problem all on its own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/19 11:25 PM |
| 17 | I, as a woman, hate feminismYou are going too far by extending it to a fight against capitalism. That's not first wave or second wave. One of the biggest problems is that it is a movement that accomplished its goals but didn't pack up and go home. They have to keep coming up with new fights to stay relevant and making money for the scholars and nonprofits. What you did here by equating it with a fight against capitalism is an illustration of that problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/19 11:20 PM |
| 5 | How to navigate family visit respectfullyI would also be really interested to know if I'm being unreasonable to my husband regarding these trips please. My opinion... since you've asked not because anyone else matters but you and your husband.... is that your husband sounds entirely reasonable. It sounds as though you are spending time with your parents when you visit. You want to try to make everything equal or more in favor of your parents. Your parents are reaping what they've sown here. They could try to patch things up with your h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/19 07:57 PM |
| 2 | Our way of thinking is absolutely equal to men, but it's really different.TIL: I understand the world like a man 🤔 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/19 10:43 AM |
| 18 | This is a off topic but I have nobody else to share this with but you guysCongratulations!! Wishing you a healthy baby and a morning sickness free pregnancy :-D | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/19 06:29 PM |
| 3 | How to heal from a break up?My mother says that you are allowed to wallow for 24 hours (not limited to break ups) and then you have to get up and deal with life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/19 02:39 PM |
| 6 | How to not be a doormat?Some of this is likely to co come naturally with time. I said in another thread recently that I believe we are most insecure in our late teens / early 20s. Being a doormat can be a part of that deep desire to be liked and accepted. To me "treat others as you would want to be treated" is a low level, day to day dictum. You can't control how others will treat you and if you apply this to more than surface interactions (general courtesy and the like) you risk being taken advantage of. Instead, I th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/19 02:10 PM |
| 2 | I can’t tell if my [22 F] boyfriend [24 M] is a captain?Concern yourself more with the things a degree represents (to you) rather than the degree itself. Usually there are two things that a degree theoretically tells you. It tells you that he has the intellectual capacity to get into college / get the degree and it tells you that he will be employable. Whether these are true in actuality is up for debate but this is what we think when we think of someone with a degree. So you should determine if he's smart enough to communicate on the level you are c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/19 06:03 PM |
| 3 | I can’t tell if my [22 F] boyfriend [24 M] is a captain?Forget about the jargon, the question you should be asking is whether he is the right man for you or not. That's vetting. We cannot vet him for you. Every member of this sub likely has a different idea of "captain". What qualities are you looking for in a man. What sort of character should he have. What values? What are his red or yellow flags? Are you willing to accept that these things may not change? It sounds like you are focusing on his financial situation over and above everything else. Yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/19 05:31 PM |
| 6 | Your Man is not your Best FriendThen why call them the same? There will be overlap in what your best friend gives you and what your BF gives you. They aren't equivalent though. I think it's good to know what you look for in both. What is it about a "best friend" that you need out of a partner. If nothing else, dissecting the terms will give you a stronger idea of what qualities you are vetting for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 03:03 PM |
| 5 | Your Man is not your Best FriendIn that quote I meant more than if your SO and your BFF are the same person, then you lose that all in one break up. Break ups are hard enough without losing your main support person as well. Having several friends who you are close with mitigates this but if you are someone who leans on your partner as your main (or only) support person and you have no one else to go to -- that's a double loss. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 02:59 PM |
| 3 | Your Man is not your Best FriendI have a very hard time making friends and I’ve been burned a few times so I am really gunshy I think that most people find this difficult as adults. For a long time the majority of my closest friends were men and women I had known since high school. We also see regular posts on here asking "how do I meet red pilled friends" which to me is simply "how do I meet women I will connect with" ... so don't feel too bad because we all go through this. I wish I had an answer for how to overcome it but I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 02:55 PM |
| 3 | Your Man is not your Best FriendYou are welcome. It's something I lived to some degree with my ex but couldn't really articulate until RP gave me a clearer view of the differences between men and women. :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 02:33 PM |
| 4 | Your Man is not your Best FriendMy point was more than all the actions I took towards my friends were ultimately optional for me. There are fewer responsibilities that you have as a friend than you do as a partner. Further your friends aren't committed to you for life the way your partner is. In your situation, it may be confusing because your sister is your best friend and there is a closer tie there than a non-related friend. Most people feel more responsibility to family than they do to friends and your family is almost gua… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 02:31 PM |
| 3 | Your Man is not your Best FriendMy ex was my best friend when we were together, we even stayed friends long after the break up. My husband is much much more than a best friend. Losing the man who is your BF/BFF to a break up is only one of the risks of having him fill multiple roles. You shouldn't feel the same way about the man you marry as you do about the women you are close to...why consider him under the same banner and her/them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 02:23 PM |
| 7 | Your Man is not your Best FriendThanks! I think that we don't disagree as much as it may seem at first glance. I'm not against a close "friendship" with your husband (especially your husband who should be the person in the world you are closest to IMO). The fact of the matter is, you tack on a lot of extra components to your relationship (as you describe above) that go over and above 'friend' and you use other people as an outlet for the needs that he can't or shouldn't fulfill. Based on the description, I wouldn't call him yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 02:18 PM |
| 3 | Your Man is not your Best FriendI'm with you! It can be so easy to fall into a ready made group of people. I think it's not bad (though a risk) to be friends with his friends, but you are totally right to push yourself into finding people outside of that circle as well. Good luck with that. Meeting friends as an adult is so incredibly difficult (which is why I think this happens with romantic partners). | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 02:09 PM |
| 3 | Your Man is not your Best FriendThere are a lot of facets to this. You husband should be the person you are closest to in the world. That's more than a friend and has different requirements from friendship. Marriage combines two life paths into one and the Captain / First Mate dynamic is an agreement to follow his lead. These are things that you don't agree to with a friend. The sex component, not discussed in this post, is another huge difference between friend and husband. Gender differences also play a role. Passion can die… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Your Man is not your Best FriendYes, it's not that you shouldn't have the components of a friendship with your spouse. It should be more than a friendship and different aspects of the relationship with a partner come first. I said in another comment that sex is a piece of this that I didn't even tackle in this post (probably warrants it's own) but it's a huge part of what makes a husband a husband and not a best friend. It doesn't make sense to me to spend all the time we do becoming more feminine women and seeking out masculi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 01:55 PM |
| 2 | Your Man is not your Best FriendMy husband is my best friend in the sense that he is my closest companion and confidant but he is also so much more than a best friend. I agree with this. My point is not to say that you should be closer to your friends than your husband. Rather your husband should be so much more than a friend. The titles aren't equal in importance and the title 'husband' carries so much more within in that to give him the best friend title lessens what it means to be a husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 01:48 PM |
| 2 | Your Man is not your Best FriendYou are welcome. :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 01:43 PM |
| 7 | Your Man is not your Best FriendI didn't read that book (my friend did and gave me a bit of a synopsis) and yes, that's a whole other component of putting your guy into the friend role. I thought about adding the sex aspect into the post but I already talk too much :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 12:44 AM |
| 5 | Your Man is not your Best FriendI think it depends on the person. I'm someone with a small number of very close friends but when I say my best friend, it's usually one in particular that springs to mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 12:38 AM |
| 7 | What is the best age to get married?I met my husband at 23, began dating him at 24, moved in together six months in and married at 30. That worked for me. I knew when I moved in with him that I was sticking with him come hell or high water so marriage, which I deeply wanted, was ultimately a formality. The man I dated through high school and college was not the right man for me and never would have been. I broke up with him but we remained friends for a very long time. So while I'm glad that I didn't marry him, I'm not sure that i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 10:47 PM |
| 6 | New and very confusedHave you read this post from the sidebar yet? It's really difficult to read a few posts on the front page of each sub and decide what they are about. You have to get more into the sidebar and the wiki to get a fuller picture. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 04:42 PM |
| 7 | How to talk to my captain about this issue? I need advice.Yes to all of this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 02:17 PM |
| 20 | How to talk to my captain about this issue? I need advice.Your man has unrealistic ideas of women created and compounded by porn use, photoshop and inexperience with women. Porn and photoshop aren't going away so I don't really see any of those things changing. Further, I'd be asking myself if he doesn't like the way I look why is he with me? Is it simply that I'm the only girl he can get? But you want advice on how to approach this. You have to approach it. Men communicate directly. I get that he is your fiance but if this is bothering you now, it's n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/19 02:15 PM |
| 13 | Am I allowed to ask for orgasms?Putting aside the sex with your husband issue for a moment, there are some problems with having an affair that I do not think you are fully considering. This should weigh into your calculation of what to do. All the risks of non-marital sex apply. No matter how careful you are there is the possibility of pregnancy (unless of you've been sterilized of course) and STDs. There is also the risk of catching feelings for another man and the ramifications of that. You may come to resent your husband ev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/19 06:27 PM |
| 4 | Is it possible to be a RPW and not want a RP (or any) relationship? Long post, tldr included!I don't see it as anyone else's decision whether you belong in this sub or not. It's not a club or a clique and no one is hazing you to make sure you follow the properly ascribed guidelines. If following the dominant crowd approved RPW path was required to be here, I never would have been endorsed. What you believe is normal is typically whatever you are surrounded by. My friends didn't marry and have kids until into their 30s. Some are still not and will likely not go the traditional family rou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/19 04:49 PM |
| 2 | Engagement Ring QuestionShrug. Ok. You know best for your relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/19 04:35 PM |
| 5 | Engagement Ring QuestionIt's also important to remember that men respond best to direct communication. They don't do the indirect hinting that we do. Women may think they are being obvious with their hints while a man doesn't notice them at all because that's not his communication style. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/19 03:54 PM |
| 15 | Is it possible to be a RPW and not want a RP (or any) relationship? Long post, tldr included!We aren't really here to convince you of what life path to follow. Make your own decisions and own it. I do not understand what you are looking for out of this post. It reads as "I'm not like other women, but I want desperately to belong". | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/19 12:45 PM |
| 9 | Engagement timeline?If the house thing is the biggest part you are worried about at the moment, tell him that you'd like to spend some time getting acclimated to the area before you decide where you'd like to settle permanently. I think this is entirely reasonable anyway if you are making a move to an unknown place. You'll have a much better idea of what neighborhoods you want to look at after a year of renting. And good luck on the rest of it :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/19 05:48 PM |
| 11 | Engagement timeline?I didn't get the impression that you were dependent on him, just that you have very little leverage. /u/rubywootoo made a great comment in the "Ultimatums" thread that I think applies. It sounds like you are getting ready to move anyway (so you are away from your support network) and then risk the relationship for a chance at a ring. If there are no problems in the relationship, I'd think very long and hard about whether or not you are ready to walk away. You would have been in a much better pos… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/19 04:42 PM |
| 18 | Engagement timeline?You've put yourself in a no win situation. He told you that he wanted to marry you "one day" but not any time soon and you continued on the path to move with him. Now you have a job lined up in the new city so you are stuck moving unless you want to give that up as well as giving him up. What do you see happening if you put your foot down? You aren't in a position to walk away, so he has all the power right now. Game it out - what will you do if you say "marriage or else" and he says "no marriag… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/19 03:54 PM |
| 3 | Do you have a strong desire to be overpowered by a man?This has taken a political turn and as someone who leans right, there is nothing in the idea of personal responsibility to debate or discuss. I do believe that our voting laws should be reformed for men and women. Having a stake in the game isn't tied to taxes exclusively, but that is certainly one aspect of it. I think that feminism is a symptom not a root cause of our problems. Many of the problems you listed have nothing to do with feminism proper. I finally believe that civilizations rise an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/19 02:02 PM |
| 2 | What's the logic behind completely handing over our finances to our husbands?Actually, in "An Alpha Woman's Guide to Men and Marriage" she explains it in a similar vein. Asking his wife for money can be emasculating and the author's perspective is that a man should always have his own accounts that are his free and clear. If the woman handles the household finances as a whole, the man should have a cut that is exclusively his and then hand over the rest to her to manage. Doyle attacks it from a surrendering control perspective but the emotional implications are there for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/19 12:27 PM |
| 4 | Do you have a strong desire to be overpowered by a man?So no, a man who walks away from women isn't only because he's anyway an unattractive beta male. I didn't say he was an unattractive beta male for walking away. I said that if a man is neutered by a woman -- if he rolls over and gives up because life is too hard, then he was unlikely to have been a dominant man to begin with. I do not consider a man who decides to step out of the game to be neutered. That is a man who has weighed his risk/reward and made an active choice. If the man was not a do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/19 02:13 AM |
| 2 | Do you have a strong desire to be overpowered by a man?The "BDSM community" should not be confused with "people who do BDSM". Yes. I should have been clearer. The point I was trying to make (poorly) was that adding a bdsm element adds additional risk. Within the "community" (I've been told) they attempt to alleviate some of that risk because they know it's there. However because it carries a higher risk than "normal" sex and because people rush into sexual situations without vetting (because plenty of women are not smart about sex), two vague legal … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/19 01:54 AM |
| 6 | Do you have a strong desire to be overpowered by a man?True, but when the average man hears a story like this, he'll may just conclude that the risk just isn't worth it. If a man's sexuality requires that aspect of D/s then the stories will only be relevant insofar as teaching him to be cautious with his partners. If his choice is to not engage in practices he finds sexually fulfilling, that's his own problem. A man can put a good deal of weight on these stories if he is NOT inclined towards that sort of bedroom play because it doesn't effect him in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/19 08:52 PM |
| 2 | I have a LTR with an amazing soft-Alpha man who wants children, but I’m on the fence.Could you explain why this distinction is at all relevant to the OP or the issue? I'm honestly not sure what point you are trying to make. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/19 08:28 PM |
| 6 | A question about male friendsI've had gay men in my life since HS. I'm not sure what TRP says about having them as friends, I've never heard before that it indicates BPD in a girl but here is my experience with the gays: They can be a terrible influence. If you know them as a peer group when you are young, you learn to treat sex the way men treat sex. By this I mean, sex is handled cavalierly. We all know the young straight men will do anything for sex and do not view it the way women do, but when you add the homosexual ele… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/19 08:01 PM |
| 5 | Do you have a strong desire to be overpowered by a man?Two cases does not a pattern make. Without seeing anything beyond what you just cited... People rush into sex and bedroom games very quickly. I've heard that in the BDSM community, people will watch out for new subs and give warnings over dangerous doms. If you are meeting outside of the bounds of a community or warnings aren't given, it's risky all around. There is simply no way to know where the boundaries were established. Both partners should be vetting the other and establishing trust. It's… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/19 03:44 PM |
| 4 | Newly Red PilledIt's not that you need to have sex in the same speed you did with others. It is that it can lead to resentment if you gave an ex more than you are willing to give a current. You choose to do with that knowledge whatever you will. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/19 03:06 PM |
| 21 | Reinserting myself back into his life. How unfair is this?I think that was a sad excuse for "I want to fuck around" and see if there's better out there. You don't trust what he says and think he's 'sad' He acted confident but he did have insecurity issues You don't respect him. He said he was really interested in me, but I felt they might still be communicating. He likes her better than you I deleted him out of my life, essentially ghosted You walked away without explanation I believe they're in a full-blown relationship again. He's dating someone else… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/19 03:02 PM |
| 7 | Help me please - valueEntirely fair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/19 03:44 PM |
| 8 | Help me please - valueSo while what you and /u/Zegiknie are saying is undistilled RP I question whether it's as black and white as all that. To some degree, quality is in the eye of the beholder. Most people are average and by their late 20s have some form of baggage. You do your best to find matched baggage (so to speak). The OP may not have all the options as non-divorcee/mother. The key is to maximize what she has and do the best within that framework. Rather than thinking of it as "quality man or no man" it's mor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/19 01:39 PM |
| 4 | Husband resigning.And she deleted the post and her account. Looks like you hit a nerve 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/19 01:04 PM |
| 2 | I am being told my BF's behavior is abusive/controlling. Is it? Warning: long postI saw in another comment that you are taking steps to get him out. Congrats! With that in mind, my tone may become a little more dismissive of him. I'm going to continue to refer to him as your man though cause it's easier :-P. I was asked to behave like his roommate & not be "friendly" with him but the guy kept pushing it. There is an age old debate about whether men and women can be friends. We have it semi regularly on RPW. While I tend towards the school of thought that it is possible, most … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/19 11:21 PM |
| 4 | Aging and the RPWAs for sex... watch your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone This hit me shortly after 30. No amount of yoga, healthy food or vitamins has changed the fact that straddling the husband makes my knees sore!! Another make-up problem is aging skin. Haven't run into this yet and I think moisturizing and decent quality make up are both helpful. A big make up aging issue IMO is updating your color choices accordingly. Bright colors or a stand out component might be good at 20 but you can age out … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/19 10:15 PM |
| 3 | I am being told my BF's behavior is abusive/controlling. Is it? Warning: long postI admitted fault THAT DAY and immediately apologized. Didn't seem to matter though. It's still... to this day. ALL my fault. I believe you. The books, particularly 'For Women Only', help show you the male perspective at work. Even after understanding where men are coming from, there are times when you still want to roll your eyes and say "stop being stupid". We just see the world differently...I mean, all people do, but there are some natural gender differences that apply to most men and most wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/19 04:12 PM |
| 13 | I am being told my BF's behavior is abusive/controlling. Is it? Warning: long postSubmission is something you should want to do because you trust and respect him and he's just that awesome. It is more natural when you meet a competent, dominant man and he triggers that sort of behavior in you. The thing with the roommate may be questionable. You didn't see anything wrong but he interpreted the situation as disrespectful to him. Whatever your feelings, it sounds like you didn't pay attention to his feelings in the matter. However, a lot of what you described sounds like an ins… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/19 01:04 AM |
| 2 | Am I Shitty for being pissed my boyfriend ignored my happy birthday text yet he almost cried and had his day ruined because his old friend (who he dated for a while until she moved away) didn’t till him happy birthday?How old are you both and how long have you been dating. This used to be required info for asking questions and it's relevant to anyone giving you advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/18 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Husband is very RP. Also suspect that he is Bi.You don't know my tone over the internet but you think it appropriate to insult me. I simply do not understand what you are looking for here. There isn't a magic answer. If you are intent on staying with him, there is nothing anyone here can tell you that will suddenly change his sexuality or behaviors. You are arguing with most of the comments. I didn't give you advice because I don't have advice. I asked what I did because you've told several different stories over the last week about the man … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/18 07:03 PM |
| 4 | Husband is very RP. Also suspect that he is Bi.I'd like to add my personal support for the content of the book you are citing. I was close friends with quite a few gay men in my youth (ah drama club) and a few have remained long time friends. Given this I've had the opportunity to see gay culture, at least in my area, up close and personal. My Gay BFF says that male sexuality without the restraint of women in pathological, when discussing his experiences with men and sex over the years. Watching him delete and redownload the sex apps again a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/18 12:22 PM |
| 5 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getI don't disagree with most if not all of this. I'll be short here because my baby brain has been kicking in and I don't think I can write a coherent essay in response :-P. With larger age gaps, I tend to find it more concerning when the woman is under 24 or 25. This is when there is the possibility of it being most predatory. If my husband were to disappear tomorrow, my ultimate strategy would likely to be seeking out a new partner about 10ish years older than I. At this point in my life, I thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/18 12:09 PM |
| 6 | Husband is very RP. Also suspect that he is Bi.Why did this not come up a week ago when you were asking "where does the alphaness stop" and "how to get him to feel passion"? You've not posted any positive qualities about this man but you don't want anyone to tell you to leave him. The red pill is not magic and the trickle truth isn't going to get you solid advice. What exactly are you hoping to gain from us. Genuine question. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/18 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getI think you are off base about it being a competition issue. Certainly it can be instinctual competition but I believe that's an overly simplistic view. So to get out of the way where I am coming from - I met and settled in with my now husband at 24. In my early 20s I briefly dated a man who was about 20 years older than I. It was a layover of sorts after my first LTR ended, was drama free and ended amicably. Even while I was with that man, it felt slightly uncomfortable. While he never treated … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/18 11:32 AM |
| 3 | A Visit to the OfficeYou go girl! :-D | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/18 10:51 AM |
| 4 | The Thought That CountsThat looks yum. I love that it sets up an afternoon together too. And as an aside to your bragging: we don't do gifts either but it took a few years for us to both really hold to that. Some years I feel like it's more stressful not buying anything :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/18 10:50 AM |
| 9 | Boyfriend Asks how I feel about Open RelationshipsI'm not surprised that you are struggling with the idea. It sounds as if there are sexual problems in the relationship already. Your BF is struggling to figure out what satisfies him and in the meantime, you really just want him. Not only that but you want him more than he acts like he wants you. Of course he is saying all the right things, "you are the love of his life" and "he wants to marry you". When faced with the prospect of sex, men will often say anything. In an attempt to get outdoors s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/18 06:20 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend Asks how I feel about Open RelationshipsRPW deals with the dynamics between men and women. I don't see how /u/PrettyBlueMushroom's statement that "RPW neither condones or condemns open relationships" is "officially giving her a blessing". Your own past is coloring your judgement on this topic. And you are interpreting the mod's words through that lens. My own relationship has involved threesomes in the past and left us no worse off for it. It is certainly not for everyone but my dynamic with my husband is not worse, blue pill or less … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/18 03:08 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend Asks how I feel about Open RelationshipsThis is correct. Non-monogamy is anti-TradCon but RPW is not limited to TradCon relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/18 01:27 PM |
| 4 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getThere are risks to both. I believe that Downs is the biggie as women age and Autism is the biggie as men age. Women tend to marry / date men their age or older. So older mothers usually mean older fathers as well. You can't tease out the difference just from observation. Also, you work in medicine so there is a selection bias. You aren't encountering a true random subset of the population. You are seeing the people with problems. This is leading you to make the incorrect assumption that "all peo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/18 01:23 PM |
| 2 | What does commitment mean to you?Oh that wasn't advice, just my perspective :-D | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/18 12:19 AM |
| 2 | What does commitment mean to you?I would never have done it for myself and I certainly wouldn't have done it for a boyfriend, no matter how long we had been together. I waited about a year into the marriage before the first session even though we'd been together for six years at that point. He is the sort of man who buys something and immediately has to change it in some way to make it his own. I've joked that that's what the tattoo is - his changes on me to make me his own :-P. Someone suggested that the need to alter things t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/18 10:46 PM |
| 20 | Poor work ethic or no career drive, due to how one was raised?There is value in being able to support yourself even if you chose not to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/18 01:06 AM |
| 5 | 3 simple steps to keep him smitten forever!Yes and I believe you wrote a post on malleability. Most of that sprang from the head of /u/durtyknees - I just made it readable :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/18 12:32 PM |
| 5 | 3 simple steps to keep him smitten forever!That's always nice isn't it :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 08:39 PM |
| 5 | 3 simple steps to keep him smitten forever!To achieve joy with a man of abundance and initiative, you'd need more than baseline stuff like sex, cheerleading, and physical nourishment (food). They are however still the baseline. If we really wanted to get nitpicky - I'd say food is probably the least important on the list. To my mind, it is a stand in for service which is an indicator of respect. they're not enough to make a woman irreplaceable enough, to convince a man of abundance to marry her....It just has no value for unpartnered/unm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 08:38 PM |
| 10 | 3 simple steps to keep him smitten forever!Yes. That too. However I disagree that expressing love through sex makes one feel like a whore. Not understanding that sex is an expression of love could do that though. Also the 'respect' component is tackled by the feed his ego portion of the post. I wasn't trying to suggest any one part was more important than the other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 08:17 PM |
| 6 | 3 simple steps to keep him smitten forever!Coming to work with lunch prepared by your wife feels good even if you work alone. I agree with this, my Italian blood knows that food = love and other people are completely irrelevant. Like I said, sandwiches are more delicious if someone else makes them. It is known. I just also noticed that my husband has commented on who else brings their lunch. For the types of men who notice it, it lets them know he is respected and cared for at home. Not everything needs to be rocket science for it to be … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 06:16 PM |
| 6 | I (25F) want children, my husband (29M) does not. should I leave him?:-P my mother is a bit much - but she also had a son who was an addict from a very young age. I watched both parents struggle with that, how to help him without enabling, how to still be fair to me and my sister... When we think about having kids, these are the things that no one believes will happen. It isn't to say 'don't have kids' - it's just that you don't know where that path will take you. A husband should be a partner until one of you isn't here any more - that's what you sign up for. Ki… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 03:36 PM |
| 10 | 3 simple steps to keep him smitten forever!And I think you are young and inexperienced because of this attitude. Consistency with both sex and affection are really the keys to making a man love you forever. Men want a cheerleader and a soft place to land. They want to know that they are getting the same supportive woman when they come home at night - be it tonight, next year or in a decade. They want consistent sex that makes them feel desired and powerful. They want to bring that sandwich to work because other guys notice who has a wife… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 02:04 PM |
| 13 | I (25F) want children, my husband (29M) does not. should I leave him?This is a really good point. My mother (bless her heart) laments that her children have all hurt her, made choices she disagrees with and now have the audacity to be independent. Meanwhile her husband is still by her side, doting on her. IDK what you do when your goals are truly incompatible but these are some really solid questions for the OP to consider. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 01:39 PM |
| 6 | 3 simple steps to keep him smitten forever!You are nit picking that he gave a snappy title but posted RPW basics and I'm the one that is mean? As far as what you'd like to see, be the change... If this isn't good advice, post better. We have the content that people are willing to provide. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 12:01 PM |
| 7 | When your friends make the wrong decisions...Yes. Men, not other women, determine who is a high value woman. (Unless of course you are a lesbian.) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 01:54 AM |
| 2 | How to get husband to feel passion ?I read your post on askTRP and combine with that and this post - I'm not sure staying in this marriage is a good long term plan for you. This may be beyond something RPW tactics can turn around. HOWEVER regarding the sex: He is into a different sort of sex than you are and you are unable to compromise with him. It's not surprising that he's not interested in sex. It's possible that your desires for gentle sex will never be enough to fulfill him or turn him on. In that case, he is putting in work… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 01:51 AM |
| 3 | 3 simple steps to keep him smitten forever!:-D | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 01:34 AM |
| 21 | 3 simple steps to keep him smitten forever!Don't play the "what if" game. Plenty of people stay and plenty of people leave in those what if situations. On RP subs we nearly always talk in generalities though. What do most men do, how do most women behave. What /u/loneliness-inc is suggesting is the basic needs of a man in a relationship. This is the baseline. Everything else adds to it. And it's right, this is straight out of For Women Only, which is surveys of men across the country. You may get into his heart without sex, but show me a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 01:32 AM |
| 93 | 3 simple steps to keep him smitten forever!I see this sentence got you in trouble: Ask any man for the number one reason he agreed to get married and they'll probably tell you - to have a steady supply of sex. The main idea is really this: Men express love through sex and sex exponentially increases his love for you. Men marry for love. They feel love from sex. Ergo men marry for sex from a desirable woman. I married for love. I feel love from attention and validation. Ergo, I married to have a steady supply of attention from a worthwhil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/18 12:04 AM |
| 10 | 3 simple steps to keep him smitten forever!This is an area where I really like some of Laura Doyle's advice: ask yourself "is this on my plate" There are so many things that aren't on my plate and thus do not require my attention or comments. Does the trash need to go out - I don't care! It's not on my plate! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/18 11:54 PM |
| 4 | How to bring back sex and passion into a relationship?I believe the traditional December method for solving disputes is a sword fight with wrapping paper tubes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/18 03:22 PM |
| 6 | Do you think there is a respectful way to give a man life advice?but I submit that advice should not be offered that places men at a known disadvantage. People act in their own self interest. If I tell someone "break up with him before you hurt him", it's not good advice unless it's already in line with her self interest. If it's not, hurting him is unlikely to be a convincing argument. If you don't make a convincing argument, you are unlikely to accomplish the goal. Beyond that, everyone has to decide their own moral line. At TRP this means not criticizing m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/18 01:44 PM |
| 6 | Simple QuestionsThere are a lot of old posts and discussions on this topic. The general idea is that your job will never be what a man finds attractive. Men don't say that they want independent women. Though they might want to feel like you aren't dating them for their money. Beyond what attracted him to you in the first place, different men will have different qualifications that they look for in a long term partner. If your take away from this sub is "don't wear leggings" then you aren't reading it closely en… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/18 02:33 AM |
| 7 | Problematic TimeI don't think a break is the worst idea. I think she also needs more self reflection about her role. I'll be honest though, it reminds me that one of the men around here likes to say "no respect= no relationship" and "there is when the relationship is over and when it actually ends". I truly hope I'm wrong but I've read these posts for a while now and I think this relationship is over and it is now a matter of when it ends. Staying with her sister may just be the beginning of the actual end. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/18 10:22 PM |
| 9 | Problematic TimeI have to jump in because of the downvotes you are getting. The OPs post history is a mess of disrespect towards her husband and his family. There is simply no way that is not coming out into her interactions with him. Everyone else is assuming that he is in the wrong and she is the poor put upon wife. FW is being cited that you can't be with a man who won't support his family. Based on this post alone, I understand these assumptions. The problem is that Laura Doyle and FW suggest that with most… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/18 09:50 PM |
| 3 | Being his safe place to land.You are welcome and I did think that this was a delightful post. It made me feel all warm and fuzzy. I love reading the happy but mundane field reports. The crux of a relationship is in the day to day and it sounds like in the day to day you shine! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/18 05:12 PM |
| 3 | It's official!I'm so happy for you! Congratulations!! r/BabyBumps can be hit or miss IMO but there is always a (typically private) sub for the women who are all delivering in a given month. I've found it helpful to get a feel for what is normal and what symptoms and such everyone else is going through at the same time. It also has given me a bit of perspective. The women are there to complain and support each other so you hear the worst stuff you can go through. It helped me to remain zen about my mild sympto… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/18 05:06 PM |
| 8 | Simple QuestionsWell that's not what the sub professes to be: This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relationship with a great man. We explore the female RP sexual strategy, better known as "girl game", in an objective, realistic and compassionate manner. RPW does not endorse a moral stance. We discuss the elements of girl game not as behaviors that are right, or good, or morally superior, but as tactical behaviors that work to help us achieve our g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/18 03:33 PM |
| 7 | Simple QuestionsDo share what you believe a red pill woman is supposed to be. Perhaps these women share different values from you but still do not consider themselves feminists. Or do we dictate that everyone falls into lock step with an ideology rather than thinking for themselves? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/18 03:16 PM |
| 23 | Being his safe place to land.OP wrote a really lovely post. I don't see what you are aiming to accomplish here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/18 03:09 PM |
| 1 | No friends of the opposite sex agreement in a relationship, abusive or acceptable?Well libertybunny, everyone has their own priorities. I have friends who I have known forever who I see once a year and chat with occasionally at work. My husband is the same way. At this age, friendships aren't necessarily maintained the way they are in high school and college. Alternately, they come from people you are in regular contact with. I'm not sure I'd consider my boss a friend, and yet, he knows most of what goes on in my life and I his. We're the only ones in the office so it's just … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/18 02:36 PM |
| 9 | Online Dating: Yellow Flag DiscoveredYou are right, not knowing the personal lives of global leaders precludes me from discussing sexual strategy with average people. You just know more than I do. I bow to your wisdom :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/18 03:23 PM |
| 6 | Online Dating: Yellow Flag DiscoveredI need to name a world leader to support my view that people can have varied interests? Honestly, at this point I think I'll pass on discussing this with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/18 03:13 PM |
| 2 | How to overcome cynicism after reading The Men’s Red Pill?I'm sure Incels hasn't helped but I've been hearing "TRP used to be better" from people that have been around longer than I have. Women have been coming to RPW concerned about the things said on TRP for as long as I've been here at least. It didn't tick up after Incels was closed either. I just agree with what Whisper said "everyone is stuck until they are not" and I think you (people) see different things when you are in the middle of it than you do once you are on the other side. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/18 01:09 PM |
| 1 | How to overcome cynicism after reading The Men’s Red Pill?That's your perception. I assure you that 18 months ago these same complaints about TRP were floating around Reddit. We are selective in what we pay attention to. You are attending to different aspects of TRP now that you have been there longer and it's usefulness to you has changed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/18 12:55 PM |
| 8 | Online Dating: Yellow Flag DiscoveredShe didn't say that men were useless though. The men who were seeking her out mainly because she shared this interest with them were men who expressed a certain set of traits. Someone else pointed out that her husband plays DnD but didn't feel the need to mention it until after they met. It's not his identity and he didn't need to seek out women who also played to validate that identity. You can be multifaceted or myopic. You can indulge in a little bit of escapism, be it RPG or romance novels, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/18 12:49 PM |
| 11 | Online Dating: Yellow Flag DiscoveredI don't believe that shared hobbies are necessary for a successful relationship. Compatibility should focus on values and life goals. While it's good to have things you can do together, doing everything together can become boring and stale....or worse, you can become no more than friends. A little bit of distance keeps a person interesting and passion alive. I think that sharing too many of the same interests is an offshoot of 'men and women are equal'. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/18 12:43 PM |
| 3 | How do I make him chase me?What do you hope to accomplish with this man? He wants exclusivity but you don't ... what is your end goal? You told him you don't want to keep dating but you do ... what did you think would happen? You need to decide what your goal is and if this man is compatible with it. From your post it does not seem like you two want the same thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/18 08:42 PM |
| 13 | Just a little thing that happenedWhat sorts of things do you do in your family that help teach your son that daddy is in charge? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/18 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Woman in my husband's office meddling in our relationshipIt's all in the language though. You started off with Tell him you'd prefer if he keeps the discussion of child rearing out of his work conversations. That's different than saying "it makes me uncomfortable..." "I'd prefer..." is bringing him a solution. It's telling him what you want the outcome to be. Men won't hear "I'd prefer if you do x" and think they have a choice. You are getting push back because of the way you said something. Men and women communicate differently, your first suggestion… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/18 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Woman in my husband's office meddling in our relationshipNo she's not. The coworker is 32 with a husband and a 1 year old. The OP is 23. The OP can't police her husband, he has to establish his own boundaries. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/18 08:12 PM |
| 6 | Sexual attraction versus Relationship Potential?So paying for my drinks won't make you sexier but it will make me more likely to go on another date because it implies you have a provider/protector instinct. (mind you it's perfectly possible to pay for things whilst having no masculine instinct to speak of). I think at this point the middle ground is for the first couple dates to be free or not call attention to who is paying (if the man is not going to pay). Because you are right, it doesn't make a man more attractive but if it's not handled … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/18 04:57 PM |
| 17 | Sexual attraction versus Relationship Potential?It's not impossible to find a mix of alpha and beta traits. They are traits not people and they are not mutually exclusive. Most of the married women here have husbands who are a mix of alpha and beta. The key is proper vetting and understanding what you are looking for and why. One also has to have strong girl game and bring something worthwhile to the relationship. If a man has many options, you have to show him why you are the one he shouldn't let get away. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/18 03:16 PM |
| 3 | Woman in my husband's office meddling in our relationshipI'm glad things are working out! And it might feel like it but a year isn't a long time to wait. Especially if it means you both feel confidently ready for kids. Spend it enjoying your last bit of childlessness together :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/18 01:45 PM |
| 5 | Woman in my husband's office meddling in our relationshipAh ok. I stand by what I said originally. Reading that post just made me think that might be where some of his concerns stem from and that the coworker was playing on something already there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/18 10:56 PM |
| 9 | Woman in my husband's office meddling in our relationshipI just scanned her last post here and she stopped pursuing her degree against his wishes (more or less). So I can start to see where some of this might be coming from. That said, everyone's standard of living decreases in a divorce. Even if she gets half his income, she gets half the income she was living on with him. That's not great or something to aspire to. It sounds like this coworker is playing on his fears. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/18 10:45 PM |
| 30 | Woman in my husband's office meddling in our relationshipOut of curiosity, how old do you think Sarah is? I may be out on a limb, but this strikes me as "crabs in a bucket" mentality. Certainly, there is nothing she's saying that is necessarily incorrect but she also has no business saying it, so it's not wrong to wonder at her motivations. Many times when women see you having something they do not, they will try to pull you down. It is also the case that people want their own life choices validated. Childfree people can be rabid in their views and pa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/18 09:36 PM |
| 3 | What Online Dating Advice To Give?Did you seriously make an account just to stir shit? Classy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/18 02:25 AM |
| 3 | Husband BragYes. I suspect that many couples have misaligned expectations. Chores are a big point of contention in relationships already and adding more work in the form of a child doesn't lighten the load in any way. It's not surprising that the hundreds of articles about how women do more housework in a couple become 'women do more housework when the baby comes'. No kidding. All you did was add a kid and assume things would change? Foolish. Being among the first in your group of friends to have children m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/18 08:42 PM |
| 5 | Am I Overreacting?TRP is the only one and you can still get there, you just have to use a desktop. It's a pain in the butt to get to the first time but it's there. And we probably have definitions of it in ours, I just don't think there are any posts that really break it down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/18 06:19 PM |
| 8 | Am I Overreacting?Actually, I don't think there is anything about dread game in our sidebar. You'd have to go over to the male subs for that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/18 06:15 PM |
| 3 | Husband Brag"When he holds his baby in his arms he will grow up and everything will be perfect" - naive women everywhere Interestingly, my brother's daughter does seem to have turned his life around. It's not a gamble I'd have taken on him though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/18 05:01 PM |
| 5 | Husband BragThese men said they wanted the pregnancy/baby, but when it happened, did a 180 I think some men panic and I don't know what the right thing to do in that case is. Add in a hormonal pregnant lady and well, this is when marriage being difficult to escape (legally & socially) might be important. My sis's first is an oopsie baby but she and her SO jointly decided they wanted to have the baby. About halfway through he decided that he was going to ignore some traffic tickets which could have resulted … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/18 04:58 PM |
| 3 | Male friend of 10 years turned into my beta orbiterEmotions aren't logical, so the response makes sense to me You know by now how much I hate this though :-P The Flow of Respectful Love is: Child -> Woman -> Man This is a sidestep from the initial topic, but I do think that protective love can flow from a woman to a man however it negates the female sex drive. In a healthy relationship this would occur occasionally: during tough times, when a man is sick or generally less than himself. You can't build a relationship on the dynamic as it will lea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/18 03:35 PM |
| 6 | Women only care about your money and status.Only broken women who never grew out of adolescences Yes. I know a woman like this. She wants to be cared for but has little to offer in return. She is working on divorce number 1 and looking for her next man last I heard. She is also an incredibly broken person from childhood traumas that are not likely to heal. It's not the average woman who behaves in this manner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/18 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Husband BragOh I've been there too! At the moment I'm stuck on the number of posters who break up with their baby daddy's mid pregnancy. But beyondthebump has their own string of issues too. I wonder if these guys are all terrible losers or if these women have irrational expectations. And mostly I'm just glad I have a good man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/18 01:35 PM |
| 3 | What Online Dating Advice To Give?It's been a while so I don't know about the phone number. I thought it had been a FB account for Tinder and you can just make those up. Same with email addresses. I have an email address that is linked to Reddit that I don't use for anything else. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/18 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Male friend of 10 years turned into my beta orbiterThis is a myopic male perspective that only sounds "red-pilled" because it's repeat so often that it's assumed to be true. I believe that's certainly possible, however I can't quite reconcile what you are saying with my own past feelings. Maybe I am struggling with 'child' because certainly there is an aversion to a nonsexual person attempting to become sexual. I'd have to think more on it. Perhaps it's too long ago to articulate the 'why' at this point. Still from the perspective of now, I'm no… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/18 02:52 AM |
| 2 | What Online Dating Advice To Give?You are right that experiment is a bad word. Market research would be a better phrase. Other than that the OP can decide whether my opinion is worth anything or not. I've been around rpw for long enough that people can judge my advice and my relationship however they like. There is enough of a post history for others to do that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/18 12:33 AM |
| 7 | Male friend of 10 years turned into my beta orbiterI suspect a lot of this is the OP's youth. Much to my chagrin, I recall these feelings from sometimes around 14-15 years old. A guy I knew from drama club asked me out. He had been chatting me up and I thought it was friendly and I found him decidedly unattractive. When he asked me on a date, I was as kind as any 14 year old is capable of. I then turned around and mocked him to my friends. Remembering it decades later is a touch embarrassing and at the time, I had no particular reason for the fe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/18 12:06 AM |
| 2 | What Online Dating Advice To Give?Ehhhh. Last time I was there it was a lot of men mocking lower class women who made bad life choices. Check it out for yourself but I'd be surprised if it's contents match your audience of traditional women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/18 11:49 PM |
| 4 | What Online Dating Advice To Give?If the conclusions from the experiment are solid (good advice) how is it bad advice to suggest a woman run the experiment on her own? I'm saying everyone should think for themselves and form their own conclusions based on their own market research. The alternative is to blindly follow the directions of strangers on the internet. I'm seriously confused by the push back. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/18 09:18 PM |
| 11 | What Online Dating Advice To Give?I've flipped through Tinder (not the dating site of choice for actual dating obviously) as a man and it was an eye opening experience. It lets you know what other's are saying about themselves, how they are approaching dating and generally what you are 'up against'. In my case it was idle curiosity but I don't view it as any different than a business researching their competitions product. If I were to turn around what I learned from that, the biggest thing would be to say what you can provide r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/18 05:40 PM |
| 16 | Husband BragSpeak for yourself, my husband brags about me to others all the time. When he does it in front of me, I find it sort of embarrassing and sometimes wish he'd stop. I pity you if you have such a low opinion of men...especially the one you married. It reflects poorly on you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/18 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Recipes that dont require alot of prep time?This white chicken chili is a favorite in our house. It comes from The Hearty Boys: Talk with your Mouth Full so we call it "gay chili" :-P 2lb boneless skinless chicken breast (or ground chicken or whatever) 1 Tbls dried basil salt pepper 1/4 C olive oil 1 Spanish onion cut into 1/2 inch dice 1 clove garlic minced 1 small jalapeno minced 2 15 oz cans northern beans 1 1/2 tsp cumin 1/4 tsp cinnamon 5 basil leaves roughly chopped (I only use this when i have it, it works with just dried basil wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/18 04:06 PM |
| 6 | What Online Dating Advice To Give?Create a faux male profile and check out the competition. That way you can see what other women are doing and figure out what would help you to stand out. If you have the time and inclination Aziz Ansari's Modern Romance is worth a read. It's not specifically helpful for traditional relationships, but it lays out the effects of the technology on dating pretty well. It's been a while since I've read it so you should check it out first and decide whether it's worth anything to your audience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/18 03:55 PM |
| 8 | Husband BragThere are a lot of posts that I give the side eye to on those subs. And while I expected that he'd be good, it still makes me feel all warm and lovey and so so grateful because...well hormones :-P It's a motorcycle... though for the next year (until my body and balance return) it's neither! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/18 12:45 AM |
| 18 | Husband BragMine's been picking up more slack the more this pregnancy progresses. Yesterday I fell asleep (napping) on the couch while he was sealing the bedroom windows for winter. When he finished he gently woke me up, got my phone and water and moved me to the bedroom (where I had wanted to be). When I woke up a few hours later he told me he was running out for some errands and would be picking up food for dinner so I didn't have to worry about it. He's always been good but he's really stepped up the car… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/18 12:15 AM |
| 3 | The Myth of Sexual PeakAlso, since we are talking about sex and relationships, isn't perception just as important as what is actually going on. If I was miserable in my relationship, I'd probably be on TwoX or Relationships where it is the norm to complain. That doesn't mean we never argue, it just means that overall my perception of my husband is positive and I have no good reason to focus on the arguments (or negative qualities or whatever). So while some people may lie in abundance, overall the women who believe th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/18 11:31 PM |
| 3 | The Myth of Sexual PeakI'm actually starting to warm to "leader and follower", since it sounds more sane than "captain and first mate" The roles of "Captain & First Mate" are not always clear simply by the titles. Also I cringe at the idea that boyfriend = captain. My understanding of C/FM comes from Battlestar Galatica (Commander / XO ?). I'm not sure most people here have seen that though :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/18 01:55 PM |
| 4 | The Myth of Sexual PeakThe idea of TRP is to get men to leave the pedestalized view of women and eventually accept women as people and female nature as the design not a flaw. In the middle of this process there is a lot of kickback on anything a woman says or describes as her experience. They are taught to distrust everything they are told as a step towards thinking for themselves. They still have to get to the other side and learn to think for themselves. Some do and some don't. All of them think that they have at al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/18 02:09 AM |
| 5 | The Myth of Sexual PeakWhy on earth would anyone air their dirty laundry to you, a stranger on the internet? You guys don't like if women complain about men and you don't like if women are loyal to their men. There is simply no way to win. But in this case we aren't even being loyal to our men, we're talking about our own experiences. I'd venture a guess that you'd be rather displeased if I started to invalidate your own life experiences. And you aren't drawing your own conclusions because you are following lock step … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/18 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Question on Hypergamy and Advice on dating.don’t mean to make you sound old Ha! But I am old relatively speaking (for RPW I mean). I'm in my mid 30s and have been with my husband for 11 years. I've lived just long enough to start to see how decisions made a decade or two decades ago have impacted life over the years. I certainly don't know everything but your 30s are a time when you start to see the impacts of everyone's life decisions and paths playing out. It's also the time when it can be harder to course correct. I'm glad that my adv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/18 12:09 AM |
| 4 | The Myth of Sexual PeakDon't be snarky. No one is arguing that beauty and fertility decline with age. Women do not understand "sexual peak" to mean that they are at their most attractive. It means that we are more sexual, desire and enjoy it more through our 30s. Someone else here said it's a "going out of business sale" of sorts as fertility declines. It's not about thirsty and desperate because most of the women commenting in this thread are married to men we are attracted to. We're not saying this because it helps … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/18 12:00 AM |
| 6 | My Mother wants me to be a Sugar BabyCollege is expensive and not for everyone BUT so much of that depends on the degree. There is a big difference taking huge student loans to pay for a literature degree with no job prospects versus student loans for an engineering degree where you make decent money right out of school. Just be smart about what you are going into debt for and you'll be ok. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/18 04:39 PM |
| 11 | Question on Hypergamy and Advice on dating.Female and male are adjectives, man and woman are nouns. I believe that female and male can be used as nouns as well so it's not grammatically incorrect but a lot of people hear it as dehumanizing because it's an odd mix to say "female" and "man". Throw in the fact that incels specifically use 'female' to be obnoxious and it can creep into the brain as being off putting. I do it myself when I'm writing sometimes without thought, so I'm not criticizing the OP, but sometimes when a person uses it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/18 04:30 PM |
| 15 | Question on Hypergamy and Advice on dating.Don't focus on the jargon at the expense of analyzing your real life. The general definition of hypergamy is simply marrying into a higher class or caste. The RP definition of hypergamy says it's: The instinctual urge for women to seek out the best alpha available. If you are in a room with a group of men - all 8s and a single 9, you will desire the 9 and not be interested in the 8s. If suddenly there is an influx of 9s and a single 10, you will discard the 9 you were previously eyeing up and go… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/18 04:14 PM |
| 5 | Opinion on threesomes?Are you asking us what you should think about a particular boy? It matters if it matters to you. It does not matter if it does not matter to you. It's indicative of a man that women desire enough to do "crazy" sex things for. That doesn't mean he's a good man, just that he's desirable enough to get a threesome (or in the right place at the right time). Just like two partnered sex, threesomes can happen in a variety of ways with differing outcomes. Just saying "he had a threesome" doesn't tell yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/18 07:58 PM |
| 6 | Advice needed on communicating needsThe world should be grateful that you're not evil (or are you?). It depends on who you ask :-D As long as he gets it you will be ok. Stuff slips when life gets busy but there is a real difference between a man who doesn't understand what you need an a man who is just too distracted to think about it all the time. Yours sounds like a good man. I'm happy for you that your meltdown went well. :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/18 06:42 PM |
| 11 | Advice needed on communicating needsDoes he understand the concept of love languages and that this is what you need? My first thought is that this is a quintessential "bring your captain your problem..." problem. That said, I think that love languages can be difficult to explain sometimes. I'm a 'quality time' girl and I had a hell of a time trying to explain to my husband that we can spend three hours watching a movie but that won't make me feel like we've spent time together. Touch isn't my language so I'm not sure how you expla… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/18 06:04 PM |
| 7 | RPW-friendly Netflix suggestions? 😋At least initially it's inspiration is Hamlet, which makes her a questionable RPW role model. She's an interesting character and makes an strong first mate in the instances she wants that role. Except that the men in her life can't ever entirely trust her. Ultimately, Gemma follows her own lead. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/18 10:53 PM |
| 6 | RPW-friendly Netflix suggestions? 😋The second season (at least the episodes that focus on Phillip) are really interesting from an RP perspective. All his troublesome behavior is what RP would predict for a relationship where the woman has the better career and final say in the relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/18 10:48 PM |
| 9 | RPW-friendly Netflix suggestions? 😋IIRC she was partially responsible for her first husband's death so that her second husband could take over the kingdom...er club. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/18 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Tips on being more approachable / following your man's lead (even if you think you're right)?It's easy to monday morning quarterback the whole thing. I'm sure I've done the same thing (asked for help, gotten impatient, did it myself, forgotten until later). At work in particular, I have a tendency to know the solution as soon as the question leaves my mouth. As for the rest, it takes time for dynamics to change both for you to make the alterations in how you respond and for him to accept that this is the new normal. I admit, when I first read your post I thought, 'well this is a him pro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/18 05:55 PM |
| 8 | Tips on being more approachable / following your man's lead (even if you think you're right)?I think that /u/Zegiknie is on the money in both of her comments: it's about politeness and gratitude. Going off of that, in the situation with the bag, you asked for help and then went ahead and fixed the problem with out him. I think at that point, you should have preemptively shot him a new message like: "I figured out the issue so you don't have to worry about it". He probably had it on his mental to do list to come up with a solution for you, spent some time considering it (whether if was 3… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/18 04:50 PM |
| 21 | Guy is a worker - expects me to keep step with himI'm really having a hard time understanding when the helping him at work is me being selfless for someone I care about, and when its being taken too far (if it is). If you want to help and have the time and it's not taking away from your life...then be selfless and help him. If you do not want to help, as you did not today, you have every right to say no. If you have to put your needs (and sleep/rest is a need) aside then it's going too far. It's one thing to put your needs aside in an emergency… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/18 01:06 AM |
| 2 | New here.. having trouble with macho boyfriendAh, so 1 & 2 . He's just a jerk and she needs to make some changes to her own life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/18 12:41 AM |
| 17 | Do you know where you are at SMV scale?This is a tough one to go by. Commitment will be a mix of SMV and RMV. It's also not as though most women have a line of men willing to commit to them. That involves dating and that takes time. You might have a sample size of only a couple men or even possible none depending on your age and dating experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/18 07:27 PM |
| 7 | New here.. having trouble with macho boyfriendThat crossed my mind. Someone else suggested a culture that leans heavily on machismo attitudes, which might be difficult to deal with if you aren't from there. I asked because it's either a country where the cultural values differ from the OPs own or a stronger investigation of her role would be helpful. If it's a different culture there is probably nothing she can do to resolve the issue. If she said that he's from Canada and she's from the US (for example) that opens up two possibilities: 1. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/18 06:27 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: there can be two 'right' waysYou noticed that too! I thought it would be an interesting discussion and practice in humility. Obviously I misjudged :-P Ya win some, ya lose some. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/18 06:20 PM |
| 34 | New here.. having trouble with macho boyfriendHe is not from the US and doesn't know what a 401K Where is he from? Cultural differences can break a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/18 05:32 PM |
| 4 | My BF is the worst communicatorBut even in my failures does it warrant such nasty responses from him? This first. No it does not. This is why I said that you are either a bad combination or he has a problem. Also, it doesn't matter if I think these things are forgivable or not. If you can't forgive them and get past them, then that's enough. You shouldn't be a year into a relationship and living with all this hurt. These fights are a big problem when you should still be in a honeymoon phase. I can own up to what I'm doing but… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/18 11:58 PM |
| 3 | My BF is the worst communicatorI agree with everyone who is suggesting that you should move on from this relationship. There are things that are hard to take back and forgot. It sounds like he has said things to you that you will have a difficult time forgetting. The nastiness is either a problem with him and you should definitely next him OR a problem with your dynamic. At a year, this is a concern. That was the easy part. Now, I also think you need to do some soul searching about your own hand in this issue. Throughout your… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/18 10:40 PM |
| 3 | My BF's parents are transferring all their assets to him to commit fraud for benefitsSuppose you are a developer and you want to finance a new shopping mall. This is where your error begins. What I was talking about and what u/Whisper was talking about were home mortgages made to individuals. In your first line you change the assumptions by moving to commercial rather than residential. But ok....nothing in your example negates this statement: When are people going to realize that 99.9% percent of problems start with government, and 99.9% of things governments start wind up as pr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/18 04:37 PM |
| 1 | My BF's parents are transferring all their assets to him to commit fraud for benefitsIt's a government program in the US for first time home buyers only. You think it's a bad idea. Fine. This isn't a finance sub and I'm not interested in debating programs with you especially since you do not live in this country. All I can tell you is that it is extremely common for first time buyers to use and my gut tells me that with an income of $40k they are more likely to want to use it. The fact that you don't like it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. 🙄 | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/18 11:00 AM |
| 4 | I want to have kids, but my husband has some conditions...I'm not well versed on surrogacy but that might be an additional reason for this desire? If you are already fertilizing outside of the body, I imagine sex selection is easier. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/18 01:43 AM |
| 6 | I want to have kids, but my husband has some conditions...I didn't comment originally because I quite frankly don't know what to think. But I'd like to add a word of caution to your compromises... They aren't realistic. It's generally accepted now that stretch marks are genetic. If you're genetically inclined, the oils are unlikely to help. The food plan is likely to go out the window during the first trimester. Maybe you will be one of the few women who do no get any sort of cravings, aversions, nausea or morning sickness but I wouldn't bank on it. Wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/18 01:15 AM |
| 6 | Discussion: there can be two 'right' waysYou're not at all both right, he's right! :-p :-D I'll have to tell him that the internet has his back. I'm not a 'pack day of girl' more like 'start the month before'. In this case it's before we've started looking for a house! Otherwise, anytime we disagreed, if I presented my case and he didn't agree with me right away, I gave him his way, and turned out to be wrong. He has this really nasty habit of being right all the time... and gets smug, too! Yours too? That smugness is both charming and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/18 03:33 PM |
| 2 | My BF's parents are transferring all their assets to him to commit fraud for benefitsThere are ideals and there is reality. Of course it's best to put down more but plenty of people use the FHAs and so it's worth noting how it works. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/18 02:57 PM |
| 3 | Women aging like milk?Men prefer younger women because they are more physically attractive. The evidence for men aging well is usually, in part, that men do well in the dating market for longer / at older ages than women. From a woman's perspective, they don't do well because they are "prettier" at 45 than at 25. They do well because they have a higher status. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/18 08:38 PM |
| 9 | Taming the HamsterI literally laughed out loud. This is great. Of course, my emotions more often than not come out as irrational anger, so my inner toddler might very well give me the finger ... she's quite precocious but a real brat :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/18 07:20 PM |
| 19 | UPDATE: Can’t support husband, feeling disappointed (F25, M25)Don't feel bad for saying anything. When people are called for their nonsense, it's a natural impulse to turn it around on so the blame is on the other party. He's throwing everything at you so he doesn't have to consider his own role in the problem. He's being a terrible provider and you pointed that out. That hurt him to hear you say I'm sure. Going forward, bite your tongue as much as you can to not to say anything you can't take back. That can be much easier said than done but you must not l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/18 07:17 PM |
| 7 | Taming the HamsterYou are welcome. "Hamster" is a great visual but as a stand alone term the meaning is not obvious in the slightest :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/18 06:39 PM |
| 13 | Taming the HamsterPreventing fatigue and low blood sugar Many years ago husband and I were moving on a budget, about an hour's drive away. We were driving back and forth with stuff every night of the week to get and fighting all. the. time. After a couple days we realized that we were so rushed that we weren't eating enough. Made a point to grab fast food in our travels and it resolved so many arguments. When you start to pay attention it's amazing how many emotions spring from internal biology rather than extern… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/18 06:38 PM |
| 3 | What does commitment mean to you?I have no problem sharing...I already opened the can of worms by openly discussing the threesomes, may as well continue to be open and honest in hopes it resonates for someone. My Fidelity: I have no particular interest in other men. I don't see this as being in my best interest. He's the best sex of my life so I run into one of two scenarios: 1. sex is unsatisfactory with another man, so why bother or 2. sex is better and then I risk feeling dissatisfied with my husband. Other than wanting to h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/18 01:00 AM |
| 4 | N-countSince this comment thread is off the main page and I'm late enough to the party, I can speak my mind here with low probability of starting a riot Wuss :-) highly emotional about sex to the point that it could compromise your "ability to pair-bond" This one has always confused me. I can certainly see where a woman who is left unwillingly many times becomes jaded by sex and relationships. I'm also watching a friend who married a man who is less than her exes and it's a problem (to put it mildly). … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/18 12:32 AM |
| 5 | Being too obliging and "surrendered" too early?RPW readers saying they will "make" a man wait months, or "make" him commit to her first, is just as much empty bravado and stupid chest-beating boastfulness as TRP readers claiming they will never say "I love you" to a woman again at all, ever. Now that is really interesting and something I had never considered. You've made me think. While I don't often weigh in on telling a woman when she should have sex, I do like to jump into these after the fact conversations to let women know they have not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/18 12:11 AM |
| 3 | N-countAlso known as r & k selection. The illustration I read in some evo psych book or another was something like this: A man is a part of a small community or tribe. In that situation he is encouraged to take a 'wife' and provide for his offspring. Potentially, her relatives will encourage fidelity as a means of successfully continuing their genes as well. This will be where his resources are focused and he will have a few children with this woman as his resources allow. But on occasion, this man wil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 11:46 PM |
| 6 | Being too obliging and "surrendered" too early?I've always felt that Whisper's posts are RPW advanced. What I've never been able to put my finger on is what makes them difficult to understand. They are roundedly criticized any time one comes up though by all but a few. Partially, I think that women (maybe men too, IDK) want an easy check list - a. go on date, b. ask if he wants to be married some day, c. gain verbal commitment d. sleep with him e. be proposed to... simplified obviously, but this is sort of what the tradcon path offers. I'd n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 06:42 PM |
| 3 | N-countWe can all learn from this I agree, and don't get me wrong these are the sort of discussion that I find more interesting than the advice giving. Everyone just seems really spun up and I do believe that most of the women here are more interested in what does this mean for me - which in fairness, is as much human nature as any question about n count ;-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 06:08 PM |
| 1 | What does commitment mean to you?Why would I assume you meant something other than what you said? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 05:03 PM |
| 6 | Being too obliging and "surrendered" too early?LOL. Yes, I'm in the same boat which is probably why those posts resonate with me. There are plenty of tradcons around here who will absolutely still consider us sluts, but I think those post are a much more nuanced view that is better in line with the sexual and relationship marketplace.... or I mean, it was a decade ago - I haven't the faintest idea what kind of hell it might be to date now :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 05:01 PM |
| 2 | What does commitment mean to you?you: commitment is working to have the life both wanted at the start of the relationship me: life will throw many changes that you can neither predict nor control for I didn't say you would leave. I think that holding the beginning of the relationship as the ideal is the thought of a young woman. Life changes, situations change and your goals must change with them. If you both wanted children and then you find out you are barren that is a change you cannot control for. If your husband's lucrativ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 04:55 PM |
| 1 | What does commitment mean to you?It was merely food for thought. If you are certain enough of your own mind and path, then the criticism of a stranger on the internet shouldn't matter in the slightest. Off topic: I'm fascinated by the fact that you can be as harsh as you want in your posts and comments but you do not handle people disagreeing with you in the slightest. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 04:33 PM |
| 6 | N-countActually, the best strategy for said hunter is to mate with the blond and then pair off with the brunette. The blond's child with him would potentially die from lack of care but he doesn't have to put resources in so no harm no foul. The brunette's children will have a better chance of survival because hes' focusing the resources there. This is the dual strategy for men. Once we get into evo psych we are speculating on how these things would go. It's an interesting path to take but a fairly new … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 04:25 PM |
| 1 | What does commitment mean to you?Commitment to me is when both parties try their best to have a good relationship and to have the life both wanted at the start of the relationship. Then you are not yet ready to be in a life long committed relationship. Life will throw many changes at you that you can neither predict nor control for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 04:01 PM |
| 10 | Being too obliging and "surrendered" too early?These two posts might be of interest: Passion and The Final Exam. Also: The Slut and how not to be one Some people view these posts as a man encouraging a woman to sleep around. I disagree, I think Whisper is good at recognizing what the terrain looks like today and working with it. Since you've already jumped in with both feet, there is no reason not to give it your best effort. :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 02:43 PM |
| 2 | Women aging like milk?It's pretty good with a nicely aged balsamic vinegar too :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 02:08 PM |
| 26 | Being too obliging and "surrendered" too early?From the sound of it, you already belong to him. I don't think that that is something you can reverse, and perhaps pretending to do so (playing games) has the opposite of the desired effect. +1 star :-) . We get so focused on advising vetting and holding back sex for commitment that it's easy to forget that vulnerability and openness are endearing and pull men in. You should vet, yes, but you shouldn't fake your emotions. /u/pearlsandstilettos | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Why do Husbands cheat?She deserves to be treated with kindness. For some it would be unkind to keep it from them. For some it would be kinder. I'm reminded of my neighbor growing up. There was a lot of quiet musing on the block that he was bisexual with a boyfriend. In discussions of fidelity among the women, the neighbor was always very firm that "as long as his paycheck comes to his family, I don't care what he does". I don't think she was as mercenary as that statement suggests but I do think that she turned a bli… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 01:00 PM |
| 11 | My BF's parents are transferring all their assets to him to commit fraud for benefitsI'll add a problem that won't crop up until later. Most people use an FHA loan to buy their first home. This means you can put down well under 20% of the sale value that mortgage companies typically want to see (currently around 2.5-3.5% I believe). If he already had a house that he owns, you are out of luck on this one and will have to save up the normal 20%. Moving the home or money into a trust or children's names is not uncommon as a way to protect assets in old age (from the cost of nursing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 07:53 PM |
| 4 | N-countVery hard to find ~Alpha men~ people with strong moral character I'm finding. FTFY Seriously, it's not exclusive to men. On the men's side they say that about women. It's somewhat of a universal cry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Why do Husbands cheat?Not all people are religious and not all men are going to think that it's wrong to catch a glimpse. I find it difficult to believe that if every man has this as an instinct, that fidelity is limited to the ones who believe looking is wrong. If you are coming from a religious standpoint where it's taught that it's wrong, then maybe. Otherwise we'll have to agree to disagree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 07:36 PM |
| 4 | What does commitment mean to you?My thought: with a captain / first mate dynamic, the captain is the one in charge of setting the course. Add in "men are the gatekeepers of commitment" and with it an underlying assumption you cannot say no to a proposal without killing the relationship (because that is most often the situation, and I think it is what most people here are working off of). If you officially propose, you are trying to guide the ship. Your relationship is a bit different in that, I don't think you intend it to end … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 07:32 PM |
| 3 | Why do Husbands cheat?All men look, they literally can't help it.. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 07:00 PM |
| 7 | Women aging like milk?You're comparing yourself - a 35 year old woman - to a man in his 50's who by definition is at least 15 years your senior! I'm not comparing myself to a man 15 years older. If anything I'm comparing my husband to a man 15 years older. My takeaway from your comment was that men's 'sexiness' begins sometime in his 30s and continues to increase with time, while women's begins in their 20s and steadily declines over time. We don't have an argument on the women's side. Did I misunderstand what you we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 06:45 PM |
| 4 | Women aging like milk?"women age like milk, but men accrue interest" Ohh talk finance to me :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 06:30 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone practice witchcraft/wicca?I think maybe the mistake is thinking about it in terms of "power". When you start to do that, you get into the confusion that reddisrobin is having with the topic. It's also why feminism doesn't like femininity. Keeping the family and social ties active was, at least at one time, in women's purview. No one calls this 'power' but it's useful when you need to tap a social network for a job, or for help in a bad time. Nurturing a baby is something we're uniquely designed for and no one calls this … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 05:36 PM |
| 10 | Women aging like milk?Yes, I dislike the male arrogance that they think the age like "wine". It's more than even arrogance, it's a bit of solipsism. See, men are attracted to women primarily for their looks. Women are attracted to men more for who they are or their status. And older men can generally attract younger women (it's not worth the debate about much younger or how big an age gap - but most men can date younger by a number of years). It may appear that men age better. In fact, it's that men's status and acco… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 05:22 PM |
| 12 | Women aging like milk?First of all, you have to distance yourself from the language that is used on TRP. You are having a knee jerk reaction because "women age like milk" is not flattering. It's not meant to be flattering, it's meant to teach men something about the world in a way they will listen to. It's intentionally not flattering. Ignore the language and listen to the concept. Fertility and beauty are tied together and both are important when we're discussing women aging or The Wall. Yes, you can take care of yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 05:07 PM |
| 16 | Women aging like milk?I think your assessment of men is a little off and overly optimistic. Biologically - so in terms of 'pretty' or 'handsome' men peak later but that's it. An older man still looks like an older man. A man can take care of himself and be better than average but so can a woman be better than average. The average person will age. A man at 50 is by no means better than a man at 30. It's simply that a man at 30 is more attractive, filled out and masculine, than a man at 20. The OP is off in her assessm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 04:38 PM |
| 5 | What does commitment mean to you?Of course! And yes, it's very common to hold onto the idea that there are plenty of men out there and if this one doesn't work out then you move on to the next. I think that is a healthy way to think up until you make that lifetime commitment whether it be marriage or a lifetime LTR or having a biological child together. Husband and I have been together for 11 years and been through so much, so much of who I am has been impacted by who he is. I think you are in the same situation. You are raisin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 04:25 PM |
| 9 | What does commitment mean to you?Ultimately, you define for yourself what commitment means. Some people treat is very lightly for a variety of reasons. That doesn't mean that it has to be something you lightly undertake. Throughout my relationship, before and after marriage, I would ask myself: "will I stay with him if things never change". That may be less relevant depending on your starting point. However, when I met my husband, he was working an overnight shift at a very blue collar job, living at home and putting the remain… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 04:09 PM |
| 11 | Does anyone practice witchcraft/wicca?The obvious and easy answer is the ability to have children. Much of what it mean to be female for better and worse stems from this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/18 10:01 AM |
| 9 | Why do Husbands cheat?Very much this. It's selfish to offer support that is conditioned on your own values. If your opinion is to strong to be impartial, let the friend get support elsewhere. Not everyone decides to leave and that is between the husband and wife and no one else. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/18 09:56 PM |
| 3 | Mid 30s men. Are your other male peers all going through the same relationship problems?When overtime is available you'll see this... More hours equals more money for the family | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/18 09:19 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?/u/FearlessStranger, I have to agree with /u/Two_kids_in_a_coat. I read your statement last night and thought "oh gosh that is off putting - I'd never say that to my husband". The rationale laid out here is sound and the statement is not good advice. If you have to remind a man of his duty you show you don't trust him or you picked the wrong man. Also, when 'reminded' of something too often, a lot of people (not just men) will say "well f it, I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't..." | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/18 01:57 PM |
| 8 | Sexual experimentation in marriage - inviting someone else into the bedroom...Nope! RPW is a toolbox that contains the tools on how to understand and relate to men. There is not such thing as a "true" RP relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/18 10:42 PM |
| 4 | Sexual experimentation in marriage - inviting someone else into the bedroom...Might one-on-one sex become boring to him after this? Could he possibly need more and more to get the same thrill? Talk to him about this. Since he's experienced with open relationships & threesomes, he should have an idea of his own responses. For my husband and I, it was not a problem (threesomes). I have never gotten the impression he enjoys sex with me any less now than before. Like yours, he had experience from before me and knew how to handle it all and knew what to expect. I was sure befo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/18 08:16 PM |
| 2 | (F/31) I feel like I settled with my husband (M30)Well I live in the US and am a financial advisor by trade. Our clients are along the east coast including a handful in the DC area. This is in addition to the childhood friend I spoke of above. I am not guessing at what constitutes a comfortable wage in a country I do not come from or an area that I have no personal experience with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/18 01:22 PM |
| 7 | (F/31) I feel like I settled with my husband (M30)Do you live in SF/W DC/NY? Do you work in a field that you see other people's incomes and lifestyles regularly? I'm curious where your assertions come from. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/18 07:11 PM |
| 9 | (F/31) I feel like I settled with my husband (M30)I'm also getting tired of hearing "I'm 30-something but people mistake me for 20-something" Looks are only one part of age based market value. If kids are on the table, and for most people they are, your fertile window is just as important as your looks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/18 12:46 PM |
| 17 | (F/31) I feel like I settled with my husband (M30)It is not so high that $100k isn't still a decent salary. As I said elsewhere, I have friends who lived comfortably on less than that at around the same age, in nice areas of DC. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/18 12:26 PM |
| 1 | How do you know if a man is devoted to you for the long run?There are some standard areas that we all agree on but even then, everyone will take a different and nuanced approach to it. I think that wrapping your head around Whisper's advice (unless he's giving advice specifically to you) can be like RPW Advanced. I've always liked the toolbox approach to TRP/RPW. You learn what is important to men, you learn how they think, you learn about your own psychology and drives, you learn how to vet a man, how to approach, how to be a soft landing...and then you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 11:57 PM |
| 3 | How do you know if a man is devoted to you for the long run?Remember that everyone here has different life experiences. There isn't an EC training school that teaches us all a set of dogma to spit back. You should listen to what people have to say but make your own decisions. These are strategies we discuss not an instruction manual. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 10:44 PM |
| 3 | Need Some Advice from the Successful Business Women of TRPI'm so sorry that my advice does not meet your approval. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 10:25 PM |
| 6 | (F/31) I feel like I settled with my husband (M30)I'd be curious to see what she's doing... because my husband had an old girlfriend who definitely saw him as the one that got away and life isn't going so well for her. Ha! This could go either way. My ex does quite well for himself but I am not envious of his wife. We simply weren't well matched. And the flip is that, while I'm objectively more attractive than she is, I don't think he quite sees me as the one who got away. We are friendly still and both acknowledge that had we married we'd have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 09:26 PM |
| 27 | (F/31) I feel like I settled with my husband (M30)Your problems are all things that could change with your attitude. I know he loves me NOW but it certainly feels like I was his second choice Yes. He loves you now. Who do you think has it worse? You because he chose you when things didn't work out with another woman. A woman who he didn't get as far as marriage with I'll add. Or Him because his wife is having second thoughts about her marriage? His family is shitty Lots of people's families are shitty. My parents hate my husband. You know what … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 07:34 PM |
| 5 | Need Some Advice from the Successful Business Women of TRPEveryone is giving you 'now' suggestions and I agree with the comments so far. But I want to add a longer term discussion to the table. As you are now engaged to this man, you should be having discussions with him about the trajectory of your lives and careers. What you want is important, so is what he wants. It sounds as though he supports you (sex is still good, he's helping pick up the slack with the chores). A conversation about where you guys see yourselves in the next year and then farther… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 04:59 PM |
| 4 | How do you know if a man is devoted to you for the long run?I think it's reasonable for a man in his early twenties to not even be thinking about marriage and that's what I get from this limited information. She may be more of a stepping stone than a plate, but that's still not where she wants to be. Agreed I'd say this is most likely, if he's not even willing to give her a "maybe." I said this below as well - even if he's simply not a planner as she suggests - I don't know if that is the type of man that you want to lead a relationship. "Maybe" would at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 04:34 PM |
| 3 | How do you know if a man is devoted to you for the long run?Your logic only works if the default is marriage and there needs to be a reason to opt out of the default setting. If however the default is self interest, he'd need a valid reason to consider marriage. It depends on how the cited "discussion" went. All we have to base him off of is this: During a discussion, he said that he’s enjoying what we have right now and we’ll just have to play by ear as for what happens in the future. If she never brought up the the topic of longer term or marriage then… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 04:30 PM |
| 2 | How are your interactions with other women?She's trying to show us how much she doesn't care by responding to two month old comments. She doesn't need women! it's not important if women reject her! She doesn't waste her time with women! (Kinda makes me wonder how she goes about her day to day life - food shopping, working, stuff like that). She's a little girl who got her feelings hurt by the mean girls in school and never matured enough to get over it (I'm just the result of having allowed myself to actually be manipulated by females wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 04:10 PM |
| 18 | [Video] "When Men Make Less, Women Don't Want to Marry Them."I think most guys who think that way would have no trouble maintaining their marriage through the economic disparity. This is what happened with my boss and his wife. He spent his 30s building up his book of business while his wife supported the family. With that support he was able to be quite successful and now out earns her. But I think these cases are rare. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 02:47 PM |
| 4 | How do you know if a man is devoted to you for the long run?I was about to respond to you above :-) The OP is really short, but I'm not sure that going out to dinner and on vacation is even a show of devotion. It's certainly not an indication of long term thinking. He's told her that he likes her right now so that's not in question. At 3 months into my relationship with my husband, we went to Miami. We did that instead of Christmas gifts for the first year. That was a really fun trip but not devotion. At 9 months in we took a road trip to meet his father… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 01:15 PM |
| 10 | How do you know if a man is devoted to you for the long run?Don't drag me into this. There were some key differences for me. My husband always told me that he planned for our lives together. The question was not if I was in his life it was whether is was as a wife or a girlfriend. He also had done his share of dating prior to me. I had no concerns that he'd wonder what else was out there. If the OP's guy is talking only about "right now" I don't think her concerns are misplaced. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/18 11:33 AM |
| 3 | How are your interactions with other women?Was talking to u/rubywootoo not you. Cry for attention much 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/18 10:56 PM |
| 8 | Are there any black RPWs here?We can play this game with white celebrities as well. The fact is, celebrities are a terrible representation of any group or culture. They are curated personalities and we'll probably never know what they are like as real people. Most people realize this. I'd be shocked if even the most bigoted person today said "black women are sluts because Nicki Minaj..." | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/18 03:50 PM |
| 4 | BF hasn't said I love you...So you do agree with this. Only with some nitpicking. Early relationship love, to my mind, is a combination of infatuation/lust and liking the person. Typically these days, sex (infatuation/lust) comes before ILY - so there is some other component that gets you to ILY. The infatuation definitely fades. That other component should grow and deepen -- it's at least necessary if you remain in a long term relationship of any flavor with the person IMO. I'm happy to call it love or pair bonding. If th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 05:41 PM |
| 9 | BF hasn't said I love you...At the very least, I can say with definitive certainty that in 100% of relationships that feeling will fade - usually 6-24 months after the wedding. So, at best, you're asking for just a temporary emotional boost in yourself from him. Have to disagree with this. Infatuation fades and expecting that sort of intense new love feeling to last can be harmful to a relationship. However, it should transition into a deeper companionate love over time. Why is that such an evil or nerve-wrecking thing? Be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 05:06 PM |
| 11 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!I am assuming he can be faithful, honest, and consistent within a relationship. This is a part of vetting too though. Signs of leadership or faithfulness in his life are good, other people's opinions are good but eventually, you will have to give him a little bit of trust and see what he does with it. You will have to let him lead a little bit and see how he handles it. You always take a risk to be in a relationship. You take higher risks when the reward (the guy) is worth taking higher risks. J… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 03:42 PM |
| 3 | Feeling very depressed about relationships, sex and men!Your husband is Chad. He's more like Chad's older and more mature brother Brad :-P. While I left out any beta traits he has, and he is married and starting a family so there are definitely beta traits there...yes, I had a feeling that he would be a man who you would run from. He and I are well suited to each other. When I was younger, I dated a man who you probably would have gotten along better with. He put me first in most things. We were best friends and talked all the time. It wasn't what I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/18 12:34 AM |
| 7 | Pulling the weedsYeah, the neighborhood I grew up in, we were not allowed basketball nets in the street in front of the house or clothes lines in the backyard. I refuse to do live like that as an adult but it's not uncommon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/18 04:37 PM |
| 8 | Advice for daughters and young girls?IF a man is too insecure to accept I may be more knowledgable then him it is not my fault. This is a jump in logic that you are making. Just because someone else is smarter than I am, does not mean I do not value knowledge. But perhaps what I'm saying comes across as uncharitable towards these men. We have different strengths and different areas of interest. While he respects me for my math degree, it doesn't denigrate what I've accomplished to acknowledge that as an engineer, his math skills fa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/18 12:34 PM |
| 4 | Feeling very depressed about relationships, sex and men!FWIW, when I wrote the plate to wife post, it was because it goes against the grain of the standard 'safe' advice on RPW but, I believe, still falls within the bounds of an RP relationship. It was meant to speak to the people in that situation now, telling them they hadn't screwed everything up by not following a tradcon path. It wasn't meant to be a set piece of advice that will work for every woman here. Some people say that promoting strategies like mine make us a "plate school" but I believe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/18 04:36 PM |
| 5 | Advice for daughters and young girls?That conversation was one of the nails in the coffin of my first relationship. I used to believe that it was natural that it went away once you had been with someone long enough. When she told me that, I realized that I loved my ex (and he still holds a place in my heart) but was never passionate or "in love" with him in a way that would sustain us over decades. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/18 04:14 PM |
| 3 | Advice for daughters and young girls?That's an interesting observation but it doesn't fit with my own personal experiences. To each her own! My husband is brilliant and I love smart men. My gay BFF is a voracious reader with impeccable recall. I could (and do) listen to them for hours. Even if the topic doesn't interest me, the depth and application of knowledge is always impressive. If I thought my husband was my equal (or certainly if I thought him lesser), I'm not sure I'd respect his judgement when we disagree enough to set asi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/18 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Feeling very depressed about relationships, sex and men!I know from lot of reading on this sub that there are women who have gotten ring by doing this. I'll assume that this part is why you tagged me :-P Without 'the talk' it is important that there are signs he is showing more investment in your and the relationship. If he's telling you that he doesn't know who "we" are then I'd cut and run. But I also wonder if you aren't too invested at 3 months. Unless there is a prior history (ie: you've been friends for a while) then it sounds terribly early to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/18 12:43 PM |
| 10 | Advice for daughters and young girls?Your mom is wise. I think it applies to all of life, not just relationships. There are trade offs to everything. You might have a really flexible job but a terrible boss. Dealing with the boss is the payment for the flexibility. Or you might have a beautiful big old house, but the price you pay is the constant repairs and the price to heat it. Nothing is perfect and if you focus on what is bad in a situation, you won't be able to be happy. It's also important to remember that everyone has these … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/18 12:11 PM |
| 16 | Advice for daughters and young girls?Like I said, I don't know how universal that part is. My mother thought that was good advice for me. She believed I'd walk all over a man who wasn't at least a little bit smarter than I was. Intelligence is something I've always been attracted to so there was little to no chance I'd have tolerated a man who wasn't up to a certain level anyway. When we talk about women 'marrying up' that is the area that I went 'up' with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 11:54 PM |
| 37 | Advice for daughters and young girls?From Mom: You know your husband very well and that means you know just what to say to hurt him beyond belief. No matter how angry you might be, never say anything you cannot take back. Also: You need to be with a man who is smarter than you. I'm not sure how universal that advice is but I will certainly be passing it down. From Mommom: Make sure the man you marry gives you butterflies. Even after 50 years, your grandfather gives me butterflies and you shouldn't be with someone who doesn't. What … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Is saving the relationship always possible?How to influence your husband has been explained at length in your posts on the book - for women only 😊 Yes, I suppose you are right. My faith has obviously been shaken recently :-P. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 12:44 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Is saving the relationship always possible?I have to imagine that timing is an important aspect to how long you stick around to make things work. If she decided at 23 that she wanted kids and he didn't, it might be worth giving up a year to see if he comes around on the idea. At 28 it's a completely different ballgame. At 34 idk what you do. But yeah, in that regard they were lucky, even if it's a terrible word to use when referring to divorce. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 11:51 AM |
| 3 | Discussion: Is saving the relationship always possible?Almost every issue can be worked out if both parties are willing to put their egos aside and work it out. Big if but it's possible. This is one if the things that made me really start pondering the question. In the above case, and occasionally around here, the husband doesn't have his shit together. The married RP answer focuses on the man. He gets his life together and in many cases the wife will follow. This works because we assume that most women prefer a male led relationship. Does it hold t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 11:11 AM |
| 4 | Discussion: Is saving the relationship always possible?The kid thing is one of life's tragedies. I think that a lot of people change their minds but not everyone and there is just no compromise on that. It's also something that you don't always know until it's too late. And there is such a time crunch that when one person realizes it, it should be an immediate dissolution. That'll be one of the driving factors in the above friend's divorce which I think is inevitable. At mid 30s it's probably too late whether divorce happens or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 11:01 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Is saving the relationship always possible?What is important enough to not attempt to fix a decade long relationship? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 02:30 AM |
| 8 | Discussion: Is saving the relationship always possible?Right, that's why I was talking more about ending a life time commitment. These are all things that you vet against and in a 2 year relationship you walk away. That's obvious and why I mentioned Laura Doyle's rules for when you can't salvage something. We can all agree that you can't save a relationship with an addict. I'm more interested in if and when you leave, say a 5 year marriage, or a 7 year LTR that you've made a lifetime commitment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 02:29 AM |
| 1 | The Conservative WomanYou want to have a say in the welfare of a country that you do not live in. I do feel America can handle WAY better. Then you want to turn around and say that "not everyone is American" when you are ignorant of certain facts or information. I dont suck at math just because I dont know about how much the United States spends in a year. Not everyone is American, there is an entire world out there. You do not get to have it both ways. You either must understand what you are commenting on or not pre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/18 10:06 PM |
| 5 | The Conservative WomanIt is estimated that medicare for all would cost $32 trillion dollars during it's first ten years of implementation. That is a terribly large percentage of the top 0.01%'s income that would need to be taken in order to fund just this one social program. Our highest tax bracket is almost 40% already. Anything over $470,000 (for a married couple) is already taxed at this number. Then there are state taxes and property taxes and sales taxes and social security taxes on top of that. A family making … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/18 12:42 PM |
| 5 | The Conservative WomanI would say that it is much riskier to work one's way up without fallbacks in place With everything, education included, there is a risk to reward ratio. Actually, education is a great area to consider. During the boomer generation, a college degree neatly correlated with a higher income over a lifetime. It was not available to everyone and the individual footed the bill which was manageable. As we decided to back student loans so that everyone had money available (without the benefit of working… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/18 12:21 PM |
| 2 | The Conservative WomanThis is a shallow talking point. We can discuss it further if you can tell me: What are the salary ranges that put someone in the top 1% statistically How much money is needed annually to cover medicare? social security? your favorite social safety net? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/18 11:48 AM |
| 9 | What happens when you date up/downbut we don't speak of abundance for women in RP subs because it doesn't benefit men, and we wouldn't want to ruin their illusion that this sub is full of unicorns, right? We're either unicorns or AWALT depending on how much they agree or disagree in any particular exchange :-) I believe that we don't talk about abundance for two reasons. 1. RP generally springs from a male framework. In that framework, they are looking at women's ability to get sex easily, assuming this is what women want (becau… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/18 11:20 PM |
| 9 | The Conservative WomanThat frees up the people who actually should be reproducing to form families like you described. You are mistaken. Social safety nets cost money. That money comes from the incomes of those traditional men and women, potentially limiting their ability to have families in the time frame or size that they desire. One of the gifts of being able to work and care for yourself, is that you don't have to find a man to depend on. If that is not the woman you are, then you are lucky to live in a western c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/18 09:21 PM |
| 11 | Should I just start to distance myself from this guy?Have you read the wiki since your last post You were calling this guy abusive a month ago. I guess he isn't too abusive if you stayed with him huh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/18 02:56 PM |
| 4 | Women who are not sentimental or overly emotional at allBut he's so alpha and understands women's inner workings so well, it has to be about you, you just don't know it ;-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/18 04:58 PM |
| 4 | How do you housekeep and work a full-time job?The mess stresses him out If it's just about clutter, try putting some pretty catch-all boxes in each room. Then you can toss stuff into them as you straighten up and over the weekend (or whenever you clean) go through each one and put stuff away for real. It helps with the visual clutter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/18 11:49 AM |
| 12 | Former feminazi searching for the truth and a better understanding of red pillA lot of teens are ambitious. It is an age where you plan to change the world, or at least your own part of it. This is the idealism of youth but most people do not have a career that fulfills all of their needs. Even if you like your job (and I like mine) there will be drudgery, people you don't like, stress, monotony. Unlike school, the people you work with aren't your friends (even if you get along or have a friend or two). You may progress quickly at times but there will be years where you a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/18 12:23 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?This week I'm pregnant, sappy and truly grateful to the two main men in my life. We found out baby's gender and it's not what my husband was hoping for. He handled the news with aplomb. Instead of being negative, he turned on a dime and started to make new plans. I think I'm sadder for him than he is and I am so grateful to have him. The other is my boss. We work very closely together and I told him my ...err.. condition early on. This week he sent me home early a few times, not because I was si… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/18 05:12 PM |
| 3 | Transitioning spaces: Nesting + TTC + being feminine & fashionableGood luck with TTC! Organizing add ons: throw things away. throw things away. throw things away. If you think you'll need it but haven't touched it in two years - you probably don't need it. If you have the space and you can't throw it away, box it up and put it out of the sight. label the boxes...correctly. My poor husband just hauled a box up from the basement. It was labeled "summer clothes" which we both thought meant "seasonal clothes" ... instead it was a bunch of costume type of stuff tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/18 11:43 AM |
| 2 | Protest to Stop Reddit CensorshipI honestly don't know how they measure traffic which is why I'm signing out of everything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/18 10:07 PM |
| 3 | How to make female friends.I'm glad you responded like this because it's such garbage advice. College is not the be all end all of life experiences. If all you needed to learn socialization was to spend $100k on education, then incels wouldn't exist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/18 02:17 PM |
| 2 | I think I fucked up...You are trying to argue for causation. I never said correlation does not exist. I said that I didn't buy it (the pair bonding argument) in it's entirety. And we never set the parameters for "promiscuous". Here you are saying a hundred ... that's a high bar. The data sets are much lower I believe. I'm not arguing in favor of promiscuity. There are, however, women here and elsewhere who have had multiple partners and still settled in to a happy marriage. I don't know if they are outliers, I simply… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/18 10:41 AM |
| 1 | Vetting: what are (or were) your personal deal breakers?No. I did not mean metaphorically or figuratively. I meant literally. As in the literal definition. But thank you for telling me what I meant. I appreciate it. We're going to be great friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/18 01:11 AM |
| 2 | How can I avoid having sex with him too soon when I REALLY want to?Try taking a herb called vitex/agnus castus. It lowers sex drive. It's a little more complicated than straight up lowering sex drive. I've taken that stuff for years with no effect on my sex drive. According to the doctor who suggested it to me, there are certain doses that may act to lower sex drive and then at some threshold it may actually raise it. This isn't necessarily true for everyone, just a potential impact. The threshold might be around 400mg (IIRC) but it's not definite AND since it'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 11:33 PM |
| 8 | Vetting: what are (or were) your personal deal breakers?Good on you for deciding that. I hope it is as easily and painless for you as possible. Addiction is fucking hard. Addicts have the best of intentions and will charm you in the moment. They even believe their own bs a lot of the time. But they will turn around and betray you more often than not. They don't even necessarily want to betray you but they will. And it's easy to see the good person underneath and believe they'll get better. You just can't trust them until they have actually proven the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 11:29 PM |
| 3 | I think I fucked up...I'm pretty sure that none of their relationships ended due to cheating, ... Generally, the connections just went to shit after a while ... some just lost their spark I've never bought the pair bonding argument in it's entirety. I do think that people get addicted to the the new relationship high and start to chase that. In the beginning there are a lot of hormones and excitement. That can get addictive but it can also be the thing by which you define "love" or "a good relationship". Additionally… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 11:24 PM |
| 4 | Vetting: what are (or were) your personal deal breakers?That will vary from person to person. IMO the term gets thrown around a lot and quite easily. In the real world, there is nuance to any situation. A lot of people would say, for example, cheating on an ex is a red flag. For some people, this will certain be a relationship ending revelation, and for others it will depend on the how and the why of things. So sure, literally a red flag means to stop then and there. But it's thrown out so liberally on advice subs that to me, it means you stop and lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Vetting: what are (or were) your personal deal breakers?I see. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 05:13 PM |
| 37 | Vetting: what are (or were) your personal deal breakers?Absolutely no current addiction My little bro is an addict (doing a lot better lately) and it's always blown my mind how many women over look this. Women are too forgiving when men say they want to do better and really should be waiting to see if he's actually doing better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 04:41 PM |
| 10 | Vetting: what are (or were) your personal deal breakers?If you don't mind sharing, why "in the military"? I never encountered military men in my dating life so I'm genuinely curious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 04:37 PM |
| 15 | Vetting: what are (or were) your personal deal breakers?What on her list do you think falls under "insanely delusional high standards?" It sounds like a pretty typical list to determine solid character. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 04:36 PM |
| 17 | Vetting: what are (or were) your personal deal breakers?One thing the red pill does not consider is fairness. Everyone is allowed their own criteria and the ability to be as flexible or not with it as they wish. My ex also had divorced parents. His father cheated and left his mother for a woman he is still with today. They are far more compatible. It wasn't my ex's fault but it certainly impacted him. Among others things, he didn't have a good male role model because his mom was so angry and vitriolic about his father growing up. He didn't really und… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 04:34 PM |
| 21 | Vetting: what are (or were) your personal deal breakers?keeping a filthy home My ex once grew mold in a water glass. This wasn't a general red flag with him as he was cleaner than most 22 year old men, but to this day I haven't figured out how he did that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 04:25 PM |
| 10 | How can I avoid having sex with him too soon when I REALLY want to?I did everything an RPW would do for her husband and more. What do you think an RPW would do for her husband? My mother took on the homemaker role AND contributed income AND was the primary caregiver yet she still nagged my dad and tried to lead the relationship. She was traditional but not RPW. There is also the fact that you need to "give" slowly. You shouldn't be acting like a wife to a man who you've been seeing for a few months. I've been with guys with severe mental illnesses and legal iss… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 04:19 PM |
| 2 | How can I avoid having sex with him too soon when I REALLY want to?Fearing a man will take advantage of you is a rarity around these parts.When it does come up, it's usually around the topic of submission, not sex. You vet a man so that you are certain he is a good man who wants the same things out of life that you do. Then you sleep with him once you determine you are on the same page. Your fears are a 'you' problem that you have to handle on your own. If you are confident in your own judgement, then you shouldn't have those fears. Fearing that you will be tak… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 03:23 PM |
| 11 | How can I avoid having sex with him too soon when I REALLY want to?What brought you to RPW instead of one of the standard relationship advice subs? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 03:12 PM |
| 6 | FAQ: Should we move in togetherIn my more traditional part of the country, that legal of planning is rare. Marriage is usually the choice if people are that prepared. Ultimately, in either case, I think the problem is people that go into cohabitation assuming it will lead to marriage. If you don't talk about marriage or the future (but make assumptions) and throw together all your money, furnish the place and get a dog then it's a recipe for disaster. When my ex bought a house with his now-wife before they were engaged, I tho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/18 07:58 PM |
| 6 | FAQ: Should we move in togethertake the risk without the reward Here is where we fundamentally disagree. I think that the man is the reward not the marriage. Had my husband never married me, I've have been irked surely, but I knew that he planned out our lives together forever. I wouldn't have left over the piece of paper because a life with that man was the end goal. In the case of advising someone to cohabitate, it depends a whole lot on what her goals are. If she wants kids and needs marriage it's a very different thing th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/18 07:34 PM |
| 3 | FAQ: Should we move in togetherThere are a lot of things that can go wrong in a break up or a divorce. Hell, there are a lot of things that can go wrong in life. If an income earning spouse dies, how many families are prepared with life insurance to continue covering the bills and mortgage payments. In my personal experience, fewer than you'd think. So yes, in any scenario there are potentially poor outcomes. If my husband walked away and stopped paying the lease (because we're talking low socio-economic now right) then I'm i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/18 06:05 PM |
| 7 | FAQ: Should we move in togetherI disagree a bit. Certainly it's easier to break up early on than later, easier living apart than living together, easier from an LTR than a marriage. But generally speaking I think most people who live together handle their finances differently than married people do. If I was going to walk away from my husband when he was still my SO, there would have been no legal dissolution needed. We didn't share vehicles, we didn't share bank accounts, we had our names on our own bills. The only thing we … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/18 05:50 PM |
| 25 | My boyfriend broke up with his girlfriend to be with me and I don't know how to cope with itIt doesn't matter if you were right or wrong because RPW is an amoral look at the world. Your guilt and complicity is between you, your boyfriend and your gods. You all are young still. It may not feel like that, but her three year relationship, started as a teen, was unlikely to last longer term. Eight months is also not a long time and you should still be vetting him. LDRs are tough to maintain and you want to keep considering his character, who he is as a partner and a man. If he's back track… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/18 08:36 AM |
| 7 | Does my boyfriend sound abusive or inexperienced or what? He like totally ignored my last message to him and I dunno what to do cause he begged for me to talk to him?RPW Wiki | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 01:07 PM |
| 13 | Does my boyfriend sound abusive or inexperienced or what? He like totally ignored my last message to him and I dunno what to do cause he begged for me to talk to him?I texted him daily, sent him pics, asked about his day, called him at times, sent him nudes, sexted him, and showed him the cool things I was doing Yeah, I think you did. But since I realized that you don't want RPW advice, you just want attention and you haven't spent any time with our sidebar/wiki or on the sub, I'm going to step back from this conversation. I wish you well but I'm not interested in spending my time with a wheel-spinning non-RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 12:56 PM |
| 15 | Does my boyfriend sound abusive or inexperienced or what? He like totally ignored my last message to him and I dunno what to do cause he begged for me to talk to him?Yes. That's pretty normal but not sustainable over time. Do you often find yourself breaking up when that intensity wears off? Edit: ok, I just glanced through your post history. I'm not sure why you are on RPW other than the fact that we're an advice sub and you are posting to ALLLLLLLLLLL the advice subs. You need to chill out, get your head on straight and stop wasting the time of everyone on Reddit. The comments here look like you just want us to pet you and tell you he was a bad guy. He's n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 12:37 PM |
| 7 | Should I focus on older men?The worst that can happen is that he isn't interested. That's easy to say from this side of the computer but the truth is that you can handle a little rejection. If things don't work out with the guy in front of you, then sure, look at a wider age range. But most people date and marrying within a similar age range so I don't think you are doing anything crazy by going for it with this guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 12:29 PM |
| 4 | Does my boyfriend sound abusive or inexperienced or what? He like totally ignored my last message to him and I dunno what to do cause he begged for me to talk to him?Give him space. It is certainly possible that the way you handled this is making him think twice about continuing a relationship. Sometimes when things end, we immediately go into survival mode. Then as time passes, you start to think more clearly. You may have screwed this up irreparably. But not necessarily. Men need space to think things through. They don't talk things through the way women do. He may have panicked looking for more information and now that you are willing to talk, he needs to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 12:27 PM |
| 1 | Does my boyfriend sound abusive or inexperienced or what? He like totally ignored my last message to him and I dunno what to do cause he begged for me to talk to him?Are you the bf because otherwise this is super creepy | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 12:21 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with repercussionsPerhaps I'm wrong, but I don't think that his lie is really what is causing you so much distress. I think you are focusing on the lie (which, from your description sounds like he omitted the fact that he hung out with an old friend? something fairly mild) because maybe you feel guilty for having lied yourself? And perhaps you are fearful of having the tables turned on you? I didn't know how to tell him I was sad because of how he thought of me. Not because he went out. If this is how you felt th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 12:20 PM |
| 14 | Does my boyfriend sound abusive or inexperienced or what? He like totally ignored my last message to him and I dunno what to do cause he begged for me to talk to him?First of all, there is nothing abusive in what you've shared. Don't be so quick to jump to that word. Women who do that are a walking red flag to men. Your behavior while you were on vacation sounds very needy. Did you act like this before you started dating? Honestly, you both sound inexperienced in relationships and it sounds as though "making it official" changed something in both of your heads. Now you said to someone else that you didn't technically break up with him. "This isn't working" i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 12:00 PM |
| 6 | The beauty guide for our alt/artsy red pill women!HA! Mine is only visible if I'm naked or in a bathing suit and boy does it make bathing suit shopping even more difficult :-P I have a black bathing suit and a fuscia/pink bathing suit and they'd better not wear out because it was a painful process. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/18 05:57 PM |
| 4 | Staring to feel unattractive because of his disinterest. What’s a girl to do?You are describing the process of overcoming any addition. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/18 12:21 PM |
| 17 | Taking care of your appearance at homeher suggestions go too far for anyone in a long term relationship. This I agree with 100% | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/18 01:28 PM |
| 7 | Taking care of your appearance at homeI don't think she's being silly so much as it's a young woman in a very traditional courting relationship. She doesn't live with him and they aren't yet married. At 20 my then BF didn't see me without makeup (I wore it to bed when I was with him) and I didn't own flat shoes. These things change as you get older and learn to be more comfortable in your skin and with the man you are with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/18 01:16 PM |
| 3 | How to make female friends.There are two schools of thought on this one. Some women here will tell you never to speak negatively about your husband/partner to anyone ever. This is entirely valid. As you learned with your Difficult Friend, venting about your husband just gets you riled up which is not good. It's particularly not good if you don't start out upset about anything and are just trying to commiserate with her. This leads to more problems than there would otherwise be because you are just reliving problems that m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/18 01:04 PM |
| 3 | How to make female friends.Friends are super important from an RPW standpoint because men can't (don't want to) handle all of our stuff. Since we communicate by talking things out and they...don't... listening can be a challenge. This varies from guy to guy but I think the norm is to prefer you dump on your girlfriends and share the consolidated version with him. Pursuing: it's a challenge to figure out the way people function. I have two friends who live 5 miles down the road from each other and don't seem to be able to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/18 12:29 PM |
| 55 | Taking care of your appearance at homeI think there is a real balance that you have to figure out. Once you live together, it's impossible to be "on" all the time. I don't take my make up off until right before bed but I do put on PJs in the evening. I will also stay dressed from work until after he's home so he's not only getting my night time stuff. Except recently, I'm not a yoga pants or sweats type of girl and never have been, so my weekend clothes tend to be at least jeans, heeled boots and a fitted top. I want my husband to g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/18 12:13 PM |
| 6 | How to make female friends.I learned something interesting about female friendships in a book about French-style parenting. The author struggled to make friends while living in Paris because French women tended to be more closed off initially and talked about ideas. In contrast, the author was accustomed to American style friendships. She describes the initial period of these as an exchange of experiences as you look for common ground or interests. I can't speak for the French, but I do see what she's saying about America… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/18 11:32 AM |
| 15 | Feel hesitant after a date with an RP guy, am I just having trouble swallowing the pill or am I just not used to these types of guys and need to get on board?So one of the reason (IMO) it's often repeated that "RPW aren't necessarily looking to date TRP men" is because TRP men are generally speaking still working on themselves. There are obviously men there who stick around to give advice, but a lot of them are learning. Just because some guy says he is RP (and nothing about this guy sounds specifically RP so much as he has conservative leanings) doesn't mean he's relationship material. So I think there are two possible interpretations of this guy: H… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/18 09:42 PM |
| 2 | First Mate in the First TrimesterI meant the pictures. I assumed that I have an actual side car in my future but I'm hoping to negotiate an age requirement for putting a kid on a motorcycle. :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/18 02:22 PM |
| 3 | First Mate in the First TrimesterThat's amazing and now I want it too :-P. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/18 02:04 PM |
| 18 | Protest to Stop Reddit CensorshipHusband and I are in. We'll be signing out of reddit on all the devices. Yes there is a back up and yes Reddit is a private company. Social media is too integral to the way we communicate and share ideas to be ok with "it's a private company and can do what it wants". And while I will certainly move to the new site if RPW goes down, I can't say I would have ever found RPW in the first place if it wasn't on Reddit. Losing subreddits to censorship is bad. Free flow of ideas and information is impo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/18 02:02 PM |
| 3 | First Mate in the First TrimesterI wish there was more out there! I've been plowing through pregnancy and parenting books and so far only 1 has given any focus to the relationship between mom and dad and the importance of maintaining that. It has a "bias" towards married parents being good for kids and the amazon reviews just blast it for that. I've also noticed something interesting: my friends who have already been through this take the issues of pregnancy a lot more seriously. The relationship stuff, the fatigue getting in t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/18 07:59 PM |
| 1 | First Mate in the First TrimesterThank you :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/18 07:52 PM |
| 1 | First Mate in the First TrimesterThank you :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/18 01:41 PM |
| 2 | First Mate in the First TrimesterThank you. It's a topic that we don't talk about too much but will hit most women here at some point. I'm hoping to do one for the second and third trimester but watching what my friends went through makes me think the third installment will come around the kids first birthday :-P. I almost don't believe it's real. I wouldn't either if I didn't hear it for myself. But I have a witness! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/18 01:27 PM |
| 17 | I tried dressing feminine for a day and this is what happenedGreat field report! And fwiw, I think skinny jeans can be feminine if they are paired with the right things. You should feel "right" in whatever style you chose to wear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/18 12:56 PM |
| 7 | First Mate in the First TrimesterThank you! I have nothing to add Mark the calendar! It's a first! ;-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/18 12:42 AM |
| 3 | what's the advice when the man doesn't want to have sex (ever)Thanks for this. Except in extreme cases, we should exhaust all options before recommending divorce. Especially when there are kids involved. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/18 12:42 AM |
| 1 | First Mate in the First TrimesterI started taking it years ago to help with PMS.Here is the webmd. I believe it helps regulate progesterone but whatever it specifically does, it helped the pms symptoms be shorter and less crazy. It's over the counter and you take a pill a day. It's pretty subtle and for me, I just sort of realized one day that I wasn't as crazy as I used to be. That fit with what my doc said would happen. It didn't make all the symptoms go away but I could usually predict what I'd feel like on a given day of my… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/18 12:09 AM |
| 1 | First Mate in the First TrimesterThank you and you are welcome 😄 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/18 11:54 PM |
| 1 | First Mate in the First Trimester😀 thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/18 11:53 PM |
| 5 | I don't want a trad-con man🙄 nope. Don't care about her opinions. I'd just rather see more people writing content instead of complaining that they don't like what others have to say. I didn't criticize her opinions only her way of expressing them. Do you feel like you had some small victory by standing up for her here? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/18 11:53 PM |
| 7 | First Mate in the First TrimesterI'm glad it was helpful :-) Some stuff: I'd been off birth control for a while (which I do think makes a difference) but we were actively avoiding pregnancy until the month that we conceived. I have never had a legit scare in my life. I didn't think for a second that it would be as easy as it was especially with my age. I think I had a few things going for me...I've long taken chasteberry supplements to regulate my cycle which is clockwork. I'm thin and in shape. And frequent sex is supposed to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/18 07:22 PM |
| 20 | Being a sister wife??Why would you stay? I mean that genuinely. From this post, you seem very unhappy with the decision and like there isn't an upside for you. I'm confused why it's a question about staying or going. So unless you want the advice "get out now" you need to tell us why you would stay in this situation. What is in it for you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/18 05:56 PM |
| 5 | First Mate in the First TrimesterThank you! It's not been all sunshine and roses but understanding each other has helped us work through some of the harder parts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/18 05:53 PM |
| 8 | The TRP QuarantineIt's on the sidebar too. You have more patience than I do because I just rolled my eyes in disgust and didn't read any of it. If I wanted their version of positive masculinity I never would have broken up with my beta bux ex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 11:36 PM |
| 10 | I don't want a trad-con manconcern trolling: the act of complaining or attempting to gain the support of others by appearing to have the "best interests" in the subreddit in mind. Literally the only thing I am saying is that trad-con is not the only way to go! Isn't this focal point being clouded by more traditional views that have very little to do with the red pill? I have the feeling some women here make it about being a traditional family instead and everything different is not being red pill and disgusting. Which is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 11:31 PM |
| 9 | I don't want a trad-con manThis post and your arguments with everyone fits the definition of concern trolling. I don't think you are doing that in this thread. You are trying to discuss why things aren't the way you want them to be instead of writing theory or advice that adds your worldview to the sub. I don't resent the women who follow a tradcon path. I don't feel kinship with the woman who do not. My life is my own and I enjoy chatting with people of all stripes. You don't need to shout down trad con women in order fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 10:14 PM |
| 6 | I don't want a trad-con manComplaining accomplishes nothing. As /u/teaandtalk says "be the change..." I don't consider myself a tradcon. I work. My husband and I have have had a crazy sex life at times. I'm agnostic. The values at RPW are what matters to me. When something doesn't fit with my beliefs I read it, think about it and decide whether or not to incorporate it into my personal system of values and ethics. If someone is clearly looking for tradcon advice, I sit out that thread. To me RPW is about how to understand… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 09:48 PM |
| 13 | Demisexual alpha-widow here. Feeling dead inside with no hope.It's not that you sound obsessive but you are going back to how he made you feel rather than objectively considering who he was as a person. First, this will not help you to determine what qualities you are attracted to. When I asked what what attractive, I may have phrased it poorly. You should compare and contrast who he was with who the other guy was. If I were to do this with my ex and my husband it would look something like this (briefly): Ex: smart, law student, trust fund kid, followed th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: What are some examples of bad dating advice given to women?beards = makeup for men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/18 01:38 PM |
| 14 | Demisexual alpha-widow here. Feeling dead inside with no hope.What are the differences between the guy you are hung up on and your other boyfriend? What was attractive about this guy that was missing in the other. Part of the problem with the "we are all equal" approach to gender dynamics is that it causes many women to be unaware of what they find attractive in men. The more equal we become (masculine women and feminine men) the less attracted to each other we are. So what is it that you found attractive in the second guy. Obviously it is beyond 'beauty' … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 01:26 PM |
| 11 | Demisexual alpha-widow here. Feeling dead inside with no hope.Not everyone needs a trendy, ridiculous label Off topic but my favorite has always been 'sapio-sexual'. Oh, you like intelligent men...how unique... the rest of us look for a guy who is dumber than a box of rocks. Sometimes I think that women claim the "alpha widow" title because it's one more label. It's easier to just throw your hands up and say you are an alpha widow than it is to learn to move on and it just makes one's pain feel so special. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 12:47 PM |
| 3 | I have no idea how to get in a healthy relationship- help!Not wanting children is a red flag. This is an important point. I have a friend who has started to claim she doesn't want kids because she thinks that most men don't want kids. Perhaps this is something women picked up from dating through their 20s when many people are still in a seemingly extended childhood. But if a man is going to want them at all (and many do) he will have reached that conclusion by his late 30s (IMO) and quickly rule out someone who is not on the same page. And correct me i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/18 12:27 PM |
| 2 | Advice on Creating Dating App Profile [30 years old]Phrase things in a way that tells him what value you can bring to the table and how your interests impact him. You are selling yourself to him so it has to be about why he should want you more than what you want him to be like. Ex: My love for the outdoors keeps me fit and in shape. After a long day of hiking, I can give a mean massage to ease your tired muscles. I'm a traditional girl looking for a traditional man to care for and spoil. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/18 12:17 PM |
| 2 | I have no idea how to get in a healthy relationship- help!Two reasons: on average people date within their racial group and one of the main tenets of RP is that 'you cannot negotiate attraction'. If you aren't attracted to Asian men that's not racism, that's the way you are wired. Of course it also makes the top comment moot. On the other hand, if you simply hadn't considered that group of men because you are accustomed to dating within your racial group as many people do, then the top comment is something to consider. And of course if you have conside… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/18 12:04 PM |
| 11 | Struggling to adjust to RP dating mindsetViewing all your responses, it's clear that u/Whisper has hit the nail on the head in his assessment of your Wishful Listening. You aren't even reading what he's writing without putting your own spin on it. For example, no one but you said anything about your partner count or even danced around the topic. You brought that up and then got defensive. In fact, defensive seems to be your main course of communication. In other comments you explain that you don't see a way to trust or be vulnerable wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/18 11:35 AM |
| 31 | FR Update: Newbie here, I guess I’m a plate. How how do we turn this around?Congratulation!!! The RPW way is about being a good woman in order to get a good man. My relationship started as a FWB / plate type of situation and it's now 11 years later. I wouldn't want to change anything. You go girl! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 11:45 PM |
| 4 | How are your interactions with other women?Yeah, somewhere along the line it became trendy to be a girl-who-does-not-like-other-girls. Usually it's a red flag for bad behavior if a woman says that sort of thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 03:53 PM |
| 4 | I met a red pill man!It's up to her whether it's a waste of time or not. I don't have kids and I'm not divorced so I don't know what the conditions are for dating in those circumstance. I also know that at 35, five months doesn't feel like nearly as much time as it did at 25. Life gets busy and I can go that long with out seeing my best friends or my siblings and not think twice. Particularly if we're chatting regularly. I offered up a different perspective. Everyone is jumping to tell her to leave him. It's fine th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 11:50 AM |
| 6 | Ditch the ResumeIt was a much longer discussion all together. My intention had always been to return to school after I decided what degree was most practical. I had started with a psych degree intending to ultimately do family and addiction counseling and realized after a few years that was not what I wanted to fill my life with. Neither of us was terribly interested in kids at that juncture so there was no reason not to complete the degree eventually. We were together for about 4 years before I returned and we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 11:41 AM |
| 2 | I met a red pill man!Except she's already been married once and had children. Time is not nothing but it is far more pressing when we are talking to a younger woman with no kids. It is my personal opinion that it's better to wait a bit for the right man than to jump to a relationship just to have any man. Only the OP can decide if this man is worth the investment of her time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 10:55 AM |
| 15 | Ditch the ResumeI went to college for four years without finishing and then took a hiatus. When I started dating my husband he didn't realize I hadn't finished and we had this conversation: Me: Oh but I didn't finish. I took a break after four years to work and decide what made sense. Him: <pause> Me: do you like me less now? Him: no, it's the same amount of education. We'll send you to finish when I'm finished. Which is exactly what happened with a more practical degree at his insistence. One of the reasons me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 10:42 PM |
| 4 | I met a red pill man!I am however, nervous that him being red pill and being so early in dating that I could fuck something up So, he's demonstrated that he's not following TRP to the letter simply by telling you about it (the first rule of fight club and all). I also find it a bit surprising that a red pill man would send a woman there "to understand him better". I'd start by asking what the red pill means to him. It could be an illuminating conversation about what he wants out of life and how he views relationship… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 10:29 PM |
| 8 | Is it shameful or natural? Choosing high value men over female friends.Does the man not have the autonomy to make his own decisions? If he preferred your friend, he would have been with your friend. There is no such thing as calling 'dibs' on a person....especially an alpha type man....but really any person. It is a person not an object. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Still Feel UpsetDon't be so quick to claim red flags. If the guy was drunk and stupid then he was drunk and stupid. Sometimes people make bad one time decisions and that doesn't mean they are bad people. There is not enough information in this post alone to suggest breaking up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/18 07:06 PM |
| 6 | I’m liberally minded in my political beliefs, and tend to date more artistic guys who see the world similarly. Do I have hope at a RP relationship?Most of these attitudes have never existed in the west and the ones that have (voting) haven't been an issue for nearly 100 years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/18 05:39 PM |
| 7 | How to hold your value as a single mother to a newborn?This is actually a great list of the objections that OP will have to overcome. My advice to single mothers would be to look for single fathers because of the shared life experiences. From an RP perspective we now that a woman may just be looking for a BB man to help pay the bills and baby-sit. While I understand why men are leery of single mothers, I disagree that this is the perspective that most women take. Even feminism has only managed to convince women that they shouldn't need a man. It has… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/18 01:54 PM |
| 13 | Men are also hypergamousAlso, of the subset of men who cheat on their wives, I would bet that more cheat and stay with their wives than cheat and leave. Isn't it a cliche for the heartbroken mistress to say "but he said he was going to leave her"... | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/18 01:07 PM |
| 7 | Weird situation: Can you be the “beta bucks” of an alpha male?There isn't a such thing as AFBB for women but men do have a dual mating strategy. Men can either have casual sex with many women hoping to "spread their seed" in a cheap and plentiful manner OR they can settle down with one woman and focus all their resources on the offspring from that relationship. What you are seeing is the non-procreative version of this impulse. This guy is having sex with many attractive women who he has no desire to partner with. In another era this would almost surely ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/18 12:32 PM |
| 5 | LTRI hear a lot about bonobos, especially the oppression of one's inner bonobo, for not being poly I could be wrong but I believe the "we are bonobos" idea (in the zeitgeist at least) comes from Sex at Dawn. The book's theory (as I recall it) is that we evolved from bonobos not apes. Bonobos are much more peaceful and have sex for pleasure with just about everyone. It then premises that we're not wired for monogamy and uses several native tribes that haven't been touched by modernity (or civilizati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/18 12:12 PM |
| 2 | LTRYour explanation here was much more thorough than what you originally wrote but it would be even better still if you told the OP how to make it work in your scenario. Just saying "it can work" without actual advice is what I called irresponsible. You seem shocked that people here disagree with you. Do you understand the nature of the sub you decided to comment on? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/18 12:50 AM |
| 9 | "Getting to Know Someone" EtiquetteDisagree. If she's not ready to have sex then she shouldn't put herself in a situation where hormones might get the better of her. One of the non n-count, non-health reasons to delay sex during vetting is to make sure you have a sense of the man before sex clouds your judgement. Men can be more detached so you might not understand this from a female perspective. We can get very attached and make bad decisions once sex is in the mix. It's better to hold off until you are sure about him as a perso… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/18 10:00 PM |
| 10 | LTRI've said before and I'm sure I'll say it many many times more...people who are outliers have a responsibility to acknowledge that they are outliers. If you know that you are lucky that something worked out for you, you should not put yourself out there as an example to others. I've been open on here about my higher n count. That does not mean that I would recommend that women sleep around. It worked out ok for me, but that is who I am as a person and the man I was lucky enough to find. It would… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/18 09:38 PM |
| 3 | LTRYes! I don't know if it's abundance mentality run amok or time out of the dating market or something else but no one in these situations seems to realize that dating someone else actually means dating someone else. He'll be maintaining two or three relationships and that is time and effort. Even just setting up a hook up is time and effort. And if he's up front and honest about his relationship status, it's likely to be even more difficult. Most women don't want to hook up with a man when there … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/18 09:31 PM |
| 13 | LTRThis is idiotic. A man has every right to not be with a woman that isn't a virgin if that is his preference. What he does not have the right to do is demand nonmonogamy because she has had sex with someone other than him. The time to decide is prior to the relationship not in the middle of it. Men can demand whatever they want. Women are not obligated to give it them. Your advice is bad and is only meant to benefit this man who wants to attempt a harem. If your suggestion is that virginity is im… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/18 06:20 PM |
| 9 | LTRI really don't see how her virginity or lack thereof plays into this. Whatever her n count, he knew that at the beginning of their 5 year relationship. That was his time to opt out, he's trying to change the rules of the game midway through and it's not her obligation to stay with him and allow it if doesn't make her happy. Virginity isn't something owed to men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/18 06:06 PM |
| 23 | LTRI'm going to rewrite the same thing I always do when threesomes and open relationships come up. Most of this, is copied verbatim with your comments swapped in for the other OP. I'm telling you this because this is a tried and true post that you are writing. Many a man has the same request and many a woman tries to justify it in the exact same ways. I can't speak for how those relationships ever turn out. No one ever comes back and tells us. That may be telling in and of itself. Lastly, in cases … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/18 05:35 PM |
| 13 | What are some dating/relationship "traditions" that need to die out?My husband didn't ask and my father has not forgiven us 5 years later. It's common to have asked among my married friends. All in the Northeastern US. All married in our late 20s /early 30s. Crazy but there you go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/18 03:37 PM |
| 3 | Do NOT give into wondering “what else is out there” (AKA hypergamy). A warning.doting (aging) wives Oh ouch, however will I recover from these horrible insults :-P Ok, I don't have it in me to do this catty back and forth with you. Enjoy your night. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 09:52 PM |
| 4 | Do NOT give into wondering “what else is out there” (AKA hypergamy). A warning.Your view baffles me. Then RPW may not be the sub for you. It requires you to look at both your own rationale and the rationale of the opposite sex. The reason we stress vetting is so you marry a man who does not exhibit a pattern of lying, dishonesty and infidelity. I would never advise someone to stay in a relationship pre-marriage that involves cheating. Once you are married, and particularly once you have children, the union is something greater than you. I've been with my husband for nearly… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Do NOT give into wondering “what else is out there” (AKA hypergamy). A warning.:-D | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 08:50 PM |
| 4 | Do NOT give into wondering “what else is out there” (AKA hypergamy). A warning.I'd like to second this. A big part of RPW is understanding why men might behave the way they do, which includes why a man might cheat. Too many people jump to throwing away marriage and it lessens the value of the institution and makes it more difficult for women to find men who want to marry. I committed to my husband for life. My life would have to be in danger from him before I'd break that commitment. Of course I also trust him to be a man who wouldn't break the commitment he made to me. (/… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 08:46 PM |
| 6 | Q4ALL: Will fat acceptance ever cease?Don't even come back with the "muh hypothyroid" defense either, considering a minuscule population has an actual, diagnosed thyroid condition I actually do have this condition and people don't believe me because I'm 110lbs. It's also corrected with a daily pill. Super easy to fix and a terrible excuse. It slows down metabolism, yes, but that doesn't automatically equal overweight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/18 06:05 PM |
| 6 | Are there any redpill subs for women that doesn't advocate for marriage?I dunno. I'm not religious. :-P Good luck!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/18 01:47 PM |
| 10 | Are there any redpill subs for women that doesn't advocate for marriage?You may want to look at your own behavior when the topic comes up. I lived with my now husband for 6 years before we were married. When someone asked, I told them that I didn't think marriage would change our relationship and moved on. It never bothered me and it was fairly rare that it came up. It's really only a big deal if you make it a big deal. I've seen you discuss marriage here and on MGTOW. I think that it is a bit of a soapbox for you and that is why you feel disconnected from people wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/18 01:33 PM |
| 4 | Advice from a mother of the groomThe thing to remember is that the majority of the wedding is optional. If he doesn't care and you chose to do it anyway, it's on you for biting off more than you can chew. If he does care but doesn't do it in your time frame then that is a time to learn to let go and treat him as an autonomous person who can complete a task. Neither are excuses to turn into a bridezilla, a martyr or blame the groom for not doing enough. In the end you are still married whether you have it in a hotel ballroom, ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/18 02:54 PM |
| 3 | Advice from a mother of the groomI worked in a bridal shop for a stretch at one point. This is a good thing to put your fiercest bridesmaid on. Let her handle calling the shop and harassing them on the regular so that you can stay zen. And I can't speak for all bridal salons, but the one I worked at was run by a woman who had no business running a business :-P. Definitely have someone call them frequently. Even if they forgot and ordered the dress late, a rush can be put on it. I'm sure they'll make it happen, especially if the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/18 12:19 PM |
| 6 | Advice from a mother of the groomAlmost all Bridezillas I’ve seen happen because the man has zero interest in any of the planning and the bride feels alone with no support. Perhaps the man has no interest in helping because the bride is planning her wedding not their wedding. Or she's made him feel as though he can't do anything right. Men will get avoidant if they are constantly told they are doing things wrong. You may have a chicken and egg scenario here. Sure it's stressful to plan without help, but maybe ask why he isn't i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/18 12:14 PM |
| 5 | Advice from a mother of the groomThis is solid advice and everyone should be focusing on applying it to their own wedding planning rather than getting on your case for your relationship with your son. My husband and I eloped with a couple friends in tow. Financially and planning-wise it was the best decision we made and it was still a bit of stress. It's not a little insane what is "required" when planning a wedding these days. Unfortunately a year and a half to get the venue and book everyone is necessary in a lot of cases. St… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/18 12:08 PM |
| 12 | Marriage Counseling?A couple thoughts: You have my sympathy because going through all of this as a new mom must be incredibly difficult. Is there a chance that your hormones and new baby stress are making it worse? Don't make decisions when you are not your most level self. Your post sounds like you are spiraling in negative emotion. I understand why, but it's not healthy for you. Even if you decide to leave, you should be making that choice because it's the most rational choice for your and the baby, not because y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/18 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Mansplaining decodedThe post was written by a man and it was written more clearly than your response. Your comment came across as whining not elucidation. And I did not downvote you but go ahead and throw accusations about your internet points. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/18 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Mansplaining decodedFor women, there isn't always a specific reason the conversation is occurring in the first place. I believe /u/loneliness-inc covers this in the post. You are trying to complain that women don't converse the same way that men do which is the entire point of the post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/18 10:38 PM |
| 8 | Men and BirthI'm not a big believer in submission and AFAIK, you aren't either Semantics. I meant that you are in a space where the women tend to prefer male lead relationships. That is who is self selected to be here. So if you want to call it submissive or something else, they are women who trust their men to speak their minds and lead. Therefore, a woman may want to consider how important it really is for her husband to be present during childbirth. You gotta weigh your options and act accordingly. It's a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/18 07:03 PM |
| 8 | Men and BirthFor many men, it isn't their decision because they aren't allowed to not attend. In a sub full of submissive women, I don't think these men are going to get a lot of sympathy. If they can't stand up and advocate for what they want for themselves, they are poor leaders. While they are certainly entitled to their feelings, I can't empathize with their after the fact complaints if they didn't make their own desires clear before hand. There are feelings and discussions that are best kept between men… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/18 02:11 PM |
| 2 | I just found out that my boyfriend had a sexual relationship with his aunt and an all-around shady sexual past.Probably. I don't know who remembers and who doesn't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/18 05:11 PM |
| 14 | I just found out that my boyfriend had a sexual relationship with his aunt and an all-around shady sexual past.For your own information: she was on here about a month or so ago lamenting the fact that she was an alpha widow who could never get over the guy she had been with. Then she was on shortly after that because she had the hots for the friend of the guy who supposedly alpha widowed her. There were quite a few posts all around the same theme with the same advice over a really short period of time. I don't remember all the details and she's deleted her history so I can't reverify BUT I do know that s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/18 04:27 PM |
| 7 | Will pursuing my traditionally masculine passions make me less appealing to a conservative man?I just want to throw my support with /u/CalvinRichland. Hobbies do not determine femininity. Femininity isn't superficial & Traits of Femininity & The Sneakers in My Closet all cover the idea that femininity is not a superficial play acting sort of thing. If a guy believes that you must wear dresses and knit in order to be his ideal feminine woman, then he's simply not the guy for you. This isn't lying to a woman. As someone else said, you'll never be a fit with every man. If feminine women in m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/18 04:01 PM |
| 11 | A letter to my daughterIt also puts the ball in our court. Girls decide by their behavior how boys will behave (or at least treat them). It's only sexist and weak if you want to view from a victim's lens. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/18 01:24 AM |
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