To old-er men of rp

YGand · 2018-03-07T22:02:40+00:00

I'm 47, wealthy, collect cars and motorcycles as one of my hobbies (Gallardo and an Aston Martin, several Mercedes), in the best shape of my life, been lifting 35 years (5'10, 210, 19 inch bi's, striated delts, 4 pack), spin 3-4 plates on a regular basis, married for 20 years and she accepts I'm nonmonogamist, a Dom, n count way over 150 (stopped counting years ago) and love the fucking shit out of my life. I started as a four eyed low income latchkey chubby geeky kid to a single mom that had me at 17 on the other side of the continent in a different country. I'm on track to retire soon, buy a private island in the Carribean and die a happy old man.

Put your own fucking oxygen mask on first.

Fuck EVERYBODY else.

I can't wait for each and every morning. It was hard work getting here, there were setbacks, and I had to grind and suck up the shit for a few years, but it's so worth it. I did it. Myself. You'll have to work. Hard. Weird thing is, you'll start to enjoy working hard. And playing hard. Builds that essential force in every man's life... discipline. Not motivation, that comes from external sources and is therefore fleeting and unreliable.

Start out on a path. Any path. Soon you'll come upon a fork, and have to choose. This will keep happening, and your choices will lead you exactly to where you want to be, even if you don't know where that is yet.(none of us did.)

As long as you keep walking you'll end up at your destination.

Realizing the knowledge contained here is a no holds barred strategy for getting whatever the fuck you want out of life is the gift of being aware of TRP.

However, like all knowledge, if it sits unused it's useless.

TRP is a big old rusty toolbox full of tools your grandpa used.

With these tools you can build whatever you want.

But without a man to decide what to build and a plan of what you want the finished product to be...

all the tools in the world are useless.

So, start being a man, get yourself a plan, grab the tools you need to finish the job.

Advice from an old guy

fnordsnord · 2018-03-07T18:52:35+00:00

I'm 50. I wish I had worked/studied harder and taken more chances. I ALSO wish I had made more approaches, patted more asses, and unhooked more bra straps.

I wish I had watched less TV and played fewer video games.

You have to make time for BOTH.

Life is short. Spend it on what matters.

94redstealth · 2018-03-07T17:09:56+00:00

Mid 30's here. I wish I would have spent those years of my life on self improvement. I don't regret not doing it because I didn't know any better. It is just a missed opportunity. I feel it's much harder now, a decade later, to be able to easily do some of the necessary things. Also, I would be much better if now and possibly more fulfilled if I had. Don't water any of your life on instant gratification. It's not as rewarding.

Coregod109 · 2018-03-07T17:16:39+00:00

Im 23 and found TRP 2 months ago. I think you can do everything everybody else does but you get to do more and be conscious about it.

TRP is useless if you don't implement it and the way to implement is going out. So in my opinion you won't mis a thing but on the other hand if your going full monk you end up missing allot and facing the same problems you would've faced if you just went out and approached girls.

Also remind me to go out more and approach more girls. I have the same problem but I see the only way to get somewhere is to face your fears and that's what I'm going to do I advice you to do the same.

[deleted] · 2018-03-07T17:38:23+00:00

The cock carousel never stops. It doesn't matter how late you get in the game as long as you know the rules.

boodie1961 · 2018-03-07T21:51:12+00:00

57 here. I wish I had studied harder, didn't smoke weed, didn't fall in love with a girl who did not reciprocate and didn't get into depression. I wish the red pill concept was there before I got married. I wish I hadn't worked my ass off for a company that hasn't rewarded me. I wish I didn't miss all the opportunities of fun and sex. What can I say? Don't do what I did. Be selfish: work hard for YOUR future and enjoy the present in equal proportions.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-03-07T22:04:32+00:00

Do you feel like you miss out on life if you spend your early years just working on self improvement?

Nope. I wish I'd done more self-improvement.

I am working and missed out on the college/party life.

It's not summer camp.

So I am curious because I have one voice telling me "You're only young once, live it up and don't work too much".

Do both.

And by my 30s maybe it will be awkward to do things that 20 year olds would do or if I would feel regret.

Says who? There are three types of young women: those that want a man their own age, those that prefer a man their own age, but are open to an older man, and those that prefer an older lover.

At 50 my girls range between 19 and 25. It was never awkward between us, and there are just going to be people who want to fuck with you because you can do something they cannot.

It seems like people in their 30s get steady LTRs and are more settled.

Yep. I have married friends. Most of my neighbors are married, but that doesn't stop them from inviting me to come hang out with them - I also host the occasional "Mens Night" at my place which is the "safe space" for husbands on my street. There are married couples that I know and sometimes I attend events with one of my younger OLTRs, and nobody gives me an shit about it.

Would I miss out on this party life of the 20s?

I think the FOMO is worse than that actual missing out. So the stuff you HAVE to do first, and leave time for some fun, after. But first things first.

Further reading:

Life After 30: How to Be an Old Guy

-You have one life. Here's how to enjoy it.

Older Men, Younger Women: How & When It Can Work

-For Older Men who prefer Younger Women, and vice versa.

bickisnotmyname · 2018-03-07T19:53:07+00:00

I’m mid-30s.

When I was 18 I met a girl who I regarded as a 10/10 at University. Incredible looks, a magnificent body, kind personality, very humble and extremely intelligent. She was one of those very rare girls who was gorgeous but shy/introverted. To top it all off, her parents were very rich. To beat even that, she was a virgin.

I chased her for months. Eventually in true BP style it pushed her away. Then I finally gave up & started banging another (much less hot) girl who was actually interested in me.

Guess what happened next?

Yep, 10/10 came running back & we started dating.

At 25 we were married, at 26 got a dog, at 27 our first kid.

We are now financially very secure & living the ‘dream’ - 3 kids, dog, big house with lots of land. She still looks gorgeous & about 10 yrs younger than she really is.

As far as I am aware she has never cheated, I am her one and only.

The perfect life you would think...

...but I’m unhappy.

My dick is wanting to fuck other women while my head is screaming what the fuck are you doing. You’re about to risk losing everything you have for a few minutes of fun with that young slut who just eyed your crotch in the supermarket.

I don’t know the answer to life, but I wish I’d sown more oats when I was younger...but then I wouldn’t have met the love of my life at that time.

My n count is pitiful but then hers is only me. You have to take the rough with the smooth I guess.

If I had my time again though, I would probably spend my 20s banging as much skirt as I physically could, as I had the looks and height for it and got IOIs by the bucketload, which have definitely slowed down now.

Isbjornsolo · 2018-03-07T17:36:01+00:00

Late 20's here. I partied a lot in the early years at Univeristy and it was mostly the same everynight. During my Masters it was once a week maximum, which made you feel like you'd earnt a bit of down time. This is probably a good balance if you're 21.

Post uni, I focused on health, skill building & networking. Which is now paying off when meeting potential clients for my business. As I'm more mature than those around my age. Also during this time this lead to me being a lot happier than others my age. Being in shape is a good indicator to people on how you conduct yourself also. But thats a whole different point.

Overall focus on what you want to acheive in the long run.

N.B. Older men without sons are generally willing to give a load of pointers and knowledge on mistakes they made when starting their own businesses/life etc(a bit like TRP). Maturity and being "switched on" counts for a lot. I calculated it and it would have cost well into £10k+ to pay for these at networking or business talks etc. All you have to do it ask the right questions & be willing to learn.

RedSkeller · 2018-03-07T17:59:30+00:00

I did a bit of both. You're building in your 20s and it sucks/should suck. 30s you should have skills which you can market capitalize on and lead with. Women will always be there.

SuperCrazy07 · 2018-03-07T19:06:32+00:00

I think that whichever way you went, you'll have some regret.

I did the work insane hours and tons of education route. I have a great life now (early 40s), but, yeah, I wish I had partied/traveled more when younger.

That said, there are probably tons of guys with the opposite problem who wish they'd worked harder and studied more.

The best approach is probably one where you balance self improvement with enjoying the moment.

creating_my_life · 2018-03-07T20:19:18+00:00

40s here. I worked my ass off in college and in my 20s, and developed a solid foundation of finances and career.

I LOVE the stability, mobility, and flexibility that having "fuck you" money gives.

robatusf · 2018-03-08T10:13:33+00:00

In short, yes. Some of us worked TOO hard when we were young and thus fell far behind on our social development. There are plenty of guys on here (myself amongst them) who have great careers and are successful in most aspects of life but have trouble with women nonetheless. I know I'd have less trouble with them now if I'd put some actual EFFORT into the non-work-related parts of life when I was younger. My regrets are no different than the regrets guys that wish they'd studied harder when they were young have -- my situation is just the opposite side of that coin. But you know what? The key word in your post is "just". Keep things balanced and you'll be fine...

jm51 · 2018-03-08T11:44:49+00:00

Partying and studying are not mutually exclusive.

Ruggero88 · 2018-03-07T22:25:10+00:00

Enjoy your life now. After 30 people get married, have kids and soon you will be friendless. After 30 going out at evening chasing young pussy it's pathetic. Lol at this TRP concept " your 30s are your prime ". Bullshit. 20s are your prime. enjoy it, because after 30 life as a unmarried or childless it's very sad.

Title	To old-er men of rp
Author	YGand
Upvotes	5
Comments	29
Date	March 7, 2018 5:01 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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