Can someone like me become alpha?

jeezydasnowman · 2016-04-19T18:54:35+00:00

If rsd Tyler can do anyone can do it

abdada · 2016-04-19T19:00:05+00:00

Yes you can definitely raise your confidence and charisma.

My #1 best result for autistic TRP candidates is to get them into a creative venture -- usually joining a band or starting a one-man band. Or working in a creative climate like mixology bartending, etc.

Once you have a LITTLE bit of fame, you'll lock down the abundance because people already think mixologists and keyboard soloist musicians are weird and have social glitches.

bruh_my_jays · 2016-04-19T19:37:15+00:00

You shouldn't feel a need to talk to other people if you don't want to. Obviously small talk is an important skill to have, but a man of few words can have a powerful image in his quietness. Instead, just focus on being able to express yourself clearly, effectively, and authoritatively when you do feel like speaking. Look people straight in the eyes and always speak your mind. Strengthen your frame.

Don't worry about transforming yourself into an extrovert, or "curing" yourself of your mild autism or whatever. Everybody is autistic nowadays. It doesn't even matter.

i find it hard to have a discussion or start one about anything interesting, like psychology, philosophy, neuro science (even though i don't know that much about it) and the state of the world.

That's because most people find it hard to talk about these things too, and quite frankly, discussing such intense topics will not advance your sexual or social campaign effectively. People are intimidated by intelligence. You need to learn how to seek the correct kinds of people out, and learn to balance these types of discussions with regular socializing. Go to different types of people for different stripes of socializing. Maybe try to join MENSA to have intelligent conversation, and likewise join a Greek fraternity (or some other club if you're not of college age) for a more active social life.

Find a physical pursuit to compliment your intellectual endeavors. Maybe join a gym, there are plenty of potential friends to be made there. The reason why I suggest this is because I view it as nearly self-sabotage to only grow intellectually or only grow physically without giving equal attention to the other. That is, your body should match your mind in terms of prowess or impressiveness.

Nothing puts you on the top of the social ladder faster than being the polymath. It sounds like have the mind, all you need to do now is to i) practice effective communication skills, ii) join a social club and/or find an activity that will help you to seek out potential friends, and iii) work on improving your body. All of this begins with you taking the necessary steps to succeed.

Make sure your actions of today are aligned with your goals of tomorrow.

My final advice to you, above all other things, would be to stop limiting yourself with the "I'm autistic" shit. I know plenty of people with "high functioning autism" that dominate life because they don't give a fuck. Real autism is debilitating. Consider yourself lucky to have everything you need to become the person you truly want to be. Some people don't have those faculties. Those people are ones who are truly autistic.

From now on, you're not 'autistic' or 'high functioning autistic'. You're only 'high functioning'.

SovereignWings · 2016-04-19T19:44:21+00:00

You lack positive social experiences and opportunities. That's all. I came from a similar background and still hold the same question, but things are getting better.

This is functionally no different than asking "can I become a master at basket weaving". Well, sure you can, Skippy. You have hands don't you? And eyes and ears. What is stopping you?

A ton of bad experiences have a tendency to make people (self included) feel like there is something " wrong" with them. That they are defective or somehow broken, and all of those bad experiences are their fault. To some extent that's true, but it's not the whole truth.

Read 'Father Forgets'. You are like that child, ignorant of social dynamics with weak skills and poor instincts. But ABSOLUTELY ALL OF THAT CAN BE LEARNED.

Fail fast, fail cheap, fail often. Learn along the way. One day you will look back and be amazed at how tiny that box called your life used to be.

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-04-19T18:44:13+00:00

can someone like me become alpha?

Only you can decide that. No one can tell you to do anything you don't want. No one can tell you it can't be done.

wakethfkupneo · 2016-04-19T20:24:54+00:00

1) Sean Stephenson

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2014/09/05/alpha-male-of-the-month-4/

https://heartiste.files.wordpress.com/2014/09/mindiesean.jpg?w=500

2) Nick Vujicic

http://viralchronics.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Nick-Vujicic-and-his-Lovely-Family.png

If these two guys can be alpha (as fuck) and have pretty wives, so can you ... so can anybody.

Keep improving, never stop. You're already reaping some early rewards and now it's time to work even harder. To quote Tyler Durden: "We gotta take it up a notch or shut it down for good".

balalasaurus · 2016-04-20T02:13:25+00:00

Stop trying to live up to arbitrary self-definitions. Instead live up to standards that you know you can honestly be satisfied with. That means being the person that you can look in the mirror at and be proud of.

EntitledShitHead · 2016-04-20T04:59:48+00:00

I have high functioning autism, i have a fear of crowds, i have social anxiety, when i go out i walk a certain way that says don't fuck with me which goes completely against my character, at least i think it does. I do this because i am afraid of getting attacked or challenged even though deep down i know i am being paranoid and that most likely wont happen. When i was a kid and a teenager i got beat up a lot by my siblings and kids at school, i also got psychologically bullied by some of my teachers. I got pushed out of groups of friends when i was a teenager. I care how i affect people by my actions and words.

You need to create a new identity for yourself and see yourself in a different style.

i want to talk about things that are interesting and now all i get to do is make small talk and it's just so incredibly boring, but i have gotten so use to doing small talk now that i find it hard to have a discussion or start one about anything interesting, like psychology, philosophy, neuro science (even though i don't know that much about it) and the state of the world.

I hate to break it to you, and this is something that took me a long time to understand, its not that you're conversations are boring or that you aren't building an emotional connection with people, its that you're boring. ~60% of our communication is from out body language, ~30% from our tone, and only ~%10 comes from what you actually talk about.

Work on cultivating a new identity of yourself, and work on having fun during conversations. I've been fortunate to have been mentored and skyping with some GREAT people here and turning my life around, but I had to put in A LOT of work to make the massive breakthrough I had.

meh613 · 2016-04-20T06:58:59+00:00

You can become alpha if you make the choice to do so.

GreeneRed · 2016-04-20T18:08:44+00:00

Definitely possible. In many ways, it can be a huge advantage. I think you'll do very well if you start learning computer programming. The best programmers tend to be a little autistic, for lack of better description.

Create a very high SMV through lifting, style, job, and other activities. Learn better interaction skills from observation and game.

And last but not least, have you looked into Dark Triad? I'm not necessarily encouraging those traits, but if you have natural inclination.... Well, more power to you.

Title	Can someone like me become alpha?
Author	DysfunctionalBrother
Upvotes	7
Comments	23
Date	April 19, 2016 6:38 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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