I almost did my first cold approach today.

ChoiceTank · 2022-07-08T20:38:45+00:00

Thank god tha rejection exists! I don't want to spend all my time pursuing girls that don't like me. Rejection is good cause you'll be able to focus on those who don't

And even if you're not good looking you can be attractive, being able to approach without fear of outcome makes you attractive either way. Its a win win, always

nachetb · 2022-07-08T21:32:29+00:00

TBH the times ive cold approached, the rejection has literally meant nothing to me, and I truly mean this. You get so high by hormones that all you can think of is how cool it was to overcome your fear.

burakbenxd · 2022-07-08T19:57:38+00:00

To get experience talking to girls... You're bound to get rejected, but that's the name of the game.

ShiftReasonable4066 · 2022-07-08T20:18:44+00:00

The very inexperienced guy sees rejection as binary. Got rejected, bad. Didn't get rejected, good

Guys who actually get girls know that rejection is the prerequisite for positive outcomes. You CANT get a number without x amount of rejections. And you CAN NOT get a date without x amount of numbers first. So they dont avoid rejection. They embrace it and are actually looking for it. Numbers and dates follow after many rejections. Never before it!!

With that said. Cold approach is a numbers game. You can expect 1 date out of 100 approaches as a beginner(no less, no more). ~15 numbers per hundred. 50% reply

As far as warm approach goes. Now a days whenever girls look at you, bump into you, or even smile at you, well... It hardly means nothing. Seriously

Warm approaches is just permission from the female for the low self esteem guy to go approach her. Its better that you cold approach and develop confidence. After 100 approaches you're guaranteed a date. Thats a for sure thing

Not against cold approach or for it. But these are just facts having been tested over and over. Goodluck

ZachMoore88 · 2022-07-08T20:44:55+00:00

In the past year, I've had success with 3 women and been rejected by 41.......and trust me, those 3 were definitely worth the rejection.

5_7pickup · 2022-07-09T20:09:05+00:00

Because you severely diminish the volume of approaches if you do warm approaches. Like where are you gonna find that many warm approaches?

By the time youve met one girl via warm approach, I would have met 100 via cold approach.

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-07-08T20:41:22+00:00

Cold approach is for conversation skills. Not really to get chick's. It will help you start and keep a good conversation for when the time comes when you actually meet someone who seems interested in you. If you have low self steam don't cold approach. You will be rejected 65-80 times before you actually get a number and then they will most likely flake. Unless you are going to cold approach over 100 chick's your odds don't look great.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-07-08T21:51:01+00:00

Your ego wants you to avoid getting rejected because he would rather tell himself the narrative that if you can’t get a girl is not because you suck or at ugly, but maybe because you didn’t try.

So your ego prefers the uncertainty of what could have happened, than the confirmation that your might not be attractive or good enough to have her.

You would feel bad if because you let ego drive your life, you are more worried about maintaining that fake self perception that your ego built and which you want to believe you are, than actually being humble enough to understand that it’s ok and normal to not be the object of desire every girl you are interested in.

It’s ok, it’s normal and it’s healthy to accept that not everyone you like will like you back, that you are not a lesser man because of it, and that it’s not even something personal. You also don’t like every girl you ever see in your life, and that doesn’t mean it’s something personal against them because you are not obligated to like them.

It’s not a battle to see who is better than other, it’s not about proving your worth to her.

Yes you can get rejected more often than not, the difference is whether you choose to take it personally or not. It’s a choice.

People with a massive but fragile ego chose to take it personal, people who are humble just laugh it off and never allow it to get under their skin.

And everyone no matter how good looking they are can get rejected, because it’s impossible to connect and be liked by everyone in this world.

Rambo5Team · 2022-07-10T17:32:55+00:00

this may help you to release some of the fears/anxieties.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kmctrbxe09M

also this book. https://www.amazon.com/Love-Yourself-Like-Your-Depends-ebook/dp/B0086BX8UE

Title	I almost did my first cold approach today.
Author	greenlight144000
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Comments	15
Date	July 8, 2022 7:17 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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