My soul is crushed. You were all right

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May 25, 2016

I while ago I made this post

I'll keep it short and sweet. I'm obsessed with a girl from my college class. We're decent friends at best, never had sex with her, never went out, never did anything sexual at all with her. She has a serious boyfriend and she also has a guy friend she spends alot of time with. I find myself so jealous of this guy friend it's driving me insane. I've even considered dropping classes or just going no contact on her to help things. Is this even remotely normal? Why would I be so obsessed with a girl that I'm not even that close with... is that pathetic?

For some ridiculous reason I changed a few facts in the story. The girl is not in my college, she is a coworker of mine. She doesn't have a boyfriend, she has a husband. The other guy is actually married as well. He is her boss and mine as well.

Well yesterday I found out that they are indeed sleeping with each other. Cheating on their spouses. Whoever in my previous thread said she was fucking them both was spot on, congrats.

I feel sick to my stomach.

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Title My soul is crushed. You were all right
Author SemperPrimus
Upvotes 62
Comments 21
Date 25 May 2016 08:11 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev78 points79 points  (2 children) | Copy

I feel sick to my stomach.

That's the bluepill in you, dying.

[–]mr_nate_4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let the illness run its course.

[–]1atticusfinch197338 points39 points  (1 child) | Copy

Learn from it and internalize. AWALT. One of the biggest lessons to learn around here.

[–]0kool744 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Learn from it and internalize. AWALT. One of the hardest lessons to learn around here.

There. Fixed That For You

[–]TheStumblingWolf19 points20 points  (9 children) | Copy

I suspect 2 things:

1) you have a lack of options for female companionship. The more options you have the less likely you are to get hung up on one particular girl.

2) you have low self esteem and require validation from girls to believe you have any worth.

[–]SemperPrimus5 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy

True and true. But i dont know why. I know that that is indeed the root cause of my problems. I always end up obsessing over a girl that shows slight interest

[–]__Archaeus__11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's because you don't value yourself, or at least see your own value yet.

You are a man. You are awesome, and can only get better and better through time. But you have to put work into yourself. Hard work. That is the red pill. A tough part of it to swallow. Life isn't easy.

Here's a saying I made for myself:

My value is something I create through the currency of time.

Think of it this way; if you aren't always putting time into yourself to create an internal value that makes you awesome to you, then you aren't doing life right.

The only thing that matters is how awesome you think you are.

This will help take pussy off the pedestal and help you realize you are the prize.

[–]sharp71 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Easy fix. What do you think would make someone good and awesome? Think about it for a bit. And for every feature ask yourself "why do I think this is good?" Keep doing that until you really narrow down a few things you REALLY DO think are important.

Then just do it. And fuck everyone and everything else. I'm pretty sure no one has ever regretted trying. It is ALWAYS an amazingly positive experience to try and get what you truly think is worthwhile. The journey is juicy.

[–]JohnBoyAndBilly0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

FYI, based on another post in here, the obsessing is "needy love", fleeting, and turns off women because they can sense it's needy love and thus it can jump from female to female.

Edit: Also FYI, needy love comes quickly for men due to our need for sex.

[–]Fryguy480 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

You just put it in a way I understood. Thank you.

[–]JohnBoyAndBilly1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're welcome, but it's from this post. Read it, it'll change your life.

[–]Fryguy480 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That changed my life.

[–]mrpCamper0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I always end up obsessing over a girl that shows slight interest

Because in your mind it's easier. You are seeking what you envision is the easiest path to getting what you want. Like going after the bird with the wounded wing. What you need to do is recognize this and change it. How do you change it? It's a self esteem issue. If you were in college I'd suggest an outward bound class or something to just get your confidence up to begin with. You need to set tough goals for yourself and strive to achieve them. Bro, do you even lift?

[–]cuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuum 15 points15 points [recovered] | Copy

Listen to yourself. You sound completely pathetic. You're obsessing over a girl. She should be obsessing over you. Go live your life. Become awesome, then girls will want you. You're acting like a bitch. Women don't want to be fucked by a bitch.

[–]empatheticapathetic2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

God damn

[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Humans have had instincts for about 200,000 years. They've lived in our modern, rational, logical society for a tiny, tiny fraction of that.

Trust your instincts. If they tell you that something's off about a woman, or that she's fucking that guy over there, your instincts are a lot more likely to be right than your rational powers of deduction.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

For some ridiculous reason I changed a few facts in the story.

Yeah, it's ridiculous. Were you lying to other people on TRP or were you lying to yourself?

[–]SemperPrimus12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

no it was a privacy thing. Not that any of them browse red pill

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

Entirely reasonable if you ask me, given how people now like to doxx others and engage in personal destruction.

[–]bornredd4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Guess what?

There's an awful lot more pretty girls out there that:

  • Aren't married

  • Aren't also fucking your boss

Go find one (or 3)!

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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