My ex wife and I want an amicable divorce for the kids and as of now plan on co-parenting. The only issue is that she is now in a relationship with a co-worker from work who I suspected she was having an emotional affair with, because she never communicated anything to me regarding our relationship.

We were separated for 5-6 months so I already know she was cooking it up with her friends and co-workers. I wasn’t too worried during the separation because we were still intimate with each other not sexually but we still shared little moments here and there. But the worse part about it is that after two weeks when we tried to “reconcile” she finally wanted to sit down and talk just to say she’s been seeing someone else and is in relationship. It completely blindsided me and made me look like a fool.

She finally filed the papers this past weekend and all that’s left is the waiting period. Right now is a struggle because we still live together and we don’t want to uproot and physically separate all of the sudden because of the kids. But we have a routine set up so I can get my space while she bounces back and forth between here and her boyfriend place. We take turn watching the kids while the other parent works and so far its working well.

But when we do have that one overlap day that required us both to stay the night she forces small talk, tries to engage me with random conversations and gets super close to me. She’s literally in my personal space and because the kids are watching I try to be respectful and careful to tell my ex to stop. I’m looking forward to finally moving out and having my own space with the kids! As for my ex what is she doing and planning on getting at? She wants to be friends but I have made it super clear that I can’t have that kind of relationship for quite some time yet she’s still engaging with me. I’ve shot down her attempts before but she’s still persistent how do I assert dominance??