Should you ever, under any circumstance, tell a girl that you "miss her"?

900_year_old_vampire · 2017-10-16T16:36:02+00:00

i cant imagine a scenario where i would literally say "i miss you" and expect anything positive to come from it. "i miss seeing that ass bent over my bed", perhaps

AwakenedSovereign · 2017-10-16T17:57:07+00:00

Meh depends on the girl IMO.

Some girls respond positively to a little sweet. Especially if they are comfort testing or otherwise well in your frame. As long as sappy shit is not your default tone then the occasional soft touch is a nice reward. I've heard it described as "passion game" IE giving the girl the impression that she is getting to you, getting her hooks in a little.

The only answer to this question is Push Vs Pull. If you can afford it, romancey stuff will drive some girls crazy. Other girls will look at the smallest sign of affection as weakness and thus a massive turnoff no matter how many times you have choke slammed her into the headboard prior to that.

I tend to screen out the "never show a drop of affection or I'm out" type girls so maybe that's why I get away with it.

Borsao66 · 2017-10-16T16:48:19+00:00

Yeah, it's a comfort test. I usually respond "I miss you, but my aim is always improving."

vandaalen · 2017-10-16T17:14:14+00:00

"Will/Do you miss me?"

"Nearly as much as you will/do." Smirk.

kick6 · 2017-10-16T17:27:42+00:00

Sure, but it should be used sparringly, and only with LTRs.

bTHE66 · 2017-10-17T00:29:05+00:00

Yes only when you want to have the relationship ended soon. Seriously, you can use it for that.

TrenGod37 · 2017-10-16T21:38:38+00:00

I say it dude. Most guys will say not to. Here my take from personal experience. Be higher value than her and not afraid to walk away if need be. Or be okay if she does. and you can say whatever the fuck you want And get away with it in small doses.

I say I miss you. I say I love you. But I’m not needy. And I’m high value. It doesn’t change anything. Bc im not saying I miss you and following her around. I do miss her but my life’s fuckin awesome. So i don’t act needy.

Be attractive don’t be unattractive

jb_trp · 2017-10-16T17:21:11+00:00

I'd say only in a committed relationship and only if you do it without any hint of neediness or desperation. I'm in an LTR and I'm often out on trips or travelling. Sometimes she'll text me, "I miss you so much," and I'll respond with "I miss you too. I'm excited for _____" (the secret is to always show positivity and forward progress).

Don't say it too much. Almost never be the first person to say it. But as long as you're doing everything else right (you have high value, you're being a leader, rock solid frame, etc.), occasionally letting your LTR hear things like this can be positive. Never, ever say it if things have been negative or there have been too many shit tests.

autoNFA · 2017-10-16T18:20:08+00:00

Sure, if you're in an LTR and you don't go overboard with it. Also I have a hunch that it'd be useful in a few very limited circumstances before you've gotten together, like in some scenarios where she perceives you to be too high-value for her, but I can't think of a good specific example.

Tzeentch_Gnosis · 2017-10-17T02:10:41+00:00

Yes, but in a non chalant smirking or patronizing way.

[deleted] · 2017-10-17T03:13:11+00:00

My first instinct was:

“All rules have their circumstances to be broken. Most often when given a comfort Test.”

But I cannot imagine a scenario where a simple “I miss you.” does any good.

Even with push-pull there are far better ways to pull. My answer is a hard no.

[deleted] · 2017-10-16T16:55:01+00:00

Fuck no.

max_peenor · 2017-10-16T17:41:45+00:00

I told Legal Cohabiting Female I missed her after I went on a three week business trip to Europe. Later I found out she invited a guy from a couple states over to come over and fuck her like the white trash whore she is. Totally missed out on that.

Of course I fucked a Swede, multiple Finns and a kraut during that a trip, but no need for her to have that information, right?

my_sfw_alias · 2017-10-16T19:15:26+00:00

I usually start dropping the M bomb after the first time texting, really sets the tone.

Title	Should you ever, under any circumstance, tell a girl that you "miss her"?
Author	BIGPAR
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Date	October 16, 2017 4:34 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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