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It's business. The masses (read: The Blue Pill World) loves to devour that shit. Plus, most rappers are Betas nowadays. Don't believe in all that bullshit. It's all mental masturbation. And them being celebrities disregards any advice they may give to normal people. You shouldn't emulate them. For normal guys the battle-plan looks completely different. Oh and, look at it this way: showering girls with money so that they have sex with you is not Game. What we do and talk about here is much harder…
/r/askTRP04/12/18 07:35 AM
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This is going to be very hard for you. If you Woman Side of Life is of any importance to you, you should make a goal to move to a bigger place as quickly as possible. The only remaining scenario that I see is for you to look for girls in those "bigger" towns around you, but your logistics have to be very tight. Online game is out of the picture, as is night game. Too little people. Only viable options for you now are Daygame or Social Circle Game. Good luck!
/r/askTRP04/12/18 07:23 AM
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I do it on the second or third date. Doing it on the first date means that you will have to be with her for at least a few hours, buying many rounds, consuming a lot of energy. Even after all that, she may not fuck you, and now you wasted it all. Plus, even if she does fuck you, she may get Buyers Remorse, and next you afterwards, because she is a "lady" and doesn't fuck on the first date. It's called post-rationalization. It's an ego preserving mechanism. On the first date, you have a quick dri…
/r/askTRP04/12/18 07:19 AM
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Read voraciously, but quality books. Search for a Mentor. (This one has helped me the most, but be vary that you don't copy all of his goals and dreams. Every one of us is different.) Study many fields, until you find something that really clicks with you. Write down what your ideal life would look like 20 years from now. What do you see yourself doing? How do you feel? What do you do, on a day-to-day basis? Never neglect other areas of your life (health, women, hobbies, friends...). You never k…
/r/askTRP04/12/18 07:12 AM
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Since you got Oneitis for a girl who never even slept with you, this shows to me that you have Scarcity Mentality. Until you resolve those inner demons, you will constantly be in this cycle, with every girl who is of quality material to you. And to answer your question, there are two paths you could take, but they depend strongly on your mental framework: If she gets bored of the other guy and returns to you, accept her back and lay her if you can. This is only valid if you don't have Oneitis fo…
/r/askTRP04/12/18 07:03 AM
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You need more practice. Also, don't be their trick monkey. If they seem disinterested, go cold for a few days and see what happens. If there's no reaction from them, they are not attracted and you should move on. And stop using snapchat for texting. This is where all of their orbiters are. Get their phone number ideally. The worst scenario is Facebook.
/r/askTRP03/12/18 02:17 PM
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You should make a list for yourself about the things that you will compromise on, and the ones that you will never waver on. The compromises that you will take should be small things, that will not damage your frame too much. If it is the context of a LTR for example, and she wants to go out eat at some specific place, then say yes. Who gives a fuck where you eat out (except if you really don't like the place). On the other hand, if she has some bad opinions or demands about your friends, or you…
/r/askTRP03/12/18 02:09 PM
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Get a job at sales. With a lot of work, it's the fastest way to big money (google Grant Cardone about this). The fastest growing industries are as follows: Biotechnology Content Marketing Cannabis industry Renewable energy Mobile technology
/r/askTRP03/12/18 02:03 PM
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It is possible that your house has some kind of a bad reputation, which makes the girls' ASD (Anti Slut Defense) go through the roof when you are about to sexually escalate. It isn't logical, because girls aren't logical. The other possibility is that you are doing something wrong during escalation. Also, you may appear too desperate, because of your dry spell. Try not to depend too much on your house and partying for girls. Go do some daygame around campus, where you will appear as a lone wolf.…
/r/askTRP03/12/18 01:59 PM
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Yes, there is still a chance for you to fuck her. The urgency now is even stronger, because you have a time-limit. That being said, don't be surprised if she gives you the "I need to study for finals" excuse. If she does that - and chances are high that she will - say something like "Okay, see you around." Act as indifferently as possible. She may take your bluff and propose another time. If she doesn't forget about her. Don't persist further.
/r/askTRP03/12/18 01:54 PM
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Not all social situations are suitable for all people. You will naturally incline towards specific kinds of social interactions. For me, it's 1) talking with one or two smart guys about deep, intellectual topics, and 2) with women that I am gaming or fucking already. This is where my charisma shines the most. If I'm around a loud, dumb guy, I just turn myself off. There's nothing wrong with it. Don't strive to be perfect in every interaction. Strive to be happy.
/r/askTRP02/12/18 04:53 PM
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If it's been less than six months, she is going to treat you the same. My guess is that she wants to meet you so that you raise her social proof. Maybe other girls have been talking about you and now she sees some value in you. But that doesn't mean that she is attracted. I doubt that you could bang her, even with solid game. Do you want to be her platonic friend?
/r/askTRP02/12/18 04:47 PM
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If you are prepared for the risk of divorce-rape, who are we to tell you otherwise? Do want you want to do. But once you do it, take responsibility for it. Don't come here again lamenting about how you were wronged and how your wife is a bitch. You know the consequences. You are an adult. Make decisions for yourself. ​
/r/askTRP02/12/18 04:43 PM
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You could do one of those two things: 1) Go see a therapist; and / or 2) Set some big goals for yourself and find a Mission (your life purpose) You have to have long-term goals that you are highly motivated about. Search deep within yourself for the answers. If you lack those things, you will always be a victim of whim and circumstance. ​
/r/askTRP02/12/18 04:38 PM
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Your friend is demonstrating a pattern of unreliable behavior. It will happen again, and again, and again. People rarely change. You should ditch him. It doesn't matter that you grew up with him. Your past investments in him don't mean anything if he is making you unhappy now. You have no obligation towards him. Do you want to be loyal to a guy who isn't loyal to you, or would you rather be happy?
/r/askTRP02/12/18 04:31 PM
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The ideal is if she orgasms every time you have sex. No matter in what way you do it. One of my plates likes my fingers more than my dick. The other one likes only my dick. But they all orgasm. It's the only thing that matters (I am biased towards making them cum, because they are all plates, and nothing keeps them close to me, except physical and mental pleasure. We are selfish creatures.) Yeah, they like to be dominated, they like variety and emotion and immersion, just like the Sex God Method…
/r/askTRP01/12/18 06:00 PM
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It's a great path you are on. Keep at it. That's the essence of IDGAF attitude. No matter what they do, or don't do, you will stay rock-solid. Fuck all the others and what they are saying. Trust me, this is good.
/r/askTRP01/12/18 05:54 PM
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Dude, she agreed to come to your place. Why would you soft-next her? There are two reasons that I see for her coming to your place. She either wants to fuck you senseless, or she thinks of you as a platonic friend. You could ask us what to do, but we can't tell you for sure, even if you write intricate, detailed 30-page descriptions. You escalate and see what happens. One of the basic rules of TRP is: "Rejection is always better than regret." Did you forget that?
/r/askTRP01/12/18 05:52 PM
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Well dude, you're a great writer. Do you have a journal in which you write consistently? Instead of daydreaming, you could use that, because it: 1) Clears up your mind. 2) Improves your writing skill. To me it seems like your problems are about lack of motivation. Did you find a purpose for yourself (we call it a Mission)? Also, to stay more focused, you could write a to-do list every day before you go to sleep, for the next day, so that you don't have any excuses to be lazy. On that list, you c…
/r/askTRP01/12/18 05:48 PM
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Before you self-prescribe any condition to yourself, go get a blood test done. Focusing on things like testosterone, estrogen, vitamin B12... All of them play a vital role in your manliness. Also, you are young, dude. You're probably still going through puberty. Your hormones are going haywire right now. Be patient and in the meantime improve on yourself. Also, don't masturbate, like the other guy said. If you are doing that, then it could be the main culprit.
/r/askTRP01/12/18 09:20 AM
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Yes, you failed. If you agreed and amplified, in the vein of "Yeah, me too. I'm so embarrassed I think I won't be able to see you anymore.", then you would pass the test. Or just shut her down, like "Well, if this is a deal breaker for you, you will have to let me go." All in all, one failed shit test won't be your downfall. What matters much more is your overall frame.
/r/askTRP01/12/18 09:14 AM
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I just remembered. A similar thing happened to my friend, although the two girls in question were close friends. Girl A sent Girl B to my friend, to try to seduce him. Girl A wanted to gauge his reaction. If he went with girl B, he was a "Player" / "Fuckboy" If not, he was "Boyfriend material". When he found out about this, he nexted them both. Whatever it is man, don't analyze too much. Pick one girl (I would girl A, because you went further with her, sexually speaking), and go make babies ;)
/r/askTRP01/12/18 08:39 AM
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It's good that you went no contact. Keep at it for a few days, then hit her up again. See if she pushes for commitment again. She probably won't. Remember that there are thousands of fishes in the sea. Just because you will maybe have to let go of one of her, doesn't mean that you will forever stay with only the other girl. She'll probably come back to you in a few months either way, if you stay no contact and have been fucking her good. Also, remember that having only one plate is a DANGER ZONE…
/r/askTRP01/12/18 08:31 AM
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You prioritize. For example, if my friend declines to meet up for a second time, stops responding to me, and all that, I put him on the last place on my imaginary friends list. I don't invite him anymore, don't talk to him, nothing. Eventually, he might come around to me again, so I wouldn't hard-next him completely, just because he found a girl or a new set of friends. He could be useful to me later on in life. The friends that are proactive in your friendship (calling you out, meeting up with …
/r/askTRP01/12/18 08:24 AM
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Do what you can do now, but in the future consider having an Emergency Fund, for contingencies like this one. Life is unpredictable. You need to be prepared for it. You will never improve your financial situation if you keep living from today to tomorrow. This is a great lesson!
/r/askTRP01/12/18 08:15 AM
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Heartiste had this nice little saying: "Betas mate-guard; Alphas disregard." ​
/r/askTRP01/12/18 08:12 AM
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If she really is a friend of hers, it's a mistake to pursue both of them. You shouldn't date women of the same social circle, unless you like drama coming your way. If you like girl A more than girl B, you could tell her about girl B. Playfully, something in the lines of "Hey, tell your friend [girl B] to stop texting me all the damn time. She wants to meet, but I can't satisfy all of you :)" This will spike up dread in her and if she really likes you, you will much more easily lay her the next …
/r/askTRP01/12/18 08:07 AM
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You are overreacting, though the guy is probably "shady", as your friend put it (which I interpret means wanting to put his dick in her). In another seduction forum, we have a little saying that if you are creating a thread on something problematic about the women you have sex with, you are by default needy and have lost your frame with her a long time ago. An Alpha in your situation would think to himself: "Even if she did have sex with him, she would very soon realize that he is no match for m…
/r/askTRP29/11/18 09:48 AM
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They could be intimidated by you. They could be shy. They could be in a bad mood. They could just be indifferent to you. Bottom line, why do you care? You will never be cordial with everyone. Nor should you try to be. Also, train to not seek validation / attention from other people. If this little thing bothers you, there may be bigger personality problems lurking underneath the surface. Think about it.
/r/askTRP29/11/18 09:20 AM
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someone on my other thread said that girls aren't nice to people being shitted on and would add on, unless they liked me. This is false. She could be nice to you for numerous reasons. She could feel pity for you, she could like you more as a friend than the other guy, she could hate the other guy, consequently sympathizing with you. Human motivation and subsequent behavior is not black or white. It is much more complicated. On the other note, don't get too hung up on IOI's. Sometimes there will …
/r/askTRP29/11/18 08:36 AM
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Maybe you got bored of your current lifestyle and need something new. It all strongly depends on your personality. You sound to me like an introvert, so having a lot of friends would probably not suit you. Having one to two good friends is all that you need, really, just to chill and talk about stuff, to unwind. Remember that we are social creatures, and evolution has built in us the need to socialize. That's all there is to it. You need to socialize. With whom, how long, and all that is up to y…
/r/askTRP29/11/18 08:25 AM
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Yeah, I'd also say that she is confused. You are acting like a boyfriend, or a friend-zone guy, not a man who is going to give her amazing sex on the side, occasionally. You could stop texting her so often and suggest one more time to hang out. Then see what happens. If nothing happens, next her. Then think hard and strong about what mistakes you made, so that hopefully you won't make them again with another girl.
/r/askTRP29/11/18 08:10 AM
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It might be too late to bring her back to bed again, but there's no harm in trying. Texting is a thing where it can't help you too much, but could be very damaging, if you do something wrong. That "wrong" part means: texting too much, too often, being boyfriendish, not asking her questions, being emotional. Hit her up, say "What's up?" or "How's life?", text with her for a few responses, and then suggest drinks. If she agrees, say "I'll see you there." and stop texting. If she declines, say "No …
/r/askTRP28/11/18 11:20 AM
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Skip the dinner, go directly for drinks.
/r/askTRP28/11/18 11:13 AM
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1) A LTR is hard to manage properly. 2) In an LTR, the woman either owns your balls, or you have to constantly control, babysit and have drama with her. 3) Us humans are not biologically wired for monogamy. You guys will eventually get bored of each other (she will sooner than you, usually). 4) An LTR will promote laziness and complacency in your women side of life. 5) Your game will deteriorate, if you have any (which I doubt, because you said "... most of us are lucky to have even one chick be…
/r/askTRP28/11/18 10:05 AM
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You lack the IDGAF mentality. You should get to a point where you could go out to the town with rags on you and not care a single bit. Why be concerned with stupid shit like that? But, if you are going out specifically to do game, or if you are on a first date, then it's important to look good. I wouldn't tell anyone if the clothes are from thrift shops, especially if nobody notices it. Although, if it makes your confidence plummet, then I wouldn't take the risk. Dude, you literally need two out…
/r/askTRP28/11/18 09:51 AM
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You should keep your goals a secret from other people. You get a little hit of dopamine whenever you tell someone your big goals and dreams, which keeps you from working on them and achieving them. Tell them all about it once you complete your goal, but not before. I don't see the point of it. Your question is a value-based one. It all depends on your values. Do you value family, security and conformity more than success and independence? If you take a good look in your soul, you will find your …
/r/askTRP28/11/18 09:44 AM
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It can become an addiction, like all the others. And if you are in the ring with an addiction, the way to win is to rewire your brain's reward system. Read up on it. There are numerous books about it. Two that I would suggest: Richard O'Connor's Rewire, and Breaking Out Of Homeostasis by Ludvig Sunstrom (the book is full of great advice, and tackles the reward system specifically in one of the chapters).
/r/askTRP28/11/18 09:38 AM
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People in the Alcoholics Anonymus live by the rule of "No half measures." This means that if you drink once in a while, you are still a drinker. The same applies to weed. If you smoke occasionally, you are still a weed user/smoker. This little rule is very powerful, because it teaches you not to accept compromises. Smoking occasionally is a compromise. Plus, it's a very slippery slope, because of the rationalizations that you can come up with for smoking weed. And the smarter you are, the more s…
/r/askTRP28/11/18 09:32 AM
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Burn your bridges. It is hard at the beginning, but it s worthwhile. I think it is on The Sidebar, but we here have a theory called "Crab bucket mentality". Read up on it. Everyone gives off a specific vibe/aura and it is highly contagious. You could go with an indirect solution and try to make compromises so that you can remain friends with them. Or you could choose a direct solution and find more amazing friends. They are out there. You just have to want to find them.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 03:05 PM
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Part of it will always be about character. Some guys are born with more of it, some not so much. I wasn't, so I guess we fit in the same department. I found some very charismatic and extroverted friends and started hanging out with them. I read the theory about charisma, people skills, etc. ("Olivia Fox Cabane, The Charisma Myth" is a great book on that subject) Then I emulated the behavior I learned when I was with other people. Then I calibrated the methodology and practice to my specific char…
/r/askTRP22/11/18 03:01 PM
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If she is a FWB, then no. I don't even congratulate them when it's their birthday. Wishing her happy thanksgiving is even weaker. If you text her for any random occasion, it gives of a needy vibe. If you don't do that, it makes you look busy and with a lot of things going on in your life. That is sexy.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 02:57 PM
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It is a difficult situation, but don't put so much pressure on yourself. She is a grown-up human being, she can (and should) make her own decisions. The thing is, maybe deep down she wanted an excuse not to go. However it may be, your only duty that I see here is to tell her that there is a possibility of you breaking up, or having problems, or whatever, down the road... Does she want to stay either way? If her decision is sincere, then yeah, morally speaking you have some obligation to her (in …
/r/askTRP22/11/18 02:55 PM
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I don't get all this fuss about "damaged" girls. If she is "damaged", as you say (though I would love to hear a definition), well then she stays as a fuck-buddy, and nothing else. If she isn't "damaged" (I prefer the word "problematic") and I like her somewhat, I may consider making her something more. But she has to go through the filtering process. You see, that way, "damaged" girls shouldn't be any source of fear for you. But if you can't keep your distance from her, even if you know she is "…
/r/askTRP22/11/18 02:50 PM
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If you move in with her, it is going to be great for a little while, like the Honeymoon phase of a marriage. Then, after you get into the routine of living together, the frequency of sex is going to go down again. It's biology, it can't be helped. That's why I don't see the point of moving in with her, unless you're in your forties (I have heard that it is normal for men around that age to want to pair-bond with one particular woman). You could play games with her, manipulate and what not, but i…
/r/askTRP21/11/18 09:05 PM
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As the other guy said, if she is having sex with a man consistently, on a regular basis, AND CUMS every/ almost every time, you can bet your ass that you are going to become like a drug to her. Women start to get dependent on a guy who pleases her like that every time: giving/lending him money, making huge favors for him, being his little sex slave, cooking for him, cleaning, you name it... It's amazing as it is scary, if you value your freedom. But I still think that women feel this bond more s…
/r/askTRP21/11/18 08:54 PM
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Hunt for other kittens, but don't completely forget about her. Hit her up in a week, casually banter with her, then pull the trigger and suggest something else to her. You don't have anything to lose. You have to persist a little. But that "a little" is very important.
/r/askTRP21/11/18 08:49 PM
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I think you're making excuses for yourself. Don't compare yourself to anyone. You are a special individual, one of a kind. Who gives a shit what Chad does? You do what you want to do, but also you should determine the right approach for YOU and then take that approach. Don't paralyze yourself with all this comparing and analyzing. Yeah, maybe you don't have the social circle that Chad does, or the social proof. But if your SMV is high enough, and your Game is on point, it won't matter. There are…
/r/askTRP21/11/18 08:45 PM
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if comfort is what she lacks at that stage of seduction/relationship, introducing her to your friends should spike up her comfort. Of course, attraction should be present and at high levels also, but this goes without saying.
/r/askTRP21/11/18 08:36 PM
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Thank you my man. You can always PM me if there is something else that is bothering you. I'm here to help :)
/r/askTRP19/11/18 08:52 AM
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Maybe you are still afraid to escalate with them to something sexual, so you subconsciously ignore their cues. This happened to me recently. I was on a first date with a hottie blonde, and she asked me, "Do you have some weed at home?" I completely ignored her, since I already had three plates spinning, and just couldn't handle one more, logisitically speaking. Only when we separated did I realize what happened. Oh well... The funny thing is that when I was a Nice-Guy Beta, girls opened me / gav…
/r/askTRP19/11/18 08:49 AM
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I don't know of anybody that explicitly combines TRP concepts with business, but there are a lot of Alpha, self-made millionaires. Check out the following guys: 1) Grant Cardone 2) Brian Tracy 3) Caleb Jones, aka Blackdragon
/r/askTRP19/11/18 08:42 AM
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I would never go there, no matter how Alpha you are, how strong your game is, or whatever... The last time I read the statistics, the divorce rate in the western world is like 80% percent. Is this a bet that you would want to take? I mean, even if you forget about the divorce rape that will ensue, you think you will never want to have sex with another girl, ever again? And if you do, and cheat behind her back, what then is the point of the marriage? If it is built on deception, manipulation, and…
/r/askTRP19/11/18 08:39 AM
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The comfort tests and requests for exclusivity eventually hit all of us. No, they don't. It all depends on your frame and your sub-communications. I actually think that none of the girls I banged and had relationships with, ever asked for monogamy. But that is probably because, after about 3-5 months of seeing each other regularly, I give them the "Non-monogamy" talk. If you want to give her some comfort so that she will stay (which is weak and needy from the start, in my opinion), it's fine to …
/r/askTRP19/11/18 08:36 AM
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I know a lot of guys in the seduction community who are introverts. Don't make excuses for yourself. I'm an introvert as well. It was hard at the beginning, but all worthwhile things are. Your goal as an introvert is to practice yourself in extraversion, so that you can have a more balanced personality. And don't believe the myth that all women are attracted to extraverted, life-of-the-party guys. They aren't. At least not all of them. We as introverts can be much more easily stoic, non-needy, s…
/r/askTRP19/11/18 08:21 AM
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Should I be texting this chick and initiating convo at all or wait till she hits me up? You can initiate contact, but not often, and she should initiate more than you. Also, it doesn't matter what she does when she's not with you. Remember, she's just a plate. You don't have to babysit her, or be her little trick monkey.
/r/askTRP18/11/18 04:09 PM
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Some of them just can't orgasm, at all, no matter what you do. It's almost always psychological. What is important is that you make her feel good. Just focus on her for 15-20 minutes and make her feel damn good. Also, you should ask her some things like "Did you ever cum?", "In what way, what did the guy do?"
/r/askTRP18/11/18 04:05 PM
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Escalate sexually, then see what will happen.
/r/askTRP18/11/18 04:02 PM
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Start slowly. To me you seem overwhelmed with all this advice on here, trying to be something you are not (for now). Go step-by-step. For example, first force yourself to keep eye contact with strangers, longer and longer (doesn't matter what they think about it). Or go by yourself to a social place, just getting used to people. Then start communicating with some of them. Take it slow, but be open to everything. Say "yes" to everything. You will slowly start to get used to it. Only then should y…
/r/askTRP18/11/18 03:58 PM
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Yes, usually it takes a few different therapists, to find an appropriate one.
/r/askTRP18/11/18 03:52 PM
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Was I right or wrong? You did good. If she didn't satisfy you, why would you keep seeing her? To me it sounds like torture. If you didn't make any explicit commitments to her, you have nothing to feel guilty about. You should focus on girls who do make you happy, not make you compromise on every turn.
/r/askTRP18/11/18 03:50 PM
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Your goal should be to have sex with her again, as fast as possible, if you want some kind of ongoing relationship with her.
/r/askTRP18/11/18 03:45 PM
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Her roommates are drama queens. And probably jelaous too. I would completely ignore it. But you could ask her about her opinion on this. Or tell her to convince her roommates that everything is fine and to back off. Also, I would block her roommates on Facebook, just for fun.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 09:49 PM
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Reading this, you gave off the boyfriend vibe to me. It doesn't matter that you think of her as a "plate". What matters is your behavior. And you behaved like a potential boyfriend would. Why would you tell her your n-count? And who knows what else you told her, while drunk. But to me, she seems interested. Maybe she's making you wait to see if you are boyfriend material. Next time you see her, fuck her brains out. And no cuddling.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 09:45 PM
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There are a few factors that will make the girl more comfortable in the relationship, which will bring change, as you say. Change in the sense that she is going to start to be more demanding, give you more drama, refuse sex.... ​ In no particular order, some of these factors are: 1) How often you see each other. 2) Her being your only plate. 3) How needy you appear. 4) How jealous you appear. 5) Laziness and conformity on your part. 6) Doing the same routine with her - when you see her - every t…
/r/askTRP16/11/18 09:37 PM
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1) Have pics with hot girls 2) Have many hot girls like your posts/pics 3) Have many hot/popular guys like your posts/pics 4) Have a lot of hot male/female friends
/r/askTRP03/11/18 07:40 AM
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Why does self-improvement have to be tied up with monk mode? Why can't you have self-improvement and fucking girls at the same time? I don't just see the point in being celibate. But call me "noob" all you want
/r/askTRP02/11/18 05:01 PM
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Monk mode will just make you forget about the problem, until you find another amazing girl and start the cycle all over again. Monk mode is about avoiding the problem, not facing it head-on. This oneitis is a sign that you are not a full-grown man yet. You depend upon women for self-acceptance and happiness. How old are you? Actually, never mind the question. However old you are, you have the responsibility to make something of yourself. Just you posting here, wanting help, makes you special. Yo…
/r/askTRP02/11/18 04:37 PM
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Yes, it's completely normal. Don't get discouraged just because you are not on the level of the top-ranked posters here. Here are the ways that had helped me break free from oneitis: 1) Accept those feelings. Don't try to deny them. Picture your relationship and follow it to its logical conclusion in your mind. Your vision is too narrow. You have to widen it. 2) Tell yourself that you are going through NRE ("New Relationship Energy") right now. It's very powerful. In my experience, after NRE pas…
/r/askTRP02/11/18 04:27 PM
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Always remember this: IT IS MUCH EASIER TO FIND 10 NEW WOMEN WHO ARE WILLING TO SLEEP WITH YOU, THAN TO PERSUADE ONE WOMAN TO CHANGE HER MIND. All this game/seduction is a numbers game. You need to find new prospects, no matter your SMV. If you really want this one particular girl, wait a few months with zero contact, and then reestablish the contact. You will be "new" in her mind that way, especially if you changed dramatically.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 04:21 PM
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I have been in almost exactly the same situation as you. You have to get financially independent of them. That means paying your bills, your rent, taking care of yourself. If it means taking a shit-job, so be it. If it means hard labor, so be it. (If it is hard for you to get it in the normal way, get some new friends who are business-wise. You can easily land jobs through their recommendations.) It is worth it. You will not be happy until you get free. Your mother causes guilt and shame in you,…
/r/askTRP26/10/18 08:37 PM
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1) Add her to a social media site. 2) Banter with her a little (the best solution is: common topics) 3) Invite her out for coffee. Say something like: You seem interesting, we should hang out. 4) If she refuses, move on. If she accepts, proceed as usual. Nines are no harder to fuck than sixes, or sevens. It's all in your head. 5) If you manage to bang her, keep it as discreet as possible. You don't want any drama (I hope). ​ Honestly, I would pass this. It just doesn't seem worth it. But if you …
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:30 PM
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She's not a real plate since it's the only one I'm seeing atm. It's going to be hard for you to manage your jealousy and IDGAF attitude, if she is the only girl you are seeing. She's in a better position than you, and she probably knows it. How do I handle that part? Simply ignore it and never bring it up? If she brings it up do I try to change the subject or just show no interest in the discussion? Do you want her to be your girlfriend? If not, have fun with it, let her open up. Let her tell yo…
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:23 PM
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Venue changing after each drink makes it more likely she’ll buy a round. Only do venue changes if you are pushing for the same-night-lay. If not, you are wasting your time, money and energy with this tactic. If you don't want to bang on the first meet, buy a round and call it a night. On the second date, push for going to your place.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:17 PM
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Worth the chance. Push harder the next time. If nothing happens again, and I mean nothing, cut your losses and move on.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:15 PM
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This is the best sign you can get after the first meet. Schedule the next meet immediately, while the buying temperature is hot, and go further, if not all the way (sexually speaking), on the next meet. This is great dude. Whatever you are doing, keep it up.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:13 PM
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Do you guys think this strategy works for getting girls or no? ​ The things that make it "work" with women, have nothing to do with being a fuckboy or not. It's an option, and it could work, but to me, there are two downsides: 1) it takes a longer time to lay a girl 2) it practically ensures that you get drama in return. ​ But, if you can lay girls consistently with this strategy, go for it. Who are we to tell you that something is better or worse for you. You do you. ​
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:11 PM
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The standard Red Pill advice for this situation would be: Go Fuck Ten Other Girls.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 03:14 PM
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Truth!
/r/askTRP02/10/18 03:13 PM
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Ignore it and change the subject, or say something like "Hell yeah, I have 17 girlfriends, honey" with a smirk on your face.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 08:59 AM
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A useful thing in your situation is that in a social gathering your alpha attitude can appear even stronger than it is, because the people around you compare you with your beta friends, who are doing mistakes left and right. You can easily AMOG the group and that brings some great perks if you know how to use it. Just be watchful of your friends' jealousy, because it can motivate them to sabotage you in some way.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 08:57 AM
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is it more accurate to say that the primary focuses should be working on yourself and pursuing casual flings to increase your smv. Yes, exactly. You keep banging girls so that your game gets better. You focus on yourself, and only yourself. Then, trust me, of all those girls that you banged, you will realize there is one or perhaps two girls who you really like. That's the first criteria. The second criteria is that she is of a higher quality. Now that's when you do an LTR with her, if you want …
/r/askTRP25/09/18 05:58 AM
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You decide for yourself man. I don't practice monogamy, because I hate drama. Although monogamy has its own upsides as well, things that the usual player can't (and doesn't want to) experience. Rollo says that the red pill is a praxeology, meaning that it's a set of tools that you can implement into your life, however you wish. Don't try to be someone you're not. But also, don't disregard the advice here. Strike a balance.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 08:09 AM
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I would laugh my ass off if I was with a girl. Would also say something in the lines of, "Finally someone recognizes me. I'm a princess after all", with a sarcastic smile. Being a big guy, girls think that's funny. Even if the chef said it by accident, agree and amplify to it. Use it to have some fun with your girl. If you're a confident guy, his comment should mean nothing to you.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 08:05 AM
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Two or three times per week. You randomly decide the days. Girls are attracted by busy guys and that's how you portray yourself if you use this technique.
/r/askTRP22/09/18 03:24 PM
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It should go without saying that you should also have some days where you ignore her altogether. Say you were busy if she asks where you have been, or why you didn't reply to her. She will reward you with some amazing sex sessions.
/r/askTRP22/09/18 02:22 PM
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Trust me, today is the day. I'm hornier than a dog.
/r/askTRP19/03/17 12:56 PM
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If you may let me, while I have your attention, a follow-up question. This arose from an experience with a girl I had today. We fucked three times two months ago. Then we stopped. I pursued other potential lays and she probably went on riding the dick carousel, as MattyAnon stated. Today she was horny and I knew it because she already implied it to my friend (whom she didn't fuck but wanted to multiple times). The moment she saw me she played the same game with me. Contrary to him, I groped her …
/r/askTRP19/12/16 07:30 PM
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Thank you for the clarification!
/r/askTRP19/12/16 07:16 PM
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You sir, are a great writer.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/16 12:42 PM
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Your post is a really good observation. I'll try to internalize this process. Although, I have one question for you. I'm kinda subconsciously already living that way (ingrained perfectionism, I think), and oftentimes I experience a burnout. It's like a loss of all motivation. Complete disregard (lasting a day or two) for self-improvement. Does that happen to you? Do you think it's normal, or do you vigilantly pursue your goals, without any burnout? Just being curious. Thank you for the post, OP!
/r/TheRedPill14/11/16 05:01 PM
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It's amazing! It definitely is ;)
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