Advice for engagement?

flower_power_g1rl · 2023-07-31T08:08:57+00:00

How long have you been together? In my experience, 'snapping but no big fights' relationships have more problems than 'big fights but no snapping' relationships.

_Pumpkin_Muffin · 2023-08-02T12:39:40+00:00

Regarding snapping: it's a fact of life that the people close to us will sometimes annoy us. If annoyance results in infrequent snapping, no big deal. It's not the end of the world. Apologize and move on. If you find yourself constantly annoyed and snapping at your partner, that's a different issue, but once in a while? Eh. Do your best to be respectful and pleasant, but don't make it into a huge deal if your best isn't perfect. It won't be. His best won't be perfect either. It's just life.

Realize that what's bothering you might not actually be a big deal either. You simply might need to exercise more self control in how you react to this stuff. If it's important, speak up. If it's not, shut up. Yes, it's annoying, but is it worth disturbing the peace? /says Muffin after picking up her husband's tshirt from the floor for the 10000x time.

BecomingABetterMan1 · 2023-07-31T19:13:18+00:00

I don't think I would start couples counseling under any circumstances.

For men, it's spending $200 to have someone listen to your SO blame you for all their problems, and the person you're paying just nodding in agreement. It is the betaization of men at $200/hr.

A better way to handle this would be for you to read Surrendered Wife and control your own actions.

Also, don't be a backseat driver. How are you supposed to let him captain if you snap at him every time he turns the ship? In this case, it's literal.

AutoModerator · 2023-07-31T04:53:37+00:00

Title: Advice for engagement?

Full text: Fiancé (31m) and I (23f) have our wedding scheduled for December. We’re going to start premarital counseling, and it got me thinking: does anyone have advice for us to have a successful marriage?

So far it’s felt like a healthy relationship, but sometimes I feel annoyed and start to snap at him. Mostly when it comes to small issues (I.e., driving habits) but we don’t have a lot of big fights. I don’t want to feel like I’m nagging, would love to hear advice on marriage or engagement.

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Title	Advice for engagement?
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Date	July 31, 2023 4:53 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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