1) Be outcome independent and the goal of dating is personal growth. The initial stages of dating are unstable, so it's good to not become attached too quickly. My friend says "I don't become attached until I've seen her naked at least 3 times." I thought that was pretty profound advice.

2) Keep a reflection journal that way you can learn along your journey. When something doesn't work out, I try to learn a lesson from it that way I can do better next time around. If I ever get a cliche rejection message, I always nicely ask for honest closure. Nothing to lose at that point. (Even then it's rare people give honest closure, but I usually ask).

3) If a woman likes you, she gives you a window of time usually a couple of dates. It's your job as a man to move it in a romantic direction. In other words, you have to make moves or you'll be the gay best friend and her potential attraction will plummet.

4) If she's interested you'll know, if she's not you'll be confused.

5) Inexperienced men are too afraid to make moves OR they nervously and aggressively make moves wayy too soon. The whole goal of seduction is to learn how to read the room and act accordingly. This is usually learned from experience.

6) Confidence comes from understanding.

7) Don't lie about anything important. No one wants to kiss someone they don't trust.

8) My mindset of going into a date is to just enjoy my time with this person. Enjoy the convo, sunset, coffee, whatever. It helps keep things in perspective.

What have you learned from your first hand experience?