I (F 23) have been dating my bf (M 26) for 4 years. I recently discovered the red pill and read Empowered Wives. I really thought I was doing better this summer but today I hear from him that I get irritable really easy and short with him so much so that he does not want to continue the relationship like this.

I think I get irritable with him like once or twice per week. An example will be like if I just did all the dishes, laundry, and vacuuming but he points out how I left a pizza box on the counter. The rest of the time I try really hard to be “the goddess of fun and light” but I feel like he only focuses on the bad stuff.

Let’s say for example I’m happy/pleasant 80% of the time and mean like 20% of the time and he will only focus on that 20% and as a result label me as a “mean person”. It’s hard to ever feel like you’re good enough if someone only focuses on the bad. It’s making me very depressed.

I don’t know how to be “less irritable” as I already have been trying my hardest these past months and I already feel like I’m walking on eggshells. I feel like he is expecting perfection from me. Is there anything I can do to improve this situation without talking in a robot voice with him?