Is the only way to stabilize a woman's attraction is by having good sex with her?

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-05-16T20:03:17+00:00

Removed for low effort

wtknight · 2023-05-16T19:26:52+00:00

I’m not interested in any woman who wants to have sex before mutually being in love, so I’d just avoid every woman who is like this. I definitely know that there are women who agree with me out there, so I’d say that not every woman needs good sex in order to “stabilize her attraction”.

Mentathiel · 2023-05-16T19:20:39+00:00

You should never have sex out of fear that nobody will want you unless you do, that's super-dehumanizing. I really don't think it will be good for you psychologically. Nor would entering a relationship that you perceive to have happened just because of good sex. We all want to feel valued and cherished for who we are and you'd be robbing yourself of that. And that comes with a whole host of personal and relational issues.

I have no idea whether women want sex quickly on average or not tbh, maybe you can look up data on that, dunno if there's any but maybe. But imo the answer to that doesn't matter unless you also want to have sex.

hyperlinktoZelda_v2 · 2023-05-16T19:23:28+00:00

They're in lust, not love.

my_alt_has_alts · 2023-05-16T19:36:53+00:00

You might be thinking it backwards.

If you had sex from the start it's because there was chemistry from the start so that is good foundation for a relationship

If for whatever reason you waited for sex it's probably bc the chemistry wasn't there, so the relationship was doomed from the start. It's not like you were the only one deciding if sex was going to happen or not, she also decided that she didn't want to have sex with you.

Needless to say you can't control women's emotions lol

Pressuring someone for sex out of fear that they might leave you is extremely weird.

throwaway164_3 · 2023-05-16T19:24:54+00:00

Yup.

Good sex is the bedrock of all dating relationships. Dick game is vastly underrated. At the early stages, fuck her really well and make her crave your dick lol

blueshinx · 2023-05-16T19:22:46+00:00

Good question. Obviously, being a good lover is just gonna make you more attractive to her.

If you really want to find a gf that has the same views about sex and prefers to wait then I think it’s worth it to miss out on some potential relationships. If the quicker approach to sexual intimacy doesn’t bother you that much then why not show off your skills?

TrynaBTrad · 2023-05-16T19:11:27+00:00

Is having sex early on in the relationship something that you want to do?

geometersbane · 2023-05-16T19:32:31+00:00

Not the only way but it is the best way. Without sexual attraction, there is nothing.

PartyOfTruth · 2023-05-16T19:42:12+00:00

I was thinking about bringing it up few days ago, about women who fall in love with trashy men/bad boys/Pookies and Ray Ray/supposedly psychopaths. Thanks for saying it out for me though.

The way I see it, it's more than just about sex. The problem with contemporary women is that they were raised in a setting where not only they don't wanna grow up, but they're actually prevented to grow up by the very same people who raised them.

Technically, they want someone who's going to be bad for them, and this is why they cheer when they see their boys tear others down or doing things that boost "street creds" such as shooting up meth or robbing someone or whatever. Most of such women came from middle-class and upper-middle class families. They're extremely sheltered and well protected, with their parents often delusional and may have that same old lame belief of "once our daughter hits 21, she will be nice all the sudden" when they never even bother to provide a chance for their daughters to be held accountable for anything they do, and they're often encouraged to just "be cute", "show skins", "be themselves" (but not think for themselves, as this is more of a man thing). Either that, or it's even the worse version provided by the tradcons, where the parents whack the shit out of the daughters and force them to do chores, but at the same time provide them with all the basic needs AND prevent them from actually going out there.

A person can become extremely deluded about how the world works when they were raised in either condition, male or female alike. This type of upbringing for many women has allowed them to foolishly believe how their men will "only be violent and psychopathic to others, but will never fuck with us the same way". That's why they're attracted to some rather unsavory and questionable men. It's not just about sex. You can be the Mr Kinky Master who owns a BDSM club and they still won't fall for you if you don't act like some Bubba and Buck from your local trailer park or some Tyrone and DeAndre from your local hood.

A lot of it has to do with parenting, not the good dick game (lol).

That said though, I don't encourage men to adopt to that lower class behaviors too much. Such men often end up in prison or with massive child support bills. That said, the women I've described often end up living a very miserable life: working at Dunkin Donuts or Starbucks after age of 30, with some who're more advanced may make it into management or even an office job. But regardless of career, the stories are the same, where they live a very lonely life in their cramped apartment with their multiple cats, stare at their computers or phone that's loading Tumblr and whine about how "all men are assholes" (hint; they brought the asshole males to themselves and they shouldn't talk too much shit about men like that).

guywithcoolsocks · 2023-05-16T19:48:02+00:00

I’ve noticed this too. Most times that I’ve tried to take it slow with someone, they lose interest after a while. Anytime we’ve boned early on it’s led to her wanting a relationship, like reaaaallllly wanting a relationship.

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puddingbike · 2023-05-16T20:02:12+00:00

Big problem for men in the USA is the gaslighting that women aren't highly sexual and that they're all about finding a nice guy with a great personality blah blah blah.

So, we've output the latest generations of adult men who somehow have a hard time believing that most women are totally down for some hard, rowdy and raucous fucking.

Weird society we've got going here.

I swear every time I take things slow I get rejected after 3ish dates. Yet if good sex happens, they want sex again and then I get hit up for a relationship.

BELIEVE YOUR EXPERIENCE. Trust it. Learn from it.

DreJ-X · 2023-05-16T20:04:03+00:00

Damn, this one was a good post and got.removed

Title	Is the only way to stabilize a woman's attraction is by having good sex with her?
Author	AudaciousPanther
Upvotes	7
Comments	18
Date	May 16, 2023 7:08 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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