Why is hypergamy overly emphasized? Women have to worry about cheating to if not more?

RealRussShackleford · 2022-10-14T04:55:58+00:00

Pretty much all the RP content creators on YouTube have gone through breakups that are clearly traumatic that they are not over. That’s how they really get obsessed with hypergamy.

They all have a deep internal longing to understand why their wife left them or cheated on them but they’re wholly incapable of doing any searching within for any errors they might have made. The result is that rather than coming to healthy conclusions like “this relationship ended because she became unhappy” or “this relationship ended because we grew apart” it’s far more temporarily satisfying to say “I’m only 5’9, how can I ever compete with a 6’ Chad?” Or “I didn’t make enough money.”

Naus1987 · 2022-10-14T11:00:55+00:00

I always joke that Red Pill's biggest problem isn't that it calls out bad women, but that it fails to call out bad men. Men are equally as responsible for making bad choices, lol.

"I know for a fact because I'm a guy and you can't just turn off your vision for other women."

I have to admit, that as a guy myself, if I'm in a relationship, it's like every other women becomes my sister. No other women ever registers. So I think it may be a more personality based thing than just a guy.

It's kinda like when you go out to eat. I'm only focused on what's on my plate. I hardly even smell or notice what other people are eating. I can see that other people have food, but it just doesn't register to me to look at it or even consider what others are having. I have my food, and I'm golden.

JonF1 · 2022-10-14T03:15:48+00:00

A lot of RP guys are massive nice guys. Men in these scenarios are always presented as just honest hard working guys whos only flaw is not being tall enough or making enough. They want to make it feel that if you are just a "decent" guy, you are owed a relationship. In adition, being a decent guy doesn't mean you are getting plot armor against rejection or cheating. Shit that sucks happens for various reasons that have nothing to do with you as a person.

Hypergamy horsehsit as RP describes it. ~60% of all men 15 or older in the US have biological children. And America is like the source the vast majority of red pill content so go figure...

BaadKitteh · 2022-10-14T05:33:19+00:00

RP men will dismiss their own disloyalties and betrayals as things they were entitled to as "Captain" and caregiver, since they can't get pregnant they figure they're not doing anything really wrong. They will regurgitate the gross lock and key analogy, insisting their indiscretions are really accomplishments and how men are supposed to behave if they can. It's funny how they have this deep seated paranoia about having to pay to raise someone else's kid, honestly. As if the source of DNA determines how much they can care. It's a very bizarre attitude in this day and age when very little passes along bloodlines except genetic disorders.

honey-bundy-88 · 2022-10-14T16:24:25+00:00

RP feeds off of the insecurities of men who “can’t perform masculinity” well enough to attract a partner. In their eyes, attraction is a simple formula: looks + money (+ or - status)= value, and only women can give you value. For most of them, they are lacking in one or more of these departments and spend their time either trying to compensate for or demean these traits. A hypergamous woman, in this case, is almost biblical in her ability to deliver judgments. She can single-handedly deprive men of their worth and render any self improvements he’s done useless. If she picks someone else, it is because you are lacking one of the key components of the formula, and her leaving symbolizes a reduction in your value. They are obsessed with understanding her thinking to avoid that from happening. Therefore, a hypergamous woman is like the red pill personified; they both covet her approval and despise her existence.

ChristopherGrimm12 · 2022-10-14T15:24:04+00:00

The redpill hates women. That's why they always say it's Ok for a man to cheat on their woman and nothing is wrong with it, but the second the woman does so it's the Ultimate no no.
All cheating is wrong, but the redpill essentially tells women "Either deal with it or find a loser who won't cheat on you".(Yes some of the most popular Redpill youtubers such as Fresh and Fit flat out call Loyal men "losers") Of course no redpiller will publicly say they hate women, especially if it's being recorded, But one just needs to read between the lines of the redpill to notice. Women do something bad? HELL. Men do something bad? "Deal with it". The M word is overused, but with the Hypergamy argument it's spot on. Redpill men may not break up with their girlfriend officially when a better looking one comes up, But they most certainly advocate cheating if the situation allows.

Reasonable-Pea-162 · 2022-10-14T21:14:44+00:00

Another aspect that is overly discussed is how woman's desire drops off in a relationship. In LTR's ive been in, I tend to get a bit bored of the same old before she does, and it has been a challenge I've had to overcome, as I would care about this person but end up a bit bored sexually.

capricorndyke · 2022-10-19T02:02:00+00:00

Most RP dudes will say they can go out and have sex with other women and still come home to love and provide for the wife/kids. They say that when women have affairs she will become romantically attached and break up the family unit. Breaking up the family unit will cause problems for men as they will talk about divorce and its impact on men and children. Mostly they focus on men (e.g. finances, changes their connections with their kids). So back to the affairs- They will provide guidelines to men on how to persuade their women to not make a big deal over the men going out to have sexual encounters. Most of it surrounds being discreet, not embarrassing the woman, and still providing resources for the family unit. They also don't barter or negotiate. It's more of a 'yeah I am doing this thing. This is how I am going to do it'.

FYI I am not endorsing this. I just think a lot of people misunderstand the RP. It's important imo to understand the RP worldview for those who are coming out of it.

I watched a video of this poor woman who was pregnant with a man's child. Her father passed away and she went out of town for her father's funeral. Then she comes home to find a condom wrapper in the bedroom. The cat was out of the bag. She decided to stay with him as he is a RP dude himself. So she was in a coaching call. No regard for her emotional state other than 'yeah you are pregnant now so the emotions and hormones are taking over'. Everything was about the logic and reasoning. Like you aren't really hurt over this, you are just scared he will get someone else pregnant and have to share resources. No concern for the woman's wellbeing. No, hey I am sorry your dad died. No empathy, no saying 'hey he chose a bad time to do this'. It was all justified in the coach's eyes. It was really sad. I don't think this woman wanted all this. You could hear it in her voice she was in pain.

Title	Why is hypergamy overly emphasized? Women have to worry about cheating to if not more?
Author	spankyourkopita
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Date	October 14, 2022 1:29 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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