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You are correct in your assessment- It’s transactional it’s not a gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 12:35 AM
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Story time - when I was in college I took a lot of art classes. My drawing class had a series where we studied the human form and we had nude models come in to class and we would draw them in different poses. The woman was extremely professional and natural, and it was simply a class of art students looking at her body and learning to draw shapes and angles. Looking at lighting and shading etc. She was fantastic and we learned a lot and it wasn’t weird or made to be sexual whatsoever. Then a few…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:47 AM
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I’ll add to this. Anyone else notice that when you break up with a LVM and they start seeing a new girl they start emulating things that you used to do as if it was their own personality? They take ownership of hobbies you did or take them to the same restaurants and places that you frequented. I’ve seen this a few times. It’s like they lovebomb the next one by borrowing your hobbies and traits. It’s like someone else mentioned in the thread. They don’t have any of their own original thoughts pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:18 AM
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Congrats on the growth. This isn’t mine but I saved it in my phone to look at when I need a reminder - You have to choose your pain. Settle for the pain of wasting your life with them Or move on into the pain of breaking that soul tie and creating a clear foundation for a future. Pain is meant to teach us something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 12:35 PM
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Omg “accidental” anal…I’ll just smooth her over the next day with flowers and balloons?!?? How about a cake?? Sorry for the nonconsensual ass rape….see I’m a nice guy….🤡🙈 And this girl….”I’ll just take plan B because I want to cater to his entitled ass versus having any regard for her own personal safety let alone self respect….I can’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 01:12 PM
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Rinse and repeat… because we are seen as acquisitions or possessions rather than a separate unique entity to relate to and a relationship as something to nourish and develop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 12:10 PM
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I think it really hit home with me when I saw the add for a new drug that is for men that have broken their dicks. Like it helps men who have jerked off so much that they are now bent. Yes, Let’s salvage the bent carrot on these pornsick, disgusting scrotes so that they can continue their meaningful jerking off activities or maybe even achieve penetration without the 90 degree angle…. Think about how much time and energy and money it takes to research and launch a pharmaceutical product. When an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 02:15 PM
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Can we not just identify anything anymore as bad or harmful?? Do we have to normalize and rationalize every insane thing?? How about tell your kids that porn is just gross and not something you ever want to normalize. Talk to them about how it is exploitative and harmful. Talk about it to your kids in the same manner that you would warn them about drugs and alcohol. How about telling them that it’s out there and it’s everywhere now but that it’s not something that is ok or healthy. How about mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 10:03 PM
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Omg - “spare vagina that you are selfishly keeping from him…”😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 02:25 PM
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Nailed it! Yes all of these things are true!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 02:23 PM
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Story time - I worked with this guy for years and he seemed of good character. Great work ethic. He was married and he and his wife had three small children. I worked with him during the last two pregnancies and I was invited to the baby showers at his home. I met and was friendly with his wife. He seemed like a solid, good man. He never once hit on me nor said anything flirty or inappropriate ever the entire time we worked together. Just seemed like a good healthy platonic work relationship. Ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 02:02 PM
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Pregnancy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 10:29 PM
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The dog hair alone would drive me insane…..just no….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 01:31 PM
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Directly following his tantrum he resumed fucking his coworker….and she thinks fruit snacks will keep him loyal …..🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 11:29 PM
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“Floordrobe”…..🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 07:03 PM
67

Is depression in this type of a person really depression or is it just sulking and more of how an entitled person feels when they are denied something they want or have become accustomed to. Because we are talking about two very different things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:13 PM
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The turd that won’t flush…I never understood that they know they are blocked so that means you don’t want to hear from them so they try another platform? Make it make sense. Just this New Years I had a scrote that I broke up with and blocked over seven years ago reach out to my sister to get to me. He’s now married and has two kids - they are all gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 12:45 AM
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This wasn’t a date - it was a job interview - he’s looking for a woman to come into his life and take over “woman’s work” and childcare. Just gross….feel sorry for that child. If that were my ex there would be serious restrictions on his visitation privileges. Hope he gets a vasectomy soon. Needs to stop spreading his seed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 12:03 AM
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Thank you for this - I recently had to come to this realization with an ex coworker. His anger was so sudden and seemingly irrational and just petty. He thought he was putting me in my place - I clarified that he was really saying what I thought he was saying and then I removed him from my life. I no longer interact with that kind of craziness. Best advice ever - step away no longer interact or engage with them. There is no point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 03:29 AM
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Throw the whole man out - it’s too much. Be gone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 08:44 PM
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There was probably some level of her knowing not to fuck with this man too much. She knew he was controlling and potentially dangerous. She’s lucky she’s not the one he chose to murder. Could have easily been her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 04:26 AM
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I’m glad you are free again and rediscovering some simple joy. That’s a huge accomplishment. Watch the Britney Murphy story on HBO sometime. It’s crazy how she lost everything including her life because she married the wrong man. What you did is huge. Keep moving forward and don’t look back. Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 11:22 PM
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Thought about this too - especially if his family is trash and he’s insecure and just wants to fit in and not be grilled or peppered with questions. Family may be difficult for him to handle so he takes it out on her - wants to keep her under control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 09:44 AM
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Yes this! And while he’s on his home turf too! I’m going to bet there are many other micro aggressions by his hand that he isn’t sharing as well. Imagine being this passive aggressive. Being this bothered by something that he has no business even caring about and then taking it away from her. Controlling covert narcissist. I hope she has left him in the dust after this “power play” of his. What a complete asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 09:36 AM
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Pay for a subscription to Intellus - I use it all the time. You get a pretty good picture of if they own property. If they have a criminal record. If they have some shady financials, it also gives you names of relatives and close associates to that person. From that you can look up their associates on SM - see if they are in a relationship. It also lists their SM footprint and accounts. It’s worth the monthly subscription. I use it to vet all the time. I also have a google voice number and never…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:36 PM
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They are vile when they don’t get their way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:12 PM
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Best book ever - must read for all women and young people. I even gave it to my son to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 07:26 PM
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I just started watching Allen vs. Farrow - omg it’s awful. Not only did this give him power and control it also gave him sexual access to his daughters. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 09:54 AM
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Post nut regrets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:53 PM
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He left Anna for a very powerful wealthy family. He’s just on to use the next woman to get whatever he can. And he also continues his disrespect of the new wife as well. We see that in his SM posts. Embarrassing photos of her and snarky remarks. He’s no prize he’s a burden. There’s no win with him. Good for Anna for liberating herself from this trash!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:17 PM
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Thank you for this post. Just this summer I was reading about the indigenous schools in Canada where there are mass graves. https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-57592243 In Ireland also mass graves at an unwed mothers home. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/world/9-000-children-died-irish-mother-baby-homes-report-finds-n1253862 I think the Catholic Church and it’s reach has caused more atrocities and could almost be classified as a terroristic organization. Look at all the child rapes. The priest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:34 AM
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Just another hunch maybe his drinking became an issue on the job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 08:47 PM
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I have tried and she will talk the talk because it’s what she thinks I want to hear parroted back to me but when I tell you this is some kind of addiction - it is some kind of addiction. The girl is a hot mess. It’s really hard to watch. Some people just don’t want to be better or change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 11:04 AM
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So is he just a “stay at home drunk” now? Did he ever find employment? Article never disclosed that? I didn’t see he leveled up career wise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:58 AM
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Family oriented….but he’s just NOW spending time getting to know his daughter because when he was married he was “working long hours” 🚩never around, probably getting shitfaced at a bar after a shift
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:56 AM
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Hmmmmm 🤨It is curiously close to the holiday and I’m just speculating but I wonder if he messed up Valentine’s Day so badly this was out of guilt after an ultimatum…🤢You could easily pick up a topaz on the fly at the mall on the way home from the liquor store…just a hunch though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:54 AM
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I’m white and I have a cousin that will only date men of color or Latino men. Her personality literally changes depending on who she’s with. The relationships always have a huge social class and education difference as well. She seeks out LVM who only look good but have no education, career or assets. What is this?? I seriously don’t get her goal here. They all end up cheating on her or leaving her worse off that she was before. It’s almost like some fetish or addiction. I’m seriously not gettin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:13 AM
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So disgusting for so many reasons. Not even a human being. This is an example of how you lose yourself and end up with that constant nagging feeling of anxiety. Her intuition knew - but he’s so deceitful and subversive she had no idea he has been plotting against her this entire time that she has been caring, sacrificing and building him up. I’m sure he feels no remorse and never will. There’s literally no reason to build a life with these monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 03:20 PM
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Did you catch the part that it was her birthday….and he was out all night somewhere else….among the rest of the nightmarish details of this story…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:21 PM
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Yes 100%! I’m honestly disgusted at the lack of humanity that has been shown to me. Essentially I’m being punished for trying to level up. You’re no longer of service to me so fuck off and let me erase your very existence from my life. Why can’t they just say congratulations and wish you well. Serous trash can of a person!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:28 AM
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Omg I feel your post so much right now! I just got a promotion to another team and I had been very close to my original team (or so I thought). I went from being held in high regard and included in opportunities and events. To now being shunned and excluded and scolded for now reaching out by two specific male teammates. It’s seriously mind blowing to me the instant change in dynamic when a man isn’t benefiting from you anymore. I’m now a traitor because I wanted to advance my career instead of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 12:35 AM
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She needs to put cameras up and be aware of what’s going on behind her back. It will help her keep one step ahead of Z and her band of flying monkeys. Maybe after seeing and hearing it she will have the strength to confront Z and shut it down or prosecute if it really escalated. If she’s being drugged or poisoned that’s a huge offense. Mic the place and put up some cameras then expose this bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:22 AM
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🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 05:49 PM
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I’ve gone through this with my sister a few times. It sucks. It’s like you are dealing with two different people entirely. They talk the talk but when a man comes on the scene they turn into someone almost unrecognizable. Then you deal with the on and off roller coaster of - not hearing a word from them when things are good with their dude to then having them try to monopolize your time sobbing and venting and waisting your time with their anxiety when things go south with their man. Gotta have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 06:05 PM
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This is such an important post. It highlights and explains a lot of things that were very upsetting at the time that I just brushed off as unintentional. My anger and hurt were very real and this just validates the feelings. I would walk away from those interactions feeling like my ex was inconsiderate and careless. This actually steps it up and makes it malicious and vindictive. Thank you for making these important observations. Hopefully it can help someone who is persisting in this type of lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 07:54 PM
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Throw the whole man out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:52 PM
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I honestly wish I had some advice for you. It’s so hard when you are just trying to be professional and conduct business and you have to deal with this insane bullshit. It’s very confusing and stressful. Limiting contact is the only thing I can advise but sometimes that’s not realistic. Maybe bring your husband around and let him say something to this guy to kind of put him in line. I’m in sales so I have regular contact with certain accounts. Over the years I’ve had two instances of a customer …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 11:32 PM
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Omg lol 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 12:43 AM
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Shows how much porn he watches and has assimilated that into his normal daily life. Fucking gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 10:50 PM
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It’s the same type of man that leaves his partner or cheats on her when she’s diagnosed with or is battling cancer. No different. Look at the statistics. They just aren’t capable of a deep connection most of the time. Very shallow selfish creatures that like to pretend they are otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 09:26 PM
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His trash filled hovel….Just so much to offer that woman 🥴. Treating his wife like he’s got options… 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:12 AM
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Omg when this album came out I wore it out! Was still married at the time but it spoke to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:24 AM
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Truth! I like how you phrased that - hammer of judgment. You can only pretend for so long. Truth always comes out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:22 AM
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Yes! Exactly! Could of and should have been a one and done date. But she kept moving her boundaries further and further until they didn’t exist with him anymore. And she knew it was wrong bc she chose to hide so much from her daughters. Dick dizzy 😵‍💫 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:09 AM
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I felt like she had him pegged early on (at the the first date when she asked him to leave she knew he was not good) but then she got smooth talked back into it way too easily. He was able to play her pretty quick because she put too much value on finding a man. She was vulnerable like that when he came back and told her everything she wanted to hear. Stopped noticing the red flags and ignored her daughters concerns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:02 AM
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I like that “trash finds other trash and they eventually bunch together” seems to be the case!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 11:41 AM
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The whole thing is disrespectful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 10:13 PM
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His wife has probably not voluntary touched his dick in a decade. He’s looking for anyone or anything that will at this point. Kind of like a kid who still believes in Santa…this is his wish list…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:08 PM
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Yeah this family is a trip!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:54 PM
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My aunt and uncle came down to visit recently and we had dinner. We were catching up on life. They are in they’re 70’s and have two sons each in their 40’s. The youngest son is married and has two kids but has kind of been a perpetual student. They put him through undergrad then grad school and he worked in his field for a few years, became disillusioned with it then quit to go back and pursue another graduate degree on their dime. (His wife is a physician so he’s got that too). My other cousin …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:12 PM
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This is so well written and so spot on! Thank you for your post it has given me a clarity I never saw before. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:37 PM
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I’m at an age where I’m even leery of men who have never actually owned property and just bounce from rental to rental or own no assets. At my age you’ve been around long enough to figure that out. If their plan is to just sidle in to your life it is a huge red flag. Or if they are still in some entry level job at 40 with no career development that is another big red flag. It’s amazing how entitled and shameless men are coming to a woman presenting themselves with little to nothing to offer a wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:06 PM
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I had a boss that was like this. We had primarily men on our team and only a handful of women. I watched her alienate and eventually edge out every woman on our team. I was the only one left and she would take my work and credit one of the guys for work that I had done - it was awful! I think there was so much jealousy and insecurity with her. I was particularly close with one male coworker and had known him for years prior to her becoming our boss. I saw her insert herself in between that relat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 10:48 AM
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I think a lot of them are on the spectrum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:12 PM
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It’s exhausting living with an emotional toddler. My ex displayed this same behavior. Once you get on the other side of it you realize how truly awful it was. Sadly it’s more of the rule than the exception when dealing with men. I almost feel like there’s a developmental delay with the lot of them. It’s like expecting a mentally handicapped person to do calculus. They just don’t get it and all the “coaching” in the world doesn’t make a difference. Best not to engage with these types. It’s a time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:09 PM
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🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 11:33 AM
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Agreed - she’s got to clue in that this is as good as it’s ever going to be and stop pretending that it used to be romantic. He’s clearly in his element and she’s pining away for more. Can’t get blood from a brick. Move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:27 PM
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Exactly! They think it’s a sales pitch! These types never understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:32 PM
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I can see the cold sores…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:30 PM
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Her whole post is attention seeking and cringey. She knows exactly what she married - or rather she should. She’s trying to manufacture some fairy tale that never existed. She’s in a fog - denial and having inability to see and accept reality is what’s going on. I think a lot of women do this. They marry a man not for who he is but for the idea of what could be or “should” be according to her fantasy narrative. The dude is like a 14 year old boy retreating into a closet to play video games in st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:16 PM
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Take your manly ass and get up on outta here 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 01:11 PM
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Seriously what????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:01 PM
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Thank you for sharing this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:41 PM
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I don’t get all this hate right now for her. The woman is a legend period. She’s done more in her short tenure than most people ever do in a lifetime - and she started all of this as a young child. Maybe when she says she’s done she’s done and let’s just say thank you and have some respect for her decision. Maybe because she entered this sport as a child she was getting all kinds of external pressure to continue when really she was done with it. The fact that she stepped down and it allowed anot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 06:49 PM
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My sons are teens now and my oldest is off to college in a few weeks and I’m so proud of both of them as people. I’ve raised them all by myself since they were three and six. Their dad lives out of state and has regular but minimal contact. Holidays and summer stuff. I got my shit together as a person and focused on my own growth and my career first. I had to lean on family when they were little so I could do that. I leveled up so that I could provide for them. I got them involved in whatever th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:11 AM
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And she drives all the way over to his house to suck his dick?!? What in the actual fuck? And she gets what out of this - even without the violence she’s still degrading and humiliating herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:26 PM
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😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:34 PM
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Well played! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼😃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:23 PM
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“Reset” the relationship 🤡this clown thinks he’s still going to have all his boyfriend privileges after kicking her out? Wants to go back to tHe wAy ThInGs wErE….🥴 My guess is GF will put all that on ice … plus now when she goes to “visit” he will have random ass scrote at his pad. Sounds romantic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:05 PM
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After reading Kite Runner I just sobbed. He has such a way of capturing the wretchedness of man but also the splendid beauty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:11 PM
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No good deed goes unpunished
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:17 PM
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Maybe you have grown apart and it’s time you spent some time truly solo to figure out your next steps or growth. Sometimes our past can hold us back even if it’s nothing terrible. Sometimes your comfort zone can be your failure zone. Maybe you are meant to do other things and you are starting to recognize that. Change is hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:52 PM
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He’s gross - shown you who he really is. But he will put on a performance for everyone else because he knows he’s got a problem. Ugh sorry you had to deal with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:16 PM
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Interesting that he had to load up with alcohol prior to a happy hour. Curious how did he act at the event?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 09:04 AM
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What is that with some guys that construct this whole fantasy narrative in their heads about you - that you aren’t even participating in - and then get deeply upset when you don’t reciprocate in real life. It’s like a completely one sided “relationship” that they think you are having “together” when I reality it’s all in their imagination. Even if you did actually like the person how could you possibly even compete with the expectations and fantasy already constructed - it’s like they don’t expe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:13 AM
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Just wait…Harvey Weinstein is next! It’s truly disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:45 AM
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Yeah but maybe it’s more like serves a purpose like a friend to talk to or maybe he’s handy around the house but I doesn’t mean she wants to see or have to touch his raisin balls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:44 PM
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The joke will be on him when this casual acquaintance doesn’t reciprocate anything and is shocked and offput by his sudden desire to abandon 32 years of marriage and latch on to her life like a thirsty tick. I’m wondering if he’s made this situation out to be way more than it is - he’s basing a lot of big decisions on his delusions and fantasies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 09:58 AM
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Major predatory pedophile that had lots of help obtaining targets and help covering up for him. It took a village. Thank god he was exposed but shame on all those that profited from and enabled his disgusting behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:00 PM
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First I am so sorry this is happening to you. I was with my ex for 15 years and exposed a whole separate life after the birth of my second son. I was terrified. My family and friends helped me to move and start over. It was gutting and surreal. I’m 12 years out now and life has been one blessing after another each year I distance myself from that other life. I want to tell you this because it’s important. Stay safe and be aware and do whatever you need to do in a private well thought out manner …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:37 PM
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We just had a new girl start at work and the whole office is pretty much 40 and 50 year old men. She’s 25. It’s unreal the way certain ones have grossly over estimated their market value and are trying to “mentor” her - literally falling all over themselves to get her attention. It will be interesting to see how she responds or tolerates this clownery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:19 AM
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But...but....MY FEELINGS....I demand you hear about my feelings! Even though you clearly give zero fucks 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:41 PM
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Attention Seeking Psycho - and you owe him what......? Tell his stalker ass if anything escalates there will be repercussions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:55 PM
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We should celebrate divorces! They last forever! Congrats and go live your best life!!🌸💐🎉🎈🎂🍾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:01 AM
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Totally agreed and I personally can’t fathom these women that do it. But I see it all of the time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:58 PM
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I’ll tell you what’s even worse than this is a woman that chooses a man over her own children. Acts like she can’t function with out one. Then forces the kids to live with the scrote bc she’s gotta have a man 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:55 PM
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I remember being 12 or 13 and going out of town to visit grandparents and out of state family. I’ll never forget my uncle randomly asking me about my “breast buds.” Was so glad I didn’t live near him. Creepy asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:10 PM
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Whoa can’t imagine marrying or living with that kind of control freak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:07 PM
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Totally agree with you. He has fully revealed himself. I think I never paid him much mind before as he was just background noise - tried to avoid him for the most part since he was a colleague. I fully agree with what you are saying but I struggle with keeping things professional as this is a work colleague that I have to occasionally deal with. It’s harder to navigate these men at work versus a social situation where you can block and delete. I’m just trying to avoid being around him and I thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:01 PM
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Appreciate it! I try to give people the benefit of the doubt if it’s a one off but he’s shown his ass now and it’s disappointing. Things are clear now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:55 PM
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Agreed - last year I thought he was just trying to see what my interest in him was and he got turned down and I thought that was the end of it. Now I’m looking at him completely differently and I want nothing to do with him. It’s like he thought I’d eventually come around. Basically what he’s shown me is that he wants what he wants and he doesn’t respect that I’ve already said no. Very telling and annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:07 PM
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Had a situation recently at work where a coworker started up hitting on me again. We went through this about a year ago and I politely declined and even tried to point his attention in another area. He’s actually an ok guy just not for me and kind of thirsty AF coming off a recent divorce. So I thought he was cool and got that I just wasn’t into him like that. What I thought was him being respectful and cool all this time was actually a prolonged period of dormancy. Anyways I was kind of shocked…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:17 PM
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Same here - had a very abusive older brother growing up and he ran the house. My parents just let him run all over people. He’s now married and treats his wife and son like garbage. I hadn’t seen or been around him in years and they came to stay with me for a few days and I was shocked at his verbal abuse of his wife. I can’t stand to be around him and I’ve lost respect for his wife bc she just takes it. She chooses that life. We’ve had multiple convos about him over the years and she chooses to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:20 AM
65

Sadly the real issue with a lot of men wanting custody is about them getting out of paying child support. It has nothing to do with caring for the child and it has everything to do with not wanting to pay the mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:51 AM
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Totally agreed! My ex husband was jealous of the attention the kids got so there’s that - plus he had to step up and that was something I always had to “direct” instead of just being an intuitive partner and parent. We divorced a decade ago and it’s night and day. Soooo much easier and much more pleasant. Maybe praying mantises have it all figured out after all? 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:32 PM
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The male midlife crisis is a hideous thing to endure. “Muh penis” can lay dormant for years and as the man ages, his own belief in his sexual draw becomes even questionable to himself. This terrifies him and it shows you just how important their dicks are to them. As shown here a man going through this phase in life will risk his entire family and everything he has built just to make sure his pee pee still works and others find him desirable. Family be damned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:44 PM
42

This whole think strikes me as “performative wokeness”. First of all it’s so he can get attention for himself. “I’m not like other guys” His daughter is a trained monkey. Those aren’t her words. I’m sure she doesn’t really swear like that and was coached into doing that for the camera. He’s an asshole for making her perform for the camera. All of those gentlemanly actions he is speaking of are performative as well. Just because a guy knows the game well enough to hold the door or walk on the out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:17 AM
16

Wow 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:12 AM
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So gross that the dad brings his son into his boner party. Everything about this is disgusting but trying to share your sexual fetishes with your son is exceptionally foul to me. Who wants to see their dad in action?!? 🤮🤢. Trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:22 PM
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Truth ☝🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:39 AM
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I absolutely think predatory pedos seek out these type of professions though - coaching, teaching, scouts, the church, etc...because it puts them in easy access to kids and that is what they devote their lifestyle too - grooming. I’m not sure all male teachers are pedos though - there are some decent ones out there. But yes proportionally you will have a fair number of predators in the mix because they seek out those environments to be in to execute their lifestyle and preferences in a covert wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:45 AM
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She’s enamored with the fantasy of having a boyfriend versus authenticity being in relationship with this particular man. Her fantasy ideal is clouding what her situation actually is. If she would look at it realistically she would see he’s lame and frustrating and move on. Instead she’s victimizing herself because she has this fantasy to hold on to. He’s given her no reason to think he’s anything other than disappointing and lame and she coaches him like a child to tell him how to “Valentines D…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:49 PM
29

Read the book “My Dark Vanessa” by Kate a Elizabeth Russell. It is told from the point of view of someone who was groomed at 15 and then her life afterward as she ages. There are many things she can’t even grasp until she’s older - it messes you up for decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:29 PM
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There is some truth there about being an enabler and dedicating your life to this kind of a garbage person. Part of me though realizes it’s “their generation”. I think we forget how far women have come in terms of eduction and jobs and actually having real life choices versus “well you get married” as the only option. Check this out....this is how it was for our moms and grandmothers... https://historycollection.com/40-basic-rights-women-did-not-have-until-the-1970s/30/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:12 PM
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I watched my dad very passive aggressively neglect my mom during her chemotherapy and radiation for BC. They have been together since high school and they are now in their 70’s. He would rarely drive her to her treatments. And went through a very sulky selfish phase that my sister and I were surprised and disgusted with. The pandemic forced him to finally deal with this and he’s now very doting and attentive to her but my sister and I often wonder how things would have turned out for her if he w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:46 PM
56

“That they’ll waste your life if you let them”. Yes 1000x! I wish I had known this at 20 years old. Would have been life changing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:35 PM
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No don’t wait on the validation of others for your self worth. That’s not the real prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:05 PM
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My mother is a huge dog lover. She was often quoted “dogs are the only things that ever truly understand me!” 😹 It is interesting to note that her method of parenting was to lavish attention on the youngest while they were in their helpless babyhood or toddler stage and then slowly discard you as you grew and matured and gained independence. She found it almost impossible to relate or respect you once you were an independent being. I noticed her behavior continuing with her treatment of her gran…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:21 PM
57

I wish we could make vasectomies mandatory for deadbeat dads - if you have a history of abandoning your children you shouldn’t be able to make more of them. Stop them from spreading their seed around like it’s nothing and bear no ownership or responsibility for it. What a disgusting piece of trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:38 AM
30

Sadly this a huge problem. I don’t think most people realize how accessible porn is to kids. Even if you lock down all your children’s devices so that they can’t view that kind of content there will always be some kid in the neighborhood or at school exposing them to it. I’ve had to talk to both my teenage sons about pornography and how it’s an addiction and how it leads to abuse. How it demoralizes. Sadly they are going to see it somewhere at sometime. You can’t have your head in the sand about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:15 AM
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Gorgeous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:16 PM
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I’ve had the same thing happen several times on the meetup app. I changed my name to my initials and changed my location to another neighboring town. It’s low effort trying to “date” or meet women through the app. I would often ask what events they attended and I would get the “well I haven’t had the chance to do anything yet - I’m new here” 🙄 Not interested in participating in events or meeting someone organically - they seem to just be interested in low effort dating strategies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:22 AM
3

Hobosexual - don’t discriminate 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:00 PM
7

I’m the first person in my family to get divorced but not the only one now - maybe I helped blaze the trail for some of the others I don’t know. We come from a long line of misogyny and judgment. Appearances are absolutely everything in our family. My older brother is an abusive narc and his wife does the dance of the compliant obedient wife. Her role is often to explain away and apologize for his shitty behavior. My sister and I call her “the beard” because the marriage seems like a total front…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:58 PM
9

My ex was the same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:10 AM
8

Reminds me of Something about Mary - they all were! Every single man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:52 PM
1

Thank you - I fundamentally get that and I know it’s work I need to do to get beyond it - I’ve just got to get my head and heart wrapped around it and dive into that work. And I know it will be work to finally release it. Anger is powerful and useful for a time then you have to move on and release it and let it go to make room for blessings and things to come. Thanks for the recommendation- and it’s inspiring to hear from those who have worked to the other side of this. Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:43 PM
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My favorite part is that he’s calling her “immature controlling, and treating him like a child” ...Sir you continually can’t focus long enough to hit the toilet bowl and you piss on the floor like a toddler and refuse to clean up after yourself...the facts are the facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:40 PM
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Constant low grade stress and cortisol spikes from stress will keep the pounds on no matter what you do. Staying with someone who is constantly judging you and showing contempt of you is soul crushing. Not that it matters but I bet if she were to dump the guy the weight would fall off effortlessly. I pray she finds strength and peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:02 PM
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Can’t be alone...must settle so she can say she’s coupled up. “Success” story. Girl you “did it” 🥴 I’m truly baffled why people make being in a relationship some kind of a life goal or some prize to be won. And the shit you have to wade through and tolerate on OLD just to have some bragging rights that you bagged your man - don’t get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:16 AM
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Because his dick isn’t clouding his judgement yet. His brain is pure and clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:05 PM
4

But, but, My Dick.... !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:44 PM
10

I was young a naive when I got married and I have two beautiful sons that I have raised all by myself since they were the ages of 3 and 6. My oldest is now a senior and just got into the college of his choice and is working on a scholarship. I’m so proud of my sons and they are the true loves of my life. They have their lives and I have mine too but we are very close and I don’t think we would have that if I had a husband. I’ve really been able to bond with them and it’s cool to see the young me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:40 PM
2

Agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:19 PM
7

In How to Save Your Marriage Alone, by Ed Wheat - his understanding and candid advice--based squarely on concepts from the Bible--can transform a marriage even when only one of the partners learns the principles of building love and applies them consistently. Needless to say I never gave it a read. So not sure - I think it applies to both men and women. At any rate - it’s no one should carry the entire emotional load of a spouse. It’s enabling behavior and abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:10 PM
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When I found out my ex was cheating I was gutted - just devastated. I was a new mom with our sons - they were just 2 and 4 at the time. I was only working part time then so I could be with them and my head was spinning. Was just overwhelmed thinking about divorce and being a single mom. So I went to church for counseling and the pastor gave me a book - “Saving your marriage by yourself.” Some kind of - look the “other way” “ stand by your man” BS I look back on that now and think how scared and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:01 AM
1

Read as much as you can about narcissistic abuse and gaslighting. Lundy Bancroft’s book “Why does he do that?” And Jackson MacKenzies “Psychopath Free” are two great books that will really clarify what you have been going through. Both are on audiobook too - listen while driving or taking walks. It’s as good as therapy! Best to you - hang in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:16 PM
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Yeah I’m still trying to figure out what this was all about. What his agenda was with that. Creepy for sure. Keeping my distance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:39 AM
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Had a situation at work just recently. I’m a single female working with mostly married men. We are all friendly enough but I keep my personal life very private and never discuss it. Only thing personal I ever offer up is stories about the kids - we all have teenagers about the same age. Or other benign stuff that anyone else may share with coworkers. I’m not on FB or any kind of SM as I’m a very private person. My dating and personal life is no ones business at work. I recently went on a kayakin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:50 PM
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There’s a police phone interview with the mistress and she described how he would double up on the thrive patches ( I think you are only supposed to wear one at a time) anyways she said nights when they slept over together he couldn’t sleep. He literally would stay up all night. I wonder if they did drug test him. Could have been another contributing factor that pushed him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:06 AM
5

astrology has a creepy accurate explanation for serial killers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:27 AM
1

I’m in a sales role and so I am in and out of different accounts and act friendly with customers and you build professional friendly rapport with accounts. Nothing special just doing my job. Because I’m a regular in certain accounts I’ve gotten to know the staff fairly well. One guy was rumored to have a crush on me and I just kept it professional and cordial but made sure I never ever entertained anything. Apparently he took my kind professional demeanor to mean something else. One day I was ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:55 PM
2

After years of frustration and failure to achieve any real connection or intimacy I finally figured out that my father probably has Aspergers. The explanation helps me intellectually “understand” but it’s honestly caused me a lifetime of emotional trauma and led me to be attracted to and eventually marry a very similar man (repeating familiar relational patterns) and that was of course a disaster. He is now my ex. No hate for either man - they just have a detached aloofness not conductive for cl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:39 PM
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