I’m really struggling with this. I’m in my early to mid twenties. I have my issues but I always hear that my “worth” in the dating market will go down in a few years and so it doesn’t feel like I have much time. A few years doesn’t feel like a lot to find someone

I started dating again and read a couple books on things like having realistic expectations and weeding out men who aren’t actually serious and it was actually helpful. For the first time I was able to find several good men who actually seemed serious and after some dates and parting ways with some I’m left with two men. These books were not red pill at all btw

These two men are in the 5-6 year older range. One never was my favorite but he kept being persistent about asking me on dates and so I kept going and he’s shown sweet gestures and I’ve seen parts of his personality that are quite attractive especially in a future dad of my kids. I’m less attracted at least initially but I feel like it could grow on me. I feel no desire to get intimate though although it doesn’t ick me out either. Because I’ve thought about rejecting him and his goofiness I’ve had no reservations telling him about most of the stuff I feel ashamed about and that could scare a man away. And he’s still there. There are definitely a few things I’ve felt to be unattractive but then he wooed me with flowers or tells me he has feelings or cleans for me and cooks dinner and I’m just like wow he really must want me or just be a good guy

One I felt more with because he’s very intellectually curious and intelligent and we’d always have fun conversations. After a few dates the physical attraction really grew. He’s a good guy although maybe not as goofy or extroverted as the first(would be cute in a future dad). Because I’m more shy I like a guy who can force me out into social situations more and the first would likely be better for that with the info I know now. He’s also military and has a couple liberal arts degrees so his options for work might be more limited or lower paying than the first who works in Stem but if he worked at it he could do well for himself, he just isn’t sure what he’s going to do. He lives an hour away because military base and likely will for the next two years(I guess I’d have to stick around although I wasn’t committed to staying in this city). My main concerns though are just the future. Is he motivated enough to find something that pays well and allows us to live where I want to live(he’s open to my cities of choice).

I’m just lost and don’t want to miss out on a good potential husband but I have to choose because both want exclusivity and a relationship…they both initiated the convo recently