We’re both in our early twenties and started dating before I discovered this subreddit.
He mentioned in the beginning of our relationship that he has gone to “blowjob shop” which are a common thing in his country, twice, and that he also regrets it deeply. I was a fucking libfem idiot and thought “it was before he met me, it shouldn’t bother me”.
There is literally nothing about him otherwise pointing to being a LVM, he treats me like a queen and puts so much effort in. He truly has been a great boyfriend so far.
We’re currently long distance due to the outbreak. When he called, I told him honestly that it started bothering me, even though I was okay with it before. I know he regrets it and wishes he wasn’t such a pushover with his friends in his younger days, but ultimately, there is nothing he can do to fix it.
I would like to know other women’s opinions on this. I keep telling myself that this is breakup-worthy, but at the same time I feel like I would ruin and otherwise good relationship.
I am currently contemplating whether I should be ready to bail at any other sign of LVM behaviour, or if I should just do it now, and potentially regret it.
[–]tallwomenneedlovetooFDS Specialist 37 points38 points39 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]fim_de_semanaFDS Specialist 41 points42 points43 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Summerisle7FDS Specialist 38 points39 points40 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]annamae602 35 points36 points37 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]PollyAnnaSunshineFDS Specialist 9 points10 points11 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Sea_SoilFDS Specialist 13 points14 points15 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]queendorkus2 points [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
Hold on though, if he Paid women for sex, instead of pretended to emotionally desire women in efforts to get into their pants, isn't that more upfront about where he was at?
I think more details as to where he was finding the sex workers and what kind of person is he showing himself to be, what his attitudes toward women are and how he treats people, and maybe how he treated the sex workers too.
I don't like the sex trade, but all the snakey men that exist who use women for sex until theyre ready for the "right one" and then dump the woman or women they were stringing along based on hope as a sex farm...
How do we navigate this world if we deny that we as humans are sexual beings and are placed under social pressure until we really dig our heals in on where we stand, men and women.
Ps. I'm studying biology so I'm looking at this really anatomically right now as well.
[–]Summerisle7FDS Specialist 14 points15 points16 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]queendorkus -1 points0 points1 point (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]seawitchbitch 16 points17 points18 points (0 children) | Copy Link