How do you stay positive, soft, and feminine when your busy with work and life?

RatchedAngle · 2023-08-09T01:21:23+00:00

I let myself be tired and vulnerable.

You don’t have to “relax.” Trying to relax is a contradiction. It’s not possible.

I’m also a naturally anxious person, my life is very tightly managed, and I handle all the finances in my household.

I just let myself be tired and quiet and vulnerable. The right men will see that and step up to fill in where they’re needed, and it makes them feel important. Like a damsel in distress situation.

I don’t hide my stress. I’ve got a lot on my plate and sometimes I’m walking around on the verge of tears. So be it, you know?

vintagegirlgame · 2023-08-09T06:40:04+00:00

Laura Doyle has a saying about being the “Goddess of Fun and Light.” When we take our happiness into our own hands and pump ourselves full of self care, we can tap into our unique GOFL energy. It’s this state that attracts a man to you in the first place. It can be easy to forget about our GOFL as the relationship progresses and responsibilities pile on and the family grows, but it’s our responsibility to remember and nourish our GOFL.

flower_power_g1rl · 2023-08-09T06:46:14+00:00

It's impossible to be relaxed when you have insomnia or anxiety. These are huge mental and physical hurdles. I had insomnia for three years, so I get it. The type I have comes and goes, but on 'off' periods, life is different. If you are anxious a lot and you can't sleep you might need to meet a psychiatrist first to invest in your health above all. Other than a psychiatrist, you need to spend your time towards healing not dwelling. There might be songs or YouTube videos that make you feel healed. There is this YouTuber who always heals me, his channel name is HINDZ. During rough periods of insomnia I listen attentively to one video of his per morning while laying on the bed closing eyes. What a wonderful way to start the day! A lot of people here will say that being healthy is much more important than being feminine. Likewise, you can't expect to be successful changing your outward demeanor before sorting out what's going on in the inside.

I live alone, study full time and work part-time. My house is always clean. I have two pets. The secret is you got to love everything that you allow yourself to do. You need to love the joy and physical effort of cleaning your space. You need to look forward to your work, every morning. It's much easier said than done. But for me it is my life secret. I never settle for work that I dread to do. I love my life. My motto is "I will only do what I like to do, and if I don't like it, then I will find ways to like it." But you literally can't live properly when you are anxious or insomniac. So please focus on your health first 🙏

Peanut_Cheese888 · 2023-08-09T12:59:00+00:00

Hey I learned that stress is part of life nowadays and we cannot escape it. However it’s important to also charge yourself and recover from time to time to be able to be resilient and continue with what you do. See yourself as a battery and make sure to never get it too empty somehow by saying no, delegating tasks (here your man could help as well), and make time for activities that recharge you (this differs per person). I know it’s easier said than done. Do an audit of your life/week/day and try implementing small changes that may help. Talking to a professional wrt your anxiety and insomnia may also be of big help. I know that friends/family always have an ear for you when you need to vent/lean on but a professionals job is there to guide you on what you can do to make this go away, sometimes by internal but also external changes you need to incorporate.

Realistic_Pass · 2023-08-09T23:24:22+00:00

I like to plan/prepare everything for the next day.

I also like budgeting/using a calendar or planner to relax.

I like it as a relaxing activity (naturally anxious type A, feel better when things are in place)

And its also great when I have more energy to be social, I have more room in my brain for hobbies and loved ones

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2023-08-09T11:10:57+00:00

I am also single and work full time, but I specifically chose a job that doesn’t stress me out. There are busier times that are stressful, but overall I leave my job at the office and refuse to overwork myself. Personally, being too stressed or anxious makes me less effective, so dealing with it is non-negotiable for me. Meditation is super helpful and can help with the over thinking.

Does paying bills really take a lot of time and effort? I have a lot of stuff on auto pay and I’d say it takes me like 30 minutes/1 hour max each month to deal with anything that I have to do manually.

Anyway you need to change how you do things or what you’re doing to prioritize making yourself feel better, if that’s what you truly want. Your mood is your responsibility, and if you’re taking on more than you can handle, then you need to stop doing some things and start doing other things.

Wife_and_Mama · 2023-08-09T01:41:16+00:00

Take up some feminine hobbies. Crochet and cross stitch are fun, easily learned through YouTube, cheap, and can be done while watching shows or listening to audiobooks. It'll help you relax and make you feel more feminine. Other suggestions would be baking treats to take to work or doing your nails. These were the things that helped me relax, but feel more feminine, when I was single and working.

ArdentBandicoot · 2023-08-09T04:55:00+00:00

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Title: How do you stay positive, soft, and feminine when your busy with work and life?

Full text: Whenever I read stuff about being feminine it always talks about how women should be relaxed and go with the flow and not try to control things. I live alone and work full time in a corporate job. I have to make sure house is clean, cook, grocery shop, bills are paid, work is done, etc. I’m also naturally an anxious person and I have insomnia which makes me cranky. I rarely ever feel relaxed bc I’m always thinking about the future or overthinking something about the past. I will say my life is very put together since I’m so responsible but I am also in a bad mood or anxious half of the time and apparently this makes me masculine lol I guess I can come off as a serious person

How do I relax and still maintain my responsibilities?

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Only_Fig1816 · 2023-08-10T14:02:38+00:00

I lost a HVM who was well out of my league due to my anxiety and I can't forgive myself. I still love him but he's with a soft sweet much younger woman now and I can't get him back. I drove him away with my anxiety. I am a single.mothet who works full time and has a stressful job and I put all this stress onto him and he couldn't take it.

Title	How do you stay positive, soft, and feminine when your busy with work and life?
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Upvotes	22
Comments	16
Date	August 9, 2023 1:11 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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