When Men lead with money but instead of attracting love, adoration and respect, get chaos and ruckus.

the_fozzy_one · 2023-08-22T17:58:59+00:00

Only solution is to become a billionaire first and then pretend to be a janitor at McDonald's like in Coming to America.

stats135 · 2023-08-22T17:13:26+00:00

it could attract partners who place a higher value on monetary assets rather than personal attributes, shared values, or emotional bonds.

What type of attributes, value, and bonds are we talking about? The desire is for a woman to be attracted to me for my SEXUAL attributes, share my SEXUAL values, and pair bond with me through SEXUAL activity. In which case I would want to lead with sex. Of course if I was Chad I would do that, but sadly I'm not. So I NEED to lead with something else to get the sex, and then convert over. Money is as good as any of a placeholder.

WilliamWyattD · 2023-08-22T18:03:35+00:00

You should be authentic. That means you aren't particularly trying to hide nor flaunt any wealth of status you have. Women in your life are going to learn about it anyways, so making a big effort to hide it seems like a waste of time. Women are actively trying to assess a man's status, so by just being yourself, most women will generally have a good idea where you stand.

'Leading' with anything is weird, overly self-conscious and neurotic behavior that 'Chad' would never do haha!

FaceRaterDemon · 2023-08-22T18:28:32+00:00

Very good take.

MidoriEgg · 2023-08-22T20:58:33+00:00

I think people who are compelled to flash their cash to get quick attention will only draw the wrong sorts of people, both friends and romantic partners. If all you have going for you is your money, then don’t be surprised if you’re surrounded by gold-diggers and users.

DecisionPlastic9740 · 2023-08-23T10:17:02+00:00

Good information brother 👍

ace52387 · 2023-08-22T17:07:39+00:00

you should lead with all the important things, including wealth, just be upfront about all of that. its really your job to figure out who is a good match is after. theres nothing wrong with someone who cares about wealth or status; i think most of us do. just make sure theyre not selecting solely based on that. if theyre a rough match in terms of wealth or status, theres a good chance theres going to be other connections that are there, even if wealth was an important factor in the first place.

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MistyMaisel · 2023-08-22T17:25:54+00:00

I hate to admit hip hop culture gets at least one thing right: real recognizes real. If you want a woman who isn't influenced or chasing money, she's probably got to either have her own or be used to it (rich kid). If you want a woman evaluating you for more than the material gains you'd offer, she'd need to not desperately want those material gains enough to see you as a person and evaluate your compatibility beyond does she like spending your money.

You also have to define a meaningful connection and so forth. I'll be honest, I think a lot of people think they want a deeply compatible, connected relationship of good shared values and bonds...and they're lying to themselves or they don't realize that their shared value is using other people for material gain (money/sex).

Maybe you think you want more than that exchange, but a lot of rich dudes don't. You may be more like them than you think. You might enjoy that whole sugar daddy thing. You might enjoy having a chaotic force you know loves your money and not you and you love her body and sex and not her. It could work.

Barneysparky · 2023-08-22T17:49:14+00:00

The only reason to "lead with money" is to dismiss possible matches based on the inability to bring a similar income to the table, which stops resentment later on in the relationship.

So yes you should lead with money (date people on your level). You should also lead with religious/political views, rural vs urban living, family life, etc.

The reason why some men don't do this is simple, they expect the woman they are dating to conform to their lifestyle, which was the norm 40 years ago but not now.

Men who date strategically without expecting their partner to conform do not have the problems dating pill men do.

Safinated · 2023-08-22T18:13:57+00:00

Money is important, bro. And for some people, love isn’t as important as sex, status, power, possessions, comfort, convenience or attention

babazuki · 2023-08-22T18:30:23+00:00

Are you talking more about guys spending money on women and spoiling them with gifts and being simps?

Because wealth and success isn't really something you can hide and it's just an attractive trait in general. You're going to be attractive to a lot of people and you can't choose why they're attracted to you.

Like you couldn't tell a woman with a big bust to just look out for guys that don't care about her boobs. People are going to notice. Everyone notices when you have an attractive trait. It's just part of your package.

It would be wise for a man to not act desperate by just giving away his money early on. The same way a woman should probably with hold physical intimacy until she knows her partner's intent. But that's just good advice no matter how attractive she is or how much money the man has.

Whiskeyjack1982 · 2023-08-23T00:28:14+00:00

Smart men will pretend to be poor to women.

Durmyyyy · 2023-08-24T05:43:03+00:00

If you use cheddar as bait dont be surprised if you catch rats

Title	When Men lead with money but instead of attracting love, adoration and respect, get chaos and ruckus.
Author	Womanese
Upvotes	8
Comments	18
Date	August 22, 2023 4:48 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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