I'm just venting because I need to get this out because it's going around in my head and I'm posting this to hopefully stop ruminating about it.

I went on a date with a woman.

I honestly don't know remember what was said, but I just remember her saying something extremely sexist against men. I replied that's very sexist and very offensive.

And she replied, "it's not sexist because it's based on a woman's experience."

We went back and forth and she refused to even acknowledge that she was prejudging men based upon their sex, again, justifying it by "women's experience."

I explained, "well, women have done really shitty things to me, but I don't get to prejudge women based on my experiences, do I?" And she said, "no because that would be sexist."

So then I asked "is it okay to say or believe racist things because of your experience?" And she said, "that's different." I asked her to explain, and her response was basically "women are allowed to be sexist against men because of their experience with men." I even said, "by that logic, a person who is a victim of crime by a black person has experience with it and can therefore be racist against all black people to assume that they will commit a crime then?" The response was "it's different."

I'm trying to figure out why this is bothering me so much because I'm not naieve to what men face in the world.

I think it's just the complete cognitive dissonance of the discussion. Like, how can someone profess to care about discrimination against EVERYONE else in the world, except men? And when presented with irrefutable logic of that discrimination, it's just blindly justified as okay? And furthermore, if this is how ingrained sexism against men is in women's minds, there's no changing it.

In typing all of this, I'm realizing that the thing that bothers me so much is how ingrained the thinking is. As a parallel line of thought, I'm not naieve to think that racism still exists. But most people at least will state "racism is wrong." Even if they truly are racist, saying racist things, or have unknowing racist beliefs, they will at least say "racism is wrong." OVERT racism is pretty much acknowledged as wrong, even though racism still exist.

But OVERT sexism against men is just excused. Period. It's not even questioned as "I know a person is wrong to feel this way, as it's sexist." It's just deeply ingrained in the collective psyche that there isn't even lip service that sexism against men is wrong. It's just accepted that men are allowed to be discrimianted against, all logic aside.

I know the best answer is to just disengage and move on, as there is no use arguing. I just stopped texting her after the date, as she doesn't even think she said anything wrong. I get it. I "dodged a bullet" and I should be grateful that she showed me who she is before I invested more in her.

I'm letting it go and moving on and venting here is justing getting it out of my head. Thanks