Do you post your significant other on social media?

Jenneapolis · 2024-02-04T23:35:34+00:00

I feel like in modern times, it can come off as kind of cringe to post your relationship. You see all the memes about “when they post the fall photo shoot you know it’s over” and this sort of thing. No insult to people who do want to post their lives, I just don’t think it’s a barometer you should use to judge your relationship by in any way. Some people just prefer to be private in what they post about their personal life, not because they’re trying to be deceptive. It’s also very awkward to go through a break up after you posted all this public stuff.

Egoistchan · 2024-02-04T23:39:42+00:00

We don't post each other, in fact we haven't even changed relationship status lol. To the world both of us are still single. We've discussed posting/tagging each other in stuff and agreed we don't want to live our relationship online and just keep it simple and private. If we get messaged/hit on we just ignore it or block.

Now I have noticed a distinct pattern of men not posting their girlfriends despite the relationship going on for a couple years. And frankly they fall into two camps; the ones who don't use social media much and never update their profiles and those that want to make it seem at face value that they're single. Back when I wasn't in a relationship and talking to men, i was shocked at the amount of guys who would slide into my DMs and then randomly let it drop that they had a girlfriend. Looking at their social media, you'd legitimately have NO idea they had a gf. And that is completely deliberate.

Your bf might not post you, but the key point is how he interacts in private. A year is a long time and what I'd call a serious relationship. Now I'm not suggesting at all you go through his phone or confront him, but you do need to ask him if he's ready to make it official. If he says no or wants to downplay how important it is to you, then you need to find out how he's speaking about you to friends or in DM. If he doesn't bring you up or worse, disparaged you, then you need to get out of there ASAP.

Wife_and_Mama · 2024-02-04T23:09:06+00:00

My husband never used social media, but had no problem with changing his relationship status when we were dating. He would see a photo he liked in my phone and ask me to send it to him and update his profile photo. That really was the extent of it, though.

I posted a lot when we were dating and engaged, but shortly after we married, I deleted Facebook. It took up too much time and energy. It was really invasive. Not long after, he deactivated his as well. Today, we share that one just to sell stuff on Marketplace. I update our profile photo every few months. Otherwise, it's a private Instagram so family can see our kids.

For the purposes of your question, if he uses it and you're supposed to have an established relationship, it is weird if there's no mention of you. I wouldn't directly ask about his social media, though. Consider whether you've met his friends. Has he mentioned you to his family? Does he take you out on dates, publicly? If he's "hiding" you, it should be obvious.

AutoModerator · 2024-02-04T22:26:45+00:00

Title: Do you post your significant other on social media?

Author scorpiorising007

Full text: I’m not sure if the toxicity of social media is getting to me.

Do you post photos or comments (positive, of course) of your partner on social media? How long into dating did you start posting your partner? I’ve heard from many men that if he doesn’t post you at all on social media, he’s essentially hiding you, or keeping the illusion that he’s single, so he won’t lose touch with women he’s friends with on social media.

Now, I do realize that some men, and women, are very private and don’t post photos because it’s not a concern and they want to keep their privacy. But is there a difference between privacy and a secret? Is it weird to never have a single photo of your serious partner on social media? Is it wrong to feel insecure that my partner hasn’t posted me whatsoever? We’ve been dating seriously just under 1 year.

I don’t want to badger him on this, but he scrolls social media a lot, so I know that he uses it to a moderate extent. Is this something that would be silly to being up in a conversation again? Or do I need to touch grass?

I want to add our first year of being together has had quite some turbulence that we’ve worked through. I’m just not sure if the leftover anxiety from that is playing into this.

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JustAnotherBoymoder · 2024-02-04T23:48:19+00:00

I don't have social media

quiteundecided · 2024-02-04T23:53:43+00:00

I didn’t post anything about us until 3 years in, but changed status when we got engaged then married. I’m very active on Facebook but he isn’t. I was a bit miffed at the start but we went out with his friends and family all the time so I knew I wasn’t being hidden.

buttermiIk · 2024-02-05T00:20:55+00:00

No I don’t post photos of my s/o online especially since the relationship is so new for me and he doesn’t use social media, I also respect that he doesn’t prefer being posted as well. however i don’t make it a secret that I’m in a relationship though.. for example if he gets me flowers I’ll post a photo of the flowers on my Instagram story and caption it something like “my boyfriend got me flowers”

bunnytryingreddit · 2024-02-05T00:36:01+00:00

In my relationship (almost 2 years together, 23 me and 27 him), we post each other on instagram. We started doing it about a month into the relationship.

I understand people who find it cringe (depends on the picture of course) but on the other hand, in the current day and age, as you say, if someone doesn't post their partner it might be weird. An ex of mine refused to post me and only later I understood it was because he wanted to keep the door open to his ex.

Overall, I'd say that if your partner is not private about other areas of his life on social media (e.g. posting regularly pictures with friends), then it might be weird. If he generally doesn't post anything (or lets say, only pictures of sunsets or of his bike), then imo there isn't reason for concern.

SummerEfficient6559 · 2024-02-05T03:16:54+00:00

I'm a private person in general and don't post him or anything relationship wise on social media. I used to then decided to not continue anymore because I have nothing to prove. The last time I did was our engagement announcement and I hated it so much, I deleted it 3 days later. My husband doesn't post either. We're still "single" on Facebook and we're not friends because there were too many nosy ass people, so I unfriended him so no one can find me.

willowaverie · 2024-02-05T04:05:50+00:00

We don’t, my husband would but I love the privacy. We used to share a lot! I now find it cringey when others do. I feel like you’re playing a game of proving something to people online when posting. However I don’t mind an occasional cute one :) in fact I think somethings up and over compensating when people share often or a lot about their s/o. In my experience, most guys don’t care to be posted. If it matters to you, bring it up. I get it! If my husband didn’t ever want to I’d be a little hurt probably

Title	Do you post your significant other on social media?
Author	scorpiorising007
Upvotes	8
Comments	28
Date	February 4, 2024 10:26 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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