I can't cum

50pluspiller · 2016-05-05T07:59:56+00:00

Can you cum if you fap? If so, then it's mental or some other impediment to be determined.

fromdario · 2016-05-05T06:20:00+00:00

You barebacking ? Condoms can make it much harder to cum. What about BJs?

YouHadMeAtENT · 2016-05-05T06:01:59+00:00

Go see a doctor. Sounds physiological.

Fielder57 · 2016-05-05T09:08:39+00:00

I had the same problem OP, Normally i needed to be into the girl or really attracted to her before i would finish. I banged a few girls just because it was an experience or because she was there and i was drunk and I just couldn't finish.

Did you find the girl attractive?

stickfiguresk · 2016-05-05T10:41:36+00:00

There's a concept called, "healthy masturbation" that helped me with the same issue. No porn, no fantasies/imagination, just you shaking hands with the president. IMO, it helps you focus on just getting off.

Also, you absolutely have to stop giving a shit about your performance. You're there to cum on her face, not be a gymnist or felate her.

Terminal-Psychosis · 2016-05-05T08:17:00+00:00

Sounds like the death grip syndrome. Maybe you need more than 5 weeks to get over it?

oldredder · 2016-05-05T10:03:15+00:00

probably distracted by too many thoughts/expectations

rutluv · 2016-05-05T13:32:49+00:00

Funny, I can cum in 10 seconds, I have PE. Dont know how o fix it :(. My best advice dont worry try to enjoy the moment.

thechaosz · 2016-05-05T08:16:51+00:00

I'm the same way and double your age

askerman97 · 2016-05-05T10:41:31+00:00

How are you 8% bf at 195lbs at such a young age?

pancake_friday · 2016-05-05T11:33:31+00:00

Are you on any medication?

homelessWOOKIE9 · 2016-05-05T13:19:33+00:00

Don't go into the experience expecting/trying to ejaculate. You're probably only making it worse now that it's in your head. Just be calm and enjoy the experience and plan to fake an orgasm once she's had her fun. No pressure, it'll happen eventually. Or get a fleshlight and learn what gets you aroused again.

progggrammerr99 · 2016-05-05T14:14:01+00:00

Are you on dat dere trenboloney? Take some caber, 195 8% implies tren. If your progesterone is too high, you cant cum

COLIE53 · 2016-05-05T14:45:06+00:00

Try adding some lube before you put on the condom. Makes condoms way more enjoyable.

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redpillat40 · 2016-05-05T16:30:23+00:00

Switch condoms, find one that fits well that doesn't strangle your dick or desensitize it.

If you can cum by hand then it may just be she isn't using the technique that works for you. Teach her what you like.

More often than not she will develop a complex about not being able to finish you off. Use that as ammo to get her to up her game and be dirtier for you.

Also, just curious, have you recently started taking any new medications, specifically antidepressants? Those are orgasm blockers.

FrameWalker · 2016-05-05T18:27:44+00:00

The girls might not be hot enough

Terminal-Psychosis · 2016-05-05T08:37:44+00:00

What's your T-count like? High testosterone does tend to make you last longer. If you're taking err... supplements, to boost t-levels... yah, lay off a month or 3 and see what happens.

Or maybe your girls just haven't been up to muster? Tell her to do what REALLY turns you on.

Maybe you're just not all that into her her? Putting aside the physical, scientific aspects, listen to your dick. He ain't happy with the girl, that's a huge sign.

recursoinominado · 2016-05-05T11:51:03+00:00

See r/nofap

lighto13 · 2016-05-05T20:17:11+00:00

i have the same problem... except mine stays hard the entire fcking time.

it hurts like shit afterwards and i get the worst blue balls ever. i even have trouble masturbating to release afterwards, even though i dont have that problem when im fapping by myself

ive improved somewhat by trying to not fap anymore and when i do, i'll do it slowly instead of the quick business i used to do. apparently the deathgrip problem is very real for most men

joseremarque · 2016-05-05T10:25:37+00:00

You're gay. Try having sex with a dude.

0638003094 · 2016-05-05T15:35:12+00:00

Been there. Honestly once you establish an emotional bond with the girl you won't be able to cum, at least I have never been able to cum with a girl except one that I had an emotional connection with.

Title	I can't cum
Author	Gymboy99
Upvotes	10
Comments	37
Date	May 5, 2016 5:18 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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