How much is too much touching?

thedreamkillers · 2022-06-03T00:08:34+00:00

the key is to never hesitate, you don't want to appear self-absorbed as that makes people uncomfortable. you just have to exercise your empathy and observe how she's reacting. comes with experience pretty much.

self-awareness is also important. ask yourself: are you more prone to being timid or reckless?

incognito3107 · 2022-06-03T08:36:38+00:00

Watch her reactions and adjust. Touching should look natural and stay corresponding to the situation and emotions between you. Treat it like a play.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-06-02T22:50:06+00:00

It's a person to person basis. Ultimately there is alot of creeps out there so u need a balance of giving the right space at the right intervals but without being a wuss. Keep in mind if she is attracted to you, her comfort levels will reflect your own. Safest thing if u are vibing well move in closer little bits at a time. If she seems OK with that, try getting her to touch you. I do this by being an ass with a smile to get her to laugh, sometimes she will punch me (out of humour) or lightly backhand me, as long as it's done with a smile you are good. If you ain't taking the comedy or roasting route, if you are having a deep emotional talk, she may touch your hair or hand while emphasizing a point, at this stage you can do it to her as well.

There really ain't no way to know for sure how much is too much, some girls want all the touching right away, but the classy ones will make you wait on the heavy petting. It's all about reading the person. Keep in mind if she is already out on a date with you it is for a reason, a light hug when meeting her for the date is a pretty safe touch barrier breaker, as you don't want to shake her hand because you ain't trying to be friends.

Cookies993 · 2022-06-02T23:34:31+00:00

Her body language will tell you; Is she pulling away? Leaning in? Just adjust based on how comfortable she looks

IF she has to tell you vocally, you’ve gone way to far and there’s a very fine line to get back.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-03T01:59:48+00:00

It’s a gradual process that you escalate until she says no and then you stop. She might never tell you to stop and you might have your hand down her panties.

MistyMaisel · 2022-06-03T03:35:01+00:00

I don't think this is the right question ultimately. I think the right question is why are you touching them? Like, it should be natural on some level. It's natural to pick fuzzies out of hair or clean an eyelash when you notice them. It's natural to touch someone's hand, shoulder, or face if they appear upset or offer a hug. Playful shoves or taps go along with humor ultimately.

I think the problem I've had with guys touching me in the past was that it wasn't a natural progression, it was obvious they were trying to get somewhere. So even if I was interested in them, that would harm things because it felt like I was an agenda with steps and outcomes they were striving to meet rather than letting chemistry and fun lead the way.

I realize this is a seduction sub, but my honest answer is that touching is too much if it is out of place and purely for the purpose of escalation.

DeliberatelyInsane · 2022-06-03T06:05:20+00:00

There is a right way to escalate mate. I had posted a long ass comment some while back on n how to make it work. Let me see if I can retrieve it.

atomant88 · 2022-06-03T09:12:23+00:00

dont touch anyone without their consent

Title	How much is too much touching?
Author	VoiceAccomplished502
Upvotes	3
Comments	26
Date	June 2, 2022 10:03 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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