girl i asked out says yes but asks "this is not a date or?" what to answer?!

dokoya · 2018-02-14T12:00:02+00:00

"Come and find out"

mrpthrowa · 2018-02-14T12:06:40+00:00

"may be, but don't get any ideas".

Then escalate and fuck.

I always found the "don't get any ideas" line to be golden. Because it makes the hamster spin for you non stop. It's exactly what they will be thinking about.

ocebitkaj · 2018-02-14T13:06:39+00:00

“Depends on how well you will behave.”

Make her think you’re the prize. You need to think that, too.

kick6 · 2018-02-14T15:08:01+00:00

Make your intentions clear. Just respond yes with no explanation or punctuation.

chachaChad · 2018-02-14T13:50:52+00:00

BE HONEST AND SAY WHAT YOU WANT!

You're goddamn right it's a date.

MattyAnon · 2018-02-14T20:02:44+00:00

Im positive she likes me back by the eye contact

Girls "flirt to find out". They're interested until they're not. It's not as done a deal as you think.

... this is not a date or?"

Judging by the question and phrasing, it looks like a genuine question to me.

I want to make it clear its a date, but I'm not sure how.

Don't be too clear. You're the prize remember. So either "it could be" or "yes, wear something inappropriate" (I favour the latter approach. Definite but demanding).

You don't want to fall into the trap of being a certainty, hence lower value than her.

Of your options: 1 is ok but you're not the prize. She might like it though, with the firm approach. 2 is awful. 3. right. Never say it's not a date.

TruthSeekaaaaa · 2018-02-14T12:18:13+00:00

I advocate for the 100% straightforward answer. In my experience a guy reply this very very rarely and this shows a lot a confidence on your part. Also, if she doesn't want a date she will tell you and you will avoid waisting your precious time.

[deleted] · 2018-02-14T15:47:54+00:00

You should say you’re just hanging out. If you say a date, most girls take that to mean you want to date her. The guys they fuck, they just call it “hanging out”

Herdsengineers · 2018-02-14T16:24:22+00:00

"if that's what you call a night in the BDSM dungeon, then it's a date."

Yozki · 2018-02-14T17:00:28+00:00

"let's just see how it goes"

juliusstreicher · 2018-02-14T22:29:30+00:00

"Of course it's a date: don't wear underwear!

redaftrp · 2018-02-15T00:16:56+00:00

Agree and amplify, its an interview for the position of: ******day girl. She’s the one applying for the job not you.

OfficerWade · 2018-02-15T00:29:05+00:00

Tell her is this air your breathing?

LordThunderbolt · 2018-02-16T02:30:52+00:00

Shes autistic. Prepare for the "REEEEEEEE!!!"

huge_gap · 2018-02-14T14:25:56+00:00

If it were me I'd say "of course" but I am a straightforward blunt person.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2018-02-14T11:59:31+00:00

If you don't set the tone you'll be her friend and all chances of getting in her panties is lost.. This 'I want to get to know you better' reeks of BP. Make sure she knows you aim to fuck her asap..

[deleted] · 2018-02-14T15:44:40+00:00

A lot of the answers I read aren’t for a shy person to hear. Plus, she may have friend zoned you. Just say something like, “no question is a stupid question. I just have 45 minutes then and thought I’d like to get to know you a bit better; call it what you want to.”

Title	girl i asked out says yes but asks "this is not a date or?" what to answer?!
Author	Schmalzfrise123
Upvotes	16
Comments	34
Date	February 14, 2018 11:47 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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