I’ve been struggling after finding out about my wife’s extramarital affairs. It’s been truly devastating. Despite having put a lot of effort into reconciling and attempting to move on I don’t seem to be able to get past the realization that someone who has caused such damage is not someone I can trust or respect. I am seriously considering divorce but don’t know where to begin. I’d like to get some advice and guidance on how to approach it to be most prepared. I’d appreciate any pointers or references for beginners.