Probably over

berzerker5000 · 2023-07-09T04:18:25+00:00

I think you have grounds to do an at-fault divorce for infidelity and get a disproportionate asset split in your favor as well as dictate custody terms, and get her to pay attorney fees. Strike first before she does and leaves you playing catch up. Talk to a good lawyer. You are obviously not okay with it and she does not respect you.

skyscraper54321 · 2023-07-09T10:43:34+00:00

If she's making double why are you using your inheritance to pay off combined debt?

Lesbian lover sleep overs and play dates with the kids while you're out working????? Good grief man you've let her get away with far too much already. It's done you need to file.

FindingMyPrivates · 2023-07-09T10:14:09+00:00

Title: Should be over

FTFY

Seriously take the above posters advice. Get custody of your girls. Get proof. Talk to a lawyer to at least see what can be done. SOME states do have infidelity as an at fault but many do not. Lawyers have free consultations or you might have to pony up 2-300. It be worth.

Brother, you need to GTFO that situation. Take your girls. It’s tough dude, I’m also a father of two little girls, you got this though. Hold on to family if you can. There is a light after this tunnel.

You absolutely need to recognize your own self worth. Don’t allow someone to do this to you ever again.

FUMoney · 2023-07-09T11:04:00+00:00

I used my inheritance to pay off our debt

Dude, what the fuck. This is a major own-goal. Inheritance is not marital or community property. There is no way, none, she could have gotten her hands on that money in divorce -- unless you commingled it.

But, too late now. You did commingle it, by paying off what sounds to be marital debt. Men need to be way fucking smarter about this.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2023-07-09T11:28:41+00:00

You need to start planning your exit before this drives you insane. My advice would be to collect as much evidence as possible prior to informing her of your intention to divorce. Once she sniffs out that you’re leaving she will target you and things will get REALLY bad. Nobody should live like this. Protect yourself, protect your kids. It’s 2023 do not get pressured and guilted into “doing the right thing” just because your the guy. This is their go-to tactic and it’s just a trick to bamboozle you. Take every last thing that your entitled to including the child and spousal support.

AffectionateAd6060 · 2023-07-09T12:17:06+00:00

She makes double what you make? Thank your lucky stars

kungraco · 2023-07-09T12:40:43+00:00

I don't see any scenario in which staying in this toxicity does not destroy you. How much is your mental health and emotional well being worth. Can you be a present father when your self esteem is crushed? Do you own a house? If so after selling or her buying you out, you will have funds to move. Mediators cost about $1000 give or take.

Gattsama · 2023-07-09T16:04:37+00:00

Sorry you are going through this BS and drama brother. As mentioned, it's not probably over, it's over. And lkkey has been for a long time. And this might hurt to hear, but there is a high probability it never even was to begin with. Women have been known to fake entire relationships.

At this point, you need to start planning the best and safest exit strategy to protect yourself and your kids. There is no happy ending here. When someone keeps telling you who they are, you should listen. She is shouting who she is she.

Good luck on the next stage of your journey. Talk to an attorney asap to figure out the best way to proceed in your jurisdiction.

Title	Probably over
Author	papi_chulo1992
Upvotes	5
Comments	9
Date	July 9, 2023 3:30 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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