Your girlfriends guy friends

[deleted] · 2018-02-05T18:35:18+00:00

My girls have some guy friends, but they don't hang out alone.

McVaghunter · 2018-02-05T13:59:33+00:00

Again with these "one girl questions"... Ugh, man, you're supposed to build a soft harem of hot young girls, without giving a fuck what they do in their free time as long as they're always available to satisfy your sexual needs... A hot girl will have orbiters, but the moment you give her that booty call she'll drop them all and come to you.

The only important thing to remember is that she's not yours. Enjoy your turn and cut that bullshit about MY gf, MY LTR, MY this, MY that... What the fuck is this obsession with ownership?

whizkidmill · 2018-02-05T15:12:19+00:00

"Your girlfriend having guy friends is a red flag "."Don't let your gf hang out with other dudes "

The only people who say that are insecure and scared that their orbiters will fuck their LTR lmao. If you start telling her not to hang out with them you'll come across as jealous and it'll just make it worse for you.

Aaren_Augustine · 2018-02-05T13:33:39+00:00

Girls I give commitment to don't hang out with men alone.

I'd just broken record that shit. Girls I give commitment to don't go to Cancun with their girlfriends....etc.

Its your commitment. You do with it what YOU find acceptable.

If you do that wouldn't she accept the same from you?

Ah, now you have to consider frame and power plays. Have you not read Manipulated Man, which is part of the TRP sidebar?

jb_trp · 2018-02-05T20:56:18+00:00

I'm going to speak to you from experience. I recently broke up with my last LTR, and probably shouldn't have gotten with her, because of her guy friends.

You have to accept two facts: A beautiful woman is never going to lack from attention from other men. And mate guarding is beta AF and a sure way to kill attraction.

So... Your only option is to only LTR chicks that show to you that they set good boundaries with other men (these boundaries should be along the lines of not texting them much, no snapchat, not being alone with them or drinking with them, etc.). Women who text and hang out with other men when they're in LTRs show that they have poor boundaries and don't respect you much at all. Because every time they welcome attention from other dudes, they're opening themselves up to possibly the men wanting more and trying to game them. This is not respectful and is outside the bounds for an LTR.

You can't ask a girl not to be friends with a guy (especially not a specific guy). All you can do is during the vetting process, make broad statements like, "I would never seriously date a woman who didn't have good boundaries with other men," and then see how she responds over time. It's up to her to show you she has good boundaries.

brinkleybuzz · 2018-02-05T21:37:52+00:00

And this is why you shouldn't get into an exclusive relationship until you have a contact list full of HBs who want your D. If your girl is really into you, she'll want to spend as much time as possible with you and not her guy friends so there's little to no chance you'll hang out with her competition for your time and attention. You'll also have a lot more power and leverage in the relationship.

RedSkeller · 2018-02-05T21:37:12+00:00

1) No conditions. As soon as a woman reveals she has a guy friend (gay is yellow, straight is red flag) she will never move past plate. It's non negotiable and I would never reveal this to them. I quietly nod and agree 'guys are easier to hang out with' or 'he wasn't a good boyfriend but he's still my best friend'.

2) No woman is okay with opposite gender relationships, they'll force them out - one way or another. To think that genders can be friends is a ridiculous waste of time and energy, as there is always a party waiting for things to turn sexual.

BusterVadge · 2018-02-05T16:13:58+00:00

Every girl has "guy friends". My girl won't hang out with guy friends alone. That is a boundary. Healthy boundaries should be set early. She needs to know what you expect out of her.

Travis2310 · 2018-02-05T21:15:34+00:00

1) Under what conditions is it acceptable for your gf to have a guy friend?

He is a family member (brother, father, grandfather, uncle, FIRST cousin, nephew)
He is so old that sexual intercourse is impossible

Anyone else, I will assume that she either has or eventually will fuck him at some point.

2) How do you bring it to her notice that you don't like it? If you do that wouldn't she accept the same from you?

I wouldn't have to. Before you decide to fuck/date someone, you should know them well enough to know how many male friends she would have.

Also, you can't tell someone who they cannot hangout with. It's none of your business. However, you can refuse to date them. That way you don't waste your time and you don't waste theirs.

Sir-Pumpalot · 2018-02-05T14:29:31+00:00

1) none 2) I dont, I inform her I dont date women who dates other men, she can do whatever she wants with that information, the moment she is going to take dinner or what ever, I fire her

2comment · 2018-02-05T14:14:26+00:00

If you do that wouldn't she accept the same from you?

This feeling that you need to be fair is what you need to fix. Men are expected to be providers by society (pay this pay that) and play the white knight often enough when she does dumb shit but everything else is supposed to be absolutely equal? Get the idea of tit for tat out of your mind first. Everybody is looking for the best deal they can and fairness is just a weapon to get at it.

Women dictate the conditions for sex (alpha qualities), men the conditions for commitment (feminine qualities). She's not meeting your conditions for commitment so why are you giving it to her?

Title	Your girlfriends guy friends
Author	rookieMale
Upvotes	11
Comments	13
Date	February 5, 2018 1:23 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/7vepjy/your_girlfriends_guy_friends/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/your-girlfriends-guy-friends.123374 https://theredarchive.com/post/123374

Comments