Do you believe that most people will not be in a happy relationship unless they are chadly/stacy enough?

Aafan_Barbarro · 2023-10-17T08:41:56+00:00

It's not a cope. It's absolutely realistic scenario. Either she is attracted to YOU first and foremost or only YOUR money. There is nothing else.

YetAnotherCommenter · 2023-10-17T11:29:56+00:00

A romantic relationship (or "romantic love") requires two things:

Liking (i.e. the person's character is dominated by traits you value) + lusting (i.e. you want to have hot torrid sex with the person).

The latter is, the vast majority of the time, driven by looks. Yes, exceptions exist, but we have to be honest here. Most people are mostly driven by looks when it comes to wanting to have hot torrid sex with people.

It is a matter of simple deduction that romantic love is not available for the non-hot.

This doesn't mean the non-hot can't be well-treated, or respected, or given kindness by society (all three things which currently are lacking).

But we do need to face facts. The more you diverge from broadly-considered-attractive, the less likely you are to experience romantic love no matter how good/admirable/pro-social/etc your personal character.

dont_evER_get_up · 2023-10-17T08:45:50+00:00

If she had Chad ex before then just go home bro, it never began for you

SlutforDirtyFeet · 2023-10-17T09:02:03+00:00

Not being Stacy enough won't be a problem for many women for sure because men are attracted to different type of women and different body types and a good percentage of male population doesn't get to have anything to do with Stacy and many of them self reject themselves so they are more than happy with non stacy.

Cyrrow · 2023-10-17T15:57:03+00:00

That's taking it to the extreme. The reality is that women on reddit have admitted that they do not find their husbands sexually attractive

SoulBadguy0408 · 2023-10-17T14:05:00+00:00

I don't think you have to be a chad/Stacy for a good relationship, nor does being one guarantee your relationships will be happy

Although with the way things are headed, I could imagine it becoming the case

Like we kinda already know how bad things are/could be with social media and everything making it so that people get into relationships less and also exposing how unhealthy some relationships are to a wider audience. Dating apps turning things into a meat market and then how are you supposed to be satisfied if you know you could've had better.

Inevitably, wider options can mean more room to pick better, and being aesthetic opens up your options vastly

But most people have some kind of friends/family who are probably in decent relationships and more than likely aren't chads/Stacy's

Ok_Smile_60 · 2023-10-17T13:15:17+00:00

This place is super super exaggerated. I don’t know if this is trolling, but I used to play Magic, so I know folks like this do exist in the real world.

This Chad crap is like money. Yeah, we ain’t all going to have rich awesome lives, and it’s not fair the rich get so much more for less effort, but it’s not miserable for most of us.

But it does suck for a minority

FortniteAbobus · 2023-10-17T13:55:20+00:00

Deluded people could be happy.

LifeIsAVeryBadJoke · 2023-10-17T15:03:02+00:00

Nah, I'm as Chad as they come and even my girl doesn't respect me, there's edge around everything she says and does. Seen it with my Chadlite friends too.

Outdoorsy-howitzer · 2023-10-17T15:03:29+00:00

I don't belong in this sub, don't know why reddit started pushing notifications from here, but I got curious and read through some content. You guys are definitely onto something I'll give you that and I'm not trying to gaslight or anything here. But the toxicity and bitterness in this sub is maybe something we could do without, it will help you live the best lives you can live.

That said, here's my 2 cents, happiness is relative. Different things make different people happy. Overthinking about things you cannot change about yourself is not something that will ever bring that.

So yes you can be happy, you can try to get a partner to the best of your abilities, who is probably arguably loyal and kind of easy on your eyes. You can hope she fulfils her duties and someday even love you in some way. That's how 80% of the world population lives.

If you want some kind of magic guarantee card saying you will be the star of her life and there is no one in the world she will ever want more than she wants you, that will be unrealistic and not something written for any of us. In that case, this life isn't for you, go monk!

There's always something better around and as humans we always aspire to go for better things. Find a spouse who's in touch with herself and won't just act on any and every primal desire she gets. That's the best any of us can hope for, even 'Chad'.

This bitterness is making you more annoying than you actually are. Do not let that consume you. Cheers!

PS: Chads are usually horrible complicated messes that have more issues than any of you can probably imagine. Intimacy doesn't come easy for Chad either. Getting your peepee shined by a thousand cunts is not the be all end all in life!

SadDogOfShiman0 · 2023-10-17T16:16:58+00:00

I feel like that. If I can't be the literal most attractive and only person to someone, it's not worth it.

bruhminer · 2023-10-17T21:08:02+00:00

The more attractive the better that's for sure.

FitDomPoet · 2023-10-18T01:14:01+00:00

I've seen fat people have happy relationships.

Astyriauwu · 2023-10-18T01:46:38+00:00

I believe almost if not all people want a partner they're very attracted to. If they are unable to meet that requirement they often resort to "settling". They will always be disgruntled by the fact they couldn't get the person they wanted and can end up resenting their partners for it. There's a reason why terms "betabux" or "dead bedroom" exist. Though I feel like this occurrence is more common in woman than men. Men are more contempt with finding a partner that isn't super attractive just good enough.

Title	Do you believe that most people will not be in a happy relationship unless they are chadly/stacy enough?
Author	its-probly-over
Upvotes	5
Comments	36
Date	October 17, 2023 8:36 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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