Can someone who only has an average sized penis be as good or even better in bed then a big dicked guy?

Justscrolling133 · 2021-10-16T19:25:51+00:00

This is a bit of a pet peeve for me. I’ve been on so many threads where girls are saying size doesn’t really matter (as long as they aren’t too extremes, really small or too big), and guys keep arguing with the women to say women do care. Literally google, ask women, read what women say on the matter - nobody cares about average penises. In fact, it’s called average for a reason, so many guys have average sizes penises, large penises are few and far between.

Porn paints an incredibly unrealistic portrayal of PIV sex for women. A lot of those orgasms are faked, clit action is KEY and it’s grotesquely overlooked in mainstream porn. Obviously there are women who love massive penises and won’t settle for anything less. But your average women really does not give a shit unless it’s super small.

What is annoying tho, is guys being non-stop insecure about it and needing constant reassurance. A bit is fine, but please don’t obsess over it. My ex-partner had an average penis and was always harping on about it, it became frustrating, especially because there was nothing wrong with it.

MASSIVE PENISES ACTUALLY HURT. And I mean hurt. So if you’re goal in life is actually to hurt women instead of provide pleasure, then sure an average penis would be annoying.

For most women, clitoral stimulation is where it’s at. You wanna be the sexiest mo-fo around?? If the girl your sleeping with has a vibrator, ask her to use it and tell her “it turns me on when you use your vibrator while I’m fucking you”. That sir, is the best thing a women can hear. For me, clit stimulation is where it’s at and adding PIV while stimulating the clit is the holy grail. But I would get rid of PIV altogether if I had to choose between the two, and A LOT of women are like that. Some blessed women can orgasm from PIV alone but contrary to what porn makes you think, they are rare. Statistics say that 70-90% women CANNOT orgasm through penetration alone. A lot of women can when they are on top but it’s usually through the use of grinding which stimulates the clit.

So please forget about your penis size. Start focusing on the clit and you’ll be golden. I recommend watching massage porn to get an idea of how to touch the clit. Rubbing it furiously ain’t it.

Mriconicdev · 2021-10-16T16:26:32+00:00

Yes you can be much better. Get really good with oral and having the ability to make a girl orgasm. Make them orgasm first maybe even a couple of times before you even get off. Stay away from women that are “size queens” forget about those ones.

Ninnino07 · 2021-10-16T21:24:00+00:00

Honestly, big dicks cannot do more at all. If anything, they can do less because for some/a lot of women, a big dick is way more likely to hit the cervix during sex and that hurts and is no fun at all. So a big dick often requires more careful sex. In addition to this, the enjoyment of actual PIV varies from woman to woman. Most women cannot orgasm from PIV alone and a bigger dick will not change that. Getting good at oral/fingering is not a way to “cope” with having an average/smaller dick, it’s mostly essential if you want your partner to cum, too! So no, a bigger dick does not equal better (or even good, I’ve personally found guys tend to think that because their dick is big, the will be fantastic for me anyway, which, surprise, it then ends up being very bad) sex. Get to know your partner and find out what makes them cum! Caveats: there’s always going to be women who do absolutely love big dicks and that’s alright, too. But definitely not the majority and a big dick is definitely not required for great sex. Secondly, I’m not trying to say all men with big dicks suck at sex.

zokahlo · 2021-10-16T17:29:12+00:00

What makes bigger docks better for sex?

Start there.

Inareskai · 2021-10-16T19:19:24+00:00

In answer to your title question: Yes.

llanojen · 2021-10-16T22:34:01+00:00

1000%

PhilosopherHistorian · 2021-10-17T02:52:04+00:00

Yes. Sex is about technique, not size. A guy could have a 9 incher or whatever is an outlier on the large end and still be not that great at sex.

whydoesthishapp3n · 2021-10-24T01:12:24+00:00

for me personally i have a shallow vagina and my partners all had had like HUGE penises and it’s always uncomfortable and not fun to have sex. so i’d love to find someone with a smaller dick so i don’t have to worry about being in pain and can just relax. i’m sure there are a lot of people like me out there. and yeah, like the other person said. how many times do we have to answer this question. most of us don’t care.

wooshoofoo · 2021-10-17T01:14:40+00:00

It’s not unlike big tits- most guys would probably prefer a decent size there, most guys also think larger is kinda sexier.

The thing is, many women are incredibly sexy without having to have big tits, some women are acknowledged sex symbols even with small tits. The point is that for women, large tits might be a sexy thing but you can be so sexy without having to have that.

The same is true (and MORE true) for guys and dick size. Some women love big, some women are cool with whatever if you’re sexy OTHERWISE.

kur0ikunn · 2021-10-17T14:49:17+00:00

What's the average length?? 6 inch penis on a 6 feet guy is small in relation to a 6 inch penis on a 5 foot guy. I fall in the later category and have had zero complaints until now. Unless you have a micro penis or a monster cock girls won't complain. And they don't walk around carrying a measuring tape for sexual encounters. Work around with positions she likes and use it until she cums once. Then it's a continuous explosion of one orgasm after another.

Oz_TeeX23 · 2022-01-23T09:01:11+00:00

Just to make you feel better: Yeah, actually it is—probably bigger than you think. Porn has distorted our sense of what’s large because those guys are packing eight, nine, and sometimes even ten inches. But the average erect penis is just 5.16 inches, according to a 2015 scientific review that looked at the flaccid and erect penises of over 15,500 men. In the review, 68% of men measured between 4.5 and 5.8 inches while erect. At 7-inches, you’re in the top ~2% of men.

Sure, go ahead and smile now.

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The thing is, a lot of guys claim to have a 7-inch dick when they really don’t. These guys seemingly measure the length of their penis from their butt, and that’s not how it’s done. (Although, to be fair, no one can seem to agree on the right way to measure a penis.)

An unsharpened #2 pencil is 7.5 inches, so if you want to check to see if you’re truly 7 inches, go ahead and put the pencil on top of your erect penis—that’s how you get a more accurate measurement.

Oz_TeeX23 · 2022-01-23T09:03:45+00:00

How many guys have 7 inches or more?

It’s rare. Super rare. According to the available research, just one in a hundred guys have a penis that measures between 7–8 inches erect.

Numerous studies have found that Kinsey’s original estimate of 6 inches is around a full inch longer than average. While we’ll take his findings with a grain of salt, Kinsey’s other research showed that extremely large penises (over 7–8 inches) are exceedingly rare. In fact, the original Kinsey penis-size survey found that only (Kinsey Institute, n.d.):

1% of men have a penis between 7–8 inches
6 in 1000 guys (0.6%) have a 9-inch penis Just over 0.2% of guys have a penis larger than 9 inches—that’s 2 in 1000 Up to 90% of male penises are within an inch of the average size. Statistically speaking, that means most guys have a normal-sized penis. No, really. Your penis is most likely within the normal range.

Dependent-Chair-3934 · 2022-09-09T20:07:31+00:00

I’m average but can work my dick well and never had any issues satisfying women. My wife had a bigger ex who was garbage in bed. Maybe I try more because I’m average but honestly if you can work it size don’t matter much

Radiant-Bat3575 · 2026-06-23T22:58:25+00:00

I mean I’m just gonna put my 2 cents down here but I have a pretty big one it’s a little over 8 inches unless my wife is in one of those moods then she either won’t take it all and complain about how it hurts but just the other night I was extremely hard and she was taking that shit like a champ she had atleast 4-5 orgasms when she usually only has 1-2 and then it’s done but I think women like bigger dicks and want those more then a 4-5 inch dick the reason I say this is when I can stretch my wife and make her bleed a little is when she has the most orgasms so yes I agree women prefer to have sex with 9-11 inch dick rather than 4-6inches of dick

Title	Can someone who only has an average sized penis be as good or even better in bed then a big dicked guy?
Author	Uglyandneedhelp
Upvotes	9
Comments	51
Date	October 16, 2021 3:47 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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