Tips on finding a high value man?

Pinktoes10 · 2021-12-21T04:20:15+00:00

Online dating is ubiquitous. If you're out of school, refusing to have a presence on dating apps is going to cause you to miss a lot of opportunities to meet men. There are responsible ways to date online. Church is always a good idea for the genuinely religious, but otherwise the advice tends to be to go out and do the things you like to do with an attitude and dress that makes you approachable to good men.

pieorstrudel5 · 2021-12-21T16:32:26+00:00

Be a high value woman.

What are you doing to be the best you can be? I see too many women wanting RPW to tell them just join this church or go to these kinds of bar and you'll find them. Finding and getting are two different things.

If you are currently working.... Are you doing the best job you can or coasting? If you are in school are you a good student? Are you involved it networking groups such as Young Professionals?

Do you take care of your looks, health, and fitness? Long hair, fitness, and being well groomed go a long way. I buy really nice higher end clothes on clearance. I have a small wardrobe but all of it is high quality. Buy it nice or buy it twice. I take really good care of my hair and I am okay at make up. Go to orange theory or boot camp once a week. Join a gym.... Don't be scared to lift weights. You'll meet more men in the weight room than on an elliptical. Like to run? Join a running group. Most of them have a social hour after.

Do you have hobbies? Men don't want to entertain you 24/7. Be interesting.... Like art? Try to go to art gallery openings or lectures? Like to read? Read more books and try to go to book signings. Like to garden? Volunteer at your local botanical gardens. Interested in food and wine? Take a gal pal and go to a wine tasting. Join a kickball team. Do you like puzzles? Start keeping a puzzle out on your coffee table. Go to trivia nights. Just be someone who enjoys her life even if she is single.

Are you a good steward of your money and resources? If you have a really nice car and clothes.... But a huge car loan and credit card debt.... Then what does that show a HVM? That you like to spend money with no accountability? Better to have less and have money in the bank. Pay off your debt, open an IRA, show your future partner that you have the tools to stretch and grow your money.

Do you keep a tidy home? If it's not your thing, hire a cleaning service or schedule laundry service. Help yourself be tidier.

Can you at least cook 7-10 dinners well? Taking cooking classes if you need to.

Are you involved in community service? Junior League, Kiwanis, Church group, YWCA, etc etc. Show that you care about the community you live in. Often these HVM try to give back.... He'll expect a wife who can help him manage all that too.

If you said yes to all of that... Then you should meet a HVM naturally while living your life. Which is far better than going to some bar at a nice restaurant and pushing your boobs up while you twirl your hair with your Louis Vuitton tote hangs from your shoulder. True HVM... They will play with the girls chasing them, but they won't marry them. But if you are in fact high value your self.... Then you bring something to the table.

And then finally..... Realizing that to keep a HVM.... You can never stop doing any of these things. Even if he is so busy building his empire that you only get to see him for date night once a week. Doesn't matter... You have to keep up. It gets very very hard.... If you don't have your own sense of self and purpose it will make sustaining your relationship long term very difficult.

Good luck!

Jenneapolis · 2021-12-21T04:04:14+00:00

Economically, invest in someone with potential vs. massive success. A guy who is extremely successful already has a million options. A guy who you stick with who has potential but just needs a few years will love and appreciate you more and your loyalty. Just my take and also depends on your age.

HugoJP · 2021-12-21T15:36:03+00:00

Yes, you and all women.

There are no shortcuts to getting a HVM, especially not when you put such an emphasis on the income aspect. The only 'shortcut' is be to very attractive, as in the 9-10 range. Which you most likely are not; because you wouldn't be asking this question.

Ultimately, you don't pick a HVM. He picks you. The most you can 'do' is be as physically attractive as you can and display that you are 'wifey' material. (Enough info on this sub what this entails). And, of course: be available. Be approachable. Show IOI's.

Also, just a tip, instead of asking 'where can I find one' or 'How can I get one', you could ask yourself 'What does a HVM want?'. And if you are honest with yourself, you will be able to answer if you currently fall into that category of women or have the potential to be in that category.

Most women will never fall into that category. Most women are not married to millionaires or men making over 10k monthly. Fewer than 10% are.

I saw your comment "Ahh potential once again. Lol I’ll keep this in mind!" because apparently, you have not understood yet. You're not going to get married to a HVM out the gate unless you are 1) Stunning 2) from a rich/influential family 3) Have some exceptional traits/character.

anna_alabama · 2021-12-21T15:27:03+00:00

I met my husband on Bumble, I wouldn’t rule out dating apps entirely. My husband and I were not in the same social circle at school (he is older) and if it weren’t for bumble, we never would have met.

titlejunk · 2021-12-21T05:01:24+00:00

I met my husband on OKC. He likes to say “I didn’t have any money when we met” and it’s true. I paid on our first date.

He had just gotten his first real job after college, Med school, residency, and fellowship.

He didn’t have money. He had potential.

Pinktoes10 · 2021-12-21T06:46:13+00:00

This is something important to keep in mind. The more you value hypergamy, the more you should realistically expect men to date someone younger than you, who is more attractive and more fertile. Men can accumulate more wealth the older they get. But women’s sexual marketplace value decreases the older they get. I don’t know how old you are, but the older you are the less value you have by “traditional” standards. And also it is important to note that not all “traditional” relationships absolutely adhere to what may be regarded as “traditional.” For example, my maternal grandparents in many senses could be regarded as “traditional” but my maternal grandmother was largely responsible for keeping track of the finances. So you would have to ask yourself, what is an “unacceptable” deviation from a gender role? And if you are prepared to “rigidly” adhere to traditional roles, would you be willing to significantly assign your value to the characteristics of youth, beauty, and fertility?

2021-12-21T09:33:54+00:00

What he reads about, what he talks and how he thinks. Just to determine the above alone is difficult and when you have found him you better not project your insecurities on him just to keep him.

BurnDownTheMission68 · 2021-12-21T15:04:05+00:00

Tips?

Be thin and pretty.

Artistic-Match-5051 · 2021-12-21T15:19:43+00:00

Man's personal opinion here, go to a high end/ good catholic mass. Sit in the back, look presentable, smile, after a few weeks or months you'll end up talking with people that will spread word that your single & in the parish. Tell them your interested in the Christian faith I.E. why you're there. Be prepared to answer for your past.. guys' with futures ask about your past, ladies get over it. If you can't seem to lock down a quality guy its either, location, past, don't show up or you're picky and or busted. Your DrEaM gUy may be 5'8" again get over it. Y'allz standards be crippling

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Title	Tips on finding a high value man?
Author	Pinktoes10
Upvotes	8
Comments	43
Date	December 21, 2021 3:40 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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