Fear of aging

Latter_Ad_6840 · 2023-08-25T18:44:04+00:00

I think this falls into the general fear of the unknown. Like you see yourself as you but as some undesirable old hag everyone runs screaming from. As you get older you realize being attractive to all men alive is not everything, your friendships deepen, your confidence grows, you gain more 'mastery' over the world, your hobbies. I remember freaking out as well, but when I look around now most men settled with women that are ~1-2 years apart from them.

If you're 22/23 you are not expected to really have anything figured out. You can be hot, show up, and everything else will be taken care of for you. At 30/32 you are not looked at the same way, you have to actually bring something to the table, but at the same time you do not live the same life as a 22/23 year old so you don't really feel like you are missing anything.

The only women who I see suffering are the ones who used to skate off of their good looks and are finding it harder and harder to do so, and who are now watching HVM chose women other than them for the first time and don't realize that they are playing a different game now so they just become passive aggressive about it. It's really easy not to become this person, just don't be entitled and invest in something other than your looks.

worldlysentiments · 2023-08-25T05:04:45+00:00

Chances are by the time you’re looking “old” for real, your life will be settled already (outside of some odd circumstance where you’re like 45+ and have no spouse/partner, hobbies etc). You guys can grow old together. My husband and I joke that once both our hair is thinning enough we will shave heads and be Mr Clean for Halloween together, so we have potentially Halloween like 2050 planned 😂

But for real, don’t waste the youth years worrying about getting old. You’ll get old one day, and today isn’t it.

Plus there are different levels of beauty. After 30 hit I had to stop looking at 22 year olds on IG. Yes they’re beautiful but they’re 22 and I’m 30, 8 years of physical and mental experience ages ya. Beautiful at 35 or 40 or beyond isn’t going to look the same. Enjoy each step. If you’re going to look back at photos of yourself in 15 years and compare yourself to that standard.. you will feel like crap.

Dehydrated_Jellyfish · 2023-08-25T12:50:58+00:00

My apologies for the short and not crazy helpful comment but I gotta say, as a 35 year old women often mistaken for 25 … the wall make RP talks about is a concept and not a real wall . They can barely tell who is 20 something much less could identify a woman ‘past the wall.’ I’ve had ‘I won’t date someone over 25’ men ask me out in my 30s. Men are just as clueless on how ‘the wallI’ looks as much as they can’t tell what’s natural makeup or makeup free.

It’s easy! Stay under 30 bmi, don’t acquire emotional baggage, deal with trauma in therapy and be someone others like up be around. Literally, it’s all men care about. If you do that, you might never truly see the wall the way RP men talk about it. I’ll probably ‘hit the wallI’ closer to 40s and you too can slow aging. Btw aging is great and even though I have a wrinkle under my eye now, my personality is better and I enjoy life more.

itsmemaggi · 2023-08-25T04:33:36+00:00

I've been there. Heck, at 36, I am there. Know that by being aware, you're already ahead of the game. Men talk about the "wall," and sure, it exists, and we're all gonna hit it, but we can take steps to slow down the impact. Take care of your skin and your body: eat as clean as possible, exercise, moisturizer, exfoliate, and use sunscreen. Make the most of your youth in the ways that will make you proud to look back on when you're older. For me, that was marrying young and having lots of kids. As I start to see the signs of age, I can look at the life I've built and move into the next phase of my life with grace (and maybe a wrinkle cream).

Double-Painter-4559 · 2023-08-25T04:38:16+00:00

My mom is 62 and still turning heads. She is thriving! It's all about how you carry yourself, your personality, your vibe. Don't allow social media to poison your mind. Life has stages and all of them are beautiful, you just have to know how to live each one of them accordingly, in order to get the best outcome. Stop allowing social media to poison your mind. Life is more than just a theory.

lifelonglistener · 2023-08-25T20:57:04+00:00

Capitalize on your youth to find a good mate, sure, but don't waste time being anxious about aging. I'm 50 and I've never felt more comfortable in my skin. I take really good care of myself and probably look a decade younger. But I don't compare myself to younger women – my goal is just to look better than most of the women who are exactly my age. Insecurity is unattractive – try to squelch it and appreciate yourself for the interesting little quirks and passions that make you you. That's something a good man will really appreciate.

FriendCountZero · 2023-08-25T18:58:34+00:00

There are different stages of life, all you can do is embrace and appreciate the one you are in. I'm 30 and seeing wrinkles around my mouth for the first time. People still tell me I'm beautiful. 30 is a different kind of beauty than 22 but it's no less fleeting or precious.

Jewelry_lover · 2023-08-25T14:28:44+00:00

This might sound harsh but deal with it. You have to accept it as reality and deal with it. The alternative to aging is dying. That is life and we have to face it.

Sankdamoney · 2023-08-25T11:22:28+00:00

At 14, I hated my appearance. At 21, I hated my appearance and wished I looked like I did at 14. At 36, I hated my appearance and wished I looked like I did at 21. At 48, I hated my appearance and wished I looked like I did at 36. You will likely never look as good you look today.

Uglypostwall · 2023-08-25T10:43:43+00:00

I have the same fear, but I have already hit the wall. Some of the judgments I received were demoralizing to me. I wish I had known about the wall earlier; it is a harsh reality. You are lucky to know about it at 23. Just make sure to find a partner before 32, and then you are all set(I am sure redpillwomen sub will help you further if you got partner), or you can plan for an earlier end. You may hear about accepting aging gracefully from women who got married young, but not from single post-wall women. So, don't listen to crab mentality; instead, focus on maintaining a skincare routine, researching health and hormonal cycles, exercising, securing financial stability, developing bond with good friends (My best friend passed away three years ago and I regret not spending enough time with her) and actively meeting potential partners with the intention of marriage. I did neither of these, and now I struggle to do it, and I am still amazed by the lack of options for serious commitment. Even my parents are embarrassed.

I know it seems unfair and harsh, but you have to face it and do everything right in your 20s. Trust me, you will be glad you did as mistakes I made in my 20s still affect me, not only in terms of dating but also in my family, career, and friendship.

AutoModerator · 2023-08-25T04:04:15+00:00

Title: Fear of aging

Full text: I was kinda hesitant about writing this because I know it sounds ridiculous coming from a 23 year old, but it’s been consuming me lately, especially now that my 24th birthday is coming up. I dread each year I get older. It might be based on superficial reasons, but I don’t wanna look old, I don’t want to lose my youth.

I’ve always had this fear, but also I think social media has contributed in poisoning my mind, all I see is how women’s “market value” decreases as we age, how less desirable we get, and on top of that, the pressure due to our biological disadvantage. Now I’m afraid that I might be running out of time.

I know it’s irrational and aging it’s inevitable, but I don’t know how to deal with the anxiety. Anyone can relate or offer an advice? Might as well I’ll have a break from social media

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VillageGirl304 · 2023-08-27T11:28:23+00:00

As a dark skin black woman with neoteny, even I am hyper aware of aging despite my disorder (although I’m aware people wouldnt see it as that, it is what it is.

Anyway Lock down a guy ASAP.

My single friends are now seeing what I warned them about.

The market is almost a literal wasteland

Title	Fear of aging
Author	Highonuppers
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Date	August 25, 2023 4:04 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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