Be polite was drilled into me. I’m not exaggerating when I say I was one of those people who wasn’t allowed to wear pants for much of their childhood.

And so in my adulthood, I struggled with having to be nice to men. In bars they would overwhelm me. I'm not going to lie, I’m stereotypically attractive.

For reasons that are too long to explain, (and only very recently) I have discovered I’m a lesbian.

So I thought I would share my findings with my sisters!

So tonight, I was with a friend and we were playing pool. Like always a pair of men came up to talk to us. They wanted to play with us. They offered to buy us drinks.

Because I did not care about what they thought, I literally said anything that came to mind. I was SUPER mean (BEFORE they bought us drinks so they knew what they were getting into). I told them from the get go that I was a bitch. And I did not hold back on my barbs. I honestly said the meanest things like “your name is dumb” or “wow you’re super bad at this game” because I wanted them to leave us alone. And yet these semi- above average looking guys thought I was the best thing ever.

I have spent my ENTIRE LIFE being nice to men. And yet saying objectively horrendous things had absolutely ZERO impact on these men. They actually thought I was funny! They acted the exact same way men have acted when I was polite.

It was eye opening for me. As soon as I did not care, and I literally said every single thing that came into my mind (I swear to you I said every horrible intrusive thought in my head), they still did not treat me any differently because they just wanted my attention.

Jaw dropping. I did not expect them to treat me the same. I thought they would be mad at me, or at the very least not as kind. But it did not matter to them. They just wanted to fuck me.