Although painful at first, this perspective will save you so much grief in the long run. A man who is sincere about you will not play mind games. If commitment is not spoken AND shown, it’s over

Pahapan · 2022-01-05T14:11:19+00:00

And it gets so much easier to do with practice! When I first decided to start taking mixed signals as a no I'd still get in my head about it. What if he just needed encouragement? What if he's just insecure or timid? What if he's legitimately just really busy with work or overwhelmed by school, family obligations, etc.?

But now I just shrug and move on with my life and stop spending mental energy on them. The why behind their mixed signals doesn't matter because the outcome is still the same. You're not being valued or prioritized. And even if a guy is SUPER busy being a neurosurgeon or whatever, you know what HVM don't do? String women along when they don't have the time, energy, or confidence to date.

When you take mixed signals as a no, you dodge LV bullets.

Davina33 · 2022-01-05T10:03:15+00:00

Nothing worse than men playing mind games. Texting enthusiastically for a few days then not replying for weeks on end. Expecting a woman to chase them. No thanks. I don't do emotionally unavailable men, immature men and abusive men. I expect open and honest direct communication. Nothing less.

thinktwiceorelse · 2022-01-05T16:52:29+00:00

"Maybe one day when I look back, I'll be so grateful that I didn't give up on him." Haha. Hahaha. Hahahahaha.

SayNad · 2022-01-05T10:11:43+00:00

It is really about the shift into focusing on quality instead of quantity, and understanding that dating is about efficiency - not "struggle love".

We all SHOULD cutting men at a drop of a hat and get used to being seen at the heartless cold b***h because that is what guarantees we get the best result.

Too many women waste time sludging the mud with trashy men and just keep all her time, youth, energy, focus on that trash to the point when they get away, they are too jaded and burned out to be efficient.

Maybe it is me being INTJ and somewhat on the spectrum, but I especially don't understand the women who is so gung-ho on struggle love and 50/50 - what so "romantic" about letting a very adult, able-bodied men leeching off you and use your money? What's wrong with being stingy with the money I worked so hard on? If I can bust my ass off and earn my money, they can too.

And for those who argue about "But well, FDS is all about letting the man pay all? How is that fair??" - because he CHOOSE to pursue ME, so he better damn pay. He CHOOSE to want to make ME his wife, so he better damn pay. He CHOOSE to want me to give him family, so he better damn know what that means - yes, he better damn prepare it all for me. He is the chaser, and I CHOOSE to let him have ME - so he better bring that financial responsibility to my Goddamn table or else - what waste your time, your energy, your beauty letting a man in?

fireforestfairy · 2022-01-05T11:11:09+00:00

Mixed signals = the scrote using you for free attention or sex

Bezzazz · 2022-01-06T01:42:03+00:00

This was the hardest thing for me to finally act on in 2021, but it was the best thing I ever did, and now, I've decided to go the polar opposite direction in 2022: no excuses, and no explanations, they're cut off at the first red flag.

Be ruthless. It's your life. Do you really, truly want to spend it stressed out over some unattractive, socially incompetent, selfish, emotionally immature man child? Do you want to come home in ten years to a house that only you clean, to a husband that doesn't take care of even his basic hygiene, that can't make you come, who will still have the audacity to cheat on you? Then be ruthless. No one is owed a relationship with you. They have to earn it.

Lost_Kale90 · 2022-01-06T00:24:28+00:00

This.

If you are confused, then cut that guy out of your life. You will not feel confused in a healthy relationship.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-01-05T09:51:17+00:00

Glad to see this type of content. As usual, it's super useful! Thanks!

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