We had the conversation to get divorced February, almost 11 months ago. My(42 M) decision.

In order to keep things amicable, I've been patient, going at her pace. In the summer I got a financial advisor so I felt like something was moving forward. But I'm still waiting for some financial info from my STBX. The advisor gave recommendations for mediators so in November she agreed to meet with one. We had a 2 hour session to start, talking about custody of our 2 kids, 12F, 9M. He just played out the options. The next step was to finalize at home what we would agree to. I sent my STBX my recommendation, she acknowledged receiving it, but no reply. So I can't even schedule the next mediator appointment.

In the meantime I found a great place to rent that will be a great location for me and the kids. I really want to go for it, but still in the middle of mediation am I just complicating everything?

One of my dilemmas is that I've waited almost a year at this point to keep it amicable. Am I throwing it all away at the last second? Clearly she's dragging her feet because she's afraid of the next step . Our kids aren't going to be told until I have a new place, we agreed to that. No use telling them without a plan.

But the other dilemma is that I'm getting increasingly annoyed with my STBX and it's affecting my mood around the kids.