How many of you have stopped having drunk sex entirely for fear of rape accusations?

DavidByron · 2012-08-29T17:25:35+00:00

Only with my girlfriend whom has provided clear-consent ahead of time for the night.

If I endup dating again, she better be completely sober.

2012-08-29T18:00:15+00:00

If she has so much as a drink in her hand, I will ignore anything even close to flirtation. If she gets flirty, I leave.

Because in Canada, drunk sex IS rape. But only men are ever charged.

blackmanplayt1 · 2012-08-29T16:38:44+00:00

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2012-08-29T18:47:51+00:00

I will not have sex with women I do not trust if either of us has been drinking. I have turned people down.

SpanishGuy · 2012-08-29T19:45:07+00:00

If you don't want to go to jail stay away from drunk girls. Leave if you have to.

Let the MR haters be the ones who go to jail.

johntheother · 2012-08-29T22:15:25+00:00

It is not fear that stops me. It is disgust with the total complicity and inaction of the general public in the face of glaring reality of a lop-sided social and legal climate.

kragshot · 2012-08-30T04:12:16+00:00

I'll just drop this here, and move on....

typhonblue · 2012-08-29T18:53:38+00:00

Have you?

Riesea · 2012-08-29T17:38:13+00:00

I don't drink at all because of stuff like this.

backside_attack · 2012-08-30T01:10:39+00:00

isn't this just fear mongering when it comes down to it? it's quite rare for someone to be raped, let alone for someone to be accused falsely of rape. One of my friends has had two girls accuse him of getting them pregnant (the only thing they were pregnant with was the crazies btw) yet he has no false rape accusations

I'm yet to get any myself and I don't know anobody who really has. I don't think you should let fear take over your sex life when there's such a low chance of such a thing happening

also I hate to be that guy but I hope some of you aren't adding to the fear mongering despite your chances of getting laid beforehand weren't that high up. not trying to turn this into assassination of character, but obviously it feels a lot better to say I don't have sex because of false claims, rather than say it's because I'm not good with women

2012-08-29T21:50:12+00:00

I try my best to gauge emotional stability and general craziness first and if she is really hot I do a risk assessment. It's not always easy, but I will turn a girl down if she's tipsy and we aren't in a relationship.

Even in a relationship I am pretty wary about it.

2012-08-30T00:20:17+00:00

Drunk sex has never been a very exciting prospect to me; I'd rather be at the party than upstairs, if you will. That said, I don't avoid women, I actually end up being quite the tease... drunk flirting is fun, and often leads to hooking up with them at a future date when sober.

I find that when a man turns down a woman, she ends up being more interested in him; of course, I've heard stories of getting called a rapist after saying no to a woman. I generally try to put things off till later, rather than say no; it's not rejection, but it's not agreement, so no one gets butthurt and the fun can continue, plus my options are left open...

DavidByron · 2012-08-29T19:26:16+00:00

Well let's face it any woman who accuses you of rape over simply drunken sex is the sort who would make a false accusation against you even if you weren't both drunk or even if you didn't have any sex at all.

So if you want to be safer just avoid all women. Use the rules men in the field of education already have to -- never touch a woman, never be alone in a room with one.

newmobsforall · 2012-08-29T20:44:26+00:00

Yeah, never ever. Drinking and sex just tend to lead to bad outcomes.

Knight_of_Malta · 2012-08-29T23:15:01+00:00

I have. With my GF of 5 years, because she has been on this feminist power trip shit recently. Shit is scary as fuck.

2012-08-29T20:05:04+00:00

Yes I have, but that's not the only reason. It's easier for me to tell if a girl is lieing about being on birth control if we're both sober.

MasterFortuneHunter · 2012-08-30T01:33:00+00:00

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vegibowl · 2012-08-30T03:03:30+00:00

Good Girl Me - Is taken advantage of while stoned, doesn't accuse him of rape.

Probably best if everyone avoids FWI. It'll never happen, but it's a good idea.

2012-09-01T03:24:34+00:00

I'm a college student and have found that women are really confused when they find out I won't have sex with anyone who has been drinking, or when I myself have been drinking. It get's very awkward if you try to explain consent and then people just think you're weird. So I just avoid the topic at all costs.

2012-09-03T00:25:27+00:00

I had a rule before I got engaged (not necessary now) that I wouldn't have any sexual intercourse of any sort with a woman that had so much as a single drink that night unless I had been sleeping with her for at least a month.

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drinkthebleach · 2012-08-29T19:38:38+00:00

When my girlfriend drinks, I either leave the house or stay on the opposite side of the house.

NWOslave · 2012-08-29T17:34:13+00:00

No one of course. Drunk sex isn't rape.

Title	How many of you have stopped having drunk sex entirely for fear of rape accusations?
Author	doch_doch
Upvotes	53
Comments	49
Date	August 29, 2012 3:49 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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