Is it bad that I’m alone most of the time?

NamelessOneHere · 2022-10-06T02:36:45+00:00

It isn't "bad" to be alone, but it can turn into a bit of a trap. Speaking as a loner myseld, with a workaholic husband, it is very important not to let yourself get too comfortable being alone. Because then it gets harder and harder to get out of your comfort zone.

So, I'd look for small ways to be more sociable. Maybe find a weekly activity to join. Hang out with your friends more often. Or even just chat with people when you're out and about. Pretty soon you'll start to feel more energized and happier (not saying you're unhappy now, because you sound happy - but you'll become even happier!).

breemakin · 2022-10-06T02:01:26+00:00

I’m alone a lot too! My husband regularly works up to 80 hours a week so he doesn’t even get time for hobbies. He works in different states of my country (Australia) too mostly so he’s not even home of an evening.

When he does have time in the evenings at home, he often helps coach the local junior football teams and he’s on a darts team that plays Wednesday nights (even though he can only make about 20% of the games).

I used to get emotional about it as well but I’ve learned to keep busy and look after myself. I now find it weird when he is home (leaving socks everywhere lol) even though I adore spending time with him. If you’re content, that’s all that matters.

Also, I wish my hobby could include window shopping! I love ACTUAL shopping 😂 so bad.

kkat02 · 2022-10-06T04:46:09+00:00

I’m alone a lot too, my bf and I don’t live together and have completely opposite work schedules (when I get off around 3 he’s going into work). Him and I see each other 2-3 days a week.

When this was the only socialization I got I found myself getting more needy/dependent on him. If he got caught up with work and cancelled I’d get disappointed. I think it was because he was my only socialization. I’m an introvert at heart and make sure to have my well deserved alone time (plus I wfh alone) but I’ve made a bigger importance on socializing. I go to the gym 3-4 days a week where I am partnering up with people and talking (it’s a group class environment). I get dinner with a friend about 1-2 times a week now as well. I feel better and I’m less dependent on my bf. I still have days where I’m completely independent all day, which I LOVE, but it’s nice to switch things up and talk to people.

MoreMorbidThanYou · 2022-10-06T02:46:56+00:00

No i’d say it’s normal. I’m alone most of the time as well, which i actually enjoy. We both have intensive hobbies that preoccupy most of our downtime. We try to be in the same room while we do these hobbies, that way we can talk a little bit every now and then if we feel like it. we have a sort of have a joint office, pretty much. That way we feel close to each other but can do our own thing.

ZombieUnicorn1013 · 2022-10-06T11:13:07+00:00

You’re doing very well handling it but if I were you I would talk to him about it. Work on communication. This will eventually lead to divorce in a couple more years give or take. Start now and set up times to have quality time with each other. That’s the point of a relationship is for each others companionship

Teacup000 · 2022-10-06T15:06:10+00:00

What are your husband's hobbies? Any chance you could join in, or at least hang out with him while you each do your own thing?

AdobiWanKenobi · 2022-10-06T09:45:36+00:00

Honestly might be worth getting a part time job

shitpresidente · 2022-10-06T19:51:32+00:00

I take company in small doses. I need human interaction but completely content on my own for the most part. Ironically, technology has been a great way to keep me occupied even though it’s partly the bane of my existence.

Your life sounds wonderful but it may not be for everyone. Don’t let societal standards make you doubt who you are. If you’re okay with it for the most part, great. If you want to spend more time with your husband that’s also great, but don’t be afraid to ask for more of his time. He has plenty on his own anyway.

Title	Is it bad that I’m alone most of the time?
Author	cupieheart
Upvotes	38
Comments	11
Date	October 6, 2022 1:07 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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