I wish I could make amends to those I harmed while being brainwashed.

Naus1987 · 2022-09-19T14:20:28+00:00

The best way you can find redemption is to be a good role model for those who come after.

Curt_doggy_dog · 2022-09-19T18:09:28+00:00

This is a good cautionary tale about what can happen when you try to emulate the "dark triad" in your social life (which is essentially what TRP advocates). The traits TRP deems as "alpha" are usually indicative of personality pathology, which is not conducive to healthy long term relationships (of any kind).

ABlokeCalledGeorge8 · 2022-09-19T16:04:10+00:00

1.- Understand you may not be able to fix all the bridges you burnt. There may be people who may not talk to you again, or forgive you.

2.- Write/text/call/talk to the people you harmed, and try to apologize as sincerely as possible. Admit your faults, own what you did. No bullshit, blaming others, or excuses. Explain that you feel regret and intend to do better in the future. Don't set your expectations high. They may not forgive you or talk to you instantly. Some may take some time, some may not even forgive you. But hey, you apologized. That's all that matters.

Don't try to write excuses or offer to do anything for them so they can forgive you. That will only make it look like you care more about them forgiving you than making amends with them. Just apologize regardless of the outcome. Be aware the responses some of them may have won't be good, leave them be.

3.- With the people who you may not have harmed so bad, like your dad, talk to them like nothing happened. Don't bring the issues up at first unless they ask. After talking to them for a while tell them how you feel and if it's necessary apologize.

Get this. You are probably being too self conscious about ditching your friends. We all go through some shit in life, I don't think your friends would be mad at you for not reaching out to them. Just explain you've been struggling. If they're mature, they'll understand.

4.-Try to do better with people in the future. Focus on that, it's what matters. Don't be too hard on your self, blaming you and being hard on yourself will do nothing but bring you down. It's not productive at all. Focus on doing better.

5.- To do better, forgive yourself. Understand you are flawed and really focus on not doing what you did again.

GameofCheese · 2022-09-20T01:26:15+00:00

My brother and cousin love women as people. Lol. Hard concept I know. But I know my brother in particular calls out men when they are objectifying women or talk about them as objects whose only value is to be a sexual romantic partner to men.

He says it's because he was raised by a family of women.

I'm convinced that most redpillers didn't have enough well-rounded women in their life that they saw as equal to the men in their life.

How do we TEACH this to men that missed this as a lesson?

Men are the best teachers to each other. Call out others and explain that by being a full person and seeing women as full people are the only way to live a full life with friends and family and eventually a lover.

blimp-Yr-222 · 2022-09-19T14:16:28+00:00

Really sounds like a fake post, terrified? Just contact your old friends and quit dramatizing. Burned is a verb, burnt is adjective- learn to spell.

Title	I wish I could make amends to those I harmed while being brainwashed.
Author	Nightchanger
Upvotes	43
Comments	25
Date	September 19, 2022 11:31 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/xi9efh/i_wish_i_could_make_amends_to_those_i_harmed/
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