Since November of 2022 my wife had been texting the father of my step-son’s friend. It was “to schedule play dates.” I know this phrase gets over used in the modern world but she has had symptoms of vulnerable narcissism during the marriage and I was pretty miserable. We even had counseling about the gaslighting, vindictiveness, manipulation, triangulation etc. January of 2023 she is working out and cutting weight hard core, changes her hair style (to look like his ex wife), and quits putting out altogether. I come home from work in February for two weeks and there is a wreck and never helped with dinner (like she already checked out.). Then on 2/12 she drinks a bottle of wine on an empty stomach and begins slapping me and trying to take my daughter out of my hands. I’m begging her to stop and she almost dislocated my daughters arm. I push her away. The next day she lied that she was visiting her moms but filed for a 50B. So I get served at work, I then file a 50a (custody) and equitable asset distribution motions ie for divorce. Less than two days after the 50B she is fucking this guy (ugly pharmacist) in front of my son/daughter. A month later he talks her into filing criminal charges. I am arrested for assault on a female. I lose my job as a teacher/coach and have been working construction ever since. Taking night classes to work at a hospital as surgical tech or x-ray technician. I see my kids every other weekend. If they mention anything about her she complains to DSS I “am stalking her”. I could care less about them, they can ruin each others lives. I don’t care about money either. I just want my kids as much as possible. I have been studying case law for my state and working on money for trial. Her parents are millionaires so I’m kind of fucked bad. She ambushed me good. Here is what I’m struggling with 1) The DV conviction. I admitted to pushing her and was convicted. Judge didn’t see self defense since I am 6’4”. 2) she has accused me of alcholism. Even though I rarely drink and have become a teetotaler since she did all this. I had a court ordered evaluation and was declared not a drug or alcohol user. 3). The 50B. We can communicate about the kids but I dread seeing her at all. 4) I’m worried about income/legal bills saving money.

I have family that want to help and a. Lot of support. I have even more community support. She is just tenaciously mean and this new BF is an alcoholic psychopath that always has a gun.

We have a biological son and daughter and I thought we needed to work on some things but we would stay together for the kids. I can’t wait to be free from her.