How do you cope with lacking facial attractiveness? The red pill is toxic, but at least offers some solutions. What are way's to get past this flaw without resorting to manipulative red pill tactics?

RedPillDetox · 2021-10-10T00:22:41+00:00

Incels overrate the shit out of facial attractiveness. It's true that being ugly is awful. In some cases a lot in other cases not so much, still it holds you down. What differentiates me from an incel is that i don't take it as a sign it's over. I wholeheartedly don't believe it, and the dating success i've had over my life proves it. But Incels don't believe it once you put it that way. They will say any success i had is a mere sign i'm not ugly after all, in good old circular logic fallacy style. They will keep claiming it's over. And so, nothing changes. Really, there's no magic bullet regarding coping with this. I don't believe that having an ugly face means that "it's over". I don't feel perpectually and objectively unlovable just because of my physical defects. That's all there is to it.

RabbitNRaccoon · 2021-10-10T00:16:32+00:00

Make your body look good. Work on fashion. Work on your teeth. Work on your hair.

You can't change height. You can't change an below average face. But you can change body composition. And you can change how you dress. You can fix yellow teeth, crooked teeth.

You can develop skills that you are passionate about. Because nothing is more attractive than seeing a person talk about something they know really well.

You can develop your character. Become a man of character. Now, we live in a culture of personality. Look up and learn about the culture of character. And implement some of that. Have an unwavering character.

Facial attractiveness, especially for a man, is not that important.

MouldyMug · 2021-10-10T05:36:47+00:00

Having a nice personality, being fit and being confident goes a long way.

HeroinBreakfast · 2021-10-10T05:33:59+00:00

Get jacked, dye your hair, and start using make up. Its 2021 and that might work.

spankyourkopita · 2021-10-10T06:31:20+00:00

Stop worrying or thinking about it. Unless you have some face deformity most people aren't going to care.

Naus1987 · 2021-10-10T03:05:40+00:00

Casey neistat is very successful considering he’s not a 10.

There’s lots of successful YouTubers with families and don’t look like an Adonas

vcreativ · 2021-10-10T12:03:28+00:00

but at least offers some solutions

Which ones were you thinking of here, specifically? There's no argument against being fit and healthy and having a modicum of success and ambition. I think that's attractive to anyone, and there's really nothing wrong with it.

I'd think about it this way. If the red pill can provide you with a tactic that works even though you look terrible, say, then the looks part wasn't the issue, or at least not enough of an issue to prevent women being interested.

The same is true if you're being genuine, just the set of people interested in you might change. This may not be obvious but many people that have dated just a few times are just happy if there's someone genuine not dominated by self-interested.

Something worth point out about "attractive people" is that they face different issues. Granted they can generate superficial sexual interest reasonably immediately, but just like rich people they now have the pleasure of finding the literal needle in the haystack of people that actually care about them.

But yes, casual sex is likely a lot easier, it really depends on their character.

If looks aren't your forte, I'd say it's more helpful to put yourself in an environment where women can actually get to know you over a longer stretch of time, as well. That way you can also figure out if you would actually like them.

Yupperdoodledoo · 2021-10-10T17:42:07+00:00

The solution is you date women that are in your league. Are you looking for a solution that will somehow get you paired up with someone better looking than you? That happens all the time, but I doubt it will with your low self-image.

When you go out, start looking at couples and noting how many average or below average men are paired up, and even paired up with a better looking woman.

OnionAffectionate641 · 2021-10-10T22:32:38+00:00

Grooming is very important. I am a woman FYI.

Groom yourself well, brush your teeth 2x a day, floss, smile, wear clothes that actually fit you and are clean, no holes in clothing, work out and drink a lot of water for better skin, stand straight; all of those things make a man WAY more attractive and have nothing to do with your face.

Bad postured, badly groomed, bad smelling, ugly breath, pimply man doesn't look good on anyone, hot face or not.

Guilty_Squash7098 · 2021-10-10T22:37:46+00:00

these are things I personally think helps: 1.Change ur perspective(re constricting ur beliefs on what really matters),accept ur self(making peace with the features and stop being ashamed of them)and its possible consequences(not every one is going to be attracted to you... 2.CHARM charm goes a long long way...I know quite a few really charming with not great looks getting shit ton of attention..now point 1 will help with some things regarding charm.Its the positive energy+great body language+wit+ confidence... 3.Being in good shape+mentally stable+have a own life 4.These things will improve ur life in general...Hence a better chance of attracting someone better and evn if u don't u will be happier

Yesm3can · 2021-10-10T08:48:16+00:00

Controversial, but what about uh...looking for a partner in a poorer community/areas/countries? It will most likely be a companionship in exchange for financial security kind of relationship, however adults human should decide what is good for themselves.

Xx_SwordWords_xX · 2021-10-10T07:53:59+00:00

You become more accepting of flaws in potential partners, as they would most likely accept yours.

It's called tempering your expectations.

unlivedbread · 2021-10-10T16:15:23+00:00

My exs ex was ugly as sin. Just fat and looked like shit. But he managed to pull tons of girls because he funny and charismatic (he was also a drug dealer)

FuckTheTTC · 2021-10-10T16:44:03+00:00

1) Get fit

2) Get better style

3) See a therapist who will get you more grounded by realizing value you offer besides a pretty face.

4) Find relationships in your league. You will not score a hot 10/10 model but just get in a stable relationship with a girl with your attractiveness and get it over with.

JollyRoger66689 · 2021-10-10T18:56:45+00:00

Fucking fat chicks

Glad-Communication60 · 2021-10-11T06:24:33+00:00

Women don't really put that much attention into looks, contrary to what men may think. They're more into attitude, personality and vibe, which I think is something men should adopt too. As long as you're honest with yourself, show respect and have confidence (which means you're comfortable with the outcome, being good or bad), you have half of the way paved. Fixing your looks (cleaning up, bathing regularly/daily, trimming your beard, getting a haircut, cutting your nails, etc) is also very important, as that projects how much hare you have for yourself and is ultimately a projection of your self esteem.

Shycel · 2021-10-13T03:36:56+00:00

Hmmm its O

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