Hey guys

I'm a former redpill here. I used to be there due to the fact of loneliness and no friends or support.

I've been dating a girl for a while who has OCD and when getting out of the RP mindset. She would show appreciation and desire. But over time would distance her self. Less messaging and enthusiasm. And would say it's something with her and not me.

last week I had I trauma dump on her what I passed this semester (GP helped, it's fine) where I failed, I paid for the meal, because she forgot her credit card, and she showed some real appreciation and empathy. Now this weekend, I was going to meetup with her, and see her. But she canceled last minute because she wanted to sleep alone at home and it would've ben late at night, and we rescheduled for two days, in my country it meant it'll be very late when social places would be open. So it meant it would be very late again. She than called to tell me that she "loves me, and appreciates me, but doesn't want sex and by being alone in her, or my home. Would lead to it." I complied, and told her. Asked if the trauma dumping I did, was the cause of it, which she replied 'No'. When she feels comfortable we can met again for that, and enjoy ourselves.

It seems like being emotional might have been a trigger for that case, Being stoic and closed is the epitome of RP, yet when I opened up. She distanced herself, and became less enthusiastic to meetup. Yes, I'm a wreck because of a bad semester. But throwing your date that you've seen on the regular for a year, is not a good step if you want a healthy relationship.

And the RP basically goes against it [1], because if you do, this usually happens. My psychologist just tells me adjust accordingly, but how can I adjust if she won't address or tell me? If I have to guess we're falling to the theory of "Don't listen to her words, listen to her actions" [2]. The scary part, this is exactly what happened with my ex. I fell to a turmoil and expressed t, I got a new place for college and to adjust, and than she bombed me with "I lost feeling for you".

TL;DR girl got distant after I was being emotionally open, RP theories came to fruition. Don't know how to deal with it.

Edit. This is not to support the RP, this is a request to get a counter perspective not to fall for them again.