How does a redpiller go about dating compared to someone who actually likes dating?

SrNetworkEngineer · 2023-03-10T23:57:16+00:00

Life is about taking chances buddy. The number of girls who will use you for your time and money is small compared to the ones who actually want to date. Most people aren’t dirtbags but you’ll have to hone your skills to filter through those so you can find the good woman you’re looking for.

At the same time, never stop working on yourself and work to make your life complete without a partner so that a partner is only a bonus in your life so that if they leave or something happens, you don’t have a hole in your heart.

Naus1987 · 2023-03-10T23:52:48+00:00

I think a lot of those red pill people “over exert” themselves to the point where if they don’t get anything out of the experience, it leaves them hurt.

Normal, healthy guys have normal healthy boundaries, and tend not to over-exert.

PointedCactus · 2023-03-11T03:59:09+00:00

The redpill mindset is different because it tells men that women are a hivemind and they all only care about superficial things such as money. So you end up with a bunch of guys basing their entire personalities around flaunting their money that can only attract gold diggers. This only validates their views and drags them even further into the redpill.

Significant-Dog-4362 · 2023-03-11T00:00:29+00:00

A lot of men and women have always hated dating (I’m one of the women). I’ve always taken way too serious. What I’ve noticed is that some people who enjoy, just throw caution to the wind and say, “let’s just see where this goes”.

AceArguments · 2023-03-11T15:48:37+00:00

Redpiller: Scared of getting used but leads with his wallet (pays for the first date to show he can provide and often takes girls to restaurants).

Regular Men: Asks to go on date. Doesn't lead with his wallet. Chooses neutral ground where neither party has to pay or can pay for their own stuff (parks, coffee dates, small events such as mini put).

Redpiller: On dates, he tries to show off rather than listen and get to know his partner. He talks about his money, his ambitions, and how he's rolling in money. Tries to come off as confident and alpha.

Regular Men: Talks about hobbies and experiences, asks her questions about her life. Seems genuinely interested. Cracks a few jokes together. Isn't afraid to talk about embarrassing things.

Redpiller: After date, he's scared to tell the girl he likes her. Gives off mixed signals in order to tell the girl that she's not a priority and he has other bitches on the side. The one that cares less holds the power bullshit. Misses out on girl because she thinks he's not interested.

Regular Men: Asks if she's free another time, and tells her he really enjoyed the date and would like to do it again.

The regular guy is getting to know another person. He's listening to them and seeing if they have anything in common or if he likes her as a person. The regular guy is often times more upfront (though there are some that ghost). He's not trying to rush her through the date to get to bed. He's not pressuring a woman to have sex after the first date. He's just a regular guy and if he thinks he doesn't want something done to him. Then he won't do it to another person.

Redpillers are all about tactics and games. They have no morals, they care about results. If they don't get the results they want, they move on to someone who the tactics will work on. Creating a bias where they think the tactics work when in actuality, it works on a specific type of person, the kind that once they catch on, will retaliate by making the RP fears of being used come true.

Remixthefix · 2023-03-11T04:37:39+00:00

Along with the rest of these comments.

When they don't have the ability to use money or looks or whatever as an excuse for why you're there (like if she is equally as attractive and earns her own income, has her own focus) they are threatened. Because now they need to use their actual personality and the truth is that they're insecure.

xvszero · 2023-03-11T04:49:16+00:00

They're just scared all the time. I don't think they ever really escape that unless they stop buying into red pill nonsense.

tinyhermione · 2023-03-11T10:26:12+00:00

Well, people will rarely use you for your time. It's not fun to go on dates with someone you aren't into. It's awkward and boring.

Money? Don't spend a lot on dates. Take girls for a walk in the park, get ice cream or hot cocoa depending on the weather. Go for cheap drinks at a cozy bar. You aren't supposed to spend a lot of money on dates with people you don't know very well. Just makes you seem desperate.

When you get to closer with someone, you'll be able to tell if they are crushing on you. It's not subtle. You can see it in their eyes.

Most women have jobs and aren't hookers, so they aren't looking to trade sex for money anyways.

what_i_reckon · 2023-03-11T17:26:39+00:00

On the wasting time and money side of things I tend to go on cheap and casual dates at first. Midweek drinks in a pub for a first date, it’s fairly cheap if I’m paying for it all and haven’t wasted any of my weekend if it’s not a match. Second date something in daytime, a walk and coffee or lunch, again still fairly cheap. And if she hadn’t paid for anything at this point, I’m out!

Aspirinonpizza44 · 2023-03-11T13:17:45+00:00

Dating is like pancakes

Your life is the pancakes The maple syrup is a relationship If the pancakes were good in the first place then you find that you could take or leave the syrup as a welcomed accompaniment (providing its decent) At which point then you start to get pretty picky as to what syrup you use to accentuate those bad boys Cause why would you wanna drowned your beautiful stack of hotcakes with some low grade, bottom shelf, dollar store syrup that does them no justice??

mmhmmmm no thank you!!

Make sure your pancakes are good first Then start looking for all the best brands!

No-Manager8180 · 2023-08-20T22:28:40+00:00

Not like a simp

DerZerficker20x5cm · 2023-03-12T01:02:04+00:00

I think the main difference is marrying is not a goal you have, so being used just to marry someone or divorce doesn’t make much sense. Spending quality time with women is fine but don’t take their bullshit

Title	How does a redpiller go about dating compared to someone who actually likes dating?
Author	DefiantLiterature144
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Comments	21
Date	March 10, 2023 10:29 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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