Hi Ladies,
Thanks for having this forum, I have greatly benefited from it.
My bf and I (both 36) have dated for two years. He has good ways and ways I find questionable. He is very sexual, he’s gotten mad several times because I said no. He’s left my apartment because I told him no, so I’m not surprised anymore by his behaviours. However, I have noticed that during my period he doesn’t touch me. He will hug and kiss me good bye but he won’t cuddle me at night before bed. He knows I like it when he holds my hand while we are driving, and while it is not a huge deal, I always have to reach for his hand. He is just not tactile enough in a non-sexual way. I have talked to him about it but there hasn’t been consistent change. I don’t know if I should talk to him about it again or just move on because it seems like this is going to go on for the whole relationship. What should I do in this case ?
[–]TheOGJammies103 points [recovered] (11 children) | Copy Link
Honestly several of these things seem like red flags to me and this is one of those things that will only get worse and not better.
If he’s sulking about sex now, imagine how it will be when you have a newborn or if you get sick?
Leaving your apartment when he doesn’t get sex is a RedPill tactic to coerce you into having sex with him for him to pay any attention to you.
Not touching you on your period is extremely immature - and again, sounds like he’s withholding affection from you unless it leads To sex.
I would express to him that it seems like he’s not very physically affectionate unless he wants sex and hear his response. If he turns it around on you (which based on the signs above he probably will), immediate dump.
You will never get your needs met in this relationship if he can’t even touch you when it’s not convenient for him.
ETA: And Actually WTF, at him getting mad when you don’t want sex...does he think that’s seductive or attractive? It’s one thing to express how much he wants you or even express feeling bad when rejected, but Throwing a tantrum is some toddler ass behavior and some serious male entitlement. Actually from re-reading this- I’m on team dump his ass right now.
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