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| 1 | I just need some support - can’t keep doing thisIt’s funny, but you unknowingly used the operative word. “Equitable” It doesn’t mean equal. Courts have broad discretion to award assets. That’s why it isn’t always 50/50. One spouse might get more because the court decides that they “deserve it.” In my case, the judge gave my ex 80% of the assets. She lied repeatedly and the judge didn’t accept any actual evidence to demonstrate that. In fact, my judge didn’t look at a shred of evidence. My “settlement” agreement was so unconscionable that I co… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/26 08:00 PM |
| 5 | Just passed……men are screwed again.They’re awarding her more custody because “she said so.” If women didn’t challenge 50/50, it wouldn’t be a problem. But by going to court and filing motions to have anything but 50/50, then the court intervenes. If women stopped challenging it, men wouldn’t have to fight it. Stop saying “there’s a reason men don’t have 50/50” when the reason is “women are preventing them from having 50/50.” And btw - in my case, after 5 years and hundreds of thousands of dollars of me fighting for it, the final … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/26 12:16 PM |
| 2 | Anyone sue their ex outside of family court?Why not consider doing it? Because it’ll upset the judge? My view? 90% of cases settle. My ex’s behavior was completely egregious in the divorce. Very long story, but let’s just assume that. If I could litigate my own case, she is going to have to spend money on her defense. Maybe it’ll help push settlement. I think I could recoup at least some of the money she took from me (not to mention make her suffer the way she has made me suffer, at least a little). And if I lose (either dismissal or an a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/26 08:00 PM |
| 13 | Question about communication. Ex wife continually call my kids when they are at my house for the weekI disagree with everyone else. You need to set boundaries with her. Set a call time every day. 6-6:30 pm for example. She doesn’t need to call them five times a day. It’s not “interfering” with the kids relationship with their mother. It’s setting appropriate boundaries for separate households. Because once she starts calling multiple times a day, her incursions into your life are going to continue and get worse. It’s your house and life. You get to run it the way you want. And you get to decide… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/25 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Do they ever stop?The statutory formula. It’s not the $600 a month that is the issue. If that was it, I’d take the L. It’s that I still pay 50% of expenses too. Which last year she alone racked up $25000 worth. I pay health insurance and I’ve been stuck with my own $15000 worth of costs with. Not to mention more attorneys fees and I’m still trying to pay off debt from the divorce too. It’s a never ending money drain that has never been actually examined. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/25 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Do they ever stop?Seriously, you have no idea what the fuck you’re talking about. You have no idea how long, how hard and how much I have spent to fight for my kids. Get the fuck out of this group. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/25 03:37 AM |
| 10 | Handling Abuse AccusationsThe ugly truth is that anyone that buys her bs, you don’t want them in your life anyway. My ex did the same thing and I lost “friends” over it. They were her friends anyway and I didn’t really lose anything in practical effect. None of my actual friends were on her side or believed her at all. In the grand scheme of divorce, if that’s the only fallout you have, you are coming out very well | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/25 12:40 AM |
| 2 | Getting your motivation backNo question. It’s a common story though. Family courts are the worst. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/25 07:30 PM |
| 3 | Getting your motivation backThe judge didn’t look at any evidence (literally zero). He just relied on her testimony. Some evidence I had was bank accounts statements demonstrating her draining marital bank accounts of $80,000 one time, $30,000 in another and $25,000 in another. The judge didn’t look at them. Other evidence was her using marital assets to buy a house and her perjuring herself by not disclosing the house, her mortgage payment or the mortgage (her debt) on her financial affidavit. The judge didn’t care, only … | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/25 01:19 PM |
| 5 | Getting your motivation backPick whatever stereotype that men face in divorce and it happened to me. My ex silver bulleted me, kicked me out of the house, perjured herself, dissipated assets, hid assets, the guardian ad litem refused to see any evidence I presented her, judge only listens to my ex, etc. And I sound like the poster child for why you should never get married, but it’s all absolutely true. My divorce took five years and NO ONE (not the judge, not the gal, etc.) actually looked at any evidence. They all only l… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/25 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Getting your motivation backOh, I’m not going to start saving for it now. It’s just yet another I was ordered to do with no actual consideration of what the court did to me financially. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/25 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Hiding evidence - Judge doesn’t careDm me. I’d love to help you avoid some of the suffering if I can. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/25 03:45 AM |
| 12 | Super depressed about moneyPk2at - that’s an asshole response. Men don’t know to look on this forum until after they are already in the divorce process and being fleeced. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/25 06:20 PM |
| 12 | Abolish the patriarchy………. You lazily labeled what I said as “hate.” Lazy. I don’t hate women. I was presenting the logical fallacy. My point (that you have missed entirely) is logically, the argument that “the patriarchy hurts men too” doesn’t make any sense. How about you respond to that, instead of throwing words like “hate” around? | /r/MensRights | 24/03/25 03:26 AM |
| 14 | Abolish the patriarchy……You should understand that in “debates,” between men and women that we all have our own sides. By saying “not all women,” you’re ignoring the essential point. Just go away. | /r/MensRights | 24/03/25 03:08 AM |
| 15 | Abolish the patriarchy……Why are you on this subreddit? You have added nothing of value. Go away. | /r/MensRights | 24/03/25 03:07 AM |
| 23 | Abolish the patriarchy……Here, let me Google that for you…….. https://www.feminists.co/discover/nergizdebaere https://chixmag.com/editorial/the-next-phase-of-feminism-is-matriarchy You’re lazy. Instead of actually responding to the point, you pick it apart. “All women can’t be lumped together….there are people that feel different…..” Classical logical fallacy of hasty generalization. | /r/MensRights | 24/03/25 02:55 AM |
| 28 | Abolish the patriarchy……Not at all. The common refrain is “the patriarchy is bad for men too, so men should want to get rid of it.” Women say it. Men say it. It’s a common justification spouted off to try to get men to “abolish the patriarchy.” But how will abolishing the patriarchy benefit men? Because what is being suggested as a replacement isn’t “equality and justice,” it’s “we need to put a matriarchy in place because the patriarchy was so bad.” Please point to one instance where someone said “we replace the patri… | /r/MensRights | 24/03/25 02:20 AM |
| 2 | The Guardian/Richard Reeves on why Democrats lost young men🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/11/24 02:56 AM |
| 18 | The Guardian/Richard Reeves on why Democrats lost young menYou’re right. My word choice was poor. I shouldn’t say it’s anti male. I can say it definitely isn’t pro male. But I think more aptly, it doesn’t appeal to males. And I think males feel left out of it. https://democrats.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/FINAL-MASTER-PLATFORM.pdf Look at chapter 6. It references multiple groups specifically, but there is no mention of men. Even as men feel that they are struggling (regardless of the veracity of it; I don’t want to debate that), there is no mention o… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/11/24 06:54 AM |
| 17 | The Guardian/Richard Reeves on why Democrats lost young menI’m a hardcore, white, 45m Democrat. I’ve worked in Democratic politics for my entire career. This anti-male platform/campaign/nature of the Democratic Party is terrible for business. The Democrats job should be to ELECT people that can advance the party’s agenda. For years, I’ve said the only place for white men in the party is is you’re a billionaire. Only if you can effectively pay for your own campaign, can you really be elected as a white male. And what has this anti-male stance of the part… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/11/24 04:07 AM |
| 1 | Financial AffidavitYou just did the BEST thing you could do at this point. You recognized that it’s in her character to make false allegations, etc. That’s where most men fail in divorce. They go into it hoping it will be “civil,” and when their ex wife goes nuclear, they aren’t ready. Your ex did you a favor. She brought lawyers in but hasn’t gone on the attack yet. Get a lawyer, don’t start going to war, but be prepared for if she does. Hopefully you can keep it business like and not personal. But always be read… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/24 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Financial AffidavitContested is different than “contentious.” Just because she hired a lawyer doesn’t mean she’s going scorched earth. Has she started making false allegations, demanding everything, attacking you, etc.? | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/24 03:28 AM |
| 2 | Financial AffidavitMy ex wife routinely lied about income and assets. I had demonstrable tangible evidence that she was lying on her affidavit. Nothing came of it. If you’re in a contentious divorce, it might become an issue. But if you’re living towards an amicable settlement, it might not become an issue. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/24 12:01 AM |
| 3 | It’s been over 2 years and I still can’t seem to move onYou need to date a lot of women. Now. After dating a bunch, entering “situationships,” etc., you’ll begin to see that “it was just your turn” with your ex wife. With women, it’s just your turn. You can have a true relationship with them, build a life you themselves, give up everything for them…..and then one day they decide that for some reason, they’re not happy and it’s over. Once you realize that it’s “just your turn,” you’ll start making sure you’re protecting yourself in these relationships… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/24 04:35 PM |
| 8 | Anyone else having ed issues with new partners since filing for divorce?Everyone is taking too many words to respond. Yes, a lot of us have had issues. For whatever reason (psychological, stress, physical, whatever). There’s a little pill for that. They’re really easy to get an online prescription for (for hims, lemonade health, etc.) I’ve had more sex since I’ve been divorced than I ever had when I was married. And no one knew I was “on the pill.” Don’t stress about it. Get a prescription. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/24 03:02 AM |
| 1 | First time feeling something with someone new, am I going too fast?I had a similar narc ex wife, although when I left her I didn’t look back at all. I’ve dated a lot since I left her (80 some women in roughly four years). One of those women, I dated for a year and a half and it was incredible. We had that same immediate connection and the conversation was like yours too. Non stop, engaging and really fun. It didn’t work for a number of reasons, but I was looking for a similar connection since. I’ve recently started dating another woman and we have a very simila… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/24 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Is the society better made for men?This. This point is what has never been articulate so well, in my opinion. I get what happens to women is awful. And too common. But it’s accepted as “wrong.” What happens to men is just as awful and common. But it’s accepted as “ok.” | /r/MensRights | 06/09/24 02:01 AM |
| 3 | HopeFirst, I’m glad you got the result you deserved. I’m sorry it’s so taxing. I had a very similar situation, with the opposite result. My ex took everything, cost me just about everything (she got about 90% of marital assets) and I only got 60/40 custody. Even though I’m supposed to be getting support from her, she convinced the court that I should pay her. I say this that even if you have the situation like the OP, the system can still be completely against you. My judge didn’t look at a single p… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/24 04:32 PM |
| 4 | This is a big reason relationships are failing and people aren’t getting married anymoreI respect the hell out of teachers. I also work with schools and have previously worked in HR for schools. I’m sorry, but they’re not under paid. Teaching is a TOUGH job. But they get three months+ off a year. They also don’t work eight hour days (my kids are in school 8:50-3:30). And they can supplement their income in various ways (getting paid for after school programs, summer jobs, etc.) It’s a tough job, but given the parameters of it, teachers are not underpaid. | /r/MensRights | 27/08/24 03:48 PM |
| 7 | Ex demands one of our children needs counselingI’m going to share a disheartening story. I was in a similar boat. Ex wanted the kids (I have three) in counseling, I didn’t. Pretty much same story. I didn’t feel they needed it, she said they did. I said their behavior problems were because of her poor parenting and only happened with her. Got the kids evaluated. Therapist said that one needed “limited” therapy. That kid got six sessions. Therapist said he was having adjustment issues with divorce but was okay. Ex didn’t like that. Went to cou… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/24 09:25 AM |
| 7 | What are your thoughts on the “mental load” debate?I’m divorced, which provides context. When we were together, I had a much larger “mental load”, than my ex. It was like the gender roles were reversed, in that I did almost all of the various things that are complained as “adding to the mental load.” And you know what? It wasn’t a big deal. Honestly. I did the traditional “male” chores and I did the mental load of just about everything. And I do it now with my kids when I have them. That said, I think a lot of the “mental load” that is created i… | /r/MensRights | 05/08/24 12:20 AM |
| 3 | They always out themselves as disgusting peopleThis might not be the place, but I’ve recently been thinking of the concept of how the “slave morality” of the matriarchy has been used to co-opt the “master morality” of the world. I’m not saying that “might makes right” should be the dominant morality, but rather that the matriarchy has upended things. I understand the flaws of nietzche, but the concept is apt for what has happened today. Now, the solution is something I don’t necessarily agree with. The idea of the “ubermunensch” to upset thi… | /r/MensRights | 06/07/24 01:28 PM |
| 1 | If we could talk about our stories, would it be way more commonOn average, women abuse the shit out of men….. But somehow it’s worse because men damage women worse when they abuse them….. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/06/24 06:08 AM |
| 2 | If we could talk about our stories, would it be way more commonMaybe you’re right. Maybe it’s just “women can’t physically damage men, AS MUCH as men can physically damage women…” | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/06/24 03:29 AM |
| 7 | If we could talk about our stories, would it be way more commonThe problem is we equate “abuse” with physical abuse. And no woman is going to really hurt us with their physical abuse (except for when they have weapons). I knew my ex was physically abusive to me. Because it’s never okay to use violence to solve an issue, EVEN IF IT DOESNT REALLY HURT. The physical abuse wasn’t really physical….it was emotional abuse. She basically treated me like absolute dog shit in all ways, and she felt that she could physically push me around too. She couldn’t. Physicall… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/06/24 02:48 AM |
| 25 | SAH Wife wants Divorce and wants to move the kids out of stateChild support is always modifiable. Meaning, even if she doesn’t get it now, she can always file for it later. And she will file for it later. She’s going to forget how “understanding” you are when she can’t afford to live on her own. She’ll tell herself “he owes this to the kids. She’ll get resentful that she has to do it all by herself, even though it’s her fault in the first place. Whatever the reason, she’ll make you to be the bad guy in her head, to friends and family, and go after you at s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 03:40 PM |
| 12 | Why am I still surprised?This. Thanks for formulating something else that was going around my head. It’s the programming. Hadn’t thought of it that way, but my reaction was “she really can’t be that bad, can she?” But you’re right. She’s programmed. | /r/MensRights | 31/05/24 08:50 AM |
| 1 | The narcissist has brought me to the end of my life.How long have you been on this subreddit? ;) The judge repeatedly told me or my attorneys, “if you go to trial, I will make all the assets marital and give them to her.” We had a date for trial and spent the day in pretrial settlement negotiations where he kept repeating that. I believed him. Maybe I shouldn’t have, but he’d been saying it for two years and ignoring any evidence I tried to present. My attorneys believed what he said was grounded in law and I couldn’t appeal it if he did award he… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/24 11:56 AM |
| 7 | The narcissist has brought me to the end of my life.I don’t know you. I don’t know what you’re going through. But I think I have an idea. I’m saying all of this to demonstrate that I think I have an idea. This isn’t to “one up” you. I will explain why at the end. I’m going on three weeks divorced, as in my divorce was finalized three weeks ago tomorrow. It was four years, $400,000 and I got absolutely screwed over. She got 90% of the assets and I have 60/40 time with the kids. Not to mention she makes 250% more than me, and I STILL have to pay he… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/24 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Getting divorcedDon’t go into this assuming it’s going to be an equal split. There are many men (myself included) that didn’t get a 50/50 split, even though their wives made more money. Best way is to settle it quickly and with as little lawyers involved as possible. Get a lawyer, but force a quick resolution, as lawyers make everything much more difficult. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else lose everything? I paid bills out of joint acct during 3 yr divorce, judge ordered me to pay $ back bc I did it w/o permission& 2 yr later judge ordered me to pay my half of house sale within 7 days + 8 yrs spousal support bc she's uneducated.No | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 10:36 AM |
| 15 | Anyone else lose everything? I paid bills out of joint acct during 3 yr divorce, judge ordered me to pay $ back bc I did it w/o permission& 2 yr later judge ordered me to pay my half of house sale within 7 days + 8 yrs spousal support bc she's uneducated.Oh, and even though she gets child support, the judge refused to award alimony to me. The system is criminal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 01:21 AM |
| 16 | Anyone else lose everything? I paid bills out of joint acct during 3 yr divorce, judge ordered me to pay $ back bc I did it w/o permission& 2 yr later judge ordered me to pay my half of house sale within 7 days + 8 yrs spousal support bc she's uneducated.I received my final judgment about a week ago. I’ve been hesitant to post it here because I’m still reeling. I have 40/60 custody (which I fought tooth and nail for). The judge gave her just about everything. Even though she makes $250k to my $100k, I have to pay $500 a month in child support, plus 35% of expenses. In one week since the divorce, she has already billed me for $500 worth of expenses. In addition, she was awarded approximately 80% of the marital assets (not counting what she spent … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Well it's finalIt’s not the lawyer. I got a similar deal, maybe even worse. It’s the system. The judges. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Countdown to Sock Day?A perfect storm of my ex being absolutely insane, and if it was even possible, her attorney being more crazy. Every little thing is an issue. No compromise. No rationality. It’s been just brutal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 01:07 PM |
| 14 | Why don't us men open up about the fact that we're not okay?Because the socialization of women is to “take,”including emotionally. 75% of consumer spending is women. The idea that men pay for dates. The vast majority of dangerous jobs are held by men. And more. And emotionally, when someone is expressing an emotionally hard thing, they are “taking” from the listener. That’s counterintuitive, but let me explain. To be emotionally intelligent means to be able to correctly identify and process your emotions; but also to be able to correctly identify and pro… | /r/MensRights | 28/04/24 03:34 AM |
| 19 | Help me articulate why divorce is so hard for menThe fact that the truth doesn’t matter is the worst part. The truth? I was a great husband. Now I’m a monster. The truth? I was an amazing father. She would leave me for 8-10 weeks a year with three kids under four during the course of the marriage, let alone what I did every day. Now I can be trusted to have the kids for more than every other weekend. The truth? She hid assets, committed perjury and has blown up this whole divorce process to be the most painful as possible. But apparently I’m t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/24 01:42 AM |
| 6 | How do you cope with the anger and frustration that your spouse triggers in you?I’ve got a similar nex. And you know what works? Nothing. There is no way you can really deal with the emotional onslaught of someone trying to destroy you. The only thing I have found is compartmentalization. Meaning I am living my absolute best life when I don’t have to deal with her. When I deal with her, it’s an emotional onslaught and she is ridiculously abusive. But when I am not forced to deal with her (it’s usually kid or court related), I ignore all thoughts of her. Yes, they can intrud… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/24 09:15 PM |
| 3 | For those who divorced an NPD/BPD woman with children-were you made to feel as though greyrocking was a form of abuse and bad for the kids?Sorry, I commented above before I saw this post. Without a gal or judge to appease, fuck everyone else. Your attorney can shut up. Your marriage is over. You never have to deal with your attorneys or your ex again. Do what you need for yourself. I was suggesting not acting that way in front of the judge because it can hurt you. But if you settled it with attorneys, you do whatever the hell you want. Who gives a shit what they think. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/24 03:31 AM |
| 2 | For those who divorced an NPD/BPD woman with children-were you made to feel as though greyrocking was a form of abuse and bad for the kids?I’m in the same boat as you. If I never spoke to my ex again, it would be too soon. She is dead to me. But the “system” doesn’t allow for grey rocking. The judge, gal and attorneys all take my grey rocking as “being the problem.” What the commenter meant was “don’t let the judge, gal and attorneys” see you grey rocking. You don’t have to play nice, but part of grey rocking is not giving the narc ammunition. That includes her flying monkeys (the attorneys, etc.) Just answer what you have to with … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/24 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Post divorce change in custody orderI think this is right | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/24 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Post divorce change in custody orderDo you know from experience? What you are saying resonates with me, given everything I have been through. But I’d like to hear more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/24 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Was it a celebration or relief?I’m hoping to be celebrating in May. I’m posting to follow this post and get some ideas. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/24 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Post divorce change in custody orderI have. The judge doesn’t really care. The statutory required distance is 25 miles. I live five. My ex has lied and said “dad can’t get the kids to school on time.” Which isn’t true, but the gal has bought it. I produced attendance records that showed my ex actually had a problem, the gal ignored them. Basically, no one gives a shit about the evidence, it’s whatever my ex says. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/24 07:03 PM |
| 4 | If I agree to terrible alimony can I get it changed later or ignore her completely ?Don’t sign. Please don’t sign. God, no don’t sign. Did I say don’t sign? Because if I haven’t, you need to hear that you shouldn’t sign the agreement. It will be the dumbest thing you could have ever done. However bad it is now, you will be stuck with it for the next 10 years. You MIGHT be able to get out of it, but will likely have to pay through the ass to get out and then even then you PROBABLY will be stuck with it. Plus, if you start making more money, she’ll go after that too. Fight for a … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/24 11:42 PM |
| 7 | If she was drowning…I’d throw her an anchor | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 12:08 AM |
| 5 | What do you do for fun.Before I was married, my escape from the ex was competitive bbq. Focusing on cook meat for 12-14 hours eased my mind and let me escape from how awful home life was. But it’s expensive. I still cook it, but can’t compete as much as I would like. So then I took up competitive steak competitions. It scratches that same itch at a much lower price point. I also fulfilled a twenty year dream by joining a local men’s roller derby team. If I didn’t have to still deal with my ex wife (we have kids), I wo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/24 01:52 AM |
| 11 | Be honest did anybody cheat at their bachelor party if so to what extent?Didn’t cheat. Ex was also controlling and dictated what I could and could not do. I would never have cheated anyways. Crazy thing is she violated every rule she set for me at my party. Double standards were crazy. Her sister actually cheated at her bachelor party. I think the lesson is that wives that are controlling are projecting what they are actually doing. Anyone concerned about cheating, and placing demands and rules, are more likely going to break the rules that they set for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/24 09:09 PM |
| 2 | Claiming Alcohol Issues (CA, US)My advice? Only do it if she does it too. My ex is trying to paint me as an alcoholic. I was more than willing to use it to prove that I wasn’t some got it set up. I was court ordered to do it three times a day when I have the kids overnight. No problem. I tested three times a day EVERY DAY for three months to show I don’t have a problem. However, if you screw up and miss a test (because you fell asleep, for example), your ex is going to jump all over you to say you were “hiding” something. I ha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/24 04:16 PM |
| 8 | Fear of committing after seeing all the horror stories here. Young man need adviceYour problem is…..she is the first “the one” you’ve had. This forum is littered with men that had “the one.” And they all ended up completely getting destroyed by them. This girl really might be “the one.” But it takes getting devastated in a divorce to be able to ask the hard questions of “the one” without worry that you’ll upset them. In other words, you should ask her ALL of the questions you have. Unflinchingly. If she doesn’t give you an answer you like, she’s not “the one.” Learn from us a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/23 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Throwing in the towel?This is what I wanted to know. Can you please say more? What happened in the 2%? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/23 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Throwing in the towel?I’m not sure. It’s a very long story. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/23 05:49 PM |
| 2 | Hiding evidence - Judge doesn’t careCook county? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/23 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Hiding evidence - Judge doesn’t careWhat state? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/23 02:37 PM |
| 2 | Hiding evidence - Judge doesn’t careWhat state was your divorce in? I feel exactly the same way. I’m going crazy here. How can it be this extremely one sided and not based on facts at all? I’m starting to come to the same view you have. Namely, if the mother doesn’t want to give you 50/50 custody and a 50/50 division of assets, you’re simply not getting it because you’re a man. The law says it supposed to be one way, the courts say another. But where I’m stuck is that she won’t settle for anything. Her most recent settlement is th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/23 01:02 PM |
| 2 | Hiding evidence - Judge doesn’t careIllinois. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/23 12:56 PM |
| 2 | Hiding evidence - Judge doesn’t careI filed a motion to substitute the judge. It was denied. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/23 12:56 PM |
| 5 | Marriage as a good way to preserve wealthNo. Marriage is not a good way to preserve wealth. You are more than likely to get divorced and losing your earnings in it. The 50% divorce rate is not the number to look at it. Think about it this way. How many of your relationships actually work? As in, every time you’ve dated someone, every time you had a long term relationship, etc. Are you still together? The VAST majority of divorcees have NEVER had a relationship work. As in, stay married to someone until you are on your death bed. That’s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/23 01:55 PM |
| 7 | DivorceFollowing. In a similar situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/23 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Divorce costsThere is only one way to tell if your divorce is going to expensive or not. Is your ex crazy or have they turned crazy? If your ex goes into it refusing to compromise, fighting everything, just assume that it will be expensive. It doesn’t matter how much you want to negotiate. If your ex won’t do it, there is nothing you can do, save for just giving in to their insanity. My ex refuses (I’ve been at this three years, with $200k spent so far on my side alone) to settle for anything other than “she… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/23 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Does it matter who serves who?I filed first and still got false dv charges. Nothing is prevented by filing first. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Kids activities and custodyHahahahhahahaha. You know my situation so well!!!! You have custody of your kids. You have no idea what it’s like otherwise. You shut the fuck up, get off the divorce_men page and go enjoy the fact you won. Why are you even lurking here? Seriously. This is a place for men that are getting fucked over by the family court system. Not for people in denial about how the system fucks over men. Fuck off and go elsewhere. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/23 12:40 PM |
| 1 | How to cope as an every other weekend dadThere is no standard custody in Illinois, that I’m aware of. I appreciate the suggestion. I’ll look into it | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/23 04:51 AM |
| 2 | How to cope as an every other weekend dadI appreciate that. To be frank, my current situation is bullshit. I’m six miles away. Fifteen minutes and my kids have their own rooms and a playground right across the street from where I live. If I loved to my ex’s town, they wouldn’t have half that. She wants me to move within three miles so she can continue to control me. It’s ridiculous that she’s convinced the GAL that that’s the problem in this case | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/23 05:28 AM |
| 1 | How to cope as an every other weekend dadCan you elaborate on moving as a “change of circumstances?” I don’t want to move to the same city of them for two reasons: I can’t afford it, but I can find an equally great place in the cities next door. I don’t want to be near my ex. I’d move to the other side of the planet to get away from her. Is it really just “moving to the same city” or does the judge see that you moved closer? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/23 04:29 AM |
| 2 | What’s It Like To Feel A New Woman For The First Time?It seems like you’re focused on the first person you’re going to be with after your ex wife. After being in a dead bedroom for the last five years of my marriage, the first person I was with was amazing. It was great to feel a spark again and desired, something that was long gone with my ex. Not saying my first was a rebound, but I moved on. And had more sex with more women. Each unique in their own way and each good. Not as amazing as the first time (given the newness factor), but all good. The… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/23 02:07 PM |
| 6 | I am on the brink of divorcing my "sweet perfect wife" and am being called a bad and terrible person - please help regain my sanityI’m going to add a new take. She could be a covert narcissist. This sounds like my ex wife. She had two “masks.” In the wider world, she was the nicest person in the world, driven, successful, etc. At home, she was a disaster and I was expected to be her servant. The manipulation was all the time. If I did what she wanted, she was angelic. The minute I didn’t (or didn’t live up to her unrealistic and unspoken expectations), the devil came out. Look into what a covert narcissist is. I truly didn’… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/23 08:19 PM |
| 8 | Help - Wife wants to reconlice marriage and doesn't want a divorce anymore BUT...I’m saying this to be helpful, not to attack. You’re acting very stupidly. If she files for a divorce in Washington, the courts will claim jurisdiction over the kids there. Unless you move back to WA, you WILL NOT have 50/50. Plus, you will be fighting an out of state divorce. You will be raked over the coals in every way. She filed for divorce. It’s over. Unless you have something in writing and stamped by the court, what she says does not matter. She will lie and twist things and say everythin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/23 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Do courts ever recognize “bitter baby mamas?”The term “bitter baby mama” is just a saying. Of course it won’t be used in court. The term “high conflict, extremely litigious, frequently misrepresenting herself,” will be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Do courts ever recognize “bitter baby mamas?”You’re right. Aside from something critical, a judge doesn’t care about the “bickering.” The problem is that mom gets away with murder during this, causing all sorts of pain, and absent something huge, she won’t have any repercussions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 08:38 PM |
| 4 | Moving onI’m in the same boat as the original poster. I’ve been fighting for three years, spent over $250k and am realizing that I’m probably going to get every other weekend with them and two dinners a week. Simply put, Im beginning to feel like I have to accept that I lost my case. My ex lied and cheated, and frankly perjured herself, but the court didn’t care. It was her word against mine and even when I could prove she was lying, they still took hers. I guess I’m trying to figure out when to see the … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/23 01:03 AM |
| 20 | Reminder to my fellow man.Let me second this and expound on it. I filed first, hoped it was going to be amicable. I thought my ex was smart enough to not want to spend money on lawyers and would want to get it done quickly. She even lied to my face and said “let’s mediate.” But as soon as she answered, it was all out war. Out right lies and accusations. The mistake I made was trying to be sane and to try not to fight. But she made it war. Men, if you have ANY thoughts that your ex will be high conflict, go nuclear from t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/23 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Dating after divorceI’m sad to see so many negative comments. We’re supposed to be supporting each other through this awful thing called “divorce as a man.” I had a similar experience to the poster. Dated immediately after separation (my marriage was dead two years prior), met a lot of women and went on a lot of dates. I ended up entering a relationship for a year and a half that was the best I’ve ever had. Learned a ton and was truly happy, despite my brutal divorce going on. When it came down to “blending” famili… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/23 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Spouse no budge on custodyDon’t go with a gal. In high conflict, they will pick a side, and it’s usually the mom. If you have a temporary agreement in 50/50, just keep the process going. If she won’t put 50/50 into a permanent order, get a trial date. Most divorces settle so when you get closer, it’ll get finalized. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/23 10:34 PM |
| 9 | How different is your wife from before when you were dating compared to after you got married?My ex changed immediately after the wedding. Unfortunately, I didn’t understand covert narcissism when I met her. I won’t go into details about her behavior, just wanted to encourage unmarried people to really research covert narcissism before they get married. My ex’s mask came off after the wedding, but she love bones and mirrored me to get her to marry her. Then her true personality emerged after she locked me down. Cue the next 15 years of hell for me as a result. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/23 04:23 PM |
| 7 | This just happened tonightThis discussion has been fairly civil, but I’m going to put it out there. If you don’t press charges, she likely will create a false dv situation and press charges against you. Especially if you start the divorce proceedings. You can be empathetic later during the divorce, if she shows herself worthy of it. But chances are, she will eventually be out for blood and you’ll need her dv charges against her to show who really was the abuser. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/23 12:19 PM |
| 1 | What's the worst thing she did in your marriage that helped the Judge see her true colors?Don’t get a gal in a high conflict divorce. They won’t give 50/50. They’ll just give custody to her. Your ex will do everything possible to paint you as a monster, you’ll respond and the gal will pick. It’s better to just go to trial. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/23 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Unsubstantiated Claims of AbuseEven if laws don’t allow it, record. Even when they say it’s not admissible, they still watch it. And no one is going to prosecute for breaking the law. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/23 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Guardian Ad LitemsSorry to hear that. Thanks for saying what happened to you. I want my experience to not be for naught, so I’m telling it in the hopes that others won’t take the same path. I hope you feel the same way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/23 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Guardian Ad LitemsWhere are you? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/23 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Guardian Ad LitemsHighlighting this. Too true. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/23 07:35 AM |
| 3 | Guardian Ad LitemsThis. The gal spent thirty some minutes with my kids over three years and had more authority over them than I do. And when you question it? “Sit down and shut up.” | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/23 07:34 AM |
| 1 | Guardian Ad LitemsIt was never about pride for me. It was about my kids. When your ex never agreed to anything more than every other weekend, fighting against a person like that will be high conflict. Because you are fighting for everything you have and they refuse to budge. That’s not pride/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/23 07:31 AM |
| 2 | Guardian Ad LitemsI don’t think you truly had a high conflict divorce then. You weren’t divorcing someone willing to lie and cheat to win. They were always “low conflict,” but divorce probably started getting them upset. Once you were able to call the situation down, it was low conflict again. For us true “high conflict” divorcers, there was never any “calming down.” My ex lied to me from the beginning. I told her I filed and wanted a divorce and started from low conflict. She said “great,” I want mediation. I sa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/23 09:47 AM |
| 1 | Alimony + Child Support HelpMy judge didn’t care. My ex committed perjury and hid assets. I exposed it and NOTHING happened. She got to keep the assets she hid. I think the judge actually took issue with me exposing it because I was being “oppositional.” | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/23 08:12 PM |
| 2 | The NET costs of DivorceGal was against me from the beginning. She ignored every thing I brought up against my ex (including police reports, videos, emails, etc.) From the beginning, my ex convinced her that I was the devil and nothing I did mattered after that/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/23 01:34 AM |
| 2 | The NET costs of DivorceJudge also said, “this is how I’m going to rule at trial. If you take it to trial, I will penalize you.” | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/23 01:33 AM |
| 3 | The NET costs of DivorceIllinois. And this wasn’t awarded at trial. This was Pretrial. Judge said “since both of you can’t agree, I’ll go with the GAL.” Gal bought her lies from the beginning. I have never had an opportunity to present ANY proof (not just testimony) that my ex was lying. And she has lied a lot. Best example? We had a joint account that had commingled assets. My ex said “there was about $200k in premarital contributions from her to the account.” I said, “I’m not disagreeing to there being premarital con… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/23 01:32 AM |
| 3 | The NET costs of DivorceMy ex is/was the problem. For everything I did wrong, the reason the marriage failed is her cluster B personality. I’m fine with who I am and what anyone thinks. Fuck them. But I lost my kids and 15 years of earnings. That’s the thing that is kneecapping me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/23 01:28 AM |
| 6 | The NET costs of DivorceThat’s the dream right now. Passive income. My nex/stbx was such an idiot with finances that we didn’t do anything right financially when we were married. Can you shed any light on how to build passive income after a disaster if a divorce? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/23 01:26 AM |
| 1 | The NET costs of DivorceYou might be right. I don’t know how I came out financially “ahead,” given the lies I had to fight off. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/23 01:24 AM |
| 10 | The NET costs of DivorceI agree about watching the world burn. It’s amazing how your life can be absolutely destroyed because you said the two little words, “I do.” If the system is set up this way, I don’t care to respect it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/23 11:05 PM |
| 4 | The NET costs of DivorceThat’s the problem. I was fighting for my kids. My attorney didn’t think the judgment would go this awry either. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/23 11:04 PM |
| 3 | Love at First Sight-Need advice from random internet strangersI had a similar type of relationship when I first was separated. Instant chemistry and attraction. I, however, wasn’t as alert as you to the reality. I fell in love very fast and very hard. And it was honestly the best relationship I had ever had. I learned an amazing amount and found true happiness with someone. And did I mention that the sex was the absolute best I’ve ever had? The connection made it incredible. Unfortunately, she learned an amazing amount too. She was widowed at 34 and I was … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/23 12:06 PM |
| 1 | It’s basically OverThanks everyone for your thoughts. I’m kind of reeling still and not processing everything well, but I appreciate everyone’s input. Right now, I don’t think there’s much of any hope. It came down to a “he said, she said” between me and my ex. And the judge went with her. Some of the things he said were dumbfounding. He said I was the cause of all of the issues because I was “oppositional.” Well, duh. My ex wanted to get 90% of the marital assets and make me an every other weekend dad. I get accu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/23 08:17 PM |
| 2 | It’s basically OverThanks. It’s just amazing that one party just gets to say “no,” and there is nothing the other party can do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/23 01:04 AM |
| 2 | It’s basically OverThanks | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/23 01:03 AM |
| 3 | It’s basically OverYep | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/23 01:03 AM |
| 3 | It’s basically OverPm me and I’ll tell yoi | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/23 10:38 PM |
| 4 | It’s basically OverIllinois | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/23 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Did I screw up?Agreed. On all of it. I’ve been working for 2.5 years on the custody modification. Just trying to get to trial, because she refuses to settle. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/23 11:30 AM |
| 5 | Did I screw up?It was so late because I’m not supposed to have overnights on this night during the week. She refuses to let me have them, although I have other overnights with them. And yes, you can ignore the police. I was in my house and there was no reason to go outside. It’s also a civil matter, I hadn’t committed a crime and they had no reason to be there. It’s only because my ex likes to abuse the system that they came. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/23 11:29 AM |
| 3 | Did I screw up?There’s been a temporary order for about two years, while the divorce (ie, she refuses to settle) plays out. It’s silent on to what happens when someone is late. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/23 11:28 AM |
| 5 | Wife wants a second child and I don’t. She threatened divorce over this.I have three kids with my ex. She wanted three, I was good with two. I was stupid and had my third for her. Of course, she was awful with the first two kids. Did nothing, expected me to do everything and was a complete monster to me at the same time. Once she wanted to have the third? Completely different person. I fooled myself into thinking….maybe the hard days are over. Nope. As soon as she was pregnant, awful again. Women hide their awfulness to get what they want. They’re manipulative as he… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/23 01:04 AM |
| 13 | Wife wants a second child and I don’t. She threatened divorce over this.My ex sprang the same shit on me. And while I love my children more than anything, I regret them. And I do. Not only did they make my already awful marriage worse (they brought out even more awfulness in my already awful wife), they tied me to that woman for the next 15 years. And as awful as it was to be married to her, divorcing her has been worse. Almost three years and $2000+ later, she has done everything she can to keep me from seeing my kids. When we were together, she was a lazy piece of… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/23 01:52 PM |
| 3 | Does it ever get better with a narcissist?Ummmmm……who’s being a victim? I have kids with this woman. I am being proactive. When you’re in a relationship with a terrorist, you plan accordingly. I’m assuming my life is going to be a shit show because of her. I’m just trying to figure out how to deal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/23 01:35 PM |
| 5 | Amicable Divorce Could get Ugly Over One Major IssueIf you do let her establish jurisdiction in another state, than THAT a states judges will make all decisions. Do you really think a judge that is two states away is going to disrupt her life? Or the child’s? They won’t. The same thing happened to my brother. Ex took his kid out of state and established a new life. Even though the kid was born in his state and lived her entire life there, the new state took “jurisdiction.” Judge ruled “kid lives here now.” My brother got fucked. There is no 50/50… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/23 12:08 AM |
| 4 | Amicable Divorce Could get Ugly Over One Major IssueFILE IMMEDIATELY. There is no way this is going to be amicable. You need to establish jurisdiction in your current state, otherwise you’re going to fight in another states court system, should something go wrong. This will not be amicable in the future for you. She is going to fuck you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/23 12:04 AM |
| 4 | So, can they just lie with no negative consequences?My ex used joint marital assets to buy a house. Failed to disclose it six times in affidavits and representations to the court. She also liquidated joint assets. I wanted access to funds so I could pay my attorney. I was denied. I found out about the house (it’s kind of hard to hide that), went back to the court and demonstrated that she perjured herself. Asked for fees as a result of her lies. I was denied again. Women get away with murder in family court. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/23 06:00 PM |
| 5 | After Pre-trial hearing - don’t know how to feelI wish you were kidding. But you’re exactly right. And the crazy thing is that these are MOTHERS. Like they’re supposed to care about their children. Every post on these threads demonstrate that mothers don’t really care about their children….only about themselves. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/23 03:16 AM |
| 1 | After Pre-trial hearing - don’t know how to feelSee my reply above. Screwed up replying | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/23 01:33 AM |
| 2 | After Pre-trial hearing - don’t know how to feelThis is a good point. I appreciate it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/23 01:33 AM |
| 2 | After Pre-trial hearing - don’t know how to feelThis was meant for dumpsterdivingreader | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/23 09:52 PM |
| 4 | After Pre-trial hearing - don’t know how to feelBecause she is insane. ;) She literally said “the kids need to be with her on overnights because I don’t take them to their extracurricular activities.” While that isn’t true, I have fought against her scheduling things on my time without my permission. She has felt she can do whatever she wants and I’ve fought back. As for income, she said she contributed more to the marital assets, so she deserves more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/23 09:18 PM |
| 1 | After Pre-trial hearing - don’t know how to feelWhile I appreciate the idea, this was the judge telling how he would probably rule at trial. I could spend at least $50k at trial and the judge has basically told me what he is already going to do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/23 09:16 PM |
| 2 | 9 months in, women are beggining to show interest in me. How to behave?Exactly. You haven’t even been on a date with her, and you’re worried about marriage? IF (and that’s a strong IF) I get married again, it’s going to be after YEARS of being in a relationship. I’m not opposed to marriage #2, but she is going to have to be INCREDIBLE, all of the legal issues will be worked out and I will have to be undoubtedly sure that she’s sane. That takes years. Why would you even worry about that for a while? I get you want to have kids and you probably want to date people wh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/23 01:05 AM |
| 3 | Picking an attorneyYou’ve really got to gauge their experience with high conflict divorces. I have had two, and they both suck. My life has made it her mission to do everything to bleed me dry and destroy my reputation. Both of my attorneys have rolled over. If you think it’s going to be high conflict, be wary of anyone that says “I know when to negotiate and when to fight.” That’s what you’re supposed to say. Ask them to give you examples of high conflict divorces they tried. How did they win? What was the strate… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/23 02:20 AM |
| 1 | TrustI have two philosophies with relationships after my divorce. Trust, but verify. I’m going to assume the best, but make sure they are worth being trusted. If we can do it in religion, we can do it in relationships. I’m taking leaps of faith. I’m going to quiet the lingering doubt in my head that the person is going to be untrustworthy. After my ex wife, I can never fully trust again. But I recognize that that lingering doubt will always be there. And I don’t want to make that lingering doubt prev… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/23 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Anyone elses ex or stbxw really hot?It doesn’t hurt to live in Chicago, but that also means there’s more to weed through. ;) | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/23 07:45 PM |
| 5 | Anyone elses ex or stbxw really hot?My ex was a 9. Also crazy, abusive, etc. I started dating during separation and had no problem with getting dates with some amazing women. I met some great people, had more sex than I ever did while married and had a lot of fun. This isn’t me bragging, but it was a numbers game. I wanted to meet as many people as possible to see if we clicked. I would sometimes have 8-10 dates a week, with sometimes 2 a night. Doing that schedule while having my kids half the time wasn’t an easy feat. But it was… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/23 12:31 PM |
| 5 | Strategies to get a narcissist to settleDo narcs ever go to trial? I’m 2.5 years and $250k in and have absolutely nothing finalized. I was able to actually get a written agreement on the parenting plan and then she refused to sign it and started demanding a “global” settlement to get more money. I don’t want to go to trial. It’ll be another $50-$75k. But she refuses to settle anything. I would love any help. And for the record, I have 3 kids that I’m fighting for. She wants to make me an every other weekend dad, which would mean she c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/22 07:34 AM |
| 3 | For the men who initiated and filed for divorceWhen I was arrested and accused of domestic violence because she couldn’t communicate. If I had a problem and tried to talk about it with her, her defenses were to say “I want a divorce” or “I’m calling the police.” There was never a realization that maybe there was something wrong that needed to be addressed or discussed. It was just her throwing the proverbial “nuclear bomb” by those threats to win the argument. When she actually did it, it was the realization that she was a broken, damaged hu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/22 04:37 AM |
| 5 | “Tainted” by your exI feel stupid for asking, but please tell me more. I’ve never thought of requesting a hearing date. And I know this seems stupid, but I really need to hear more advice like this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/22 03:00 AM |
| 0 | “Tainted” by your exMan, I’m wondering. I’m $200k in. I might just be pot committed. Should’ve fold two years ago. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/22 02:52 AM |
| 8 | “Tainted” by your exShe absolutely won’t compromise. I’m fighting over the kids. She wants me to be an every other weekend dad. I want 50/50. So the divorce goes on….. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/22 02:51 AM |
| 4 | Pre-Divorce AdviseYes, exactly. Get a legal separation agreement. Call a lawyer and get one. Yesterday. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/22 11:38 PM |
| 3 | When you have childrenThose things you accuse men of “not doing?” I did/do them. I have less than 50/50 time with my kids, though I have been fighting for 50/50 the whole time. I missed two nights in a year and a half with them? Why? Once was because I was exposed to covid and didn’t have a negative test. The other was for work. I rescheduled both times. I took NOTHING from my home (I left her). She lived in a fully furnished home with the Mortgage in forbearance while I paid rent and had to furnish my whole home mys… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/22 01:36 AM |
| 23 | When you have childrenYour ex wasn’t psycho. None of that applies if she is. That all sounds good on paper and I would have LOVED a to do it that way. My ex used the children against me to punish me for leaving her. Almost two years and $150,000 later, we’re nowhere near done with the divorce. Instead of giving advice, you should be counting your blessings that your ex was sane. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/22 05:12 PM |
| 25 | Just sharing: Child Custody - A license to make a father's life a living hell on an unlimited basisSeriously, what is with women? I’m beginning to think that they are just inherently evil. I’ve never seen a guy start messing with custody for no reason, yet it’s par for the course for women. They use it just to punish their ex. Anyone who tells me we live in a patriarchy hasn’t been divorced. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/22 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Finally caught my ex in a lie under oath - Need helpThanks for reaching out. After much strategizing, my attorney is filing a motion for sanctions that will involve her paying $100k in attorney fees. Filed it yesterday. Went back and forth about asking the judge to file criminal perjury charges, but my attorney thought that would be seen as gamesmanship. I’ll keep everyone posted on how it goes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/22 02:07 AM |
| 8 | Finally caught my ex in a lie under oath - Need helpMy lawyer is thinking about how to respond. Just wanted to give him good ideas if there are any. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/22 04:45 AM |
| 3 | Cold feet on filing..Nope. This doesn’t help. He feels guilty enough when he shouldn’t. She’s a monster. File ASAP. Pull the band aid off. Those bad feelings and hesitations will eventually go away. I’m going through a BRUTAL divorce from some one not as bad as the writer. About three weeks after we separated, I had the craziest feeling. It was actual happiness. Hadn’t felt that way in over ten years. It’s going to be hard and she is going to make it so much worse than it needs to be, but I guarantee you will feel s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/22 02:06 AM |
| 1 | What do you do if you can't afford a place for kids to stay..I’d separate in place. Move into the basement. Limit your interactions to as little as possible. You can walk past her, but don’t say anything when you do. Don’t eat together, hang out, etc. do not talk to her and love a separate life. Install a video camera in your basement. Record every interaction with her if you think she is going to pull false abuse allegations against you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/21 12:46 AM |
| 2 | What do you do if you can't afford a place for kids to stay..Seconding that. Do not leave the home. She can leave if it’s too hard. If you leave the home, you will have a huge uphill battle to fight from the very beginning. That’s why happened to me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/21 12:43 AM |
| 3 | Power ex has over kids without a court agreementGood advice. Thank you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/10/20 05:00 AM |
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