Ways to test RMV

SunshineSundress · 2023-09-24T07:10:43+00:00

A lot of young modern women mistakenly think that SMV is all it takes to attract and keep a man, and this attitude usually comes to bite them in the butt down the line. On RPW, I sometimes notice the opposite problem - we are SO focused on RMV, which is refreshing and endearing compared to our more blue-pilled society, but sometimes to the detriment of SMV.

Remember: our goal here is not to be the pristine Madonna, who is so virtuous and pure that she is essentially untouchable. We also don’t want to go too far in the opposite direction and become the Whore who few men deem worthy enough for commitment. Instead, our goal is to be somewhere balanced between the two as a Sexy Madonna or a Virtuous Whore.

So let me ask you this: when you are going on these first dates and meeting new men, is your goal to show off how feminine, kind, supportive, and respectful you are? Those are all great RMV traits for sure, but remember that men also need to feel how alluring, seductive, and magnetic you are as well.

Instead of solely focusing on coming off as high RMV, you should also put some effort into becoming, as Laura Doyle put it, the Goddess of Light and Fun. You should be a blast to be around, and while you do not have to be stand-up comedienne levels of funny, a potential Captain should have such a good time being around you that his cheeks hurt a little from smiling so much. You should add an element of play to your early interactions with men. You should be able to show your passion for him as things start to get serious.

Most practically, you should be willing and able to actively show your interest and attraction for the men that you want. Until you get comfortable with the art of seduction, it doesn’t really matter how high your RMV is. Your attractiveness and allure is your foot in the door and your ticket to the party. It is less important in the long run than RMV, but there will be no long run at all unless you can intrigue a man’s interest first.

youllknowwhenitstime · 2023-09-25T02:43:25+00:00

I take it this you, and this. You keep deleting out.

Reread the comments from the last few times you posted. You've got multiple endorsed contributors telling you you're going for Chad, and mistaking category 2 guys for a category 3 guys. It doesn't matter how wifey you are, if you keep going for men who only want sex... they'll just plate you, at most.

My advice is to stop having sex with men unless you're boyfriend and girlfriend.

CountTheBees · 2023-09-25T05:05:05+00:00

I'll be real. It's very hard to have high RMV at the age of 20. Most of the desirable inner traits of a woman develop after her peak SMV has passed.

Part of the problem is, you say you've never had a boyfriend, but you don't go into detail about why these men you are dating are important to you or what kind of man you are looking for. You can't look for just a boyfriend. You need to look for a very specific man that is compatible with you and is going to admire you for your strengths & prop up your weaknesses, has shared long term goals and values, etc. And part of that process is admitting that there may not be many men that match that spec. It may also reveal that you don't really know what you want because you don't really know who you are yet. It's not uncommon to feel that way these days. One of the ways I found to overcome this was to imagine being truly alone in life and making plans to do the things I knew would need to be done, that I wasn't capable of doing yet.

Take some time to become what you want to be before thinking about what someone else wants you to be. Both people change in a relationship anyway, but you should have some idea of needs vs wants, goals and values, before entering one. Otherwise you are just looking for someone to cover up your lack of identity.

LateralThinker13 · 2023-09-25T13:04:51+00:00

My first instinct is that your mate selector is broken. LVM often do not give much to a relationship, as they're often just trying to get by themselves.

AutoModerator · 2023-09-24T04:58:24+00:00

Title: Ways to test RMV

Full text: I’m wondering if theres way to test my RMV? like anything. Ive never had a boyfriend And I don’t know why guys don’t take me seriously in dating, yet all advice on here points to the issue being my RMV.

I’ve read the posts about it and basically what I take from it is to be feminine, kind, supportive, and respect him. But I’ve made posts here before and I’ve said that I just don’t think theres much I’m not doing other than maybe cooking for them because talking to them doesn’t last longer than a few months and they rarely if ever take me on dates. And even when I say that, people advise me not to because these guys don’t seem to be serious or haven’t made enough of an investment (which I know).

I’ve taken quizzes on femininity, like every one i can find. I most get back feminine and then a few I’ll get androgynous or like 50% feminine (what ever that means). An example would be Jasmine Theodora’s femininity quiz on her YouTube channel and I got 9 or 10 out of 10 and I’ve taken it 3 times by now (8 out of 10 cause one question I can see myself doing Two out of the four answers).

I try to be as honest with myself as I can cause I’ve been trying to figure out what’s wrong with me for so long and i know that telling myself that dating is just hard right now or that guys aren’t looking for anything serious or they’re intimidated or something is just an excuse and doesnt solve my problem. Not being being honest with myself about this in general wont solve my problem. So please dont assume that I am not trying my hardest to be honest with myself since that was the assumptions made about me on my last one.

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InevitableKiwi5776 · 2023-09-27T15:59:13+00:00

I think it's a difficult thing to test for, because personaly I know I act differently in a relationship. I'm way more motivated to do all the nice extra things for a man I like. When I'm by myself I can be fairly spartan.

But, I think you can practise by doing RMV things for others and thinking of how you want to treat your man. For instance, you can practise baking and bring treats to your friends. You can host dinner parties or potlucks. You can try to deepen the relationships you have with your friends and family. I think especially building stong relationships with male family members can help, because they can give you feedback, and they can help with vetting men you're interested in. Think about how you treat others and how you handle conflict. How well do you receive criticism and feedback? How well do you communicate? Do you have a life that a man would be excited to be a part of? How good are you at back massages lol?

Learning how to make yourself happy, and how to let yourself be made happy are important. I know it's hard to hear when you feel like no one wants you, but being content with yourself and not needing outside validation is a very attractive trait. You don't want to come across as desperate, even if you feel like it sometimes.

Title	Ways to test RMV
Author	SupermarketStraight9
Upvotes	11
Comments	49
Date	September 24, 2023 4:58 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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