Am I "cucked out" because I don't have any desire to sleep with an attractive female best friend?

SirWazzaBrookBanks · 2016-05-03T10:30:32+00:00

Not wanting to have sex with someone is not a reason to be considered an inferior man. I have no intention of having sex with a fat chick, simply because I am not attracted to her, and I don't consider myself less of a man for not doing so.

In your situation, you shouldn't be coerced into having sex with her if you don't want to. Attractivity is purely subjective, you shouldn't feel like you have to fuck someone who you find unattractive just because others would. If the dynamic is good, then keep it.

play_time_is_over · 2016-05-03T11:43:46+00:00

NO YOU ARE NOT CUCKED OUT

A man does whatever the fuck he wants!

throwawaycomedian95 · 2016-05-03T11:31:56+00:00

You're not cucked out. You actually sound superior to her in this situation, as she is dying for you to initiate and you aren't desperate, you have options.

M3_Drifter · 2016-05-03T11:02:04+00:00

If you don't want to fuck her, you don't want to fuck her. Some people like big tits, some people find them disgusting and prefer flat-chested girls. Etc. etc. etc. If you like the current situation, by all means, keep doing what you're doing.

[deleted] · 2016-05-03T13:05:17+00:00

If you don't want to sleep with her because you like your dynamic, then don't. You aren't a weaker man because of that, sheesh.

JustDoMeee · 2016-05-03T12:01:14+00:00

It's better if you don't fuck her, it's been working out for you all this time. Why mess it up now?

Don't do what you don't want to do, you making this post is the first step you've taken in doubting yourself, don't give in to the pressure of others.

[deleted] · 2016-05-03T13:31:54+00:00

I don't see anything wrong with you friendzoning her.

Your friends are morons, they just want to live trough you the said action

TheJunkieMonk · 2016-05-03T14:45:15+00:00

Your problem is that you want to be sexual with her, but you're scared of the fact that if you do get sexual, she'll become clingy and you won't be able to hold boundaries and it will put you through mental stress. You really like her. Go figure.

HS-Thompson · 2016-05-03T20:16:13+00:00

There's too many words of overanalysis in this thread.

Men and women are meant to fuck. So fuck her.

Yeah it might get complicated but so what, either that'll be awesome or you'll fuck it up and learn from it or both.

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Stop rationalizing your lack of boldness.

bsutansalt · 2016-05-03T21:17:14+00:00

Time for a gut check. This could very well be a whole lot of rationalizing on your part, or not. I don't know you so I really can't say one way or the other. Just be mindful you're not deluding yourself out of fear of rejection or for some other reason.

djc_tech · 2016-05-04T16:18:51+00:00

She is certainly cucking her current boyfriend and is seeking validation because she initiated with you and you didn't respond. Just keep doing what you're doing and if you're happy with your current sexual situation then don't change it. I think the other thing she probably notes is you're sleeping with other women, so she is well aware of your SMV - and her current boyfriend apparently doesn't. She's just looking for a better deal in the long run.

Callooh_Calais · 2016-05-03T10:07:34+00:00

Weird. You say you don't want to fuck her, but you've thought about it?

I mean if you like being close with her then you do you, but this girl shouldn't even be this close with you when she has a boyfriend. She has some messed up morals.

TheRedStoic · 2016-05-03T12:22:08+00:00

Let it casually drop that your just not compatible. Next time the topic is approached by anyone except her, just laugh in their face and say (yeah, i could never be with a girl who treats her guy like that)

No need to even supply examples. The friends group knows what's going on, it'll get back to her.

Fielder57 · 2016-05-03T12:22:36+00:00

It's really simple to work out. Are you hanging around with her because you want to sleep with her and she wont let you? Beta.

If you are spending time with her because you enjoy her company, You are sleeping with other people and she is just your friend and nothing else then you are fine. Men can have female friends.

eccentricrealist · 2016-05-03T12:42:03+00:00

No, you're a cuck because the internet made you insecure. /s

A lot of guys would wish to have something like that, so chill out. Trust me, your friends aren't getting as much as you and they're probably jealous like the bf is as well.

Sir_Shitlord_focker · 2016-05-03T15:40:44+00:00

Ahah I had the exact same thing in college, with this chick Sophie, french very hot, blond, we slept in the same bed like 3 nights a week, ate sushi together like twice a week. I did fuck her once by mistake, I woke up with my dick literally on her ass and I got a bonner, but other than that we both avoided making moves. It was great, she's happily married now (not to me) has a kid and we're still friends. I remember catching a lot of shit from people, when are you going to fuck her, etc.. so did she. We talked about it once and I asked point blank is it cool that I don't want us to have sex and she said she felt the same and that was it.

Callooh_Calais · 2016-05-03T15:52:41+00:00

Would you turn her down if she offered?

Kenny_Twenty · 2016-05-03T18:44:45+00:00

If you honestly don't want to, nothing wrong with that.

As long as you can be honest with yourself, there is no issue.

user_none · 2016-05-03T18:59:45+00:00

Damn, sounds like a pretty fun situation, to be honest.

Let's see...

You're getting action from two other women, on the regular.
You're getting treated to dates and weed, etc...
You're getting intimate time (not sexual) with her that you may not get with the plates.

Sounds a bit like what women do, but in reverse. Fucking A, play that shit up.

redpillat40 · 2016-05-03T19:47:29+00:00

So, you don't want to fuck her because you like your dynamic, or you don't want to fuck her because you're afraid she might say no?

BenOfMahogany · 2016-05-03T20:07:00+00:00

You're only orbiting the cuck universe when she actively prevents you from getting the pussy you want. Or when you use her as an excuse not to chase the pussy you want.

So you seem good!

JimFury · 2016-05-03T22:08:22+00:00

You don't want to fuck her. So what do you want? What's the point of this post.

starting_oveRP · 2016-05-04T01:54:24+00:00

I believe someone here once said:

"Being a man doesn't mean fucking whoever you want. It means not fucking who you don't want to fuck."

Whisper · 2016-05-04T04:59:24+00:00

Attraction cannot be negotiated. If you're not attracted, you're not attracted. No need to make a big deal of it.

RolandTheDickslinger · 2016-05-03T12:14:53+00:00

I agree with everyone else: if you don't want to fuck her, that's nobody's business. That said, I wonder if you're saying that you don't want to fuck her as a buffer.

You see, right now you're orbiting her really hard. It's textbook orbiting. You don't get sex but you shower her with your attention and affection.

Assuming that this is a buffer, the problem is that you're being dishonest with yourself and with her. That would also explain why you're so invested in your friends' judgements about your masculinity. Maybe deep down you know you want to fuck her like a jackhammer and that you're being the pussy of the century.

[deleted] · 2016-05-03T10:09:30+00:00

You're the man, you decide. But never let anyone tell you what to do.

DocPool · 2016-05-03T12:20:24+00:00

I will accept all the downvotes my comment will get so here goes:

Get out here. Friendships with women are just absolutely shit. You disgust me. You aren't even RP yet you go here asking for advice. Go home you fucking beta orbiter. You should get ban you fucking shitstain. And beta orbiter is a female's lapdog or to be blunt, her bitch.

Title	Am I "cucked out" because I don't have any desire to sleep with an attractive female best friend?
Author	Callooh_Calais
Upvotes	12
Comments	70
Date	May 3, 2016 10:02 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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