Should I be willing to do pegging/prostate stimulation? [NSFW]

M_riane · 2016-10-04T14:43:37+00:00

It's strange that you'd consider it if only there are other women here doing it. Sex is all about what you two want as a couple, not about what others do or don't do. Plus, him wanting to try that has nothing to do with being masculine or not. But if you don't want to, then don't.

VigilantRedRooster · 2016-10-04T15:53:14+00:00

Prostate stimulation is a legitimate thing. Some men report "most mind-blowing orgasm ever!" Personally, it's something I discovered, and became bored with, as a young teen. Not one of my GFs ever mentioned it, and I'd find it strange if someone tried to stick something in my ice cream without discussion.

If you're both enthusiastic about the idea, here are a few pointers.

Use proper lube! This should be obvious, but according to the internet, it's not.
Wear a latex glove if you want, it shouldn't affect the sensation
Be well manicured and gentle, the tissues are "about as strong as wet paper towels," a doctor once wrote
The prostate is about the size of a walnut and easy to find, on the forward wall less than a finger deep
Slow, gentle rubbing with the pad of your finger goes a long way. Stationary pressure pulses may be better; in time with orgasm pulses is one sensation, 2-3 times this fast (the beat of the fastest dance music) is another.
Unless it's a personal kink, it's not a standalone activity, but coming in 2/3 of the way through a BJ is good timing
Remember, everything becomes sensitive as nitroglycerin during/immediately after orgasm, pay attention to how he's responding
If you're willing to try it, you might discover a new dimension to your sex life together. If you're not, no worries and don't succumb to pressure. This is a niche desire, not extremely common, but not really exotic either.

Pegging is another thing entirely; it has a strong BDSM component, and having about 5 shades of gray I've never understood the appeal for either party of going to town with an unfeeling piece of silicone. This may affect the masculine balance of a relationship. However, from what I've read, some dominatrix clients include very masculine, driven executive types who make huge decisions all day and get off on being totally controlled.

southernkings · 2016-10-05T11:10:06+00:00

I'm really worried that he hates himself for being a man.

Respectfully, this is some Mach 3 hamstering. I understand it's because it's something you aren't familiar with, but take a moment to let the rational side of your brain catch up.

I don't think you really have any foundation for this claim whatsoever. Your only backing for this claim is some half-baked theory that some feminist articles talked about trying to coerce men into being pegged who didn't want it, which is in no way, shape or form what's happening here.

The claim that enjoying pegging/prostate stimulation makes a man not masculine is kind of out there too. Go watch some gay porn of two 250 lb. lumberjacks going to town on each other and tell me those men aren't masculine.

He's a nice guy and not a traditional alpha, but I still like having him be masculine.

Men and women are not the same. Along these lines, a woman "penetrating" a man with her fingers or a toy does not have the same power dynamic as vice versa.

HelloNeo · 2016-10-04T14:37:59+00:00

Don't do anything you're not comfortable with.

Equilibriun · 2016-10-05T06:04:51+00:00

Your boyfriend mentioned he wants to do things with you. You hate the idea of it.

So, he was an adult, and said hey, your my gf and I trust you with this thing that would make me feel good. And your first inclination is that he hates himself for being a guy? Hate to break it to you, but he probably does butt stuff on his own already. And that's fine.

If you aren't into it, then say so and move on. Don't assume he isn't masculine cause he wants to participate in his sexual activity. That's just, shitty.

MsSadieDunham · 2016-10-05T19:48:44+00:00

Never do anything you aren't comfortable doing. I would have a hard time respecting my husband if he wanted me to stick something in his ass, truthfully, but that's my opinion.

CptDefB · 2016-10-05T13:29:01+00:00

but I still like having him be masculine

Tell him this. Your gut is right, and despite the growing number of men who stop listening to their gut, there is a reason this whole thing rubs you wrong.

Men = Fucker, Penetrator, Power, Masculine.

Women = Fuckee, Receiver, Submission, Feminine.

I'd be surprised if pegging is a thing among RPW. He's literally asking you to take his metaphorical balls. Tell him you prefer that he keeps them.

Lucretia99 · 2016-10-06T02:06:09+00:00

There are lots of alpha men who like to dabble in butt play every now and then. It's no big deal, and it certainly doesn't hinder his masculinity.

electrokiwi · 2016-10-06T06:06:02+00:00

Late to the pegging party, but I'd just like to say that submission and dominance is not just about acts; it's about attitude. I wouldn't say pegging is something you should try if neither of you is interested, but generally speaking:You can feel feminine and submissive performing an act on your partner if you contextualize it as submitting to his desires and pleasing him. It's a different sort of performance than a more masculine desire to perform acts on your body to control it. The body language for each kind of act is apparent and if you can embody it, you can explore without giving up feminine submission.

rainyweathergirl · 2016-10-09T15:49:39+00:00

Actually, a lot of straight men like things up their butts. Many are too ashamed to admit or try it, but it's normal for a man to enjoy prostate stimulation. However, it's entirely up to you. Butt sex is a niche. You are not required to bring niche sex into your relationship if one of you isn't open to it. I'm personally not at all comfortable with anything going up my butt under any circumstance and I won't even entertain the idea, but I am happy to stick things up my partners butt if he requests it.

Title	Should I be willing to do pegging/prostate stimulation? [NSFW]
Author	f0xhound_p1nk
Upvotes	1
Comments	20
Date	October 4, 2016 2:11 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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